June 6, 2025 • 14 mins
🎙️ EPISODE 1: WHO TOLD YOU YOU WERE A MAN?
Podcast: Masculinity: The Man, His Cave, His Code and The Primal Within
Host: David Jeremiah (Pneuma)Â
   “Who told you you were a man?”
   That question isn’t philosophical — it’s confrontational. It’s Eden echoing into 2025, shaking off the cultural noise and calling every man back to his core. In this explosive first episode, David Jeremiah (Pneuma) dismantles the false blueprints of masculinity handed down through pain, hustle, porn, patriarchy, and broken fatherhood — and calls us back to the original definition: God’s design. This episode is not for the passive listener. It’s for the man who’s tired of performing, tired of pretending, and ready to step into the cave — to kill the lies and reclaim his soul.
🔥 INSIDE THIS EPISODE:
🧠If You’re Ready to:
Then hit play, subscribe, and enter the cave.
This is not just a podcast.
It’s a reckoning.
A resurrection.
A return.
🎧 Listen now. Share with a brother.
🎧 Stay tuned for the next episodeÂ
Podcast: Masculinity: The Man, His Cave, His Code and The Primal Within
Host: David Jeremiah (Pneuma)Â
   “Who told you you were a man?”
   That question isn’t philosophical — it’s confrontational. It’s Eden echoing into 2025, shaking off the cultural noise and calling every man back to his core. In this explosive first episode, David Jeremiah (Pneuma) dismantles the false blueprints of masculinity handed down through pain, hustle, porn, patriarchy, and broken fatherhood — and calls us back to the original definition: God’s design. This episode is not for the passive listener. It’s for the man who’s tired of performing, tired of pretending, and ready to step into the cave — to kill the lies and reclaim his soul.
🔥 INSIDE THIS EPISODE:
- Why most men were taught survival, not manhood
- The 3 masks modern males wear (and how they're suffocating us)
- What real masculinity looks like in the mirror of Jesus
- The 4 unshakable pillars of a man: Identity, Responsibility, Mastery, and Purpose
- The haunting Eden question that still exposes every man
- Why wounded masculinity is not the same as masculinity itself
- And the brutal truth: You don’t become a man by accident.
- “Until you kill the lie, the real you can’t live.”    — David Jeremiah AkhigbeÂ
🧠If You’re Ready to:
- âś… Stop hiding behind status and silence
- âś… Rebuild yourself from the inside out
- âś… Lead from healed strength, not ego
- âś… And answer the only question that matters...
Then hit play, subscribe, and enter the cave.
This is not just a podcast.
It’s a reckoning.
A resurrection.
A return.
🎧 Listen now. Share with a brother.
🎧 Stay tuned for the next episodeÂ
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Transcript
Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
(00:00):
Welcome brother, you just walked into the cave.
(00:18):
This is in therapy.
This is in a motivational talk.
This is in just another alpha male podcast teaching you how to get shredded and get
laid.
No, this is deeper.
Over there, more dangerous.
This is a resurrection.
(00:39):
I'm David Jeremiah, some call me Pneuma and you just crossed the line from performance
into presence, from hype into healing, from pretending into becoming.
Let me say straight, there is a man inside every male.
(00:59):
But not every male becomes a man.
And that's where we begin.
With the most destructive question I can throw at you.
Who told you you were a man?
Let's start with obvious.
(01:19):
Most of us never chose our definition of manhood.
We inherited it.
We did down like an old jacket, one, mouth eaten, probably belongs to someone or belonged
to someone who never healed from his own wound.
And we wore it, whether it fit or not.
(01:43):
Let me break it down.
We were taught to grind, but never taught how to rest, taught to protect, but never
shown how to process.
Not to take charge, but not how to take inventory of our own inner chaos.
And where did we learn these lessons?
(02:04):
The locker room, the streets, are absentee fathers, or even worse, present ones who were
emotionally MIA.
Movies, hip-hop lyrics, religious pulpits that confused stoicism with spiritual maturity,
(02:26):
porn, heartbreak, wholesome culture, each one whispering a rule, don't cry, get money,
dominate, be hard, never need help, be the man, but here is the betrayal.
