#8 David Burgoz Jr SVBJJ

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Today I have a guest who's notjust a friend, but family.
I've known David since he wasabout 10 years old.
When he merged into our family.
His dad married my cousin.
David will always have a specialplace in my heart.
In this episode, we're going todive deep into David's story
from his childhood, thechallenges he faced growing up,

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his introduction to jiu jitsu,and how his family and support
system shaped the person he istoday.
David, welcome to the podcast.
It's great to finally sit downand do this with you.
Hi, Renee.
Thank you for having me.
This is something new to me.
Yeah.
I'm just, ready to dive intoyour childhood.
What was your childhood likegrowing up with your family?

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My childhood was like, there wasa lot of ups and downs.
Growing up as a kid, we movedaround from place to place.
I was born to parents that werereally young, my dad was 20.
My mom was 17.
Of course, they had their ownstuff that they were going
through, just being kidsthemselves.
That's still pretty young whenyou consider having a baby
having a kid.
It was some good times and badtimes.

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My childhood started off, prettydecent, I would like to say.
I lived in Soledad for a goodamount of time in my life.
I still live there now.
We lived in this big yellowhouse, when I first came.
What I remember was we came tothis yellow house, my parents
and my grandparents and myuncle, we all lived there in the
same house.
We stayed there for a goodamount of time and my biggest
memory though, being there wasbeing with my grandparents.

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My Nana and Tata were thebiggest part of my life.
There was no way I could everhave gone on without them, but
the bigger part was my UncleChris, my Tío Chris.
That guy was like, he was, I hadmy dad, and I did, but, he had
his problems, he had histroubles and stuff, but my Tío
Chris was my everything.
When my parents couldn't takecare of me, cause either they
were working or tired, he'd bethe one having me in his bed,

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feeding me, making sure that Iwas good.
If I was sick, he would takecare of me, up until I was like
four or five where I could walkand stand, he would take me in
his Thunderbird, we'd be ridingaround town.
I'd have my arm out like thewindow like this, bumping EZ and
Tupac.
Me as a kid, as a four year old,five year old, I should not be
singing Eazy E songs, you know?
My childhood starting off was,good, you know, as time went on,

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I found out that it wasn't thatgood.
It was decent, but it was justbecause of my grandparents, my
Nana and Tata, they reallyprotected us.
They really did because my dad,he had his own issues and my
mom, she, it was really hard forher to do a lot of the stuff
because of, money wise for one,but also to, being in that
relationship in the beginningwith my dad.

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My dad was very manipulative andhe controlled a lot of stuff.
He made it very hard for her tobe able to do the stuff that she
wanted to do.
So it made it hard for usbecause it was hard for her and
she couldn't do the stuff thatshe wanted to do for us and for
her family.
Because my dad was the one thatheld everything.
He was always the one that madethe money.
He was always the one that madeall the decisions you know.

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Just recently, me and my mom, wehad this, conversation, where,
like me and my wife, we went togo buy furniture for our kids,
and, it was a big thing that hitme because my wife wanted a
table.
It's a table for the dining.
We don't have a big apartment,you know, has a decent size area
for the table.
But my dad, he always told mymom like, oh no, we already have
a table, it's like a hand medown one that they got from my

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uncle or aunt or from mygrandparents.
Mixed match chairs, there's alawn chair and then freaking
like a regular chair.
She never got the table set, andthen my dad would always get
like these big freaking cars,the brand new Yukons, the brand
new expeditions, you know, thisfrickin thousand two hundred
dollar freaking stereo set thatI mean, what did it do for us?

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So I was just talking to herrecently about this is like I
got my wife the dining room setthat she wanted.
And it was like my middle fingerto my dad saying you know what
like I got that for my wife.
I invited all over my brothersand my mom over, my wife made
fun of me about it, because Iinvited them all over just to
sit at that table, for all of usto be there at that table.
It was a big thing for mebecause It was something like

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that we couldn't have.
I told my mom this and shelaughed about, but I told her it
was like a big middle finger tomy dad.
I'm not like you at all.
I do have some tendencies andit's the good tendencies that he
has and the characteristics thathe has.
But for that moment it meant alot to me.
Because doing that and seeinglike everything that my mom went
through.
As a kid, you kind of blockeverything out, because you're

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trying to protect yourself, butas we get older, we start to
remember, and I did, I startedto remember a lot of things.
You know, And it made me veryproud, and made my mom very
proud that I was able to do thatfor my wife.
That's great.
Tell me about your mom.
Her name is Claudia Malgoza, meand her, we had a rough
upbringing.
I know why now it happened, butat the time it was just because

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I thought, she was choosingother things over me.
Knowing what I know now, butback then it was, tough, because
I chose, where the money was andwhere like the fun stuff was and
where they would let me dowhatever I wanted.
That was with your dad.
I was with my dad.
Little did I know, that wasn'tthe best option for me because
it was still really hard.
My dad made a lot of things hardfor me growing up, and he made

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me think about a lot of thingsdifferently about my mom.
I was just a kid, you know, andI didn't know any better.
It made it very hard.
I hate to say this but I hatedmy mom at one time.
I did because the things that Iwas seeing and the things that I
thought were true, even thoughif they were or weren't I
thought they were just becauseof the things that were put in

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my head the things that weresaid and a little bit of what I
saw.
It made it very difficult forme.
Knowing what I know now, itangers me a lot.
I keep a lot of anger in that'swhy I have a very big smile you
know because behind that smile Ihold a lot of pain.
I get through a lot of the shitthat happened to me as I was
growing up and a lot of thatdoes have to do with my dad.

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But a lot has to do with theregret of a lot of the shit that
happened with my mom.
I saw my mom, growing up, frombeing the woman that, I thought
wasn't doing anything for us oranything for me.
To now seeing everything thatshe does now for us.
I can't imagine my life withoutmy mom, my mom really opened my

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eyes to a lot of things.
Numerous things that I can neverever thank her enough for and I
would never be able to repay herback for any of that stuff that
she did for me or my brothers ormy kids.
It still hits today where Ialways remember the pain and the
fear in her eyes, when we weregrowing up and my dad was the
way he was with her.
I still see it today.

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There was one, the one night inparticular where things got
really bad, my dad, he was veryabusive.
I didn't know that, at the time,my uncle, he didn't mean to, but
we were talking about it.
As he was talking about it, wewere just on the phone talking
and I remembered, I rememberedmy dad hitting my mom.
I remember my dad making my momlike, fear, because my dad was

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just a big dude, just tellingher like, no, this or no, that,
or shut the fuck up this andshut the fuck up that, and, it
was, it was scary.
There was this one night inparticular where, I remember
opening the door, because me andmy brothers were out there in
the living room and my dad gotus ready to leave, and my dad
was like yelling at my mom and Ihear a bunch of shit fucking

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hitting.
I opened the door and I see mydad about to hit my mom with
something and my dad tells me toget the fuck out and my mom
looks, get out and I'm just,she's trying to protect, you.
I'm just, I'm terrified causeI'm only like eight, nine years
old, and then I got my littlebrothers that are fucking, what?
Six, five, four, and then Jacobwas a newborn and maybe like

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maybe a year, maybe if that.
That's why, like from thatmoment, I really like I had a, I
had like a, I've always had asense of fear, for like certain
altercations or certain thingsBecause of that moment.
because of that person.
My dad, like he instilled, likehis way was he wanted you to

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fear him.
And that's the way that hethought respect was made.
Or that's the way that hethought respect was given.
And with my mom the way that shebrought us up was the love and
the respect that you give toothers.
That's the way that the love andrespect is given back.
She's always tried to tell uslike, you know what, the energy
that you put on the universe isthe energy that you will get

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back.
You know, and.
with my dad God rest his soulbut you know anytime I get an
opportunity to give him a middlefinger about stuff that I do is
just because a lot of thingsthat dude fucking did it really
hurt.
Yeah, it does.
It really did.
And it really hurt because likemy mom, not knowing what my mom

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had to go through and the way Ireally like, I had that hate and
that animosity towards her, itreally breaks my heart because I
couldn't do it back then.
I couldn't show her the love andthe respect and I couldn't
protect her back then.
Now, it's a whole differentballgame.
The dude's dead and that's why,like I call him my dad and I do,

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but.
There's a difference betweenbeing a dad and just being a man
that helped make you.
My dad, I loved him and I did,but there's a big pain in my
heart that will always be therebecause he's gone and questions
that were never answered willalways be left on the table.

