March 18, 2025 • 43 mins
In this episode of Soulful Speaking, we delve into the transformative power of breath and intention as host Lauri Smith coaches guest Eric Ayers.
Together, they explore how to move beyond imposter syndrome, embrace flow, and tap into the natural energy of authentic communication. Using her Intend, Align, Invite framework, Lauri helps Eric shift from overthinking to fully embodying his message. Through breathwork, energetic alignment, and real-time practice, Eric discovers how to deepen his connection with his audience and speak from his truest self.
If you’ve ever struggled with pausing, trusting your voice, or feeling fully present when speaking, this episode will give you actionable insights to step into your power.
TAKEAWAYS:
1. Speaking is about connection, not perfection. Replace trying to say everything "right" with meeting your audience where they’re at.
2. Trust yourself. Overcome imposter syndrome with a leap of faith. Trust in your knowledge, your energy, and your ability to serve the moment.
3. Your breath fuels your voice. Learning to breathe deeply and naturally can transform your speaking presence.
4. Pauses are powerful. Silence creates space for your audience to absorb your words and connect emotionally.
5. Energetic alignment creates impact. When you center your body, breath, and energy, your voice carries more resonance and ease and touches the audience in a different way.
6. Your five-year-old self knew the truth. Reclaiming the true voice you had as a child can unlock your most radiant speaking style.
7. Set an intention before you speak. Name what you want your audience to feel, then align your presence to embody that energy.
8. Movement and voice are connected. When you release tension in your body, your voice flows more freely.
9. The best speakers don’t "perform" - they show up as themselves. You are enough. You were born enough. Embrace the present moment.
About Eric:
Eric Ayers is an Alignment Practitioner and the founder of emc², LLC, where he artfully bridges ancient wisdom with modern innovation to spark profound transformation. His life's purpose centers on igniting transformative experiences in others. Through his signature "Align by Design" methodology, he helps individuals discover their authentic path, while his groundbreaking Sim | Rx™ approach revolutionizes organizational culture by harmonizing individual sovereignty with collective excellence.
Known for his "bare-feet-in-the-grass" wisdom and practical application of spiritual principles, Eric integrates earth-based practices with cutting-edge organi
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Lauri (00:00):
Hello and welcome back to the Soulful Speaking podcast.
Our guest again today is EricAyers.
Hi, he's come back andgraciously, courageously agreed
to be coached live or live herefor you all to see later.
Eric, to begin with, what doyou feel like, are your speaking
(00:24):
strengths and what challengesyou when you're speaking?
Eric (00:30):
First thing that comes to mind is the strengths, is the
knowledge that I have from allof the research, all of the
trainings, that sort of thingwhich also leads into my
weaknesses.
Because right now, those pauses, knowing not to fill it with
filler words, however, pausingto run through my repository of
(00:54):
analytical mindness of whatinformation does the audience
want for me, need for me?
So, almost like an impostersyndrome type scenario of who
should I be right now, insteadof knowing who I am and walking
(01:14):
fully into that knowing who youare, and also it sounds like you
trust the information and yetare somewhat overwhelmed by it.
Lauri (01:28):
Like the imposter, monsters are choosing what you
share, where they're kind ofgetting in the mix yeah rather
than connecting to those peopleon that day and choosing what
you share.
Eric (01:41):
Based on that, I think that's a fairly good assumption,
um, because a lot of times, 10minutes into it, when that
connection is made, all of theother stuff's out of the way and
I can fully channel who I amand what they need me to be.
In that situation, it's stillme and then it's not identifying
(02:04):
where the words what, what do Ineed to communicate?
It's how do I connect, how do Imeet the needs in front of me.
Lauri (02:12):
So, yeah, that's I like the way you you put that you
speak a bit and then we'll playand see where this goes.
So I'm going to ask you tospeak for 60 seconds and in that
60 seconds you can speak aboutanything that you are passionate
(02:36):
about, and then we'll coach andplay and get curious, and then
you'll do it at least one moretime later.
Eric (02:43):
Okay.
Lauri (02:44):
And I'll start the clock whenever you're ready, and then
I'll say that's time, becauseit's going to ring over here,
and probably not since I'mwearing these over there.
Eric (02:54):
Yeah.
Lauri (02:56):
Whenever you're ready.
Eric (02:57):
Okay, this is difficult.
All these topics come into mind.
Okay, this is difficult.
(03:28):
All these topics come into mind.
Okay, human design is probablythe most prevalent and most with
understanding of my emotions,of how I am designed to interact
in the world.
One of the cool aspects aboutthis is I have an undefined
throat center, and somethingthat you and I have talked about
.
When I understood this, my wayof relating was to the movie
Transformers, to Bumblebee, whocommunicated based on radio
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stations of different people'svoices coming through him in
order to get his voice across,and a lot of times I find myself
in that, back to what we juststated a minute ago was all of
the information, and that's time, bam, okay.
Lauri (04:12):
Bam.
What is something that youloved about how that went and
what is something that you wishwere different in some way?
Eric (04:23):
I did not like the fact of how long it took me to identify
something to talk about.
It's like going through myRolodex of information.
I did not like that.
Once I identified it, it wasfine, I could flow with it and
offer my my spin, my story on it.
Lauri (04:41):
So yeah, yeah, okay, I'm going to ask where does your
human design type align withpublic speaking?
Hmm, Okay.
Eric (05:03):
So, likewise with having the undefined throat I have, I'm
a generator, so I have theability to shift energy, to
elevate energy.
Likewise, if I come in at areally bad mood, I have the
ability to lower that energy forthe audience, but I have the
ability to get the energy towhere it needs to be without
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doing anything, first of all.
Second of all, I have theability to gain the energy from
the audience and give it back tothem, so it's almost like not
using my energy but reflectingit back to them through my voice
.
That, to me, is the uh, thebiggest, most influential
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quality about my design, withoutgoing super yeah, yeah, I love
that.
Lauri (05:54):
I I I believe that anyone can do that to some extent, and
there are some of us where it'smore obvious that it's
happening.
Eric (06:05):
Right.
Lauri (06:06):
Or that it's happening and there's even more capacity
for that for you.
