#43 - From Stress to Soul: Nervous-System Healing & Life Rewritten with Dr. Anette Betancor - Midlife Butterfly | Coming Home to Yourself: Presence, Embodiment, Self-Love Practices, Life Coherence & Transformation

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Kena Siu (00:00):
We often search for healing outside ourselves.
But the truth is, our bodycarries the wisdom and the power
to guide us back intoalignment.
My guest today has devoted herpath to helping people remember
that.
Midlife butterfly, a woman inthe sacred in-between.

(00:22):
She's not who she once was, andnot quite who she's becoming
yet.
She's unraveling, awakening,remembering.
She's navigating lifetransitions, divorce, loss,
repeat, and mood.
With a burning desire forfreedom, joy, and solid living.
She feels the pull to ride, tofly.

(00:42):
She's no longer afraid of herown wings.
Welcome back to the MidlifeButterfly Podcast.
I am your host, Kena Siu.
And today I have the pleasureto welcome Dr.
Anette Betancor.
She is a former holisticdentist and biochemist.
For over a decade, she led asuccessful dental practice in

(01:06):
Miami until she transitionedinto her true calling, guiding
people to regulate their nervoussystem and free emotional
blocks through movement, breath,and facial release through
psychosomatic and craniosacraltherapy.
She created Sonrisas del Alma,ACA Smiles from Within, a method

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that integrates science, body,and consciousness to restore
vitality, clarity, and presence.
She also developed a consciousmovement system called stretch
danza, a practice of spiral andnonlinear stretches that
liberates trauma and in deepfascia tensions and reconnect us
to our authentic flow.

(01:49):
Today, she mentors consciouswomen, men, and entrepreneurs
who want to align their innersmile, design their lives and
projects with clarity and joy,and live with freedom in divine
connection.
For her, true medicines beginswith them and ends with the soul

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smiling.
I am so happy to have you here,Annette.
I mean, your journey is sopowerful and an example of
alignment and reinvention.

Anette Betancor (02:24):
So thank you for having me, for inviting me,
and truly smiling from withinbecause this is what makes me
wake up every day, reallytouching people's hearts and
reminding them that there's aninner smile in their bodies
waiting to be aligned beyondtheir actual teeth, right?
There's that there's a spacethat we could actually tap into,

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and when the body smiles, themind could reinvent, and then
the emotions could guide us.
Otherwise, it's very difficultto do life.

Kena Siu (02:57):
Wow, yes, so true.
Oh, we gotta dive into that.
Uh that's for sure.
So I would like to know what isit that it guides you to
actually move from yoursuccessful dental practice that
you were doing to then this soulscrolling that it was kind of
like, come here, come here.

You know, it's like everything in life, it's a
stepping stone at a time.
And I went to school and Igraduated, and I remember I
never went to one of mygraduations, not biochemistry,
not dentistry.
I just got the title and movedon.
And I kind of knew that it wasit was because I wasn't too
passionate.
I was just doing it because youhave to study.

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You know, I'm an immigrant,Cuban in America, you have to go
to school.
My parents are all doctors, soit was something that was
expected of me.
And I did it with my eyesclosed.
But it wasn't until I opened myoffice, my practice, within
months, I was like, what am Idoing?
I'm a doctor, I have a house, Ihave an office.
Now I have to build, I have tobuild it.

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And I started noticing in mypatients that no matter how many
beautiful smiles I would designfor them and how healthy their
teeth would become to be, theywere really truly not smiling
from within.
There were it was still anopacity to the way they were
leading their lives or the waysthey would just establish
conversations.

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And I had this touch that Iwould always make them really
smile or play.
And I started noticing, wow,they are opaque.
But then where am I opaquemyself?
Where is this showing me whereI'm not truly happy about what
I'm doing?
So I started doing all thisinner work.
You can see all the books Ihave in the back.
God, the universe started likereally whispering in my ear.

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And I decided in oneconversation deep with God one
day, I was like, you know what?
I opened this office, but I'monly gonna work three days a
week, Mondays throughWednesdays.
And we're gonna do it togetherbecause from Thursdays to
Sundays, I'm gonna dedicate mylife to opening up my heart, to
really inviting you in my body,to stretch, to dance, to read,

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to meditate, to cry, to do allthe work I need to do to start
really creating the life Ichoose.
And then it started to happen.
Nine years later, in theoffice, is that I was able to
really break free from thetitles, from the expectations of
my parents, from expectationsfrom my clients, my patients,
and my team because they allloved me.

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They loved my touch.
I would put them to sleep inthe chair.
I didn't know what I was doing,but I have this very soothing
touch to the nervous system.
So obviously, I was in goldenhandcuffs, feeling that I was in
a prison that gave me money andstatus, but it was the really
the grace of God and my trueinner work daily that gave me

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the power to really say I'm thedentist of inner smiles, I
create smiles from within.
There's many dentists thatcould do the outer teeth, and
that's a grace, but I have acalling, and it was you know a
decision that takes radicaldeciding to make you know
beautiful transitions.

(06:09):
And this is me two and a halfyears later from selling the
office, building from scratch,because now I have to build a
whole new business from fromfrom scratch.
Yeah, and it's beautifulbecause it feels it feels light.
I used to just go to workcrying in the car, but knowing
you gotta think greater thanyour feelings, you gotta think
greater than your feelings.
Your emotions are just you knowa memory of the past.

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I would go to conferences, Iwould travel, I would meditate,
and I would practice everythingthat I would learn so that I
could walk away from thatreality without hating that
reality.
Because if you're hating whereyou are, you cannot create the
next.
So I had to fall in love withwhat I was doing, and patients
would tell me, Oh, doctor, youlove what you do, you're so good

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at it.
You were born to be a dentist,and inside I was like, that's
like that's not true, but I mademy body believe it.
Yes, and that's the trick.
You have to find happinesswhere you are if you want to
create the next.

Kena Siu (07:10):
Oh, I love that.
You need to find happinesswhere you are.
That's that's so true.
Because the thing is, we'realways in transition to
something different, right?
And I think, yes, you said it'svery important to really find
at least or neutral, not to hateit and not to have to love it

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either, yeah, to be pushed tolove it, but at least having
that neutrality on saying, okay,I want to accept where I am
now, but at the same time, whatyou did, you were walking the
path to where you wanted to be,and is where you are at this
moment.

And you know what?
And practicing that whichyou're learning to be able for
your body to metabolize theinformation and not just stay in
the mind, but really make itinto a habitual way of feeling
and thinking from your body.
I remember that every book thatI would read, I would come into
the office and I would teach itto my assistant, to my manager,

(08:08):
to my treatment plancoordinator.
I would always be speaking ofquantum physics, the observer,
subconscious mind.
I would just talk and talk, andeverybody was like, They
thought I was crazy at first,but then their lives started to
change and to shift and totranscend to the point in which
one day my manager crying toldme, Doctor, fly away.

(08:31):
You're ready, you've helped usso much.
And it still makes me crybecause I'm like, they gave me
the freedom I needed because Iwould have stuck for them
because they were happy havingme as the boss.
But they're like, Oh, fly, dowhat you're meant to do in the
world because you've done it forus.
Not being so happy about doingthe actual dental work, but

(08:51):
you've you know, you've showedup and the work is doing the
inner work, and you said theword accepting in ontological
coaching that I'm certified in,acceptance is such a powerful
you know, state because youdon't have to like it.
Yeah, you you have to find theacceptance so that there's
cellular regulation in yournervous system.