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My mom and me, we've had a,we've had a hard upbringing and
we did, we had a really hardupbringing.
But now, like I said, I can'timagine my life without her.
She's literally probably, otherthan my kids and my wife.
She's the biggest part of mylife.
So when your parents split upwhen you were about how old?
Nine.
it might have been sooner.

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It probably was sooner.
Because I think I met you when Iwas like, what, 10?
Yeah.
10 elevenish around that time.
Let's talk a little bit aboutyour dad.
You said you had a very complex,relationship with him and you
felt that he, picked on you morethan your other brothers.
Can you tell me a little bitabout that?
Yeah, You know, with my dad, we,there was a lot of things that

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were wrong with him.
When I, even like, even thoughyou can hear the anger and the
way I talk about him.
I don't know what it was aboutme.
I think me and my mom and Ithink me and you touched on it a
little bit about it, but I just,I felt very sorry for him
because just like I see,everybody that's here, everybody
that's in Koffee Krew, my boyGabe, that's right there, I

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think for my own self, I thinkI'm a pretty good guy.
You are.
I think I'm fun.
I think people like to be aroundme.
Absolutely.
You know?
For that one person that'ssupposed to love you more than
anything to be the one personthat You just want them to
accept you for who you are andit's like I can never get that
acceptance for whatever fuckingreason that one person out of

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all these other people all theseother people to have no
knowledge of who the hell I am.
Why is it that one person justcould not figure out to be there
for me or to accept me and tolove me for who I am?
And it just, to this day, itstill does not make sense to me.
I put things and I kind ofstructure in a way to make
sense, but yeah, he was veryhard on me and he was very

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different with me than with mybrothers.
I get it now, as I've grown upand I have my kids, and I have
stuff that, you know, goes on inlife, and I see other parents
and I see other, dads with theirsons and stuff like that.
And I see my relationship withmy son, it's because my dad
couldn't get to the point whereI was.
He couldn't understand why hecouldn't be the way I am with my

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kids.
Yeah, he was so flashy with allhis cars, with the home, with
trips and stuff like that.
But at the end of the day, it'slike, all that stuff is nice,
but what relationship do youhave with your kids from the top
all the way to the bottom?
What do you have with them?
We're all here on this earth forwhatever amount of time, God
gives us.

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It's up to us to make that timeworth it and count.
We're all going to be judged oneday on the way we treat others
and the way we treat, of course,our kids.
Our kids should be the biggestpart, at least for me and I know
for you, our kids are thebiggest parts of our lives.
I can never imagine ever makingthem feel anything less than
amazing.

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You're right.
And for that one man to make mefeel like I was always
competing.
There is no competition, man.
You're supposed to be my dad.
You're supposed to be there andfucking help me to get to a
certain place.
Like dude, my daughter hasstraight A's.
Both my kids are freakingamazing in their sports.
These kids go to freaking tripsall the time.

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They have the best clothes, thebest shoes.
They eat the best foods andWhat, am I going to be jealous
because my childhood wasn't likethat?
No.
It's going to make me proud.
Dude, look at all the crap thatI'm doing for my kids.
Everything that I went throughand look at the shit that they
never have to even know exists.
Yeah.
That's a great father.
That's why I like when my dad, Icould bring up so much different

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things and I could tell you guysall the little things that he
did to me, all the things thathe made hard for me.
But.
It wouldn't speak volume of theman that I am today because just
to bash somebody, have it belike I said, I give him the
middle finger every time I canbecause that's just my little
thing for my mom to give my momrespect and to give my mom a one

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up on him.
But for him, it's more or lessdude, you're gone.
We already buried you.
You're in the grave.
God rest your soul.
And I really hope that youlearned one day that we were
actually pretty great.
Yeah.
Me and my brothers, we lovegoing to Monterey and the beach,
because my dad, he would driveus out there and, the old Crown

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Vic that he used to have andhim, he'd get loaded or drunk or
whatever fucking shit that hewould be doing.
There's one time that me and mybrothers is me, Daniel, Gabriel,
and Jacob.
And I think, no, I don't thinkXander was with us because Adele
didn't let him go or whateverhappened, but we went to the
beach right there in PacificGrove, where the rocks are.
Yeah, Alsolimar.

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Yeah.
I love that beach.
Yeah.
Same.
We love going there.
It brings us back so much in ourchildhood because, my dad,
whatever he was doing, he toldus to go play, go on our own.
So me and my brothers were justout there with our bags of chips
and our drinks and shit andwe're out there playing on the
rocks, playing in the sands.
My dad's asleep in the freakingcar.
We're just thinking, oh, hejust, he's asleep.
It started raining.

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So like we all huddled uptogether.
Oh shit.
Like it's raining, we're justwatching the rain hit the water
and the waves crashed down andit felt like nothing in the
world was wrong.
It was just me and my threebrothers, it was just us, and
it's just like nothing could gowrong at that time.
It's like the energy that's putout there in the world through

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mother nature is crazy, whetherit be raining, snowing.
Hailing, storm, mother naturecan be very beautiful and she
can be very dangerous and verydeadly as well.
And I think the ocean brings somuch of that beauty and that
destruction all in one.
Because you see the waterflowing and you see the water
crashing.
So it's just the same thing.
It's beauty, destruction,beauty, destruction.

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I think that's a big thing thatme and my brother we really love
the ocean because of that oneday, it brought us closer to
where we love to be.
Where we love to be is not justat the ocean.
But we love to be around oneanother.
My dad, him, like acting the wayhe acted and brought us closer

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together.
Even with my little brotherXander.
He's so far away.
They live in Texas.
But to this day, he just, wealways make sure to message him,
text him, Hey, how's it going?
Yesterday, he texted me about Iguess, like, they were down on
the street where, they're outthere, going around clubbing, he
said, but he's not even oldenough to go in the clubs.

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He was just out there and Iguess these people stopped him.
They asked him, Hey, can we prayfor you?
And so he gives me this wholelong thing where he's just like,
you know, it felt amazing D, youknow, It was something
unexpected but people prayingfor you like it made me feel
like it made me feel good.
I just told him man run with ithe calls for a reason not just
for nothing He's always had ahold on you.
It's just up to you pop to runwith him or run from him, right?

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I just told him I love you.
That's good.
Good Advice from big brother.
Yeah, I mean him are pretty damnfar in age, But I think with my
dad's Bullshit that he had goingon It brought us all closer
together.
Yeah, I can see that.
Let's get into, some of thesports you did as a child.
Ah, yeah.
Basketball was my first love.

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Basketball was like the onlything in my life at the time
that just took me away.
Like I would just shoot thebasketball for hours at a time.
My dad first got us a basketballhoop, me and my brothers would
be out there to like almost twoor three in the morning.
I was very physical withbasketball, you know, and I

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just, the mental state ofbasketball was I wanted to, how
can I say this?
I always wanted to be betterthan the person in front of me.
I always tried to figure out howto be better than that person.
You know, and uh, Every singleday when, I would just watch and

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that was the crazy thing toowhen we were growing up, we all
didn't really have phones, Butwe would watch I would watch
youtube videos on my pc, right?
Yeah.
You know Street basketball Likewas a big craze back then when I
was growing up like in Six,seventh and eighth grade.
So seeing all these guys,freaking throw all these crazy
moves, it just, it brought usinto like throwing up different,

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um, different spins off thebasketball, and swinging it
around, and I think the biggestpart for me was, it was
somewhere for me to feel like Iwas number one.
I remember specifically therewas this one competition that we
went to, I used to play travelbasketball, it was, probably one
of the most funnest times of mylife, as a kid growing up.

