September 1, 2025 • 23 mins
Discover the spiritual meaning of ownership. In this episode, Anna McBride shares life lessons from buying a condo in New York City, exploring what it really means to own—beyond possessions. Learn how vulnerability, responsibility, and gratitude can reshape your relationship with ownership and your life story.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
What do you really own?
Not just the things with yourname on it, but the parts of
your life no one can take away.
Today I'm sharing how buying acondo in New York City pushed me
(00:25):
to wrestle with that questionand the surprising spiritual
lesson I found in the process.
Welcome back to, she Asks.
I'm your host, anna McBride,and I am so happy you're with me
today.
Today we're talking about thespiritual meaning of ownership,
(00:47):
and to get there I have to takeyou through one of the most
exhausting and rewardingjourneys I've been through
recently Buying a condo in NewYork City.
So here we go.
Just this past Friday I closedon a condo here in New York City
(01:09):
and I'm so happy that this wentall the way through.
There were many times in thisprocess very arduous.
Anyone who has bought anythingin New York City knows what I'm
talking about is not for thefaint of heart.
You have to really want to ownin New York City knows what I'm
talking about is not for thefaint of heart.
You have to really want to ownin New York City.
It's almost like a way to betested, like I'm going through
(01:34):
something for a sororitymembership to get into this city
and own something, you have toreally want it.
Everything from securing theloan, signing the contract, the
walkthroughs, the fact thatthere's an attorney involved,
and she made sure I dotted everyI and crossed every T, which is
(01:57):
great.
She also wanted to make sure wewere doing everything the way
she wanted, wanted, so she hadgreat control in her personality
.
Then I had the loan agent.
That couldn't have been themore sweetest guy I've ever met,
that literally wanted to holdmy hand walking through the
process.
And then I had the real estateagent, who wanted this to turn
(02:18):
out, because literally a littleover a year ago, I attempted to
buy another condo in New YorkCity and it didn't turn out.
I even lost the deposit in theprocess.
It was a bad deal.
What I had to learn was fromthat first experience is what I
didn't want to repeat, and Ineeded to learn how to ask for
(02:39):
help.
I needed to be honest aboutwhat I didn't know.
I needed to be willing to bethat vulnerable and, as somebody
who grew up in a family thatbeing vulnerable wasn't safe,
didn't feel safe, as well as thefact that admitting what I
didn't know was not promoted orencouraged.
(02:59):
It wasn't natural for me.
So I took the risk.
I was like I had this need forownership.
I'm not a renter, I'm an owner.
I've owned 10 homes throughoutmy life and I feel more secure
in that capacity.
Through the process of this,securing this apartment
(03:24):
apartment I had I just alwayskept asking myself the question
what does it mean to own herefor me, like how important is?
It came out to be veryimportant, clearly, because if I
messed up, so to speak, or lostthe first one, I wasn't willing
to walk away and not do itagain.
That's how motivated I was toown, and so I kept going and I
(03:50):
kept sharing what I didn't knowand I kept asking questions and
I kept answering.
If it was clearly I didn't know, I just said it.
I didn't know.
I probably said I didn't knowmore times through this whole
process than I probably did mywhole life.
And I'm convinced that's whythis worked out, because I was
(04:11):
willing to ask for help and Iwas willing to admit what I
didn't know I was.
Also.
I arrived with an attitude ofit's okay to ask for help, it's
okay to not know and it's reallyokay to go at a pace that's
(04:32):
right for you.
Because here's the thing aboutany purchases in New York City
they want you to move through itfast and they want you to go at
a pace that seems to be theenergy of the city, which is
really fast, and I'm not thatfast.
I like to move a little slower,particularly when I'm coming to
(04:53):
a decision and purchasing, Iwant to make sure I'm moving at
a pace that's right for me, andthat was also the other thing
that contributed to that.
First bad experience was that Iattempted to go faster than I
really could handle, and I don'tmake good decisions quickly.
(05:13):
I make better decisions when Iallow myself the time necessary
to arrive there, and so I thinkthis is why it also worked out.
