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All righty.
Welcome to Quiet Mom Pots Talk.
No, start over.
We're doing this live, so we'renot starting over, but Welcome
to Quiet Mom Talks.
Today we are talking about selfcare.
Um, I'm so I'm Welcome to ourfirst live recording.

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We, um, we decided we wanted todo live recording because we
wanted to sound more authentic.
So And, um, we are both superbusy and we don't get around to
getting the, um, stuff edited.
So we just wanted to try to doit live.
So, um, you are getting us liveand we are even, we're live on

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Instagram and we are recordingonto our, um, podcasting
recording that we normally do,but, um, so let me start over.
Welcome to Quiet Mom Talks.
I'm Robin.
I'm Zoe.
I'm Zoe.
I'm Zoe.
We do know who we are.
Promise.
And today we're going to talkabout self care.
And self care is a really, um,What just happened?

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Kind of a passionate, um, Canyou see if you can plug it back
in or something?
Um, turn it on.
Where is it?
One of our lights went off.
Um, anyways, self Oh, it'sbecause it's plugged into your
surface, mom.
Oh, because you closed mysurface.
This is what happens when we golive.
Um, I only have two things, andthere's already two things
plugged in.

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Oh goodness.
Um.
Well, we might just have to bewithout it.
Okay, we're just gonna be dark.
It's fine.
It's bright enough.
Um.
Technical difficulties.
Um, this is what happens whenOkay, have we said before that
we are amateurs at broadcasting?
And we are new, and we just Youknow, here we go.

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We're amateurs at life, I think.
We have, well, and this, yes,this week has been quite trying
in our household.
But anyways, we're going to talkabout self care today.
Um, Chibi wants to lick me andwon't stop.
Chibi's a dog.
In case you can't see.
This is Chibi.
This is Robin, Zoe, Chibi.
She has to be involved in themiddle of everything.
Um, today we're talking aboutself care.

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All right, self care.
Self care is really apassionate, a passion of mine.
As a former massage therapist, Ispent the last twenty seven,
twenty, like, At least twentyfive.
It was twenty, ninety nine iswhen I was licensed, so twenty
six.
Um, talking about and teachingabout self care.
And now I am a high schoolteacher and I teach, um, health

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in the, general health to, um,high school students.
It is all about self care.
That's what I think.
They don't think that.
They don't think much ofanything.
The, the school board doesn'teither, but I, it's all about
self care.
So let's talk, what is selfcare?
So our definition that we cameup with with A little bit of AI

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help.
Self care is intentionallytaking time to nurture your
mental, physical, and emotionalwell being, which basically just
means doing something foryourself.
Taking care of you.
Like, it's in the words, selfcare.
It's kind of, a lot of peoplesay that self care is selfish,
which honestly, that's whatyou're doing, is you're being
selfish and a world where we, 99percent of the times, are

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thinking about 15 other thingsother than ourselves in one
point in time.
And I say this all the time,self care is not selfish.
Self care, um, like, self careis, it's important for your
mental well being, it'simportant for your sanity, it's
important for your health.
Like, eating the right foodssometimes can be self care, and

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it's important to make sure thatyou take time and, and do self
care.
All of, all of the things.
So, um, that's our definition ofwhat self care is, but what,
like, what are examples of selfcare?
What do you do for self care?
Honestly, like, I do a lot ofdifferent things for self care
depending on what I'm doing itfor.
Oh my gosh, the light is glaringon my glasses.

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Um, sometimes it can be resting,or watching a movie, or
meditating, or, Going andworking out, or going for a
walk, or doing an exercise, oran art project, or taking a sit
break, or something like that.

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If you're a dog, you lick yourowner's arm.
She's It's a soothing reactionfor dogs.
She's going crazy.
Um, but self care is also thingslike getting your nails done, or
going out with the girls once amonth, or, um, spending time
after Like a game and hangingout with or date night with your
spouse or whatever.

