September 9, 2025 • 25 mins
Midlife has a way of cracking us open. Loss, endings, transitions—they all bring us back to what really matters. In this episode, I open my heart and share nine lessons I’ve learned since the passing of my father six years ago. These are not just about grief—they’re about love, self-worth, courage, and choosing to live fully alive.
For every midlife woman who is ready to rediscover herself, reclaim her joy, and step boldly into her next chapter, these lessons will speak straight to your soul.
🦋 In This Episode, You’ll Hear:
- The truth about unconditional love and how it lives beyond death
- Why grieving yourself is just as important as grieving your loved one
- How acceptance and gratitude can shift deep pain into growth
- The wake-up call that pushed me out of my comfort zone and into a magical life
- The radical decision that changed everything
Reflection Questions
- Where in your life are you still holding on instead of accepting and releasing?
- How can you honour the parts of yourself that have “died” with certain relationships or transitions?
- What would stepping out of your comfort zone look like in this season of your life?
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Kena Siu (00:00):
Nine lessons from my father's passing.
Yes, I'm celebrating six yearssince the transition of my
father, so join me in thisjourney, because it's deep.
Midlife Butterfly, a woman inthe sacred in between.
(00:21):
She's not who she once was andnot quite who she's becoming yet
.
She's unraveling, awakening,remembering.
She's navigating lifetransitions, divorce, loss,
reinvasion moves, with a burningdesire for freedom, joy and
solid living.
She feels the pull to rise, tofly.
(00:41):
She's no longer afraid of herown wings rise to fly.
She's no longer afraid of herown wings.
Welcome back to the MidlifeButterfly podcast.
This is your host, Kena Siu,and yes, I am celebrating six
years since my fathertransitioned to another realm,
(01:05):
because the truth is, I knowhe's around.
He's still around.
I choose to see it that way.
His presence might not be herephysically, but I can feel him
and I want to share with youfrom my bed and for something in
(01:26):
the morning, because I wassupposed to do this yesterday,
but I mean, I just the day justflew and I took the time to go
last night to see the moon.
It was gorgeous, because thenight before it was cloudy here
in Montreal.
So, yeah, I'm just taking mytime and since I'm awake for an
(01:50):
hour or so already, I was like,ok, let's take advantage of this
beautiful time of awakeness.
And here we go.
This is being recorded from mybed.
Be recorded from my bed.
(02:14):
So these are the lessons I guesssome of the most important
lessons that I've learned sincehis departure, and I want to
share with you, because that'swhat I'm saying, that I'm
celebrating.
I choose to see life as alearning lesson instead of a
failure, you know, because ashuman beings, I believe, to see
it as an opportunity of me forme to keep, you know, growing.
And yeah, because I'mexperiencing the shifts that
(02:54):
I've been going through andgrowth that I've been going
through since he is not herephysically and it's just whoa.
So let's get started.
The first one will beunconditional love.
I know we call it unconditionallove, which it's actually
(03:16):
basically simply love.
When we put conditions, is itreally love?
Have you ever questioned that?
Well, yeah, so through thispoint of time, you know, I
noticed there's only love, andthe fact that he's not here that
(03:37):
doesn't mean that I cannot keeploving him fully and truly and
also feel his presence andchoosing to feel his love too.
Lesson two self-grief.
Yes, we are told to grief theother person and, of course,
(04:02):
it's very important right toallow the time to feel all the
emotions and honor the grievingprocess of the other person.
You know, go to the differentstages, I don't know anger,
denial, etc.
And I do believe that it'sequally important to process
(04:24):
self-grief, because a part of usalso died together with that
person.
Have you ever stopped andreflected about it?
Because each relationship isunique and special.
(04:45):
We have a special bond withthat person and therefore
memories and circumstances andwhatever it is that happened in
that relationship that make itunique.
So a part of us is also dyingwith that relationship.
(05:15):
So take the time to processthose emotions, to feel the
grieving process itself, buttowards the part of you that
died, I do believe for me thatmade a lot of difference.
After his departure, lessonthree acceptance His passing was
(05:40):
very sudden because he was notsick, he didn't take any
medication.
He was actually taking a shotof tequila some evenings, you
know, during the week he had astroke and after five days in
(06:03):
the hospital then he was gone.
