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Speaker 1 (00:02):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEFM dot com.
All you have to do is click submit Strawberry Letter
and we could be reading your letter live on the air,
just like we're going to read this one right here,
right now.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
You never know, it could be yours, could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for
you here. It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Thank you nephew. Subject my marriage or My Pleasure.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
Dear Stephen Shirley, I've been married almost twenty years and
my husband has put me in a difficult position. When
we first got together, we were swingers for a few years.
We only did it when we were on vacation, and
it was only with the couples we traveled with. We
used to have an occasional threesome, so my husband would
be happy. He would not let me bring another man
(00:52):
into the threesome, so he let me go have sex
with an old friend of mine a few times over
the years. But lately my husband doesn't want to have
sex at all. He said he's had enough wild sexual
experiences to last a lifetime. It's not a medical thing
because his stuff is still working properly. It's been eight
months since he's touched me, and on top of that,
(01:15):
he changed the rules of our marriage. He told me
that if he suspects I'm hooking up with my guy
on the side, he will leave me. I do not
like ultimatums, so I told him that I need to
be pleasured, and since he's changed his outlook on intimacy,
I have to handle business elsewhere. Two days ago, after work,
(01:36):
I went to meet my side guy for drinks. We
plan to have sex after drinks, so we started fooling
around at the bar. I couldn't wait to give him
a nice long kiss. As we were kissing, my husband
walked up and asked me to leave with him. I left,
but I did not talk to him all the way home.
He has threatened to divorce me, and he said he
(01:58):
will say I cheated on him the paperwork.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
How can he do that when.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
We've cheated on each other and with each other all
of a sudden. He is a model husband, and he's
forgotten that he introduced me to this lifestyle. I need
to stay married because we have too many assets together.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
But I need the D two. What should I do here? Why?
Speaker 1 (02:22):
What?
Speaker 2 (02:23):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (02:24):
Okay, See, this is what happens when swinging in threesomes
and going outside of your marriage for sex and all that.
This is what happens when it goes bad. One thing
is true that your husband said, and that is that
he's had enough wild sex to last him a lifetime.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
I believe that.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
I don't see how you guys made it for twenty
years doing this, But why don't you believe him? Yes,
he may have introduced you to this lifestyle, but he
says he's done with it now. People grow, people change,
people change all the time. He's over it. The problem
is there's two of you in this marriage. He introduced
you to this lifestyle and now he's made the decision
(03:05):
without you to stop it. It's good that he doesn't
want to swing anymore, because maybe your marriage has a
chance to survive, although I really don't see it at
this point because you said you just want to stay
together because you have too many assets together. But the
fact is that he doesn't want to have sex with
you anymore is definitely an issue if you guys are
(03:27):
going to be together. I mean what are you supposed
to do with this new information? And what are you
supposed to do in a marriage with no sex? So
you continue to do what you've been doing, seeing other guys,
seeing your side guy, and that's what he said is
going to make him leave you.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Now he's given you an ultimatum which you said you
don't like.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
So it sounds like your husband is serious about all
of this. So if you don't stop having sex with
others and he doesn't start having sex with you again,
your marriage, and I use that term very loosely, your
marriage or your version of marriage is over. So those
are your options. Those are your options. It's not really
much of a marriage anyway.
Speaker 4 (04:08):
Steve, Well, let's comment on this raggedy letter, my marriage
or my pleasure?
Speaker 3 (04:15):
Well, I don't know what to tell you letter, I
really don't.
Speaker 4 (04:18):
You've been married for almost twenty years and now you're
saying your husband has put you in.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
A difficult situation. That's really odd to you.
Speaker 4 (04:26):
And then you start telling us how when y'all was together,
y'all was swingers for a few years. Really we only
did it when we were on vacation, and it was
only with couples. We travel with Why do these people
be finding each other out?
Speaker 3 (04:43):
Is it a web site?
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Yes, all of that?
Speaker 3 (04:47):
What is going Oh? Man, I ain't never what's going on?
Speaker 4 (04:51):
How do you who introduces this to the other person?
How do you take this in there to your wife
and go, baby, I've been looking at this way here,
I wanna try this.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
Yeah, I don't hear these people.
Speaker 4 (05:06):
Then she said, we used to have an occasional threesome
so my husband would be happy, and he would not
let me bring another man into the threesome. Well, I
mean I understand that personally, but you said something to
here is very telling.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
We used to have an.
