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Brittany (00:00):
Hey mama.
(00:03):
Welcome to the Inside Out Mamaspodcast.
I'm Brittany Turley, mom of six,and I know what it's like to
feel stuck and overwhelmedtrying to be the perfect mom,
but everything changed for mewhen I learned that small
changes on the inside can bringbig results on the outside.
Each week I will share simple,yet powerful inside shifts or
(00:25):
outside tips that can transformyour approach to mothering,
helping you thrive from theinside out.
Ready to ditch the mom guilt andenjoy this season of life.
You are in the right place.
This week for our summer series,part three, we're gonna talk
about what is the purpose ofemotions.
(00:48):
Have you ever read the book, theGiver?
I remember reading it a longtime ago in elementary school,
and I've read it a couple timessince, and I think there's even
a movie, and I can't remember ifI've seen it, but it is a
fictional book that is like afuture society where they've.
Eliminated all pain, allsuffering, all war, basically
(01:11):
gotten rid of all emotion andenforcing the rule of sameness.
So there's no colors, no music,no feelings, and no memories of
the past, and the people areliving in this really controlled
society.
It's peaceful, but it's a veryemotionally flat world.
And the main character, his nameis Jonas, is selected to be the
(01:35):
next receiver of memory.
So he's the one person entrustedto hold all of the memories and
all of the emotions for all ofthe people.
And his mentor is the giver.
And he transfers these emotionsor memories to Jonas through
touch.
And as Jonas begins to feel forthe first time, he realizes how
much has been sacrificed in thename of safety and order.
(01:59):
He realizes how much they'velost by not having emotions.
So the book really questionswhether it's worth giving up
emotion and memories to maintaincontrol and peace in a society.
As Jonah begins to feel moreemotions, he learns that feeling
(02:26):
deeply is what makes us fullyalive.
Emotions bring meaning to ourlives.
They're what help us make senseof life and.
They're also signals.
Imagine your child is invited toa good friend's birthday party
(02:48):
at their favorite indoortrampoline park, but they say
that they don't wanna go, andyou're confused because you know
that this is a place that theylove with a good friend.
And after some questions, yourealize they're feeling nervous
and anxious.
Because they think they will notknow many of the other kids at
(03:13):
the party.
Here, the emotion that our childis feeling, the anxiousness or
nervousness is a signal to helpus understand what they're
really thinking about the party,and they're thinking that
they're not gonna know any ofthe other kids at the party and
they're worried about that.
Our emotions guide us like abuilt-in GPS system.
(03:37):
We naturally avoid anything thatfeels bad and move toward
anything that feels good.
It's how our brains try to keepus safe and happy.
So when something feels heavy,overwhelming, or stressful, we
want to get away from it.
And when something feelsexciting or peaceful or fun, we
(04:02):
lean into it.
Back to the example of the partywith friends.
If the child was invited to theparty for their best friend at
their favorite trampoline park,and they found out that they
knew all the friends that weregoing, then they would feel the
emotion of excitement and theycouldn't wait to go.
(04:23):
Because they would be drawn tothe positive feelings that
they're having about the party.
Everything that we do is becauseof how we think it will make us
feel.
And everything that we don't dois because how we think It will
make us feel.
We avoid hard conversationsbecause we don't wanna feel
(04:46):
awkward.
We might avoid folding laundrybecause we think it is boring.
That's me right there.
We might plan a date nightbecause we think it will make us
feel more connected with ourspouse.
So emotions are signals.
They're not problems.
(05:06):
If one night your child isfrustrated with their homework,
the frustration is not theproblem to be fixed.
It is the signal that's lettingus know something isn't working.
Maybe they need a break or maybethey just need a new way of
hearing the material to helpthem understand it better.
(05:28):
When we're feeling overwhelmed,it's not a sign that we are
failing.
As a mom, it's a signal that wemight need something we're not
getting.
We might need help, we mightneed rest.
We might need to change aroutine.
We don't have to be afraid ofemotions because they're tools
(05:48):
to help us understand what we'reneeding or what our kids are
needing.
So just to recap, the purpose ofemotions is they bring meaning
to our life.
They're also a guide.
They help us make choices.
(06:10):
they are signals, not problems.
Now because I believe smallchanges on the inside bring big
results on the outside.
Each week on my podcast, I'mgoing to give you a small change
challenge, something small youcould do throughout the week if
you choose, that could end upbringing big results to your
life.
(06:30):
So the small change challengefor this week is to take note of
some of the emotions you or oneof your children had today.
Notice what direction you oryour child took after the
emotion, and think about whatthe emotion might have been
signaling to you or your childabout you or your child's needs.
(06:51):
If you enjoyed this littleepisode or any of my other ones,
be sure to share it with anothermama and be sure to come back
next week where we will talkabout the three ways we
experience emotions.
Thank you for joining me foranother episode of Inside Out
Mamas.
My hope is that our timetogether inspires more feelings
of peace, confidence, and joy inyour mama journey.
(07:14):
Be sure to subscribe so younever miss a show.
And if you're ready to takethese insights even deeper, head
over to brittany turleycoaching.com to check out my
digital workshop.
Designed to help you reducedaily mom overwhelm without
adding to your to-do list.
Thanks for listening.
And remember, small changes onthe inside, bring big results on
(07:37):
the outside.
