⁠⁠A Female Dating Coach Explains Men's Dating Behavior | Matchmaker Blaine Anderson

Dating coach and matchmaking expert Blaine Anderson discusses the psychology behind successful dating for men in today's complex landscape. The conversation explores why instant "sparks" are often misleading indicators of relationship potential, with Anderson revealing how chemistry can develop over time rather than appearing at first sight. She explains why many men find themselves trapped in the friendzone and offers counterintuitive strategies for escaping it—including the critical step of genuinely moving on. Modern Relationships is a podcast from Turpentine. Learn more: www.turpentine.co -- SPONSOR: Relationship Hero It’s an open secret in Silicon Valley that people are using relationship coaches. Sign up for 1-on-1 relationship coaching (from anywhere) at RelationshipHero.com/modern. Get $50 off your first session. -- LINKS: Dating by Blaine: https://clients.datingbyblaine.com/hi -- FOLLOW ON X: Blaine - @datingbyblaine Erik - @eriktorenberg Turpentine - @turpentinemedia Chapters 00:00:00 Intro and Preview 00:02:26 Being a Woman Dating Coach for Men 00:03:45 Why Focus on Coaching Men 00:04:41 "Serial Killer Vibes" in Dating Profiles 00:05:08 Core Dating Advice Philosophy 00:07:13 What Dating Coaching Looks Like 00:08:33 Blaine's Dating Courses Overview 00:10:21 Common Client Types and Their Challenges 00:12:04 Matchmaking Process and Mindsets 00:13:59 Questioning Dating Criteria 00:16:22 Sponsor: Relationship Hero 00:17:15 Age Preferences and Dating Flexibility 00:19:09 Career vs. Traditional Roles in Relationships 00:21:00 How Matchmaking Works 00:23:41 How Matchmakers Find Potential Partners 00:24:45 Marketing vs. Product in Dating 00:26:26 Post-Breakup Dating Advice 00:27:52 Evaluating Potential Relationships 00:29:17 The Myth of "Instant Chemistry" 00:30:19 Escaping the Friend Zone 00:32:21 Advice for Men Who "Simp" Too Hard 00:33:00 Where Coaching Ends and Therapy Begins 00:34:46 Women's Dating Coaching 00:36:34 The Future of Dating 00:38:31 The Stigma of Dating Coaching 00:40:43 Dating Apps vs. Self-Development 00:41:55 Dating Rules: When to Have Sex 00:44:24 Transition to Long-Term Relationships 00:46:28 Blaine's Personal Dating Evolution 00:49:00 Matchmaking Confidence and Success Metrics 00:51:42 Blind Dates vs. Pre-qualification 00:52:39 How Matchmaking Services Are Structured 00:53:24 Wrap