Why Are Relationships Hard?

In this premiere episode, “Relationships: A PeppLearn Podcast,” we dive into one of life’s most persistent questions: Why do relationships seem so difficult? From romantic partnerships and friendships to workplace dynamics and family ties, relationships are at the center of our lives—and yet, they often come with conflict, frustration, and misunderstanding.

Pepptalk host, Alexa Borstad, is joined by two experts from Pepperdine’s Boone Center for the Family:

Kelly Haer, executive director of the Boone Center, brings clinical insight and years of counseling experience to explore the deep emotional and cultural forces that shape how we connect with—and disconnect from—one another.

DeeDee Mayer, Director of Relationship IQ, offers a practical lens on how young adults and emerging leaders can build healthy, thriving relationships in a world increasingly marked by disconnection and digital overload.

Together, they unpack the reasons relationships can be so challenging, from the loneliness epidemic and "alone together" paradox to the impact of social media, shifting values, and spiritual neglect. With personal stories, biblical wisdom, and psychological research, this episode invites listeners to examine their own relationships and begin the journey toward greater connection and flourishing.

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