Let's Talk People-Pleasing! with Charlotte Bailey

In this episode I reflect on 8 years ago, when I started my business, my private practice. At that time I had a Facebook Page... and no other way to market myself. I rarely shared the Facebook Page because - I told myself I was being 'professional' - I didn't want to 'push' my services on to people, because that would be unethical. 

Even as a self-aware therapist with 20+ years studying psychology it took me...

What is people-pleasing? 

and why do so many of us not realise we’re doing it? 

In this episode I talk about what people-pleasing really looks like - from the outside and the inside. Because I never used to call it people-pleasing either. I just thought I was being “nice,” “easy,” “helpful.” But behind that laid-back, dependable exterior? I was anxious, overthinking, and quietly abandoning myself every single day.

I cover:

• Why peop...

In this episode, I’m covering a question I've been asked on Instagram a few times now: “How do I know if my child is a people-pleaser and what can I do to help?”

To do this episode justice, I’ve invited the brilliant Becky—an Anxiety Coach for Teenagers and fellow recovering people-pleaser—to join me in exploring this important topic. Becky talks about the work she does, what people-pleasing can look like in teens, and the earl...

Have you ever read something online that didn't sit right with you? 

Maybe you noticed your heart race and the real pull to say something -  but after re-reading your response so many times, worrying it doesn't sound 'right' ... it just felt easier not to post it, to stay silent.

Or maybe it didn't even cross your mind to respond - it didn't feel like speaking up was an option you were allowed to choose....

There are so many layers to people-pleasing and when you become a Mum it can bring up so much for you! In this episode I've got Erin joining me - a somatic therapist from Baltimore who also works with people-pleasers, whilst we've followed each other on Instagram for a while, this is the first time we have 'met' and chatted. 

This honest conversation covers different ways people-pleasing shows up in postpartum - ...

In this episode, I talk you through how to recognise when imposter syndrome is showing up in your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours.

I highlight the common signs that you’re caught in the imposter spiral (like over-preparing, avoidance, or constantly doubting yourself), and I guide you through how to challenge the thoughts that tell you you're a fraud or not good enough — without forcing false positivity.

You’ll also learn how ...

Feeling out of your depth doesn’t mean you are. I'm talking about that all-too-familiar feeling of being out of your depth - even when you know logically you’re experienced and credible.

If you’ve ever found yourself second-guessing your abilities when stepping into something less familiar - be it launching a programme, showing up online, or taking a brave next step in your business - this one’s for you.

I cover what these feeli...

If you often find yourself saying 'yes' when you want to say no - despite 'knowing' it's ok to say no and to set healthy boundaries, then this episode will help you understand why it feels so difficult. Because despite the advice out there to 'just let them' 'let them be upset with you.. ' 'just say no' it's not as simple as that is it!? If it was we'd all be honourin...

This episode is for the girl you used to be - the one who learned to be agreeable, quiet, and easy so she could stay accepted and feel safe. The one who was called “shy” but was actually scanning the room. The one who hid her bigness to avoid being “too much.”
If you became what others needed, but lost touch with who you really are, this is your invitation to gently unmask. You were never too much or not enough. You were adapti...

In today’s episode, I’m sharing a really personal moment that completely caught me off guard - and shifted something deep within me.

Despite all the therapy, training, and self-awareness I’ve built over the years… it took one conversation with someone else to help me see a belief I’d been carrying for decades. A belief I didn’t even realise was still quietly shaping how I saw myself.

This episode is for you if you know yourself — you...

You might be making more progress than you think.

I’m talking about the shifts we often overlook - the subtle signs that show you’re breaking old patterns and building something new, even if the big transformation hasn’t happened yet.

If you’re someone who tends to downplay your growth or only looks for the dramatic changes, this is your reminder to slow down and notice the evidence that you are changing.

You're doing better than...

You’ve learnt the marketing strategies. You know what to do.

Rationally you know you'd be encouraging your friend to go for it - that she should shout about her achievements, that she deserves to.

So why are you still cringing when it’s time to show up?

Why do you feel so uncomfortable about putting yourself out there?

In this episode, I’m talking about the real reason visibility feels so hard — especially for women in business wi...

When Vicki hit burnout as a primary school teacher, she realised she had lost her sense of self. In this honest chat, she shares how years of people-pleasing led to a breakdown that ultimately became a turning point.

We explore identity loss, good girl conditioning, self-worth struggles, and how personal growth helped her reconnect with her true self. If you’ve ever felt like you were "too much" or not enough, this one’s f...

In today’s episode, I’m joined by a very special guest — mindset and personal stylist and founder of The Success Stylist Co, Emma — for a real and relatable conversation about confidence, self-expression, and breaking free from old patterns.

So many women describe confidence as feeling out of reach, like something you're either born with or not. But as you'll hear today, confidence is something that can be learned - even i...

I’m joined by Victoria Haydn, a brilliant brand photographer who works with women to capture them in a way that feels truly authentic and empowering. 

I wanted to chat to Victoria because so much of what I cover on the podcast is about stepping into who you really are, letting go of people-pleasing, and embracing your worth—and having photos taken can bring up so many fears and insecurities that reflect limiting beliefs holding you ...

You pride yourself on being kind — but is it really kindness, or something else in disguise?

In this episode, I’m talking about the subtle but powerful difference between genuine kindness and people-pleasing. Because while kindness comes from empathy and choice, people-pleasing is often driven by fear, guilt, or a need for approval — and over time, it can quietly lead to burnout, resentment, and losing touch with who you really are.

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If you’re an Overcommitter, you probably find yourself automatically saying “yes”, often without even thinking. You’re seen as the 'dependable one', the 'strong one' always available to help. But you end up juggling far too much — running around, squeezing everything in, and quietly carrying the pressure because you don’t want to let anyone down.

The difficult part is, even with the best intentions, this pattern ...

Do you get' what you need to do - you've read the self-help books and listened to the podcasts but you just don't feel able to implement the advice?

In today’s episode, I’m sharing my view of Mel Robbins’ “Let Them Theory” - the idea that we aren’t responsible for managing other people’s emotions or choices. While this sounds liberating, for those with trauma histories, ADHD, rejection sensitivity, or deeply ingrained...

Did you know that people-pleasing isn't just doing things for others, it runs much deeper than that. If you're curious about your own People-Pleasing Personality - take my free quiz and discover more about how people-leasing is showing up for you... and what to do about it click here 

In this episode me and Hannah are chatting all about our experiences with being Social Chameleons - the type of people-pleasing where you sh...