Hey mama.
(00:03):
Welcome to the Inside Out Mamaspodcast.
I'm Brittany Turley, mom of six,and I know what it's like to
feel stuck and overwhelmedtrying to be the perfect mom,
but everything changed for mewhen I learned that small
changes on the inside can bringbig results on the outside.
Each week I will share simple,yet powerful inside shifts or
(00:25):
outside tips that can transformyour approach to mothering,
helping you thrive from theinside out.
Ready to ditch the mom guilt andenjoy this season of life.
You are in the right place.
This week for our summer series,part three, we're gonna talk
about what is the purpose ofemotions.
(00:48):
Have you ever read the book, theGiver?
I remember reading it a longtime ago in elementary school,
and I've read it a couple timessince, and I think there's even
a movie, and I can't remember ifI've seen it, but it is a
fictional book that is like afuture society where they've.
Eliminated all pain, allsuffering, all war, basically
(01:11):
gotten rid of all emotion andenforcing the rule of sameness.
So there's no colors, no music,no feelings, and no memories of
the past, and the people areliving in this really controlled
society.
It's peaceful, but it's a veryemotionally flat world.
And the main character, his nameis Jonas, is selected to be the
(01:35):
next receiver of memory.
So he's the one person entrustedto hold all of the memories and
all of the emotions for all ofthe people.
And his mentor is the giver.
And he transfers these emotionsor memories to Jonas through
touch.
And as Jonas begins to feel forthe first time, he realizes how
much has been sacrificed in thename of safety and order.
(01:59):
He realizes how much they'velost by not having emotions.
So the book really questionswhether it's worth giving up
emotion and memories to maintaincontrol and peace in a society.
As Jonah begins to feel moreemotions, he learns that feeling
(02:26):
deeply is what makes us fullyalive.
Emotions bring meaning to ourlives.
They're what help us make senseof life and.
They're also signals.
Imagine your child is invited toa good friend's birthday party
(02:48):
at their favorite indoortrampoline park, but they say
that they don't wanna go, andyou're confused because you know
that this is a place that theylove with a good friend.
And after some questions, yourealize they're feeling nervous
and anxious.
Because they think they will notknow many of the other kids at
(03:13):
the party.
Here, the emotion that our childis feeling, the anxiousness or
nervousness is a signal to helpus understand what they're
really thinking about the party,and they're thinking that
they're not gonna know any ofthe other kids at the party and
they're worried about that.
Our emotions guide us like abuilt-in GPS system.
(03:37):
We naturally avoid anything thatfeels bad and move toward
anything that feels good.
It's how our brains try to keepus safe and happy.
So when something feels heavy,overwhelming, or stressful, we
want to get away from it.
And when something feelsexciting or peaceful or fun, we
(04:02):
lean into it.
Back to the example of the partywith friends.
If the child was invited to theparty for their best friend at
their favorite trampoline park,and they found out that they
knew all the friends that weregoing, then they would feel the
emotion of excitement and theycouldn't wait to go.
(04:23):
Because they would be drawn tothe positive feelings that
they're having about the party.
Everything that we do is becauseof how we think it will make us
feel.
And everything that we don't dois because how we think It will
make us feel.
We avoid hard conversationsbecause we don't wanna feel
(04:46):
awkward.
We might avoid folding laundrybecause we think it is boring.
That's me right there.
We might plan a date nightbecause we think it will make us
feel more connected with ourspouse.
So emotions are signals.
They're not problems.
(05:06):
If one night your child isfrustrated with their homework,
the frustration is not theproblem to be fixed.
It is the signal that's lettingus know something isn't working.
Maybe they need a break or maybethey just need a new way of
hearing the material to helpthem understand it better.
(05:28):
When we're feeling overwhelmed,it's not a sign that we are
failing.
As a mom, it's a signal that wemight need something we're not
getting.
We might need help, we mightneed rest.
We might need to change aroutine.
We don't have to be afraid ofemotions because they're tools
(05:48):
to help us understand what we'reneeding or what our kids are
needing.
So just to recap, the purpose ofemotions is they bring meaning
to our life.
They're also a guide.
They help us make choices.
(06:10):
they are signals, not problems.
Now because I believe smallchanges on the inside bring big
results on the outside.
Each week on my podcast, I'mgoing to give you a small change
challenge, something small youcould do throughout the week if
you choose, that could end upbringing big results to your
life.
(06:30):
So the small change challengefor this week is to take note of
some of the emotions you or oneof your children had today.
Notice what direction you oryour child took after the
emotion, and think about whatthe emotion might have been
signaling to you or your childabout you or your child's needs.
(06:51):
If you enjoyed this littleepisode or any of my other ones,
be sure to share it with anothermama and be sure to come back
next week where we will talkabout the three ways we
experience emotions.
Thank you for joining me foranother episode of Inside Out
Mamas.
My hope is that our timetogether inspires more feelings
of peace, confidence, and joy inyour mama journey.
(07:14):
Be sure to subscribe so younever miss a show.
And if you're ready to takethese insights even deeper, head
over to brittany turleycoaching.com to check out my
digital workshop.
Designed to help you reducedaily mom overwhelm without
adding to your to-do list.
Thanks for listening.
And remember, small changes onthe inside, bring big results on
(07:37):
the outside.
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