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Speaker 1 (00:00):
WMXD, Detroit.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Time for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you need advice
on relationships, works, sex, parenting, and more, we do want
to hear from you, So please submit your Strawberry Letter
to STEVEHARBFM dot com. Click on submit Strawberry Letter and
we could be reading your letter live on the air,
just like we're going to read this one right here,
right now. You never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Yeah, ladies and gentlemen, it is time for the Strawberry Letter. Well,
my good friend Shirley Strawberry, Thank.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
You, junior. Subject to keeping a secret always backfires. Dear Stephen, Shirley,
I'm in my late twenties and I got married two
years ago. My husband is eleven years older than I am,
and he's a great man, but he went through a
brief period of ed before we got married. I was
young and carefree at the time, so I did something
(00:53):
very stupid. I had gone for close to three months
without sex with my man, and I went to a
wedding back in my hometown and had sex with my
ex boyfriend from high school. All of the feelings I
had for him came flooding back, and I had an
affair with him for two months. He flew in to
see me during the week and I would leave work
(01:13):
and spend the afternoon with him at different hotels. Then
he ghosted me without any explanation, and I was deeply hurt.
I confided in one of my closest friends, and she
kept it real with me and said I needed to
get over it and marry the man that's in love
with me. I got engaged and this close friend wanted
(01:35):
to be a bridesmaid, but I had to choose my
fiancee's sister instead of her. She told me that she understood,
and I was relieved until one of our other friends
told me that the girl was calling me a lucky
bee behind my back. I thought she was jealous because
she was single, so I let it slide. I got
pregnant on my wedding night, and my life has been
(01:57):
NonStop since then. I ran into my old friend and
she was very bitter. I want to hug her, and
she pulled back. She said I ghosted her after I
got everything I wanted, and my husband should know who
I really am in love with. I insisted that I
do love my husband and that affair I had was
a mistake. She walked away smirking and said, have a
(02:21):
nice life. Do I try to fix our friendship so
she won't tell my secret? Well, I say no, because
she's not your friend, and she's not anyone that you
need in your life right now. I mean, you know,
not with all the negative energy she's got around her.
I would stay as far away from her as possible.
I mean, you said, it's been two years since you
(02:42):
got married, got pregnant, and more than two years since
the affair. I see, you're a major mom with serious
responsibilities now, and what she's talking about is petty and
more than that, it's over. It's done with, so continue
to live your NonStop life like you've been doing. This
girl is bitter because you didn't put her in your wedding,
(03:03):
even though she said at the time it was cool
you didn't ghost her. It's just that your life changed
so drastically after marriage. You had a husband and a
baby and very little time for anything else. I think
a real friend would have understood that. But now she's
threatening to use some two year old before you were
married affair against you, which means she hasn't moved on
(03:26):
and you have. She's still upset and she hasn't forgiven you.
I think she was gonna. If she was going to
use this infosts, she would have done it before now.
And I just think you need to, you know, keep
it pushing, keep moving forward, and let her stay behind
where she needs to be and out of your life.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
Steve Well, Shirley's correct. Carry yes, But let me say
this to you. Let's just start with the subject. Keeping
a secret always backfire. One of my favorite lines, shut shit, mom.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
All secrets.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
That's why they call him a secret because a lot
of people do keep secrets. There are a lot of secrets.
That's secrets in the ocean. You can dive down there
if you want. You try to discover them, but you're
gonna die because there are secrets that you have to
carry to your grave.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
I have them, they're going with me.
Speaker 3 (04:28):
I don't even have the urge to tell them. I
don't have like moments where my guilty bothered me and
stuff washed over me.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
I don't even have that.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
What that's my secret that you in your late twenties,
you got married two years ago, your husband eleven years
older than you, and he has some erectile dysfunction. Before
you got married, so you was carefree. Y'all didn't have
sex for three months, and you just got horned. You
went to your ex hometown and ran up in your
ex boyfriend at a wind and all the feelings you
(04:59):
had for him.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
I came back, and then you.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
Had a fan with him at the wad it before
you was married. That's your secret. The problem is you
ain't keep it. The secret you told somebody. I don't
know what the hell you told somebody folk what you did.