And where that even morecapacity is is not in the
information.
It's in the connection, leadingwith the connection and leading
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with and refining your abilityto hold a space.
What's the aha that justhappened over there?
As I said that, theunderstanding.
Eric (06:40):
When I get out of my own head, magic happens, and that's
to me what you illustrated.
When I get out of my own head,magic happens, and that's to me
what you illustrated, becausewith this defined Ajna and
headspace that has thisautomatic flow, I revert to that
and that leads into this opencenteredness of yes, it can work
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for me or it can work againstme and the connection, the human
connection based on.
So another aspect of how thisrelates to human design is a
defined solar plexus.
So my decisions, my emotions,my energy and motion is defined
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by my feelings.
So how I feel, and that is 100%based on connection, that's the
analytical side of the aha thatyou saw me in my head about.
Lauri (07:37):
Yeah, yeah, when I get out of my head, magic happens,
and one of the thoughts thathappened over here, or one of
the things that I believe, isthat the head is going to be
there.
So I want to give it somethingmore constructive to focus on,
instead of the what am I goingto say?
(07:59):
And the imposter syndrome,because that's where it's used
to going.
So I want to give it somewhereelse, and I frequently use these
three words.
People listening are going tosay those sound familiar.
They're a lot like if StephCurry is shooting the basketball
and I want to teach you toshoot the basketball like Steph
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Curry and I say bend your knees,look at the back of the rim and
follow through Very simplewords.
You can keep repeating them inyour head again and again, and
again, and it can take us 10,000hours or more to shoot anywhere
close to how Steph Curry isshooting.
When it comes to speaking andthe voice, we were actually born
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in our full radiance.
We were actually born in ourfull radiance and then the world
taught us to drift away.
So it's not 10,000 hours tolearn something new.
It can be far less than that tolearn, to relearn how we came
in doing it.
Those words are intend, align,invite.
(09:05):
And since you were talkingabout the solar plexus and
you're governed by your feelings, I think you're going to love
intend and invite.
Intend is setting the intentionfor what you want the audience
to feel, emotionally orenergetically, and it's best
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when you can distill it down toone word or a short phrase.
Sometimes people use soundslike they don't.
They can't put it into words,but they'll say something like I
want them to feel, or I wantthem to feel something like that
.
Eric (09:45):
Okay.
Lauri (09:45):
And then so you set the intention and then you align
your body, your breath and yourenergy with your most expressive
self, which we'll do in amoment.
And the inviting is listeningto their nonverbal half of the
conversation, the whole time,their facial expressions, their
body language, the energy in theroom, looking for signs of
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shifts toward more of thatintention that you set happening
.
So in some spaces that we gospeak in, 90% of the room is not
feeling that thing that we'veset the intention for.
They've gathered because theyneed what we're bringing.
That's why they look like theopposite, not as our imposter
monsters would tell us, becausewe've said something wrong or
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done something wrong withinthree seconds of starting and
then sometimes 50% of the roomis already vibing with you and
you're still looking for signsof movement toward even more of
that thing happening.
Eric (10:58):
That's intend and invite and invite Any questions so far,
no, I wrote those three wordsdown, those.
Lauri (11:18):
I can tell and I can feel are impactful.
Yeah, and from the feeling thatyou have of that, that speaks
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to me about the remembering thatthere is a part of you that
already knows that this is true,that you know this already
inflow where you're doing these,and it's about dropping in so
that, instead of it taking 10minutes to drop in, you can drop
in in 30 seconds or fiveseconds, or sometimes even
during a first breath that youwill take before you speak, that
you will take before you speak.
Let's play with align, which isaligning the body, the breath
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and the energy with our mostexpressive self.
This is the part where we mostcan remember how, exactly how we
were doing it as babies.
Our hearts were open, theyweren't collapsing or pushing.
Our breath was nice and deepand nourishing, and then we
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could cry or laugh and havepeople on the other side of the
house feel what was going onwith us.
Our energy, instead of beingreally small, was filling the
whole room because we were bornknowing abundance.
And then the world told usdon't be too big, don't be too
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much, don't take up too muchspace, don't be too emotional.
And we pulled our energy in andwe caved our hearts in or we
pushed our hearts out and it gotall scrambled and confused,
which is part what creates thatradio station feeling like we're
not actually tuned to our ownsignal of what we're here to do.
We're sort of partway there.
(13:17):
So when I look at you right now, I see a body that is
open-hearted.
So I'm saying that one and I'mkind of going to skip it,
because it doesn't feel likeyou're closed off and pushing or
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leaning forward or working toohard, and it doesn't feel like
you're withdrawing, hiding yourheart, at least not on any major
scale.
Eric (13:47):
Yeah.
Lauri (13:50):
The breath is a place that almost all of us can
continue to put some attentionand energy, because when people
said, don't be too much, don'tbe too emotional, don't be too
emotional, how we stop ourselvesfrom doing that is by
suppressing our breathing.
So we're going to do someexercises to deepen it and have
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the breath, nourish and supportthe sound of our voices.
The other piece of aligning thebreath is breathing life into
the experience by also weavingin some silences, speaking
without space for them toprocess.
Breathing life into theexperience is breathing more
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like this, and for peoplelistening without breathing life
into the experience, it mightsound like this the message
silence, they say, is the voiceof complicity, but silence is
impossible.
Silence screams.
Silence is a message, just asdoing nothing is an act.
Nourishing our bodies withbreath and breathing life into
the experience by letting therebe a dance between the words and
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the silences would sound morelike this the message Silence,
they say, is the voice ofcomplicity, but silence is
impossible.
Silence screams.
Silence is a message, just asdoing nothing is an act.
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It's amazing for the speakerbecause you get to nourish your
body with breath in thosesilences and it's a win-win-win
for everybody because thelisteners digest what you're
saying mentally and, moreimportantly, emotionally, in the
silences.
So let's play with somebreathing.
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First, we're going to do anexercise that's like stretching
Before we go exercise.
We're going to hold our handsup like we're holding a
harmonica in between our thumband our pinky, and then the
three other fingers become likethe teeth of the harmonica.