(09:13):
Because if you're opposing thefact, if I were to be opposing,
I'm a dentist, no, I'm not adentist, no, I have an office,
no, I don't have an office, mynervous system would be so
dysregulated, my sympatheticnervous system would be in
fight, in flight, in collapseand freeze, and I wouldn't have
been able to relate to mypatients, to my staff, to myself

(09:34):
in a soothing, safe way.
So we have to be smart.
If we want to create a newreality, we have to give our
bodies in the moment a safetynet.

Kena Siu (09:44):
Yes.
Oh, I'm so glad.
I mean, I'm wow, wow, like it'samazing what you just explained
of what just by acceptingsomething, how the body reacts,
yeah.

It's and it happens to that's why they call
this word of validation,validate where you are.
It doesn't mean you have tolike it, it doesn't mean that
you're approving of it forever.
Like I knew I wasn't gonna bein the office forever.
Did I know my way out?
No, I didn't know the how, butI knew the what and I knew the
why, and I knew that I needed todo it from a space of

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gratefulness, of presence, ofregulating my nervous system,
and then slowly life puts inyour path information,
situations, people, books, youname it.
And then you start tapping intothe next and into the next.
So we start building this, youknow, like I call it light
castle from within.

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But it's one smile at a time,it's one blink at a time, it's
one inhale at a time.
Otherwise, our minds get usinto why am I here?
Why am I attentive?
Blah blah blah.
And you know, there's alwaysthat victim mode mentality, we
let it run it, you know.

Kena Siu (11:03):
Yeah, presence is key, yes, it it is indeed, and
again, it's about coming to thatacceptance, as you said, the
presence as well, because lifeis too short, that's the truth,
and we gotta find a way thateven when we are in a place that

(11:24):
we are don't feel verycomfortable.
Like, what can we do toactually like feel better or at
least a bit better thanyesterday?

Yes, yes, and I tell you that I remember
Sundays was such a difficult dayfor me, especially like around
4 p.m.
Because then the day starts towind down and you know Monday
starts to come in.
Yes, it had this not in mytummy, and I would always just
come back to the moment.
I was like, right now I'm stillhere, right now I'm still here.
And just the thought of mydrive to work would make me feel

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at ease because I knew I have40 minutes in the car.
So I knew in those 40 minutes Iwould regulate myself.
And once I would open the doorsto the office, I would be in
another state.
So using the in-betweens to puta podcast, I listen a lot to
Dr.
Joe Dispensa, Greg Braden,Bruce Lipton, like I in the
bathroom, in the shower,anywhere.
I would just actually feedmyself this other new reality so

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that I could actually do thebest in the transition spaces.
So I remember driving to work.
I had to, you know, sink to thesun, I had to cry, I had to
stretch, I had to like uh likemove energy around.
My car was my temple away frommy home because my dream was to
work from home and not having alocation to be the prison, which

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is not what I have.
It's like I don't have to movefrom my house and I get to do
what I love.
And but back in the day, I hadto find what made me smile from
within in that second, whetherit was a podcast, whether it was
a stretching and like crying,whether it was making up songs
to the sun and like really likeinvoking my desire, but it's
like tapping an incense,palosanto, whatever it was to

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like get my mind into the next,and not get trapped into I have
a title and I now have to dothis for life until I'm 80.
No, no, I get your body intothe future, get your mind into
the future so that your emotionsget unstuck because the
emotions will always remind usof the past.

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So that work is like in thein-betweens, the transitions,
accepting where you are andmaking the best of it.

Kena Siu (13:37):
Yes, wow, thank you for mentioning all that because
that's for all our listeners isit's gonna be key.
Yeah, like knowing that thereare a lot of tools, it's about
then just choosing what worksfor us.
Yeah, like for me, sometimeswhen I feel stuck in my energy,
it's like put a song, dance itout, you know, and I'm sure you
do that too sometimes, right?

That has become that was part of my awakening
with God, like through music.
I would tell them just like Iknow you, like I already know
quantum physics, I knowepigenetics, I understand the
science of change, I know it.
I have felt you at times, butmy body forgets you.
There's like a spiritualamnesia that I still have like
stuck in my body.
Please, God, come right throughme.

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And I would sing to it.
I would sing, and then YouTubewould come up and give me a
song.
There's a song that I willshare with you later, but it's
in Spanish.
It's called Quédate, Stay.
Okay.
And stay when I would tellthem, like, I know you, I feel
you, but my body forgets you.
YouTube changed from the musicI had to this one song.
It was a gift from God, andit's become my best friend.

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And music has this ability toput you in states that you need
to get into to release what'sblocking you.
Sometimes I would dance it andshake it and enjoy it.
Other times it would be amelody that would make me cry
with no even idea of why I wascrying, but it would be
shakings, it would beliberations, it would be nervous
system regulations.
That's why I would spend thosedays that I wasn't at work

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stretching.
I would spend like three hoursin one hip, or two hours in the
other hip.
And then I started noticingimages would come up.
Then I would start doingresearch.
What's happening in the hips?
I found the muscle of the soul,the soul's muscle.
I started really puttingtogether what was happening in
the fascia because I was holdingpostures for so long that I was

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tapping into my nervous system,the parasympathetic branch,
which is calm, is tranquility,it's acceptance, is regulating
emotionally.
So through music, God made mestay put in silence so that I
would really hear all the noisewithin.
And back of the noise, thenthat inner smile aligns, and

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then you start smiling fromwithin because you're connected
to so much, so something so muchhigher than your identity.
So something so much higherthan Dr.
Annette or Annette.

Kena Siu (15:59):
And that's the key.
Yeah, beautiful.
Yeah, and I'm so glad that youbrought that about because I
mean I know you because you weremy my teacher in the neuro
epigenetic breathingcertification that I'm currently
taking.
And so you talk about the SOASand then how much trauma like it

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gets stuck in there, and andwhat I have experienced by you
know being in other programs aswell, by noticing women how
difficult for us is to move thehips because of everything that
is that it's in there, and theimportance of then I just said,

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like dancing, like movement,shaking, so we can release
whatever it is that it's inthere, that some of the stuff
belongs to us, other onesbelongs to to the family, other
ones belong to even to thecollective, that we don't know
all those memories.

And that's the beauty of it.
Like once you start into this,that's why I call my my system
an ethlosophy, and it has it hasa base on the philosophy of
stretching, stretchy.
When we go through likestretching beyond our
conditionings, beyond what wethink it is, and we actually put
the body into reposturingmentally, emotionally, and

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physically, we start rewiringour nervous system, and we start
really installing that which wereally want and not that which
is installed because familyloyalties, inheritances,
epigenetic happenings in ourenvironment.
So stretching, like literally,like just staying put in one

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area, is like what we call yinyoga.
Yoga that's not dynamic, it'sstatic.
So, like just stretching onespace at a time.
There's so much like reopeningof the avenues of the fascia and
re like rehydration.
And when we rehydrate thefascia, it releases a stagnant
electricity.
Sometimes we don't have to knowwhat the trauma was, sometimes

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we don't even have to get animage.
It just like reopens the inneravenues of electrical
conduction.
And since we are an electricalbeing in this vessel of skin, we
need to like be smart aboutlike how do I open areas that
otherwise are so stuck thatthere's a big traffic jam in my
pelvis where there's more energystored in the body.

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That's in the battery system,that's like the nervous system,
the central nervous system atthe base, that's where more most
energy is at.
But it's where most energy isstuck in the crystallizations of
the fascia, in the psoasmuscles that that's like not
elongated enough because it wastrapping all the fire and flight
reactions that we had as kids.