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Um, anything that you do to helpyou feel better, that's just for
the purpose.
And it's not, it doesn't onlyhave to be for the sole purpose
of taking care of you andnurturing your own feelings, but
it's, it's something that helpsto get your mind off of stress.
It's something that gets youaway from the office.
It's something that helps you.
Like for me the last coupleweeks self care has been when

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I'm like I was at a wrestlingmatch That was my I was at a
wrestling match reffing whichearlier in the year Wrestling
matches stressed me out becauseI and I really worked on Getting
my confidence up and reallytrusting myself and and knowing
what I know So it was reallyhard, like, I almost quit
wrestling this year.
But now, it was, that was, causeI got to really dive into the

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work.
I got to get into wrestling.
For some people, this, not tobe, like, stereotypical, um,
sexist, but like, for a lot ofmen, self care is that time that
they go out in the garage andthey team up with the car, or
they change the brakes, or theyspend a lot of time working on
the house.
Um, Women, we tend to do likemore artsy, creative things, or

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dancing, or, um, going to ourThings that seem more
productive.
Right.
Sometimes we're cleaning ororganizing, and that's what we
do for self care.
But basically, you have to findwhat makes you tick.
Um, we have an episode on sitbreaks.
It's one of our first episodesthat we recorded when we were
doing quiet mom talks.

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And, um, it talks about sitbreaks, which is kind of
interesting.
Some people could call itmeditation, or being quiet, or
whatever.
But, um, but it's just importantto think about sit breaks is it
can be so many different things.
Like, you can be just sittingthere, or you can be like,
Laying down or walking around orwhatever you need to be doing to

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just give your mind or your bodyor both a break.
For sure.
And it can be, um, otherexamples of self care are things
that keep you in a routine.
So like you go get a massageonce a month.
That's something that you, youdon't have to be stressed out to
go get a massage once a monthand it's probably a good idea to
just do it.
To go get, I mean, getting yourteeth cleaned every six months.

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Mm hmm.
Those are things that you sortof pre plan it out, and um, but
there's also the, like, youdon't normally get your nails
done, but you're really stressedout and you need some time for
you, and it's like, you knowwhat, I'm going to get my nails
done today.
So that's a good, a good way to,um, take care of yourself.
But why?

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Why do, why do we need to takethese times of, these
intentional, the intentionaltaking time to nurture your
mental and physical health?
What does that do to you?
So we talked, we talked lastweek about mental health, and I
always kind of relate self carewith mental health, which is why
I kind of wanted to do these twolike, together, close to each

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other.
Just because when you're takingcare of yourself, it's a lot of
the times because of your mentalhealth.
Whether it's because you'rehaving a long week or a long
day, or you're in a stressfulsituation or something good
happened, or anything.
That falls under the mentalhealth category.

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So when you're taking care ofyourself, even if it is just
like you're every other weekgoing to get your nails done, or
every month going to get amassage that is basically, like,
prescribed by your doctor orwhatever, but that's still
Something that you're doing foryourself, whether it be
physically or mentally, orbecause you're stressed out, or

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because you need to calm downyour nervous system, or because
you're just persevering throughsomething kind of crazy right
now, or just to make sure thatyou're strong enough to keep a
positive attitude or be in agood mood.
It doesn't have to be becausethings are bad, it can be
because things are good too.
And it can be to maintain.
Um, we need resilience to getthrough stressful time and hard

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work.
Um, everybody deals withstressful time.
Everybody has, like, some peoplehave more stressful jobs than
others.
So some people have to, theyneed that self care.
Um, everybody does.
Some people need it more thanothers.
Sometimes, um, a lot of us, wetend to, uh, I don't know what

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the right word is, but we tendto judge ourselves where.
I have to be doing somethinglike, okay, I worked today.
I got you like you got home fromwork and you're like, okay, now
I need to, I don't, I do this tomyself.
I need to wash the dishes.
I need to organize this.
I need to pick up that.
I need to make sure I get thegroceries for culinary.
I need to make sure I getgroceries for the house.
I need to make sure I do all ofthese things, but I come home
and sometimes I'll sit down onthe couch and I might turn on

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HGTV and I zone out for like awhile.
And then I'm like, Oh, I've beensitting here for 45 minutes.
Probably should.
Like usually what I do is I'llset a timer, Alexa.
Set a timer for 10 minutes, so Igive myself 10 more minutes, and
then I get to work.
But you don't always have to bedoing something productive.
And if you take some intentionalmoment, for self care that will

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help you get through those othertimes.
And like when you sit down andyou zone out on something or you
just scroll through your phone,that could be your self care
time.
Like we talked about in the setbreaks, that could be your set
break time, but you need to makesure that it's intentional.
If you're doing it to avoidsomething else, that's not the
exact, it's not the best way togive yourself self care.

