April 21, 2024 • 47 mins
Highly successful businesswomen, Phyllis Okon shares her secret to blending creativity and her psychic abilities, while balancing career and family in this inspiring episode. Discover how Lady Phyllis instills positivity in enabling others to achieve their goals in her fulfilling practice as instructor and medium.
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Hello friends, this is Peter C. Smith, Psychic Pete, and welcome to the Psychic Pete Live
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Please enjoy these special episodes featuring talented, experienced professional psychics
and mediums as they share with us their knowledge and unique perspectives about the fascinating,
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Hello everyone, this is Psychic Pete, and welcome to today's broadcast. And we have
a very special guest today, and I'm extremely excited to be able to present her on the program.
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Phyllis is a professional psychic and medium, and she has found time in her very, very busy
schedule to come and talk to us and share some of her very, very interesting life story and
her history and her experiences. And this is going to be a very special treat for us today.
And to start off, I'd like to read some background information. And I asked Phyllis if it was okay,
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and she gave us her permission. And then I promise I'll step out of the way and let Phyllis have the
floor. But first of all, welcome Phyllis to the broadcast. Thank you Pete, thanks for having me
here. Absolutely, it's our pleasure, isn't it? So Phyllis Oaken, it's an O-K-O-N folks, is the CEO
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when her husband of 48 years passed away. She has published 82 books. Is it 82 or 83, Phyllis?
It's 83. I thought so. Well, so I haven't read them all yet, but I, you know, who knows?
In all different genres. So she's very, very adaptive writing. She's also a practicing medium
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and psychic. Phyllis Oaken co-founded BLS, a limousine service with her late husband
almost 50 years ago. She's a former social studies teacher when she quit teaching to run the back
office from her tiny kitchen in Long Island. The company grew to three offices and after her
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husband's passing, she and her two sons expanded to 11 more, including a flagship office in London.
So BLS stands today proudly a woman owned and world renowned business. So at 55, she reinvented
herself to begin writing and that produced 83 books, many of which are award-winning. Writing
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as Carol P. Roman and Britt London, she has enchanted children, parents, and teachers with
several fiction and non-fiction series. Her joke book, the Big Book of Silly Jokes for kids,
shot to the top of Amazon, outselling every other book for two whole months. Her young adult novel,
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Grady Will and the Templeton Codex is currently being turned into a screenplay. How exciting.
So after her husband had passed, she ventured into mediumship classes, eventually being singled out
of her mentorship and endorsed by seatbelt psychic Thomas John. As Lady Phyllis, I love this,
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Lady Phyllis, her ability to connect and give evidential information has built this new venture
into many monthly sessions and now a very steady clientele. Combining her love of teaching with her
many talents, she has now opened several courses sharing her knowledge, wisdom, and demystifying
mediumship to enable a new generation to embrace this. Phyllis has traveled many roads as a teacher,
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a CEO, a best-selling and award-winning author, wife, mother, and grandmother, as if that wasn't
enough. Her biggest fear was becoming irrelevant as she got older or as she aged.
Her unique experiences have made her a compassionate and understanding medium, CEO and author,
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providing you don't have to give anything up because of age. So I mean, that is probably the
most diverse background information I've ever encountered. That's why it's exciting to meet
you and to share with the listeners today. So thank you so much.
Thank you so much. I think that stems from my parents. They always encouraged me to do what I
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wanted to do. And my husband was like that too. When I started writing books, he said to me,
write more, write more. So I was always surrounded by great support staff. My kids encouraged me.
And likewise, I do the same for them. Yeah. I don't know why you have time to do everything.
You mentioned a little bit before the broadcast, you're an early riser.
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I am an early riser, but you'd be surprised that when you jettison time suckers of what you're
capable of doing. To me, if it's not, although, listen, I spend a lot of time watching junk
television or reading books or even just sitting out today. I didn't have a chance to sit outside
and get some sunshine, get some vitamin D, but I make time for my grandchildren. I
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do silly time, I do play time. I do all kinds of things. It's amazing what you can find time to do
when you really want something. Sure. Yeah. And that's part of this lifestyle
as a medium and a psychic. You try to maintain the balance of being holistic and being healthy
and being balanced so that you can share yourself in a way that's healthy for everyone. So you can
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get from yourself. So that segues nicely into this question I have for you. So how has working with
your family influenced your business? Well, my husband started the business over 50 years
ago. He wanted to make money for an engagement ring for me, the first one, the baby one. And
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he was driving and he kind of fell in love with it. I was teaching, I was a substitute teacher,
social studies in local school. And he said to me, he couldn't speak English well. She was an
immigrant and he had trouble with English reading and writing. And he said, would you run the back
office? And I said, yeah, I would, but I wanted to start a family. If we were going to do it,
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I wanted to start the family. So we began our family. I gave up teaching, I went into the back
office and we booked the car one by one. I mean, we started this business with a $1,200 investment
for my kid brother, his lawn mowing money. He loaned us the money to buy the first car.
And because we never had anything, we were really broke. And we built it one vehicle at a time,
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doing, he was the mechanic, I became the dispatcher. I used to call companies in the city and ask them
how to do things. Now my mother was a full charge bookkeeper. So she started to help with payroll
as we started getting employees. And my father would go, we were heavily involved in the film
industry. So my father would go and do premieres. He would rep them in the city. So the family kind
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of came in and stayed in. And then as we made more of a profit, we were able to pay people.
So eventually my brother came to work for the company. My sister-in-law, but she was my sister-in-law,
and now she's my ex-sister-in-law, but she still works there. And my kids, of course, my daughter-in-law's,
even my grandchildren come in and work. But we have close to 700 people that work for the company.
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So the Oaken's comprise, yeah, it's a pretty big company. They comprise a very small group.
But actually most people who work at the company are there between 25 and 40 years. So they become
like family. Sure. Yeah. But that's fascinating, really, honestly. You seem so grounded and so
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knowledgeable about that. And thank you. That story is very, very interesting because
it shows hard work, the perseverance, but also homegrown business. And you brought all this to
your mediumship too. So Phyllis, I did notice on your website, and this is one of the things I think
the listeners will appreciate about you, just seguing a little bit to the mediumship part,
you've had several fascinating and excellent teachers. You had Kim Russo, Richard Knight,
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Joseph Shield, I think, and Thomas John. And we share Phyllis' history with Thomas John.
All those are very, very prestigious teachers. And being a teacher yourself, I'm sure you
appreciated that. And I don't want to fail to mention your two books about mediumship as well.
You've written a book entitled, Mediumship Made Easy and Expanding Mediumship. Would you like to
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talk about the books, those books, Linda? Well, first I want to address the classes. What had
happened was I started taking the classes during the pandemic. So I was home alone, isolated from
everybody. And I didn't know about Zooms before that. So we started to do Zoom for our business.
We kept in touch with clients and with staff and all the different cities we're in. And so
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Kim Russo and Thomas John and Joe Shield and Richard Knight, they all offered these classes.
And yes, that is how we met in Thomas' mentorship class. So it was great. So that, I was taking two
or three classes at a time because I was home and I had the time. And it was either that or just sit
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on the couch and drool until the pandemic was over and we could go back to work. So it kept me
occupied. Edward Pierce was also one of my teachers. So when I finished the course and Thomas
endorsed me, which really was exciting and thrilling, he would ask me to come on and help
him with this in a circle or he would ask me to read for his group of people. It was really
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thrilling to be singled out like that. So one of the people who worked with Thomas said to me,
you should be teaching. And I didn't feel qualified. She said, no, no, you could do this.
And with your teaching background. So what actually happened was I sat down and wrote a curriculum.
That's what I do. I sit down and I do it. So I wrote a curriculum and that was Medium Made Easy
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is actually the curriculum of my course. It's not a thick book, but it's pretty much it follows.
And I did each class, each class is only five sessions because I wanted people to dip their toe
in the water. And it's an overview. By the end of five classes, they're able to pick up vibrations
from pictures, from, you know, things that are in an envelope, you know, were able to do certain
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exercises. And so when we finished the first class, the students said to me, do another, do another,
we love this. So I did expanding mediumship. So I literally wrote down and wrote the curriculum.
And we went into expanding mediumship. And it was a huge success by the end of expanding mediumship.
They were actually reading people, you know, sure, was it as it wasn't a complete ability to do a
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reading like I, you know, I think a lot of it is confidence. I think they're quite capable, but they
lack confidence. So they said, do another, do another. So I said, all right, we'll do our last
course, you know, course level three, which is intensive mediumship. I don't have a book for it
because most of it is just practice because as you know, you really need to practice, you know,
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and, and when we finished that, they said more and more and more, we want to stay together.