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Every time something happened,and then the fascia.
So when we stretch, when wemove, when we dance, when we
breathe, when we sing, weactivate that nerve, that that
vagus nerve that's gonna letthat fascia open, it's gonna let
that muscle release, and thenthe whole liquid in your nervous
system starts to like dance andwow, things start to open, and

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it's such a synchronized innermovement that truly just makes
you smile from within when youallow it, because it's like you
get out of your mind, you getout of your emotional being
habits of thoughts, and thenyou're like you're in the
nothingness of theeverythingness, you start
feeling connected to that nextlife that you want because

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there's a base of something hasmy back.
It's like something higher thanme has my back.

Kena Siu (19:40):
Yes, yeah, and the thing is we're always connected
to that part, it's just havingthat awareness, right?
Because source I call it Gas.
I found this acronym somewhere,and it said it's GAS, like God,
universe, or source.
You know, we can call it anyname, yeah, but we are always

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supported, so it's about thenhaving that awareness that yeah,
I I am connected, and that'skey to understand that it's
always available, but doesn'tmean that it's that we open the
fossil or the faucet, you know,like we close it and we're an
antenna.

So this antenna, this rater cellularly,
okay.
Let's always go back to basicsof biology and nervous system
and electricity because we areall stuck in these beautiful
bodies that work throughelectricity.
But if we are a misalignedantenna and God vibrates here,
but we are here, uh-huh.
We cannot penetrate.

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So we have to allow and learnhow to train the body, how to
train the emotions, how to trainthe mind to vibrate at higher
frequencies so that we are anantenna that is in tune to that
melody.
Otherwise, it's like God tryingto come in and we're like eh.
It's like, you know, if you goto the radio station of like

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classical music, but you are ina station inside of like
reggaeton or most music that'sreally like just folkloric,
you're not gonna hear themelodic symphony, you're just
gonna hear what you aresynchronizing to from within.
So that's the work and that'sthe game, that's the play.
How do we hire up the you knowthe frequencies of ourselves,

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the environment internally, sothat we become one with that
which exists, and that there'sno doubt, you know, no ancestral
like civilization had doubtsthat God existed.
They didn't have the science,they didn't need to.
They had the signs of Godwithin, and that's a reminder's

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like, yeah, we could have thesigns, and that's amazing for
you know, left hemispheres thatwe need it, but once we we get
it, let's just walk through thebridge of God and let's get into
that mystical spiritual way ofbringing it down to earth on our
everyday life because there'sso much more than meets the eye.

Kena Siu (22:07):
Yes, definitely.
I will like you because I know Ilove how you embody God in
yourself, it's just like I cansee it in your smile in your
energy, just you know, bysharing here the screen with
you, and I just love it.
That's fascinating for me.
So, how is it that we can tunein to God?

Well, a little bit of a backstory.
I was born and raised in Cuba,communist Cuba, where the
history of the country for along time, religion wasn't
allowed, churches were closed.
So my family never raised meeven believing in God or
anything, universe, God,nothing.
My family are doctors.
My dad was a surgeon, I meaneverybody's a doctor, so it was

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all science-based.
So that was my upbringing.
I never had God in my heart orin my mind.
I as I started growing andaround my 27 years of age, God
started to just poppingeverywhere, like just like
giving me information andrevelations.
And I was like, uh, and becauseI'm so open and I've always had
this connection to my body, Iwould receive it.

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I didn't have block rater, Ihad it open.
So I would receive, I wouldreceive, and I would receive,
and I would sit with theinformation, and I would just be
like, oh my God, there's moreto life than just like my mind
or my skin.
And that's where I started inthis dynamic, intimate
conversations with life.
And I was like, I understandthere's more than what I've

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known, but why is it that mybody doesn't feel it yet?
What is it that my bodyforgets?
Because I live throughsensorial ways.
I'm like, I like to smell, Ilike to touch.
I'm very like, mm.
And this is something I've alsodeveloped because my
tendencies, if I don't watchout, is to like, uh,
indifference, like apathy, orlike, oh, I'll do it later.

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And that's a body that's alsolike disconnected.
So through the years, I've hadto learn how to turn it on
because I had to go to school, Ihad to do things in life.
And if I would have allowedthat habit, I would be on the
couch, no title, no house, nomoney.
So I learned how to turn myselfon, but then this turning on
happens easier when it's fromGod.

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So when God started to revealHimself to me through books,
through people, throughinformation, and I started
stretching and I startedallowing my sexual energy, my
pelvis to open up, my breathingto deepen, my nervous system to
get regulated.
It was just like symphonieswould come out of my ear, like

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everything would speak to me.
You know, I would just saysomething and things would
happen.
Like it would just be like,wow, like this power is within
me.
So then I just start feeling itmore and feeling it more.
And a lot of times would belike tears of immensity.
I would feel so inplentifulness that it wasn't
happiness, it was just like inawe of the moment because I felt

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like literally being caressedand made love by God.
Just like there's no other lovegreater than that, because it's
like the best couple, it's likethe best lover.
It's like there's no husband,and I have a beautiful, nice
husband, but I tell him my love,you love me so well, but
there's no love like the one Ifeel from inside.
It's just like it devours me,it knows what to tell me, it

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knows how to touch me, knowsit's just like it's so beautiful
and soothing, but like alsolike strong and firm.
And that is be it's being arelationship, it gets to be
built, it's an intimacy, it's acultivation.
There's something that JodySpence always said that that

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reminded me of cultivating dateswith the divine, dating the
divine.
You have to date yourself, youhave to date yourself to date
the divine.
And in one of my deepconversations with life, with
God, with the universe, one timeas I was crying and telling
God, please come into my body.
Like, I want to feel you, Iwanna like talk, like I wanna

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like I don't want it just to bein my mind.
God would tell me in my ear,God never misses a date.
I'm always waiting, sitting atthe table, and it was just I
would see like a cosmic table.
It was just like a galaxy inform of a table, and I would
just see like a little tuxedomade out of stars, and he had a
rose, it was just no face, itwas just the wholeness, and it

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would tell me, God never missesthat date.
I'm always here waiting for youto return to sit at my table.

Kena Siu (26:41):
And I was like, Whoa, that give me shields.

So it's just the gap, the distance, the
doubt, that coldness is the onethat we have to learn how to
like melt away so that we're infirmness and verticality, always
get vertical connection so thatwe can get into that spiral, so
that we can start like dancingaround that firmness and that
certainty, and that only God canprovide it for us, but God

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doesn't give it to us, we get toit.
We have to play the game insideso that we get past the human,
so that we position ourselvesinto that light being, that
radar with that frequency thatbecomes a match to that melody.
So it's a process.
But when we do stretching,dancing, you know, breathing,
reading higher books, and wepractice it, we bring it close

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and close.
It starts, it develops becauseGod wants to live in everyone
turned on, not as a littlespark.
God wants to be a fire in yourheart, a fire in your pelvis, a
fire in your mind, a fire inyour like smile.
Doesn't want to be a spark, andevery human has a spark of the
divine, but from a spark, youcannot make like a barbecue.

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You need to get the fire going,right?
From the fire, you need to likeoxygenate it, and you need to
do steps.
You can just, oh, I have thespark of the divine light in me,
lighting you.
Two new age.
You need to walk it, make it,be it, because life does not
give us what we want.
Life gives us who we are being,what we are emanating.

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It has to be a match, so God isa state that we have to match
from within.

Kena Siu (28:24):
Wow, I'm speechless.
I'm speechless, and and that'strue because we say we have the
spark, yeah, but we need thatfire to live fully, truly, and
we need that fire, and it's upto us to light it more and more

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and more.
It's up to us to connect at adeeper level because a lot of
people, and probably the way Iused to live before, yeah, we
live in you know, in a God andstuff.
I was raised Catholic, but Inever felt that connection with
God itself when I was within thereligion until I noticed that
it is a universal Godconsciousness.