We weren't taught manhood, we are taught survival.
(02:49):
And you cannot build identity from survival.
A man formed by pain will pass on pain unless he finds truth strong enough to undo the lie.
Yeah, you can't build identity from survival because a man formed by pain will only pass
(03:11):
on pain unless he finds truth strong enough to undo the lie.
That he is associated himself with, that is a reason for the pain.
So what did we do?
We adapted.
(03:31):
We adapted.
We masked up.
Now this is the masks we wear, and why these masks are killing us.
We masked up.
We have the alpha mask, always in control.
Always talking louder, always talking louder than your own insecurity.
(03:53):
The one who walks into a room trying to prove something, not realizing that true dominance
doesn't announce itself, it just is.
The clown mask, does the life of the party, always joking, always deflecting, because laughter
(04:14):
is easier than truth.
It's easier to be liked than to be known.
And then we have the ghost mask.
You are there technically, but you are so checked out years ago.
Emotionally unavailable, intimacy phobic, you smiling pictures but dying silence.
(04:35):
Brother hear me, you cannot lead through a mask, you cannot heal through a mask, you cannot
love through a mask.
The mask might protect your pride, but it will choke your soul, I tell you that.
That mask might protect your pride, but it will choke your soul.
Authentic masculinity isn't about noise, it's about roots, it isn't about noise, it's
(05:01):
about roots.
So let's clear the air, is masculinity toxic?
Because you know, there is this natural sentiment about masculinity.
The moment the word masculine is said or being thrown around, there is this negativity attached
(05:23):
to it.
So is masculinity toxic?
I'm sure by now you know, what my answer would be, no.
For the version of masculinity hand dead to us, the one baked in bravado, bitterness and
emotional constipation absolutely is.
Oh yes, that one is toxic and that's what has been painted over us.
(05:48):
But masculinity itself, real masculinity is not domination, it's discipline, it's not
being cold, it's being calculated with compassion.
It's not suppressing emotion, it's tell what in it.
It doesn't suppress emotion, it's towards it, it doesn't run from conflict, it leans in
(06:12):
with grace and steel.
You want to know what real masculinity looks like?
It looks like Jesus flipping the table and whipping over a city.
It looks like David killing goliath and writing poetry.
It looks like Joseph running Egypt and forgiving his brothers.
(06:33):
Strength that is tender, power under control, authority rooted in responsibility not ego.
A man doesn't have to be allowed to be powerful, but it must be healed to be whole.
So let's rebuild this thing from the ground up.
Before going to redefine masculinity, not based on ego, culture or trauma, but on truth,
(06:59):
we need four non-negotiables, four non-negotiables, four pillars.
Four pillars, there are four pillars of a man and these are non-negotiables.
Number one, identity.
Who are you really?
So let's strip it all away.
Keep everything away, your job, your car, your muscles, your Instagram followers, even your
(07:25):
past mystique.
All mistakes, what's left?
Most men don't know because they were never taught to look inward, only outward, but here
is the secret.
You will always behave like who you believe you are.
So if you believe you're a mystique, you will act reckless.
(07:47):
If you believe you're replaceable, you will perform.
If you believe you're worthless, you will overcome and sit.
Masculinity starts with self-confrontation, not public applause.
The very second one is responsibility.
What do you carry?
The first one is identity.
(08:08):
Who are you really?
Second one is responsibility.
What do you carry?
Remasculinity carries weight.
It doesn't run from pressure.
It transforms pressure.
It doesn't run from pressure.
It transforms it.
You carry your identity.
You carry your family.
You carry your legacy.
You even carry the unspoken expectations of society.
(08:32):
And for some of us, we carry trauma that isn't even ours.
But real men don't just carry burden.
They learn to carry them well.
You're not a man just because you carry weight.
You're a man because you don't drop it when it gets heavy.
Yeah.
The very third one is mastery.
(08:52):
First identity is a question of who you are really.