So you had the found for two months. He flew
in to see me during the week. I would leave
work and spend the afternoon with him at different hotels.
(05:23):
That boy was flying in bringing it it was convenient.
Then he ghosted me without any explanation, and I was
deeply hurt. Well, you showed up at the wedding with
no explanation. You had fiance, You did something without explaining
(05:44):
to him, so he ghosted you. Ain't no big deal.
You were hurt. Here's the mistake you made. You confided
in one of your closest friends, who we will refer
through to throughout the rest of this letter as the skank.
You you confided in your skank, as you say, as
(06:11):
your closest friend, but we will refer to her from
the rest of this morning show as that that skank,
the skank, all skank.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
Oh wow, highlights number three.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
Yeah, she kept it real with me and said I
needed to get over it and marry the man that's
in love with me. I got engaged in his close
friend wanted to be a bridesmaid, but I had to
choose my fiance sister instead of her. That's why you
made a mistake. And when we come back, I'll tell
you what you should have told your fiance.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
All right, we'll have partly two of Steve's response coming
up at twenty three minutes after the hour of the
subject of today's Strawberry Letter, Keeping a secret always backfires.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening, Steve.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
Hard thirty thirty.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry Letter
and finish up with your response. Let's go.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
This young woman in her twenties had a man eleven
years old. They were gonna get married. He experienced some
ed and erectile dysfunction and she needed to get herself fixed,
so she went to her ex boyfriend, who lived in
another town she was at a wed, ran up in him.
They had feelings and they had sex, and then she
(07:27):
ended up having her a fam for two months who
used to fly in town and she leave work early,
go down to the hotel and get ranged, you know,
and just things were just happening down there. The word
is ranched, rank. You ain't ever been ranched before. I
recommend it happened before you die.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
It's very cleansing.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
So she went out there and she got ranched, and
just oh oh, you ranching, just raanching off. And you know,
it's a derivative of rents. It's a country way of
saying risk. Like you know, rink that out range, that
out ranch, that means harder, and you ranch.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
It's harder.
Speaker 3 (08:10):
If you get a wrench, that's one thing, but if
you get that ranch, that's a whole nother thing, you
know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
So you had to do like that.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
So now shoot, yeah, I'm just when we do here,
we educate, and so now.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
And so now.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
You come back and he's been at that hotel, tencare
business and then out of nowhere he ghosted you. Why
you were surprised about that? I don't know, and you
were deeply hurt, so you confided in the skank. You
told skanky, and skank kept it real with you and
(08:53):
said I needed to get over it and marry a
man that's in love with me. Now skank was right
about that. Now, so you did what skank said. I
got engaged and this skank wanted to be a bridesmaid,
but I had to choose my fiance sister instead of her. No,
(09:15):
you did it. It is your wedding. You let the
fact that he was eleven years older than you and
his sister want to be in a wind because she sang,
I ain't never been in no wind.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
You ain't. Nobody never asked her to be in no win.
Speaker 3 (09:28):
She want to be in the wind so she can
get in the line, catch the bouquet, because ain't nobody
finna ask her ugly to marry her at tall So
she thinks I know she never because she forced herself
in the wedding. Ther people always pushing themself in weddings
and stuff. Other people know how to barge in. You know.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
Qute people go oh I'm not selected. Okay, well good luck.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
You know, but ugly people, you gonna want me, I'm
gonna tell my brother put me in your web. Now
we don have to get all this extra fabric to
make her dress. Now she down there with the meal.
She had special cuts put in the dress because she big.
Now she got the stomach out and both side panels out.
She didn't even look like rest to dribe me. But anyway,
she got in the wed. Now, the problem you had
(10:10):
was your skank thought that she should be in the
wed because y'all was cool. This is what happens when
you cool with a cake. So skank told you she understood.
