September 8, 2025 • 22 mins
🌟 Why Is Change So Hard? | Life Coaching for Women Over 40 🌟
Are you a woman over 40 rebuilding after divorce, career shifts, or major life changes? You’re not alone—and you’re not failing. In this episode of She Asked: Tools for Practical Hope, therapist and life coach Anna McBride unpacks why change feels so difficult, the neuroscience behind transformation, and the practical steps you can take to move from survival mode to thriving.
Anna shares her personal journey of divorce, loss, and ultimately stepping into new ownership of her home in New York City. With real tools you can use today, this episode will help you:
✨ Understand the true energy cost of transformation
✨ Spot self-sabotage patterns that keep you stuck
✨ Learn why trust + faith are the fuels for lasting change
✨ Act “as if” to bridge the gap between who you are and who you want to become
đź’Ś Ready to rewrite your narrative with support? Connect with Anna for 1:1 coaching: https://annamcbride.as.me/
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome back to she Asked tools for practical hope.
I'm your host, anna McBride,and I am so glad you're here
today.
In today's episode, we're goingto be responding to a question
that really touches on every oneof us, and that is have you
ever wondered why change is sohard?
(00:23):
Have you ever wondered that?
Why change so hard?
Have you ever wondered that?
We set intentions, we set NewYear's resolutions, and yet so
many of us fail.
We don't even track it very farinto the year by now.
If you haven't attained whatyou consider was what you were
going for, most likely you'relike I'm going to wait to the
(00:44):
beginning of next year and I'mgoing to begin again.
I'm going to talk today aboutwhy change is so hard, and I
want to first share a story.
I got to spend last weekendwith one of my daughter's
fiance's family and one of themis a chemist and we got into
this discussion about just howmuch energy it takes to change
(01:07):
matter from one state to another, like ice to water or water
into ice.
He said you would be surprisedjust how much energy it takes,
and so we talked about all ofthat and I got thinking.
I think it's the same thingwith humans.
It takes a lot of energy tochange, and I'm talking about
(01:30):
consistent, deliberate energy tobecome who we want to be, you
know, in keeping with ourresolutions or our hopes, our
dreams.
I think many of us want toevolve into this better version
of ourselves.
We're just not quite clear onwhy is it that change is so hard
(01:53):
.
I can tell you from my ownpersonal experience that after
my divorce, I had to go througha lot of change.
I separated almost seven yearsago, and so through these years
I have been working on myself tobecome who I am today, and I
(02:14):
would have liked to be able totell you that it was easy.
It wasn't.
It was hard.
In fact, we are now recordingin my new home that I just
recently moved into in New YorkCity and that required a lot of
change for me to get ready forthis, to embody this version of
(02:35):
me that could step into thisownership, and it was things
that I did, deliberately,actionable steps.
I did day after day, week afterweek, whether I wanted to or
not, to get ready.
So I want to talk about thattoday with you.
(03:00):
To transform matter from onestate to another is what I had
to go through energetically,emotionally, to grow out of the
version of me that felt brokenat the end of my marriage to the
person who finally shook offthe victim perspective, and one
(03:23):
that grew into the embodiment ofsomeone who is the author of
her story, the version of methat could really see myself
owning property in New York City, and one that could see that
process all the way through.
(03:44):
I've shared in previouspodcasts how hard it was to own
something in New York City andyet that version of me at the
end of my marriage could neverhave seen it through.
And now I'm here to tell youit's possible.
But let's talk about why changefeels so hard, and there is
science to back this up.
(04:04):
Why change feels so hard, andthere is science to back this up
.
Think about water, as I wasmentioning.
To turn it into ice or boil itinto steam, you need a surge of
energy.
Scientists call that a phasechange.
Humans aren't all thatdifferent.
(04:27):
Neuroscience tells us thatcreating a new habit literally
requires the brain to rewire.
We have to grow in new neuralpathways to be able to see
ourselves in the new phase thatwe are going to grow into.
That takes effort.
The brain burns more fuel, moreglucose, which is the source
that it looks for when we'relearning and adapting.
(04:49):
That tells me that to grow, tochange, I have to really
participate in that growthprocess.