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There was one specifictournament, I think it was in
Sacramento or somewhere outthere and like in up north.
Xander had gotten somethingstuck up his nose.
He lodged something up his nose.
So of course, my stepmom and mydad were worried, cuz he put
fucking it was like an Altoid orsomething like that.
Just stuck it up his nose.

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And so.
That runs in our family.
Yeah The kids are always doingthat.
Yeah That's funny.
I couldn't make it to my game, Icould, I we were just like we
were there stuck at thehospital, So my team won the
first game.
The second game I had went inthere and we had just pulled up,

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I put on my Jersey, put on myshoes, laced them up, ready to
go.
We were down by like 20 points.
Okay.
So I'm like, shit, we're down bya lot.
So I go in there and I startedgoing at it.
My coach puts me in, I startedshooting.
I started making points.
We're down by five.
Within that five points, I gotlike three fouls.
I was just aggressive.
That's how I was.
And they wanted to stop you.
Oh yeah.
They wanted to stop me.

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I still remember just like itwas yesterday, man.
I freaking go up, go straight upfor the layup and as I go for
the layup guy, whacks me.
And I just go, ah, like I godown and it makes it right.
We're down by one point.
All right, cool.
Ready for me to shoot it, makethe free throw.
Bounce it.
I shoot it.
I missed the fucking free throw.
My boy.
I'm not remembering his name,but he got the rebound, threw it

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out to one of my other friends,grabbed it, threw it out to my
coach's son, Marcus, grabbed it,shot it, missed the shot.
I grabbed the rebound, kick itout to him one more time.
Gets it.
Nothing Nice.
22 seconds to go.
Okay.
As the guys are bringing up thecourt, I'm handling their best

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ball player, they're going up,they're going up, I whack the
ball, fucking ref calls a foul.
Oh no.
That's my fourth foul, so I'mjust like, damn.
Okay, so the guy goes up, makesboth free throws, we're down one
again.
So, it's only like, maybe 14, 15seconds, okay?
I inbound it to my coach's son.

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My coach's son goes, gives it tome, I'm double teamed.
I see the, I can't remember hisname, damn.
But, I see him wide open.
Toss it right to him.
There's five, four, it's like amovie three.
He just hit, and he wasn't thebest shooter, but he just hails
it up.
Three, two, one.
It hit the back.

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Hit the second and roll theright.
Into the basket.
Right into the basket and itwas, it was crazy because like
we just all grabbed them, putthem up and stuff.
And then it was funny cause wedidn't realize how heavy he was
when we picked him up and hewent backwards and bam.
Oh my God, what a celebration.
It was.
It was probably like, there wasa couple other little, things

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that happened with basketball,but that was probably one of the
most memorable ones.
That was probably one of thebest moments I had.
Cause like my dad was there.
My grandparents were there, my,my little cousin Brian was
there.
It was probably like one of thebest freaking moments that I had
as a basketball player.
It was so much fun, you know.
I played basketball throughout,like up until my junior year in
high school.
I left high school earlybecause, because of my daughter.

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But that's where like mycompetitive nature came from was
because of basketball.
Basketball brought like thatfire in me.
And it's cause of a, it was onespecific player, Kobe Bryant.
He was like the best, basketballplayer.
He was our Jordan of our era,his fierceness and his toughness
and the way he just was ready toattack, attack, attack.

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That was like the biggest andbest thing and just like just
the love and the freaking theamazingness that he brought
around him.
And then it's like when hestepped on the basketball court,
he's like no longer friends.
Like you're my enemy and that'swhat I'm gonna take you out.
That's a great mindset.
I'm glad you have something as achild that really, you know

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impacted your life and you wereable to do a sport that you
really loved.
Yeah.
let's talk about your brothers,your siblings.
Ah, let's go through them likeone at a time.
Give us a little background onthem.
So my first brother's name isMatt I'm gonna go from the top
all the way to the bottom.
He's the reason why my workethic is just hardcore.
My work ethic and the personthat I am in my job and outside

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of my job is very on point andin tune with everything around
me.
It's because of the way he is.
That guy has been through somefucking shit, and yet he still
has this fucking smile on hisface.
So funny, but we always makethis joke because Matt He was a
foster kid, right?
And every time I said, we gotMatt like he's a fucking puppy,

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Fucking we got Matt at when hewas like 12 years old.
Okay, and from 12 years old hejust stuck with us, I think he's
30, 36, I believe, I think he's4 or 5 years older than me, but
like him, seeing everything thathe was doing, I mirrored what he
was doing because it was workingfor him.
He had all these different jobs,you know, and it's like every

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one of those jobs he treated thesame.
He's like, I'm here to do onething and one thing only.
And that's make money.
And, my older brother, he reallyput a big impact on my life.
he's been there through a lot ofstuff that we went through as
kids.
Every step of the way, throughthe divorce, through any deaths
that we had in the family,through anything that I was

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going through personally, or mymom and my brothers were going
through he just, he's a littlebit of a, how can I say this,
he's a little bit of anintrovert.
Like he doesn't like people, buthe likes his people.
Even like when we go to arestaurant, like he wants to sit
in the corner over there aroundaway from everybody.
He wants to be around hispeople, but that's it.
That's it.
Okay.
Your next brother.

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And then my, um, That's funny, Igot a lot of brothers.
I know you do.
My little brother, Daniel, he'smy backup that dude has, ever
since we were kids.
He's always had my back.
Whether it was a good decisionor a bad decision.
There's this one specific storythat I had with him that we used
to sneak out at night.
And climb through the frickinbedroom window.

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And we went with our cousin,Tony, and we went to the park
and we were just kids, justrunning around at the park,
cause it's late at night and itwas cool.
A cop put a spotlight on us andwas trying to see where we're
all like down, like we'refucking army men, just down
trying to hide behind the bush.
Tony's just like on the, likebehind the fricking wooden thing
that's right there in the parkand we're just like shit.

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So when the cop.
Take the light off of us.
We ran and my little brother.
He's he's not the he's not thelightest person, you know he
look he were a little chunky tooand growing up and stuff.
So as we're running as fast aswe can as fast as we can, he's
like back there.
And so my cousin was like, shit,Daniel.
And so he goes back and runs andhe's just pushing, Daniel, come

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on, Daniel.
And Daniel was just like, justleave me behind.
I'll be okay.
I'll go drinking, where I'vebeen out with friends, and I've
gotten drunk, I call Danielright away.
Cause I know right away he'llget my brothers together, and
he'll fuckin go get them, andthey'll come and get me.
He'll be the one to be like, Heydude, you shouldn't be doing

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that, but just be careful.
Did you have fun though?
Yeah, I had fun.
That's a great backup.
He's the one that I'm closest inage.
So me and him, we've just beenthrough everything together.
Anything that in our childhoodthat I went through, he went
through.
Then my little brother Gabriel,I call him my check.
He's working out now.
So he's a little bit bigger now,but don't matter.
I'll still up his ass.

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He's the one that will alwaysput us into like reality.
D you fucked up You shouldn'thave done this.
He's the middle child but hedon't act like a middle child.
You know, he's very calm, verycollective.
Hey man, like this hasn't workedfor you before D, so maybe you
shouldn't do it again.
And then if I do it again, he'dbe like, Hey dude, I told you, I
don't know why you fucked upagain.

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If you want to fuck up again, doit again.
But like you shouldn't do that.
I remember me and my wife hadgotten into an argument, he
looked at me, he goes, Hey, hegoes, did you win the argument?
And I'm like.
Uh, no, maybe why he goes oh, hegoes, you're here.
I don't know how you won.
You're not home.
You're here.
He goes, the argument wasn'tworth the D, it wasn't worth it.
I'm like, yeah, it fuckingwasn't worth it.

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Jacob, that's my baby.
He's, it's funny because he'salways been the cute one in the
family.
Like my mom always says shedoesn't have any favorites and
she doesn't, but if there wouldbe a favorite, it would probably
be Jacob.
Because Jacob is the baby.
Motherfucker's 23 years old, buthe's still the baby.
My mom put me to the test onetime.

