September 6, 2025 • 23 mins
We're flipping conventional topics on their head and examining what's not working in modern life, from dating apps and corporate jobs to influencer culture and hustle mentality.
• Dating apps create mismatched expectations with many users just looking for casual encounters
• Corporate America's outdated structure accepted by previous generations needs rethinking
• Importance of building assets and investments beyond trendy platforms or single income sources
• Hustle culture can be redefined from quantity to quality with strategic focus on meaningful pursuits
• Our golden doodle Fendi makes an appearance as we debate pet ownership challenges
Stay blessed, do everything with intention, stay unbothered, stay prayed up, keep family and friends close, keep your peace close, and don't forget to stay poised.
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Speaker 1 (00:14):
guess what guys?
This is poised up podcastbrought to you by prim and poise
this your girl, nunu, akaCarmen, aka Coco, aka the real
one, aka the unbothered one, andjoining me on the podcast is,
yes, my fiance.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Yes, this is Jarrell, aka Mr God's Gift himself, aka
Lathrop Legend.
10-mile gangsters, 10 MobKillers, 696 Games.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
All right, okay, all right, you're going far, baby.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
You're going far.
Gotta wrap the set, man.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Right.
So welcome everybody to thepodcast.
The Poised Up Podcast is whereconfidence meets unapologetic
ambition.
We're all about leveling up,turning heads and taking what's
ours no hesitations, noapologies.
From self-care and personalgrowth to mindset and making
power move.
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Think of it as your backstagepass to real talk, bold
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Stay bold, stay polished, staypoised up.
All right, alright.
So today we have a veryinteresting topic that I think a
lot of people would actuallylike to hear us talk about.
Today's topic is the problemwith dot dot dot.
(01:57):
So what we're going to do?
We're going to take somethingordinary like a dating app,
corporate jobs, influencers,hustle culture, religion, family
dynamics and flip it on top ofits head.
So today's topic is the problemwith how you feel about that
topic, babe I like that.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
I I think, uh, I think it's a very lucrative
topic to talk about.
I have a lot to talk about whenit comes to this.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
Right, okay, so let's start off the problem with.
So I got dating apps on my listright here, but I've never been
on a dating app before, so Idon't know the problem with
dating apps.
But I can imagine what theproblem with dating apps are.
But I'm going to let you start.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
I'm trying to think if I've ever been on a dating
app like that.
I mean, I'm a guy.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
No, no, no.
Don't swipe left, don't swipeleft, just to smash, that was it
.
It was like I was second tier.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
So that's the problem with dating apps.
Women or I guess some men too,like a lot of people, are on
these dating apps to kind offind love, and really people
that's on these dating apps islooking to just kind of slide
through as many people as theycan, you know.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Which is sick.
So since you brought that up,I've never been on a dating app.
But I will say the problem witha dating app is you don't know
who these weirdos are.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
Man, it's scary, I can't imagine.
Or they're my charts, you don'tknow what they're my charts.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
They're my charts.
You got a good point lookinglike a test subject.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
You got so many things, man not a test subject
yeah but some people use datingapps.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
you know, to each his own, I think zone.
I think it's fine A way to likeengage out with other people.
You know, social media and justthe Internet is a thing right
now how people meet.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Yeah, I just think you got to be extremely careful,
extremely cautious.
Yeah, you know, I mean, ofcourse, have fun I'm definitely
not the fun police have fun,date, sleep with who you want to
sleep with.
But I also remember, like, weonly get one life and one body.
You know what I mean.
You don't want to mark yourbody up with you know.
You just got to be careful.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
Yeah, absolutely.
And people, if you are ondating apps, meet that person in
public.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Yeah, definitely Don't be embarrassed.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Be like, don't be embarrassed, definitely don't be
like come to my house, yeah,don't be embarrassed.
Like, oh, I met this person ona dating app and I'm meeting
them in public and I don't know.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
I'm a guy though.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Meet them in public, huh.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
I'm a guy.
So, guys, when y'all go tothese chicks' house, it's easy.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Don't go to their house.
I mean, yeah, I mean I don'tadvise it because you, it is way
too many demonic, ungodlyspirits out here.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
But fellas.
If you are going to somebody'shouse, send a group chat to your
location.
Let them know where you're at,let them know who you're meeting
.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
But with apps though, I mean, if people want to meet
people, I love that.
But guess what?
I think a great way to meetsomebody is just going to church
.
There's a lot of good people inchurch.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Yeah, fellas, go to the grocery store.
They're weighing.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Go to Sam's Club and Costco's.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
They're weighing, especially Sam's Club and Costco
.
That means they're cooking.
So you know you need ahome-cooked meal.
I'm just saying Okay, so let usswitch to the next problem.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
What's the problem with corporate jobs?
We got to be a little careful.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
We do got to be careful because we work in
corporate.
But my main issue that I thinkis the problem with corporate is
I think that the generationsbefore us just accepted anything
.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
Oh, I never thought of it like that.
You're right, generationsbefore us just accepted anything
.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
Oh, I never thought of it like that.
