Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind with Lisa Tarves

Do you rehearse conversations in your head, then stay quiet because you’re afraid of your partner’s reaction? Lisa Tarves explores why speaking up can feel so difficult, how to express your needs and set boundaries, and why your emotional and physical safety must come first.

Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind—honest conversations to help you feel heard, understood, and less alone.

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Do you ever feel like the older you get, the less people see you? Like everyone still needs something from you—but fewer people stop to ask how you’re doing?

In Season 2, Episode 18 of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves opens up a conversation about aging, feeling overlooked, and remembering that your worth goes far beyond what you do for everyone else.

Getting older doesn’t mean your dreams have expi...

Can love be comfortable and still feel fulfilling? As we get older, relationships change. The excitement may look different, routines settle in, and sometimes we wonder whether what we have is enough.

In Season 2, Episode 17 of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves opens up a conversation about companionship, connection, and the difference between feeling at peace in a relationship and feeling like something is missing.

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One disagreement, and suddenly your mind is asking: Is this the fight that ends everything?

In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves talks about why relationship conflict can feel so frightening, especially when anxiety turns a tense conversation into a prediction about your future together. We’ll look at the urge to replay every word, search for signs that your partner is pulling away, an...

When do you keep trying, and when is it time to walk away?

In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves talks about one of the hardest questions we face in relationships, goals, friendships, family situations, and even seasons of life. How do you know whether you are giving up too soon, or holding on too long?

This conversation is for anyone who has been overthinking a decision, replaying every detail, ho...

Conflict is part of every real relationship, but the way we fight can either bring us closer or slowly tear things apart.

In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves talks about what it really means to “fight fair”: how to disagree without attacking, how to speak honestly without being cruel, and how to stop arguments from turning into old wounds, blame, shutdowns, or emotional damage.

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Have you ever looked back at your younger self and felt a kind of grief you couldn’t quite name?

We often associate grief with losing someone we love. But as we get older, we may also grieve who we once were—the energy we had, the possibilities ahead of us, our younger bodies, our innocence, lost time, past choices and versions of life that no longer exist.

In this edited episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, L...

In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves breaks down the real reasons we replay conversations over and over — including anxiety, uncertainty, embarrassment, fear of rejection, and the brain’s need to make sense of what happened. We’ll also talk about practical ways to interrupt the replay, separate the facts from the story your mind is creating, and figure out when a conversation actual...

What if they leave?

For someone with anxious attachment, that question can become the background noise of an entire relationship. You notice changes in their tone. You reread texts. You worry when they need space. You wonder whether you said too much, needed too much, asked for too much—or somehow pushed them away.

And underneath all of it is often an even deeper fear:

Who am I if they actually do leave?

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Do you look calm, capable, and successful on the outside while feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or exhausted on the inside?

High-functioning anxiety often hides behind productivity, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and the constant pressure to keep going. Others may see confidence, but they don’t see the racing thoughts, overthinking, self-doubt, or fear of slowing down.

In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind,...

You’re the one everyone calls.

When there’s a crisis, a problem, a family conflict, or someone who needs support, you’re the person who steps in. You hold everything together, keep everyone calm, find the answers, and make sure everyone else is okay.

But who takes care of you?

In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves talks about the hidden exhaustion of being the strong one—the depen...

Tonight’s episode is a deeply personal conversation about angel numbers—why they seem to appear at exactly the right moments, what they may be trying to tell us, and why certain number patterns can feel impossible to ignore.

I also share a few personal stories from my own life and explain why I do not believe these moments are random. Whether you keep seeing 111, 222, 333, 444, or another repeating number, the real quest...

Have you ever walked away from a conversation wondering if you’re the problem… even though you were sure of what happened just moments before?

That’s how gaslighting works.

In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves explains what gaslighting really is, why it can be so confusing, and how it slowly causes people to question their own thoughts, memories, and reality. You’ll learn ...

Have you ever ignored a red flag because you wanted the relationship to work?

Not because you didn’t see it—but because you hoped things would change.

In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, I explore why intelligent, caring people sometimes overlook warning signs, how hope can override intuition, and how to begin trusting yourself again.

💬 Have you ever looked back and realized the red flags were th...

Sometimes the greatest act of love isn’t holding on—it’s having the courage to let go.

In this heartfelt episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves explores one of life’s most difficult emotional experiences: letting go. Whether you’re grieving someone who has died, healing after a breakup, watching your children grow up, caring for an aging parent, ending a friendship, or releasi...

Have you ever gone out with your spouse, partner, friend, or family member and watched them become the life of the party—laughing, smiling, telling stories, making everyone else feel important—while acting as if you weren’t even there?

It’s one of the most confusing and painful experiences for people in relationships with narcissists.

In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves talks a...

Have you ever looked around and thought, "Why am I so exhausted? I haven't done anything different."

Maybe you tell yourself you're just burned out. But what if that's not the whole story?

What if you've simply been the strong one for too long?

In this episode, we're talking about the emotional weight of always being the dependable person—the one who keeps showing up, solves everyone else's problems, holds the family together, a...

Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind with Lisa Tarves

Life can be complicated, overwhelming, and sometimes downright exhausting. If you spend too much time in your head, carry the weight of being the strong one, struggle with anxiety, grief, self-doubt, or simply wonder why life feels so hard sometimes, you’re in the right place.

Join Lisa Tarves for honest conversations about the challenges of being human. Through practical wi...

Have you ever looked in the mirror and felt a strange sense of loss—not because of vanity, but because life is changing?

Aging brings wisdom, experience, and perspective. But it can also bring grief.

Not the kind of grief we usually talk about, but the quiet grief of realizing time has passed. The grief of watching your children grow up, your body change, your parents age, your roles shift, and your life enter a new chapter.

In ...