Hoops & Glossers - What if your next breakthrough wasn’t in another to-do list… but in the pause? This week on Now What?!, Melis sits down with the radiant and real Karen Bartholomew — life coach, speaker, and creator of The Pause Method. Her work helps women (and leaders who feel like they're juggling flaming swords) slow down long enough to actually hear themselves again.
We dive into how overachievement, past conditioning, and people-pleasing can leave us burned out and disconnected from who we really are — and how the power of intentional pause can unlock clarity, peace, and your next big move.
👠 What We Talk About:
Karen’s own “Now What?!” moment as a single mom of three
Breakdown of the PAUSE Method — and why you’ll want it in your back pocket
The stories we tell ourselves (and how to stop believing the lies)
How burnout, hustle culture, and childhood beliefs keep us in a loop
The truth about being “selfish” (spoiler: it’s a superpower)
Practical ideas for reclaiming your joy, your purpose, and your peace
🌀 Karen’s PAUSE Method (teaser version!):
P – Perceive: Identify patterns and subconscious stories
A – Acknowledge & Accept: Without judgment, see what’s really there
U – Unwind: Untangle the mental spaghetti of outdated beliefs
S – Shift: Reframe the narrative and reclaim your voice
E – Expand: Practice new behaviors, embody the change
💥 Hot Quote Moments:
“The brain is designed to keep you safe. Not fulfilled.”
“What story are you telling yourself right now — and is it even true?”
“The hustle isn’t a badge of honor. It’s a red flag.”
🌱 Want to Dive Deeper?
Karen’s free 30-day PAUSE journal: karenbartholomew.com
DM “Sanctum” to Karen on Instagram for info about her new community circle
Follow her on IG: @karenbartholomew
🎧 Listen Now On:
Spotify | Apple Podcasts
🔁 Share this with your favorite overwhelmed overachiever
She might be one pause away from her power.
xoxo
melis
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