When I finally had the keys inmy hand, I felt relief, pride
and also curiosity.
The quiet question rose upinside me what do I actually own
(05:38):
, not just the deed, not justthe square footage, what do I
really own in this life of mine?
So that's what we're gonna beexploring today on in this
episode, and I wanna lean on aquote from one of my favorite
authors and sociologists, breneBrown, from her book Daring
(06:06):
Greatly.
She's known for the quote Ifyou own this story, meaning your
life story, you get to writethe ending, and I recalled that
quote when I was consideringwhat I own with this condo.
I want to own my story.
(06:27):
I'm a storyteller and I knowthe value of really owning your
story means to be the author ofit, which means I get to write
the ending.
I get to decide how it's goingto turn out.
I may also be surprised by thedirection it goes in.
(06:49):
I couldn't have predicted theease of this process.
It was arduous, yes.
However, everything kept movingforward in a way that was
unpredicted by me, and I believeit's because I was doing the
next right thing for me in mylife and choosing it in the pace
(07:12):
that was right for me, and whenI am aligned with life like
that, I am really owning mystory.
Owning my condo taught mesomething about owning my story.
Just like in real estate, it'snot always easy.
Sometimes the process feelsendless and sometimes you want
(07:35):
to walk away, literally.
I wanted to walk away manytimes in this process.
However, I didn't, and therewere many times in my life that
I wanted to walk away and Ididn't.
I stayed in.
I didn't give up, but when youcommit to owning it, even the
(07:58):
messy parts of your life, yourstory.
You give yourself the power toshape what comes out of it.
What is your perspective, whatis your attitude, what is your
theme.
So I want to talk about layersof ownership because I think
it's really going to help ustake this to a bigger, wider
(08:22):
context.
This idea of ownership BecauseI'm not talking about material
things the condo is material,right, all the furnishings in it
are material.
Yet the theme of it, the arc ofit in my life, in my story, now
that has got a wider context.
So there's this idea known asdivine ownership, and divine
(08:48):
ownership is the idea thateverything we have is ultimately
entrusted to us by somethingmore powerful.
So if you have a belief system,as I do, in a power greater
than yourself, in recovery, werefer to it as a higher power.
In certain spiritual practicesyou may call them God, allah,
(09:10):
universe, nature.
The names matter less to methan the idea and the power that
it has for you.
Ownership becomes less aboutcontrol and more about reverence
, like I am so grateful for whatI've been given, like this
(09:33):
condominium, this home means somuch to me, and the gratitude I
have for all the characters thatplayed a part in helping me
secure it, the ones that weredifficult and the ones that were
supportive and everything inbetween, and I'm grateful for
(09:53):
this power greater than me thatattracted these characters to my
story so that they could helpme along the way in this chapter
.
Really quite something.
Then there's this idea ofstewardship, and stewardship is
caring for something deeplywithout clinging to it.
(10:15):
So we have different thingsthat we can steward, like for me
, I'm a mother of three adultchildren, and when they were
born to, when they moved out tolive their adult lives, I was
stewarding them.
Another word for that isparenting, and there are a lot
(10:39):
of lessons that came for me fromthat role.
Same thing when I work withclients in therapy and even in
coaching.
I'm stewarding them, I'mguiding them, I'm leading them.
However, I'm not controllingthem, I don't own them.
I certainly don't own theirchoices, their behavior, and I
(10:59):
always have to check myself,because sometimes I get
surprised by how people,particularly my children, even
respond to me.
I think it's going to be acertain one way and it ends up
being something else.
That stuff excites me when Idon't even see the possibility.
(11:20):
It just evolves Because thesetwo characters have come
together or I'm stewarding andthe shift changes how we tend to
our homes.
Even Like I have thiscondominium for now I don't know
how long I will steward it foryet it will take care of me as
(11:41):
much as I take care of it.
I think it's mutual.
It's like relationships webring something to it and we get
something out of it.
Then there's this idea ofpersonal responsibility Owning
our choices, our words, ourenergy, our thoughts, our
(12:03):
commitments.
That's harder to own.