I have to be willing to notonly nourish myself, to feed the
part of me that needs to growand adapt with food.
I also need to do it withmessages, with the story that
(05:12):
I'm telling myself.
I had to literally rewrite mynarrative to go from being one
of a victim to one that could bea homeowner successful
homeowner here in New York City.
So if you've never thought aboutthat, why can't I change?
If that's been a challenge foryou, I want you to hear me.
(05:33):
You're not lazy.
It's not about laziness.
You're not failing.
It's not about laziness.
You're not failing.
It's not about failure.
You're simply moving throughthe energetic cost of
transformation.
There's a requirement that goesalong with change and there is
a big energy, big cost to whatyou want.
(05:57):
So I always ask myself, when I'mstruggling to change, if I
haven't quite gotten to where Iwant to be.
I ask myself a couple ofquestions, and the first one is
do I really want it?
How important is it?
And if it's something that Ireally want, like I wanted to
(06:17):
own a home here in New York City.
You know, I always rate mythings on a scale of one to five
, where five is a yes heck yesand one is a hell no.
And I really want to measure,like, where am I in that scale?
And I want to tell you thisthat if you're not greater than
a three in really wanting it,then you're not going to be able
(06:41):
to create or sustain the energyit takes to transform to get
what you want.
So once I determine that it'swhat I want, if I then notice
that I'm still not makingprogress that's measurable, then
I have to ask myself what'sgetting in the way.
What's getting in the way?
(07:03):
And here's something that I'mjust recently learning about,
and that is how we tend toself-sabotage ourself.
If we have a lot of fear aroundwhat we're attempting to grow
into or own.
In this case also, we mighttend to do things like we've
(07:27):
always done old patterning andtherefore what could come out of
that old patterning, at leastfor me, is a lot of fear.
And without getting too deepinto the neuroscience of it, I
want you to know that there's apart of the mind, the brain,
that we call the ego, and theego is built for survival.
(07:52):
It's what neuroscientists wouldsay.
It's what's really the one partof our anatomy concept that has
survived all the evolution ofman.
It always wants us to be safe.
Now, let's be clear.
Ego has a bad rap right, andthat's because ego is only
(08:14):
focused on survival.
Now, growing into somethingthat's new and different might
feel threatening to the ego, andthe ego wants you to feel safe.
So acting out of your comfortzone, growing into something new
and different, can feel unsafe,and so it's going to really
(08:39):
require you to take on newpatterns of behavior.
We call this acting as if youare who you want to become, or
really challenge yourself totake on new behaviors, new
patterns, new ways of being sothat you can actually attain the
(09:00):
goals that may somewhat seemlike they're out of reach, that
they're above where you havebeen living to this point.
So what we were talking aboutis going from survival to
thriving, and there's aningredient that's really
required for you to get out ofthe survival mode and into the
thriving mode, and there's aningredient that's really
required for you to get out ofthe survival mode and into the
(09:21):
thriving mode, and that iscalled trust.
How well do you trust and whatdoes trust mean to you?
This thing called trust right?
My understanding of trust isthat it is a belief that, no
matter what I am aiming for, Iwill get there.
(09:44):
That also.
There's another side to trust,and it's known as faith.
Faith is the knowing.
Trust is the doing meaning, theday-to-day actions that are
going to get you in thedirection of where you want to
go, knowing that there's no realdestination that we're striving
(10:04):
for.
There's the journey, the growthis the journey, what you want
to grow into.
You could see that as adestination or you could just
see it as one level of growthand then you'll grow into
another level.
But just for sake of argument,let's say that you want to grow
into somebody like I wanted toown a home in New York City.
(10:27):
That mindset that it took to gethere is not the same mindset
that I came out of my marriagewith.
When I got divorced, I wasthinking, as I mentioned, I was
a victim.
Things were happening to me,nothing was working out, not
even my marriage, not love.
I was losing the home.
I knew I had to sell it.
(10:47):
There were lots of things thatwere changing and I saw change
as a threat To grow into themindset of somebody who could
really feel safe enough tocommit to owning a home in New
York City.
I had to grow a great deal.