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Usually you tend, you're justdistracting yourself and it's
not productive.
Like.
Although it is giving your bodya break, and you're not dealing
with the, whatever's stressingyou out, it still isn't a super
effective way.
It's just like, disassociationmore than it is self care.
And we don't Because, and,sometimes that's okay just to

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like, forget anything exists,but you need to be able to know
you're taking a break fromthings.
And you're going to come back toit, you know?
Like, setting that timer foryourself to watch TV for a
minute.
That's a very intentional break.
For sure.
So, it needs, like you said, tobe intentional.
And that just helps you not tofeel like you, cause we all

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know, we've all been there.
Yeah.
Where you've sat down at acomputer or you grabbed your
phone to check, Oh, I wonderwhat happened at the game today.
And you check Facebook and thenyou're off for hours.
Or you get, like You've justsent your daughter like 15
different videos.
Yeah, but oh my gosh while I'msitting at work still But so

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it's important to have that likethat intentional piece of it and
and Have the intentional pieceis to know what you're doing and
kind of why you're doing But youalso don't want to over judge
yourself and over like you don'twant to make too many rules
about it either Because then youend up making the self care
stressful You And I've had thathappen a lot where it's like,

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Oh, this would be really great.
Let's do this self care thing.
And then it's like all thisorganizing, all these layers of
organization.
And at that point you're notactually taking care of
yourself.
Yeah.
So then it turns into a job.
So it has to be, like, you haveto be intentional, you have to
be very mindful, and you alsohave to give yourself some
grace, like when you just decideto do certain things.

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Like sometimes it's like, okay,yeah, let's do this.
This would be great to have thismom's night out to go watch this
really great performer do thisthing, and then you end up like,
Having to organize thebabysitter and then having to
organize the meal and then makesure that all this stuff is
stocked before you leave.
And the babysitter knows whatthe plan is.
And then you get in the trend,like who's ordering the Uber.
Oh, it was, I thought it wasJenny.
Jenny didn't do it.

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Now I have to order the Uber.
I like, it turns into a lot ofextra layers.
And so you have to really likebe mindful, but at the same
time, in those moments, you needto remind yourself, this is for
me to take care of myself.
This is for me to be in thismoment for self care.
And so when you start, like,spinning those, those thoughts

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go spinning out of head, you're,you, that's when you, you gotta
catch yourself.
And you gotta, okay, you knowwhat?
This is supposed to be fun, thisis supposed to be good, I don't
care that Jenny didn't get theUber, we're gonna have fun and
we're gonna make it happen.
So, I was talking to Brittany,my physical therapist, about,
not even self care or anythinglike that, but we were talking
about, my exercises and how Ihaven't been feeling good lately

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and I've had a lot of like flareups and my symptoms have really
been killing me.
So, she was like, I want you tothink about it like you're
looking over the edge of acliff.
And I was like, okay.
And she goes, don't go crazy.
I'm going somewhere, I promise.
And like, it was fine becauseBrittany and I, we've known each

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other for like a year and a halfnow.
So, it's.
It's totally understandable whenshe does something crazy like
that.
But she was like, I want you tolook over the edge and see the
view, look at everything, butdon't step off of it.
Kind of see how it feels to be alittle bit nervous that you're

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gonna fall, but don't step off.
And I was like, so like, enjoythe view.
Right.
But realize that it's crazy.
Right, right.
And she was like, yeah, exactly.
Catch yourself before you fall.
And I was like, okay.
So now we have this thing wherewe say enjoy the view.

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And that's exactly what you'redoing when you're scrolling but
you're not doom scrolling.
Right, right.
Or you're watching a show butyou're not binge watching a
show.
Right.
To avoid real life or whatever.
Right, exactly.
And if you are like, you'reLike, if you take a whole day
and you're like, I'm gonna sithere on the couch all day and

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watch this show because I havebeen going and going and going
all week, that's completelyfine.
I did that this weekend.
But you have to know that it'sbecause you're accommodating for
some crazy thing that's beenhappening or because you haven't
had the chance to sit down.
So maybe that one day, thattwelve hours or however long it
is, is the only twelve hoursyou've been able to do that.