Responsibility requires courage, humility and consistency.
I have worked at owning mythoughts, my feelings, my
actions for quite some time now,diligently, for seven years
(12:28):
specifically and I tend tomyself, I account for what I do
actively and, as a result, I canshare like.
My personal relationships arestrong, my relationship with
myself is stronger, my trust inmyself is growing constantly and
my connection to my place innot only relationships but life
(12:53):
has grown all through personalresponsibility, because I love
that word responsibility.
It means the ability to respond.
It's not about what's happeningas much as it is how you
respond to it, and that mattersto me.
Another idea of ownership isthis question, as I brought up
(13:15):
earlier, is what do we truly ownBeyond possessions?
We own maybe our integrity, ourcommitments, our presence, our
work, our voice, our willingnessto keep learning, our voice,
(13:38):
our willingness to keep learningthese can't be repossessed or
sold.
I think about that a lot,because when I say something
like I want to own my life,that's really what I'm talking
(13:59):
about, the things that are trulymine, meaning in my personality
, in my ability to have actionon, because I know, through the
work that I've been a part of inrecovery, like the only thing I
can control is me, my responseto my life, my response to
situations, and and I want tokeep growing in integrity,
within integrity.
I want to be aligned with myvalues.
I want to be aligned with myspiritual connection.
(14:23):
I really want to be alignedwith life.
That's a big part of ownershipfor me.
And then I want to throw outthe idea of attachment and the
ego, because we hear ego saythings like I am what I own or
what we own is what ourpossessions, our positions, our
(14:48):
ideas of ourself.
And yet I know from the workI've done on myself that when
I've been that attached to who Ithought I was, life was always
teaching me that's not it.
You're not what you own, you'renot who you think, you're not
even your thoughts.
I had to really back up to geta better idea, a healthier
(15:13):
context of who I really am.
Spirit says I am how I show upfor what I've been given.
How I show up for what I'vebeen given like how grateful am
I, how appreciative am I, howblessed do I see my life for
everything.
Everything is here for me, notagainst me, and when I have that
(15:37):
attitude of gratitude, my lifeis the better for it.
Detachment, in other words,doesn't mean that we stop caring
.
It means we remember we aremore than our possessions we are
(15:57):
.
I don't own anything.
At best I steward it for a bitof time, like this dress I'm
wearing.
I own it now.
In probably a month or two ormaybe six months, I'll donate it
and someone else will stewardit.
(16:18):
And this is how I live my life.
I don't hang on to anythinganymore because life is always
telling me the longer I cling,the harder I grasp.
This stuff is elusive and ittakes too much energy to hold on
.
It's a lot more peace andserenity when I just open my
(16:40):
hands and let things fall away.
So I want to give you somethingto consider right as a part of
this topic because this can bepretty deep Ownership, ownership
, the spiritual meaning ofownership.
So let me give you somejournaling prompts so you can
contemplate this for yourself inyour own life.
(17:02):
And the first one I want you toconsider is the question what's
one thing I own in my liferight now that is teaching me
about responsibility?
What's one thing that I own inmy life right now that is
teaching me about responsibility?
Just let that question lingerin your consciousness and answer
(17:27):
it and be honest with yourself,because always the truth tends
to percolate up when you leastexpect it.
Here's another question what ismy relationship to the
possessions I have?
Do they own me or do I own them?
Whew, that's a big one, I cantell you.
(17:50):
When I was married, what made itdifficult to walk away when I
knew it wasn't working, was thatwe had created a life full of
possessions, full ofrelationships that I told myself
were because I was with him andI thought that if I let go of
(18:13):
that marriage, that relationship, like I, was going to lose
everything.
So in that sense it was owningme.
I didn't take responsibility, Ijust relinquished it for sake
of a lifestyle, and I know I'mnot unique that way?
Here's another question when amI being called to shift from
(18:36):
ownership to stewardship?
Where in your life are youbeing called to shift from
ownership to stewardship?
I can share with you from mylife's experience that when it
comes to doing service, when itcomes to doing this work, this
(18:56):
is stewardship.