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And, my little brother had askedme, Hey, can you go get the
candy for me in the car?
Or can I get some of your candyin the car?
Yeah, go for it.
Threw him the keys.
Good to go, right?
My little brother Daniel.
And then so my mom said, heyJacob, go ask D for the same
thing.
And so Jacob comes, hey D, can Iget the, can you get the, can I
get the candy from the car?
Yeah, I got you, Jake.
I went to go get it myself and Ibrought it in.

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My mom was just shaking herhead, did you notice what you
did?
And I'm like.
What'd I do?
And he goes, your little brotherDaniel asked you for the candy,
but you gave him the keys so hecan get it himself.
But the baby asked you for thecandy and you went to go get it
for him.
And I'm just like, I didn'trealize that, I'm like, Jake, go
get the fucking candy.
He goes, you have it in yourhand.

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And I'm like.
Fuck, I'm gonna go put it back.
Trying to be fair.
Yeah, no, there's no fairnesswith freaking Jake, man.
I'm gonna go from the top to thebottom.
Destiny is my little sister.
even though we're not bloodrelated, She came into our lives
when we were young.
She's always been our sister.
She's like my pride, I thinkwhen, when my grandfather passed

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away just recently, she was liketelling us like all this stuff
her and her husband or boyfriendor soon to be husband, we're
doing and stuff.
And it just brought like a bigpride, in my heart, because
just.
Like I said, everything I'vebeen through, my siblings have
been through.
She went through a little bitmore hectic upbringing, and just

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knowing and hearing everythingthat she's gone through and just
seeing just how fucking amazingand beautiful that her life is
now.
I do.
That brings such a big pride andjoy to my heart.
I know Matt's the oldest in age,but I'm the oldest brother
because just the way I holdmyself.
The way I am like they know,like I'm the older brother I'm

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the one that everybody comes toif they need something.
They want advice or something'sgoing on and especially now they
have to get into a fight I'mgonna be the first one there.
Yeah, but destiny just to seehow beautiful her family and
life is good, you know, and thenher yesterday, she was at
Disney, right?
I was in a text and I'd be like,lucky, you know, I love, I love

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Disney.
We're like big as Disneyfanatics.
I think we've been to Disneylandand Disney world, like at least
eight times each, at least, orprobably more.
Probably more.
It's not a, it's not a healthyaddiction.
It's a pretty damn expensiveaddiction.
Um, and Then my baby brother,the last one, he's he's
technically my half brothercause he's from half my dad and
then half from my step mom, butWe don't do all that.

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He's just, he's my brother,right?
He's my biggest worry.
It's not so much like I think meand you had touched on it a
little bit before.
It's not so much like I thinkanything's gonna happen to him.
But it's because I've never hada hold of him, you know with my
brothers and a little bit withmy sister I've had a hold of
them You know, where I was ableto grow up with them.

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I was able to be there for them.
With my brothers now, Daniel,Gabriel, and Jacob, and even
Matt, they're still there.
But with Xander, he grew up awayfrom us.
I was so much in age differenceof him when I ended up starting
a family, I was really youngwhen I started my family, but he
was away from me in thebeginning and having a kid on my

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own, maybe even further from us.
I worry about him the most.
I could call him, but somethinghappens, it's literally like a,
what, a four hour plane ride toget there?
Recently, when my grandfatherpassed away, you know, he's so
far away from us that he wasn'table to go.
Right.
I know it hurt him.
Because my grandfather did thesame thing.

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My grandfather played a hugepart in all of our lives.
I understand why he is far awayfrom us, Adele didn't have it
easy at all, especially with mydad, and, I think her moving
over there was a big part of,she wanted to get away.
She wanted to get away from thepain.
Dude, nobody wants to fuckingremember the shit that she went
through.
He, out of all of us, heprobably had it the worst.

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He didn't get to have like thegood years that my dad had.
So there were good years betweenmy dad and us.
And there were.
But Xander got the bitter end.
Shit.
Luckee, I honest to God, I can'timagine doing half the shit that
kid had to do.
I couldn't imagine having myfucking kids do half the shit
that kid had to go through.

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With Xander, it's like he wasjust so innocent, and for that
man to put him through that, itangers me.
With my brothers and my family,my biggest thing is if
something's going on with one ofthem, even if I'm not the
solution.
I want to be at least a part ofthe process because they mean

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the world to me.
You know, like just recently mymom blessed us with something,
because she was blessed with it,and, seeing all my brothers, and
they're just like talking aboutlike how they don't think they
deserve certain things that mymom were giving us like, dude,
like I tried telling them like,Y'all don't understand like my
mom has nobody else to give itto you're her kids, She wants
y'all to have it.

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She wants you guys to take itYou know, and it's my brothers
are over here saying like D weknow you we owe you guys this we
owe you guys that and I'm mydude The only thing that you
guys owe me is The love and thesmile on your face.
That's it.
I remember when Xander camedown, you know I wanted to get a
hold of him, and talk to himabout certain things I had known

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or I had heard that went on.
I remember Xander, like hewasn't listening, and Gabe hit
Xander hey, man, he goes He wasjust let you know dude.
He goes like I know we have adad, but he pointed at me, he
goes, that's dad right there,right?
He goes, that's the man that weall love and we all respect more
than anybody else.
And I want to tear up right nowbecause like, for my brother to

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say that, they see me as theirfather figure.
And it brings so much joy in myheart.
Luck, that I was that person forthem.
That's great, David.
Yeah.
You're a good man.
You're a great father.
Thank you.

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Okay.
Your step mom, came into yourlife when you were about 10 or
11.
What was your first impressionof her?
I thought she was nice.
When I first met her, I met herat Chuck E.
Cheese.
I went with her and destiny.
Adele she was very kind atfirst, and I only say at first
because.
Back then I didn't know a lot ofcrap that happened, but now that

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I do know, I understand why sheacted the way she acted.
It was cool, I didn't reallyunderstand it, because I was a
kid, so I didn't know about stepparents, step mom, step dad, and
stuff like that, it wassomething new.
It was really interesting.
I always had a big, I was, it'sso funny, but just like my mom,

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I always had a big dislike ofAdele.
It again, it was at first,because, Adele, she acted a
certain way with us and wedidn't like it, because of
course work with kids.
I think like in my adult years,she told me this one thing, she
goes, honestly, David, she goes,I wouldn't want to have a
relationship with me after theway I acted with you guys.

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I told her, it's not how weacted in the past, it's how we
act now, and how we are now withone another.
I get it, we all make mistakes,but just leave it in the past.
It is what it is.
You know, and I think, withAdele, I think out of all, with
my brothers and my mom, ofcourse, the shit that happened
with my mom really pissed meoff, but my mom got out.

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And it may have taken a whilefor her to get out, but she got
out.
I think that with Adele.
She stuck around for a very longtime and she did.
My mom was with my dad forroughly around 9, 10 years.
Adele was with my dad foralmost, I believe it was almost

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like 14, 15 years.
I think I was like 23 when theyfinally split.
And it wasn't even like theyfinally split, they kept going
back to one another.
It was a big hurt on my heartbecause the shit that happened
to her should never happen toanybody.
Nobody should ever have toendear the shit that she had to

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endear.
That's why I brought up a lot ofstuff that Xander had to go
through because he had to seeall the shit that happened to
her.
I think I really touched onthis, there was a place out
there in San Miguel.
It's maybe about, I thinkroughly about what, two and a
half hours from here.
It's only an hour away fromSoledad.
There's a little house outthere.
My dad, for some fucking reason,this dude always wanted to have

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the best and biggest things.
And it made zero sense on a lotof the shit that he had and a
lot of shit that he wanted todo, but there's this little
house out there.
And for me, it's like a fuckinghorror house.
You know, it brings nothing butbad memories.
I remember when I was there,there was a lot of crap that.