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Two weeks or in a month andthat's completely fine and one
even if you have had time Yeah,it's okay to let yourself have
some extra time I think that wetend to give ourselves all these
rules like I've been doing thistoo much and We all go through
seasons and we all go throughtimes that we need Certain

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things and sometimes we have togive ourself grace and we have
to say, you know what?
I needed this and like yesterdayI had a day like I had a day
that I needed.
I was like, I really neededthat.
I needed that time for myself.
I needed that time to like formy brain to do the things that
my brain did and to interactwith people that I did.
And I think that that is, um, wehave to just be a, it's a level

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of awareness that you have.
And, um, Instead of going, Oh myGod, I just wasted a day by
spending 12 hours in front ofthe TV.
You didn't waste a day, yourbody needed that break.
Exactly.
And so it's okay to do that.
So, that kind of moves us into,we have notes here.
The when, which is kind ofwhenever, like it can be
whenever.
Like, and I hate the wordwhenever because especially from

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my business training.
And your ADHD.
And my ADHD.
You need to be specific.
If you're not specific, you'renot, you, you're not casting a
net for anything if you dowhatever, whenever, or all the
time, or everybody.
But, it is really whenever.
It can be on a schedule.
It can be as needed, which Ilike to always refer to as PRN.

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Um, cause that's a script.
It's a medical term.
It's my own.
That's my own insight joke.
What does that mean?
It means, I don't know, it'slike Greek or something.
Somebody, people in the medicalfield know, nurses will know.
PRN.
PRN, it means as needed.
Like when they write aprescription, take one tablet,
PRN, whatever.
Never mind.

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Per recommend, I don't evenknow.
I have no idea.
It means something, and I wasprobably taught when I learned
it back in massage school when Iwas 20?
18?
I was like, you weren't 20.
I was 18.
Um, so, um, Anyways, I like tosay parent.
You're the doctors on that.
Okay, squirrel, back on track.
They will probably.
So, um, it can be done, like, inpreparation for an event.

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Like, maybe you have a big eventcoming up.
It's Thanksgiving, and all ofyour family is coming over.
So the day before, you take aday and you go get a foot
massage.
Or you go get a massage.
Or you go get your pedicure.
Or something like that.
That way, you're just Or youhave a rest day afterwards.
Or you plan to not do that.
Because you know that you'regoing to be stressed out.
Right, you make those plans.
Anyways, so that's, um And thenthere's the times when you just

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get overwhelmed or stressed.
And, um, and then you just takeit.
Like today, I was a little bitoverwhelmed by a few events that
happened.
And I didn't have anything todo, partly because I kind of
blew off a meeting that I didn'twant to go to.
Not that I didn't want to go.
I really did want to go.
But I just was overwhelmed andstressed and emotional and I
needed to give myself some time.

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And I was like, I'm not going todo this.
I was like, I think I'm gonna goto the gym.
It's a good time to go to thegym.
And it actually felt so good.
I feel like exercise is one ofthe most underused mental health
medications in the world.
Um, especially for me, becauseit's something that I don't
think about.
And as a person who has ADD,transitions are hard.
So to get from, you know, Like,the end of the day, I was at

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work, I had a really good hairday going, to change my clothes
and go to the way, you weretalking about your hair looks
crazy, it doesn't even look bad,it's just like a little frizzy.
It's a little frizzy, but itwas, it was a really good hair
day.
But um, but that's okay, Idefinitely needed the 40 minutes
of sweat that I got, um, becauseit just, for me, that was, I, I
know, they taught, you know likeright now, all the trend and

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exercise and stuff like that, ohyou don't need to spend 40
minutes on the treadmill, youdon't need to spend all this
time doing cardio.
I want to spend all that timedoing cardio.
You're so weird.
I am a cardio junkie.
I love that stuff.
Like, to think about, like, Ican just go and zone out.
I don't even have to think couldwalk for 40 minutes.
I was, I did the bike for 20 andthen I did the elliptical for
20.

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We walked for like an hour, anhour and a half.
Yeah.
Anyways, but whatever that is,sometimes you just need to do it
when you're stressed out in themoment.
So think about if you are aperson who struggles with this
self care and you struggle withstress and you're like, I don't
even know, like, what the hellare they talking about?
Self care?
How do I do that?
If you think about like when youget stressed out at the end of
the day, what would you like?