I know that I've been called tohelp guide people and for a bit
in life and that's what I'maiming for is this idea of
stewardship, because Because Itell you, there's no bigger
heart movement, growth moment.
(19:18):
When I see someone that I'vesteward really shine, able to
have a growth within themselves,I just get so overjoyed to be a
part of that.
Here's another question whatstory in my life am I ready to
fully own so I can rewrite theending?
What story in your life are youready to really own so you can
(19:43):
rewrite the ending?
That's a big part of my work ishelping me, as well as other
people rewrite their narratives.
So think about what part ofyour life might not be working
that you might be a little moreready now to rewrite the ending.
And it starts with ownershipbecoming the author.
(20:06):
And here's the last question Iwant to offer to you to consider
how do I want to feel in myrelationship with ownership five
years from now.
How do you want to feel aboutyour relationship to ownership?
Do you want it to be morespiritual or are you comfortable
with it just being material?
(20:27):
I want to just say there's nowrong answer.
Be honest with yourself.
Live this question as it is foryou so that you can have the
relationship to that, this word,this concept of ownership
that's right for you.
(20:50):
And as we wrap up today'sepisode, I want to leave you
with something to reflect on.
Just like when I look around mycondo that we're not in right
now, by the way, this is arental when my condo, when I
look around that space, I seemore than walls and windows.
(21:17):
I see a reminder of what itmeans to commit, to keep going,
to take responsibility.
I see that ownership, realownership, starts in the heart,
(21:41):
before it shows up in your life.
I've had an intention, probablyfrom when I was, I don't know,
seven years old, maybe, ofwanting to be okay, wanting to
have a home that was of mycreating Stable, comfortable,
(22:03):
peaceful, serene, not chaotic,not addicted, totally
comfortable, fully accepting ofme in it, like it was the right
fit, I belong there.
That shows up in your heart,first, that intention, and then
it showed up on paper, and thenit's in my life.
(22:26):
It's in my life and maybethat's the real lesson to hold
what we've been given withgratitude, to steward it well
and to never forget that thegreatest thing we can own in
(22:48):
this life is our story.
Thank you for joining me todayfor this episode of.
She Asks where healing meetspractical hope.
I have been your host, annaMcBride, and until soon, be well
.
What do you really own?
Not just the things with yourname on it, but the parts of
your life no one can take away.
Today I'm sharing how buying acondo in New York City pushed me
(00:25):
to wrestle with that questionand the surprising spiritual
lesson I found in the process.
Welcome back to, she Asks.
I'm your host, anna McBride,and I am so happy you're with me
today.
Today we're talking about thespiritual meaning of ownership,
(00:47):
and to get there I have to takeyou through one of the most
exhausting and rewardingjourneys I've been through
recently Buying a condo in NewYork City.
So here we go.
Just this past Friday I closedon a condo here in New York City
(01:09):
and I'm so happy that this wentall the way through.
There were many times in thisprocess very arduous.
Anyone who has bought anythingin New York City knows what I'm
talking about is not for thefaint of heart.
You have to really want to ownin New York City knows what I'm
talking about is not for thefaint of heart.
You have to really want to ownin New York City.
It's almost like a way to betested, like I'm going through
(01:34):
something for a sororitymembership to get into this city
and own something, you have toreally want it.
Everything from securing theloan, signing the contract, the
walkthroughs, the fact thatthere's an attorney involved,
and she made sure I dotted everyI and crossed every T, which is
(01:57):
great.
She also wanted to make sure wewere doing everything the way
she wanted, wanted, so she hadgreat control in her personality
.
Then I had the loan agent.
That couldn't have been themore sweetest guy I've ever met,
that literally wanted to holdmy hand walking through the
process.
And then I had the real estateagent, who wanted this to turn
(02:18):
out, because literally a littleover a year ago, I attempted to
buy another condo in New YorkCity and it didn't turn out.
I even lost the deposit in theprocess.
It was a bad deal.
What I had to learn was fromthat first experience is what I
didn't want to repeat, and Ineeded to learn how to ask for
(02:39):
help.
