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China Doll (00:06):
Okay, queens, grab
your wine.
Kings, buckle up.
It's China Doll holding it downsolo today.
Silk said these topics needed awoman's voice and, baby, I'm
the right one for the job.
We're talking about delusionalbehavior, gaslighting
narcissistic lies and women whobreak trust like it's a job.
We're talking about delusionalbehavior, gaslighting
narcissistic lies and women whobreak trust like it's a sport.
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No filter, no favors.
And if you're feeling attacked,maybe it's because the shoe
fits Cinder fucking Rilla.
Before I get into these wild assquestions, let me say this If
you rock with me, if you lovethe way we pull coats around
here, then, baby, support itlike you mean it.
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Hit that subscribe button onApple, spotify, amazon,
buzzsprout or wherever youlisten.
Leave me a message atlemmepoolyourcoatcom.
I actually read them.
Some of y'all be spillingstraight drama in that inbox and
voicemail.
And if you haven't copped anymerch yet, why not?
You can't pull nobody's coatlooking dusty, they'll grab you
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a hoodie, a cap or one of themtour jackets that scream yeah, I
said it.
Alright, let's get into thismadness.
First off, we have Darian fromKuala Lumpur.
I caught my girl texting threedifferent men.
She swore it was innocent, butthen flipped it on me, said I
was insecure and controlling.
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Why do women cheat, lie, thengaslight like they're the victim
?
Darian, let me breathe for aminute, because this one right
here that was knee to a T and Ihad to unlearn that toxic mess.
There was a time when I wastalking to a few different dudes
thinking as long as I wasn'tsleeping with them, it was okay.
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I lied to myself and to him,just like your girl did to you.
But when I felt caught, Iweaponized his loyalty.
I called him insecure just todeflect.
That's emotional manipulation.
I called him insecure just todeflect.
That's emotional manipulation.
That's gaslighting and it'swrong.
Women who can't sit inaccountability will always flip
it.
But trust me, that behaviorcomes from fear of being alone,
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shame and selfishness.
It did right by walking away orquestioning it.
Don't let her flip your truthinto confusion.
You weren't insecure, you werebeing disrespected.
We have Kian from Toronto,canada.
Me and my ex-girlfriend wentinto business together.
She kept pulling money out theaccount without telling me and
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when I confronted her she criedand said I was abusive.
How do I deal with a woman whoplays the victim while doing
foul business?
Kian, welcome to the real costof mixing business and delusion.
I had a girlfriend turnedbusiness partner who started
skimming off our salon's dailycash.
When I brought it up, she threwon the waterworks and told
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people I was bullying.
Her Sound familiar.
When a woman can't own herbetrayal, she'll try to turn the
spotlight away from herself andback on you.
But use tears and twisted words.
It doesn't make you the villain, it makes you the cleanup crew.
It's your receipts.
Don't mix business withemotions and next time contracts
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and boundaries period.
Next we have Manny from El Paso,texas.
My ex-girl cheated and lied andI left.
Now she tells everybody Iabused her.
I never even raised my voice.
How do I clear my name, manny?
First of all, I'm sorry thatpain is deep.
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I once had a friend let's callhim K.
He was the calmest man I evermet.
His ex told people he chokedher.
That never happened, but herlies traveled faster than his
truth.
The best thing he did was tostay silent while her lies fell
apart.
You clear your name by livingloud and proud in your integrity
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.
Let people say what they want.
Those who matter will see thetruth in your peace, not her
chaos.
Marcus from Arizona asks myadult daughter, lies to get
sympathy, turns the familyagainst me and manipulates her
mom.
I paid for her school, bailedher out of jail and now she acts
like I never buy anything.
How do I handle her lies?
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Oh, marcus, I felt that deep.
I had a stepfather who didright by me, but I lied to
protect my biological father.
I was wrong.
Sometimes daughters turn toxicfrom guilt, jealousy or outside
influence, but most of all frompain they don't know how to
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process.
You can't fix a clown, but youcan remove yourself from the
circus.
Send her love, draw a boundaryand stay firm.
Your truth don't needvalidation, it needs peace.
Next we have Alton from Newark,new Jersey.