So I created a Patreon, which meets once a month, and I bring in experts for them to explain because
just because they finished the course, maybe they need to go into pet communication or Reiki,
or maybe they're going to be doing investigative mediumship. So I bring in different people
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to explain all the different offshoots. We're going to have a health intuitive. And, and this is
because it's all about life's a smorgasbord, isn't it? And it, you know, it's laid out before you,
and you got to sample a little bit of everything. So I didn't write a curriculum, like I said,
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for the last, I mean, I have a written curriculum, but I didn't publish a curriculum,
but I give when they take the course, they get a free copy of the book, I send it to them.
And it really follows how what we're doing in class. So just, I did it because I wanted them
to have something tangible to, you know, you use those yellow markers when you went to school.
I wanted them to have something that they could highlight because so much when I took all those
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courses, and I took about 20 different teachers, what I found was, I would take a course, and I
listened and I took notes. But then when I took another course, and they reinforced it, I saw it
in a different light. So and what I do do with my students, if they pay for the course, the, you
know, if they pay for level one, they can take it as many times as they want. And I have people
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coming back and listening because you do pick up stuff after it all was unlike it's those light
bulb moments that change. And we've all had them as mediums when you get that light bulb moment,
like, did I really say that? Like, where did that come from?
Sure. Yeah. And it sounds like your courses are very dynamic and extremely well prepared,
you know, positioned so that people who are interested in this kind of thing and don't
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have a background that can find very, you know, be very comfortable maneuvering through this.
I should let the listeners know the way to find you is your website, ladyfellas.com.
And there's tons of information about how you can get more information about the classes and
what offerings you have as well as your books. And on Facebook, I know we spoke before about
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Facebook is Lady Phyllis Medium on Facebook, you can find Phyllis. That's Lady Phyllis Medium.
So please check those out. Phyllis, I knew this would be as dynamic as I expected. It's my head's
just spinning. And I'm excited for anybody who's listening to this today, because I know you're
going to be a gateway, like you said, to spirit-inspired things. And it sounds like,
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you know, there's that theme that's running through your career, your life, where spirits
kind of nudged you, pushed you, you know, opened up things. And you've been challenged to try things
and overcome a lot of obstacles and persevered. So some of our listeners are listening to this
broadcast. This is where it happens, folks. You know, we all start someplace and we all,
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you know, find our ways. And I think you mentioned, Phyllis, that you have like 20 teachers.
Was that the 20 people that have kind of guided you and pushed you and helped you along your way?
Right. That's exactly right. I took courses wherever I could find a course. You know,
there were several teachers. I can't think of all of their names, but there was Pat Longo, there was
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Eddie Pierce, there was Dawn, she goes by Dawn Angelize. Wherever I could find a course, I took
the course. And some of them didn't make sense or didn't mean anything to me. But later on, if I'd be
going through my notes, I'd say, oh, it's kind of like puzzle pieces coming together. Like all of a
sudden, it just makes sense. It's kind of like when you take math, and it's such an enigma when
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you start it. And then after you've taken it, you look back and go, how did I not see that before?
So it's, I designed the courses to be kind of the same way I learned, like kind of like turning a
page and something else is revealed. And it's also in baby steps, because what I found mostly
is that most people feel they come with an attitude of I can't, or I don't, or I won't.
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And what they've learned is, when you take those things out of your vocabulary, you'd be surprised
at what you do do. And sometimes it's just a matter of, you know, keep doing it until all of a sudden,
it's there. And I used to say, I basically did the same thing as I do with my own children. In fact,
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my son is taking the course, like comes and he sits in, and he started reading people this year.
And it was really amazing. He just he said, I couldn't believe it, you were right. Once you see
it, you can't unsee it. And I think what also amazed him is how easy it was that once he suspended
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the belief that you have to be gifted, because I start class by saying we're not gifted. Everybody
can do this. There's nothing special about us. We're just reconnecting with the ability
abilities we had as children that were slowly filmed over, or made us forget, so that, you know,
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we're reconnecting to that from when we were little. For instance, I always use this example that,
you know, sometimes you get, you know, somebody says, get the ketchup, you're at the kitchen table
and they say, can you get the ketchup? And you go to the fridge, and you open it up, and you're
staring right at it. You say, I don't see it. I don't see it. Well, that's how it is with spirit.
We don't, you know, we've been conditioned to ignore it by parents, by people, you know,
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by our busy lives, by our monkey minds. So it's kind of, we reconnect with that and start to notice.
And like I've said, once you see it, you can't unsee it. Yes, right. I couldn't agree more. And
both here on the broadcast and in some of my interactions with doing some student teaching
and with clients, you know, I always tell them, you can't deny your own personal experience. If
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you've encountered something and you know it, maybe psychically, you suspect it's paranormal,
whatever it is, it's your experience. And that's what you can draw from. And I think you mentioned,
I'm sure you mentioned it earlier, about confidence. Sometimes we need someone who has a
special set of ears and has the vocabulary and can talk about these sorts of things and feel
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comfortable, you know, addressing them. And then oftentimes just are acknowledging them, you know,
saying, yeah, that's a real thing. Those kinds of things happen. Give them a chance to explore
and expand their own awareness, right? But also as a teacher and a mentor, we develop that. We help
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them take that next step and understand what they're developing. Because as I think you mentioned,
they don't develop at the same pace either. Some people are coming and, you know, some people,
you know, jackrabbit to the, across the finish line. And I thought it fascinating when you said
your son found it very, very easy. So, but I think that's a testament to your teaching, you know,
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if you just give them the right tools, they can do it pretty well, right?
Well, you know, the funny thing about my kids, you know, when I say my kids, you know, Michael's 46
and Eric's 42, he's going to be 42 this year, you know, they're adults. But we had always had an open
line of communication where they invent, reinvent me as much as I reinvent them. They'll bring
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things. They keep me relevant in the sense that they say they don't let me fall behind or get stuck
just because we've done something a certain way for years. Doesn't mean that you have to do it
like that forever, you know, and they'll say, get with the program, mom, you know, come on, you know,
learn how to use a cell phone with that buttons, you know, they don't cut me slack that way. But
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I want to also add that in my class, something that I did, I took for granted, was it's an open
forum to make mistakes. And we don't compare ourselves with each other, they go at their own
pace. And everybody is corrected. Like when they shouldn't say make mistakes. It's kind of like,
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make corrections. And the one thing I think that holds people back is they're afraid of being wrong.
And I tell them being wrong is good. Because it's by being wrong, you find out what what is right.
If you don't make mistakes, you're not going to figure out the right way to do things. Mistakes
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are just as important as as getting it right all the time. So in fact, that's the theme of my book,
Grady Will, and the Templeton Codex, that, that, you know, getting things wrong is good, because
that's how we get things right. You know, that's how we, we do those self corrections to learn.
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Sure, absolutely. And you know, overcoming fear, you know, just acknowledging that fear,
when you're in a classroom situation, can be and we all have it, we all come in, you know,
we don't want to be fumbling. And, and you know, when you're in a classroom, such other people are
observing you, and you know, you want to do well. And I think we oftentimes get in our own way,
psychically, you know, we get we get we're getting the things that we're you're training us to do.
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But we're overthinking things. And that's the key. Yeah, no. And then we doubt it. And then we go,
Oh, no, I'm not sure. And then we look at, like you mentioned before, we look at someone's we make
the mistake or the error of comparing ourselves to others. And that's our perception of how well
they're doing. But you know, they're also trying to grow and develop as well at their own pace.
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So it's nice to be able to have someone like you, who can make that personal connection and allow
people to, you know, water themselves and just grow at their own pace, because oftentimes,
you know, people can get discouraged very, very easily, if they don't think they're getting it.
And you know, I found it, the wider you make it, you can, I'm not sure, the wider you make it,
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the easier you make it, the more accessible you make it. And that's so strange and crazy and
special, allows people to explore a little bit more of what they do. You know, sometimes they'll
say, Well, I didn't quite do it this way. I did it that way. And I always welcome that. I'm like,
Yeah, okay, that works for you. And oftentimes, they have good tips, you know, they'll
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I think one of the ways that I realized that there was stuff going on, I always everybody
knows about clairvoyance, right? Everybody knows about clairvoyance on a clear day, you see forever
that movie, you know, everybody knows about the clear seeing in your head. But when I realized
that there were multiple ways to get the information is clear cognizant, clear sentient, clear gusty,
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and clear audience, all the different Claire's just like we have all these different senses,
we have different Claire's that come in. And when you realize that maybe you're hearing it, maybe,
you know, I just did a reading for somebody, my eyes were drawn to something that's clairvoyance,
too. It doesn't have to be internal in my head, my eyes were drawn to something in her room in the
back of her room. And when I brought it up, you know, it resonated with her. So it's a lot of
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times, it's just about educating yourself, that you may not even realize that it's so much a part
of our lives, that gut feeling that we have that we didn't pass the test, or we're not going to get
that job. That's all, you know, types of clairvoyance or getting from your, you know, your higher self,
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these are all things that everybody's experienced, getting the chills or the phone rings, and you
know who it is before you pick up or knowing that something's, you know, going to happen,
you know, oh, my goodness, you know, the phone rings, and you know, before you pick it up, what
it is. So these are all examples that we're all living with this. It's just we don't, it doesn't
have a name. Right. Yeah, yeah. And it's wonderful when you can enable another person to help
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facilitate that and then explain it, and then they try it, and they do it, and they're surprised,
you know, there's no experience in the whole world when you've countervated it in a teaching
moment. But also as a student, you know, I know it's like, oh, my gosh, did that really happen?