In case you don't know this,when people are playing a
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harmonica, they're inhaling orexhaling the whole entire time.
So we're going to inhalethrough our harmonica fingers
and then we're actually going topull the hand out and make an S
sound like a hissing snake.
It goes like this Now, as youkind of have it, we're going to
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go again and again, and again,and you can do it on your breath
pattern.
You don't need to feel for mineand be paying attention to two
things.
One is how much ease can therebe?
Okay, rather than I gotta.
How easy and natural can theprocess be?
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And then the other is where isyour body moving between your
collarbones and your pubic bone?
Okay, and let me pause you forone moment and give one more
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adjustment that I think willbring more ease.
Yeah, when we're used tosuppressing and then we try to
breathe deeper.
It's like we have thisimpression that it takes a lot
of work and we have to go likework hard to pull the air in.
Ease is coming into your bodyand now that there's so much
more breath, I'm gonna ask youto actually stop at about 80
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percent of what you could takein.
What I'm noticing as he's doingthis is that it's like nice and
easy, nice and easy and it'sgetting fuller, and then there's
a point where he sort of pullsto try to go all the way to full
air quotes.
So let your breath live between20% and 80%, so you never push
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it all the way out at the endand you don't work to fill it
all the way up.
You live between 20 and 80.
Eric (18:27):
Okay.
Lauri (18:37):
And now let's change the S to a Z, so we'll sound like
buzzing bees.
And let me pause for a momentagain and ask you where are you
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noticing the movement nowbetween your collarbones and
your pubic bone?
Eric (19:18):
mainly under my diaphrag, so closer to my pelvis.
Lauri (19:42):
Yeah, and for those of you listening or who don't know
where the diaphragm is, it'sactually that solar plexus area
that he mentioned.
If you know that, it's wherethe ribs meet.
If you're a woman, it's likewhere your bra line ends in the
front.
It's where the ribs meet.
If you were to do CPR onyourself or the Heimlich and you
know those, that's kind of thespot.
So when we first started.
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I was noticing a lot up above,where you would be able to see
it on the camera, in the upperchest, and now what he's
describing is the majority ofthe movement is now happening
below the camera, down where thebelly as we know it is, and I
also feel like there's somemovement with the rib cage
moving sideways.
Yes, yes.
(20:24):
Yes as well.
So that's this, if you've heardme mention it before, for
anyone listening, it's the imageof the pear-shaped balloon I
didn't even mention it to himand he's already kind of got it
which is like at the top, whereour neck is, the pear-shaped
balloon doesn't move as much asit does down below where the
solar plexus is.
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So now we're going to do onemore Z with the harmonica and
then we're going to toss awayour harmonicas and we're going
to start inhaling through themouth and expanding all the same
areas.
It may go faster on the inhalenow, just because the hole's
going to be bigger.
So one more with the harmonicato feel that pear-shaped balloon
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.
Eric (21:08):
Yeah, okay, and then inhale through the mouth.
Lauri (21:39):
And and I'm starting to experiment with going up and
down in pitch, which to me islike when a piano player sits
down at the piano and they runtheir finger across all the keys
to make sure that none of themare sticky.
We're kind of touching all ofour pitches instead of just one
to unstick them.
And now let's do an om soundlike in a yoga class Long O,
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little M on the end Om.
So we've done align the body,which is opening the heart.
This is aligning the breath.
What are you noticing aboutyour breath now, as opposed to
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your normal speaking?
Eric (22:46):
There's it's ease, so I'm not forcing it, I'm not thinking
it's kind of flowing.
Lauri (22:56):
Eric has described his optimal speaking with a sense of
flow and a sense of connection.
So his body is enjoying thisflow physically and it may mean
that when he's in a flow state,he has more of this.
So we're finding anotherdoorway into that.
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And now let's bring in theenergy.
Aligning energy.
We're going to do the opposite.
First, um, aligning the energymeans that, energetically, we're
hugging the whole room andthere is a cat, yeah, moving
behind eric.
And I will tell you, this iswhat always happens when I'm
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working with somebody, and theenergy starts to shift and the
sound of your voice starts toshift, the pets just come on
because they are drawn to it.
Eric (23:57):
So, yes, yeah and checking it out'm standing.
I'm standing, so he doesn't hopon the chair, because that's
what he normally does, butthat's the first time he's ever
he's ever done that it'shilarious, okay, the energy.
Lauri (24:16):
I use a tool set called anchoring and including.
Okay, anchoring is like deepconnection, eye contact or heart
to heart.
If you are on Zoom and youcan't see the people, and what a
lot of us do is we anchor andthen we exclude anyone else who
might be in the room.
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So we're actually going to dothat first, and most of us know
it, because if we've ever goneto a cafe or out to dinner, we
intuitively anchor with theperson we're at the cafe or at
dinner with and excludeeverybody else with our body
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language, our volume and ourenergy.
So we're going to do an ohmsound to each other, excluding,
as if we were sitting in a cafeand we didn't want anybody else
all up in our business.
Eric (25:08):
Okay.
Lauri (25:10):
Inhale, om, and now we have dogs starting to
communicate back to us.
Let's do now anchor and include, so wrap your energetic arms
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around your whole space.
So wrap your energetic armsaround your whole space and
we're going to send an ohm again.
And let's go ahead and start toplay with intention, since the
dog is barking.
Eric (25:51):
Yeah.
Lauri (25:52):
And let's just see what happens if the intention is to
soothe.
Eric (25:57):
Okay.
Lauri (25:59):
So you're imagining that, like we inhale neutral
molecules and then we're sendingvibrations of soothe on our
voice and in that energetic hugand we'll see what happens with
the dog Cool, inhale, inhale and, as is sometimes the case in
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the world, it takes some timefor the intention to work
because the dog is still barking.
Yeah, yeah, he's communicatingback um other than the dog is
still barking.
Yeah, yeah, he's communicatingback Other than the dog.
How did that Om with?
Basically, you just did a soundwith intend, align and invite.
How was that communicated,different than other sounds
you've made?
Eric (26:58):
I've.
It's different in the context.
I've done similar sounds inmeditation.