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I was like, okay, this one isthe one, you know, this is the
love that I can is when Ifinally start feeling loved from
God when getting into myspiritual path.
Uh, but as you said, is issorry, what I wanted to say
before is like a lot of peopleis like, yeah, um, God is

(29:30):
guiding me or whatever.
Yeah, but what are you alsodoing for you to tune in to turn
on that fire to connect to it?
Because God gives us free will.
When are you gonna use it andput it up that fire in your body
to actually live a life thatyou deserve, but at the same

(29:56):
time, you are the creator.

Totally a hundred percent and yes, and
that's the that's that's thething with this new movement of
new age thinking, magicalthinking, fantasy.
Yeah, God, guy, yeah, God needsyou more than you need God.
God needs you to like to to getpast the instructions that keep
us talking to our habitual selffor the universe to evolve, you

(30:23):
need to be doing the workbecause that's how God gets even
past beyond what He created inus, because it's we're no
different, we're just likedetached from believing that we
are a fragment of it.
But like it takesresponsibility, yeah, it takes
it takes a lot of likeintegrity, it takes a lot of
ethics daily of I do what I saidI would do.

(30:45):
The way I think, the way Ispeak, the way I feel, and the
way I act have to match.
And that's total work, that'sfrequency work, that's emotional
work, that's you know, notgetting attached to the story of
like this happened to me, thenthis happened to me, and like
the whole trauma, looking at thetrauma.
No, no, no.
What is it that you want tocreate?
New neural circuits, otherwise,you're stuck always in that

(31:07):
transition between worlds.
The God gave us the ability tocreate, but what are we
creating?
That which we believe to betrue, or that which we choose to
be true.

Kena Siu (31:18):
Yeah, what are we choosing?

Yeah, choosing decision.
That's like such a powerful actof love.
God, I choose this path becausein that new life I'm gonna
create, I'm gonna create it withyou.
Because this old path that Icreated, dentist, I created it
from the human.
I didn't really need this, Icreated in automatic.
I graduated, I needed, I blahblah blah.
Boom.
Now, for me to create smilesfrom within, La Sonrisa del

(31:42):
Alma, my whole movement, I needGod in all the states of my
being.
And then it's it's a gift tothat part of me.
And for that, I'm gonna have todo the work of blocking the
human that's gonna come on andsay, nah, today don't do that.
No, don't go in the life, blah,blah, blah.
You know, like there's a lot ofvoices that we always have to
like, no, you don't belong in metoday.

(32:03):
I'm sorry, I hear you, but no,I choose this, I choose this,
and it takes a lot of um bravetheory, you know, like a brave
heart, brave heart, yeah, and alot of conviction also and
resilience, like to say, okay,okay, these days, like okay,
what am I choosing?

Kena Siu (32:24):
Again, coming back to that choosing.
How can I get out of here?
Okay, let's play a song, let'sbreathe, let's listen to
something that is gonna that aregoing to bring us to a
different state, right?

I love that word, conviction and devotion,
those words, conviction,devotion, decision.
Yeah, it's like it's it's likethe green flag that keeps us
like getting into that target,that's right.
Otherwise, if we are led bymotivation, we're stuck because
there's a blue moon or a fullmoon or an eclipse, or we got

(33:01):
the men's, you know, we'remenstruating or we're
menopausing, anything externalcould you know, just like
polarize us into not havingmotivation.
But when we have like thisword, like no, we're setting is
hit this, and my my why is solike clear, you know, and I just
keep going one step at a time,you know, one blink at a time.

(33:23):
And always say if you conqueryourself in this one blink, and
in this next inhale, conqueringyourself one little mountain at
a time, then the next momentyou're gonna go at it with a
more regulated nervous system,and then then clarity is gonna
be, you know, your brain wavesare gonna be in a state that
you're gonna be more prone toreceiving and not to analyze and

(33:46):
judge and block the informationthat's coming through.
Yeah, so that's why it's awhole we are like we have to
learn how to regulate the alsothe fire because sometimes too
much fire will burn it all, toolittle fire, the meat is
uncooked.
But we need to in every moment,we need to like be so present.

Kena Siu (34:06):
Yeah, that's that's the key.
It's the presence because it'sthe more present we are, the
better choices we can take.

A hundred percent.
And fire is not only the onlyelement we're made out of, you
know, there's water, there'sair, you know, our spoken word,
the clarity in which we givedirections to the universe so
that that infinite possibilitycould become the one that you
desire.
So air, your word, you know,like fire, your actions, your

(34:34):
resolution in going into theworld, which is your
electricity, emotions, water, ifthey're stagnant and they get
stuck, water smells like crap.
If you let a space not move,right?
But if you learn how to moveyour waters, if you learn how to
like, you know, unblock thefascia that's pure water, then
you get that electricity movingand you get to be aligned to the

(34:57):
desire and not get stuck intowhat you don't desire.
And then there's the earth, thesustainability, the the safety
that I know I have roots and Iknow I have a way of going
always towards the light.
So we need to learn what is itthat we need in each moment.
Do I need the flexibility ofair and just fly high to see the

(35:18):
panoramic?
Or in this moment I need to putthat air into the fire because
it's gonna the fire is notcooking, or do I need to just
like not so much fire and I neednow emotions because I need to
have a beautiful conversation?
Or do I have just need to getyou know sustainability and like
oh stability because I needearth because I'm not very
grounded.
What is it that I need to gointo the world with a nervous

(35:42):
system that's my allied and abiochemistry that's my best
friend, and that's what I callto live a magical life in a very
human way.
Yeah, but it's choice afterchoice, yes.

Kena Siu (35:59):
Oh, it's so beautiful.
I love how you talk about theelements.
You mentioned something that alot of people struggle with.
Uh I don't, I think, becauseI'm a Pisces going to the
emotions.
Where like how yeah, what whatprocesses do you you do you use

(36:26):
to help people process theiremotions?

Beautiful question, because yeah, there's
people that have more propensityto get into their emotions and
sometimes too much into theiremotions.
You know, my son is a moon inPisces and ascendant in cancer.
So any little moon happens, andmy little son is like he gets
deep in it, and I teach him howto regulate, otherwise, he could
get drowned into so much water,right?

(36:52):
Or so much into the otherpeople.
So there's a lot of my clientsthat have zero water on their
charts and they don't know howto tap into their emotions, or
they just have a verydisharmonious way in which they
relate to their inner waters.
So a very straightforward way,and I go back always to
stretching, because when westretch, when we stretch,

(37:15):
automatically we are tappinginto the parasympathetic nervous
system.
We're activating the theactivity of the biggest nerve,
which is the one that lets youcry, the one that lets you
really even have an orgasm, theone that lets you just be in the
moment.
So when we stretch, the fasciaopens up, it allows the muscles

(37:37):
to decontract, so then theelectricity starts to move, and
emotions is energy in motion,and energy at the level of the
body is electricity.
So we need to learn how tounstock.
And when we move and we let youknow, moments of like oh, like
a space that's uncomfortable,going there and rotating and

(37:59):
like opening it up.
Eventually, something happenseither a sight or like a cry or
like uh, and then we tap intothat inner world and closing our
eyes to have a like a deep,like like a deep search inside.
Sometimes when we open oureyes, there's so much stimulus
that we don't get to really tapto the emotional world.

(38:21):
And for people that don't havethat ability, so quickly,
closing the eyes, being instillness, or using conscious
movement to tap into uhsequestered and like cis,
emotional cysts that live in thebody.
When once we go and stretch aspace of discomfort, an emotion
shows up or through music.