So now the way corporate is ranis just like well, this is just
how things go.
And it's just like no, the waythings are just going is just
not making sense, no more.
You know like we work all day,we work for eight hours, making
somebody else billions andbillions of fucking dollars I'm
sorry, Sorry to cuss, butbillions and billions of dollars
and we're getting paid penniesand we're just supposed to be
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like okay, and then we'resupposed to wait two weeks to
get that money that we workedhard for.
It's just the old wages is notworking and I don't see it
sustaining because these YNs andthese young women, you know
even smart and stuff like that,they're starting to get into
making their own businesses.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
They are, which is so good.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Yeah, streaming.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
I love that.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Things like that, finding different ways to just
get out of corporate America.
I could see it dying in thenext 10, 15, 20 years.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
What's scary is remember when TikTok was
supposed to be going away.
I was thinking about so manyinfluencers that are on TikTok
or whatever.
They was about to be broke.
So it's like you always need abackup.
You know what I mean.
Definitely have your ownbusiness.
I think that's a plus, but ifyou are in like kind of
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entrepreneurial, like socialmedia influencer type stuff, I
feel like you always should havesome type of backup in
corporate America, whether youused to work in it and you can
always go back or you got yourown business, establishing your
own assets for sure.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
For sure, like the thing with the getting rich off
the trendy social media thingsis that I know it may seem like
it, but these social media sitesaren't lasting, aren't gonna
stay forever forever like thinkabout myspace.
Well, myspace, black planet,not myspace.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Our audience is 25, no, 25, oh my gosh, remember
when we used to create likelittle stuff on your black
planet?
Speaker 2 (07:43):
pages.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
I love that.
We can put music and stars.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
Music and everything.
My little pages was dope and,um, you know, we wasn't
expecting that to ever leave.
It was like, oh, it's going tobe around forever and then it's
gone.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Wait, I'm sorry Because I love black.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
Is black planet still up?
Speaker 2 (08:05):
Can we go look at our Black Planet?
Speaker 1 (08:05):
page.
I think it's a porn site.
Okay, not too much, babe.
Okay.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Keep going.
You can say porn on I know wejust keep going.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
This is Welcome to Crimp and Poise guys.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Oh my goodness, yeah.
So yeah, back to the whole.
The reason why I was bringingthat up about how these social
media platforms can just be gonein a day or sold to another
company and things change isalways have a backup plan.
You know you're making all thismoney from streaming and stuff
like that.
Of course.
Get yourself out of debt,that's number one.
Pay off everything that youpossibly can, even if you got to
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sit down for a minute, just sitdown, pay off everything, be
debt free and then after that,once those checks keep coming in
, invest in something you know.
I mean invest in something thatyou can just go to and be like
okay, well, this is moving slow,tiktok is moving slow a cd,
what you got oh, yeah, yeah lookat some stocks.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
yeah, yeah, definitely Some assets.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Assets.
Buy a crib, even if it's justone.
Rent it out.
Invest in crypto because wejust don't know.
You know, just like how somepeople are skeptical about
crypto, a lot of people wereskeptical about the stock market
, so you know.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
It's always a risk, always a risk, everything, yeah.
So you know it's always a riskwith anything like that.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Always a risk with everything, yeah.
So why not take the risk andpossibly become a millionaire in
10, 15 years, like?
Who knows, you know, like justtry it, but just make sure you
got assets and not just, youknow, keeping $100,000 under the
mattress, because that is notgoing to be much.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Yeah, we can't do that, no more.
We got to let our money makemore money for us.
Yeah, but I think the problemwith corporate America is that a
lot of times you feel as thoughyou might have to fake it with
relationships or justpersonality in order, in order
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to be around a certain differentgroup of people that you may
not interact with on a dailybasis in your real life.
Right, they're like I'm notbeing fake to that vp or that
boss, you know what I mean.
I'm not being fake to do this.
I saw what it took and I wouldfake small talk real quick, but
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eventually it became normal forme and it kind of became
interesting.
So it's like I was able tonavigate those relationships
because I realized, like thathuman interaction of like
someone wanting to know you andwhen they know you, they trust
you, and when they trust you,you're good.
You might know a little bitmore about this than me.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
Oh influencer.
The problem with influencerculture and this is actually
hidden, personal to me becauseI'm a huge Drake fan.
The problem with influencerculture, Uh-oh guys.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Uh-oh guys so Darlene we're about to get into Drake
conversation.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
Everybody is trying to go viral to be an influencer.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
Still, still.
It's not going to stop.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Technology is never going to stop.
You know what I mean.
So it's like take this Drakehate train, for example.
For 15 years Drake has beengiving hit after hit, supplying
summer after summer.
Speaker 1 (11:36):
And everybody loved Drake.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Everybody was loving.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
Drake.
Speaker 2 (11:40):
Everybody was singing the hooks.
Everybody was rapping hisverses.
Everybody was in Drake.
Everybody was singing the hooks.
Everybody was rapping hisverses.
Everybody was in their carsinging their hearts out.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
And all of a sudden this bum come out with two,
three little bops.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
Not even the best.