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Sometimes it's just pouringyourself a beverage and putting
your feet up like or taking abath or like whatever that thing
is.
Putting your comfy clothes on.
Right.
That can be self care.
Wearing the hoodie to workinstead of the suit.
If you, you can get away withit.
Um, that can be self care.
Like, there is a reason, like,it doesn't have to be a full

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workout at the gym.
It doesn't have to be a full onmassage.
It doesn't have to be anythingmajor.
It can just be like, going tothe bathroom by yourself and
locking the doors and turningthe lights off so nobody knows
you're in there.
Like, it doesn't have to beanything huge, but it definitely
has to be something that you payattention to and you give

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yourself that time to take careof yourself.
I am a huge proponent inpre-planning some self-care into
your routines.
Whether it's a daily thing, Ithink daily is good, but also
those monthly, especiallymassage as massage therapist.
Um, your massage, your massage,chiropractic massage therapist
who doesn't schedule regularmassages, massage your I

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schedule acupuncture regularly.
acupuncture has taken my place,taken the massage place.
I have a hard time paying formassage.
I mean, not that I pay for it,because I have insurance for it
now, but, whatever.
I just miss my trades that I hadwith my favorite massage people,
and I can't do that anymore, andI could pay them, I guess, but,

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I, then I would have to scheduleappointments.
Okay, preaching to the choir, Iget it, alright.
This is for me, we're doing thisself care for me, because I
don't take care of myself likethat.
Called out, I feel called outright now.
Um, but that's okay.
So, anytime, whenever you'reoverwhelmed, stressed, busy,
like really look at yourschedule.

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Morning routines, nighttimeroutines, those things are like
good daily ways to fit in someself care.
I have like started, I'veliterally utilized the Reminders
app on your phone, because thenit'll give you this reminder
every single day.
And if you have an iPhone, I'mpretty sure you can probably do
it with Android too, you can puta widget on your home screen.

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Of your reminders, and thenit'll like, start to show up, I
think, like, red if it isn'tdone yet.
Oh, really?
Yeah.
Huh.
So, um, that's really great.
My phone would be red all thetime.
So, yeah, and then like,obviously if a few hours go by
and I like, forgot to, I don'tknow, brush my teeth or
something, I just click itanyways because I'm never gonna

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get around to brushing my teeththat morning again once I'm
already at work.
Like, that's just not gonnahappen at that point.
Right.
Right.
Well, I think that it's just,it's important to whatever
routine, sometimes just being ina routine can be your self care
too, following through withthat.
But I think that it's importantto know what you need, like know

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yourself, like the awareness andwithin your own self, which
sometimes can take time.
And every time you have somesort of big transition in your
life, you get a new job, you geta new job.
You move, you get a new dog, ora new kid, or you get a new kid.
You have a new baby.
That's what I was trying to say.
Well, some people like adoptkids and that kind of stuff.
Some people just acquirechildren.

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I don't know.
We are on a roll tonight.
Hi.
I feel like I'm Welcome to QuietMom Talks! I feel like I haven't
said um a lot.
You did! Already?
Like, in the beginning you did alot.
I did really go, like, I feellike that nobody knows how much
I say um because I always editit out.

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You'll see now.
The truth is out there.
Anyways, so, to wrap up, sortof.
Kind of.
Kind of.
We try to keep these under ahalf hour, but.
So.
We did the who, the what, when,why, how.
We talked about how, we didn'tspecifically, we've already
talked about how.
Yeah.
Prioritize your wants and yourneeds.

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You, it is really important forus, as like everybody, to start
doing that anyways.
Like what's important to you,and start living that way.
A lot of us have these things,we're like, oh this is really
important to me.
But then they don't live thatway.
Like, health is important, butI'm eating healthy.
McDonald's.
I want McDonald's.

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Me too.
Maybe I'll get McDonald's on myway home.
My self care.
Who are you calling out withthat one?