She says she's a queen anddeserves a king, but she won't
cook, won't clean, won't workand expects me to pay for
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everything.
Why are so many women soentitled?
Altonay, entitlement is the newepidemic, and it's loud.
I used to be that girl.
I expected a man to playprovider, protector and
therapist, while the only thingsI brought were vibes and my
twat.
I had to grow up and realizethat being a queen requires more
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than lip gloss and an attitude.
It means bringing peace, effortand contribution.
All queens match energy.
If she ain't matching yourhustle, she's not your crown,
she's your burden.
Our last one is from Jasmineand Slidell, louisiana.
I was in a relationship where Ibecame the liar, the cheat, the
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manipulator just to keep up withmy narcissistic girlfriend.
How do I heal and not carry butenergy forward?
Oh, jasmine, thank you for thehonesty.
I once became a worse versionof myself trying to survive a
relationship with a narcissist.
They'll turn you into what theyfear then blame you for it.
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Healing ain't cute, it's cryingat two in the morning,
journaling therapy and cuttingoff access.
You heal by choosing peace overperformance.
Off access you heal by choosingpeace over performance or by
reminding yourself survivingisn't the same as living.
Choose to live.
Sis, here's this week's shoutouts.
Now hold up.
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I gotta show love where it'sdue.
Shout out to my homegirl, lisain DC.
She posted that mirror selfiein her red hoodie and looked
fine doing it.
Tasha out in Kenya said shewears her.
Let me pull your coat cap tothe market just to let folks
know she's about that grownwoman talk.
And Maribel in Dallas, thattour jacket with the gold trim.
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Much love to all y'all thatlisten, post, repost and send in
your messy, messy stories.
I see you, I appreciate you anddon't think I forgot.
I'm pulling names for the nextmerch giveaway next week.
So if you rocking our stuff orleaving those reviews, you might
just get blessed.
Here's your cult pull of theweek.
Ladies, stop asking for loyaltywhile feeding men betrayal stock
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, calling yourself a queen whenyour kingdom is built on
manipulation and, for the loveof truth, stop weaponizing tears
to avoid accountability.
Being a woman doesn't give youthe right to ruin others.
Being hurt doesn't give you theright to hurt others.
Both starts when you stopplaying the victim in stories
you wrote yourself.
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But all you ladies out there,if you're tired of the street,
call the man who helped me leaveit.
Ladies, I need y'all to lean infor this one, because
everything I just said, everyword I spit on this mic tonight,
wouldn't even be possible if Ihadn't made one call to Master
Silk.
If you're tired, I mean trulytired Tired of working them
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corners, I mean truly tired.
Tired of working them corners.
Tired of fake love, of men whouse you, of women who envy you,
of making just enough to survivebut not enough to breathe, then
it's time to stop pretendingyou don't need help.
I was deep in the game.
I had money, had tricks, hadcars, but I didn't have a way
out.
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And one day I looked in themirror and said I either get out
now or I die behind this smileI fake every day.
So I hit up Silk.
He didn't judge me, he didn'ttalk down to me.
He started rebuilding me, brickby brick.
He showed me how to invest, howto clean up my credit, how to
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flip cash into property, how toturn silence into power.
He helped me turn my streethustle into a real damn
portfolio.
Now I own properties, I mentorother women, I got peace and
passive income.
But listen, he don't chase.
You gotta want it.
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You gotta humble yourself andsay I need something better than
this.
And if you're ready, go toletmepolyourcoatcom, leave a
message or voicemail with a wayto contact you and just say Silk
, I'm ready.
That's all it takes.
It'll do for you what he didfor me.
If you're ready to receive it,all right now.
If you felt that in your chesttoday, if you heard something
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that made you mad, made youlaugh or made you check yourself
, don't just listen.
Be part of the tribe.
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Don't wait till yoursituation's on fire and grab
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Y'all out here showing love.
This is China Doll, and whetheryou're the villain, the victim
or somewhere in between, thispodcast is the mirror.
Look at it.
Be sure to read theaccompanying blog for this
episode and letmepolyourcoatcomUntil next week.
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Stay safe, stay laced and keepyour coat pulled.
The world is a cold,unforgiving place.
We hope we made it a littlewarmer for you.
See you next week.
Much love and much respect.