The Two Questions That Matter Most in Finding a Life Partner with Jared Fliesler

Today on Modern Relationships Erik Torenberg is joined by Jared Fliesler, a former executive at Google, Square, and Scribd turned founder coach, discusses how to identify core values in partners, distinguish between compromise and "horse trading," and determine when someone is "good enough." He shares insights on building meaningful connections, his co-living experiments, and navigating long-distance relationships. Modern Relationships is a podcast from Turpentine. Learn more: www.turpentine.co -- SPONSOR: Relationship Hero It’s an open secret in Silicon Valley that people are using relationship coaches. Sign up for 1-on-1 relationship coaching (from anywhere) at RelationshipHero.com/modern. Get $50 off your first session. -- LINKS | BOOKS RECOMMENDED: The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership by Jim Dethmer, Diana Champan, etc: https://conscious.is/15-commitments Book: https://www.amazon.com/15-Commitments-Conscious-Leadership-Sustainable-ebook/dp/B00R3MHWUE Positive Intelligence by Shirzad Chamine: https://www.amazon.com/Positive-Intelligence-Individuals-Achieve-Potential/dp/1608322785 -- FOLLOW ON X: Jared -@JaredSF Erik - @eriktorenberg Turpentine - @turpentinemedia Chapters 00:00:00 Intro 00:01:30 How to Know When Someone is "Good Enough" 00:04:20 Core Values vs. Surface Compatibility 00:07:02 Evolution of Relationship Priorities 00:14:06 Embracing Past Relationship Struggles 00:15:48 Sponsor: Relationship Hero 00:18:31 Tools for Aligning on What Really Matters 00:24:35 Values Evolution: From San Francisco to Austin 00:30:45 Living in Community: Beyond Roommates 00:39:01 House Values and Shared Agreements 00:41:17 When to Call It Quits in a Relationship 00:45:22 Compromise vs. Horse Trading 00:50:27 Communication Frameworks for Deeper Connection 00:57:30 Navigating Age Gaps and Family Planning 01:01:51 Making Long-Distance Relationships Work 01:11:00 The Paradox of Choice in Modern Dating 01:20:45 Dating Apps and Modern Gay Relationships 01:25:34 Polyamory: Complexity and Connection 01:27:38 Wrap