So when closing eyes and goingwithin and preparing for
meditative journey, for example,I've never used it to set
intentions for what we just did.
So it felt familiar and new atthe same time.
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So to your point earlier.
It was almost as if it's aremembering as well as learning
new.
I'm putting new in quotesbecause it's new to the
application of this process.
Lauri (27:39):
Yeah, yeah, that's a great way to put it.
And a lot of us have otherareas of our lives where we
might've experienced flow state,we might've experienced
open-heartedness, we might'veexperienced this deeper, more
nourishing breathing from scubadiving.
I had a client years ago whowas like, oh, I just started
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taking scuba diving lessons andthe parallels between the two
are really eerie Doing yoga,meditating and then it's taking
that skill and drawing it overinto the world of speaking to
other humans, it over into theworld of speaking to other
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humans, and there can start tobe a dexterity with the body,
breath and energy, becausethey're really similar and
they're not exactly the same andthe more we do them, the more
capacity we have in all of them,because it's like our rib cage
is literally getting moredexterity Right.
Eric (28:39):
Fascinating that you brought up scuba diving, because
I immediately was brought towhen I began cold plunges,
because cold plunges, when ourbody hits cold, the instinct is
to take a big, deep breath in,and we don't have to work for it
, it happens automatically andthat breath is the precursor to
almost like calm and set up forwhat we know to be.
(29:02):
So thank you for helping thatsynapsis form there.
Lauri (29:07):
It makes total sense.
Yeah, and as you mentioned that, I thought of two things.
One was the first breath thatwe take as babies.
I've not had any children.
I don't remember when I was ababy.
I have heard people speak aboutit feeling very much the same.
When a baby comes out andfinally takes their first breath
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, they've been dropped intosomething new and radically
different than where they were.
That might feel a lot like acold plunge does to us, as
adults, so often their firstbreath is this nice, flowing,
nourishing breath.
And my friend, who I stole theharmonica breathing from, is a
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singing instructor.
Her name is is Lauren Barbeau.
She's going to come on here atsome point.
She always reminded me whensinging that every breath is a
chance to begin again.
So in the middle of a speech,if you feel like your breath has
gotten shallow, or if someoneasked a question that sort of
triggered your imposter monstersto question that sort of
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triggered your imposter monsters, you can take that first
life-giving breath.
At any moment it can be one ofthose.
Eric (30:27):
That's an interesting point, because life-giving
doesn't have to be the initialbreath of life to get it started
.
It can resurrect as well.
Lauri (30:39):
Yeah, cool, yeah, can resurrect as well.
Yeah, cool, yeah, I like that.
Yeah, now let's put thisbreathing into having you speak.
So you're going to speak forroughly 60 seconds this time.
I may pause you and say inhale,or something like that.
You're speaking about somethingthat you're passionate about.
You're setting an intention forwhat you want us to feel
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emotionally or energetically.
Eric (31:05):
Okay.
Lauri (31:06):
You're aligning your body , your breath and that energetic
hug, and then you're also usingsilences and watching for signs
of that intention coming tolife over here in us Me as the
face you can see, and then therest of the us are the listeners
that will join us in the future.
(31:26):
Any questions?
I don't think so.
Yeah, remember, because I justsaid a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot
of words.
Yeah, your body experiencedthose words.
Your body experienced thosewords.
So I gave you the words intend,align, invite and then we
deepened your body's experienceof what those things mean.
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Now let's come back to intend,align, invite and trust that I'm
over here to say bend yourknees a little more, all right,
whenever you're ready alignmentis a huge aspect of my personal
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journey and what I offer toclients.
Eric (32:18):
I used to look at this as imbalanced, and as I dove deeper
and deeper and deeper into thetopic, it became alignment
versus misaligned, and what Imean by this is very similar to
the idea of when we pourourselves into something that we
do not believe in, it createsstress, but if we pour ourselves
into something that we do notbelieve in, it creates stress,
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but if we pour ourselves intosomething that we do believe in,
that is purpose and that isexcitement.
And similarly, this is whathappens when we're aligned as
opposed to misaligned.
If we're continuing to journeyin the direction of what we want
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, we create more passion, wecreate more connection, we
create a better version ofourselves, and this is what
that's time, perfect, eric.
Lauri (33:17):
How did that one feel different to you from the first
one?
It?
Eric (33:21):
felt like it was flowing and there was a pattern of this
ebb and flow of breath and wordsworking together in the dance
that that you called it, which Ilove that analogy and I could
have, but I don't recognize thatI use filler words like uh and
(33:41):
uh, my go-tos, like so andthings like that.
It felt like there was aconnection.
It felt like my intention ofsharing something purposeful and
having it received as valuable,aligned with what I was saying.
Lauri (34:04):
I'm going to jump on one thing before I forget it.
We think that flow comes fromconstantly talking.
Eric (34:13):
Yeah.
Lauri (34:15):
And what you just mentioned was there was more
flow, less ums if any, I don'tknow, because our minds were not
paying attention to the ums.
I'm 99% certain that they wentdown, if any came out of your
mouth.
There was actually more flow toyour thoughts, more flow to the
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interchange between the two ofus, by allowing there to be
breath and silence.
And then the words came.
And then breath and silence,and then the words came.
More flow by integratingsilence rather than thinking
that flow means I've got to talkand talk and talk and flow from
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one thing to the next and nevergive myself a breath For your
intention.
I heard a little bit of themental response that you wanted.
What was the emotional orenergetic response that you were
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looking or feeling for overhere in me and my plants?
Eric (35:26):
Connection Because, ultimately, at the foundation of
this is the Ubuntu idea of I am, because we are, and that is
100% connection.
So the alignment is theconnection.
If, if the intention ofconnection.
If I'm able to create that orallow that to occur
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automatically and energetically,then everything that I'm saying
would flow and be received,everything that I'm saying would
flow and be received.
Lauri (36:01):
Awesome, awesome, will you?
I love to ask people to do thissomewhere where you're speaking
in the future, try this intend,align, invite, possibly even
warming up with a little of thatbreath and energy stuff, the
S's, the harmonica, s's,harmonica, z's, Z's, ohms, and
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then play with intend, align,invite somewhere that you're
speaking within the next weekand send me a message and let me
know how it goes.