(11:08):
I had to start looking at inwhat ways I was thinking and
behaving.
These are called the obstacles.
These are the things I'mtalking about, the self-sabotage
, and they can be very insidiousand very, almost like coming
from out of nowhere, like suchsurvival is so embedded in us we
(11:32):
don't even see it when it'shappening.
See it when it's happening.
We only know it when we'restuck or when we're unable to
reach what we're striving for.
So I'll give you an example frommy own life.
About a year and a half ago Iattempted to buy another
property here in New York City.
(11:53):
I was really certain I hadenough money, I had cash in hand
and I had a settlement for mydivorce that I thought was going
to help me cover it all.
Let me tell you this I did notaccount for some additional
expenses and I didn't evenfactor into the fact that I
couldn't get a loan to coverthose expenses because I was in
(12:16):
the rears on some tax paperwork,some taxes I hadn't filed, and
because I hadn't attended tothat, because I wasn't willing
to ask for help with that,because I was too afraid to be
honest about that I got myselfinto a situation that I lost
that apartment and it felt awfulat the time.
(12:40):
However, I am so glad thathappened because, first of all,
I didn't really want thatapartment, I just wanted to own
something.
And to only want to ownsomething that you don't really
like I don't even know what thatis that's a definite ego trip
(13:02):
and it's not a home I was after.
I was after holding on tosomething that I could call my
own, because there was so muchof my life that was changing
that I was losing, that.
I had lost my marriage, myother home, and so, yeah, I was
(13:25):
reaching, I was grasping Notreally a good foundation to buy
through, particularly in thiscity.
So that happened a year and ahalf ago, and just to go from
that situation to get to where Ican be here today, sharing this
with you in my new home, took alot of growth.
(13:49):
It took a shift in perspective.
It took recognizing,identifying where I was
sabotaging myself, and I quicklyunderstood the things that I
already mentioned that I wasn'twilling to look at or hadn't
looked at or even asked for helpon, and I had to have a
(14:09):
willingness to admit where I hadmessed up, where I needed to
ask for help on and identify whocould help me and what were the
steps to get me there.
This is what I'm talking about.
We have to be willing to lookat the measurable impact steps
(14:32):
to take us in the direction wewant to go.
Survival is about conservingenergy.
Thriving is about expandingenergy, and expanding energy
really requires a lot of courage, because, again, going from
where I was just even a year anda half ago to where I am today
(14:56):
required a lot of growth.
I wasn't even sure if I coulddo it, but I acted as if I could
and I asked myself what would Ibe doing if I knew I couldn't
fail?
What would I be doing if I knewthat people wanted to help me?
What would I have to get doneand ask for help on so that I
(15:22):
could have the keys to thisapartment here in New York?
And I knew what I had to attendto and I knew that I had to ask
for help on it.
So I went about the business ofattending to what needed to be
done.
I had to attend to that in theREERS tax filing.
I had to attend to being ableto ask for help in getting a
(15:46):
loan in case I had extra coststhat I couldn't cover with the
cash I had in hand.
I had to be willing to involvean attorney with true honesty,
and I had to engage the realestate agent to help make sure
that I was buying a home thatwould be approved for a loan as
well, as that would meet all thestandards that I would want,
(16:11):
and I knew what I wanted in ahome.
I just didn't know about allthat other stuff.
So from the very beginning, thistime around, I admitted what I
didn't know.
I asked for help every step ofthe way and I acted as if
everyone wanted to help me, andyou know what Turns out they did
(16:31):
.
That's what thriving looks like.
Thriving isn't afraid to askfor help.
Thriving isn't afraid to wantsomething more than what you
think you deserve.
Thriving isn't afraid offailure.
Thriving's not afraid to justask, because you never know
(16:53):
what's in store for you.
None of us do.
Because you never know what'sin store for you, none of us do.
We only are called to really gofor what we desire, what we
want.
So I want to offer you someideas to understand this shift,
because what we're reallytalking about is the fuel it
takes to change to sustain thechange, and we're talking about
(17:17):
that fuel through the change hasgot to change to sustain the
change.