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Just hearing the stories that mybrothers told me, for my dad
being like dead asleep in thefucking hallway, you know, for
my brothers just being in theroom or my brothers being taken
by Adele to go eat pizza downthe street because my dad was
acting some type of way withthem.
All that crap that they wentthrough, it's hard to fucking

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say, but it was nothing comparedto the shit that Adele went
through.
And now, we were just talkingabout it right now, not too long
ago, like we go up against somefucking crazy people in Jiu
Jitsu, and we go up against somebig dudes, and I feel like I can
defend myself pretty damn well,and knowing what I know now, and

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I couldn't protect my step mom.
And then my stepmom, even thoughyeah dude, she acted a certain
way, she was a certain way, butshe was still our stepmom.
There's a reason why we call hera stepmom, even though my dad
and her divorced, that's stillmy stepmom.
That's still, take out the step,and that's still a mom to me.
Because, she took a lot of thebullshit from us.

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And even though she may notnotice it, or she may not have
known it, she took a lot of thathit, a lot of that hurt, a lot
of that pain, a lot of thatmental fucking trauma that, that
man did to all of us, or couldhave done to all of us.
She took that.
And, I still, till this day, Ican't believe half the shit that

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my dad put those two through.
Put Adele through, put Xanderthrough.
My dad was a literal piece ofshit at that moment.
I don't want to piss and shit onhis grave, but for that, and for
what he did to them, that, Iwill damn him to wherever he

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needs to go because she didn'tdeserve that.
And with Adele, she is literallyrisen up from where she was to
where she is now.
And I just hope everything thathappened to her never affects
anything that she is now.
Because she, now, me and her, wecan have a conversation and it's

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like nothing ever fuckinghappens.
It's like my fucking dad didn'tdo any of that evil shit to you.
Dude, you should hate me and mybrothers because we're fucking
my dad's offspring.
But she holds none of that.
She still holds love andcompassion now for us.
And even to this day, I was, Ithink I was telling you when we
were talking about this, I betyou if I were to call her right
now and say, hey, Adele, I'mgoing through something, you

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think you could help me get ajob?
I guarantee you she'd probablybe the first one on it trying to
get me a job at the prison,trying to get me an office job,
trying to do something.
Yeah.
Because that's just the personthat she is.
Even after everything that she'sbeen through, that's still the
person that she is.
Yeah, so that's a, the onlything I could say is I love my
stepmom.

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I love my mom.
I love my family.
My stepmom, my stepsister, theybelong within that circle.
And those are my people.
Those are my people.
That's awesome.
Okay.
Let's pick up the pace a littlebit.
Let's do it.
Let's talk about, Being a youngfather.
Oh shit.
So tell everybody how thathappened.

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I don't know if I can get too Rrated into how it happened, but
Me and my wife, we, we startedreally young and I met her when
I was like 12, 13 years old,and, We didn't have a lot of
guidance, through anything, my,like I told you before my family
was going through what they weregoing through, and I got pushed
out, and the only person thatlike was there for me through
anything was her, and, when Ifound out I was going to be a

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dad at such a young age, itscared the crap out of me.
How old were you?
I was when I found out I was 15.
But when we had Lacey, I was 16.
Lacey was born, December 27th,2009.
You know, and I was barely afreshman going into my sophomore
year.
Or, no, I was a sophomore goinginto my junior year when Lacey

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was born.
When I heard that Genesis waspregnant, it scared me.
I didn't know what the hell todo.
There's this song it's by KennyChesney.
It's called there goes my life,and it's literally talking about
this kid that's just He hearsthat he's having a kid at such a
young age, and there goes hislife, And then it fast forwards

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into seeing this beautifullittle girl, and that's his
life, you know There goes mylife and then to seeing her go
off to what he wanted to do inhis life that's his life the
moment that Lacey was born.
My life was changed forever mylife That was the moment.
I think me and you I said thatwas the moment I became a man

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And not just because I had adaughter, but that was the
moment that I knew that my wholelife would be dedicated to that
one person.
That moment that I laid my eyeson my daughter.
That was the moment that changedmy life forever.
It was the most beautifulestmoment I always call her little
thing, cause she just was thislittle thing that just was

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crying, you know, just, she wasbrought into this world, not
asked.
She was brought into this worldby two teenage parents, and now
just looking at her and seeingAll the beautiful things that
she does, it's crazy.
It's crazy to see Lacey.
Dude, she did not have afucking, she was not going into
a winning record at all.

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She had two teenage parents, butyet to be this beautiful,
amazing 15 year old.
Like it's, it still fuckingbrings, it brings me to like, I
don't understand how you couldjust be so amazing, but yet
everything that's been in yourlife, and from the moment you
were born, it should have beenhard, but you're just nothing

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less than fucking perfect.
I know everybody always says,their kids are perfect, they're
beautiful and stuff like that,and in every parent's eyes, in
every parent's heart, that kidis perfect to them.
Your child has a perfect placein your heart.
Lacey just, she'll always be my,she's my best friend.
But Dude, if she's my biggestcritic, she's the, she's my
biggest hater, put it that way.

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She's a teenager.
So yeah, she's a big hater.
What was the biggest challengesof you being a young parent?
I think being a young parent, Ididn't make all the right
decisions, shit, I barelystarted making right decisions,
as I got into being 29 to 31,like I just started making good
decisions.
I think with being such a youngparent, and this goes on to any

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young parent, the mistakes wemake, if you don't learn from
them, then the mistakes are justmistakes.
When mistakes are made and youlearn from them, they're not
mistakes anymore, they're calledlessons.
and lessons are meant to belearned and to grow from.
And I made a lot of baddecisions in my teenage years,

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in my twenties.
And, do I regret them?
Some of them.
But, I learned a lot from them.
And now I use that to be able tohelp my kids.
I just told y'all, you know, mydaughter has a boyfriend.
No father ever is okay withtheir daughter having a
boyfriend.
That's right.
No mom either.
Exactly.

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No parent.
But, it amazes me how she chosesuch a good kid.
And I couldn't pick anybodybetter for her.
This kid's a straight A student,plays on varsity football, and
he's respectful.
I think the biggest thing, I wasthinking about it too as I was
driving home, yesterday fromdropping off my cousin.

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You know, about what I would sayabout my kids.
and I think with every singleone of my kids, I think the
hardest thing now, in today'sworld, is to raise a good
person.
It's so hard because you see allthis stuff in social media all
this stuff on the news It's somany so hard.
Yes, They have so manyinfluences that started them in

(43:41):
the wrong way but To raise agood person and to see that
we're raising good people It'sfucking amazing These kids are
literally the most respectful,loving, and kind kids that you
will ever meet.
Have it be they don't listen totheir parents, but for everybody

(44:01):
else, they're fucking angels.
That is awesome.
What advice would you give tosomeone in a similar situation?
If I can prevent them, don'thave a kid at a young age.
It was very hard.
It's very rewarding now, but itwas tough.
And you have a life that youhave to take care of.

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If I could say to anybody thatis at a young age and they're
just thinking about, Oh, itmight change things.
It might help us out.
It doesn't.
It makes things harder.
And it does.
And it takes a special type ofperson to get through that.
But, if you are going throughthat, the only thing I could
ever say is just show up.
Just be there for your kids.

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No matter if you have one dollaror a million dollars, just be
there for them.
Doesn't matter if you have asecond or an hour.
Just be there for them.
Show them that you're there.
Show up.
And just give them your time.
One thing in life that we don'thave a lot of is we don't have a
lot of time.
Perfect.
Okay.

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Let's go into a fun area.
Let's go into jujitsu, yourjourney.
Oh man.
Tell me how you got started.
So You said 2017, correct?
Yeah, so 2017 was the year thatI jumped into it.
It was funny, but, I had afriend, his name was Kawika.

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He was from Hawaii.
But, he passed away about maybetwo, three years ago and, Oh
man, that guy was so amazing.
You know, he actually brought meto Kugtar in Salinas.
I should probably shout out mygym, but I'm a brown belt under
a Richard Fennel out of SalinasValley MMA powered by Kugtar.
We were out there in Soledad,but we just moved to Greenfield.
It's a bigger facility and it'sreally nice.