(38:43):
So it's very important to go insearch like curiosity.
What's there?
It sounds like that.
I'm it sounds that I'm angry,but is it maybe not?
Maybe you're really sad and youhave a huge grief, so you gotta
put the facade of I'm angry.
So there's so much more thatmeets the eye in the emotional
world, but we need to have a wayof getting out of the critical

(39:05):
thinking analytical mind,because the wavelengths at which
that brain works are not thesame wavelengths at which the
limbic brain, emotional brainworks, and emotions work a lot
through the unconscious mind ofimages, the unconscious mind
speaks through images.
So a lot of times, sadnesscould if I talk to my clients

(39:26):
and I walk them into what I callpsychic surgery.
We walk in, they they tell me astory, and I'm like, okay, then
we we get into a word, and thatword they say I'm sad.
What color is sadness?
What texture?
What smell?
You know, what is it, what'sit, what does it look like?
La la la.
And when we start reallydigging and digging, there's so

(39:47):
much information in the emotionthat we have labeled as sadness.
So it takes a lot of likediscovery and questioning and
asking questions to it, and thebody knows its language, its
sensations, and images.
So the emotions we think is inthe heart, but they live in the
body, yeah.

Kena Siu (40:09):
Yeah, yeah, definitely.
We have thought to you know,just to focus on the top of our
body, just to be in our heads,you know, from the throat app.
That that it's yeah, it's Idon't know what it is to really

(40:33):
choose.
Like for me, my my experiencewas that after doing yoga for
several years, finally my bodyand my mind connected, but it
took a while, right?

You need that decision to go into the body,
not because the body is the key,but because in the body there's
a key to the door, and the youknow, there's you you have to go
find it's like a treasure hunt.

Kena Siu (40:59):
Yes, yeah, yeah, that's true, that's so true.
And what I have noticed, likenow by doing the certification
of the European geneticbreathing, is that some pain in
my body has come back, but thenI wonder, does it really came

(41:20):
back, or I was not aware of it?

100%.
It's the level of awarenessbecause you're putting more
things at the layer ofconsciousness.
Yes, there's so much in theback, so I mean, so much
information in the back thatwe're not aware of, and that we
can do not notice because whatyou're saying also when it's
like we're so used to livingfrom the neck up, and it's not

(41:44):
on purpose.
The thing is, when in thedevelopment of the child, you
know, nervous system-wise andbrain-wise, my son, for example,
when I knew I was pregnant andI was already in this path, I
was like, Yes, this is gonna bemy best experiment because I'm
gonna feed this baby withoxytocin, serotonin.
Like, I'm gonna give him allthat space to come into the

(42:05):
world with a nervous system thatfeels safety.
And my son is like, it's alwaysit's like super secure
attachment.
If I go flying, if I go here,he's like, bye, mom, I love you.
Like, he is so put together inhis own little body.
But the thing is, when we arechildren and we don't have a
caretaker that models emotionalregulation, kids do not listen

(42:25):
what you say, they feel yourwhat you're emanating your
electromagnetic fields.
So if you have an adult that'scaring for the kid, we cook, we
do all the things, but we don'tregulate our ourselves.
We are teaching that antenna,that cellular antenna, that you
have to be in the lookout, inthe when is mommy gonna yell,
when is daddy gonna like dothis, and like I have to be the

(42:46):
good boy, I have to kids don'tknow.
They always think parents areright and that they're wrong.
So if daddy's mad and mommy'ssad, why did I do?
There must be something wrongwith me, and it's so painful,
and they don't have developedthe neocortex, it starts at age
of almost six, almost seven.
So, in those first six, sevenyears, it's so emotionally felt,

(43:09):
and they don't have thebiochemical processing, so they
detach.
It's called dissociation.
Okay, so it's like pain bodied,it's like a nervous system cut,
it's like there's that process,the actual curve doesn't get
processed, so it gets cysting,it gets stuck in the body based

(43:31):
on the frequency that it held indifferent organs, in different
fascial, you know, patterns ofinterference.
That's why the electrical beingbetween the mind, the body, and
the emotions get almost likecut, you know, cut, shut down,
because the kid doesn't know howto process all that.
So if we don't have parentsthat really model us how to
repair after a rupture, how to Isee you, I understand you're

(43:55):
mad.
When you're ready to speak, I'mhere and I love you.
You did this and this, but uh,my love is not taken away when
you do this and this.
I am here.
I'm teaching you how to be ahuman on earth.
If we don't have that, which wedidn't have it, and I come from
a great family.
My mom was a psychologist, shewas amazing.
She taught me how to talk to mybody.
I would always be like, How doI feel?

(44:16):
Because she would always pointto her belly when she would
talk.
So I learned that from her, butshe also had her own
shortcomings because of mygrandma and all what happens in
the lineage.
Yeah, but this is what we havenow.
We get to reparent ourselves,we get to learn that there's a
whole world from the neck down,and there's a whole like

(44:38):
information and circuit andinstructions that got kept stuck
in the nervous system.
And if we don't have a deeplook from within, they don't
align.
So, yoga is a beautiful way ofunion, of really reconnecting,
of assessing.
Wow, there's a pain bodyconnection here, and I need to
reconnect.
And I have to be brave becauseI'm gonna find things that I

(44:59):
don't want to see.
Because as a little boy, alittle girl, it was hard to
process that daddy gets drunkand you know hits mommy.
Whatever story doesn't have tobe big capital T, it could be
either little thing.
I wanted to play, and daddy wassleeping, didn't want to play.
That for a kid is like, well,and it's it we all get
traumatized for many variousreasons.

(45:20):
The point is to allow the bodythe language in which could
liberate that stock electricity,right?
So that we can become a wholebattery of circuitry in which we
can liberate andelectromagnetic waves of the
toroidal, you know, so that wecan have a torus that is like
expanded and we don't getcontracted, but we we learn how

(45:42):
to liberate, how to liberate,and it is mind, body, and and
emotions, you know, and it's awhole process every day kind of
thing.

Kena Siu (45:52):
Yeah, oh, that's so beautiful.
So I guess what you just saidthat's the base of your
stretched danza motto.

Yeah, to be honest, it it started happening
truly, you know, when I wouldhave those deep conversations
with God, I would just belinearly stuck in the mat in one
hip at a time.
As I was going throughemotional processing of the dad
of my son, you know, theconnection wasn't really there,
like he was very detached fromlife, very cold.

(46:21):
And I realized that I couldn'tbe looking at him.
I had to find within me wherewas I called, where was I
detached, where was Idisconnected.
And my work was to close thegap.
And I realized that it wasn'tthat I was disconnected with
life and with him or anythingelse, I was disconnected from
God.
I was disconnected from becauseI never had it built in from

(46:43):
you know from family.
So I had to build it.
And in those linear stretchingof like just holding postures,
like Jean Yoga would do, thenmusic would start to like, oh,
whoa, and then I started findingthis like movements, like you
know, like the air, like the youknow, like the wind.
I would just start like makingmovements that would remind me

(47:04):
intuitively to movement ofnature.
And from there, I didn't knowthat what I was doing, but I was
awakening all the fibers of thenonlinear fascia.
I tapped into spaces everycorner of this electrical
circuit that is called thefascia that held emotions, that
held information.
So I woke up literally God fromwithin, because it says that

(47:27):
God lives within the spine andGod lives in the fascia.
Fascia is like the fiber opticof the body, the information
electrical that goes in betweenthis system that surrounds every
cell, every organ, everything.
It's six to ten times fasterthan from neurons to neurons.
So when we learn how to openthat up, our whole
electromagnetic field expandsand we become a rater to life.