Eric (36:35):
Yes, for sure, I'm actually recording a podcast of
a host on mic, so me goingthrough ultimately like a
keynote speech type thing, soperfect timing.
I will definitely use this andthen we'll send you an update on
a message on how it went, withthe intention of decreasing the
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editing process, because Iutilize the flow appropriately.
Lauri (37:03):
Nice, and let me ask you, as we close, what are your
biggest takeaways from today, inyour words?
Eric (37:15):
Biggest takeaway your words.
Biggest takeaway and this isoutside of the box is the more I
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tap into my true essence of whoI am, which is I resonate and
see myself, between ages fiveand eight, as the true being of
who I am, and I can feel thisenergy now who I am.
And I can feel this energy nowwhen I let go of everything and
tap into that.
I am so much closer to source,so much closer to who I am.
My biggest takeaway is droppingall formalities of what I think
the world should be and allow meto experience exercises that
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push me outside of my comfortzone Again, even though I have
done things like Japa meditation, that you say the name of God
and ah and om, it feelsdifferent in a meditative state
versus prepping to speak.
Allowing myself the opportunityand giving myself permission to
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do that allows me to tap intowho I am.
So that is ultimately mybiggest takeaway.
And second to that would bewhen doing that, when I let go,
I'm able to able to, like I feelmore relaxed in my hips from
the breathing alone, so the airactually relaxes the body, which
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feeds out into thecommunication of what I'm able
to offer yeah, I love that andit feels like when we're
releasing anything that someoneelse tells us we need to do or
be, and bringing that intospeaking.
Lauri (39:06):
I hear all of the masks and the impressions that we have
of I need to do X to be a quoteunquote good speaker.
It's releasing all of that.
To be a quote unquote goodspeaker.
It's releasing all of thatbeing you, the you that you knew
as your five to eight year oldself and connecting from there
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and that intend align.
Invite helps you do more ofthat.
Eric (39:33):
Totally agree, because at that five to eight, that was
innate.
I didn't have to think about it, it came naturally.
So remembering that innateability is a beautiful journey,
so thank you.
Lauri (39:49):
Yeah, remembering to be who you truly are before the
world told you you were supposedto be someone else.
Correct, beautiful, beautiful,beautiful.
Yes, thank you.
Eric (40:04):
Thank you.
Hello and welcome back to the Soulful Speaking podcast.
Our guest again today is EricAyers.
Hi, he's come back andgraciously, courageously agreed
to be coached live or live herefor you all to see later.
Eric, to begin with, what doyou feel like, are your speaking
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strengths and what challengesyou when you're speaking?
Eric (00:30):
First thing that comes to mind is the strengths, is the
knowledge that I have from allof the research, all of the
trainings, that sort of thingwhich also leads into my
weaknesses.
Because right now, those pauses, knowing not to fill it with
filler words, however, pausingto run through my repository of
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analytical mindness of whatinformation does the audience
want for me, need for me?
So, almost like an impostersyndrome type scenario of who
should I be right now, insteadof knowing who I am and walking
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fully into that knowing who youare, and also it sounds like you
trust the information and yetare somewhat overwhelmed by it.
Lauri (01:28):
Like the imposter, monsters are choosing what you
share, where they're kind ofgetting in the mix yeah rather
than connecting to those peopleon that day and choosing what
you share.
Eric (01:41):
Based on that, I think that's a fairly good assumption,
um, because a lot of times, 10minutes into it, when that
connection is made, all of theother stuff's out of the way and
I can fully channel who I amand what they need me to be.
In that situation, it's stillme and then it's not identifying
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where the words what, what do Ineed to communicate?
It's how do I connect, how do Imeet the needs in front of me.
Lauri (02:12):
So, yeah, that's I like the way you you put that you
speak a bit and then we'll playand see where this goes.
So I'm going to ask you tospeak for 60 seconds and in that
60 seconds you can speak aboutanything that you are passionate
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about, and then we'll coach andplay and get curious, and then
you'll do it at least one moretime later.
Eric (02:43):
Okay.
Lauri (02:44):
And I'll start the clock whenever you're ready, and then
I'll say that's time, becauseit's going to ring over here,
and probably not since I'mwearing these over there.
Eric (02:54):
Yeah.
Lauri (02:56):
Whenever you're ready.
Eric (02:57):
Okay, this is difficult.
All these topics come into mind.
Okay, this is difficult.
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All these topics come into mind.
Okay, human design is probablythe most prevalent and most with
understanding of my emotions,of how I am designed to interact
in the world.
One of the cool aspects aboutthis is I have an undefined
throat center, and somethingthat you and I have talked about
.
When I understood this, my wayof relating was to the movie
Transformers, to Bumblebee, whocommunicated based on radio
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stations of different people'svoices coming through him in
order to get his voice across,and a lot of times I find myself
in that, back to what we juststated a minute ago was all of
the information, and that's time, bam, okay.
Lauri (04:12):
Bam.
What is something that youloved about how that went and
what is something that you wishwere different in some way?
Eric (04:23):
I did not like the fact of how long it took me to identify
something to talk about.
It's like going through myRolodex of information.
I did not like that.
Once I identified it, it wasfine, I could flow with it and
offer my my spin, my story on it.
Lauri (04:41):
So yeah, yeah, okay, I'm going to ask where does your
human design type align withpublic speaking?
Hmm, Okay.
Eric (05:03):
So, likewise with having the undefined throat I have, I'm
a generator, so I have theability to shift energy, to
elevate energy.
Likewise, if I come in at areally bad mood, I have the
ability to lower that energy forthe audience, but I have the
ability to get the energy towhere it needs to be without
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doing anything, first of all.
Second of all, I have theability to gain the energy from
the audience and give it back tothem, so it's almost like not
using my energy but reflectingit back to them through my voice
.
That, to me, is the uh, thebiggest, most influential
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quality about my design, withoutgoing super yeah, yeah, I love
that.
Lauri (05:54):
I I I believe that anyone can do that to some extent, and
there are some of us where it'smore obvious that it's
happening.