I needed to be honest aboutwhat I didn't know.
I needed to be willing to bethat vulnerable and, as somebody
who grew up in a family thatbeing vulnerable wasn't safe,
didn't feel safe, as well as thefact that admitting what I
didn't know was not promoted orencouraged.
(02:59):
It wasn't natural for me.
So I took the risk.
I was like I had this need forownership.
I'm not a renter, I'm an owner.
I've owned 10 homes throughoutmy life and I feel more secure
in that capacity.
Through the process of this,securing this apartment
(03:24):
apartment I had I just alwayskept asking myself the question
what does it mean to own herefor me, like how important is?
It came out to be veryimportant, clearly, because if I
messed up, so to speak, or lostthe first one, I wasn't willing
to walk away and not do itagain.
That's how motivated I was toown, and so I kept going and I
(03:50):
kept sharing what I didn't knowand I kept asking questions and
I kept answering.
If it was clearly I didn't know, I just said it.
I didn't know.
I probably said I didn't knowmore times through this whole
process than I probably did mywhole life.
And I'm convinced that's whythis worked out, because I was
(04:11):
willing to ask for help and Iwas willing to admit what I
didn't know I was.
Also.
I arrived with an attitude ofit's okay to ask for help, it's
okay to not know and it's reallyokay to go at a pace that's
(04:32):
right for you.
Because here's the thing aboutany purchases in New York City
they want you to move through itfast and they want you to go at
a pace that seems to be theenergy of the city, which is
really fast, and I'm not thatfast.
I like to move a little slower,particularly when I'm coming to
(04:53):
a decision and purchasing, Iwant to make sure I'm moving at
a pace that's right for me, andthat was also the other thing
that contributed to that.
First bad experience was that Iattempted to go faster than I
really could handle, and I don'tmake good decisions quickly.
(05:13):
I make better decisions when Iallow myself the time necessary
to arrive there, and so I thinkthis is why it also worked out.
When I finally had the keys inmy hand, I felt relief, pride
and also curiosity.
The quiet question rose upinside me what do I actually own
(05:38):
, not just the deed, not justthe square footage, what do I
really own in this life of mine?
So that's what we're gonna beexploring today on in this
episode, and I wanna lean on aquote from one of my favorite
authors and sociologists, breneBrown, from her book Daring
(06:06):
Greatly.
She's known for the quote Ifyou own this story, meaning your
life story, you get to writethe ending, and I recalled that
quote when I was consideringwhat I own with this condo.
I want to own my story.
(06:27):
I'm a storyteller and I knowthe value of really owning your
story means to be the author ofit, which means I get to write
the ending.
I get to decide how it's goingto turn out.
I may also be surprised by thedirection it goes in.
(06:49):
I couldn't have predicted theease of this process.
It was arduous, yes.
However, everything kept movingforward in a way that was
unpredicted by me, and I believeit's because I was doing the
next right thing for me in mylife and choosing it in the pace
(07:12):
that was right for me, and whenI am aligned with life like
that, I am really owning mystory.
Owning my condo taught mesomething about owning my story.
Just like in real estate, it'snot always easy.
Sometimes the process feelsendless and sometimes you want
(07:35):
to walk away, literally.
I wanted to walk away manytimes in this process.
However, I didn't, and therewere many times in my life that
I wanted to walk away and Ididn't.
I stayed in.
I didn't give up, but when youcommit to owning it, even the
(07:58):
messy parts of your life, yourstory.
You give yourself the power toshape what comes out of it.
What is your perspective, whatis your attitude, what is your
theme.
So I want to talk about layersof ownership because I think
it's really going to help ustake this to a bigger, wider
(08:22):
context.
This idea of ownership BecauseI'm not talking about material
things the condo is material,right, all the furnishings in it
are material.
Yet the theme of it, the arc ofit in my life, in my story, now
that has got a wider context.
So there's this idea known asdivine ownership, and divine
(08:48):
ownership is the idea thateverything we have is ultimately
entrusted to us by somethingmore powerful.