And also thanks to my motherand her wisdom and the way she
sees life, when we were at thehospital, I mean with my
siblings and my mother, we choseto be grateful for everything
he gave us, be grateful Foreverything he gave us.
(06:25):
I mean he did everything for us, you know, and so by having
that gratitude and that love forhim, it was Something that he
(06:51):
gave us.
I don't know, can I say thedecision, you know to say we are
so grateful for all you havegiven us that we just allowed,
between quotes, to let you go.
You know it's.
(07:11):
It's not allowing, of coursethat's not the word, but what I
mean is it's not allowing.
Of course that's not the word,but what I mean is, again, it
was so sudden.
That that's how we told himthat if he wanted to leave, we
(07:37):
were okay with it.
We were okay with letting himgo, even when the pain was still
there.
It was fucking painful, but theacceptance of what happened,
that it was sudden, that anywaythis was the way it was, it
(08:00):
helped me personally to avoidsuffering.
Because I think if I would notaccept what happened you know,
as they say, pain is inevitable,suffering is optional if I
(08:32):
wouldn't continue with that painover and over for not accepting
that it was his time to livethis human experience, I
probably wouldn't suffer.
And acceptance it takes, totell you the truth, a lot of
courage and resilience becausethat pain is still there.
It fucking hurts, but I thinkit's easier to go through that
(08:58):
process and again to avoidsuffering.
Lesson four understanding mysiblings better.
You know, I got to to thinkabout things, and and and one of
(09:22):
the things that I realized, andand also to, you know,
information and from, I rememberfrom a specific person.
It was a friend of a friend andthen actually Dr Gabor Mate also
mentions this that even when wewere raised at the same
(09:43):
household you know all of us, weare three siblings we were not
raised exactly the same.
Why?
Because our parents were atdifferent stages each time they
have us and of course it was thedifference with the first you
(10:07):
know child in the family, whichis my brother, so of course it
was not the same.
Then when the second came, whenI was the sandwich, so, and
then when my sister came, evenlike five years after me.
So that also helped meunderstand my siblings, because
(10:32):
it's been hard not being that asclose to them as I would love
to, as I would love to, and alsothe fact that we have different
personalities, like you know,like I love talking and sharing
and stuff while my brother islike a turtle, if I can put it
(11:01):
that way, like he's in his shell.
he's, you know, in his world.
So it's still, I guess, in thispart of acceptance, that our
relationship is not as close asI would like love to.
I mean, we are there for eachother when we need to, but it
has to be something quitechallenging to really show up
(11:26):
there.
So, yeah, still going throughthat process, learning lesson
number five Life is too preciousto live it in a comfort zone,
(11:49):
precious to leave it in acomfort zone.
I mean, his sudden departuremade me question my whole life,
you know, my marriage, my job,my relationships, including the
one with myself, of course.
And I realized that during thisquestioning that I was at a
plateau, like I was literally ina comfort zone, and the truth
(12:11):
is, magic doesn't happen there.
And I didn't realize that I wasmissing that magic that at one
point was in my life, that magicthat at one point was in my
life, and I was like I want moremagic.
(12:32):
So I'm going for it.
I choose to live a magical lifebecause I am the one creating
my reality.
So, yeah, I got out of thatcomfort zone and I get to you
know, to get into plateaus likethis sometimes I noticed,
(12:53):
because I got into one a longtime ago, but I'm glad that I
have more of that awareness ofsaying, ok, there's no magic
happening, so let's move forward.
You know Lesson number six wenever know a person fully and
(13:15):
let me tell you, my dear, thatincludes the self.
You will never be able to knowyourself fully by doing the work
every day.
It's what makes the difference,because the thing is, each
(13:36):
relationship we have it'sdifferent, as I mentioned before
, and at the same time we meetthem at different stages in our
lives and in their lives.
Right At the funeral mass formy father, right on the left
(13:56):
side of the church, they havethe niche boxes.
So when the mass finished, wewere to leave his ashes there,
right.
So we finished the ceremony ofputting the ashes inside the
niche and you know, you are inthis foggy state of the mind, uh
(14:21):
, that when we turn around, Imean yeah, I mean this foggy
mind that you don't know whereyou are exactly and you're in
your own bubble and the wholething.
When I and my family turnaround to leave that place, we
(14:42):
couldn't.
To leave that place, wecouldn't.
It was packed with people, itwas completely packed.
It was so overwhelming.