And we're talking about thatfuel through the change has got
to be trust, got to trust andhave faith that what we're
aiming for is where we're meantto be.
In this sense, they are thefuel that will propel you from
the one thing to the next thing,to the next thing, so that you
(17:39):
are actually working towardswhat you really want.
The energy will shift, thethriving will become natural,
and it's all about acting as ifyou're always going to go and
attain what you're aiming for.
Now I want to offer yousomething to sit with, something
(18:02):
to consider.
Here's a question when in mylife am I expending energy to
create change and do you reallywant it?
On that scale of one to five,where five is yes, I want it,
and one is no, where are you onthat scale?
If you're not a three, I'mtelling you you don't want it
(18:29):
because it's going to need moreenergy to get you there.
And if you are a five or a fourright and yet you're feeling
stuck in the process, I want youto ask yourself what is getting
in the way?
Where am I sabotaging myself,maybe?
Or where is fear creeping inthat's keeping me from really
(18:56):
stretching and reaching?
And maybe?
The third question is do I needto ask for help?
If you are open to consideringthose things, I promise you you
could quickly identify what itis that you really want and how
hard you're willing to work forit.
(19:16):
What's getting in the way andwhat do you need to do about it?
I want you to give yourselftime to consider those questions
At least 10 minutes and justwrite and see what comes out.
Write freely and, as theinformation shifts up, if you
(19:37):
want to dive deeper, reach out.
I'm here.
I can certainly help you honorthis change process.
Now let's just anchor in with asimple affirmation towards this.
So let's just sit back, take abreath together and say to
(20:01):
ourselves I honor the energy ittakes to transform.
I honor the energy it takes totransform, I am patient, I am
resilient and I trust theprocess of transformation.
I promise you, patience isrequired because the time it
(20:32):
takes for you to grow into thebest version of you is time well
spent as long as you are reallyconsidering the energy that
will take to become what you'rebecoming the best version of you
.
So thank you for listeningalong to.
(20:52):
She Asked where healing meetspractical hope.
If this episode sparkedsomething in you that you want
to explore, something you wantto reach for, or a memory,
curiosity, a longing, I inviteyou to go deeper.
Growth requires change and Ibelieve that's what we're all
(21:15):
here for to grow into the bestversion of ourselves.
If you'd like support inbringing that about, that
lasting change in your life,reach out to me, either through
a comment on this or email me atAnna at AnnaMcBridecom, so that
I can help you reach forsomething that matters to you,
(21:39):
like I have been doing in mylife.
Until soon, remember, the pathto healing is not about changing
who you are.
It's about changing the processthat you're using to get there.
Maybe your narrative, maybesome beliefs, but it is possible
(22:00):
.
So until soon, be well.
Welcome back to she Asked tools for practical hope.
I'm your host, anna McBride,and I am so glad you're here
today.
In today's episode, we're goingto be responding to a question
that really touches on every oneof us, and that is have you
ever wondered why change is sohard?
(00:23):
Have you ever wondered that?
Why change so hard?
Have you ever wondered that?
We set intentions, we set NewYear's resolutions, and yet so
many of us fail.
We don't even track it very farinto the year by now.
If you haven't attained whatyou consider was what you were
going for, most likely you'relike I'm going to wait to the
(00:44):
beginning of next year and I'mgoing to begin again.
I'm going to talk today aboutwhy change is so hard, and I
want to first share a story.
I got to spend last weekendwith one of my daughter's
fiance's family and one of themis a chemist and we got into
this discussion about just howmuch energy it takes to change
(01:07):
matter from one state to another, like ice to water or water
into ice.
He said you would be surprisedjust how much energy it takes,
and so we talked about all ofthat and I got thinking.
I think it's the same thingwith humans.
It takes a lot of energy tochange, and I'm talking about
(01:30):
consistent, deliberate energy tobecome who we want to be, you
know, in keeping with ourresolutions or our hopes, our
dreams.
I think many of us want toevolve into this better version
of ourselves.
We're just not quite clear onwhy is it that change is so hard
(01:53):
.
I can tell you from my ownpersonal experience that after
my divorce, I had to go througha lot of change.