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My jujitsu journey started likefrom the very first moment when
Kawika took me to the gym, Ijust sat in and I just watched
it.
It was cool.
I wanted to get into, but Inever got into it.
It wasn't until my, my brotherin law Angel, he's a brown belt
as well with me.
And, we, me and him, we bonkedheads a lot.
We didn't like each other.

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I don't actually think a lot ofmy guys at the gym know this,
but I started off because Angelstarted, he started a week
before me.
And I remember he told me, Hey,I'm starting Jiu Jitsu and I was
like, Oh, okay, cool.
like I was like, ah, whatever,but they're right.
But then in my head, I'm like,Hey, fuck this.
I don't want this motherfuckerto have the upper hand on me and
I'm going to start it too.
And it's so funny, but justeverybody in my gym, cause he

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now angel is probably one of themost important people in my
life.
Just because I do that dude willalways have my back no matter
what the fuck goes on.
It was funny cause.
Sorry to go a little back, um,when me and my wife split up for
a little bit, he would always belike, bro, I miss you.
I miss you, bro.

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Like, why aren't you here?
You should be here at thisparty.
Nice.
Can you say he liked you more?
Oh yeah.
Yeah.
My brother in law.
cause it's just, it's alwaysjust been me and him.
And even though like we bonkedheads and we didn't like each
other at one time.
From us trying to kill oneanother literally led to
friendship and brotherhood andrespect and we can never change

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that for anything.
Like even now, like I got somehard trading partners, but a lot
of my training partners don'tknow like the way I do things
except for angel.
So it makes it that much harderbecause we both know what we
like to go after so we know howto defend one Another right?
He's literally my main trainingpartner I have a lot of training
partners that I consider my mainchain partners But he's the one

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that's been there from the verybeginning, and from there, you
know we started off at a gym andI probably won't shout out the
gym because I don't like thatgym at all.
It's an actual gym, but I don'treally care about that.
Okay.
But from that building, we movedto our own facility, and every
step of the way, even throughCOVID, like I've been there with

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my coach, my coach, RichardFennell, that man does not
understand how much he has hadan impact on my life.
He is probably like a lot ofpeople like to say, like Jiu
Jitsu saved their life, JiuJitsu did this, Jiu Jitsu did
that for them, and it's not somuch Jiu Jitsu, but it's the

(48:16):
people that bring Jiu Jitsu intoyour life.
That's what changes your life.
And the people around me and thepeople that just every single
person that I meet, either aKoffee Krew or at different gyms
that I go to, yeah, man, theybring a big impact.
My main professor, I don't evercall him professor, I call him
my coach, but that man hasliterally brought me into his

(48:38):
life, where his family, hiskids, his wife, his cousins, his
uncle's, aunts, they consider mefamily.
I've started off as a white beltwith coach and I'm a brown belt
now with him and it's nevergotten easy.
It just gets harder and harder.

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And I think now as I've become abrown belt, I've started to see
Jiu Jitsu in a whole differentlight, and I really love the
fact that this sport bringsfamily and so much love.
We care about what's happeningin our outer lives if somebody's
going through something likewe'll sit down there and talk to
them or we'll be there for them.

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What was your first jiu jitsuclass like?
I got my ass beat the firstperson I ever went up against
was his name was David Soterouh, he had started like with
coach Rich way before we hadstarted with him.
I went up against him and I, Idon't know how the fuck I did
this, but I got on mount.
I didn't know how to do afreaking arm bar, but I remember
seeing it in the UFC.

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Like I just jumped and hoppedand I didn't even have the arm.
Like I just jumped and hoppedand hit the mat and I got up.
That guy freaking like he has amean side control and I always.
Fucking got caught in his sidecontrol.
And it would be like the mostgrueling freaking thing.
I remember as the day went onlike I was just dead like just

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dead just trying to fight peopletrying to learn things from
people.
My first class I think from thefirst moment that I stepped on
that mat to the first moment Igot submitted I just was like
shit I like this crap.
Like what is this?
What is this madness?
Yeah.
What is this craziness?
You've been trainingconsistently and Brown belt.
What has that journey been like?

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I think I used to worry about alot of the stripes and belts and
everything with the wholesystem.
One of my buddies, his name'sEddie, Eddie Farfan.
I freaking, I remember one timeI got so mad because I didn't
get like a certain stripe or Iwasn't, I felt like I wasn't
getting promoted in a certainway and stuff like that.

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He told me straight up, man,honestly bro, he goes, you
shouldn't worry about the beltor the stripe.
He goes, you should worry aboutyour progression and your
progression only.
And what you feel like you are.
If you feel like you can go upagainst anybody and go up
against a black belt, then dude,don't worry.
He goes, the white belt can beatyou.

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It just depends on the person.
I think every belt has taught mesomething different.
When I was a white belt, Ididn't know anything.
I was just trying to soak upeverything as I was a blue belt.
I thought I knew everything.
I didn't know shit.
And as I went into a purplebelt, that's when I really
started calming down and Ireally started to analyze and

(51:30):
actually take things in.
I just told you guys justrecently, but, I went to a gym
out there in Las Vegas, and, Ilike there's levels to this
crap.
And there is, there's levels tothis sport.
My biggest eye opener was when Iwent over there, they have
browns, they have blues, theyhave purples, they have whites,
they have black belts,everybody.
But nobody knew who anybody wasbecause nobody is wearing a gi.

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Everybody's doing no gi.
So unless you're wearing acolored rash guard, don't really
know what color belt you are.
I was going up against some dudeand I was beating him every step
of the way, found out he was abrown belt, I'm a purple belt.
And then I just fucking got myass handed to me all of a
sudden, dude's a blue belt.
Then, I went and sparred withAndy, you know, and freaking, I

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did not know what the fuck hitme.
I was like in awe, but also too,I was just like, I cannot do
anything against this person.
I think every belt has taught mesomething different.
And now with the, with my brownbelt, I just got it maybe about
what, a month ago, maybe.
And I think the thing that thebrown belt teaches you the most,

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or the thing that brown beltwill teach me now is, to really
enjoy the process, because Ishould have started enjoying
when I was a white belt, but Iworried so much about ranking up
that I didn't enjoy it as much.
I should have stuck to themoment, and now being a brown
belt, I just, I want to be abrown belt for 10 years, because

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I do not want that black belt.
Laughter You've done some superfights.
Can you describe walking into asuper fight?
What it feels like?
Oh man.
The first super fight that I hadwas the one, from Daniel
Compton.
Both me and my boy Gabe were onthe card.
I didn't realize I was going tohave to be like the first one to
bop out.

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I was like, shit.
Okay, cool.
When they said my name and theylike, not from the announcers,
but from the back, they said,Hey, David Burgoz, you're going
up next against your opponent.
I remember the guy was a bigshit talker.
Like he, I wanted to be him sobad.
Like I was just like, dude, thisguy fucking, I had a big shit
talker up my hands.
When they called my name, I hadwent out there and I was

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waiting.
And I just said, you know what,from the moment I stepped out
and I was waiting out therebehind the curtain, I just said,
you know what, I'm going to havefun with it.
So I, and my boy Gabe cancontested this.
Like I went out there, like Iwas like, let's do this.
Like I hit shit, ready to go.
I went out there and I gave mycoach a hug, gave my other coach

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a hug.
Master V I went in there and Ihit the cage and I was ready.
I went in there and it was anout of body experience.
I'll tell you one thing.
it really like your adrenalineis just pumping.
And it's just, that's all it is,just adrenaline.
It's straight adrenaline becauseyou go into this mode where

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everything around you just goessilent.
And then you just go in there,it's just you and your opponent.
When my opponent walked in, Ishook his hand, whatever.
We went through the whole match.
He had me in a couple goodsubmissions, I had a couple good
submissions.
And then I think ultimately Whathappened was, I put my forearm
down on his face, and I pushedhis hand in, I caught him in a

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head and arm choke, and hewasn't that tight, but I think
what kind of got him was thatlike my shoulder was like
straight into his chin, I felt acouple things pop, and it was
the best feeling ever, becausewhen I felt the tap, it was like
on my leg, and I was just like,oh shit, the guy tapped, and I
freaking got up, I pushed himdown, I went up, and I was just
so hyped up.