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I'm not calling, that was my inlaws.
They used to hide the fact thatthey smoked from their in laws,
like from the grandparents.
Oh my gosh! I didn't know iteither! I didn't know it for
like years until I realized thatthey were like hiding in the
front driveway smoking.
And I was like, what are theydoing?
I'm like, why are they, theywere acting weird.
And then I realized that theparents, the grandparents didn't

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know.
That's kind of crazy.
It was kind of crazy.
But anyways.
The point I'm saying is thatwhen you talk about your values,
if you're not living withinthose values, like health is
important but you're notexercising, um, you think that
it's important to look a certainway but you don't practice that
way.
Like there's just a lot of, um,I don't know, like I can't think
of a good example that's notcalled hypocrisy.

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Yeah, exactly.
Um, so, but prioritize yourwants and your needs, whatever
those are, if it's important foryou.
Like okay, here's one thatpeople say all the time like
their faith is important Butthey don't ever go to church not
that faith and church areexactly related But it's one of
those things that or they go tochurch, but then they don't
follow the policy Just followingthrough with what you think is

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best for yourself.
That is a part I probably wouldedit out if I was editing
because that just didn't reallygo the direction.
Yeah So kind of went like herehere here and everywhere Anyway.
That was a good one.
So, um, what makes you happy?
Think about that.
Like, what makes you happy?
Um, Do those things.
Those things are really goodself care things.
Like, if you like to sit out bythe fire, um, and S'mores.

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Do s'mores?
Like, that's a good self carething.
Like, if you like to sit out andlook at the stars or you like to
be outside, get yourself outsidemore.
Or maybe if you can't getoutside, open the window and get
some fresh air.
Listen to your body and whatyour body needs.
I think it's important.
That is one of the things thatwe Um, our culture doesn't
always allow us to do We thinkthat we have to go here here

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here and you have to do you haveto be at work we have to do this
you have to do this many minutesat the gym and when like you
either want more or less youdon't have like Listen to your
body when you're hurting likeyour body's um Pain is your
body's message system to tellyou that something is wrong So
If you don't listen to it andyou power through, there's some

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things like, yes, power throughthe spin class.
If you need, if you're notinjured, like I did today.
Oh my gosh, I'm so tired.
I must need to sit down.
I mean, sometimes you do need tosit down, but sometimes you do
have to like, no, there arecertain things that you have to
power through, but listen toyour body when you have that.
My, um, the kids used to always,the coaches always ask, are you

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hurt or are you injured?
Is that the right way?
Are you hurt or are you injured?
If you're hurt, yeah, that hurtbecause I fell on my knee some
dirt on it.
Am I injured?
Yeah.
I just broke my knee.
Like, there's a broken, mybone's sticking out of my body.
I'm injured.
Um, but.
Not always to that extent.
It's not always to that extent.
Obviously.
It's not always that easy to seethat, but it is definitely
important to listen to your bodyand, um, make adjustments to

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whatever your body needs becauseit's important to listen.
Your body is telling you.
That is your best.
Communication is that painsignals or the pleasure signals?
Also, if it feels good, whateverit is, like if you enjoy the 20,
45 hour long time on theelliptical trainer, it's okay.
Just do that.

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That's what I like to do.
Um, but, and then plan ahead.
Make sure that, you know, likelook at your schedule and be
aware, like it's important justin general to look at your
schedule and know like what'sgoing on.
Yeah.
Speaking from a person who's notgood at this.
Um, but just be like, okay,what's this week look like?
What are you doing tomorrow,mom?
I'm just kidding.
Tomorrow I'm getting my hairdone.

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Changing my hair.
Um, but.
Oh, that's right.
But, um, so just look at yourschedule plan ahead.
Like, oh, everybody's comingover on Thursday night.
Maybe Wednesday I should have alow key night.
Maybe Wednesday's a good day togo get my pedicure.
And especially if you'resomebody with a chronic illness.
Or a mental health condition.
So, um.
It's very helpful to know whatyou're expecting and to have the

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ability to take some time totake a break.
Like, that way you can put it inyour calendar, don't do
anything, and then you won'tschedule anything.
If you have, like, if you have,if you're prone to
overstimulation or whatnot, justtry to be aware of that.
And then, like, um, a coupleweeks ago we had, like, I'm a

(28:36):
referee on the weekends, sosometimes weekends get a little
crazy.
So it's like, I have three gamestomorrow.
Maybe it's not the best day todo a long run on Friday before
Saturday when I'm supposed tohave three games and be on top
of my game.
So, um, making sure that you goto bed early, get your sleep,
that is the other thing, like,exercise is one of the most
underrated mental healthmedication type things, or