One of the things that I do with newcomers, and I don't know if you know, is I talk about
premonitions and intuition and instincts. And I say, well, you know, what do you think? And then
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it's amazing, the diverse and depth of experiences that people have had with those sorts of things,
like, oh, that happened to me. Oh, I know that. And, you know, that helps them feel like this is,
you know, less strange. Right. Right. That's exactly right. You know, the one thing I did
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get when I started in those classes was I realized how much I rely on my intuition and my higher self
when I was doing sales calls with clients, you know, when to talk, when not to talk,
what to say, what subject to bring up. How did I know those things? It's intuitive. And, you know,
we use intuitive. You're going to meet the teacher in your classroom, you know, you know, not to say
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certain things. It's not manners. Sometimes it's just intuitive that you know that if you're going
to talk about politics with this teacher, it's going to affect your child's grades. Intuitively,
you know, to stay away from that subject. Absolutely. Sure. And, you know, going on
with that, I work for law enforcement, I think I told you, and I often observe in my environment,
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trained officers who use body language, facial expressions, you know, gestures and sort of
things as a way of interpreting what the person is telling them. They absorb it. But there's a layer,
there's a dimension. And of course, you'd be able to pick it up immediately. When they're actually
reading, psychically reading that person, I can feel the energy. And I'm like, the person that,
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you know, that they're coming in contact with is maybe not aware of it. But I'll sit there and go,
wow, I don't think they know they're reading that person. They're getting all of that information
that way, you know. Well, we take it for granted. And like I said, it's so much a part of the
lexicon that and maybe for a lot of people, it's hard for them to accept that they may be doing
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this intuitively or psychically. Because they're, you know, after every reading I do, there's always
someone in the room that I say to them, your husband doesn't believe in this, or your mother
thinks it's a line of crap or whatever. And they go, absolutely. And I, and I would say, you know,
something like, well, they are getting messages, but they're not accepting it, or they're writing
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it off as coincidence rather than synchronicity. Sure, sure. Yeah, I love synchronicity. So I just
a just a sidebar here. In my early, early years, long before I ever developed and started exploring,
I was aware of something that other people would do. And they were reading me. And I was like,
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I don't know what you're doing. But you're looking at me and you're observing me carefully. And I
didn't know that I didn't know if they were psychic or not, because I didn't, I couldn't
explain it or verbalize it. I didn't have Alexa kind of to, you know, to bring that to it. But I
realized after I developed that that's what they had been doing. They were just reading me. And so
it was sort of like someone stands there and addresses me. And I was like, there's nothing here
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to see. Knock yourself out. You know, if you want to fight, there's nothing. But now, I'll bet that
this is a similar experience. If you meet another medium or psychic, you probably have that. You can
feel that energy like coming right off of you. Like, oh, I'm being read. They're downloading
right now. It was interesting. I tend to do that when I go for readings all the time. I feel that
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you have to test the market. And I like to see different styles. I do go invariably, I end up
saying something where I end up reading them back. But oddly enough, today I had a reading. And the
woman looked familiar. And I didn't recognize her. And I read her and her mother. And then when we
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finished, I said, she said, when we finish, I'll tell you. And I said something odd about that her
daughter was going to end up doing something like I was doing. You know, like in either was reiki or
something in the intuitive field. And she smiled and she said, I thought you got it. She said, I
read you about 15 years ago. And I kind of flipped out, I, I had gone to her, maybe 15, 20 years ago.
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And no, hold on. It was, it was about, it was about 13 years ago, I had gone to her when she was
doing it in her house. And it was just really funny. And not only had I, but we always share,
my brothers went, my kids went, like we all went to her. And I had forgotten her name. And it was
just really funny that here she was. And she said, she recognized me when she saw my last name,
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because I had sent her an email as like you said, I operate as Lady Phyllis. So she didn't put it
together until she saw my last name. She goes, I know her. And it's just really funny. And
it's just really funny. And afterwards, I'm glad I didn't know before, I'm afraid that it might have
made me, I don't want to say nervous, but maybe I would have felt that, you know, I was being judged
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or whatever. So I did the reading and it was great reading. And they had wonderful connections.
But when I said that her daughter may go into this intuitive side of the business,
she laughed because she's expanding.
It's funny.
Those are always the most special encounters, you know. And you can't make this stuff up. It's just
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and you know, I find that that drives me that keeps me going. I can have, you know,
I can do bumper cars for reading and maybe flub it up and get it wrong and, you know,
get a lot of no's, you know, more than my share sometimes. But if I get a couple of connections
that are really, really good on these kinds of encounters, these special things where you help
somebody and it's all made sense and worked, it certainly makes it worthwhile. And Phyllis,
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you mentioned, I'm glad.
The no's, it's okay. But the no's are, very often people come with a mindset that they only want to
hear from their uncle Rodney or whatever. So you're going to get a lot of no's because they
don't want to hear from Aunt Sally or whatever it is. You know, particularly when you have,
you know, a parent coming, they don't want to hear from another relative. They want to hear
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from their child. But, you know, as mediums, you know, we have no control over who comes through.
We can only deliver the messages that we're getting. So a lot of times, and what I find too
is I'll say, well, Charlie's here and they'll go, I don't know what Charlie, I don't know what Charlie.
And they write it down or they have it. And I will invariably get a note from them saying,
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oh my God, I can't believe I forgot my cousin Charlie. I wasn't thinking. So no's, like I said,
are very often not really no's. They're just non-acknowledgements.
Sure. Sure. And I've done that. I've been read myself by someone and didn't know. In the heat
of battle, I was like, ah, you know, and I thought afterwards, of course, you know, and it's very,
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very into taking the no and working in the no is really a, there's a fine art to that. It's like a
dance, isn't it? Managing the no. Yeah. Yeah. Right. And I never, I never disregarded them. I'm like,
okay, just like you said, write it down. And oftentimes it's that amnesia. We call it the
psychic amnesia, right? You mentioned a word, keyword. It's like, I'm like a squirrel.
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If you say something psychic, synchronicity, synchronicity is one of those things, again,
that pulls people in. There's a validation, the confirmations that we tend to help people look for.
And I think it's just one of those wonderful gifts in life that we have, we can enjoy,
that clients and customers and people who we engage with can enjoy in synchronicity.
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And this encounter is sort of a synchronicity because I wasn't sure. I was looking, I was trying
to find, and then there it was, it had happened. It turned out we had crossed paths earlier. So
what are your thoughts about synchronicity?
Well, synchronicity is the spice. Yeah. I think it's the spice of life. It's confirmation that
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nothing is arbitrary. You know, we talked about books that I wrote. I'm going to give you a
synchronicity here. Here's a book that I wrote called 366 Affirmations and Inspirations to Live
By. I wrote this book in one weekend. And how did it work? My friend said to me, write a book
about affirmations. I said, I don't know what an affirmation is. So she sent me a bunch and I go,
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oh yes, I know what that is. So speak about synchronicity. I bring this now to all of my
readings and I tell the sitter, pick a number one to 366. And I open it up and read the number that
they chose. And I wrote these, it's 366 affirmations and it always resonates with them that, you know,
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just to give you, for instance, my grandson was sitting with me outside and we were talking about,
he had broken up with a friend. They had, you know, they had had a huge fight. And I said to him,
you got to call this kid. You got to call him. And he goes, I don't want to. We had a huge fight.
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And I said, well, and this boy had hurt his feelings. And I said, if you had to describe
yourself, how would you describe yourself? So first he said, he's very handsome, which I said,
we all know that, you know, so now I want you to describe who you are. And he says, well, I'm sweet.
