Summer Series Part 4: 3 Ways We Experience Emotions

Episode Transcript

Brittany (00:00):
Hey mama.

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Welcome to the Inside Out Mamaspodcast.
I'm Brittany Turley, mom of six,and I know what it's like to
feel stuck and overwhelmedtrying to be the perfect mom,
but everything changed for mewhen I learned that small
changes on the inside can bringbig results on the outside.
Each week I will share simple,yet powerful inside shifts or

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outside tips that can transformyour approach to mothering,
helping you thrive from theinside out.
Ready to ditch the mom guilt andenjoy this season of life.
You are in the right place.
For our summer series, partfour, we're gonna talk today
about three ways we canexperience emotions and to kind

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of help us understand thesethree ways I want us to compare
our emotions to music playing inthe background.
Level one would be you hearmusic, but you don't know what's
playing or where it's comingfrom.

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Level two would be you recognizethe song.
But you didn't choose that song.
It's just something somebodyelse is playing.
You might like it, you might notlike it.
Like have you ever been to thestore?
And sometimes they're playing agreat song and you're just
cruising along grooving to thesong without even realizing it.

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Or they're playing a song thatyou really don't like, you might
all of a sudden realize thatyou're annoyed while you're
shopping and realize that it'sthe song that's playing that is.
Bearing down on your nerves.
Level three would be you are incharge of the playlist.
You get to pick what music youwanna play, when you wanna play

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it and enjoy it, how you wannaenjoy it.
So the three ways we experienceemotions are like these three
different levels of music in ourlives.
Level one, when you hear themusic but you don't know what's
playing or where it's comingfrom is like when you're feeling

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an emotion, but you don't knowwhy.
You might be feeling irritatedand anxious, but you're having
trouble figuring out why.
And so you blame it oncircumstances like the kids or
the messy house or the extremelybusy day when really we know

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already that emotions.
Come from a thought.
this is when emotions feel likethey're just happening to us.
Because we haven't been able tofind the thought or become
conscious of the thought behindthem.
Level two, when you recognizethe song, but you didn't choose
to play it is when you feelsomething and you know why, you

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know the thought that's drivingthat emotion, maybe you realize
you're feeling anxious becauseyou're thinking I'm falling
behind, or I can't keep up.
But that thought just keepspopping up automatically.
You didn't choose it on purpose,and you might be trying to push
that feeling away, or you mightjust be letting it sit there.

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But this is where awarenessstarts.
We're becoming aware of ouremotions and what is driving
them.
Level three in our music analogyis when you get to pick the
playlist.
So comparing that to how weexperience emotions.
Level three would be when youfeel something because of a
thought you chose on purpose.

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You might choose to think, I'mdoing enough for today and feel
peace.
Or you might choose to have athought like, I'm not good at
this.
And feel discouraged, and maybeit's even a habit.
Either way, this is where we'reseeing how our thoughts create
our emotions, and we begin to bemore intentional.

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Sometimes we might want tointentionally feel bad.
There are situations andcircumstances where it actually
feels really good to just sitwith a so-called negative
emotion for a while, and to feelthat.
But this level is also where youcan choose on purpose, how

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you're going to feel about asituation or about something in
your life, and create theemotion you want to create to
achieve the results that you'rewanting.
Now, we will all experiencethese three levels at different
times, and just because we'refeeling an emotion and we don't

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know where it's coming from,doesn't mean that there's
something wrong with us.
But the more we can becomeconscious of our thoughts and
choose our emotions on purpose,the more we will have control
over the outcomes in our life.
Now because I believe small changes on the inside

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bring big results on theoutside.
Each week on my podcast, I'mgoing to give you a small change
challenge, something small youcan do throughout the week if
you choose, that could end upbringing big results to your
life.
So the small change challengefor this week is when you feel
an emotion.
Try and figure out what levelyou are feeling it at.

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Are you just feeling theemotion, but you don't know why?
Are you feeling the emotion, butyou know the thought that's
creating it?
Or are you feeling the emotionbecause of a thought you chose
on purpose?
Just beginning to have thisawareness of our emotions and
the thoughts behind them willhelp us navigate our emotions

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with more confidence andclarity.
If you enjoyed this littleepisode or any of my other ones,
be sure to share it with anothermama and come back next week
where we will talk about whyso-called negative emotions are
important.
Thank you for joining me foranother episode of Inside Out
Mamas.

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My hope is that our timetogether inspires more feelings
of peace, confidence, and joy inyour mama journey.
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Designed to help you reducedaily mom overwhelm without

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adding to your to-do list.
Thanks for listening.
And remember, small changes onthe inside, bring big results on
the outside.