I could understand if it wasJay-Z.
I could understand if Jay-Zcame out and was coming at Drake
.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
That's because Jay-Z is a legend, but this one person
that never made music, came outwith three bops.
And everybody just on his tail.
I'm like what is this?
A follower world?
We?
Speaker 2 (12:07):
living in.
It's a follow trend, likeeverybody wants to be on the
next big thing, so everybodywanted to be in their videos
dancing to they, not Like Us,hoping that their video will go
viral.
You know what I mean.
It's like ugh, even.
It's like I'm a huge LeBron fanHuge LeBron fan.
Lebron, in my eyes, couldn'thave did no wrong, but just
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watching him go like switch upon Drake the way he did, it's
just like damn, likebasketball-wise.
You the GOAT.
You know what I'm saying.
I personally have neverwitnessed a player like that.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
I thought you said basketball-wise.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
Basketball-wise.
I was about to say I lovebasketball-wise.
I know you love basketball-wise.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
Hey, Evelyn.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
But basketball-wise he's the GOAT, right, I
personally I wasn't older.
I guess I was older, but Iwasn't watching Jordan.
I watched Bruh Jordan.
I watch him run.
He's the GOAT.
When it comes to personal Ican't even say personal because
I don't know him Just watchingthis characteristic of how he
(13:09):
just switched up on Drakebecause Kendrick was the next
big thing, it just changed mypoint of view.
I think that's a big deal withFlorida, Children's Children.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Yeah, no, absolutely.
That was a good one.
I know you are very passionateabout that topic, so that
probably needs to be a wholetopic for the podcast, because
this fake hate, drake, hate iscrazy yeah.
He got a lot to say about thatand I'm sure you guys that know
us already know he do I do Right.
You guys that know us alreadyknow he do right.
(13:43):
I mean, I I don't know what Ican say about influencer culture
.
I don't really be knowing noinfluencers you know, uh, you
know, jason lee jason lee is thebomb because he's he's so open
and he's so honest and he's verysmart.
(14:07):
He's a mayor now.
Did you know?
That, oh, he won he won like ayear or two ago.
Yes, that's why I appreciatehim, because he's smart and then
he keep up with the little popculture stuff, so I like that I
rock with you.
The only influencer I know thatI'm like ooh yes, is Bernice
Burgos.
Okay.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
Yeah, because you got the body for it, all right.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Not too much.
Not too much.
It's a public thing.
But she's what?
50?
Almost 50.
Or 50.
She got grandkids 50 she gotgrandkids, she got grandkids and
I think she's 50 or almost 50.
We gotta look up her age, butshe is like so pretty to me you
know, and so fit and just verylike demure, isn't she?
(14:56):
Yeah and is she an aninfluencer?
She don't say much.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
And I like that type of influencer.
That's the type of influencer Ilike.
You don't have to say much, Idon't say much.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
Today I am, but I don't say much.
But I can impact when I'mwalking around.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
So I like her.
Yeah, influencer, influencer,all right, so now let's talk
about another theme under theproblem with dot dot dot.
Let's talk about the problemwith hustle culture.
How do you feel about it?
Speaker 2 (15:37):
I mean, we're from Detroit, that's what we do.
Everybody hustle, everybodywork their corporate job but do
50 million things on the side.
Hustle, we get to it, you know,for playing yeah you know, we
don't wait for no handout.
So I respect hustle culture.
I just don't respect it whenthey come in like of course I
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don't.
I'm not nobody's hustle, butthe scammers.
You know what I mean.
Like just taking somebody'sinformation.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
That's sick.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
You know, like I don't look at that as hustling,
I think I look at that as that'slazy.
You know what I'm saying.
Like you, smart, you can gobuild a server for somebody, or
you know what I'm saying, Dosomething like that.
But the scamming because you'rescamming older people or you're
scamming your regular dayAmericans you know what I'm
saying Regular day people thatyou see every day and you know
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taken from family and friends Ijust don't rock with that.
You know, what I'm saying, but ahustle, go get your money, go
do whatever it is that you gotto do to live the life that you
want to live.
You know what I'm saying, aslong as it's not infringing on
nobody else's lifestyle.
Speaker 1 (16:43):
Right, Isn't it bad that?
Okay, wait.
So what?
Before I say that comment?
What is your interpretation ofhustle?
Speaker 2 (16:54):
Hustle.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
Like the hustle culture.
Speaker 2 (16:57):
Like just wake up every day and get to it.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
Like you just go okay .
So in that space I like thehustle culture okay you know
like I feel like that, that'swhat I do.
You know what I mean like I getup everybody you know, get up,
do what you got to do, whetherit's taking care of your kids
and taking care of yourhousehold Responsibilities on
the weekend, going to work.
You know saving money Going tothe bank, figuring out how to
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invest, how to save.
You know making sure your kidsare straight, making sure your
marriage or your relationship isstraight, but like hustle
culture in a different dynamic,I don't know if I care about it.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
Why.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
Like when people are just like oh, I'm out here
hustling, I gotta do X, I gottado this, I gotta do X, y, z, I
gotta do that to make money anddo this Chasing money.