Eric (06:05):
Right.
Lauri (06:06):
Or that it's happening and there's even more capacity
for that for you.
And where that even morecapacity is is not in the
information.
It's in the connection, leadingwith the connection and leading
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with and refining your abilityto hold a space.
What's the aha that justhappened over there?
As I said that, theunderstanding.
Eric (06:40):
When I get out of my own head, magic happens, and that's
to me what you illustrated.
When I get out of my own head,magic happens, and that's to me
what you illustrated, becausewith this defined Ajna and
headspace that has thisautomatic flow, I revert to that
and that leads into this opencenteredness of yes, it can work
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for me or it can work againstme and the connection, the human
connection based on.
So another aspect of how thisrelates to human design is a
defined solar plexus.
So my decisions, my emotions,my energy and motion is defined
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by my feelings.
So how I feel, and that is 100%based on connection, that's the
analytical side of the aha thatyou saw me in my head about.
Lauri (07:37):
Yeah, yeah, when I get out of my head, magic happens,
and one of the thoughts thathappened over here, or one of
the things that I believe, isthat the head is going to be
there.
So I want to give it somethingmore constructive to focus on,
instead of the what am I goingto say?
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And the imposter syndrome,because that's where it's used
to going.
So I want to give it somewhereelse, and I frequently use these
three words.
People listening are going tosay those sound familiar.
They're a lot like if StephCurry is shooting the basketball
and I want to teach you toshoot the basketball like Steph
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Curry and I say bend your knees,look at the back of the rim and
follow through Very simplewords.
You can keep repeating them inyour head again and again, and
again, and it can take us 10,000hours or more to shoot anywhere
close to how Steph Curry isshooting.
When it comes to speaking andthe voice, we were actually born
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in our full radiance.
We were actually born in ourfull radiance and then the world
taught us to drift away.
So it's not 10,000 hours tolearn something new.
It can be far less than that tolearn, to relearn how we came
in doing it.
Those words are intend, align,invite.
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And since you were talkingabout the solar plexus and
you're governed by your feelings, I think you're going to love
intend and invite.
Intend is setting the intentionfor what you want the audience
to feel, emotionally orenergetically, and it's best
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when you can distill it down toone word or a short phrase.
Sometimes people use soundslike they don't.
They can't put it into words,but they'll say something like I
want them to feel, or I wantthem to feel something like that
.
Eric (09:45):
Okay.
Lauri (09:45):
And then so you set the intention and then you align
your body, your breath and yourenergy with your most expressive
self, which we'll do in amoment.
And the inviting is listeningto their nonverbal half of the
conversation, the whole time,their facial expressions, their
body language, the energy in theroom, looking for signs of
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shifts toward more of thatintention that you set happening
.
So in some spaces that we gospeak in, 90% of the room is not
feeling that thing that we'veset the intention for.
They've gathered because theyneed what we're bringing.
That's why they look like theopposite, not as our imposter
monsters would tell us, becausewe've said something wrong or
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done something wrong withinthree seconds of starting and
then sometimes 50% of the roomis already vibing with you and
you're still looking for signsof movement toward even more of
that thing happening.
Eric (10:58):
That's intend and invite and invite Any questions so far,
no, I wrote those three wordsdown, those.
Lauri (11:18):
I can tell and I can feel are impactful.
Yeah, and from the feeling thatyou have of that, that speaks
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to me about the remembering thatthere is a part of you that
already knows that this is true,that you know this already
inflow where you're doing these,and it's about dropping in so
that, instead of it taking 10minutes to drop in, you can drop
in in 30 seconds or fiveseconds, or sometimes even
during a first breath that youwill take before you speak, that
you will take before you speak.
Let's play with align, which isaligning the body, the breath
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and the energy with our mostexpressive self.
This is the part where we mostcan remember how, exactly how we
were doing it as babies.
Our hearts were open, theyweren't collapsing or pushing.
Our breath was nice and deepand nourishing, and then we
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could cry or laugh and havepeople on the other side of the
house feel what was going onwith us.
Our energy, instead of beingreally small, was filling the
whole room because we were bornknowing abundance.
And then the world told usdon't be too big, don't be too
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much, don't take up too muchspace, don't be too emotional.
And we pulled our energy in andwe caved our hearts in or we
pushed our hearts out and it gotall scrambled and confused,
which is part what creates thatradio station feeling like we're
not actually tuned to our ownsignal of what we're here to do.
We're sort of partway there.
(13:17):
So when I look at you right now, I see a body that is
open-hearted.
So I'm saying that one and I'mkind of going to skip it,
because it doesn't feel likeyou're closed off and pushing or
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leaning forward or working toohard, and it doesn't feel like
you're withdrawing, hiding yourheart, at least not on any major
scale.
Eric (13:47):
Yeah.
Lauri (13:50):
The breath is a place that almost all of us can
continue to put some attentionand energy, because when people
said, don't be too much, don'tbe too emotional, don't be too
emotional, how we stop ourselvesfrom doing that is by
suppressing our breathing.
So we're going to do someexercises to deepen it and have
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the breath, nourish and supportthe sound of our voices.
The other piece of aligning thebreath is breathing life into
the experience by also weavingin some silences, speaking
without space for them toprocess.
Breathing life into theexperience is breathing more
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like this, and for peoplelistening without breathing life
into the experience, it mightsound like this the message
silence, they say, is the voiceof complicity, but silence is
impossible.
Silence screams.
Silence is a message, just asdoing nothing is an act.
Nourishing our bodies withbreath and breathing life into
the experience by letting therebe a dance between the words and
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the silences would sound morelike this the message Silence,
they say, is the voice ofcomplicity, but silence is
impossible.
Silence screams.
Silence is a message, just asdoing nothing is an act.
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It's amazing for the speakerbecause you get to nourish your
body with breath in thosesilences and it's a win-win-win
for everybody because thelisteners digest what you're
saying mentally and, moreimportantly, emotionally, in the
silences.
So let's play with somebreathing.
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First, we're going to do anexercise that's like stretching
Before we go exercise.