I separated almost seven yearsago, and so through these years
I have been working on myself tobecome who I am today, and I
(02:14):
would have liked to be able totell you that it was easy.
It wasn't.
It was hard.
In fact, we are now recordingin my new home that I just
recently moved into in New YorkCity and that required a lot of
change for me to get ready forthis, to embody this version of
(02:35):
me that could step into thisownership, and it was things
that I did, deliberately,actionable steps.
I did day after day, week afterweek, whether I wanted to or
not, to get ready.
So I want to talk about thattoday with you.
(03:00):
To transform matter from onestate to another is what I had
to go through energetically,emotionally, to grow out of the
version of me that felt brokenat the end of my marriage to the
person who finally shook offthe victim perspective, and one
(03:23):
that grew into the embodiment ofsomeone who is the author of
her story, the version of methat could really see myself
owning property in New York City, and one that could see that
process all the way through.
(03:44):
I've shared in previouspodcasts how hard it was to own
something in New York City andyet that version of me at the
end of my marriage could neverhave seen it through.
And now I'm here to tell youit's possible.
But let's talk about why changefeels so hard, and there is
science to back this up.
(04:04):
Why change feels so hard, andthere is science to back this up
.
Think about water, as I wasmentioning.
To turn it into ice or boil itinto steam, you need a surge of
energy.
Scientists call that a phasechange.
Humans aren't all thatdifferent.
(04:27):
Neuroscience tells us thatcreating a new habit literally
requires the brain to rewire.
We have to grow in new neuralpathways to be able to see
ourselves in the new phase thatwe are going to grow into.
That takes effort.
The brain burns more fuel, moreglucose, which is the source
that it looks for when we'relearning and adapting.
(04:49):
That tells me that to grow, tochange, I have to really
participate in that growthprocess.
I have to be willing to notonly nourish myself, to feed the
part of me that needs to growand adapt with food.
I also need to do it withmessages, with the story that
(05:12):
I'm telling myself.
I had to literally rewrite mynarrative to go from being one
of a victim to one that could bea homeowner successful
homeowner here in New York City.
So if you've never thought aboutthat, why can't I change?
If that's been a challenge foryou, I want you to hear me.
(05:33):
You're not lazy.
It's not about laziness.
You're not failing.
It's not about laziness.
You're not failing.
It's not about failure.
You're simply moving throughthe energetic cost of
transformation.
There's a requirement that goesalong with change and there is
a big energy, big cost to whatyou want.
(05:57):
So I always ask myself, when I'mstruggling to change, if I
haven't quite gotten to where Iwant to be.
I ask myself a couple ofquestions, and the first one is
do I really want it?
How important is it?
And if it's something that Ireally want, like I wanted to
(06:17):
own a home here in New York City.
You know, I always rate mythings on a scale of one to five
, where five is a yes heck yesand one is a hell no.
And I really want to measure,like, where am I in that scale?
And I want to tell you thisthat if you're not greater than
a three in really wanting it,then you're not going to be able
(06:41):
to create or sustain the energyit takes to transform to get
what you want.
So once I determine that it'swhat I want, if I then notice
that I'm still not makingprogress that's measurable, then
I have to ask myself what'sgetting in the way.
What's getting in the way?
(07:03):
And here's something that I'mjust recently learning about,
and that is how we tend toself-sabotage ourself.
If we have a lot of fear aroundwhat we're attempting to grow
into or own.
In this case also, we mighttend to do things like we've
(07:27):
always done old patterning andtherefore what could come out of
that old patterning, at leastfor me, is a lot of fear.
And without getting too deepinto the neuroscience of it, I
want you to know that there's apart of the mind, the brain,
that we call the ego, and theego is built for survival.
(07:52):
It's what neuroscientists wouldsay.
It's what's really the one partof our anatomy concept that has
survived all the evolution ofman.
It always wants us to be safe.
Now, let's be clear.
Ego has a bad rap right, andthat's because ego is only
(08:14):
focused on survival.
Now, growing into somethingthat's new and different might
feel threatening to the ego, andthe ego wants you to feel safe.