The second one is responsibility.
A question of what you carry.
The third one is mastery.
What have you conquered?
What have you conquered?
You think man who is about what you own?
No.
Man who is about what you must add.
(09:12):
Have you mastered your orgy's?
Have you mastered your tongue?
Have you mastered your emotions?
Have you mastered your appetite?
Have you mastered your time?
The strongest man isn't the one who takes what he wants.
It's the one who can tell himself no.
(09:34):
True masculinity is the restraint of power, not the display of it.
Hear that again.
True masculinity is the restraint of power, not the display of it.
And then the last one.
So we've seen identity.
The question of who you are really emphasis on the world really, who you are really.
The second one is responsibility.
(09:55):
Which is a question of what you carry.
Right?
What you carry?
Being able to carry them well.
The third one is a question of which is mastery.
A question of what you have conquered.
So it's not about what you own, but what you must add, right?
And now the third, the fourth one, which is the last one of the four is purpose.
(10:16):
Purpose.
A question of why you are here.
So why are you here?
Why are you here really?
If you don't know your purpose, you are a loaded weapon weapon, rather.
You are a loaded weapon without a target.
If you don't know your purpose, you are a loaded weapon without a target.
You will shoot at anything or anyone.
(10:39):
A man without direction is dangerous to others, to women, to society, even to himself.
And when you know why you're here, when you know what your code to build, you stop wasting
energy, you stop chasing everything, you become precise and precision is power.
(11:01):
So let's rewind all the way back to Genesis.
Adam in the garden.
Take it, ashamed hiding.
And God asks him a Hansen question.
Who told you you were naked?
In other words, who gave you that definition?
Who told you to feel ashamed?
(11:21):
Or who told you to feel ashamed?
Who changed your lens?
Who corrupted your view of yourself?
And brother, I'm asking you now.
Who told you you were a man?
Because if that voice came from pain or performance or patriarchy or porn, then you're not walking
in manhood.
You're walking in a mask, a prison with swagger.
(11:46):
And until you confront that voice, you'll never be free.
Until you kill the lie, the real you can't leave.
Until you kill the lie, the real you can't leave.
So this is the moment where you step into your cave, where the noise dies, where it goes
(12:09):
surrenders, where old definition crumbles.
This is not just a podcast, this is a reckoning, a return.
You're not just a paycheck, you're not just a protector, you're not just your past,
you're a man in the making and it begins with the brutal, beautiful truth.
(12:32):
Manhood is not inherited, it's built.
So welcome to the cave once again.
Welcome to the cave.
In this season, we're going to dive into identity, emotional mastery, sexual discipline,
couples and legacy in a healing, the primal drive and how to lead it not to be led by it.
(12:59):
But none of that matters if you skip the first step.
Who told you you were a man?
Because if you can't answer that, everything else is just noise.
So if something inside you stared, shook or shattered, that's not a breakdown.
(13:22):
That's a breakthrough in disguise, you're waking up.
So subscribe, share with brother, who's tired of pretending and come back because in episode
2, we go deeper into the cave of silence, where every real man was old, before he can lead
anyone else.
(13:44):
I'm David Jeremiah, Pneuma.
And this is masculinity, the man, his cave, his coat and the primal within.
Until next time, stand firm, dig deep and never lead from mask.
Cheers.
[MUSIC]
(14:12):
[MUSIC]
[BLANK_AUDIO]
Welcome brother, you just walked into the cave.
(00:18):
This is in therapy.
This is in a motivational talk.
This is in just another alpha male podcast teaching you how to get shredded and get
laid.
No, this is deeper.
Over there, more dangerous.
This is a resurrection.
(00:39):
I'm David Jeremiah, some call me Pneuma and you just crossed the line from performance
into presence, from hype into healing, from pretending into becoming.
Let me say straight, there is a man inside every male.
(00:59):
But not every male becomes a man.
And that's where we begin.
With the most destructive question I can throw at you.
Who told you you were a man?
Let's start with obvious.
(01:19):
Most of us never chose our definition of manhood.