We're going to hold our handsup like we're holding a
harmonica in between our thumband our pinky, and then the
three other fingers become likethe teeth of the harmonica.
In case you don't know this,when people are playing a
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harmonica, they're inhaling orexhaling the whole entire time.
So we're going to inhalethrough our harmonica fingers
and then we're actually going topull the hand out and make an S
sound like a hissing snake.
It goes like this Now, as youkind of have it, we're going to
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go again and again, and again,and you can do it on your breath
pattern.
You don't need to feel for mineand be paying attention to two
things.
One is how much ease can therebe?
Okay, rather than I gotta.
How easy and natural can theprocess be?
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And then the other is where isyour body moving between your
collarbones and your pubic bone?
Okay, and let me pause you forone moment and give one more
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adjustment that I think willbring more ease.
Yeah, when we're used tosuppressing and then we try to
breathe deeper.
It's like we have thisimpression that it takes a lot
of work and we have to go likework hard to pull the air in.
Ease is coming into your bodyand now that there's so much
more breath, I'm gonna ask youto actually stop at about 80
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percent of what you could takein.
What I'm noticing as he's doingthis is that it's like nice and
easy, nice and easy and it'sgetting fuller, and then there's
a point where he sort of pullsto try to go all the way to full
air quotes.
So let your breath live between20% and 80%, so you never push
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it all the way out at the endand you don't work to fill it
all the way up.
You live between 20 and 80.
Eric (18:27):
Okay.
Lauri (18:37):
And now let's change the S to a Z, so we'll sound like
buzzing bees.
And let me pause for a momentagain and ask you where are you
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noticing the movement nowbetween your collarbones and
your pubic bone?
Eric (19:18):
mainly under my diaphrag, so closer to my pelvis.
Lauri (19:42):
Yeah, and for those of you listening or who don't know
where the diaphragm is, it'sactually that solar plexus area
that he mentioned.
If you know that, it's wherethe ribs meet.
If you're a woman, it's likewhere your bra line ends in the
front.
It's where the ribs meet.
If you were to do CPR onyourself or the Heimlich and you
know those, that's kind of thespot.
So when we first started.
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I was noticing a lot up above,where you would be able to see
it on the camera, in the upperchest, and now what he's
describing is the majority ofthe movement is now happening
below the camera, down where thebelly as we know it is, and I
also feel like there's somemovement with the rib cage
moving sideways.
Yes, yes.
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Yes as well.
So that's this, if you've heardme mention it before, for
anyone listening, it's the imageof the pear-shaped balloon I
didn't even mention it to himand he's already kind of got it
which is like at the top, whereour neck is, the pear-shaped
balloon doesn't move as much asit does down below where the
solar plexus is.
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So now we're going to do onemore Z with the harmonica and
then we're going to toss awayour harmonicas and we're going
to start inhaling through themouth and expanding all the same
areas.
It may go faster on the inhalenow, just because the hole's
going to be bigger.
So one more with the harmonicato feel that pear-shaped balloon
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.
Eric (21:08):
Yeah, okay, and then inhale through the mouth.
Lauri (21:39):
And and I'm starting to experiment with going up and
down in pitch, which to me islike when a piano player sits
down at the piano and they runtheir finger across all the keys
to make sure that none of themare sticky.
We're kind of touching all ofour pitches instead of just one
to unstick them.
And now let's do an om soundlike in a yoga class Long O,
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little M on the end Om.
So we've done align the body,which is opening the heart.
This is aligning the breath.
What are you noticing aboutyour breath now, as opposed to
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your normal speaking?
Eric (22:46):
There's it's ease, so I'm not forcing it, I'm not thinking
it's kind of flowing.
Lauri (22:56):
Eric has described his optimal speaking with a sense of
flow and a sense of connection.
So his body is enjoying thisflow physically and it may mean
that when he's in a flow state,he has more of this.
So we're finding anotherdoorway into that.
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And now let's bring in theenergy.
Aligning energy.
We're going to do the opposite.
First, um, aligning the energymeans that, energetically, we're
hugging the whole room andthere is a cat, yeah, moving
behind eric.
And I will tell you, this iswhat always happens when I'm
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working with somebody, and theenergy starts to shift and the
sound of your voice starts toshift, the pets just come on
because they are drawn to it.
Eric (23:57):
So, yes, yeah and checking it out'm standing.
I'm standing, so he doesn't hopon the chair, because that's
what he normally does, butthat's the first time he's ever
he's ever done that it'shilarious, okay, the energy.
Lauri (24:16):
I use a tool set called anchoring and including.
Okay, anchoring is like deepconnection, eye contact or heart
to heart.
If you are on Zoom and youcan't see the people, and what a
lot of us do is we anchor andthen we exclude anyone else who
might be in the room.
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So we're actually going to dothat first, and most of us know
it, because if we've ever goneto a cafe or out to dinner, we
intuitively anchor with theperson we're at the cafe or at
dinner with and excludeeverybody else with our body
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language, our volume and ourenergy.
So we're going to do an ohmsound to each other, excluding,
as if we were sitting in a cafeand we didn't want anybody else
all up in our business.
Eric (25:08):
Okay.
Lauri (25:10):
Inhale, om, and now we have dogs starting to
communicate back to us.
Let's do now anchor and include, so wrap your energetic arms
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around your whole space.
So wrap your energetic armsaround your whole space and
we're going to send an ohm again.
And let's go ahead and start toplay with intention, since the
dog is barking.
Eric (25:51):
Yeah.
Lauri (25:52):
And let's just see what happens if the intention is to
soothe.
Eric (25:57):
Okay.
Lauri (25:59):
So you're imagining that, like we inhale neutral
molecules and then we're sendingvibrations of soothe on our
voice and in that energetic hugand we'll see what happens with
the dog Cool, inhale, inhale and, as is sometimes the case in
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the world, it takes some timefor the intention to work
because the dog is still barking.
Yeah, yeah, he's communicatingback um other than the dog is
still barking.
Yeah, yeah, he's communicatingback Other than the dog.
How did that Om with?
Basically, you just did a soundwith intend, align and invite.
How was that communicated,different than other sounds
you've made?