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I still remember too, like I washearing this dude from the back,
freaking just ahhhhhh, my coachwas all hyped up, and it was,
like I said, it was an outerbody experience.
My second super fight didn't gothe way I wanted it to.
I ended up losing by like pointsand then the third one there was
no contest nobody submitted.
But I felt good in every singleone of them because in my first

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one I won by submission and thenon the other two I was the only
one that had submissions theother guys didn't really go
after submissions on me.
So they played it safe, and Ifucking I did my thing I did the
best I could.
I have a super fight March 15thI believe.
It's against, another brown beltout of, 10th line in San Diego.
Okay.
And I'm super hyped up aboutthat.

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Where is it going to be at?
It's in Bakersfield.
Okay.
It's so funny because like me,like I was, like I told you
guys, I'm a very big smiler, andthis dude's like that, putting
his hands up ready to freakinglike he's flexing.
And I'm just like, David with abig smile, It's not really
phasing me.
It's just another day in thegym.
That's it.
Okay.
There was another greataccomplishment that you wanted

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to talk about.
There was a tournament that youdid, a 16 man bracket?
Yeah.
It was a blue belt and I was, Ithink I was fighting at one, one
75, one 80 or something likethat.
And blue belt, I learned thatpretty damn quick that in the
adult category, I was like 26,27 and I was like one of the
older ones in the bracket.

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There's all these young fuckingkids just ready to freaking chop
your head off.
It was the first tournamentstraight out the gate from
COVID.
I just signed up.
It was in Vegas I just saidlet's do it.
I want to go, you know.
So I me and my little brotherand his friend Rick they jumped
in the car with me.
So let's do it.
We're leaving.
We're going and my other twobrothers Daniel and Gabriel.
They showed up later on.

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But it was cool.
I went in there.
My little brother was my coachand he didn't know nothing about
jitz.
Dude All you gotta do is justhype me up.
Just tell me what you see andjust tell me D go move.
The first match that I had, Icaught in a head and arm
guillotine.
The second match I lost by aheel hook.
I didn't really know how todefend them.
The third match I won by,Americana and it was so freaking

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awesome because there were somany fights, but I ended up
third place cause I lost one,but the guy I lost to, he lost
to the main guy, the guy thatwon.
That was a big accomplishmentfor me because out of 16 guys, I
got third place.
And I was big because I barelylost, like I got caught in a

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heel hook, but it was a goodsubmission to get caught in.
With IBJJF and the all starshere with Claudio they don't
allow a heel hooks in Nogi, forcertain levels.
With NAGA, If you're a novice oryou're a advanced it doesn't
matter if you're a blue belt orup, you can do whatever you
want.
It was fun, but it really openedmy eyes.

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I felt like I was like in thebest shape.
I was good.
I got down to 180 and that wasanother crazy thing too.
A lot of people don't realizehow bad weight cuts are, but I
was over three pounds.
I think I had to go weigh inlike 30 minutes, right?
So I jumped in the bathtub.
Put my towel over my head, putthe bath tub up really hot with

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Epsom salt and then I put theshower on with all the steam.
I only needed three pounds tocut.
I accidentally cut 10 pounds.
Wow.
I know it was a lot.
My brother's friend, Rick, hesaw me come out and I was like
drained.
He looked at me like, Oh shit,David, are you okay?
And I'm like, yeah, just let'sgo weigh in.
And so I guess I'm fucking foodand something to drink.
Cause this shit sucks.

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You overdid it.
10 pounds is a lot to cut.
Oh, that's quick.
What was the craziest orfunniest moment you've had in a
tournament When I was a bluebelt, I went up in the same
tournament in Las Vegas.
He's still a buddy of mine, butI went up against, another blue
belt and he was out of LA.

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We were going back and forththat he had me in a triangle.
I had him in a omaplata.
I had him in an arm bar.
He had my back.
I took his back and it was likeback and forth non stop
movement.
And like I said before, I was inpretty good shape then.
He had won by one advantage,literally just one advantage.
And it was just because from thebeginning, he swept me.

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And it was just like oneadvantage or something.
I forgot what the hell it was,but right when the match ended,
I think they say paro.
The referee said paro, stop.
As I was about to get up, I'mlike, fuck, man, I almost had
it.
I almost had the last minutearmbar.
And as I get up, I just seefucking a pool of, throw up,
just go right over my head.

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And I'm just like, Oh shit.
I pulled back and I'm just like,Whoa, I get up and he's just
like, shit.
I couldn't see his face justshaking.
And I'm just like, Oh my God.
I'm like, are you okay?
He goes.
He goes, dude, he goes, yourcardio was good, bro, cause
fuck, man, he goes, that shitsucked.
I'm like, oh man, it's all good,I give him a handshake.

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And then the ref goes, like, hesteps back, and he presses his
hands up to X, and I'm justlooking, what the fuck do you
mean, X, like, I didn't getdisqualified, he pointed at him,
I'm like, what did he getdisqualified for?
And he goes, dude, he goes, no,man, he goes, I barely won by an
advantage, bro, he goes, Youbeat me in the cardio game, Dog,
because I literally lefteverything on the mat.
That's hilarious.

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Gross, but hilarious.
Yes.
Cause that could have been, thatcould have been catastrophic for
my hair.
Traumatized.
Yeah.
I have a beard.
So imagine that would have beenhorrible.
Let's talk about your family andyour support, which is your
wife, your kids, and, talk alittle bit about your

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grandparents.
Oh, okay.
Oh, also your in laws.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
We'll get into all of them.
I think like I already said agood amount of stuff about my
daughter, Lacey, my daughterLacey was probably even to this
day, she's my best friend.
She's the one that like, she'slike our pride and joy.
All of our kids are our prideand joy, but she's the one

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that's going to go first.
My daughter, my middle child,that one is the one I think me
and you, like I told you, that'smy heart, like anything that she
says or anything that she wants,all she has to do, give me this
little puppy lip.
So my little bug is Gloria.
Gloria Rose Burgoz.
That little girl is a psychoticlittle thing.
I think anybody from our gymcould be honest with you.

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She attacks everybody.
Wow.
We've taught her how to freakingdo jiu jitsu.
And it was probably the biggestmistake that we've made.
That's funny.
You have a little killer on yourhands.
Yeah.
She like, she'll jump onanybody, and she's not big.
She's smaller than my son.
So she's maybe 60 to 70 pounds,maybe on a good day and a good

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meal.
And she just throws her wholebody on you.
Ah, just like that.
And it's so funny because if myson did that, oh, it would not
be good.
That boy is like a 98, almost ahundred pound little boy.
And he's just, he puts his forcein you, you're getting pushed
back pretty damn easily.
My son though, his name is myname.

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His name is David Joshua Burgozthe third.
And, he is so crazy.
But like when a dad hasdaughters.
We, gain a heart, we gain likesome type of like sympathy to
the world because our daughtersare like these nice, cuddly,
beautiful little things, andthey're your daughters, you
know, they have a wrap aroundyour heart.
When it comes to my son, it'slike I gained a different type

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of strength.
My son just, he has this hold onme that I cannot explain.
My boy, I just want to hold him,just cuddle with him and just
tell him, dude, whatever youneed, no matter what it is, bro,
I got your back.

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I think that has a lot to dowith my dad, what my dad didn't
do for me.
There's another thing about myson too, he's autistic.
He's high functioning though,very high functioning, but I'll
say this.
My wife is probably the, or ifnot the biggest, advocate that
my son has had, she has foughtfor everything that boy is.

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He is so high functioning and heis so amazing in everything that
he does.
Anybody that meets him, youwould never even know unless I
told you that he was autistic.
My wife has done so much forthat little boy.
She's fought so hard foreverything that little boy has.
Just to see the world through myson's eyes is just, it's just
like, autism is like, is aboutacceptance.