So acting out of your comfortzone, growing into something new
and different, can feel unsafe,and so it's going to really
(08:39):
require you to take on newpatterns of behavior.
We call this acting as if youare who you want to become, or
really challenge yourself totake on new behaviors, new
patterns, new ways of being sothat you can actually attain the
(09:00):
goals that may somewhat seemlike they're out of reach, that
they're above where you havebeen living to this point.
So what we were talking aboutis going from survival to
thriving, and there's aningredient that's really
required for you to get out ofthe survival mode and into the
thriving mode, and there's aningredient that's really
required for you to get out ofthe survival mode and into the
(09:21):
thriving mode, and that iscalled trust.
How well do you trust and whatdoes trust mean to you?
This thing called trust right?
My understanding of trust isthat it is a belief that, no
matter what I am aiming for, Iwill get there.
(09:44):
That also.
There's another side to trust,and it's known as faith.
Faith is the knowing.
Trust is the doing meaning, theday-to-day actions that are
going to get you in thedirection of where you want to
go, knowing that there's no realdestination that we're striving
(10:04):
for.
There's the journey, the growthis the journey, what you want
to grow into.
You could see that as adestination or you could just
see it as one level of growthand then you'll grow into
another level.
But just for sake of argument,let's say that you want to grow
into somebody like I wanted toown a home in New York City.
(10:27):
That mindset that it took to gethere is not the same mindset
that I came out of my marriagewith.
When I got divorced, I wasthinking, as I mentioned, I was
a victim.
Things were happening to me,nothing was working out, not
even my marriage, not love.
I was losing the home.
I knew I had to sell it.
(10:47):
There were lots of things thatwere changing and I saw change
as a threat To grow into themindset of somebody who could
really feel safe enough tocommit to owning a home in New
York City.
I had to grow a great deal.
(11:08):
I had to start looking at inwhat ways I was thinking and
behaving.
These are called the obstacles.
These are the things I'mtalking about, the self-sabotage
, and they can be very insidiousand very, almost like coming
from out of nowhere, like suchsurvival is so embedded in us we
(11:32):
don't even see it when it'shappening.
See it when it's happening.
We only know it when we'restuck or when we're unable to
reach what we're striving for.
So I'll give you an example frommy own life.
About a year and a half ago Iattempted to buy another
property here in New York City.
(11:53):
I was really certain I hadenough money, I had cash in hand
and I had a settlement for mydivorce that I thought was going
to help me cover it all.
Let me tell you this I did notaccount for some additional
expenses and I didn't evenfactor into the fact that I
couldn't get a loan to coverthose expenses because I was in
(12:16):
the rears on some tax paperwork,some taxes I hadn't filed, and
because I hadn't attended tothat, because I wasn't willing
to ask for help with that,because I was too afraid to be
honest about that I got myselfinto a situation that I lost
that apartment and it felt awfulat the time.
(12:40):
However, I am so glad thathappened because, first of all,
I didn't really want thatapartment, I just wanted to own
something.
And to only want to ownsomething that you don't really
like I don't even know what thatis that's a definite ego trip
(13:02):
and it's not a home I was after.
I was after holding on tosomething that I could call my
own, because there was so muchof my life that was changing
that I was losing, that.
I had lost my marriage, myother home, and so, yeah, I was
(13:25):
reaching, I was grasping Notreally a good foundation to buy
through, particularly in thiscity.
So that happened a year and ahalf ago, and just to go from
that situation to get to where Ican be here today, sharing this
with you in my new home, took alot of growth.
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It took a shift in perspective.
It took recognizing,identifying where I was
sabotaging myself, and I quicklyunderstood the things that I
already mentioned that I wasn'twilling to look at or hadn't
looked at or even asked for helpon, and I had to have a
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willingness to admit where I hadmessed up, where I needed to
ask for help on and identify whocould help me and what were the
steps to get me there.
This is what I'm talking about.
We have to be willing to lookat the measurable impact steps
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to take us in the direction wewant to go.
Survival is about conservingenergy.
Thriving is about expandingenergy, and expanding energy
really requires a lot of courage, because, again, going from
where I was just even a year anda half ago to where I am today
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required a lot of growth.