We inherited it.
We did down like an old jacket, one, mouth eaten, probably belongs to someone or belonged
to someone who never healed from his own wound.
And we wore it, whether it fit or not.
(01:43):
Let me break it down.
We were taught to grind, but never taught how to rest, taught to protect, but never
shown how to process.
Not to take charge, but not how to take inventory of our own inner chaos.
And where did we learn these lessons?
(02:04):
The locker room, the streets, are absentee fathers, or even worse, present ones who were
emotionally MIA.
Movies, hip-hop lyrics, religious pulpits that confused stoicism with spiritual maturity,
(02:26):
porn, heartbreak, wholesome culture, each one whispering a rule, don't cry, get money,
dominate, be hard, never need help, be the man, but here is the betrayal.
We weren't taught manhood, we are taught survival.
(02:49):
And you cannot build identity from survival.
A man formed by pain will pass on pain unless he finds truth strong enough to undo the lie.
Yeah, you can't build identity from survival because a man formed by pain will only pass
(03:11):
on pain unless he finds truth strong enough to undo the lie.
That he is associated himself with, that is a reason for the pain.
So what did we do?
We adapted.
(03:31):
We adapted.
We masked up.
Now this is the masks we wear, and why these masks are killing us.
We masked up.
We have the alpha mask, always in control.
Always talking louder, always talking louder than your own insecurity.
(03:53):
The one who walks into a room trying to prove something, not realizing that true dominance
doesn't announce itself, it just is.
The clown mask, does the life of the party, always joking, always deflecting, because laughter
(04:14):
is easier than truth.
It's easier to be liked than to be known.
And then we have the ghost mask.
You are there technically, but you are so checked out years ago.
Emotionally unavailable, intimacy phobic, you smiling pictures but dying silence.
(04:35):
Brother hear me, you cannot lead through a mask, you cannot heal through a mask, you cannot
love through a mask.
The mask might protect your pride, but it will choke your soul, I tell you that.
That mask might protect your pride, but it will choke your soul.
Authentic masculinity isn't about noise, it's about roots, it isn't about noise, it's
(05:01):
about roots.
So let's clear the air, is masculinity toxic?
Because you know, there is this natural sentiment about masculinity.
The moment the word masculine is said or being thrown around, there is this negativity attached
(05:23):
to it.
So is masculinity toxic?
I'm sure by now you know, what my answer would be, no.
For the version of masculinity hand dead to us, the one baked in bravado, bitterness and
emotional constipation absolutely is.
Oh yes, that one is toxic and that's what has been painted over us.
(05:48):
But masculinity itself, real masculinity is not domination, it's discipline, it's not
being cold, it's being calculated with compassion.
It's not suppressing emotion, it's tell what in it.
It doesn't suppress emotion, it's towards it, it doesn't run from conflict, it leans in
(06:12):
with grace and steel.
You want to know what real masculinity looks like?
It looks like Jesus flipping the table and whipping over a city.
It looks like David killing goliath and writing poetry.
It looks like Joseph running Egypt and forgiving his brothers.
(06:33):
Strength that is tender, power under control, authority rooted in responsibility not ego.
A man doesn't have to be allowed to be powerful, but it must be healed to be whole.
So let's rebuild this thing from the ground up.
Before going to redefine masculinity, not based on ego, culture or trauma, but on truth,
(06:59):
we need four non-negotiables, four non-negotiables, four pillars.
Four pillars, there are four pillars of a man and these are non-negotiables.
Number one, identity.
Who are you really?
So let's strip it all away.
Keep everything away, your job, your car, your muscles, your Instagram followers, even your
(07:25):
past mystique.
All mistakes, what's left?
Most men don't know because they were never taught to look inward, only outward, but here
is the secret.
You will always behave like who you believe you are.
So if you believe you're a mystique, you will act reckless.
(07:47):
If you believe you're replaceable, you will perform.
If you believe you're worthless, you will overcome and sit.
Masculinity starts with self-confrontation, not public applause.
The very second one is responsibility.