That has never been my thing.
Like I don't like to bestressed out hustling in order
to make my money.
I'd rather have something whereI'm passionate about.
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It's a steady thing and I'mmaking the money that I want.
I don't want to have two orthree jobs.
I want to have one job thatpays great, versus three jobs
and I'm stressed out, but I'mmaking money.
You know what I mean.
Like I feel like maybe I'm adifferent type of hustler when I
think about the word hustle.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
Well, I mean it's definitely a different type of
hustler.
When I think about the wordhustle, well, I mean it's
definitely a different type ofhustle.
You know what I mean.
You hustle in your corporatejob to get to where you want to
be, that's true.
Then you got people that don'twant to work a corporate job
that hustle to still feed theirfamily.
That's true.
So that's why I say I don'tknock nobody's hustle.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
Do what you got to do , get your money.
Thank you, so, thank you.
So we got one more topic theproblem with family dynamics
yeah, no thanks no thanks on thetopic.
(18:58):
We don't okay.
Yeah, I don't really have aproblem with family dynamics I
don't.
Speaker 2 (19:03):
I love my family.
Speaker 1 (19:04):
Yeah, me too.
Speaker 2 (19:05):
It's like that's we, we all, we got, you know, family
, regardless of stuff thathappens, it's like, at the end
of the day, we love our familiesbut just because you got that
family title don't mean that youcan just do and say and act how
you want, like you still haveto treat me as if I'm a human
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being.
You can't just do something Idon't like and then just kind of
like ignore it like it neverhappened.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
Oh yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
That's respect for human beings in general, I
didn't do that.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
You know.
So I mean that always shouldhappen for sure, like especially
with family and friends.
You got to have respect foreach other, and if it's to a
point where somebody don't haverespect for you or feel like
they could do and say whatever,that's not respect and that's
not love and that's not familyyou know, so I agree with you.
Speaker 2 (20:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
I respect you so much because you really really do a
lot and you really really care.
Yeah, always yeah, like youreally care and like when you
can't do it.
I don't know if people realizehow much you care that you
couldn't do something.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
Right, you know, I applaud you for that.
Well, thank you, I appreciatethat.
I don't know, because nobodywill ever know.
Yeah, because I'm not one ofthose people that like do stuff
to hold it over your head ohyeah, you don't do that or I'm
not going to do something and belike well.
Speaker 1 (20:36):
I did this for you you should do this.
For me, it's never a quip youjust have a caring heart, like I
think you legitimately just dostuff because you care and
that's why I love you oh, thankyou.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
I appreciate that I love you.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
Oh, thank you.
I appreciate that.
I love you y'all.
I said I love you because hedidn't say I love you too back
that is crazy you didn't say it,but I was.
I appreciate that you should sayI love you too, back instantly.
(21:07):
But yeah, so that was.
I appreciate that you shouldsay I love you too, babe,
Instantly.
But yeah, so that was thefamily topic.
Is there any other?
The problem with topics weshould talk about?
I mean it's 40 minutes.
We got like maybe five more todo a full little podcast we can
talk about, like relationships,co-parenting, the problem with
having the golden doodle.
Speaker 2 (21:30):
Don't put Fendi.
She is all on my lap right now.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
Do not put Fendi in your problems.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
Fendi is a problem.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
Fendi is not.
First of all, guys, I just wantyou guys to know right now, as
he's saying this, he is rubbingher head.
She is leaning her chin on hisknee.
He is looking into her eyes, isrubbing her head, she is
leaning her chin on his knee andhe is looking into her eyes,
rubbing her head.
He's talking about he got aproblem with her.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
It's a trap.
Don't get a golden doodle.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
It is a trap, though.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
It's a trap.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
They are a lot, but I love golden doodles.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
Y'all probably can hear her snoring.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
She snored with her eyes open because her head is
getting rubbed.
That's crazy.
You miss Dior.
Shout out to Dior, her sister.
Shout out to Kinks, her brother.
Shout out to Teddy, her otherbrother, you got a big family
Fendi.
Yeah, but I feel like you knowthis was a good podcast.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
Good first podcast.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
Did we want to go into relationship stuff or no?
Not tonight.
I mean that's just a topic.
Speaker 2 (22:35):
That can go on for a long time.
The problem with Relationships,people don't really say what
they want.
Speaker 1 (22:44):
Past relationships and moving on to the next one,
oh, that's a whole thing.
That's a whole another podcast.
But guess what guys?
Stay tuned for the next topicsin the next episodes.
If y'all want to hear the tea,clock it, you clocking it, babe.
Speaker 2 (23:01):
I'm clocking it.
Speaker 1 (23:04):
The way you clock it.
Speaker 2 (23:06):
Don't disrespect how I clock it.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
But yeah, the way you clock it don't disrespect how I
clock it, but yeah.
So this was a greatconversation.
I'm happy we talked about allthe problems with those topics.