(47:51):
And then so that's whystretching and nonlinear
stretching and spiraling likeDNA, like galaxies, when we
become one with that which iseverything, yeah, that awakens
from within.

Kena Siu (48:07):
Oh, it's so beautiful.
That's what I love ecstaticdance, and also just you know,
dancing on my own is just theexpression of the body.
We don't have to follow stepsnor anything.
And and at one point, Iremember when I started more
liking to dancing, and I waslike, get out of the head, like
allow allowing my heart to move,and that in the movement from

(48:32):
there is completely different,it's not linear, it's it's just
you know that beautifulsensation of movement and just
allowing it, as you said, andthen it depends also of the
song, how you know it wants tomove and express, and if there
are more emotions coming out, orprobably it's at one point you

(48:55):
pause and or you are even youknow dancing slower when the
song is like boom, boom, boom.
It's just listening really tothe body what it needs, correct.

And it gets to a point that where we surrender
enough, the electrical way ofspiraling it takes over, and
then your body starts to movenot by commands of your own, by
by innate ability to express,you know, and we can all of a
sudden see colors, shapes,geometry, and then we start like

(49:29):
it's like a whole symphony thatstarts happening from within,
and and it could be that you areat the rhythm with the song,
and it could be that you find awhole a whole other rhythm from
within, and that's totally fine.
That's why it could be chaotic,it could be it could be
anything.
Doesn't have to be the one,two, three.
You know, I'm Cuban, so Iobviously know Sasa.
I can dance at all.

(49:51):
But I barely dance that at aparty.
I'm the one standing by myselfdoing my my whatever because
that's how I connect to music.
Like, I'm not the one like orprobably I sit down because
that's not I don't that's notthe center of attention to me.
My center is that that spacethat only my body could provide
through images to you know, likelike colors, so and that's why

(50:16):
I call it like it's like anintimacy like you could only
find from within, you know, andbut putting the body as the
instrument to take away the lackof flow, and once the body
becomes the instrument, theheart becomes the like the

(50:36):
guiding system.
The guy in the heart cannotopen up as much that fire in the
heart if there's threedifferent metabolic spaces or
chakras that are like contained,repressed, so it's like a water
repressed.
When you open a door, a lotflushes through, but then it
gets stuck into the next.
If you open that door, thenmore information comes up, and

(50:58):
then when you have everythingopen, it's like a whole
circulation of goodness, ofaliveness, vitality, radiance,
and that's where we get into thematch of the God frequency.
We become the galaxy fromwithin, and then we can hear, we
can feel, we can be, and thenwe can take better actions

(51:21):
because we're always gonna messup from the human that we have
been.
It doesn't mean that we'reperfect, it means that every
time I see my human wanting tomake the decisions, I choose my
position of God, I choose myparadigm of light.
I understand that it's notwhether I have or if I don't, if
I know, if I don't know.

(51:41):
It's not that, it's what do Ichoose and where do I put my
mind?
My mind is in God, and I know Ihave the ability to frame my
reality.
So I'm gonna do my best to putmyself in that frequency until I
believe it in dance thatcreation, dance it until you
become it, right?
And it's the it's it becomes agame with life, it's like

(52:02):
playfulness.

Kena Siu (52:04):
Yes, yeah, it is, yeah, because life itself is a
dance.

Well, you saw in the class how I showed you
guys the the cardio sacralrhythm, the rhythm that gives
life to all the rhythms in thebody.
Like, you know, there's thewhat the little liquid, the
cephalorakid.
No, in in in in English isliquid cephalalo, I forget a
cerebral spinal fluid, becausenow I'm like thinking in in

(52:32):
Spanish those terms, but thecerebral spinal fluid rushes,
you know, from that part of thebrain six times to 12 times a
minute, and it flushes throughthe nervous system, through the
inner canal, and that pushes thefascia, it pushes the bones,
and everything has to be doingthis.

Kena Siu (52:52):
Bones have to open up and have to close.

They have to open.
So there's an actual dance wheneverything is healthy.
Bones are open and closed, butwhen we're not healthy and we're
collapsed and we contract it,and we have muscular issues, and
we have fascia, fasciacontractions.
The bones do this, and thefascia do this, and then our
nervous system, central nervoussystem, cannot do the vital
expression.

(53:15):
So imagine what happensmetabolically.
It's imagine what happenssystemically, imagine what
happens to communication withincells.
So there's a whole dancewithin, and that's so true at
the biological level, andthere's a whole dance
universally, and there's a wholedance in the psyche of the
universe.
So to become the dancers andthe attunement and the rater to

(53:36):
that which is always available,but we don't have the ability to
tap into because we're notthere.
That's the key, that's thewalk, that's the path, and
that's why we're here.

Kena Siu (53:47):
Yeah, that's that's the human experience.
Yeah, yeah.
Oh my god, yeah, this is sodelicious.

It is.

Kena Siu (54:01):
We have a lot of women that are going through, you
know, two life transitions,either like divorce or loss or
reinvention.
When it's well, this is youalready mentioned like stretch
dancer.
Will this be the practice, orwould you recommend also
something else for them toreconnect to their authentic

(54:24):
flow in life?

Well, the mind tends to play a strict because
it's always gonna go back to ohmy god, I lost my husband, oh my
god, I'm old, oh my god, this,oh my god, that.
So it's important to have alike um like a legacy of life
that you want to create, have aresult, have a desired outcome
so that we can practice to trainour minds, our emotions, and

(54:47):
our bodies into that nextreality.
So as you're dancing, puttingyour mind into it, as you're
moving, putting your emotionsinto painting that canvas
because the body's gonna belike, that's a lie.
No, we're here, we suck, wedon't have money, our husbands
cheated, blah blah blah blahblah.
But that's why that transition,that bridge, is gonna determine

(55:08):
whether you stay stuck on thisside of the bridge, looking down
and saying, That's it, my lifewent down, or you walk and walk
and you get to the this nextarea.
So we train our bodies throughconscious breathing, through
stretching, through dancing,through grounding, through
eating anti-inflammatory, youknow, unprocessed foods,

(55:29):
sunlight, all that.
But we train our minds and ouremotions, having the observer
and the focus into a result ofthat desired future that we
created in the present.
So we have to be constantlyreminding ourselves in a very
concrete way, like a like three,four sentences of I am a mentor

(55:53):
of conscious leadership and Imake this amount of money, la la
la boom.
And every time my body, mymind, and my emotions wants to
go into because I'm a dentist,because I got because then we
start establishing new neuralpathways.
And by not putting attention tothis old persona of the
divorce, of the menopause, youknow, if it's menopause picking

(56:16):
the booty, because sometimes itis whatever process, if you
don't pay attention to it, westart having a process that's
called pruning away.
The neural circuitry that's soused to firing together, they
start to unwire because we'reputting the focus, the mind, the
energy, the observer based onquantum physics, what you

(56:37):
observe, you create.
But you have to have the trainmind to put the mind where you
like it and not let it divertyourself to where you come from.
That reality is already stuckin your body, that's already
made, but you don't want itmore, so you need to put it
somewhere else.
So becoming your prayer.
That's why I like having thatclarity and dancing and moving

(56:59):
it, stretching it, writing it,painting it.
Become art, make your desiredfuture an artful situation.
And we all have ways ofexpressing our art.
My expressive art situation ismy movement, my body, the way I
connect to my emotions.
Other people is throughwriting, other people is through
painting.
Yes, we all have ways, butsometimes we have various ways.