I wasn't even sure if I coulddo it, but I acted as if I could
and I asked myself what would Ibe doing if I knew I couldn't
fail?
What would I be doing if I knewthat people wanted to help me?
What would I have to get doneand ask for help on so that I
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could have the keys to thisapartment here in New York?
And I knew what I had to attendto and I knew that I had to ask
for help on it.
So I went about the business ofattending to what needed to be
done.
I had to attend to that in theREERS tax filing.
I had to attend to being ableto ask for help in getting a
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loan in case I had extra coststhat I couldn't cover with the
cash I had in hand.
I had to be willing to involvean attorney with true honesty,
and I had to engage the realestate agent to help make sure
that I was buying a home thatwould be approved for a loan as
well, as that would meet all thestandards that I would want,
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and I knew what I wanted in ahome.
I just didn't know about allthat other stuff.
So from the very beginning, thistime around, I admitted what I
didn't know.
I asked for help every step ofthe way and I acted as if
everyone wanted to help me, andyou know what Turns out they did
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.
That's what thriving looks like.
Thriving isn't afraid to askfor help.
Thriving isn't afraid to wantsomething more than what you
think you deserve.
Thriving isn't afraid offailure.
Thriving's not afraid to justask, because you never know
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what's in store for you.
None of us do.
Because you never know what'sin store for you, none of us do.
We only are called to really gofor what we desire, what we
want.
So I want to offer you someideas to understand this shift,
because what we're reallytalking about is the fuel it
takes to change to sustain thechange, and we're talking about
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that fuel through the change hasgot to change to sustain the
change.
And we're talking about thatfuel through the change has got
to be trust, got to trust andhave faith that what we're
aiming for is where we're meantto be.
In this sense, they are thefuel that will propel you from
the one thing to the next thing,to the next thing, so that you
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are actually working towardswhat you really want.
The energy will shift, thethriving will become natural,
and it's all about acting as ifyou're always going to go and
attain what you're aiming for.
Now I want to offer yousomething to sit with, something
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to consider.
Here's a question when in mylife am I expending energy to
create change and do you reallywant it?
On that scale of one to five,where five is yes, I want it,
and one is no, where are you onthat scale?
If you're not a three, I'mtelling you you don't want it
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because it's going to need moreenergy to get you there.
And if you are a five or a fourright and yet you're feeling
stuck in the process, I want youto ask yourself what is getting
in the way?
Where am I sabotaging myself,maybe?
Or where is fear creeping inthat's keeping me from really
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stretching and reaching?
And maybe?
The third question is do I needto ask for help?
If you are open to consideringthose things, I promise you you
could quickly identify what itis that you really want and how
hard you're willing to work forit.
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What's getting in the way andwhat do you need to do about it?
I want you to give yourselftime to consider those questions
At least 10 minutes and justwrite and see what comes out.
Write freely and, as theinformation shifts up, if you
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want to dive deeper, reach out.
I'm here.
I can certainly help you honorthis change process.
Now let's just anchor in with asimple affirmation towards this.
So let's just sit back, take abreath together and say to
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ourselves I honor the energy ittakes to transform.
I honor the energy it takes totransform, I am patient, I am
resilient and I trust theprocess of transformation.
I promise you, patience isrequired because the time it
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takes for you to grow into thebest version of you is time well
spent as long as you are reallyconsidering the energy that
will take to become what you'rebecoming the best version of you
.
So thank you for listeningalong to.
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She Asked where healing meetspractical hope.
If this episode sparkedsomething in you that you want
to explore, something you wantto reach for, or a memory,
curiosity, a longing, I inviteyou to go deeper.
Growth requires change and Ibelieve that's what we're all
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here for to grow into the bestversion of ourselves.
If you'd like support inbringing that about, that
lasting change in your life,reach out to me, either through
a comment on this or email me atAnna at AnnaMcBridecom, so that
I can help you reach forsomething that matters to you,
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like I have been doing in mylife.
Until soon, remember, the pathto healing is not about changing
who you are.
It's about changing the processthat you're using to get there.
Maybe your narrative, maybesome beliefs, but it is possible
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.
So until soon, be well.
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