I'm loyal. I'm friendly. I'm good. I said, were you loyal to this kid? He goes, well, no, after
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they fought, were you friendly to this kid? No, because he, the friend had tried to make up and
he wouldn't take it. I said, were you sweet? I said, so you're allowing his bad behavior to
change who you are. And I said, go get the book. He got the book. I said, just open it randomly to
any page. He opened it up and it said, do not let others actions change who you are. That's
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synchronicity. He was floored. He's 15 years old. He took the book. He said, I'm keeping it next to
my bed. I can't believe that's what came up, you know? So that's synchronicity. It's confirmation
that whatever is going on, it's real. Absolutely. Yeah. Yeah. And that's what we're all about here
on broadcast, you know, finding a safe space and sharing about things that these encounters,
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these experiences and learning, you know, doing the deeper dive unpacking things, you know,
taking the mystery away from a lot of the stuff. And I loved what you said earlier is that when
you teach in the classes that we're not all, we're special in our uniqueness and our diversity and
our diversity and our individual personalities and our talents and stuff, but this is not a special
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thing. That's just, you know, God sort of gave out the line, you know, things to say, you stay
in line, God gave you gifts and it can be developed. And I think you would agree,
time and practice is what it just requires. You know, if you're-
Confidence, time and practice.
Sure. Yeah. Yeah. And it's wonderful to watch people develop and grow and flourish and thrive.
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So, yeah. And then share that like you've done, you know, go on and share. Again, folks, if you're
listening and you'd like to get in contact, the website is ladyphilis.com, ladyphilis.com,
one word, and you can find her on Facebook as well. It's ladyphilismedium and check her out and
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see what's going on there because there's always a lot, you know. And I did enjoy perusing your
website. You have this one very, very intriguing thing that I admire amazingly because you're
extremely brave, Phyllis. I got to tell you, you've got on your website, you've got online
emergency reading.
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That was my son thought of that. He said, because people kept calling and saying,
I need an appointment right away. I need an appointment right away. So he created
an emergency kind of period where if someone needs that reading right away,
and it's happened. I've had people call me and say, I had to speak to somebody.
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Sure. Yeah. And you've always had the right answer at the right time. It's just amazing how
spirit works. If they found you at the right time and you were able to be available when you
might have not thought you were available and then that connection was made and you've got a very
rare satisfied client there. But also you feel like you've provided something by offering that
emergency. I had that on my website. I called it the squeeze me in and it was an after hours kind
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of thing. You could get me really early and you were late at night. And I thought people wanted
to do it then. They wanted to squeeze me in during the day. I was like, well, you know, that's when
I have a day job. Yeah. Yeah. Just let me go outside and take this call. I'll be right back
in 40 minutes. So yeah, it doesn't always work. Although I admire you because you've been able to
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do this on your schedule and I'll get there eventually, I think. So it's been a fascinating
conversation as I knew it would. So let's see. Wow. In addition to books and doing all the business
stuff and medium stuff and teaching stuff, what do you like to do when you have a downtime, when
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you've got a free day or if you get a free day? Well, I do. I do. You know, the kids are always
the priority. Weekends, they come here and I see my grandchildren. I have four. And you know, we
ride bikes. So we do chalk drawings on the driveway. Sometimes we sit and we talk. They all play
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with dowsing rods. We do dowsing rods. We align our chakras. We do a lot of different activities
that, you know, I have a 15 year old, a 13 year old, an 11 year old and a nine year old. So they're
always the, you know, I'll watch movies with them. We just finished the Hunger Games series
with the big ones, the little ones I'm watching Wonder with a babysit. I also tap dance. I taught
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myself how to tap dance. Yeah. I like that. I do yoga twice a week. I set aside time for yoga.
And I travel. I do a lot of traveling with my kids. You know, we have offices in different cities
around the globe actually. So we do do that. I'm going to Orlando in the coming weeks with the kids.
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That's going to be fun, but I do have meetings down there. So a little bit of business, a little bit
of pleasure. And I eat lunch with my kid brother every day. He's the CFO of our company. You know,
so I just spend a lot of time. I see my other brother on the weekends. I make time for everything.
I have a group of women that I met in my bereavement group and we make sure that we stay in touch. I
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have, I have, I have a lot of great friends that I make sure that I stay in touch with.
Sure. And it's wonderful, you know, to maintain that support system, to make sure that people who
are helpful and, you know, enabling around you. And it's a lot of pots on the stove.
It is. It is. But like I said, I jettisoned the time suckers. So maybe my laundries don't look so
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unwrinkled. Maybe, maybe the underwear isn't so white, you know, maybe the tile grout is not as
beautiful as it could be. But, you know, I try to put my energies where I'm most productive.
Oh, and I read a lot, you know, I do read a lot. I don't mean read people. I read books. I like to
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read. And then I write. Writing is actually an outlet. Writing, when I write a book, and I've
written, like I said, quite a few, it's, it's, it's entertaining for me.
Sure. Yeah. And it's also fulfilling in a way that it just spiritualizes you as well. You know,
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you can get your cake full back, you know, get full again. So yeah, get your energy back. Yeah.
One of the things I've enjoyed about hosting professionals like yourself on the broadcast
is that last question, what do you do to recharge? What do you do to relax? And typically,
it's very, very diverse. It's usually something like you mentioned, something personal like reading.
And it's, or hiking or walking or, in one case, a person, his name is, his name is,
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Nicholas David. He's in France. He likes to go to the ocean and any kind of weather, just walk along
the beach and just be in the ocean. And that grounds him, regenerate, re-energizes him, gets
clear as in, makes him feel vitalized again. And he, and he can go back and he'll feel like he's done.
He's ready to go back in the front line, so to speak. And as far as the laundry, that just makes
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you more relatable. Yeah. Yeah. Well, thank you for sharing all of your passions with us, you know,
for reading and writing and, you know, working with people because you are a people person,
you know, you're just a natural, you know, this comes naturally.
You know, the biggest lesson I've got, I'm a people pleaser and the biggest lesson to come out of this
and I do teach this in my class is, you know, people who do have a lot of experience with
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people who are people pleasers because we want to heal people. You know, that's the ultimate goal
of doing a reading is to bring comfort, healing, closure to somebody. It's not a parlor trick and
it's not, it's not, I can read your mind or, or I can, I'm gifted or whatever. It's really about
giving somebody comfort and closure that they need. But the thing that I, you know, most people
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who do this are empathetic and the empaths and the first thing I teach them is don't forget that
you're a people too. You're, you're pleasing people, but don't, you cannot, you cannot drink
from an empty cup. So just like you said, talk about recharging, make sure you recharge yourself,
make sure you leave enough for yourself because it is, um, people will take and take and take,
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so you have to make sure that you put on a mask and you're not going to be able to do that.
And take, so you have to make sure that you put up a boundary and say, okay, this is as far as I go.
I have to take care of myself too. Absolutely. Yeah. And the folks you heard it here, those are
words of wisdom, uh, pearls of wisdom, because you know, uh, we can, we can just, uh, give and
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give and give to the point where we're exhausted and then, you know, and then we're again trying
to, to, to overdo a little bit, but, um, yeah. And I love what you said about that because we're not
entertainers, you know, we're not here to entertain someone or to feel the spotlight or really to get
on a platform and amaze people. It's really about healing and helping. Those are our genuine,
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sincere motivations here. When someone, you know, goes away and they've been, you know, empowered
and feel better, um, that's really the reward, you know, for everybody, everybody wins. So,
and that's the value, the value behind investing your time and effort and so much, you know, money,
you know, in developing yourself. So if you're, if you're listening to this and you're wondering,
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well, should I, you know, I'm not sure, you know, reach out to fellas, talk to her, have a chat,
you know, contact her, let her know, and then see where you're at and she'll hold your hand
and get you to the next step, you know, because she's obviously an expert in that and, uh,
can help you with that. Again, the, uh, the, the website is ladyphillis.com and you can find her
on Facebook at ladyphillismedium and, uh, you know, uh, don't stop thinking about it. Just do it. You
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know, that's what you want to, because time's flying, you know, you've got, you gotta make it,
well, you can't and the opportunity is knocking right now. Knock, knock, knock. So if you're
waiting for a sign, if you're sitting out there waiting for a sign, like, can I do this? I'm not
sure. This is your sign right here. Okay. Ladyphillis.com. Alrighty. Well, Phyllis,
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it has been an absolute pleasure. I think I'm giddy. I'm so excited about having you here and
I hope we're gonna have you come back. You know, we'll save some for next time. Um, yeah. And I
know I'm going to get lots of cards and letters and, uh, feel good vibes and feels for, uh, for
today's broadcast. So, uh, you've got a very busy schedule and I can't thank you again for being so
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generous with your time and your wisdom and knowledge and imparting all that and sharing
that with us and all listeners today. So, um, anyway, um, we're going to wish you well and all
your endeavors, friends, family, clients, everybody. And, um, thank you again so much for coming on the
broadcast. My pleasure. Thank you so much for having me. Take care. Bye bye. Bye.