So if you have a belief system,as I do, in a power greater
than yourself, in recovery, werefer to it as a higher power.
In certain spiritual practicesyou may call them God, allah,
(09:10):
universe, nature.
The names matter less to methan the idea and the power that
it has for you.
Ownership becomes less aboutcontrol and more about reverence
, like I am so grateful for whatI've been given, like this
(09:33):
condominium, this home means somuch to me, and the gratitude I
have for all the characters thatplayed a part in helping me
secure it, the ones that weredifficult and the ones that were
supportive and everything inbetween, and I'm grateful for
(09:53):
this power greater than me thatattracted these characters to my
story so that they could helpme along the way in this chapter
.
Really quite something.
Then there's this idea ofstewardship, and stewardship is
caring for something deeplywithout clinging to it.
(10:15):
So we have different thingsthat we can steward, like for me
, I'm a mother of three adultchildren, and when they were
born to, when they moved out tolive their adult lives, I was
stewarding them.
Another word for that isparenting, and there are a lot
(10:39):
of lessons that came for me fromthat role.
Same thing when I work withclients in therapy and even in
coaching.
I'm stewarding them, I'mguiding them, I'm leading them.
However, I'm not controllingthem, I don't own them.
I certainly don't own theirchoices, their behavior, and I
(10:59):
always have to check myself,because sometimes I get
surprised by how people,particularly my children, even
respond to me.
I think it's going to be acertain one way and it ends up
being something else.
That stuff excites me when Idon't even see the possibility.
(11:20):
It just evolves Because thesetwo characters have come
together or I'm stewarding andthe shift changes how we tend to
our homes.
Even Like I have thiscondominium for now I don't know
how long I will steward it foryet it will take care of me as
(11:41):
much as I take care of it.
I think it's mutual.
It's like relationships webring something to it and we get
something out of it.
Then there's this idea ofpersonal responsibility Owning
our choices, our words, ourenergy, our thoughts, our
(12:03):
commitments.
That's harder to own.
Responsibility requires courage, humility and consistency.
I have worked at owning mythoughts, my feelings, my
actions for quite some time now,diligently, for seven years
(12:28):
specifically and I tend tomyself, I account for what I do
actively and, as a result, I canshare like.
My personal relationships arestrong, my relationship with
myself is stronger, my trust inmyself is growing constantly and
my connection to my place innot only relationships but life
(12:53):
has grown all through personalresponsibility, because I love
that word responsibility.
It means the ability to respond.
It's not about what's happeningas much as it is how you
respond to it, and that mattersto me.
Another idea of ownership isthis question, as I brought up
(13:15):
earlier, is what do we truly ownBeyond possessions?
We own maybe our integrity, ourcommitments, our presence, our
work, our voice, our willingnessto keep learning, our voice,
(13:38):
our willingness to keep learningthese can't be repossessed or
sold.
I think about that a lot,because when I say something
like I want to own my life,that's really what I'm talking
(13:59):
about, the things that are trulymine, meaning in my personality
, in my ability to have actionon, because I know, through the
work that I've been a part of inrecovery, like the only thing I
can control is me, my responseto my life, my response to
situations, and and I want tokeep growing in integrity,
within integrity.
I want to be aligned with myvalues.
I want to be aligned with myspiritual connection.
(14:23):
I really want to be alignedwith life.
That's a big part of ownershipfor me.
And then I want to throw outthe idea of attachment and the
ego, because we hear ego saythings like I am what I own or
what we own is what ourpossessions, our positions, our
(14:48):
ideas of ourself.
And yet I know from the workI've done on myself that when
I've been that attached to who Ithought I was, life was always
teaching me that's not it.
You're not what you own, you'renot who you think, you're not
even your thoughts.
I had to really back up to geta better idea, a healthier
(15:13):
context of who I really am.
Spirit says I am how I show upfor what I've been given.
How I show up for what I'vebeen given like how grateful am
I, how appreciative am I, howblessed do I see my life for
everything.
Everything is here for me, notagainst me, and when I have that
(15:37):
attitude of gratitude, my lifeis the better for it.