(57:23):
And the point is to like justlike poke through the whole
system, right?
Like the whole being is the sumof our the quality of our
thoughts, the quality of ouremotions, and the quality of our
body.
So we need to remember that wehave to target each circle
because the being is in themiddle.
The sum of your mind, the sumof your body, the sum of your

(57:44):
emotions.
If you never pay attention tothe emotions, or you only pay
attention to the mind, but younever pay attention to the body,
the sum of those three aregonna give you the average of
who you are.
But if you want to increase thelevel of observer, the level of
reality in your future, youneed to like tap into the
emotion, you need to tap intothe mind, and you need to tap
into the body.

(58:05):
So it's finding the ways thathelp each one, right?
For me, stretching above all,because from stretching, even if
I don't feel like dancing,stretching taps into my nervous
system.
There's days that you have moreenergy, and then the stretching
becomes a dance.
Okay, like no matter what, evenif I'm sad, I drop it to my
hips, hip openers, hip openers.

(58:27):
It's gonna move yourcerebrospinal fluid, it's gonna
tap into your psoas, it's gonnatap into your vagus nerve, it's
gonna tap into yourparasympathetic, it's gonna
lower your brain waves, which isgonna then get you into more
closeness to your limbic brain,where all the information is in
the unconscious mind.
So it's always like for me,it's like, how do I get deeper

(58:47):
faster?
Yes, right, the rate ofcomeback to center.
So stretching for me, dancingfor others, conscious breathing,
like RNA, you know, breathingneuropigenetics.
So it's like you know,increasing the the pressure in
the the canal so that you canmove energy and tap into the
pineal gland, connect to higherdimensions.

(59:08):
But there's so many waysbecause God left so many ways of
access to Him inside of us.
There's so many doors, yes.
So we have to open as many aspossible.
I love that the big door, andwe become the key, and we
actually walk through it.

(59:28):
Yeah, we are the ones who havethe key to walk through it, and
if we don't have it yet, it isour job to find it within our
fascias, within our fibers,within our hearts, within our
memories, but not to get stuckinto them, but to use it, run
towards that future that we arechoosing.

(59:49):
Yeah, and make your life andyour environment speak to you.
My house is all full of colorsand full of little, like I sit
on the floor.
It reminds me of.
It reminds me of of God, ofgroundingness, of the stretch.
I have my yoga mat, I have myinstance, my altar, my the the
the like the walls speak to mein different art form.

(01:00:10):
Because you have to alwaysremind yourself of what truly
makes you smile from within.
Because there's a lot of thingsin life that will make you
forget your inner smile.
But you have to be the reminderof what is it that turns on
your fire, right?

Kena Siu (01:00:27):
Yeah, yeah, and it's interesting because sometimes
it's kind of tricky that tricky,I mean, between quotes, if we
can call it that way, the factthat the more present we are,
that's the better reality, youknow, that we can create because
we are choosing, but then it'salso this kind of like uh yeah,

(01:00:50):
but at the same time, it's likethat your future is there.
So sometimes, and I have hadthis question, it's like it
sounds like contradictorybecause you're telling me to be
present, but you're also tellingme to focus on the future, so
it's like, what do I do?

Anette Betancor (01:01:07):
Ah, there's the key there, because we have to
bring the future to the present,that's why you have to embody
what you want, and that's wherethe emotions and the body get in
because the mind goes into thefuture, but to bring the future
mind, the reality that youdesire, you have to eat it,

(01:01:28):
devour it, feel it, dance it,touch it, paint it, then you
bring the future into thepresent.
You don't fantasize with it,you become it, you bring it to
it, you make love to it, you youclimb when you're about to
climb it, you think, you speakthat reality into the moment.

(01:01:50):
That's why it's like it'sembodied reality.
And it's you know, you have tobelieve, and then you'll see,
but you have to believe with allof your being, with your three,
you know, brains.
You have to believe with yourmind, you have to believe in
your heart, and you have tobelieve in your body.
And the language of the body,sensations and images.
The the language of the of theemotions is obviously you know

(01:02:12):
feelings, and the mind is ofobviously verbal language.
So when you have clarity inthat on that future, and you
have emotional clarity on howthat future will feel, I wanted
to feel free, freedompreneurshipwhen I felt trapped into golden
handcuffs in a dental office.
So when I went to Joey Spencerfor the first time and I was

(01:02:34):
tapping to the pineal gland, allI was feeling, I have freedom,
freedom, freedom, boom, I gotpregnant, and I thought my
pregnancy was gonna be my ticketto freedom because I was like,
now I'm pregnant, the office isgonna have to run on its own,
and yeah, he was part of theticket to my freedom, but that's
where my real job started.
I had to go back into theoffice with the baby and build

(01:02:54):
another nine years.
But if at that moment I wouldhave been like, donde está el
futuro, where's the future?
Where's the future?
Uh uh, I had to become thatfuture, I had to embody it, I
had to emanate it, I had to beso in touch and in love with
that future in my bodycellularly, that then the
reality would start giving mehints of it.

(01:03:16):
Crumbs, and then the next, andthen the next, and then the
next.
So it's bringing the futureinto the present, and that makes
the past dissolve and emptyout.
But we have to put the mind,it's like you know, like the
sand clocks, you know, like so.
Imagine where the sand iscoming from is the past.

(01:03:38):
Right in the center is thepresent, and the future is here.
So we have to think of thefuture, it's accumulating.
We're accumulating thatbeautiful future that we want,
but it has to pass through apresent.
But that present is very tiny,but you have to feel like
imagine that it's like that thatuh sand clock is like the body.
So, in the bottom of it, thefuture has to be felt in the

(01:04:01):
pelvis.
You have to pump it, you haveto feel it in your creative
center, you have to give it thefire of your of your inner
confidence, you have to give itthe heart, you have to give it
the clarity, verbal clarity,abracadabra, how I speak, I
create.
You have to have that visionand you have to have that
consciousness, you know, andthen it's at work, it's it's

(01:04:21):
work, it's constant work becauseit gets stuck into the creative
mode, but you don't bring it upinto your confidence, and you
don't bring it up into yourheart if you don't speak it into
existence, if you don't see it,it's just gonna get stuck in
the body, and then you're like,Oh, but I have all this woo-woo
books and this, but I'm notliving the reality I want.
Well, you're not doing thewhole thing.

Kena Siu (01:04:40):
Oh, yeah.

So it's like tacka tack, you gotta do it, you
got to do it.

Kena Siu (01:04:45):
Yeah, we gotta do it.
Yeah, it's about doing thework.

Yeah, addict to that connection, to that
future, and break the addictionto the past, to the apathy, to
the lethargy, to thefrustration, to the anger, to
the why me, to the blah blahblah.
Gotta put the mind into thenext so that that future gets
built, and the past where thesound comes from gets emptied.

(01:05:10):
Eventually, all the sound is inthe future, and the where it
started from, it's empty.
But you cannot empty the pastif you focus on the past all the
time.
Yeah, it from the future,bringing it to the present.
So that's where the body is theinstrument, not where it ends,
is the instrument, so that wecan get back up and connection,

(01:05:32):
vertical connection.
We close the gap of doubt andwe fill it with certainty, with
security, with devotion,conviction.

Kena Siu (01:05:41):
Yes, yeah.
And coming back to the analogyof the sand clock, if you think
about it, the present is justthe very tiny one, right?
The very narrow part.
And I think also if we use thatanalogy, it's important because
the present is again the now,the now, the now, the now.

(01:06:02):
And it's important that it goesin a way slow because the body
needs to catch up.
Otherwise, if we would geteverything we want from our
future, like like this in amatter of minutes, the body
could not take it.
Because the nervous systemneeds to adapt to it.

