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(00:01):
Hey mama, welcome to the insideout mama's podcast.
I'm Brittany Turley, mom of six,and I know what it's like to
feel stuck and overwhelmedtrying to be the perfect mom.
But everything changed for mewhen I learned that small
changes on the inside can bringbig results on the outside.
Each week, I will share simpleyet powerful inside shifts or
(00:25):
outside tips that can transformyour approach to mothering,
helping you thrive from theinside out.
Ready to ditch the mom guilt andenjoy this season of life?
You're in the right place.
I always knew I wanted to be amom.
From a very young age, Irealized that I really enjoyed
(00:48):
being with kids.
I am the oldest of six kids andhad plenty of opportunities to
help take care of kids.
I also did lots of babysittingin my teen years and loved it.
I even went on to get a degreein elementary education and
spent time.
Working with kids in schools.
So, when I had my first baby, Ithought that it wouldn't be that
(01:12):
hard with all the experiencethat I had had.
But, wow, I was wrong.
My first baby was inconsolable.
She vomited every time I nursedher, like, a lot.
She was gassy.
She was always crying and upsetand visibly in pain.
(01:36):
Sadly, we actually have very fewpictures of her when she was a
baby because we were alwaystrying to console her.
At the time I had friends whohad babies around the same time
and I was also part of a mom'sgroup and we met weekly and the
moms were always talking abouthow much they loved being a
(02:01):
mother.
And I wanted to say that I lovedbeing a mother too, but I knew
if I was being honest withmyself, I did not love being a
mother.
It was really hard.
I loved my baby and I was doingeverything I could to help her.
(02:22):
We went to doctors, we triedmedications, we did every trick
there is out there to relieve.
pain and colic and all of theabove, but I just still didn't
love being a mother.
(02:43):
And I felt terribly guilty aboutthat.
I didn't think that that wasokay, that I wasn't enjoying
being a mother.
I knew that being a mom would bea hard job and I knew that there
were parts of it that I wouldn'tenjoy.
Like.
Diaper blowouts or babiescrying, waking you up in the
(03:05):
night, but since you love yourkids, you still had to enjoy
being a mom, right?
I have since discovered thisconcept.
Life is 50 50, 50 percentamazing and 50 percent not
amazing.
And that is how it's designed tobe.
(03:28):
I enjoy mountain biking.
And when you go on a mountainbiking ride, the first few
minutes are pretty easy, whileyou're just getting a little
warm.
And then the next little while,while your muscles are actually
really getting warmed up, it'snot fun.
It's uncomfortable, it hurts,your muscles are yelling at you
(03:50):
to stop.
Oftentimes the first part of amountain bike trail.
is uphill, taking you to theparts where it's going to be
downhill and it's going to befun.
And so the warm up, to me, isnot fun.
It doesn't feel great.
I don't enjoy it.
But I know that if I keep going,that it's going to get better.
(04:12):
And so that's why I keep going.
And then parts come where it'sjust super fun and you're
flowing through sections andit's not hard and your muscles
are warmed up so they're notyelling at you anymore.
Until there's usually a bigclimb and your muscles start
burning again and you startbreathing super heavy and you
(04:36):
might even have to come up outof the saddle and really push up
the hill and you're notnecessarily having fun.
It's a lot of hard work, butthen you get to the top and you
get to enjoy the view.
And then the downhill sectioncomes where it's fun turns and
ups and downs.
And it's so much fun to ridethrough.
(04:57):
So mountain biking has sectionsthat I love and sections that I
just really dislike.
But I still like mountainbiking.
I still love mountain biking andI still do it.
Just like in motherhood, therewill be sections that We
dislike, that are really hard,that are painful.
(05:21):
And then there will be beautifulsections with beautiful views
and great memories and wonderfulexperiences that we would have
never had if we hadn't have goneup the hard sections.
The tricky thing with motherhoodis We don't have a map.
