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September 10, 2025 34 mins

⚠️ Content Warning: This episode mentions domestic violence.

Everyone wants to be loved, but it can be hard. In this open and candid conversation, Carla Marie Mills joins Kembala to share why real love starts within. And how you can find healing, happiness and love again after a major breakup. 

Whether you’re navigating relationships, healing after divorce, or learning to embrace being happily single, this conversation will encourage you to keep your heart open and choose joy in every season.

Kembala and Carla unpack what love really means. They discuss the importance of self-love and wholeness on your journey. Carla shares lessons learned from relationships, healing after divorce, and the mindset that carried her through cancer treatment.

Throughout their conversation, Carla highlights the power of positivity and faith in overcoming life's challenges. She encourages listeners to keep their hearts open and pursue happiness.

Carla’s message is simple, honest, and powerful. She stresses the importance of not settling.

Key Takeaways:

  • Be Whole First — You can’t fully love someone else until you’re complete within yourself.
  • Self-Love Sets Boundaries — Valuing yourself teaches others how to treat you.
  • Love Languages Explained — Understanding yours (and your partner’s) may help deepen connection.
  • Recognize Real Love — Love shows up in many forms, but unhealthy relationships aren’t love.
  • Healing After Divorce/Heartbreak — Prayer, solitude, and professional help (if needed) can guide recovery.
  • Mindset is Everything — Positivity and faith shape how you experience life.
  • Strength Through Survival — Carla’s cancer journey reveals the power of resilience and perspective.

Important Note - If you are experiencing domestic violence, help is available - call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, go to thehotline.org to chat, or text START to 88788. The hotline is available 24/7.

Resources:

  • @CarlaMarieMills on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, Threads, and YouTube.
  • Jerry Maguire Movie | You Complete Me on YouTube
  • Books:
    1. The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
    2. In The Meantime by Iyanla Vanzant

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