My 2 Minute Nightly Mama Reset

Episode Transcript

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Hey mama, welcome to the insideout mama's podcast.
I'm Brittany Turley, mom of six,and I know what it's like to
feel stuck and overwhelmedtrying to be the perfect mom.
But everything changed for mewhen I learned that small
changes on the inside can bringbig results on the outside.
Each week, I will share simpleyet powerful inside shifts or

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outside tips that can transformyour approach to mothering,
helping you thrive from theinside out.
Ready to ditch the mom guilt andenjoy this season of life?
You're in the right place.
As a young mom, I read inseveral different places about
how much impact our words havewith our kids.

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And some of them even listedstatistics on how many negative
things a kid's hear in one day.
You know, like, don't touchthat, don't do that, stop that,
no.
After reading about that, Itried to do my best to speak
positively to my kids, but it'shard and I felt like what I was

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able to do wasn't quite enoughbecause it's so easy to see all
the things our kids are doingand think that we need to help
correct them and, we sometimesmiss seeing and recognizing the
good things they do.
So, to help offset all of that,I decided I wanted to do

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something that I could rememberbetter that would feed my kids
more positivity.
So I started writing them littlesticky notes.
I started writing one stickynote a night to one of my kids
and I kept a little pad ofsticky notes on my nightstand.

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And each night, not every night,I'm far from perfect, I would
think of one thing that a childdid that I could say thank you
for or praise them for.
They would be something like,You did so great at your school
concert last night.
I noticed you knew all of thewords.
You are amazing.
Love you lots, Mom.

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Or, Thank you for helping yourbrother with his shoes today
when he was struggling.
It helped him and me so much.
You are such a great big sister.
Love you lots, mom.
Other ideas or examples arethanking them for a specific
thing that they did to beresponsible, like clearing their
dishes without being asked.

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Or noticing how they kept theircool and worked things out with
a sibling that took their toy,or maybe acknowledging them for
saying thank you when someonedid something for them, or
telling them that you appreciatetheir warm hugs when you get
home, or, praising their hardwork on something, even though

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they didn't get the outcome theywanted.
Letting them know that you seetheir efforts, not just their
results.
Or thanking them for going withthe flow of what needed to
happen, even though they didn'tget their way.
Or telling them how proud youare for apologizing to their
friend when they did somethinghurtful, and acknowledging that

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that was a hard thing and howstrong they are.
After I'm done writing the note,I stick it somewhere where
they'll find it the nextmorning, like by their
toothbrush, or by their bedroomdoor, or by their shoes.
Some kids don't pay attention tothem when I stick them random

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places, so I stick themsometimes on their forehead, and
they wake up with a sticky noteon their forehead in the
morning.
Some of my kids cherish thesenotes and have kept every single
note that I write and they havea stash of them and they've told
me that sometimes they look backand read through them.
So this little exercise startedout being for them.

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I wanted them to feel good, Iwanted them to know that I was
proud of them and I saw them andI was acknowledging all the good
things that they were doing eachday and their efforts.
But now, I also do this exercisefor me.
After doing it for a while, I'verealized how much it actually

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helps me.
Maybe even helps me more than ithelps my kids.
After a long day of being withthe kids, if I am heading to bed
and I do this two minuteexercise of writing one thing
down for one kid.
It helps my mind refocus on allof the good that that child, or

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sometimes I write more than oneif I'm feeling like it, or
multiple children do, and itprevents me from getting
overwhelmed by all the hardthings that might be going on
during the day or even going onwith that child.
It helps me keep my negative topositivity more in balance.

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helps me go to sleep betterbecause I'm ending on a positive
note, and it gives me moreencouragement for the next day.
So I don't go to sleep feelingdefeated or overwhelmed or
frustrated.
I go to sleep feeling, look atthis good thing and focusing on

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that helps me sleep well andstart the next day off better.
Now, Some nights I'm so tired ormaybe it's really late and I
don't write the note.
I just think to myself, one goodthing that one kid did that day,
just to give myself the reset.

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It is the best ending of my day,especially on hard days.
Now, because I believe smallchanges on the inside bring big
results on the outside, eachweek I'm going to give you a
small changes challenge,something small that you could
do throughout the week if youchoose, that could end up
bringing big results to yourlife.

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So for four nights this week,doesn't have to be in a row,
Write one note to one child andput it where they can find it
telling them something thatyou're grateful for or something
positive that you noticed thatthey did, acknowledging them,
and then notice the positiveripple effect it has on you and

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also on your kids.
Remember, small changes on theinside bring big results on the
outside.
Thank you for joining me foranother episode of Inside Out
Mamas.
My hope is that our timetogether inspires more feelings
of peace, confidence, and joy inyour mama journey.

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reduce daily mom overwhelmwithout adding to your to do
list.
Thanks for listening, andremember, Small changes on the

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inside bring big results on theoutside.