But you know why?
Because I couldn't believe theamount of people that was there
to honor my father because theylove him, and, of course, I
(15:10):
couldn't know this.
He was 74 years old.
I remember it was even to thesetwo ladies who said, oh yeah,
he lived with us when he arrivedto your hometown to live and I
was like what the heck?
That was in the 1970s.
(15:36):
Yeah, it was just so beautifuland and so, yeah, understand
that you will never understand,you will never know a person
fully, and what I mean with thisis think, in the relationships
(15:57):
that you have at this moment,you know, if you have challenges
, if you don't really understandthem, like, accept them by
misunderstanding them too,because we will never know what
they have been through fully,and not even ourselves, because,
(16:22):
if you think about it, we tendto forget consciously on our
consciously when somethinghappened to us that we don't
want to remember, that it wasvery traumatic and stuff like
that that we get to to knowabout it, if we we don't know
(16:44):
that those stuff lives in there.
So, be kind and compassionateto other people, because we
really never get to know themdeeply and fully, and this
(17:06):
includes yourself.
So, yeah, be kind andcompassionate to yourself as
well, and if you want to do theinner work.
I'm here for you.
Learn on lesson number seven.
They are always around.
If we choose to see it that way, and I choose to see it that
(17:28):
way, and I choose to see it thatway.
I say hi to my father very often, at least when I'm here in
Montreal.
I have his photo here in myroom, so I say good morning to
him and he also gives me advice.
Yeah, just this past Fridaysomething happened.
(17:51):
I can't remember, but itreminded me of him, like, very
like.
I felt that in my body.
And then I went to the rockclimbing gym and when I was
unlocking my bicycle, I noticedthat one of the bicycles in
(18:12):
there said empire, and he builtmy father did build an empire of
love that we didn't know itexisted, just for what I
mentioned just before, and I didwrite something about that, the
(18:34):
empire of love that he left us.
So I was like, okay, I think hewants to tell me something.
And when I got home, yeah, hegave me the message.
I was here in my bedroom andjust in front of his picture.
It was very, very clear what hesaid to me.
(18:56):
So if you choose to be open toreceive their you know their
wisdom still and, of course,their love.
You can still.
And, of course, their love.
You can believe me that you can.
Even when they are not herephysically, they are always
around us.
Lesson eight I took one of thetoughest decisions in my life.
(19:24):
My father was a catalyst toquestion my whole life and again
I came to the conclusion that Iwas living in a comfort zone
which I just talked about it.
So I decided to leave my10-year relationship and change
(19:48):
my life completely andprioritize myself truly for the
first time in my life.
So living that relationship hasbeen one of the toughest
decisions and also it was astretch for me to prioritize
(20:10):
myself.
Yeah, and the ninth lessonSelf-worth.
After his departure and leavingmy marriage, I decided to take
the time to grieve, heal andtake care of myself deeply, and
(20:35):
accepting my worth was one ofthem.
It is a process that most of usjust by not saying that
everyone it's something that wedeal with, that we gotta show
our worth when we I mean, we'vebeen taught that it's supposed
(20:59):
to be out there and no, that oneit's basically inside of us,
because we are worthy simply byexisting.
Remember this you are worthybecause you exist, period.
But I understand that we got toclean up a lot of shit to get
(21:23):
in there, in there, and so whenI was going through this process
, I realized, you know, by goingdeep into what happened, I
realized that my sense ofunworthiness came from him.
You know the way he was raisedand his very, very subtle
(21:50):
behavior as a mushroom man inthis patriarchal society.
You know, and I understood theroot of my unworthiness, belief,
I heal it and I forgave him.
Forgave him between quotes,because there's really nothing
(22:10):
to to forgive.
I mean, he did the best he hecould according to the knowledge
that that he had.
So, yeah, these are the ninelessons that I wanted to share
with you, are the nine lessonsthat I wanted to share with you,
(22:42):
and I think my invitation foryou is to find a way of seeing
life like this as a lesson, evenwhen pain is there, when we got
to go through grief, andgetting to know ourselves at a
deeper level is worth the energyand time for that.
(23:05):
The energy and time For that,because we can See life From a
different perspective and whenwe do that, we can change our
life Simply by seeing it from adifferent perspective.