Speaker 4 (05:24):
Occasional threesome so my husband would be happy. Oh okay, okay,
so not the swinging wasn't enough. Let's do a threesome
so your husband could be happy.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
And he found you and you married into this.
Speaker 4 (05:44):
So since he wouldn't let you bring another man, he
would let you go have sex with an old friend
of yours for a few times over the years. But
lately my husband don't want to have sex at all.
Let me just say this, he tied to you. He
tied to you, and he don't love you. Any time
(06:09):
you send your wife off to the arms of another
man's because you don't care nothing about her.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
You just don't care about her.
Speaker 4 (06:19):
And that's the reality of one of the aspects of
this letter. Your husband don't give it about you. I'm
gonna send you off to another man. I'm gonna bring
another woman in here. We gonna swing. I'm gonna watch
another man do you, and you watch me do another woman.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
Man, get out of here.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Hang on, Steve, hang on.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
We'll have part two of your response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter, subject my.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Marriage or My Pleasure. We'll get back into it right
after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
All right, come on, steveecap Today's strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
The subject is my marriage or my Pleasure.
Speaker 4 (07:06):
A couple be married twenty years. They used to be swingers,
but they only did it on vacation with couples that
they went on vacation with. I don't know how they
found each other. People do it all the time. No,
then he said, she said, well, you used to have
an occasional threesome, so my husband would be happy. So
he need all this he to convince you to give
(07:26):
yourself to another man while y'all on vacation, so he
could be with another woman on vacation. And now he
wanted some more women in here so he could be happy.
But he wouldn't let you bring a man in the
room because now it's two dudes in him, and he.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
Wouldn't let you do that.
Speaker 4 (07:44):
But he would let you go have sex with an
old friend a few times over the years. But lately
my husband don't want to have sex at all because
he don't give it about you. If you with the
man that will let you let another man have you,
it's because he don't value you. There's no value. I mean,
I would want somebody to marry me because they loved
(08:06):
me and wanted to be with me and share life
with me, not share me with other people life.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
Y'all ain't got nothing here.
Speaker 4 (08:16):
He said he had enough wild sex experiences to last
a lifetime. Is not a medical thing because his stuff
is still working properly. It's been eight months since he
touched me, and on top of that, he changed the
rules of our marriage. Or it's been eight months since
he touched he tied of you. See, he done went
along with this all these years now he tired of it,
(08:36):
and he tired of you. He told me that if
he suspects I'm hooking up with my guy on the side,
he will leave me. I don't like ultimatoms, so I
told him I need to be pleasured. And since he's
changed it out look on intimacy, I have to handle
my business elsewhere.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
Okay, why don't y'all just get divorced.
Speaker 4 (08:56):
Y'all ain't had no marriage and it begyon't even why
you call it my marriage or my pleasure.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
It's just been a hookup for pleasure. Y'all. Just swingers
or threesomes, dating.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
Apps, wild parties, pass around y'all been passing each other
around for twenty years. Two days ago, after work, I
went to meet my side guy for drinks. We plan
to have sex after drinks, so we started fooling around
the bar. I couldn't wait to give him a nice
long kiss. As we was kissing, my husband walked up
and asked me to leave with him. Wait a minute,
(09:26):
what see, where's.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
The police report at right here? But I don't understand.
Speaker 4 (09:35):
I walk up my wife kissing the man he asked
me to leave with him. We're not finna leave him.
We're not finna leave him. Well, we can't go no where.
I gotta pay for the damages. I got it. You
know when they put that yellow temper up, it says
(09:57):
you cannot cross it. We can't even get out of here.
I got to fill out this police report. I'm in
the backseat of the car talking. I got to go
down here to this little interview room so they and
talk to me downtown and he asked me to leave
with him, but I left, but I did not talk
(10:20):
to him all the way home. He has threatened to
divorce me, and he said he will say that I
cheated on him on the paperwork. How can he do
that when we've cheated on each other and with each
other all of a sudden, he's a model husband and
he's forgot that.
Speaker 3 (10:37):
He introduced me to this lifestyle.
Speaker 4 (10:40):
I need to stay married because we have too many
assets together.
Speaker 3 (10:44):
But I need the D two. What should I do here?