Everybody, don't forget to stayblessed, do everything with
intention, stay unbothered, stayprayed up, keep family and
friends close.
Keep your peace closer, father.
Stay prayed up, keep family andfriends close, keep your peace
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closer.
And don't forget to stay poised.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
Get this money.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
Hey, we out.
guess what guys?
This is poised up podcastbrought to you by prim and poise
this your girl, nunu, akaCarmen, aka Coco, aka the real
one, aka the unbothered one, andjoining me on the podcast is,
yes, my fiance.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Yes, this is Jarrell, aka Mr God's Gift himself, aka
Lathrop Legend.
10-mile gangsters, 10 MobKillers, 696 Games.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
All right, okay, all right, you're going far, baby.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
You're going far.
Gotta wrap the set, man.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Right.
So welcome everybody to thepodcast.
The Poised Up Podcast is whereconfidence meets unapologetic
ambition.
We're all about leveling up,turning heads and taking what's
ours no hesitations, noapologies.
From self-care and personalgrowth to mindset and making
power move.
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stand out and stay on top,because being poised isn't just
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It's about owning every spaceyou step into.
(01:34):
Stay bold, stay polished, staypoised up.
All right, alright.
So today we have a veryinteresting topic that I think a
lot of people would actuallylike to hear us talk about.
Today's topic is the problemwith dot dot dot.
(01:57):
So what we're going to do?
We're going to take somethingordinary like a dating app,
corporate jobs, influencers,hustle culture, religion, family
dynamics and flip it on top ofits head.
So today's topic is the problemwith how you feel about that
topic, babe I like that.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
I I think, uh, I think it's a very lucrative
topic to talk about.
I have a lot to talk about whenit comes to this.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
Right, okay, so let's start off the problem with.
So I got dating apps on my listright here, but I've never been
on a dating app before, so Idon't know the problem with
dating apps.
But I can imagine what theproblem with dating apps are.
But I'm going to let you start.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
I'm trying to think if I've ever been on a dating
app like that.
I mean, I'm a guy.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
No, no, no.
Don't swipe left, don't swipeleft, just to smash, that was it
.
It was like I was second tier.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
So that's the problem with dating apps.
Women or I guess some men too,like a lot of people, are on
these dating apps to kind offind love, and really people
that's on these dating apps islooking to just kind of slide
through as many people as theycan, you know.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Which is sick.
So since you brought that up,I've never been on a dating app.
But I will say the problem witha dating app is you don't know
who these weirdos are.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
Man, it's scary, I can't imagine.
Or they're my charts, you don'tknow what they're my charts.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
They're my charts.
You got a good point lookinglike a test subject.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
You got so many things, man not a test subject
yeah but some people use datingapps.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
you know, to each his own, I think zone.
I think it's fine A way to likeengage out with other people.
You know, social media and justthe Internet is a thing right
now how people meet.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Yeah, I just think you got to be extremely careful,
extremely cautious.
Yeah, you know, I mean, ofcourse, have fun I'm definitely
not the fun police have fun,date, sleep with who you want to
sleep with.
But I also remember, like, weonly get one life and one body.
You know what I mean.
You don't want to mark yourbody up with you know.
You just got to be careful.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
Yeah, absolutely.
And people, if you are ondating apps, meet that person in
public.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Yeah, definitely Don't be embarrassed.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Be like, don't be embarrassed, definitely don't be
like come to my house, yeah,don't be embarrassed.
Like, oh, I met this person ona dating app and I'm meeting
them in public and I don't know.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
I'm a guy though.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Meet them in public, huh.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
I'm a guy.
So, guys, when y'all go tothese chicks' house, it's easy.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Don't go to their house.
I mean, yeah, I mean I don'tadvise it because you, it is way
too many demonic, ungodlyspirits out here.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
But fellas.
If you are going to somebody'shouse, send a group chat to your
location.
Let them know where you're at,let them know who you're meeting
.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
But with apps though, I mean, if people want to meet
people, I love that.
But guess what?
I think a great way to meetsomebody is just going to church
.
There's a lot of good people inchurch.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Yeah, fellas, go to the grocery store.
They're weighing.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Go to Sam's Club and Costco's.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
They're weighing, especially Sam's Club and Costco
.
That means they're cooking.
So you know you need ahome-cooked meal.
I'm just saying Okay, so let usswitch to the next problem.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
What's the problem with corporate jobs?
We got to be a little careful.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
We do got to be careful because we work in
corporate.
But my main issue that I thinkis the problem with corporate is
I think that the generationsbefore us just accepted anything
.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
Oh, I never thought of it like that.
You're right, generationsbefore us just accepted anything
.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
Oh, I never thought of it like that.
So now the way corporate is ranis just like well, this is just
how things go.
And it's just like no, the waythings are just going is just
not making sense, no more.
You know like we work all day,we work for eight hours, making
somebody else billions andbillions of fucking dollars I'm
sorry, Sorry to cuss, butbillions and billions of dollars
and we're getting paid penniesand we're just supposed to be
(06:08):
like okay, and then we'resupposed to wait two weeks to
get that money that we workedhard for.