(23:30):
So this is it for today,september 9th, six years from
(24:10):
the passing of my father, andhonoring him with all my love,
with all the pride of being hisdaughter, with all the beauty,
all the effort that he put intoraising me and knowing that,
despite the fact that he's nothere physically, I still can
(24:32):
feel his love and his whistle.
Listen to his whistle he had avery particular whistle and, yes
, honoring death, because thetruth is, death is part of life.
(24:56):
Much love to you, have abeautiful day and check my show
notes if you would like to workwith me in my one-on-one
coaching programs, and I have aretreat coming out in October
close to Montreal, quebec,canada.
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Nine lessons from my father's passing.
Yes, I'm celebrating six yearssince the transition of my
father, so join me in thisjourney, because it's deep.
Midlife Butterfly, a woman inthe sacred in between.
(00:21):
She's not who she once was andnot quite who she's becoming yet
.
She's unraveling, awakening,remembering.
She's navigating lifetransitions, divorce, loss,
reinvasion moves, with a burningdesire for freedom, joy and
solid living.
She feels the pull to rise, tofly.
(00:41):
She's no longer afraid of herown wings rise to fly.
She's no longer afraid of herown wings.
Welcome back to the MidlifeButterfly podcast.
This is your host, Kena Siu,and yes, I am celebrating six
years since my fathertransitioned to another realm,
(01:05):
because the truth is, I knowhe's around.
He's still around.
I choose to see it that way.
His presence might not be herephysically, but I can feel him
and I want to share with youfrom my bed and for something in
(01:26):
the morning, because I wassupposed to do this yesterday,
but I mean, I just the day justflew and I took the time to go
last night to see the moon.
It was gorgeous, because thenight before it was cloudy here
in Montreal.
So, yeah, I'm just taking mytime and since I'm awake for an
(01:50):
hour or so already, I was like,ok, let's take advantage of this
beautiful time of awakeness.
And here we go.
This is being recorded from mybed.
Be recorded from my bed.
(02:14):
So these are the lessons I guesssome of the most important
lessons that I've learned sincehis departure, and I want to
share with you, because that'swhat I'm saying, that I'm
celebrating.
I choose to see life as alearning lesson instead of a
failure, you know, because ashuman beings, I believe, to see
it as an opportunity of me forme to keep, you know, growing.
And yeah, because I'mexperiencing the shifts that
(02:54):
I've been going through andgrowth that I've been going
through since he is not herephysically and it's just whoa.
So let's get started.
The first one will beunconditional love.
I know we call it unconditionallove, which it's actually
(03:16):
basically simply love.
When we put conditions, is itreally love?
Have you ever questioned that?
Well, yeah, so through thispoint of time, you know, I
noticed there's only love, andthe fact that he's not here that
(03:37):
doesn't mean that I cannot keeploving him fully and truly and
also feel his presence andchoosing to feel his love too.
Lesson two self-grief.
Yes, we are told to grief theother person and, of course,
(04:02):
it's very important right toallow the time to feel all the
emotions and honor the grievingprocess of the other person.
You know, go to the differentstages, I don't know anger,
denial, etc.
And I do believe that it'sequally important to process
(04:24):
self-grief, because a part of usalso died together with that
person.
Have you ever stopped andreflected about it?
Because each relationship isunique and special.
(04:45):
We have a special bond withthat person and therefore
memories and circumstances andwhatever it is that happened in
that relationship that make itunique.
So a part of us is also dyingwith that relationship.
(05:15):
So take the time to processthose emotions, to feel the
grieving process itself, buttowards the part of you that
died, I do believe for me thatmade a lot of difference.
After his departure, lessonthree acceptance His passing was
(05:40):
very sudden because he was notsick, he didn't take any
medication.
He was actually taking a shotof tequila some evenings, you
know, during the week he had astroke and after five days in
(06:03):
the hospital then he was gone.
And also thanks to my motherand her wisdom and the way she
sees life, when we were at thehospital, I mean with my
siblings and my mother, we choseto be grateful for everything
he gave us, be grateful Foreverything he gave us.
(06:25):
I mean he did everything for us, you know, and so by having
that gratitude and that love forhim, it was Something that he
(06:51):
gave us.
I don't know, can I say thedecision, you know to say we are
so grateful for all you havegiven us that we just allowed,
between quotes, to let you go.
You know it's.
(07:11):
It's not allowing, of coursethat's not the word, but what I
mean is it's not allowing.