Speaker 4 (10:51):
Well, this marriage is a rap because it never was
a marriage. And you're right, and he introduced you to
this lifestyle. Now he want to change it. But now
you living a life. This is your style, this is it?
Do you know in this whole letter. The word love
was never mentioned, not one single time. Ain't nobody in
(11:15):
love with nobody? You sitting at the box, couldn't wait
to kiss this man?
Speaker 3 (11:19):
Your husband? Come up?
Speaker 4 (11:20):
He ain't even upset he tell you to leave with him?
Speaker 3 (11:25):
Ain't neither one of y'all in love? Wow?
Speaker 4 (11:29):
So what you're fighting for this marriage for? Why aren't
you gonna be free so you can do whatever you want? Well,
at least assets is what you're talking about, right? What
didnt happened is see all this asset and set all
this emotion.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Come on, break it down one more time.
Speaker 3 (11:46):
I like it.
Speaker 4 (11:47):
I said all his assets to set all this in emotion.
That's what your asset and done?
Speaker 2 (11:56):
Right?
Speaker 3 (11:58):
Y'all at the relationship all five.
Speaker 4 (12:04):
See, So now you're talking about this, let's talk about
assets for minutes. Like I said, all this assets to
set all this in motion, and y'all been passing out
in sets. This ain't even a good tennis match. Tennis
(12:27):
was played in sets with two people. Ain't never been
three people on tennis court. You gotta play doubles. So
this is a rap. I don't really, lady, I can't
help you stay in the marriage. He's not having sex
with you, but I want you to understand something. He
(12:48):
having sex somewhere, having sex for eight months. Let me
tell you that right now.
Speaker 2 (12:53):
All right, all right, Steve, thank you.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Hit us up on Instagram at Steve Harvey Fm to
comment on today's Strawberry Letter. You can also check out
the Strawberry Letter podcast on the iHeart App. Okay, coming
up in forty six minutes after the hour, we got
Junior and Sports talk right after this.
Speaker 3 (13:10):
YO, this is Jamie Fox, This is Kim Whitley.
Speaker 4 (13:12):
You already know what it is, mantion mat Chico Bean,
and you are now listening to the Steve Horvey Morning Show.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEFM dot com.
All you have to do is click submit Strawberry Letter
and we could be reading your letter live on the air,
just like we're going to read this one right here,
right now.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
You never know, it could be yours, could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for
you here. It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Thank you nephew. Subject my marriage or My Pleasure.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
Dear Stephen Shirley, I've been married almost twenty years and
my husband has put me in a difficult position. When
we first got together, we were swingers for a few years.
We only did it when we were on vacation, and
it was only with the couples we traveled with. We
used to have an occasional threesome, so my husband would
be happy. He would not let me bring another man
(00:52):
into the threesome, so he let me go have sex
with an old friend of mine a few times over
the years. But lately my husband doesn't want to have
sex at all. He said he's had enough wild sexual
experiences to last a lifetime. It's not a medical thing
because his stuff is still working properly. It's been eight
months since he's touched me, and on top of that,
(01:15):
he changed the rules of our marriage. He told me
that if he suspects I'm hooking up with my guy
on the side, he will leave me. I do not
like ultimatums, so I told him that I need to
be pleasured, and since he's changed his outlook on intimacy,
I have to handle business elsewhere. Two days ago, after work,
(01:36):
I went to meet my side guy for drinks. We
plan to have sex after drinks, so we started fooling
around at the bar. I couldn't wait to give him
a nice long kiss. As we were kissing, my husband
walked up and asked me to leave with him. I left,
but I did not talk to him all the way home.
He has threatened to divorce me, and he said he
(01:58):
will say I cheated on him the paperwork.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
How can he do that when.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
We've cheated on each other and with each other all
of a sudden. He is a model husband, and he's
forgotten that he introduced me to this lifestyle. I need
to stay married because we have too many assets together.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
But I need the D two. What should I do here? Why?
Speaker 1 (02:22):
What?
Speaker 2 (02:23):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (02:24):
Okay, See, this is what happens when swinging in threesomes
and going outside of your marriage for sex and all that.