100%.
It's like we have a thermostat,it's like especially receiving
ship.
Like humans, we're used togiving, giving, giving,
electrical providing, but we'renot used to magnetically
receiving.

Kena Siu (01:06:31):
Oh, yeah.

The nervous system gets to be used to that.
So if all of a sudden I puteverything you ever desired on
the table, what true love feelslike your nervous system is
gonna collapse because what'sknown is not that.
What's known is the scarcity,the I no one loves me, the he
didn't reply back, the I'mghosted, I'm abandoned.
So all of a sudden, I put theone man that gives it all and

(01:06:54):
all the money and all the blahblah blah blah to go to be true
because discerningness at thebase of the nervous system
recollection is not truly there.
So we do need to do thisre-update daily to put ourselves
updated so that we can startlearning how to receive the
beautiful big things in life andnow want to put out that
energy.

(01:07:14):
As we learn with Sajiva, thatmost people, when they start
doing the work and they get soturned on and so excited, all of
a sudden they want to they wantto just you know release the
energy through like manipulationof the you know genital organs,
you know, masturbation becausethey want to get that
electricity out because theydon't know how to sustain so
much life, they don't know howto circulate it, they don't know

(01:07:35):
how to derive the mind intocreating the future, and they
they get sometimes even morestuck into the past because they
have all this energy, and thenit goes into the mind trying to
analyze the past and the trauma,instead of put that energy into
what you want to create in thefuture, you know, like ha ha,
sexualize, make look to what youwant, because otherwise you're

(01:07:55):
gonna continue to create thesame predictable future from
that past that you don't emptyout.
So this is the gym of the soul,this is the true training.
Yes, definitely.
I don't wait, I don't liftweights, but I do lift my heart
and my body all day long.
And it's like this takes time.
This is a full-time job.

(01:08:16):
When my my my staff would tellme, or not tell me, but I knew
they thought the doctor onlyworks three days a week.
I always have this inside ofme, I'm like, I work Thursday,
Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, atriple full-time job.
And when I'm in the office andI'm in the mouth, the way I sit,
the way I open my hips, the wayI do everything from where I

(01:08:38):
used to do it, it's constantmeditation in process in
someone's mouth.
Like that was triple work.
So instead of me, I was like,girl, don't worry, you're not
like most dentists that work sixdays a week and are trapped
into their bodies.
You do constant work indifferent subtle ways, and that
that's work.

Kena Siu (01:08:59):
Yeah, yeah.
And as you say, it's it's it'sday-to-day, it's moment to
moment.
We come back to that presenceand also to that focus in the
future, as you said, becausemany times we get caught up in
the fact that, oh, but I knowhow to have the results that I
want.
Yeah, but you are not thatversion of you anymore.
Pass it on.

(01:09:19):
Like if you keep doing thework, if you keep shifting your
energy, if you keep doing thehealing and removing all those
water things that are stuck inthe body and in the mind as
well, then we are not the sameperson.
So it means that the futuregets to be different, but we
have to choose it, choose it,yeah, and it has to be it gets

(01:09:39):
closer and closer.

But humans, we we need the con like the
immediate reinforcement, yeah.
And that is not how itnecessarily, even though
everything is happening fasterbecause of all the changes, and
you know, like just the solarstorms and everything that's in
this new era, yeah.
But this is the point of beingin human shape, like it can't

(01:10:00):
everything is not instantbecause we need to learn what it
is that blocks exactly what wewant.
Because sometimes we as soon aswe think we want something, it
gets given to us, it's gonnacome in bad shape because we
don't even know how we trulywant things.
We think we know, and then whenwe put the wording behind it,
you know, the so we don't evenhave the right words, and we

(01:10:23):
don't we're not concrete.
We start to describe like thisis like a novella.
No, like sure, the universe islittle, and we don't know how to
give instructions to theuniverse.
So we need the space betweenthe desired outcome results
happening and our declarationsto really do the inner work and
say, is this truly how I wantit?

(01:10:44):
Or I take that out, I deleteit, I put this color here, I put
the shape here.
That's why it becomes like it'sart.
How do you design yourenvironments?
Yes, so but it's it'sbeautiful, and it doesn't take
away that it's a lot of timesdifficult.
And that it has to be known.

(01:11:05):
So for all of your audience,you know, so speaking directly
to them, whatever transition orwhatever old life they're
leaving behind, it requires yourtrue love for your next version
for you to put all your heartinto it, taking away the clock
because the result will happenif you get really truly like in

(01:11:26):
love with that who you want,like whoever you want to become.
But it's like a step at a time,one day at a time, one blink at
a time.
Just conquer one moment at atime, and that future gets
closer and closer and closer.
But let go of control, right?
Yeah, and that let God let go,let god.

Kena Siu (01:11:47):
Oh, I love that.
Easy to say, yes, okay, let go,let God beautiful.
Well, I guess that would beyeah, let go, let God.
I would be yeah, a nice placeto end this conversation, but
before that, I would like to askyou what's a pleasure that you

(01:12:12):
enjoy the most.

Oh, one more time, stretching.
I mean, I start I stretch allthrough the night.
Every time I wake up, like ifI'm if I go to the bathroom, I
go back, like if I turn around,I'm always like crack crack, ah
like finding like ah ah ah, thatnext space where ah ah ah where
I get oh so stretching for me,music and really closing my eyes

(01:12:41):
and touching my body, you know,that space of like a self-hug.
I I give myself the best hugs,like I I wrap myself around and
I'm like like I don't even fallon the like I fold it to myself,
you know, and I wanted to givethis one line that I hear a lot
within myself that is radicaldecisions or successful

(01:13:07):
transitions sometimes in life wehave to make radical decisions,
not because where we are iswrong, but because our soul is
calling for more.
But for that, it takes heart towalk into successful
transitions, right?
So radical decisions forsuccessful transitions,

(01:13:29):
especially for your audiencethat may be going through a
space of I'm not there, but I'mnot this, I'm running between,
and that's the space where youcreate yourself, yes, yeah.

Kena Siu (01:13:42):
And where can our audience can find you?

Well, the best way, this of course, still all
this is in Spanish, my my socialmedia, but it's Instagram is
Annette Losophy, so the end ofthe word philosophy, but with
Annette, my name.
My name usually in especiallyFrench ways, that the way that
it is is double N, double T andan E.
But mine is the Cuban version,so it's A-N-E-T-T-E.

(01:14:11):
My mom dropped an N to make iteasier for you know Latins, so
Annette Losophy.
And the same way in in Spanish,which is all you know, my brand
is sonrisas del alma, which issmilesoftheul.org, is the
website.
And that website does have awhole version in English, so

(01:14:32):
that's a beautiful part.
So because I have the methodthere, and there's a lot of
information that's there alreadyin the English language, which
is you know, it's in my heartbecause I learned English when I
was 15, and it was also abecoming, having to become
someone that I was not in themiddle of my teenage years,
where you're afraid,embarrassed.

(01:14:52):
So it's close to my heart thatwe we're actually doing this in
English when we actually speakin Spanish, if we are not in
camera.
So it's it's thank you forhaving me and to put myself out
there for people that don'tspeak my language, but uh speak
the language of the inner smile.

Kena Siu (01:15:10):
The language of the inner smile.
Yes, thank you.
Thank you so much, Annette.
I'm gonna put your links wherepeople can find you in the
comments, it's in the shownotes.
And wow, what a magical andjuicy, pleasurable conversation.
And yeah, my inner smile isit's super expanded at this

(01:15:35):
moment.
Thank you so much.

Thank you for having me.

Kena Siu (01:15:41):
Thank you for tuning in to Midlife Butterfly.
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(01:16:03):
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