In this segment, Janet reflects on her lifelong struggle with intimacy and the emotional walls built from trauma, exploring the complex relationship between Female Sexual Interest/Arousal Disorder (FSIAD) and sexual anorexia—two conditions often conflated but profoundly distinct.
Perfectionism as Protection: Janet shares how perfectionism, an unhealthy coping mechanism, became her shield from past trauma, providing control while distancing her from deeper emotional wounds.
Terror of Intimacy: Janet vividly describes the escalating fear that intimacy evokes—initially sexual, but eventually manifesting in everyday acts like holding hands or engaging in emotional conversations.
Survival vs. Connection: Janet's story reveals a heartbreaking paradox where her greatest desire—intimacy—is also her greatest fear, trapping her in profound loneliness even within marriage.
Clinical Insights (Host Reflection): The segment explores the clinical perspective, highlighting how FSIAD in the DSM-5 categorizes a lack of desire or arousal biologically and culturally, yet often fails to capture the lived reality of trauma survivors.
Beyond the DSM: Janet's narrative underscores how clinical terms like FSIAD may fall short, illustrating a gap between diagnostic categories and real-world experiences, especially when trauma is central.
Understanding Through Listening: The episode emphasizes the importance of validating individual experiences and listening deeply to understand mental health challenges beyond conventional frameworks.
Female Sexual Interest/Arousal Disorder (FSIAD), according to DSM-5, is specifically defined around desire and arousal issues experienced by those assigned female at birth, combining two previous diagnoses (low desire and arousal issues) into one. Sexual anorexia, although not officially recognized in the DSM-5 or ICD-11, focuses on an intense fear-driven avoidance of intimacy, distinctively linked to trauma rather than simply desire or arousal issues.
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