What do you carry?
The first one is identity.
(08:08):
Who are you really?
Second one is responsibility.
What do you carry?
Remasculinity carries weight.
It doesn't run from pressure.
It transforms pressure.
It doesn't run from pressure.
It transforms it.
You carry your identity.
You carry your family.
You carry your legacy.
You even carry the unspoken expectations of society.
(08:32):
And for some of us, we carry trauma that isn't even ours.
But real men don't just carry burden.
They learn to carry them well.
You're not a man just because you carry weight.
You're a man because you don't drop it when it gets heavy.
Yeah.
The very third one is mastery.
(08:52):
First identity is a question of who you are really.
The second one is responsibility.
A question of what you carry.
The third one is mastery.
What have you conquered?
What have you conquered?
You think man who is about what you own?
No.
Man who is about what you must add.
(09:12):
Have you mastered your orgy's?
Have you mastered your tongue?
Have you mastered your emotions?
Have you mastered your appetite?
Have you mastered your time?
The strongest man isn't the one who takes what he wants.
It's the one who can tell himself no.
(09:34):
True masculinity is the restraint of power, not the display of it.
Hear that again.
True masculinity is the restraint of power, not the display of it.
And then the last one.
So we've seen identity.
The question of who you are really emphasis on the world really, who you are really.
The second one is responsibility.
(09:55):
Which is a question of what you carry.
Right?
What you carry?
Being able to carry them well.
The third one is a question of which is mastery.
A question of what you have conquered.
So it's not about what you own, but what you must add, right?
And now the third, the fourth one, which is the last one of the four is purpose.
(10:16):
Purpose.
A question of why you are here.
So why are you here?
Why are you here really?
If you don't know your purpose, you are a loaded weapon weapon, rather.
You are a loaded weapon without a target.
If you don't know your purpose, you are a loaded weapon without a target.
You will shoot at anything or anyone.
(10:39):
A man without direction is dangerous to others, to women, to society, even to himself.
And when you know why you're here, when you know what your code to build, you stop wasting
energy, you stop chasing everything, you become precise and precision is power.
(11:01):
So let's rewind all the way back to Genesis.
Adam in the garden.
Take it, ashamed hiding.
And God asks him a Hansen question.
Who told you you were naked?
In other words, who gave you that definition?
Who told you to feel ashamed?
(11:21):
Or who told you to feel ashamed?
Who changed your lens?
Who corrupted your view of yourself?
And brother, I'm asking you now.
Who told you you were a man?
Because if that voice came from pain or performance or patriarchy or porn, then you're not walking
in manhood.
You're walking in a mask, a prison with swagger.
(11:46):
And until you confront that voice, you'll never be free.
Until you kill the lie, the real you can't leave.
Until you kill the lie, the real you can't leave.
So this is the moment where you step into your cave, where the noise dies, where it goes
(12:09):
surrenders, where old definition crumbles.
This is not just a podcast, this is a reckoning, a return.
You're not just a paycheck, you're not just a protector, you're not just your past,
you're a man in the making and it begins with the brutal, beautiful truth.
(12:32):
Manhood is not inherited, it's built.
So welcome to the cave once again.
Welcome to the cave.
In this season, we're going to dive into identity, emotional mastery, sexual discipline,
couples and legacy in a healing, the primal drive and how to lead it not to be led by it.
(12:59):
But none of that matters if you skip the first step.
Who told you you were a man?
Because if you can't answer that, everything else is just noise.
So if something inside you stared, shook or shattered, that's not a breakdown.
(13:22):
That's a breakthrough in disguise, you're waking up.
So subscribe, share with brother, who's tired of pretending and come back because in episode
2, we go deeper into the cave of silence, where every real man was old, before he can lead
anyone else.
(13:44):
I'm David Jeremiah, Pneuma.
And this is masculinity, the man, his cave, his coat and the primal within.
Until next time, stand firm, dig deep and never lead from mask.
Cheers.
[MUSIC]
(14:12):
[MUSIC]
[BLANK_AUDIO]
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