I was relieved, and to one of your other friends
told you that the skank was calling you a lucky
bee behind your back. I thought she was jealous because
(10:34):
she was single, so I let it slide.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Then you got pregnant on your wedt night.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
Your life been non stop every since you ran into
your skank. You ran in the skank cat, let's give
her name. You ran up in the skank cat, skank ketto.
You ran up in the skan ketto, and she was
very bitter. I went to hug and she pulled back.
That's because she she said, I ghosted her after I
(11:03):
got everything I wanted and my husband should know who
I'm really in love with. I insisted that I do
love my husband and that affair was a mistake.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
She walked away smirking and said, have a nice life.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
Do I try to fix our friendship so she won't
tell my secret? Sureley's absolutely correct, Absolutely not. You don't
try to fix this relationship with escape. This ain't your friend,
she's escaped. Why would you want to fix it with eskank.
What you got to do is fix her. See stop
being the victim all the time. Naw, she's gonna threaten
(11:37):
to go to your husband with this news. Couple things
you need to do. First of all, do what men do, Lie,
I mean, look just as surprised. Surely I want you
to be the girl coming to tell my husband what
you know. Start and I'm gonna show her how she
need to be.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Okay, Clarence, Hi, you remember me. I'm a Betty your
wife's friend.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
I wanted to be.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Well to come over because you know, there's some things
about Betty that you don't know, and I wanted to
let you know that I know something about her that
I think, Yeah, I think you should know this about her.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Okay, No, we all need to tell something. Go ahead,
Well I don't.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
I don't know anything about that. I just know what
I know.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
What is that?
Speaker 2 (12:32):
Well, you remember like there was a period of time
like three months before you guys got married where you
guys didn't have sex. You remember that? You don't remember that.
You're trying to say, Yeah, I'm trying to say Clarence.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
Had D Clais, how does Heffer? How does Heffer know
you had ED? No, you had e D. Pirates?
Speaker 2 (13:04):
All right, so can it can go something like that?
Hit us up on Instagram and Steve BRBFM to comment
on today's Strawberry Letter. You can also check out the
Strawberry Letter podcast on demand.
WMXD, Detroit.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Time for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you need advice
on relationships, works, sex, parenting, and more, we do want
to hear from you, So please submit your Strawberry Letter
to STEVEHARBFM dot com. Click on submit Strawberry Letter and
we could be reading your letter live on the air,
just like we're going to read this one right here,
right now. You never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Yeah, ladies and gentlemen, it is time for the Strawberry Letter. Well,
my good friend Shirley Strawberry, Thank.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
You, junior. Subject to keeping a secret always backfires. Dear Stephen, Shirley,
I'm in my late twenties and I got married two
years ago. My husband is eleven years older than I am,
and he's a great man, but he went through a
brief period of ed before we got married. I was
young and carefree at the time, so I did something
(00:53):
very stupid. I had gone for close to three months
without sex with my man, and I went to a
wedding back in my hometown and had sex with my
ex boyfriend from high school. All of the feelings I
had for him came flooding back, and I had an
affair with him for two months. He flew in to
see me during the week and I would leave work
(01:13):
and spend the afternoon with him at different hotels. Then
he ghosted me without any explanation, and I was deeply hurt.
I confided in one of my closest friends, and she
kept it real with me and said I needed to
get over it and marry the man that's in love
with me. I got engaged and this close friend wanted
(01:35):
to be a bridesmaid, but I had to choose my
fiancee's sister instead of her. She told me that she understood,
and I was relieved until one of our other friends
told me that the girl was calling me a lucky
bee behind my back. I thought she was jealous because
she was single, so I let it slide. I got
pregnant on my wedding night, and my life has been
(01:57):
NonStop since then. I ran into my old friend and
she was very bitter. I want to hug her, and
she pulled back. She said I ghosted her after I
got everything I wanted, and my husband should know who
I really am in love with. I insisted that I
do love my husband and that affair I had was
a mistake. She walked away smirking and said, have a
(02:21):
nice life. Do I try to fix our friendship so
she won't tell my secret? Well, I say no, because
she's not your friend, and she's not anyone that you
need in your life right now. I mean, you know,
not with all the negative energy she's got around her.