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treatments.
Sleep is another one.
Sleep is something that we tendto especially when we're
planning for things or we'relike, we're staying up late to
get that last little bit of thehouse clean or finish that one
little art project so that it'sjust perfect for the birthday
party or whatever, um sleep isreally important.
So maybe you if you did overdoit the night before because you

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were really trying to work hardon this birthday party thing,
maybe you plan to go to bedearly.
after the birthday party.
You don't plan somethingafterwards.
So looking at that, all of thosethings are self care, um,
tactics, self care, how to callit, uh, self care things to do.
Self care things.

(29:43):
Vocabulary is good for me today.
Hi.
Oh, I'm good.
Okay, so we just got on our, um,Podcast stuff.
I just got a notification sayingwe had a hundred downloads.
Nice.
So, um, How long do you think itwill take to get our next one?

(30:06):
Five years.
So if you like us, um, If youmade it this far, if you made it
this far and you think we'rekind of funny and interesting,
Honestly, I think having ourpodcast like this might be even
like better just because I don'tknow.
It's real.
We're kind of stupidly funny.
Yeah, I don't I don't like theword stupid.
You Stupidly.
Stupidly! Yeah.

(30:27):
I know what you're saying, but Istill, I get a little cringey
when that one comes out.
Cringey.
So, don't I sound like ateenager now?
You do sound like a teenagernow.
Just, just, oh my god.
So I saw this.
I'm really trying not to judgemyself.
I saw this TikTok the other daythat was about this teacher who
was posting different words thather kids were saying, asking if

(30:50):
they were okay.
My, like, little 3rd to 5thgraders have been saying some of
this stuff, and it's completelynot okay.
Well, the thing about, what'sfunny is, I used to say this to
students.
They would sing a song.
Maybe this was when you guyswere little.
Maybe it was not students.
It might have been my parents,my kids.
Um, but they, and I would belike, do you know what that

(31:10):
means?
Yeah, and they would be like,What do you mean?
And I'm like, do you know whatthat means?
And I'm like, I don't know whatit means.
I'm just asking you if you knowwhat it means.
Because I want to know if it'sappropriate for you to be saying
that or singing that song.
But um, but yeah, it's weird.
Anyways, okay.
Back to our podcast.

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If you like us, you can find uson a lot of places that you
find.
Your podcasts.
We're on Apple Podcasts.
We're on YouTube.
We're on Spotify.
Spotify.
Spotify hasn't updated in awhile though.
Can find.
I need to check that.
I think Spotify is one I have todo manually.
Okay.
Um, but we're, you can find usthere.
We are also on Instagram.
If you are here live onInstagram, we can't see you

(31:52):
'cause we have our phone turnedaround.
Um, so you can read the shirtsso we can't see our comments,
but yeah, we decide to wear our,just breathe.
Oh my gosh, I couldn't find myshirt that I wanted to wear.
The shirt I wanted to wear saysself care is badass.
So that one's just gonna have tobe like, I don't know, the cover
picture for it or something.
I don't know.

(32:12):
Yeah, we could do that.
But so, um, Like and share ourstuff.
We're gonna go, we are onInstagram.
I'm going to start us aFacebook.
I've been talking about thissince our end of the year in
December, and I haven't done ityet, but I'm not judging myself.
I'm just letting myself havesome space.
So you can find us on Instagram.

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And, um, send us messages.
If there's a topic you want usto talk about, like, we are all
about talking about taking careof yourselves and loving
yourself and being amazingpeople.
That's what we want.
If you want to see us be evenfunnier and find 17, 000
squirrels along the way.
Thank you.
Somebody, one day, we need totell somebody, like, how, like,

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Count how many, yes.
We need to, like, count how manysquirrels we had during the day.
Um, How many times did we getcompletely distracted?
Yes.
Okay.
But we like to try to keep thisaround 30 minutes.
So, um, we, uh, appreciate youguys listening to us.
Give us your feedback.
We want to hear what you thinkabout us, unless you really hate

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us.
And we'll just keep, we willkeep scrolling past your nasty
comments.
If you ever going to be nasty tous, but, um, we thank you for,
thank you for listening andthanks for being here.
We will see you again next week.
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