Detachment, in other words,doesn't mean that we stop caring
.
It means we remember we aremore than our possessions we are
(15:57):
.
I don't own anything.
At best I steward it for a bitof time, like this dress I'm
wearing.
I own it now.
In probably a month or two ormaybe six months, I'll donate it
and someone else will stewardit.
(16:18):
And this is how I live my life.
I don't hang on to anythinganymore because life is always
telling me the longer I cling,the harder I grasp.
This stuff is elusive and ittakes too much energy to hold on
.
It's a lot more peace andserenity when I just open my
(16:40):
hands and let things fall away.
So I want to give you somethingto consider right as a part of
this topic because this can bepretty deep Ownership, ownership
, the spiritual meaning ofownership.
So let me give you somejournaling prompts so you can
contemplate this for yourself inyour own life.
(17:02):
And the first one I want you toconsider is the question what's
one thing I own in my liferight now that is teaching me
about responsibility?
What's one thing that I own inmy life right now that is
teaching me about responsibility?
Just let that question lingerin your consciousness and answer
(17:27):
it and be honest with yourself,because always the truth tends
to percolate up when you leastexpect it.
Here's another question what ismy relationship to the
possessions I have?
Do they own me or do I own them?
Whew, that's a big one, I cantell you.
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When I was married, what made itdifficult to walk away when I
knew it wasn't working, was thatwe had created a life full of
possessions, full ofrelationships that I told myself
were because I was with him andI thought that if I let go of
(18:13):
that marriage, that relationship, like I, was going to lose
everything.
So in that sense it was owningme.
I didn't take responsibility, Ijust relinquished it for sake
of a lifestyle, and I know I'mnot unique that way?
Here's another question when amI being called to shift from
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ownership to stewardship?
Where in your life are youbeing called to shift from
ownership to stewardship?
I can share with you from mylife's experience that when it
comes to doing service, when itcomes to doing this work, this
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is stewardship.
I know that I've been called tohelp guide people and for a bit
in life and that's what I'maiming for is this idea of
stewardship, because Because Itell you, there's no bigger
heart movement, growth moment.
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When I see someone that I'vesteward really shine, able to
have a growth within themselves,I just get so overjoyed to be a
part of that.
Here's another question whatstory in my life am I ready to
fully own so I can rewrite theending?
What story in your life are youready to really own so you can
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rewrite the ending?
That's a big part of my work ishelping me, as well as other
people rewrite their narratives.
So think about what part ofyour life might not be working
that you might be a little moreready now to rewrite the ending.
And it starts with ownershipbecoming the author.
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And here's the last question Iwant to offer to you to consider
how do I want to feel in myrelationship with ownership five
years from now.
How do you want to feel aboutyour relationship to ownership?
Do you want it to be morespiritual or are you comfortable
with it just being material?
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I want to just say there's nowrong answer.
Be honest with yourself.
Live this question as it is foryou so that you can have the
relationship to that, this word,this concept of ownership
that's right for you.
(20:50):
And as we wrap up today'sepisode, I want to leave you
with something to reflect on.
Just like when I look around mycondo that we're not in right
now, by the way, this is arental when my condo, when I
look around that space, I seemore than walls and windows.
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I see a reminder of what itmeans to commit, to keep going,
to take responsibility.
I see that ownership, realownership, starts in the heart,
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before it shows up in your life.
I've had an intention, probablyfrom when I was, I don't know,
seven years old, maybe, ofwanting to be okay, wanting to
have a home that was of mycreating Stable, comfortable,
(22:03):
peaceful, serene, not chaotic,not addicted, totally
comfortable, fully accepting ofme in it, like it was the right
fit, I belong there.
That shows up in your heart,first, that intention, and then
it showed up on paper, and thenit's in my life.
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It's in my life and maybethat's the real lesson to hold
what we've been given withgratitude, to steward it well
and to never forget that thegreatest thing we can own in
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this life is our story.
Thank you for joining me todayfor this episode of.
She Asks where healing meetspractical hope.
I have been your host, annaMcBride, and until soon, be well
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