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It's about learning new thingsand new ways on, dealing with
things.
You know, I think I always saythis, but my son just takes out
the bullshit because when hedoesn't want to deal with
something, he'll just walk away.
He's not like us where we'rejust sit there and take it.
He's just nah, I'm out loudnoises, like freaking people
that just annoy him or somethinggoing on or touches or smells or

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tastes.
He's just no.
I'm out.
Either I get what I want, orit's okay, I'll figure out a way
to get it.
I think with my son, seeing theworld through an autistic child
is, it's just so fucking, it'sso amazing just seeing the
beauty through his eyes, lovingon the stuff that he loves on.
Focusing on the stuff that he'sreally good at and then working

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on the stuff that he's not asgood on.
It's just, it showed mepatience.
With a child with autism, Itreally brings a sense of love
and a sense of compassion forothers.
Because no matter what anybodyis going through, it always
could be worse.

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This little thing that's calledautism, it never held my son
back, has not once held himback.
If anything, it's justaccelerated who he is.
Seeing the world through myson's eyes has showed me that
there's so many different waysof this life.
There's not one way to dosomething.
There's a million ways to dothat one thing.

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With Jiu Jitsu, it's made me seethere's like hundreds of
different ways, to do one armbar, just to do one side
control, just to do one mount.
There's way more things in lifethat we can teach ourselves
through just a little thing likeautism.
It's crazy just because of thatone thing that my son has going
on.

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It's just brought so muchdifferent things in our lives.
With my kids, and I know thatthey'll probably hear this right
now, but They're my everything.
No matter what my kids want todo in their life I'm always
going to be right there with mypom poms in hand.
That's right.
You have a cheerleader.
I have a Dancer.
Dancer.
That's great.
Yeah.
So, let's talk about your wife.

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Ah, man.
Genesis and me, that's so funny,but I always make fun of her
about this, but she doesn't likeme calling her Genesis.
I always call her Jen.
So Jen and me, we've, we startedoff really young.
We both have, we've grown up alot.
And I could say a lot of thingsthat me and her have done.
That me and her have gonethrough together or apart.

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But, I really appreciate her.
She is the reason why our familyis the way it is.
She's the reason why we wake upevery single morning ready to
go.
Because her love and her driveis what keeps us all going.
She doesn't understand like, howimportant her role as a mom is

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to me and to our kids.
Shit, even to our dog and ourcats.
She probably, I hope she knowsthis and I, cause I've said this
before, but she is my Bonnie.
She's my Bonnie to my Clyde.
She is the person that I willliterally fight and go through
every single moment and everysingle way of life.

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And just somehow we come out ofit alive.
I don't know how the fuck wedid, but we came out of it
alive.
We didn't get to do a lot ofstuff in our childhood.
Our parents were going througheverything that they were going
through and it made it rough.
It really did.
We leaned on one another,growing up.
We're not that far in age.
And I was making fun of herabout this, but she's 25 for the
seventh year in a row.

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Even though she's only a couplemonths younger than me.
You're not aging her.
Yeah, I'm not aging her at all.
Trust me.
I'm not.
She looks way younger than I do.
And now as adults, it's coolthat we got money.
So we actually get to do shitnow.
That's great.
Yeah, we travel a lot.
We're going to Vegas in twoweeks for my daughter's dance

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competition.
In March, we're going toStockton, for another dance
competition.
in April, we're going toFlorida.
And we just, we love doing abunch of stuff.
Yeah, my wife's my, she's my,that's my best friend.
That's my best friend and myworst enemy at some times.
I know.
I know how that could be.

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Okay.
The last thing that we're goingto talk about your in laws.
My in law, my father in law'sname is Genaro Vargas.
And my mother in law's name isTeresa Vargas.
They came into my life at a veryyoung age.
My mother in law, She acceptedme right away.
But, just like I said too,though, No dad accepts a

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boyfriend right away.
It's so true.
It's so funny, but my father inlaw is probably the biggest
support I've ever had.
And that man has literally beenthere for me through the best of
times, through the worst oftimes, through the hardest
things ever.

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You know, just recently, I lostmy grandfather.
His name was Ralph Burgoz.
I didn't get too much into itabout my grandfather, but I
remember the first person thatstepped up.
And was just ready to help outwith anything I needed was him.
My father in law was the firstone ready.
And he was like, from the firstmoment to the last moment.

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To the moment that we brought myTata there, to the moment we
buried him.
My father in law was there everystep of the way.
And he made sure to know that Iwas not alone.
Just like the same way he's donesince I was 15, 16 years old
when I first met him.
Oh no, sorry.
I met him when I was 13.
But from being 15, 16 years oldwhen they brought me into their

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home to live with their daughterthat I got pregnant.
That's hard for a father andhard for people to do.
For a mother as well, and, myfather in law just accepted me.
He accepted me as his own.
He took care of me as his own.
He watched over me.
He fed me.
He clothed me.
He made sure that whatever hedid was because of the love that

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he had for both me and hisdaughter.
He didn't just do it because heloved his daughter.
He showed me that he also hadlove and respect for me.
My mother in law, she's thestrongest person I know.
Everything that woman has everbeen through, yet she still
finds a way to fucking make itwork.
Make it work, and to make itgood.

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She just recently got a livertransplant.
That was a very hard time forour family.
We thought we were gonna loseher.
I still remember the day that wegot the call that my mother in
law was getting a liver.
My wife looked at us and startedtearing and me and my daughter
were right there and we're justlike, oh shit.
Like we thought, like we losther.

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You know, and I'm sorry guys,I'm really about to tear up
right now because when she said,my wife said that my mom got a
liver, like it, it was like, itwas my mom that got a liver.
When she got that liver, it waslike God had given her a second
opportunity at life.
She preaches and preaches thegospel.

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She's a very godly woman.
But that moment right there waslike a big turning point in our
family's life You know, it was,it was crazy, but I still
remember too, I like, I told mywife, look, I'm going to get
you, I'm like, I got food readyfor them.
I cooked like egg sandwiches forher and her dad.
I got all kinds of stuff ready.

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I said, here, let's go.
She went with her mom and withher dad and they shot out,
literally down the way here atPalo Alto.
It was like, I think it was likea 28 hour frickin surgery.
She had dyed on the table.
And that's just not the way thatTeresa Vargas will go out.

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I always say this, but there'svery few people I fear in this
world.
I don't even fear a lot of blackbelts, you know, but.
My mother in law is the oneperson I probably fear the most.
That woman is, she is so strongand so powerful in everything
that she does from the momentthat she went into the operating
room to the moment she got outof the hospital.

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All she's been doing has beenfighting.
She's been fighting from thefirst moment she's laid breath
on this earth to right now.
Pretty sure she's probablyfighting with her husband right
now.
That's funny.
Okay, Let's talk about the lasttwo, So, you have a dog and you
have a cat Well, we have twocats, but one of them is my
daughter's cat, and then theother one is my wife's cat for

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sure.
Because she doesn't like anybodyelse other than my wife.
My dog, That dude is, the thingthat brightens up my day.
Even if I'm having a shitty day,and everybody's having a shitty
day, That dude will come rightto the door, shaking his butt,
ready, just ready, like justwanting to freaking like just
dad, dad's home.
His name's Buddy, he's a goldenretriever, big ass golden

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retriever, like 90 somethingpounds already, he's a fucking
big old dude.
And, it's funny because I didn'tget him right away when he was a
baby, me and my wife were splitup for a little bit.
And, She got him, and I was justlike the typical fucking Mexican
dad.
I was like, oh, I didn't wantthe dog.
I didn't want the dog at all.
And now it's I can't imagine mylife without that dude.

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That dude he's probably like thebiggest therapy that I have.
That's my buddy though.
But yeah, he's a.
Yeah.
That dude's fucking awesome.
All right, David.
Thank you for coming on thepodcast.
Thank you Renee.
I appreciate it.
Maybe you'll come on again.
Oh yeah.
I'm down.
That'd be awesome.
Yeah.