I would stay as far away from her as possible.
I mean, you said, it's been two years since you
(02:42):
got married, got pregnant, and more than two years since
the affair. I see, you're a major mom with serious
responsibilities now, and what she's talking about is petty and
more than that, it's over. It's done with, so continue
to live your NonStop life like you've been doing. This
girl is bitter because you didn't put her in your wedding,
(03:03):
even though she said at the time it was cool
you didn't ghost her. It's just that your life changed
so drastically after marriage. You had a husband and a
baby and very little time for anything else. I think
a real friend would have understood that. But now she's
threatening to use some two year old before you were
married affair against you, which means she hasn't moved on
(03:26):
and you have. She's still upset and she hasn't forgiven you.
I think she was gonna. If she was going to
use this infosts, she would have done it before now.
And I just think you need to, you know, keep
it pushing, keep moving forward, and let her stay behind
where she needs to be and out of your life.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
Steve Well, Shirley's correct. Carry yes, But let me say
this to you. Let's just start with the subject. Keeping
a secret always backfire. One of my favorite lines, shut shit, mom.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
All secrets.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
That's why they call him a secret because a lot
of people do keep secrets. There are a lot of secrets.
That's secrets in the ocean. You can dive down there
if you want. You try to discover them, but you're
gonna die because there are secrets that you have to
carry to your grave.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
I have them, they're going with me.
Speaker 3 (04:28):
I don't even have the urge to tell them. I
don't have like moments where my guilty bothered me and
stuff washed over me.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
I don't even have that.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
What that's my secret that you in your late twenties,
you got married two years ago, your husband eleven years
older than you, and he has some erectile dysfunction. Before
you got married, so you was carefree. Y'all didn't have
sex for three months, and you just got horned. You
went to your ex hometown and ran up in your
ex boyfriend at a wind and all the feelings you
(04:59):
had for him.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
I came back, and then you.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
Had a fan with him at the wad it before
you was married. That's your secret. The problem is you
ain't keep it. The secret you told somebody. I don't
know what the hell you told somebody folk what you did.
So you had the found for two months. He flew
in to see me during the week. I would leave
work and spend the afternoon with him at different hotels.
(05:23):
That boy was flying in bringing it it was convenient.
Then he ghosted me without any explanation, and I was
deeply hurt. Well, you showed up at the wedding with
no explanation. You had fiance, You did something without explaining
(05:44):
to him, so he ghosted you. Ain't no big deal.
You were hurt. Here's the mistake you made. You confided
in one of your closest friends, who we will refer
through to throughout the rest of this letter as the skank.
You you confided in your skank, as you say, as
(06:11):
your closest friend, but we will refer to her from
the rest of this morning show as that that skank,
the skank, all skank.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
Oh wow, highlights number three.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
Yeah, she kept it real with me and said I
needed to get over it and marry the man that's
in love with me. I got engaged in his close
friend wanted to be a bridesmaid, but I had to
choose my fiance sister instead of her. That's why you
made a mistake. And when we come back, I'll tell
you what you should have told your fiance.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
All right, we'll have partly two of Steve's response coming
up at twenty three minutes after the hour of the
subject of today's Strawberry Letter, Keeping a secret always backfires.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening, Steve.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
Hard thirty thirty.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry Letter
and finish up with your response. Let's go.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
This young woman in her twenties had a man eleven
years old. They were gonna get married. He experienced some
ed and erectile dysfunction and she needed to get herself fixed,
so she went to her ex boyfriend, who lived in
another town she was at a wed, ran up in him.
They had feelings and they had sex, and then she
(07:27):
ended up having her a fam for two months who
used to fly in town and she leave work early,
go down to the hotel and get ranged, you know,
and just things were just happening down there. The word
is ranched, rank. You ain't ever been ranched before. I
recommend it happened before you die.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
It's very cleansing.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
So she went out there and she got ranched, and
just oh oh, you ranching, just raanching off. And you know,
it's a derivative of rents. It's a country way of
saying risk. Like you know, rink that out range, that
out ranch, that means harder, and you ranch.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
It's harder.