It's just the old wages is notworking and I don't see it
sustaining because these YNs andthese young women, you know
even smart and stuff like that,they're starting to get into
making their own businesses.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
They are, which is so good.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Yeah, streaming.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
I love that.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Things like that, finding different ways to just
get out of corporate America.
I could see it dying in thenext 10, 15, 20 years.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
What's scary is remember when TikTok was
supposed to be going away.
I was thinking about so manyinfluencers that are on TikTok
or whatever.
They was about to be broke.
So it's like you always need abackup.
You know what I mean.
Definitely have your ownbusiness.
I think that's a plus, but ifyou are in like kind of
(07:01):
entrepreneurial, like socialmedia influencer type stuff, I
feel like you always should havesome type of backup in
corporate America, whether youused to work in it and you can
always go back or you got yourown business, establishing your
own assets for sure.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
For sure, like the thing with the getting rich off
the trendy social media thingsis that I know it may seem like
it, but these social media sitesaren't lasting, aren't gonna
stay forever forever like thinkabout myspace.
Well, myspace, black planet,not myspace.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Our audience is 25, no, 25, oh my gosh, remember
when we used to create likelittle stuff on your black
planet?
Speaker 2 (07:43):
pages.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
I love that.
We can put music and stars.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
Music and everything.
My little pages was dope and,um, you know, we wasn't
expecting that to ever leave.
It was like, oh, it's going tobe around forever and then it's
gone.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Wait, I'm sorry Because I love black.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
Is black planet still up?
Speaker 2 (08:05):
Can we go look at our Black Planet?
Speaker 1 (08:05):
page.
I think it's a porn site.
Okay, not too much, babe.
Okay.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Keep going.
You can say porn on I know wejust keep going.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
This is Welcome to Crimp and Poise guys.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Oh my goodness, yeah.
So yeah, back to the whole.
The reason why I was bringingthat up about how these social
media platforms can just be gonein a day or sold to another
company and things change isalways have a backup plan.
You know you're making all thismoney from streaming and stuff
like that.
Of course.
Get yourself out of debt,that's number one.
Pay off everything that youpossibly can, even if you got to
(08:40):
sit down for a minute, just sitdown, pay off everything, be
debt free and then after that,once those checks keep coming in
, invest in something you know.
I mean invest in something thatyou can just go to and be like
okay, well, this is moving slow,tiktok is moving slow a cd,
what you got oh, yeah, yeah lookat some stocks.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
yeah, yeah, definitely Some assets.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Assets.
Buy a crib, even if it's justone.
Rent it out.
Invest in crypto because wejust don't know.
You know, just like how somepeople are skeptical about
crypto, a lot of people wereskeptical about the stock market
, so you know.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
It's always a risk, always a risk, everything, yeah.
So you know it's always a riskwith anything like that.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Always a risk with everything, yeah.
So why not take the risk andpossibly become a millionaire in
10, 15 years, like?
Who knows, you know, like justtry it, but just make sure you
got assets and not just, youknow, keeping $100,000 under the
mattress, because that is notgoing to be much.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Yeah, we can't do that, no more.
We got to let our money makemore money for us.
Yeah, but I think the problemwith corporate America is that a
lot of times you feel as thoughyou might have to fake it with
relationships or justpersonality in order, in order
(10:01):
to be around a certain differentgroup of people that you may
not interact with on a dailybasis in your real life.
Right, they're like I'm notbeing fake to that vp or that
boss, you know what I mean.
I'm not being fake to do this.
I saw what it took and I wouldfake small talk real quick, but
(10:26):
eventually it became normal forme and it kind of became
interesting.
So it's like I was able tonavigate those relationships
because I realized, like thathuman interaction of like
someone wanting to know you andwhen they know you, they trust
you, and when they trust you,you're good.
You might know a little bitmore about this than me.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
Oh influencer.
The problem with influencerculture and this is actually
hidden, personal to me becauseI'm a huge Drake fan.
The problem with influencerculture, Uh-oh guys.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Uh-oh guys so Darlene we're about to get into Drake
conversation.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
Everybody is trying to go viral to be an influencer.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
Still, still.
It's not going to stop.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Technology is never going to stop.
You know what I mean.
So it's like take this Drakehate train, for example.
For 15 years Drake has beengiving hit after hit, supplying
summer after summer.
Speaker 1 (11:36):
And everybody loved Drake.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Everybody was loving.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
Drake.
Speaker 2 (11:40):
Everybody was singing the hooks.
Everybody was rapping hisverses.
Everybody was in Drake.
Everybody was singing the hooks.
Everybody was rapping hisverses.
Everybody was in their carsinging their hearts out.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
And all of a sudden this bum come out with two,
three little bops.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
Not even the best.
I could understand if it wasJay-Z.
I could understand if Jay-Zcame out and was coming at Drake
.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
That's because Jay-Z is a legend, but this one person
that never made music, came outwith three bops.
And everybody just on his tail.
I'm like what is this?
A follower world?
We?
Speaker 2 (12:07):
living in.
