Mindshift with Dr. Tala Andoni

Let yourself be just as you are, in this moment. Not perfect, not striving. Just here.

To stay connected to them, you had to disconnect… from you.

“Where do I even start?”

The answer isn’t complicated. You start with small practices that you can repeat. Over time, those tiny signals teach your nervous system that it’s safe to settle.

Healing doesn’t begin with fixing your thoughts.
Or doing everything perfectly.
Or pushing yourself to be different.

Healing begins with safety.

Your nervous system is always scanning the world, asking one question: Am I safe, or am I not?

And based on the answer, it moves you into one of three states automatically, without needing your conscious permission.

When your nervous system is overstimulated or overtired, your thoughts can get noisy, fast, and distorted. Not because you’re doing anything wrong. But because your whole system is on high alert. It’s like trying to read through foggy glasses. Or tune into a radio station with too much static.

What would it feel like to be loved and safe even if I didn’t get everything right today? You are not your productivity. You are not your performance. You are a whole person, one who is allowed to slow down, mess up, rest, and still be worthy.

We often try to fix how we feel. But sometimes, the most powerful thing we can do is just notice.

“I don’t feel safe” is something deeper. It’s your nervous system saying: “Something here reminds me of a threat.”

It’s such an important question because feeling connected isn’t something you can force. You can’t think your way into it or talk yourself into calm. True self-connection comes from creating small shifts, over and over, until your nervous system starts to believe them.

Think back to a moment recently where you felt uneasy, even though things seemed fine. Could your body have been remembering a past pattern?

There’s a quiet layer of stress we don’t always catch:
The way we speak to ourselves when things aren’t going to plan.

Healing isn’t a syllabus.
It’s not a checklist.
It’s a relationship you build with yourself, with your nervous system, with the part of you that always thinks you need to hurry.

Your body is always scanning for safety

Some days feel like progress. Other days not yourself.

You’ve met the three states of your nervous system

Can you shift between them?

What if the person you needed safety from… was you?

Your nervous system shifts you into one of three states

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