This is what happens when it goes bad. One thing
is true that your husband said, and that is that
he's had enough wild sex to last him a lifetime.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
I believe that.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
I don't see how you guys made it for twenty
years doing this, But why don't you believe him? Yes,
he may have introduced you to this lifestyle, but he
says he's done with it now. People grow, people change,
people change all the time. He's over it. The problem
is there's two of you in this marriage. He introduced
you to this lifestyle and now he's made the decision
(03:05):
without you to stop it. It's good that he doesn't
want to swing anymore, because maybe your marriage has a
chance to survive, although I really don't see it at
this point because you said you just want to stay
together because you have too many assets together. But the
fact is that he doesn't want to have sex with
you anymore is definitely an issue if you guys are
(03:27):
going to be together. I mean what are you supposed
to do with this new information? And what are you
supposed to do in a marriage with no sex? So
you continue to do what you've been doing, seeing other guys,
seeing your side guy, and that's what he said is
going to make him leave you.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Now he's given you an ultimatum which you said you
don't like.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
So it sounds like your husband is serious about all
of this. So if you don't stop having sex with
others and he doesn't start having sex with you again,
your marriage, and I use that term very loosely, your
marriage or your version of marriage is over. So those
are your options. Those are your options. It's not really
much of a marriage anyway.
Speaker 4 (04:08):
Steve, Well, let's comment on this raggedy letter, my marriage
or my pleasure?
Speaker 3 (04:15):
Well, I don't know what to tell you letter, I
really don't.
Speaker 4 (04:18):
You've been married for almost twenty years and now you're
saying your husband has put you in.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
A difficult situation. That's really odd to you.
Speaker 4 (04:26):
And then you start telling us how when y'all was together,
y'all was swingers for a few years. Really we only
did it when we were on vacation, and it was
only with couples. We travel with Why do these people
be finding each other out?
Speaker 3 (04:43):
Is it a web site?
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Yes, all of that?
Speaker 3 (04:47):
What is going Oh? Man, I ain't never what's going on?
Speaker 4 (04:51):
How do you who introduces this to the other person?
How do you take this in there to your wife
and go, baby, I've been looking at this way here,
I wanna try this.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
Yeah, I don't hear these people.
Speaker 4 (05:06):
Then she said, we used to have an occasional threesome
so my husband would be happy, and he would not
let me bring another man into the threesome. Well, I
mean I understand that personally, but you said something to
here is very telling.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
We used to have an.
Speaker 4 (05:24):
Occasional threesome so my husband would be happy. Oh okay, okay,
so not the swinging wasn't enough. Let's do a threesome
so your husband could be happy.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
And he found you and you married into this.
Speaker 4 (05:44):
So since he wouldn't let you bring another man, he
would let you go have sex with an old friend
of yours for a few times over the years. But
lately my husband don't want to have sex at all.
Let me just say this, he tied to you. He
tied to you, and he don't love you. Any time
(06:09):
you send your wife off to the arms of another
man's because you don't care nothing about her.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
You just don't care about her.
Speaker 4 (06:19):
And that's the reality of one of the aspects of
this letter. Your husband don't give it about you. I'm
gonna send you off to another man. I'm gonna bring
another woman in here. We gonna swing. I'm gonna watch
another man do you, and you watch me do another woman.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
Man, get out of here.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Hang on, Steve, hang on.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
We'll have part two of your response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter, subject my.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Marriage or My Pleasure. We'll get back into it right
after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
All right, come on, steveecap Today's strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
The subject is my marriage or my Pleasure.
Speaker 4 (07:06):
A couple be married twenty years. They used to be swingers,
but they only did it on vacation with couples that
they went on vacation with. I don't know how they
found each other. People do it all the time. No,
then he said, she said, well, you used to have
an occasional threesome, so my husband would be happy. So
he need all this he to convince you to give
(07:26):
yourself to another man while y'all on vacation, so he
could be with another woman on vacation. And now he
wanted some more women in here so he could be happy.
But he wouldn't let you bring a man in the
room because now it's two dudes in him, and he.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
Wouldn't let you do that.
Speaker 4 (07:44):
But he would let you go have sex with an
old friend a few times over the years. But lately
my husband don't want to have sex at all because
he don't give it about you. If you with the
man that will let you let another man have you,
it's because he don't value you. There's no value. I mean,
I would want somebody to marry me because they loved
(08:06):
me and wanted to be with me and share life
with me, not share me with other people life.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
Y'all ain't got nothing here.
