#67 You’re Not Who They Think You Are — And That’s Okay

You’ve outgrown the version of you they still expect. Here’s what to do when you feel misread — and how to stay anchored in who you’re becoming, even when others don’t understand.

What do you do when you’ve grown — but the people around you still treat you like the old you?

This episode speaks to the disorienting ache of being misread — when people relate to who you used to be, not who you are now. It’s a silent struggle for high-capacity professionals who are evolving quickly, but still being defined by legacy roles, outdated expectations, or past patterns.

You’ll learn what’s really happening when others don’t catch up — and how to stay rooted in alignment rather than reverting for comfort.

In this episode, Julie Holly breaks down:

• What it means to be misread — and why it happens during recalibration
• The psychological concept of predictive dissonance and how it applies to identity shifts
• Why overexplaining can reinforce misalignment
• How to recognize when you’re re-performing the old self for the sake of others’ comfort
• A powerful story about Kevin Kelly (Wired Magazine) and the cost of building before others understand
• A micro-recalibration you can use to stay anchored in real time — and help those you lead do the same

Today’s Micro-Recalibration:
Name one area where you’ve been misread — and instead of compensating, stay rooted in who you are becoming.
And if you lead a team, family, or company: choose one person under your leadership who’s outgrowing an old role, and affirm who they’re becoming — not just who they’ve been.

Being misunderstood is often a sign you’re right on time.
Don’t shrink for their comfort. Stay aligned.

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