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Hello everyone, this is Psychic Pete, and welcome to today's broadcast. And we have
a very special guest today, and I'm extremely excited to be able to present her on the program.
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Phyllis is a professional psychic and medium, and she has found time in her very, very busy
schedule to come and talk to us and share some of her very, very interesting life story and
her history and her experiences. And this is going to be a very special treat for us today.
And to start off, I'd like to read some background information. And I asked Phyllis if it was okay,
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and she gave us her permission. And then I promise I'll step out of the way and let Phyllis have the
floor. But first of all, welcome Phyllis to the broadcast. Thank you Pete, thanks for having me
here. Absolutely, it's our pleasure, isn't it? So Phyllis Oaken, it's an O-K-O-N folks, is the CEO
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when her husband of 48 years passed away. She has published 82 books. Is it 82 or 83, Phyllis?
It's 83. I thought so. Well, so I haven't read them all yet, but I, you know, who knows?
In all different genres. So she's very, very adaptive writing. She's also a practicing medium
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and psychic. Phyllis Oaken co-founded BLS, a limousine service with her late husband
almost 50 years ago. She's a former social studies teacher when she quit teaching to run the back
office from her tiny kitchen in Long Island. The company grew to three offices and after her
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husband's passing, she and her two sons expanded to 11 more, including a flagship office in London.
So BLS stands today proudly a woman owned and world renowned business. So at 55, she reinvented
herself to begin writing and that produced 83 books, many of which are award-winning. Writing
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as Carol P. Roman and Britt London, she has enchanted children, parents, and teachers with
several fiction and non-fiction series. Her joke book, the Big Book of Silly Jokes for kids,
shot to the top of Amazon, outselling every other book for two whole months. Her young adult novel,
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Grady Will and the Templeton Codex is currently being turned into a screenplay. How exciting.
So after her husband had passed, she ventured into mediumship classes, eventually being singled out
of her mentorship and endorsed by seatbelt psychic Thomas John. As Lady Phyllis, I love this,
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Lady Phyllis, her ability to connect and give evidential information has built this new venture
into many monthly sessions and now a very steady clientele. Combining her love of teaching with her
many talents, she has now opened several courses sharing her knowledge, wisdom, and demystifying
mediumship to enable a new generation to embrace this. Phyllis has traveled many roads as a teacher,
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a CEO, a best-selling and award-winning author, wife, mother, and grandmother, as if that wasn't
enough. Her biggest fear was becoming irrelevant as she got older or as she aged.
Her unique experiences have made her a compassionate and understanding medium, CEO and author,
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providing you don't have to give anything up because of age. So I mean, that is probably the
most diverse background information I've ever encountered. That's why it's exciting to meet
you and to share with the listeners today. So thank you so much.
Thank you so much. I think that stems from my parents. They always encouraged me to do what I
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wanted to do. And my husband was like that too. When I started writing books, he said to me,
write more, write more. So I was always surrounded by great support staff. My kids encouraged me.
And likewise, I do the same for them. Yeah. I don't know why you have time to do everything.
You mentioned a little bit before the broadcast, you're an early riser.
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I am an early riser, but you'd be surprised that when you jettison time suckers of what you're
capable of doing. To me, if it's not, although, listen, I spend a lot of time watching junk
television or reading books or even just sitting out today. I didn't have a chance to sit outside
and get some sunshine, get some vitamin D, but I make time for my grandchildren. I
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do silly time, I do play time. I do all kinds of things. It's amazing what you can find time to do
when you really want something. Sure. Yeah. And that's part of this lifestyle
as a medium and a psychic. You try to maintain the balance of being holistic and being healthy
and being balanced so that you can share yourself in a way that's healthy for everyone. So you can
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get from yourself. So that segues nicely into this question I have for you. So how has working with
your family influenced your business? Well, my husband started the business over 50 years
ago. He wanted to make money for an engagement ring for me, the first one, the baby one. And
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he was driving and he kind of fell in love with it. I was teaching, I was a substitute teacher,
social studies in local school. And he said to me, he couldn't speak English well. She was an
immigrant and he had trouble with English reading and writing. And he said, would you run the back
office? And I said, yeah, I would, but I wanted to start a family. If we were going to do it,
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I wanted to start the family. So we began our family. I gave up teaching, I went into the back
office and we booked the car one by one. I mean, we started this business with a $1,200 investment
for my kid brother, his lawn mowing money. He loaned us the money to buy the first car.
And because we never had anything, we were really broke. And we built it one vehicle at a time,
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doing, he was the mechanic, I became the dispatcher. I used to call companies in the city and ask them
how to do things. Now my mother was a full charge bookkeeper. So she started to help with payroll
as we started getting employees. And my father would go, we were heavily involved in the film
industry. So my father would go and do premieres. He would rep them in the city. So the family kind
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of came in and stayed in. And then as we made more of a profit, we were able to pay people.
So eventually my brother came to work for the company. My sister-in-law, but she was my sister-in-law,
and now she's my ex-sister-in-law, but she still works there. And my kids, of course, my daughter-in-law's,
even my grandchildren come in and work. But we have close to 700 people that work for the company.
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So the Oaken's comprise, yeah, it's a pretty big company. They comprise a very small group.
But actually most people who work at the company are there between 25 and 40 years. So they become
like family. Sure. Yeah. But that's fascinating, really, honestly. You seem so grounded and so
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knowledgeable about that. And thank you. That story is very, very interesting because
it shows hard work, the perseverance, but also homegrown business. And you brought all this to
your mediumship too. So Phyllis, I did notice on your website, and this is one of the things I think
the listeners will appreciate about you, just seguing a little bit to the mediumship part,
you've had several fascinating and excellent teachers. You had Kim Russo, Richard Knight,
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Joseph Shield, I think, and Thomas John. And we share Phyllis' history with Thomas John.
All those are very, very prestigious teachers. And being a teacher yourself, I'm sure you
appreciated that. And I don't want to fail to mention your two books about mediumship as well.
You've written a book entitled, Mediumship Made Easy and Expanding Mediumship. Would you like to
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talk about the books, those books, Linda? Well, first I want to address the classes. What had
happened was I started taking the classes during the pandemic. So I was home alone, isolated from
everybody. And I didn't know about Zooms before that. So we started to do Zoom for our business.
We kept in touch with clients and with staff and all the different cities we're in. And so
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Kim Russo and Thomas John and Joe Shield and Richard Knight, they all offered these classes.
And yes, that is how we met in Thomas' mentorship class. So it was great. So that, I was taking two
or three classes at a time because I was home and I had the time. And it was either that or just sit
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on the couch and drool until the pandemic was over and we could go back to work. So it kept me
occupied. Edward Pierce was also one of my teachers. So when I finished the course and Thomas
endorsed me, which really was exciting and thrilling, he would ask me to come on and help
him with this in a circle or he would ask me to read for his group of people. It was really
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thrilling to be singled out like that. So one of the people who worked with Thomas said to me,
you should be teaching. And I didn't feel qualified. She said, no, no, you could do this.
And with your teaching background. So what actually happened was I sat down and wrote a curriculum.
That's what I do. I sit down and I do it. So I wrote a curriculum and that was Medium Made Easy
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is actually the curriculum of my course. It's not a thick book, but it's pretty much it follows.
And I did each class, each class is only five sessions because I wanted people to dip their toe
in the water. And it's an overview. By the end of five classes, they're able to pick up vibrations
from pictures, from, you know, things that are in an envelope, you know, were able to do certain
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exercises. And so when we finished the first class, the students said to me, do another, do another,
we love this. So I did expanding mediumship. So I literally wrote down and wrote the curriculum.
And we went into expanding mediumship. And it was a huge success by the end of expanding mediumship.
They were actually reading people, you know, sure, was it as it wasn't a complete ability to do a
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reading like I, you know, I think a lot of it is confidence. I think they're quite capable, but they
lack confidence. So they said, do another, do another. So I said, all right, we'll do our last
course, you know, course level three, which is intensive mediumship. I don't have a book for it
because most of it is just practice because as you know, you really need to practice, you know,
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and, and when we finished that, they said more and more and more, we want to stay together.
So I created a Patreon, which meets once a month, and I bring in experts for them to explain because
just because they finished the course, maybe they need to go into pet communication or Reiki,
or maybe they're going to be doing investigative mediumship. So I bring in different people
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to explain all the different offshoots. We're going to have a health intuitive. And, and this is
because it's all about life's a smorgasbord, isn't it? And it, you know, it's laid out before you,
and you got to sample a little bit of everything. So I didn't write a curriculum, like I said,
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for the last, I mean, I have a written curriculum, but I didn't publish a curriculum,
but I give when they take the course, they get a free copy of the book, I send it to them.
And it really follows how what we're doing in class. So just, I did it because I wanted them
to have something tangible to, you know, you use those yellow markers when you went to school.