Speaker 3 (08:10):
If you get a wrench, that's one thing, but if
you get that ranch, that's a whole nother thing, you
know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
So you had to do like that.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
So now shoot, yeah, I'm just when we do here,
we educate, and so now.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
And so now.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
You come back and he's been at that hotel, tencare
business and then out of nowhere he ghosted you. Why
you were surprised about that? I don't know, and you
were deeply hurt, so you confided in the skank. You
told skanky, and skank kept it real with you and
(08:53):
said I needed to get over it and marry a
man that's in love with me. Now skank was right
about that. Now, so you did what skank said. I
got engaged and this skank wanted to be a bridesmaid,
but I had to choose my fiance sister instead of her. No,
(09:15):
you did it. It is your wedding. You let the
fact that he was eleven years older than you and
his sister want to be in a wind because she sang,
I ain't never been in no wind.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
You ain't. Nobody never asked her to be in no win.
Speaker 3 (09:28):
She want to be in the wind so she can
get in the line, catch the bouquet, because ain't nobody
finna ask her ugly to marry her at tall So
she thinks I know she never because she forced herself
in the wedding. Ther people always pushing themself in weddings
and stuff. Other people know how to barge in. You know.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
Qute people go oh I'm not selected. Okay, well good luck.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
You know, but ugly people, you gonna want me, I'm
gonna tell my brother put me in your web. Now
we don have to get all this extra fabric to
make her dress. Now she down there with the meal.
She had special cuts put in the dress because she big.
Now she got the stomach out and both side panels out.
She didn't even look like rest to dribe me. But anyway,
she got in the wed. Now, the problem you had
(10:10):
was your skank thought that she should be in the
wed because y'all was cool. This is what happens when
you cool with a cake. So skank told you she understood.
I was relieved, and to one of your other friends
told you that the skank was calling you a lucky
bee behind your back. I thought she was jealous because
(10:34):
she was single, so I let it slide.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Then you got pregnant on your wedt night.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
Your life been non stop every since you ran into
your skank. You ran in the skank cat, let's give
her name. You ran up in the skank cat, skank ketto.
You ran up in the skan ketto, and she was
very bitter. I went to hug and she pulled back.
That's because she she said, I ghosted her after I
(11:03):
got everything I wanted and my husband should know who
I'm really in love with. I insisted that I do
love my husband and that affair was a mistake.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
She walked away smirking and said, have a nice life.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
Do I try to fix our friendship so she won't
tell my secret? Sureley's absolutely correct, Absolutely not. You don't
try to fix this relationship with escape. This ain't your friend,
she's escaped. Why would you want to fix it with eskank.
What you got to do is fix her. See stop
being the victim all the time. Naw, she's gonna threaten
(11:37):
to go to your husband with this news. Couple things
you need to do. First of all, do what men do, Lie,
I mean, look just as surprised. Surely I want you
to be the girl coming to tell my husband what
you know. Start and I'm gonna show her how she
need to be.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Okay, Clarence, Hi, you remember me. I'm a Betty your
wife's friend.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
I wanted to be.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Well to come over because you know, there's some things
about Betty that you don't know, and I wanted to
let you know that I know something about her that
I think, Yeah, I think you should know this about her.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Okay, No, we all need to tell something. Go ahead,
Well I don't.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
I don't know anything about that. I just know what
I know.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
What is that?
Speaker 2 (12:32):
Well, you remember like there was a period of time
like three months before you guys got married where you
guys didn't have sex. You remember that? You don't remember that.
You're trying to say, Yeah, I'm trying to say Clarence.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
Had D Clais, how does Heffer? How does Heffer know
you had ED? No, you had e D. Pirates?
Speaker 2 (13:04):
All right, so can it can go something like that?
Hit us up on Instagram and Steve BRBFM to comment
on today's Strawberry Letter. You can also check out the
Strawberry Letter podcast on demand.
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