It's a follow trend, likeeverybody wants to be on the
next big thing, so everybodywanted to be in their videos
dancing to they, not Like Us,hoping that their video will go
viral.
You know what I mean.
It's like ugh, even.
It's like I'm a huge LeBron fanHuge LeBron fan.
Lebron, in my eyes, couldn'thave did no wrong, but just
(12:30):
watching him go like switch upon Drake the way he did, it's
just like damn, likebasketball-wise.
You the GOAT.
You know what I'm saying.
I personally have neverwitnessed a player like that.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
I thought you said basketball-wise.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
Basketball-wise.
I was about to say I lovebasketball-wise.
I know you love basketball-wise.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
Hey, Evelyn.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
But basketball-wise he's the GOAT, right, I
personally I wasn't older.
I guess I was older, but Iwasn't watching Jordan.
I watched Bruh Jordan.
I watch him run.
He's the GOAT.
When it comes to personal Ican't even say personal because
I don't know him Just watchingthis characteristic of how he
(13:09):
just switched up on Drakebecause Kendrick was the next
big thing, it just changed mypoint of view.
I think that's a big deal withFlorida, Children's Children.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Yeah, no, absolutely.
That was a good one.
I know you are very passionateabout that topic, so that
probably needs to be a wholetopic for the podcast, because
this fake hate, drake, hate iscrazy yeah.
He got a lot to say about thatand I'm sure you guys that know
us already know he do I do Right.
You guys that know us alreadyknow he do right.
(13:43):
I mean, I I don't know what Ican say about influencer culture
.
I don't really be knowing noinfluencers you know, uh, you
know, jason lee jason lee is thebomb because he's he's so open
and he's so honest and he's verysmart.
(14:07):
He's a mayor now.
Did you know?
That, oh, he won he won like ayear or two ago.
Yes, that's why I appreciatehim, because he's smart and then
he keep up with the little popculture stuff, so I like that I
rock with you.
The only influencer I know thatI'm like ooh yes, is Bernice
Burgos.
Okay.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
Yeah, because you got the body for it, all right.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Not too much.
Not too much.
It's a public thing.
But she's what?
50?
Almost 50.
Or 50.
She got grandkids 50 she gotgrandkids, she got grandkids and
I think she's 50 or almost 50.
We gotta look up her age, butshe is like so pretty to me you
know, and so fit and just verylike demure, isn't she?
(14:56):
Yeah and is she an aninfluencer?
She don't say much.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
And I like that type of influencer.
That's the type of influencer Ilike.
You don't have to say much, Idon't say much.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
Today I am, but I don't say much.
But I can impact when I'mwalking around.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
So I like her.
Yeah, influencer, influencer,all right, so now let's talk
about another theme under theproblem with dot dot dot.
Let's talk about the problemwith hustle culture.
How do you feel about it?
Speaker 2 (15:37):
I mean, we're from Detroit, that's what we do.
Everybody hustle, everybodywork their corporate job but do
50 million things on the side.
Hustle, we get to it, you know,for playing yeah you know, we
don't wait for no handout.
So I respect hustle culture.
I just don't respect it whenthey come in like of course I
(15:57):
don't.
I'm not nobody's hustle, butthe scammers.
You know what I mean.
Like just taking somebody'sinformation.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
That's sick.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
You know, like I don't look at that as hustling,
I think I look at that as that'slazy.
You know what I'm saying.
Like you, smart, you can gobuild a server for somebody, or
you know what I'm saying, Dosomething like that.
But the scamming because you'rescamming older people or you're
scamming your regular dayAmericans you know what I'm
saying Regular day people thatyou see every day and you know
(16:27):
taken from family and friends Ijust don't rock with that.
You know, what I'm saying, but ahustle, go get your money, go
do whatever it is that you gotto do to live the life that you
want to live.
You know what I'm saying, aslong as it's not infringing on
nobody else's lifestyle.
Speaker 1 (16:43):
Right, Isn't it bad that?
Okay, wait.
So what?
Before I say that comment?
What is your interpretation ofhustle?
Speaker 2 (16:54):
Hustle.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
Like the hustle culture.
Speaker 2 (16:57):
Like just wake up every day and get to it.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
Like you just go okay .
So in that space I like thehustle culture okay you know
like I feel like that, that'swhat I do.
You know what I mean like I getup everybody you know, get up,
do what you got to do, whetherit's taking care of your kids
and taking care of yourhousehold Responsibilities on
the weekend, going to work.
You know saving money Going tothe bank, figuring out how to
(17:25):
invest, how to save.
You know making sure your kidsare straight, making sure your
marriage or your relationship isstraight, but like hustle
culture in a different dynamic,I don't know if I care about it.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
Why.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
Like when people are just like oh, I'm out here
hustling, I gotta do X, I gottado this, I gotta do X, y, z, I
gotta do that to make money anddo this Chasing money.
That has never been my thing.
Like I don't like to bestressed out hustling in order
to make my money.
I'd rather have something whereI'm passionate about.
(17:59):
It's a steady thing and I'mmaking the money that I want.
