Summer Series Part 2: Where Do Emotions Come From?

Episode Transcript

Brittany (00:00):
Hey mama.

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Welcome to the Inside Out Mamaspodcast.
I'm Brittany Turley, mom of six,and I know what it's like to
feel stuck and overwhelmedtrying to be the perfect mom,
but everything changed for mewhen I learned that small
changes on the inside can bringbig results on the outside.
Each week I will share simple,yet powerful inside shifts or

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outside tips that can transformyour approach to mothering,
helping you thrive from theinside out.
Ready to ditch the mom guilt andenjoy this season of life.
You are in the right place.
Today in our summer series, parttwo, we are gonna talk about how
emotions happen.

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We often hear people say thingslike, my son made me mad today,
or my husband made me so sad, ormy daughter made me happy
yesterday, or my neighbor mademe so frustrated last week.
If we stick with thosestatements, it would seem that

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our emotions are given to usfrom other people.
But that really gives otherpeople a lot of power and leaves
us pretty helpless, like we haveno control.
And others get to decide whatemotion we will be feeling at
any given time.
But if we look a little deeperat these statements, we will

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usually discover that the otherperson did something like, my
son made me so mad because hewrote with crayon on the wall,
or my daughter made me so happybecause she gave me a big hug
and told me she loved me.
So then does that mean it's notthe person that gives us the

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emotion, but what they do ordon't do that gives us the
emotion?
There again, that gives otherpeople all the power and leaves
us helpless because we can'tcontrol what other people do.
If we go even one layer deeperand look at what is going on in
these situations, we willdiscover the key that puts the

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power back with us.
When the son wrote on the wallbefore the mom felt anger,
something else happened.
She had a thought about thecrayon writing on the wall.
It might be something like.
He shouldn't have written on thewall because I told him, crayons

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are for paper only he disobeyedme.
That kind of a thought wouldprobably create an angry
response.
Now, what if the mom's thoughtwhen she saw the crayon on the
wall was, oh goodness.
Well, he'll have to learn how towash it off.

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Her emotion then probablywouldn't be anger.
It would probably be somethingmore like empathy.
Same situation, differentthoughts, different emotions.
That means emotions are createdinside of us from things that we

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create, from our thoughts.
This gives us the power.
Emotions are created bythoughts.
It's not always a thought we areaware of, and it's certainly not
always a deliberate thought, butwe created them, which is great
news because we can learn how tobecome more aware of them and

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also how to create them onpurpose.
Now, this may have beensomething you've heard before or
it may be totally new, and youmay be feeling skeptical.
The first time I heard this, itwas really hard for me to wrap
my mind around and I had tospend time thinking about it and
looking at my emotions andnoticing what was going on in my

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brain.
Now because I believe smallchanges on the inside bring big
results on the outside.
Each week on my podcast, I'mgoing to give you a small change
challenge, something small youcould do throughout the week if
you choose, that could end upbringing big results to your
life.
So the small change challengefor this week is to notice when

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you are having an emotion.
Or think back on when you hadrecently follow the trail back
in your mind to see if you candiscover what you were thinking
before you had that emotion.
Begin to become aware of thethoughts that you are having and
the emotions associated withthem.
When I first heard that emotionswere created by my thoughts it

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was a struggle for my brain.
We live in a society that mostlygives other people the power
over our emotions and leaves ushelpless.
But once I was able to wrap mymind around it and see the
thoughts that I was having andthe emotions that they were
giving me, it was so empowering.

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So, even though this may seemhard at first or not true, give
it a chance and you willdiscover that you have the power
over the emotions in your life.
If you enjoyed this littleepisode or any of my other ones,
be sure to share it with anothermama and be sure to come back

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next week where we will talkabout what is the purpose of
emotions.
Thank you for joining me foranother episode of Inside Out
Mamas.
My hope is that our timetogether inspires more feelings
of peace, confidence, and joy inyour mama journey.
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And if you're ready to takethese insights even deeper, head

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over to brittany turleycoaching.com to check out my
digital workshop.
Designed to help you reducedaily mom overwhelm without
adding to your to-do list.
Thanks for listening.
And remember, small changes onthe inside, bring big results on
the outside.