Speaker 4 (08:16):
He said he had enough wild sex experiences to last
a lifetime. Is not a medical thing because his stuff
is still working properly. It's been eight months since he
touched me, and on top of that, he changed the
rules of our marriage. Or it's been eight months since
he touched he tied of you. See, he done went
along with this all these years now he tired of it,
(08:36):
and he tired of you. He told me that if
he suspects I'm hooking up with my guy on the side,
he will leave me. I don't like ultimatoms, so I
told him I need to be pleasured. And since he's
changed it out look on intimacy, I have to handle
my business elsewhere.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
Okay, why don't y'all just get divorced.
Speaker 4 (08:56):
Y'all ain't had no marriage and it begyon't even why
you call it my marriage or my pleasure.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
It's just been a hookup for pleasure. Y'all. Just swingers
or threesomes, dating.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
Apps, wild parties, pass around y'all been passing each other
around for twenty years. Two days ago, after work, I
went to meet my side guy for drinks. We plan
to have sex after drinks, so we started fooling around
the bar. I couldn't wait to give him a nice
long kiss. As we was kissing, my husband walked up
and asked me to leave with him. Wait a minute,
(09:26):
what see, where's.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
The police report at right here? But I don't understand.
Speaker 4 (09:35):
I walk up my wife kissing the man he asked
me to leave with him. We're not finna leave him.
We're not finna leave him. Well, we can't go no where.
I gotta pay for the damages. I got it. You
know when they put that yellow temper up, it says
(09:57):
you cannot cross it. We can't even get out of here.
I got to fill out this police report. I'm in
the backseat of the car talking. I got to go
down here to this little interview room so they and
talk to me downtown and he asked me to leave
with him, but I left, but I did not talk
(10:20):
to him all the way home. He has threatened to
divorce me, and he said he will say that I
cheated on him on the paperwork. How can he do
that when we've cheated on each other and with each
other all of a sudden, he's a model husband and
he's forgot that.
Speaker 3 (10:37):
He introduced me to this lifestyle.
Speaker 4 (10:40):
I need to stay married because we have too many
assets together.
Speaker 3 (10:44):
But I need the D two. What should I do here?
Speaker 4 (10:51):
Well, this marriage is a rap because it never was
a marriage. And you're right, and he introduced you to
this lifestyle. Now he want to change it. But now
you living a life. This is your style, this is it?
Do you know in this whole letter. The word love
was never mentioned, not one single time. Ain't nobody in
(11:15):
love with nobody? You sitting at the box, couldn't wait
to kiss this man?
Speaker 3 (11:19):
Your husband? Come up?
Speaker 4 (11:20):
He ain't even upset he tell you to leave with him?
Speaker 3 (11:25):
Ain't neither one of y'all in love? Wow?
Speaker 4 (11:29):
So what you're fighting for this marriage for? Why aren't
you gonna be free so you can do whatever you want? Well,
at least assets is what you're talking about, right? What
didnt happened is see all this asset and set all
this emotion.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Come on, break it down one more time.
Speaker 3 (11:46):
I like it.
Speaker 4 (11:47):
I said all his assets to set all this in emotion.
That's what your asset and done?
Speaker 2 (11:56):
Right?
Speaker 3 (11:58):
Y'all at the relationship all five.
Speaker 4 (12:04):
See, So now you're talking about this, let's talk about
assets for minutes. Like I said, all this assets to
set all this in motion, and y'all been passing out
in sets. This ain't even a good tennis match. Tennis
(12:27):
was played in sets with two people. Ain't never been
three people on tennis court. You gotta play doubles. So
this is a rap. I don't really, lady, I can't
help you stay in the marriage. He's not having sex
with you, but I want you to understand something. He
(12:48):
having sex somewhere, having sex for eight months. Let me
tell you that right now.
Speaker 2 (12:53):
All right, all right, Steve, thank you.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Hit us up on Instagram at Steve Harvey Fm to
comment on today's Strawberry Letter. You can also check out
the Strawberry Letter podcast on the iHeart App. Okay, coming
up in forty six minutes after the hour, we got
Junior and Sports talk right after this.
Speaker 3 (13:10):
YO, this is Jamie Fox, This is Kim Whitley.
Speaker 4 (13:12):
You already know what it is, mantion mat Chico Bean,
and you are now listening to the Steve Horvey Morning Show.
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