#63 You’re Not Selfish — You’re Expanding Beyond the Mold

You’re doing what’s right — and still being misread. This episode helps you reframe misunderstanding not as failure, but as formation. You’re not off track. You’re becoming.

You’ve clarified your calling. You’ve slowed down to recalibrate. You’ve made decisions rooted in faith and integrity. But somehow… others still don’t get it. The silence, the second-guessing, the sideways glances — it all makes you wonder: Am I doing this wrong?

In this episode of Identity-Level Recalibration, Julie Holly offers a powerful reframe for the discomfort of being misunderstood during growth. You’ll explore why the brain confuses confusion with rejection, what “soul-level calibration” looks like in action, and how to stay aligned even when no one else sees what you’re building — yet.

Julie shares a personal story of leaving real estate to create ILR, as well as the enduring courage of Harriet Tubman — who stayed obedient even when no one understood her assignment. This isn’t about being dramatic. It’s about being faithful.

This episode gives language to the loneliness of becoming — and reminds you that misunderstanding might just mean you’re right where you need to be.

In This Episode, We Cover:

• Why being misunderstood feels like failure — and why it’s not
• How your nervous system reads confusion as rejection
• What ILR calls soul-level calibration
• Julie’s personal story of evolving beyond what others expected
• Harriet Tubman’s obedience beyond understanding
• How to hold integrity without needing approval
• A Micro-Recalibration to help you move without external clarity

Today’s Micro-Recalibration:

Ask yourself:

• Where have I been waiting for understanding before taking action?
• Where have I allowed confusion from others to create confusion in me?

Anchor this:
“I can be misunderstood and still be in alignment.”

If you lead, parent, mentor, or build — model what it looks like to trust the assignment even when it isn’t affirmed.
Others don’t need to understand it yet. You just need to keep walking.

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