When I go mountain biking, Iusually look at the trail and I
(05:43):
have a good idea of when thehard parts are coming, when the
good parts are coming, and thatcan push me through.
I know, okay, this part's gonnabe hard, but it's only this
long, I can get through it, or Ionly have this much left of the
tough section, and then we getto the fun stuff.
But for motherhood, we don'thave a map, and we can't
necessarily see what's up ahead,like when I'm riding my bike, I
(06:03):
can see, oh yeah, here comes theuphill part, I see it up there.
That was my struggle with myfirst baby.
My first section was hard.
And I couldn't see that the nextsection would be fun and
wonderful, and I just feltreally bad.
Good news is, about six monthsinto motherhood with my first
(06:27):
baby, we were finally able tofind a doctor that could help
us.
And turns out that my baby Didnot like dairy.
Even though I had taken dairyout of my diet a couple times.
I didn't know how long you hadto take it out and no other
doctor told me.
They just said take it out for afew days and see if anything
changes.
This doctor said take it out fortwo weeks.
(06:50):
And after two weeks, I had a newbaby.
She was no longer upset andgassy.
She was no longer vomiting.
He gave her some medicine thatCoated her throat until it
healed because her throat wasraw from all the vomiting and
she was finally able to thriveand I Could finally say I loved
(07:12):
being a mother It was so muchfun and I got to know her and
love her more and more But theguilt that I carried not loving
it for a little while took melonger to get over.
I finally learned that meenjoying being a mom had very
little to do with me being agood mom.
(07:35):
I can be an amazing mom andstill not be enjoying motherhood
for that section.
Since that section 18 years ago,I've had many more sections that
I did not enjoy and that wereharder in different ways, but I
was still doing a good job beinga mother during those times.
And then I've also had manysections that were amazing and
(07:57):
wonderful with beautiful viewsand wonderful memories.
There are parts of motherhood Iwill never like.
Diaper blowouts, vomit cleaningup, and seeing my kids in
physical or emotional pain.
But there are also sections ofmotherhood That I will not enjoy
and that is also okay.
(08:18):
It doesn't mean that I'm not agood mom or that I don't love my
kids.
It means that I'm having agrowing experience and it's part
of the 50 50 of life.
Now because I believe smallchanges on the inside bring big
results on the outside, eachweek on my podcast I'm going to
give you a small changeschallenge.
Something small that you can dothroughout the week if you
(08:40):
choose, that could end upbringing big results to your
life.
For this week's Small ChangesChallenge, I would like you to
first think about how there aresections of life that we don't
enjoy, like during an injury, oran illness, or a loss, and we
aren't Sitting here feelingguilty about not liking life
(09:04):
during those times.
Then I want you to acknowledgethat there are hard sections of
motherhood that you have notenjoyed or will not enjoy in the
future.
We don't have to carry guilt fornot enjoying the hard sections
of motherhood.
We still love our kids and weare doing our very best even in
(09:26):
the hard sections.
You got this, mama.
I know this time of year can befilled with extra overwhelm and
frustration.
I've created a 30 minute onlineworkshop called How to Reduce
Daily Overwhelm without addingto your to do list.
(09:49):
I personally use this mindsetshift almost daily while
brushing my teeth.
It's powerful.
Yet, super simple.
If you'd like to learn moreabout it, head on over to
brittanyturleycoaching.
com and scroll down to myworkshop link.
The workshop is this Thursday at1 PM Mountain time, and it only
(10:11):
costs 25 dollars.
Hope to see you there.
Thank you for joining me foranother episode of Inside Out
Mamas.
My hope is that our timetogether inspires more feelings
of peace, confidence, and joy inyour mama journey.
(10:32):
Be sure to subscribe so younever miss a show.
And if you're ready to takethese insights even deeper, head
over to brittanyturleycoaching.
com to check out my digitalworkshop designed to help you
reduce daily mom overwhelmwithout adding to your to do
list.
Thanks for listening, andremember, Small changes on the
(10:52):
inside bring big results on theoutside.