Of course that's not the word,but what I mean is, again, it
was so sudden.
That that's how we told himthat if he wanted to leave, we
(07:37):
were okay with it.
We were okay with letting himgo, even when the pain was still
there.
It was fucking painful, but theacceptance of what happened,
that it was sudden, that anywaythis was the way it was, it
(08:00):
helped me personally to avoidsuffering.
Because I think if I would notaccept what happened you know,
as they say, pain is inevitable,suffering is optional if I
(08:32):
wouldn't continue with that painover and over for not accepting
that it was his time to livethis human experience, I
probably wouldn't suffer.
And acceptance it takes, totell you the truth, a lot of
courage and resilience becausethat pain is still there.
It fucking hurts, but I thinkit's easier to go through that
(08:58):
process and again to avoidsuffering.
Lesson four understanding mysiblings better.
You know, I got to to thinkabout things, and and and one of
(09:22):
the things that I realized, andand also to, you know,
information and from, I rememberfrom a specific person.
It was a friend of a friend andthen actually Dr Gabor Mate also
mentions this that even when wewere raised at the same
(09:43):
household you know all of us, weare three siblings we were not
raised exactly the same.
Why?
Because our parents were atdifferent stages each time they
have us and of course it was thedifference with the first you
(10:07):
know child in the family, whichis my brother, so of course it
was not the same.
Then when the second came, whenI was the sandwich, so, and
then when my sister came, evenlike five years after me.
So that also helped meunderstand my siblings, because
(10:32):
it's been hard not being that asclose to them as I would love
to, as I would love to, and alsothe fact that we have different
personalities, like you know,like I love talking and sharing
and stuff while my brother islike a turtle, if I can put it
(11:01):
that way, like he's in his shell.
he's, you know, in his world.
So it's still, I guess, in thispart of acceptance, that our
relationship is not as close asI would like love to.
I mean, we are there for eachother when we need to, but it
has to be something quitechallenging to really show up
(11:26):
there.
So, yeah, still going throughthat process, learning lesson
number five Life is too preciousto live it in a comfort zone,
(11:49):
precious to leave it in acomfort zone.
I mean, his sudden departuremade me question my whole life,
you know, my marriage, my job,my relationships, including the
one with myself, of course.
And I realized that during thisquestioning that I was at a
plateau, like I was literally ina comfort zone, and the truth
(12:11):
is, magic doesn't happen there.
And I didn't realize that I wasmissing that magic that at one
point was in my life, that magicthat at one point was in my
life, and I was like I want moremagic.
(12:32):
So I'm going for it.
I choose to live a magical lifebecause I am the one creating
my reality.
So, yeah, I got out of thatcomfort zone and I get to you
know, to get into plateaus likethis sometimes I noticed,
(12:53):
because I got into one a longtime ago, but I'm glad that I
have more of that awareness ofsaying, ok, there's no magic
happening, so let's move forward.
You know Lesson number six wenever know a person fully and
(13:15):
let me tell you, my dear, thatincludes the self.
You will never be able to knowyourself fully by doing the work
every day.
It's what makes the difference,because the thing is, each
(13:36):
relationship we have it'sdifferent, as I mentioned before
, and at the same time we meetthem at different stages in our
lives and in their lives.
Right At the funeral mass formy father, right on the left
(13:56):
side of the church, they havethe niche boxes.
So when the mass finished, wewere to leave his ashes there,
right.
So we finished the ceremony ofputting the ashes inside the
niche and you know, you are inthis foggy state of the mind, uh
(14:21):
, that when we turn around, Imean yeah, I mean this foggy
mind that you don't know whereyou are exactly and you're in
your own bubble and the wholething.
When I and my family turnaround to leave that place, we
(14:42):
couldn't.
To leave that place, wecouldn't.
It was packed with people, itwas completely packed.
It was so overwhelming.
But you know why?
Because I couldn't believe theamount of people that was there
to honor my father because theylove him, and, of course, I
(15:10):
couldn't know this.
He was 74 years old.
I remember it was even to thesetwo ladies who said, oh yeah,
he lived with us when he arrivedto your hometown to live and I
was like what the heck?
That was in the 1970s.