I wanted them to have something that they could highlight because so much when I took all those
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courses, and I took about 20 different teachers, what I found was, I would take a course, and I
listened and I took notes. But then when I took another course, and they reinforced it, I saw it
in a different light. So and what I do do with my students, if they pay for the course, the, you
know, if they pay for level one, they can take it as many times as they want. And I have people
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coming back and listening because you do pick up stuff after it all was unlike it's those light
bulb moments that change. And we've all had them as mediums when you get that light bulb moment,
like, did I really say that? Like, where did that come from?
Sure. Yeah. And it sounds like your courses are very dynamic and extremely well prepared,
you know, positioned so that people who are interested in this kind of thing and don't
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have a background that can find very, you know, be very comfortable maneuvering through this.
I should let the listeners know the way to find you is your website, ladyfellas.com.
And there's tons of information about how you can get more information about the classes and
what offerings you have as well as your books. And on Facebook, I know we spoke before about
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Facebook is Lady Phyllis Medium on Facebook, you can find Phyllis. That's Lady Phyllis Medium.
So please check those out. Phyllis, I knew this would be as dynamic as I expected. It's my head's
just spinning. And I'm excited for anybody who's listening to this today, because I know you're
going to be a gateway, like you said, to spirit-inspired things. And it sounds like,
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you know, there's that theme that's running through your career, your life, where spirits
kind of nudged you, pushed you, you know, opened up things. And you've been challenged to try things
and overcome a lot of obstacles and persevered. So some of our listeners are listening to this
broadcast. This is where it happens, folks. You know, we all start someplace and we all,
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you know, find our ways. And I think you mentioned, Phyllis, that you have like 20 teachers.
Was that the 20 people that have kind of guided you and pushed you and helped you along your way?
Right. That's exactly right. I took courses wherever I could find a course. You know,
there were several teachers. I can't think of all of their names, but there was Pat Longo, there was
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Eddie Pierce, there was Dawn, she goes by Dawn Angelize. Wherever I could find a course, I took
the course. And some of them didn't make sense or didn't mean anything to me. But later on, if I'd be
going through my notes, I'd say, oh, it's kind of like puzzle pieces coming together. Like all of a
sudden, it just makes sense. It's kind of like when you take math, and it's such an enigma when
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you start it. And then after you've taken it, you look back and go, how did I not see that before?
So it's, I designed the courses to be kind of the same way I learned, like kind of like turning a
page and something else is revealed. And it's also in baby steps, because what I found mostly
is that most people feel they come with an attitude of I can't, or I don't, or I won't.
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And what they've learned is, when you take those things out of your vocabulary, you'd be surprised
at what you do do. And sometimes it's just a matter of, you know, keep doing it until all of a sudden,
it's there. And I used to say, I basically did the same thing as I do with my own children. In fact,
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my son is taking the course, like comes and he sits in, and he started reading people this year.
And it was really amazing. He just he said, I couldn't believe it, you were right. Once you see
it, you can't unsee it. And I think what also amazed him is how easy it was that once he suspended
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the belief that you have to be gifted, because I start class by saying we're not gifted. Everybody
can do this. There's nothing special about us. We're just reconnecting with the ability
abilities we had as children that were slowly filmed over, or made us forget, so that, you know,
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we're reconnecting to that from when we were little. For instance, I always use this example that,
you know, sometimes you get, you know, somebody says, get the ketchup, you're at the kitchen table
and they say, can you get the ketchup? And you go to the fridge, and you open it up, and you're
staring right at it. You say, I don't see it. I don't see it. Well, that's how it is with spirit.
We don't, you know, we've been conditioned to ignore it by parents, by people, you know,
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by our busy lives, by our monkey minds. So it's kind of, we reconnect with that and start to notice.
And like I've said, once you see it, you can't unsee it. Yes, right. I couldn't agree more. And
both here on the broadcast and in some of my interactions with doing some student teaching
and with clients, you know, I always tell them, you can't deny your own personal experience. If
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you've encountered something and you know it, maybe psychically, you suspect it's paranormal,
whatever it is, it's your experience. And that's what you can draw from. And I think you mentioned,
I'm sure you mentioned it earlier, about confidence. Sometimes we need someone who has a
special set of ears and has the vocabulary and can talk about these sorts of things and feel
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comfortable, you know, addressing them. And then oftentimes just are acknowledging them, you know,
saying, yeah, that's a real thing. Those kinds of things happen. Give them a chance to explore
and expand their own awareness, right? But also as a teacher and a mentor, we develop that. We help
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them take that next step and understand what they're developing. Because as I think you mentioned,
they don't develop at the same pace either. Some people are coming and, you know, some people,
you know, jackrabbit to the, across the finish line. And I thought it fascinating when you said
your son found it very, very easy. So, but I think that's a testament to your teaching, you know,
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if you just give them the right tools, they can do it pretty well, right?
Well, you know, the funny thing about my kids, you know, when I say my kids, you know, Michael's 46
and Eric's 42, he's going to be 42 this year, you know, they're adults. But we had always had an open
line of communication where they invent, reinvent me as much as I reinvent them. They'll bring
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things. They keep me relevant in the sense that they say they don't let me fall behind or get stuck
just because we've done something a certain way for years. Doesn't mean that you have to do it
like that forever, you know, and they'll say, get with the program, mom, you know, come on, you know,
learn how to use a cell phone with that buttons, you know, they don't cut me slack that way. But
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I want to also add that in my class, something that I did, I took for granted, was it's an open
forum to make mistakes. And we don't compare ourselves with each other, they go at their own
pace. And everybody is corrected. Like when they shouldn't say make mistakes. It's kind of like,
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make corrections. And the one thing I think that holds people back is they're afraid of being wrong.
And I tell them being wrong is good. Because it's by being wrong, you find out what what is right.
If you don't make mistakes, you're not going to figure out the right way to do things. Mistakes
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are just as important as as getting it right all the time. So in fact, that's the theme of my book,
Grady Will, and the Templeton Codex, that, that, you know, getting things wrong is good, because
that's how we get things right. You know, that's how we, we do those self corrections to learn.
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Sure, absolutely. And you know, overcoming fear, you know, just acknowledging that fear,
when you're in a classroom situation, can be and we all have it, we all come in, you know,
we don't want to be fumbling. And, and you know, when you're in a classroom, such other people are
observing you, and you know, you want to do well. And I think we oftentimes get in our own way,
psychically, you know, we get we get we're getting the things that we're you're training us to do.
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But we're overthinking things. And that's the key. Yeah, no. And then we doubt it. And then we go,
Oh, no, I'm not sure. And then we look at, like you mentioned before, we look at someone's we make
the mistake or the error of comparing ourselves to others. And that's our perception of how well
they're doing. But you know, they're also trying to grow and develop as well at their own pace.
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So it's nice to be able to have someone like you, who can make that personal connection and allow
people to, you know, water themselves and just grow at their own pace, because oftentimes,
you know, people can get discouraged very, very easily, if they don't think they're getting it.
And you know, I found it, the wider you make it, you can, I'm not sure, the wider you make it,
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the easier you make it, the more accessible you make it. And that's so strange and crazy and
special, allows people to explore a little bit more of what they do. You know, sometimes they'll
say, Well, I didn't quite do it this way. I did it that way. And I always welcome that. I'm like,
Yeah, okay, that works for you. And oftentimes, they have good tips, you know, they'll
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I think one of the ways that I realized that there was stuff going on, I always everybody
knows about clairvoyance, right? Everybody knows about clairvoyance on a clear day, you see forever
that movie, you know, everybody knows about the clear seeing in your head. But when I realized
that there were multiple ways to get the information is clear cognizant, clear sentient, clear gusty,
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and clear audience, all the different Claire's just like we have all these different senses,
we have different Claire's that come in. And when you realize that maybe you're hearing it, maybe,
you know, I just did a reading for somebody, my eyes were drawn to something that's clairvoyance,
too. It doesn't have to be internal in my head, my eyes were drawn to something in her room in the
back of her room. And when I brought it up, you know, it resonated with her. So it's a lot of
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times, it's just about educating yourself, that you may not even realize that it's so much a part
of our lives, that gut feeling that we have that we didn't pass the test, or we're not going to get
that job. That's all, you know, types of clairvoyance or getting from your, you know, your higher self,
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these are all things that everybody's experienced, getting the chills or the phone rings, and you
know who it is before you pick up or knowing that something's, you know, going to happen,
you know, oh, my goodness, you know, the phone rings, and you know, before you pick it up, what
it is. So these are all examples that we're all living with this. It's just we don't, it doesn't
have a name. Right. Yeah, yeah. And it's wonderful when you can enable another person to help
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facilitate that and then explain it, and then they try it, and they do it, and they're surprised,
you know, there's no experience in the whole world when you've countervated it in a teaching
moment. But also as a student, you know, I know it's like, oh, my gosh, did that really happen?