I don't want to have two orthree jobs.
I want to have one job thatpays great, versus three jobs
and I'm stressed out, but I'mmaking money.
You know what I mean.
Like I feel like maybe I'm adifferent type of hustler when I
think about the word hustle.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
Well, I mean it's definitely a different type of
hustler.
When I think about the wordhustle, well, I mean it's
definitely a different type ofhustle.
You know what I mean.
You hustle in your corporatejob to get to where you want to
be, that's true.
Then you got people that don'twant to work a corporate job
that hustle to still feed theirfamily.
That's true.
So that's why I say I don'tknock nobody's hustle.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
Do what you got to do , get your money.
Thank you, so, thank you.
So we got one more topic theproblem with family dynamics
yeah, no thanks no thanks on thetopic.
(18:58):
We don't okay.
Yeah, I don't really have aproblem with family dynamics I
don't.
Speaker 2 (19:03):
I love my family.
Speaker 1 (19:04):
Yeah, me too.
Speaker 2 (19:05):
It's like that's we, we all, we got, you know, family
, regardless of stuff thathappens, it's like, at the end
of the day, we love our familiesbut just because you got that
family title don't mean that youcan just do and say and act how
you want, like you still haveto treat me as if I'm a human
(19:27):
being.
You can't just do something Idon't like and then just kind of
like ignore it like it neverhappened.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
Oh yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
That's respect for human beings in general, I
didn't do that.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
You know.
So I mean that always shouldhappen for sure, like especially
with family and friends.
You got to have respect foreach other, and if it's to a
point where somebody don't haverespect for you or feel like
they could do and say whatever,that's not respect and that's
not love and that's not familyyou know, so I agree with you.
Speaker 2 (20:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
I respect you so much because you really really do a
lot and you really really care.
Yeah, always yeah, like youreally care and like when you
can't do it.
I don't know if people realizehow much you care that you
couldn't do something.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
Right, you know, I applaud you for that.
Well, thank you, I appreciatethat.
I don't know, because nobodywill ever know.
Yeah, because I'm not one ofthose people that like do stuff
to hold it over your head ohyeah, you don't do that or I'm
not going to do something and belike well.
Speaker 1 (20:36):
I did this for you you should do this.
For me, it's never a quip youjust have a caring heart, like I
think you legitimately just dostuff because you care and
that's why I love you oh, thankyou.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
I appreciate that I love you.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
Oh, thank you.
I appreciate that.
I love you y'all.
I said I love you because hedidn't say I love you too back
that is crazy you didn't say it,but I was.
I appreciate that you should sayI love you too, back instantly.
(21:07):
But yeah, so that was.
I appreciate that you shouldsay I love you too, babe,
Instantly.
But yeah, so that was thefamily topic.
Is there any other?
The problem with topics weshould talk about?
I mean it's 40 minutes.
We got like maybe five more todo a full little podcast we can
talk about, like relationships,co-parenting, the problem with
having the golden doodle.
Speaker 2 (21:30):
Don't put Fendi.
She is all on my lap right now.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
Do not put Fendi in your problems.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
Fendi is a problem.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
Fendi is not.
First of all, guys, I just wantyou guys to know right now, as
he's saying this, he is rubbingher head.
She is leaning her chin on hisknee.
He is looking into her eyes, isrubbing her head, she is
leaning her chin on his knee andhe is looking into her eyes,
rubbing her head.
He's talking about he got aproblem with her.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
It's a trap.
Don't get a golden doodle.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
It is a trap, though.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
It's a trap.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
They are a lot, but I love golden doodles.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
Y'all probably can hear her snoring.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
She snored with her eyes open because her head is
getting rubbed.
That's crazy.
You miss Dior.
Shout out to Dior, her sister.
Shout out to Kinks, her brother.
Shout out to Teddy, her otherbrother, you got a big family
Fendi.
Yeah, but I feel like you knowthis was a good podcast.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
Good first podcast.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
Did we want to go into relationship stuff or no?
Not tonight.
I mean that's just a topic.
Speaker 2 (22:35):
That can go on for a long time.
The problem with Relationships,people don't really say what
they want.
Speaker 1 (22:44):
Past relationships and moving on to the next one,
oh, that's a whole thing.
That's a whole another podcast.
But guess what guys?
Stay tuned for the next topicsin the next episodes.
If y'all want to hear the tea,clock it, you clocking it, babe.
Speaker 2 (23:01):
I'm clocking it.
Speaker 1 (23:04):
The way you clock it.
Speaker 2 (23:06):
Don't disrespect how I clock it.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
But yeah, the way you clock it don't disrespect how I
clock it, but yeah.
So this was a greatconversation.
I'm happy we talked about allthe problems with those topics.
Everybody, don't forget to stayblessed, do everything with
intention, stay unbothered, stayprayed up, keep family and
friends close.
Keep your peace closer, father.
Stay prayed up, keep family andfriends close, keep your peace
(23:31):
closer.
And don't forget to stay poised.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
Get this money.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
Hey, we out.
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