(15:36):
Yeah, it was just so beautifuland and so, yeah, understand
that you will never understand,you will never know a person
fully, and what I mean with thisis think, in the relationships
(15:57):
that you have at this moment,you know, if you have challenges
, if you don't really understandthem, like, accept them by
misunderstanding them too,because we will never know what
they have been through fully,and not even ourselves, because,
(16:22):
if you think about it, we tendto forget consciously on our
consciously when somethinghappened to us that we don't
want to remember, that it wasvery traumatic and stuff like
that that we get to to knowabout it, if we we don't know
(16:44):
that those stuff lives in there.
So, be kind and compassionateto other people, because we
really never get to know themdeeply and fully, and this
(17:06):
includes yourself.
So, yeah, be kind andcompassionate to yourself as
well, and if you want to do theinner work.
I'm here for you.
Learn on lesson number seven.
They are always around.
If we choose to see it that way, and I choose to see it that
(17:28):
way, and I choose to see it thatway.
I say hi to my father very often, at least when I'm here in
Montreal.
I have his photo here in myroom, so I say good morning to
him and he also gives me advice.
Yeah, just this past Fridaysomething happened.
(17:51):
I can't remember, but itreminded me of him, like, very
like.
I felt that in my body.
And then I went to the rockclimbing gym and when I was
unlocking my bicycle, I noticedthat one of the bicycles in
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there said empire, and he builtmy father did build an empire of
love that we didn't know itexisted, just for what I
mentioned just before, and I didwrite something about that, the
(18:34):
empire of love that he left us.
So I was like, okay, I think hewants to tell me something.
And when I got home, yeah, hegave me the message.
I was here in my bedroom andjust in front of his picture.
It was very, very clear what hesaid to me.
(18:56):
So if you choose to be open toreceive their you know their
wisdom still and, of course,their love.
You can still.
And, of course, their love.
You can believe me that you can.
Even when they are not herephysically, they are always
around us.
Lesson eight I took one of thetoughest decisions in my life.
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My father was a catalyst toquestion my whole life and again
I came to the conclusion that Iwas living in a comfort zone
which I just talked about it.
So I decided to leave my10-year relationship and change
(19:48):
my life completely andprioritize myself truly for the
first time in my life.
So living that relationship hasbeen one of the toughest
decisions and also it was astretch for me to prioritize
(20:10):
myself.
Yeah, and the ninth lessonSelf-worth.
After his departure and leavingmy marriage, I decided to take
the time to grieve, heal andtake care of myself deeply, and
(20:35):
accepting my worth was one ofthem.
It is a process that most of usjust by not saying that
everyone it's something that wedeal with, that we gotta show
our worth when we I mean, we'vebeen taught that it's supposed
(20:59):
to be out there and no, that oneit's basically inside of us,
because we are worthy simply byexisting.
Remember this you are worthybecause you exist, period.
But I understand that we got toclean up a lot of shit to get
(21:23):
in there, in there, and so whenI was going through this process
, I realized, you know, by goingdeep into what happened, I
realized that my sense ofunworthiness came from him.
You know the way he was raisedand his very, very subtle
(21:50):
behavior as a mushroom man inthis patriarchal society.
You know, and I understood theroot of my unworthiness, belief,
I heal it and I forgave him.
Forgave him between quotes,because there's really nothing
(22:10):
to to forgive.
I mean, he did the best he hecould according to the knowledge
that that he had.
So, yeah, these are the ninelessons that I wanted to share
with you, are the nine lessonsthat I wanted to share with you,
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and I think my invitation foryou is to find a way of seeing
life like this as a lesson, evenwhen pain is there, when we got
to go through grief, andgetting to know ourselves at a
deeper level is worth the energyand time for that.
(23:05):
The energy and time For that,because we can See life From a
different perspective and whenwe do that, we can change our
life Simply by seeing it from adifferent perspective.
(23:30):
So this is it for today,september 9th, six years from
(24:10):
the passing of my father, andhonoring him with all my love,
with all the pride of being hisdaughter, with all the beauty,
all the effort that he put intoraising me and knowing that,
despite the fact that he's nothere physically, I still can
(24:32):
feel his love and his whistle.
Listen to his whistle he had avery particular whistle and, yes
, honoring death, because thetruth is, death is part of life.
(24:56):
Much love to you, have abeautiful day and check my show
notes if you would like to workwith me in my one-on-one
coaching programs, and I have aretreat coming out in October
close to Montreal, quebec,canada.
So, yeah, stay tuned.
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