One of the things that I do with newcomers, and I don't know if you know, is I talk about
premonitions and intuition and instincts. And I say, well, you know, what do you think? And then
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it's amazing, the diverse and depth of experiences that people have had with those sorts of things,
like, oh, that happened to me. Oh, I know that. And, you know, that helps them feel like this is,
you know, less strange. Right. Right. That's exactly right. You know, the one thing I did
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get when I started in those classes was I realized how much I rely on my intuition and my higher self
when I was doing sales calls with clients, you know, when to talk, when not to talk,
what to say, what subject to bring up. How did I know those things? It's intuitive. And, you know,
we use intuitive. You're going to meet the teacher in your classroom, you know, you know, not to say
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certain things. It's not manners. Sometimes it's just intuitive that you know that if you're going
to talk about politics with this teacher, it's going to affect your child's grades. Intuitively,
you know, to stay away from that subject. Absolutely. Sure. And, you know, going on
with that, I work for law enforcement, I think I told you, and I often observe in my environment,
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trained officers who use body language, facial expressions, you know, gestures and sort of
things as a way of interpreting what the person is telling them. They absorb it. But there's a layer,
there's a dimension. And of course, you'd be able to pick it up immediately. When they're actually
reading, psychically reading that person, I can feel the energy. And I'm like, the person that,
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you know, that they're coming in contact with is maybe not aware of it. But I'll sit there and go,
wow, I don't think they know they're reading that person. They're getting all of that information
that way, you know. Well, we take it for granted. And like I said, it's so much a part of the
lexicon that and maybe for a lot of people, it's hard for them to accept that they may be doing
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this intuitively or psychically. Because they're, you know, after every reading I do, there's always
someone in the room that I say to them, your husband doesn't believe in this, or your mother
thinks it's a line of crap or whatever. And they go, absolutely. And I, and I would say, you know,
something like, well, they are getting messages, but they're not accepting it, or they're writing
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it off as coincidence rather than synchronicity. Sure, sure. Yeah, I love synchronicity. So I just
a just a sidebar here. In my early, early years, long before I ever developed and started exploring,
I was aware of something that other people would do. And they were reading me. And I was like,
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I don't know what you're doing. But you're looking at me and you're observing me carefully. And I
didn't know that I didn't know if they were psychic or not, because I didn't, I couldn't
explain it or verbalize it. I didn't have Alexa kind of to, you know, to bring that to it. But I
realized after I developed that that's what they had been doing. They were just reading me. And so
it was sort of like someone stands there and addresses me. And I was like, there's nothing here
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to see. Knock yourself out. You know, if you want to fight, there's nothing. But now, I'll bet that
this is a similar experience. If you meet another medium or psychic, you probably have that. You can
feel that energy like coming right off of you. Like, oh, I'm being read. They're downloading
right now. It was interesting. I tend to do that when I go for readings all the time. I feel that
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you have to test the market. And I like to see different styles. I do go invariably, I end up
saying something where I end up reading them back. But oddly enough, today I had a reading. And the
woman looked familiar. And I didn't recognize her. And I read her and her mother. And then when we
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finished, I said, she said, when we finish, I'll tell you. And I said something odd about that her
daughter was going to end up doing something like I was doing. You know, like in either was reiki or
something in the intuitive field. And she smiled and she said, I thought you got it. She said, I
read you about 15 years ago. And I kind of flipped out, I, I had gone to her, maybe 15, 20 years ago.
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And no, hold on. It was, it was about, it was about 13 years ago, I had gone to her when she was
doing it in her house. And it was just really funny. And not only had I, but we always share,
my brothers went, my kids went, like we all went to her. And I had forgotten her name. And it was
just really funny that here she was. And she said, she recognized me when she saw my last name,
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because I had sent her an email as like you said, I operate as Lady Phyllis. So she didn't put it
together until she saw my last name. She goes, I know her. And it's just really funny. And
it's just really funny. And afterwards, I'm glad I didn't know before, I'm afraid that it might have
made me, I don't want to say nervous, but maybe I would have felt that, you know, I was being judged
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or whatever. So I did the reading and it was great reading. And they had wonderful connections.
But when I said that her daughter may go into this intuitive side of the business,
she laughed because she's expanding.
It's funny.
Those are always the most special encounters, you know. And you can't make this stuff up. It's just
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and you know, I find that that drives me that keeps me going. I can have, you know,
I can do bumper cars for reading and maybe flub it up and get it wrong and, you know,
get a lot of no's, you know, more than my share sometimes. But if I get a couple of connections
that are really, really good on these kinds of encounters, these special things where you help
somebody and it's all made sense and worked, it certainly makes it worthwhile. And Phyllis,
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you mentioned, I'm glad.
The no's, it's okay. But the no's are, very often people come with a mindset that they only want to
hear from their uncle Rodney or whatever. So you're going to get a lot of no's because they
don't want to hear from Aunt Sally or whatever it is. You know, particularly when you have,
you know, a parent coming, they don't want to hear from another relative. They want to hear
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from their child. But, you know, as mediums, you know, we have no control over who comes through.
We can only deliver the messages that we're getting. So a lot of times, and what I find too
is I'll say, well, Charlie's here and they'll go, I don't know what Charlie, I don't know what Charlie.
And they write it down or they have it. And I will invariably get a note from them saying,
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oh my God, I can't believe I forgot my cousin Charlie. I wasn't thinking. So no's, like I said,
are very often not really no's. They're just non-acknowledgements.
Sure. Sure. And I've done that. I've been read myself by someone and didn't know. In the heat
of battle, I was like, ah, you know, and I thought afterwards, of course, you know, and it's very,
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very into taking the no and working in the no is really a, there's a fine art to that. It's like a
dance, isn't it? Managing the no. Yeah. Yeah. Right. And I never, I never disregarded them. I'm like,
okay, just like you said, write it down. And oftentimes it's that amnesia. We call it the
psychic amnesia, right? You mentioned a word, keyword. It's like, I'm like a squirrel.
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If you say something psychic, synchronicity, synchronicity is one of those things, again,
that pulls people in. There's a validation, the confirmations that we tend to help people look for.
And I think it's just one of those wonderful gifts in life that we have, we can enjoy,
that clients and customers and people who we engage with can enjoy in synchronicity.
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And this encounter is sort of a synchronicity because I wasn't sure. I was looking, I was trying
to find, and then there it was, it had happened. It turned out we had crossed paths earlier. So
what are your thoughts about synchronicity?
Well, synchronicity is the spice. Yeah. I think it's the spice of life. It's confirmation that
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nothing is arbitrary. You know, we talked about books that I wrote. I'm going to give you a
synchronicity here. Here's a book that I wrote called 366 Affirmations and Inspirations to Live
By. I wrote this book in one weekend. And how did it work? My friend said to me, write a book
about affirmations. I said, I don't know what an affirmation is. So she sent me a bunch and I go,
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oh yes, I know what that is. So speak about synchronicity. I bring this now to all of my
readings and I tell the sitter, pick a number one to 366. And I open it up and read the number that
they chose. And I wrote these, it's 366 affirmations and it always resonates with them that, you know,
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just to give you, for instance, my grandson was sitting with me outside and we were talking about,
he had broken up with a friend. They had, you know, they had had a huge fight. And I said to him,
you got to call this kid. You got to call him. And he goes, I don't want to. We had a huge fight.
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And I said, well, and this boy had hurt his feelings. And I said, if you had to describe
yourself, how would you describe yourself? So first he said, he's very handsome, which I said,
we all know that, you know, so now I want you to describe who you are. And he says, well, I'm sweet.
I'm loyal. I'm friendly. I'm good. I said, were you loyal to this kid? He goes, well, no, after
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they fought, were you friendly to this kid? No, because he, the friend had tried to make up and
he wouldn't take it. I said, were you sweet? I said, so you're allowing his bad behavior to
change who you are. And I said, go get the book. He got the book. I said, just open it randomly to
any page. He opened it up and it said, do not let others actions change who you are. That's
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synchronicity. He was floored. He's 15 years old. He took the book. He said, I'm keeping it next to
my bed. I can't believe that's what came up, you know? So that's synchronicity. It's confirmation
that whatever is going on, it's real. Absolutely. Yeah. Yeah. And that's what we're all about here
on broadcast, you know, finding a safe space and sharing about things that these encounters,
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these experiences and learning, you know, doing the deeper dive unpacking things, you know,
taking the mystery away from a lot of the stuff. And I loved what you said earlier is that when
you teach in the classes that we're not all, we're special in our uniqueness and our diversity and
our diversity and our individual personalities and our talents and stuff, but this is not a special
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thing. That's just, you know, God sort of gave out the line, you know, things to say, you stay
in line, God gave you gifts and it can be developed. And I think you would agree,
time and practice is what it just requires. You know, if you're-
Confidence, time and practice.