Hey mama, welcome to the insideout mama's podcast.
I'm Brittany Turley, mom of six,and I know what it's like to
feel stuck and overwhelmedtrying to be the perfect mom.
But everything changed for mewhen I learned that small
changes on the inside can bringbig results on the outside.
Each week, I will share simpleyet powerful inside shifts or
(00:25):
outside tips that can transformyour approach to mothering,
helping you thrive from theinside out.
Ready to ditch the mom guilt andenjoy this season of life?
You're in the right place.
I always knew I wanted to be amom.
From a very young age, Irealized that I really enjoyed
(00:48):
being with kids.
I am the oldest of six kids andhad plenty of opportunities to
help take care of kids.
I also did lots of babysittingin my teen years and loved it.
I even went on to get a degreein elementary education and
spent time.
Working with kids in schools.
So, when I had my first baby, Ithought that it wouldn't be that
(01:12):
hard with all the experiencethat I had had.
But, wow, I was wrong.
My first baby was inconsolable.
She vomited every time I nursedher, like, a lot.
She was gassy.
She was always crying and upsetand visibly in pain.
(01:36):
Sadly, we actually have very fewpictures of her when she was a
baby because we were alwaystrying to console her.
At the time I had friends whohad babies around the same time
and I was also part of a mom'sgroup and we met weekly and the
moms were always talking abouthow much they loved being a
(02:01):
mother.
And I wanted to say that I lovedbeing a mother too, but I knew
if I was being honest withmyself, I did not love being a
mother.
It was really hard.
I loved my baby and I was doingeverything I could to help her.
(02:22):
We went to doctors, we triedmedications, we did every trick
there is out there to relieve.
pain and colic and all of theabove, but I just still didn't
love being a mother.
(02:43):
And I felt terribly guilty aboutthat.
I didn't think that that wasokay, that I wasn't enjoying
being a mother.
I knew that being a mom would bea hard job and I knew that there
were parts of it that I wouldn'tenjoy.
Like.
Diaper blowouts or babiescrying, waking you up in the
(03:05):
night, but since you love yourkids, you still had to enjoy
being a mom, right?
I have since discovered thisconcept.
Life is 50 50, 50 percentamazing and 50 percent not
amazing.
And that is how it's designed tobe.
(03:28):
I enjoy mountain biking.
And when you go on a mountainbiking ride, the first few
minutes are pretty easy, whileyou're just getting a little
warm.
And then the next little while,while your muscles are actually
really getting warmed up, it'snot fun.
It's uncomfortable, it hurts,your muscles are yelling at you
(03:50):
to stop.
Oftentimes the first part of amountain bike trail.
is uphill, taking you to theparts where it's going to be
downhill and it's going to befun.
And so the warm up, to me, isnot fun.
It doesn't feel great.
I don't enjoy it.
But I know that if I keep going,that it's going to get better.
(04:12):
And so that's why I keep going.
And then parts come where it'sjust super fun and you're
flowing through sections andit's not hard and your muscles
are warmed up so they're notyelling at you anymore.
Until there's usually a bigclimb and your muscles start
burning again and you startbreathing super heavy and you
(04:36):
might even have to come up outof the saddle and really push up
the hill and you're notnecessarily having fun.
It's a lot of hard work, butthen you get to the top and you
get to enjoy the view.
And then the downhill sectioncomes where it's fun turns and
ups and downs.
And it's so much fun to ridethrough.
(04:57):
So mountain biking has sectionsthat I love and sections that I
just really dislike.
But I still like mountainbiking.
I still love mountain biking andI still do it.
Just like in motherhood, therewill be sections that We
dislike, that are really hard,that are painful.
(05:21):
And then there will be beautifulsections with beautiful views
and great memories and wonderfulexperiences that we would have
never had if we hadn't have goneup the hard sections.
The tricky thing with motherhoodis We don't have a map.
