E7 - Why You Keep Falling for the Wrong People (Again)

Have you ever felt like your brain is a "confused wingman with terrible taste and zero impulse control," leading you to repeatedly "swipe right on a walking red flag factory"? This deep dive reveals the actual science behind why you keep falling for people who are about as emotionally available as a WiFi connection in a subway tunnel.

Discover how your brain's broken love algorithm, programmed by your attachment system from childhood, might be running on "outdated software," making you a "human magnet for people who treat relationships like a hobby they're not that into."

Learn about the four main attachment styles – Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Disorganized – and how not being securely attached can make you inadvertently signal "TOXIC PEOPLE WELCOME HERE." Unpack how familiarity with chaos can feel like home, leading your brain to mistake intensity for intimacy, and why being "too nice" makes you a target for emotional vampires who feed on your willingness to make excuses.

We’ll expose the brain chemistry betrayal, detailing how intermittent reinforcement from a toxic person's occasional attention pumps out addictive dopamine, and how trauma bonding can make healthy, consistent relationships seem "boring."

Crucially, explore the self-worth connection and how the people you attract often reflect how you feel about yourself, noting that toxic individuals "don't target strong, confident people with solid boundaries."

Finally, discover the empowering plot twist: it's not that you're broken, but that your loyalty and optimism are being misdirected towards those who haven't earned them. Get an action plan to rewire your brain, including updating your internal GPS, practicing the "boring" test (recognizing safety), becoming "allergic to potential," strengthening your "nope" muscle, and getting comfortable with being alone.

Stop putting your heart on a clearance rack and start teaching your brain that you deserve better.