Sure. Yeah. Yeah. And it's wonderful to watch people develop and grow and flourish and thrive.
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So, yeah. And then share that like you've done, you know, go on and share. Again, folks, if you're
listening and you'd like to get in contact, the website is ladyphilis.com, ladyphilis.com,
one word, and you can find her on Facebook as well. It's ladyphilismedium and check her out and
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see what's going on there because there's always a lot, you know. And I did enjoy perusing your
website. You have this one very, very intriguing thing that I admire amazingly because you're
extremely brave, Phyllis. I got to tell you, you've got on your website, you've got online
emergency reading.
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That was my son thought of that. He said, because people kept calling and saying,
I need an appointment right away. I need an appointment right away. So he created
an emergency kind of period where if someone needs that reading right away,
and it's happened. I've had people call me and say, I had to speak to somebody.
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Sure. Yeah. And you've always had the right answer at the right time. It's just amazing how
spirit works. If they found you at the right time and you were able to be available when you
might have not thought you were available and then that connection was made and you've got a very
rare satisfied client there. But also you feel like you've provided something by offering that
emergency. I had that on my website. I called it the squeeze me in and it was an after hours kind
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of thing. You could get me really early and you were late at night. And I thought people wanted
to do it then. They wanted to squeeze me in during the day. I was like, well, you know, that's when
I have a day job. Yeah. Yeah. Just let me go outside and take this call. I'll be right back
in 40 minutes. So yeah, it doesn't always work. Although I admire you because you've been able to
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do this on your schedule and I'll get there eventually, I think. So it's been a fascinating
conversation as I knew it would. So let's see. Wow. In addition to books and doing all the business
stuff and medium stuff and teaching stuff, what do you like to do when you have a downtime, when
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you've got a free day or if you get a free day? Well, I do. I do. You know, the kids are always
the priority. Weekends, they come here and I see my grandchildren. I have four. And you know, we
ride bikes. So we do chalk drawings on the driveway. Sometimes we sit and we talk. They all play
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with dowsing rods. We do dowsing rods. We align our chakras. We do a lot of different activities
that, you know, I have a 15 year old, a 13 year old, an 11 year old and a nine year old. So they're
always the, you know, I'll watch movies with them. We just finished the Hunger Games series
with the big ones, the little ones I'm watching Wonder with a babysit. I also tap dance. I taught
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myself how to tap dance. Yeah. I like that. I do yoga twice a week. I set aside time for yoga.
And I travel. I do a lot of traveling with my kids. You know, we have offices in different cities
around the globe actually. So we do do that. I'm going to Orlando in the coming weeks with the kids.
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That's going to be fun, but I do have meetings down there. So a little bit of business, a little bit
of pleasure. And I eat lunch with my kid brother every day. He's the CFO of our company. You know,
so I just spend a lot of time. I see my other brother on the weekends. I make time for everything.
I have a group of women that I met in my bereavement group and we make sure that we stay in touch. I
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have, I have, I have a lot of great friends that I make sure that I stay in touch with.
Sure. And it's wonderful, you know, to maintain that support system, to make sure that people who
are helpful and, you know, enabling around you. And it's a lot of pots on the stove.
It is. It is. But like I said, I jettisoned the time suckers. So maybe my laundries don't look so
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unwrinkled. Maybe, maybe the underwear isn't so white, you know, maybe the tile grout is not as
beautiful as it could be. But, you know, I try to put my energies where I'm most productive.
Oh, and I read a lot, you know, I do read a lot. I don't mean read people. I read books. I like to
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read. And then I write. Writing is actually an outlet. Writing, when I write a book, and I've
written, like I said, quite a few, it's, it's, it's entertaining for me.
Sure. Yeah. And it's also fulfilling in a way that it just spiritualizes you as well. You know,
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you can get your cake full back, you know, get full again. So yeah, get your energy back. Yeah.
One of the things I've enjoyed about hosting professionals like yourself on the broadcast
is that last question, what do you do to recharge? What do you do to relax? And typically,
it's very, very diverse. It's usually something like you mentioned, something personal like reading.
And it's, or hiking or walking or, in one case, a person, his name is, his name is,
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Nicholas David. He's in France. He likes to go to the ocean and any kind of weather, just walk along
the beach and just be in the ocean. And that grounds him, regenerate, re-energizes him, gets
clear as in, makes him feel vitalized again. And he, and he can go back and he'll feel like he's done.
He's ready to go back in the front line, so to speak. And as far as the laundry, that just makes
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you more relatable. Yeah. Yeah. Well, thank you for sharing all of your passions with us, you know,
for reading and writing and, you know, working with people because you are a people person,
you know, you're just a natural, you know, this comes naturally.
You know, the biggest lesson I've got, I'm a people pleaser and the biggest lesson to come out of this
and I do teach this in my class is, you know, people who do have a lot of experience with
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people who are people pleasers because we want to heal people. You know, that's the ultimate goal
of doing a reading is to bring comfort, healing, closure to somebody. It's not a parlor trick and
it's not, it's not, I can read your mind or, or I can, I'm gifted or whatever. It's really about
giving somebody comfort and closure that they need. But the thing that I, you know, most people
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who do this are empathetic and the empaths and the first thing I teach them is don't forget that
you're a people too. You're, you're pleasing people, but don't, you cannot, you cannot drink
from an empty cup. So just like you said, talk about recharging, make sure you recharge yourself,
make sure you leave enough for yourself because it is, um, people will take and take and take,
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so you have to make sure that you put on a mask and you're not going to be able to do that.
And take, so you have to make sure that you put up a boundary and say, okay, this is as far as I go.
I have to take care of myself too. Absolutely. Yeah. And the folks you heard it here, those are
words of wisdom, uh, pearls of wisdom, because you know, uh, we can, we can just, uh, give and
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give and give to the point where we're exhausted and then, you know, and then we're again trying
to, to, to overdo a little bit, but, um, yeah. And I love what you said about that because we're not
entertainers, you know, we're not here to entertain someone or to feel the spotlight or really to get
on a platform and amaze people. It's really about healing and helping. Those are our genuine,
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sincere motivations here. When someone, you know, goes away and they've been, you know, empowered
and feel better, um, that's really the reward, you know, for everybody, everybody wins. So,
and that's the value, the value behind investing your time and effort and so much, you know, money,
you know, in developing yourself. So if you're, if you're listening to this and you're wondering,
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well, should I, you know, I'm not sure, you know, reach out to fellas, talk to her, have a chat,
you know, contact her, let her know, and then see where you're at and she'll hold your hand
and get you to the next step, you know, because she's obviously an expert in that and, uh,
can help you with that. Again, the, uh, the, the website is ladyphillis.com and you can find her
on Facebook at ladyphillismedium and, uh, you know, uh, don't stop thinking about it. Just do it. You
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know, that's what you want to, because time's flying, you know, you've got, you gotta make it,
well, you can't and the opportunity is knocking right now. Knock, knock, knock. So if you're
waiting for a sign, if you're sitting out there waiting for a sign, like, can I do this? I'm not
sure. This is your sign right here. Okay. Ladyphillis.com. Alrighty. Well, Phyllis,
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it has been an absolute pleasure. I think I'm giddy. I'm so excited about having you here and
I hope we're gonna have you come back. You know, we'll save some for next time. Um, yeah. And I
know I'm going to get lots of cards and letters and, uh, feel good vibes and feels for, uh, for
today's broadcast. So, uh, you've got a very busy schedule and I can't thank you again for being so
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generous with your time and your wisdom and knowledge and imparting all that and sharing
that with us and all listeners today. So, um, anyway, um, we're going to wish you well and all
your endeavors, friends, family, clients, everybody. And, um, thank you again so much for coming on the
broadcast. My pleasure. Thank you so much for having me. Take care. Bye bye. Bye.
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Crime Junkie
Does hearing about a true crime case always leave you scouring the internet for the truth behind the story? Dive into your next mystery with Crime Junkie. Every Monday, join your host Ashley Flowers as she unravels all the details of infamous and underreported true crime cases with her best friend Brit Prawat. From cold cases to missing persons and heroes in our community who seek justice, Crime Junkie is your destination for theories and stories you won’t hear anywhere else. Whether you're a seasoned true crime enthusiast or new to the genre, you'll find yourself on the edge of your seat awaiting a new episode every Monday. If you can never get enough true crime... Congratulations, you’ve found your people. Follow to join a community of Crime Junkies! Crime Junkie is presented by audiochuck Media Company.