When I go mountain biking, Iusually look at the trail and I
(05:43):
have a good idea of when thehard parts are coming, when the
good parts are coming, and thatcan push me through.
I know, okay, this part's gonnabe hard, but it's only this
long, I can get through it, or Ionly have this much left of the
tough section, and then we getto the fun stuff.
But for motherhood, we don'thave a map, and we can't
necessarily see what's up ahead,like when I'm riding my bike, I
(06:03):
can see, oh yeah, here comes theuphill part, I see it up there.
That was my struggle with myfirst baby.
My first section was hard.
And I couldn't see that the nextsection would be fun and
wonderful, and I just feltreally bad.
Good news is, about six monthsinto motherhood with my first
(06:27):
baby, we were finally able tofind a doctor that could help
us.
And turns out that my baby Didnot like dairy.
Even though I had taken dairyout of my diet a couple times.
I didn't know how long you hadto take it out and no other
doctor told me.
They just said take it out for afew days and see if anything
changes.
This doctor said take it out fortwo weeks.
(06:50):
And after two weeks, I had a newbaby.
She was no longer upset andgassy.
She was no longer vomiting.
He gave her some medicine thatCoated her throat until it
healed because her throat wasraw from all the vomiting and
she was finally able to thriveand I Could finally say I loved
(07:12):
being a mother It was so muchfun and I got to know her and
love her more and more But theguilt that I carried not loving
it for a little while took melonger to get over.
I finally learned that meenjoying being a mom had very
little to do with me being agood mom.
(07:35):
I can be an amazing mom andstill not be enjoying motherhood
for that section.
Since that section 18 years ago,I've had many more sections that
I did not enjoy and that wereharder in different ways, but I
was still doing a good job beinga mother during those times.
And then I've also had manysections that were amazing and
(07:57):
wonderful with beautiful viewsand wonderful memories.
There are parts of motherhood Iwill never like.
Diaper blowouts, vomit cleaningup, and seeing my kids in
physical or emotional pain.
But there are also sections ofmotherhood That I will not enjoy
and that is also okay.
(08:18):
It doesn't mean that I'm not agood mom or that I don't love my
kids.
It means that I'm having agrowing experience and it's part
of the 50 50 of life.
Now because I believe smallchanges on the inside bring big
results on the outside, eachweek on my podcast I'm going to
give you a small changeschallenge.
Something small that you can dothroughout the week if you
(08:40):
choose, that could end upbringing big results to your
life.
For this week's Small ChangesChallenge, I would like you to
first think about how there aresections of life that we don't
enjoy, like during an injury, oran illness, or a loss, and we
aren't Sitting here feelingguilty about not liking life
(09:04):
during those times.
Then I want you to acknowledgethat there are hard sections of
motherhood that you have notenjoyed or will not enjoy in the
future.
We don't have to carry guilt fornot enjoying the hard sections
of motherhood.
We still love our kids and weare doing our very best even in
(09:26):
the hard sections.
You got this, mama.
I know this time of year can befilled with extra overwhelm and
frustration.
I've created a 30 minute onlineworkshop called How to Reduce
Daily Overwhelm without addingto your to do list.
(09:49):
I personally use this mindsetshift almost daily while
brushing my teeth.
It's powerful.
Yet, super simple.
If you'd like to learn moreabout it, head on over to
brittanyturleycoaching.
com and scroll down to myworkshop link.
The workshop is this Thursday at1 PM Mountain time, and it only
(10:11):
costs 25 dollars.
Hope to see you there.
Thank you for joining me foranother episode of Inside Out
Mamas.
My hope is that our timetogether inspires more feelings
of peace, confidence, and joy inyour mama journey.
(10:32):
Be sure to subscribe so younever miss a show.
And if you're ready to takethese insights even deeper, head
over to brittanyturleycoaching.
com to check out my digitalworkshop designed to help you
reduce daily mom overwhelmwithout adding to your to do
list.
Thanks for listening, andremember, Small changes on the
(10:52):
inside bring big results on theoutside.
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