Eric (26:58):
I've.
It's different in the context.
I've done similar sounds inmeditation.
So when closing eyes and goingwithin and preparing for
meditative journey, for example,I've never used it to set
intentions for what we just did.
So it felt familiar and new atthe same time.
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So to your point earlier.
It was almost as if it's aremembering as well as learning
new.
I'm putting new in quotesbecause it's new to the
application of this process.
Lauri (27:39):
Yeah, yeah, that's a great way to put it.
And a lot of us have otherareas of our lives where we
might've experienced flow state,we might've experienced
open-heartedness, we might'veexperienced this deeper, more
nourishing breathing from scubadiving.
I had a client years ago whowas like, oh, I just started
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taking scuba diving lessons andthe parallels between the two
are really eerie Doing yoga,meditating and then it's taking
that skill and drawing it overinto the world of speaking to
other humans, it over into theworld of speaking to other
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humans, and there can start tobe a dexterity with the body,
breath and energy, becausethey're really similar and
they're not exactly the same andthe more we do them, the more
capacity we have in all of them,because it's like our rib cage
is literally getting moredexterity Right.
Eric (28:39):
Fascinating that you brought up scuba diving, because
I immediately was brought towhen I began cold plunges,
because cold plunges, when ourbody hits cold, the instinct is
to take a big, deep breath in,and we don't have to work for it
, it happens automatically andthat breath is the precursor to
almost like calm and set up forwhat we know to be.
(29:02):
So thank you for helping thatsynapsis form there.
Lauri (29:07):
It makes total sense.
Yeah, and as you mentioned that, I thought of two things.
One was the first breath thatwe take as babies.
I've not had any children.
I don't remember when I was ababy.
I have heard people speak aboutit feeling very much the same.
When a baby comes out andfinally takes their first breath
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, they've been dropped intosomething new and radically
different than where they were.
That might feel a lot like acold plunge does to us, as
adults, so often their firstbreath is this nice, flowing,
nourishing breath.
And my friend, who I stole theharmonica breathing from, is a
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singing instructor.
Her name is is Lauren Barbeau.
She's going to come on here atsome point.
She always reminded me whensinging that every breath is a
chance to begin again.
So in the middle of a speech,if you feel like your breath has
gotten shallow, or if someoneasked a question that sort of
triggered your imposter monstersto question that sort of
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triggered your imposter monsters, you can take that first
life-giving breath.
At any moment it can be one ofthose.
Eric (30:27):
That's an interesting point, because life-giving
doesn't have to be the initialbreath of life to get it started
.
It can resurrect as well.
Lauri (30:39):
Yeah, cool, yeah, can resurrect as well.
Yeah, cool, yeah, I like that.
Yeah, now let's put thisbreathing into having you speak.
So you're going to speak forroughly 60 seconds this time.
I may pause you and say inhale,or something like that.
You're speaking about somethingthat you're passionate about.
You're setting an intention forwhat you want us to feel
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emotionally or energetically.
Eric (31:05):
Okay.
Lauri (31:06):
You're aligning your body , your breath and that energetic
hug, and then you're also usingsilences and watching for signs
of that intention coming tolife over here in us Me as the
face you can see, and then therest of the us are the listeners
that will join us in the future.
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Any questions?
I don't think so.
Yeah, remember, because I justsaid a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot
of words.
Yeah, your body experiencedthose words.
Your body experienced thosewords.
So I gave you the words intend,align, invite and then we
deepened your body's experienceof what those things mean.
(31:50):
Now let's come back to intend,align, invite and trust that I'm
over here to say bend yourknees a little more, all right,
whenever you're ready alignmentis a huge aspect of my personal
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journey and what I offer toclients.
Eric (32:18):
I used to look at this as imbalanced, and as I dove deeper
and deeper and deeper into thetopic, it became alignment
versus misaligned, and what Imean by this is very similar to
the idea of when we pourourselves into something that we
do not believe in, it createsstress, but if we pour ourselves
into something that we do notbelieve in, it creates stress,
(32:40):
but if we pour ourselves intosomething that we do believe in,
that is purpose and that isexcitement.
And similarly, this is whathappens when we're aligned as
opposed to misaligned.
If we're continuing to journeyin the direction of what we want
(33:00):
, we create more passion, wecreate more connection, we
create a better version ofourselves, and this is what
that's time, perfect, eric.
Lauri (33:17):
How did that one feel different to you from the first
one?
It?
Eric (33:21):
felt like it was flowing and there was a pattern of this
ebb and flow of breath and wordsworking together in the dance
that that you called it, which Ilove that analogy and I could
have, but I don't recognize thatI use filler words like uh and
(33:41):
uh, my go-tos, like so andthings like that.
It felt like there was aconnection.
It felt like my intention ofsharing something purposeful and
having it received as valuable,aligned with what I was saying.
Lauri (34:04):
I'm going to jump on one thing before I forget it.
We think that flow comes fromconstantly talking.
Eric (34:13):
Yeah.
Lauri (34:15):
And what you just mentioned was there was more
flow, less ums if any, I don'tknow, because our minds were not
paying attention to the ums.
I'm 99% certain that they wentdown, if any came out of your
mouth.
There was actually more flow toyour thoughts, more flow to the
(34:38):
interchange between the two ofus, by allowing there to be
breath and silence.
And then the words came.
And then breath and silence,and then the words came.
More flow by integratingsilence rather than thinking
that flow means I've got to talkand talk and talk and flow from
(34:58):
one thing to the next and nevergive myself a breath For your
intention.
I heard a little bit of themental response that you wanted.
What was the emotional orenergetic response that you were
(35:20):
looking or feeling for overhere in me and my plants?
Eric (35:26):
Connection Because, ultimately, at the foundation of
this is the Ubuntu idea of I am, because we are, and that is
100% connection.
So the alignment is theconnection.
If, if the intention ofconnection.
If I'm able to create that orallow that to occur
(35:50):
automatically and energetically,then everything that I'm saying
would flow and be received,everything that I'm saying would
flow and be received.
Lauri (36:01):
Awesome, awesome, will you?
I love to ask people to do thissomewhere where you're speaking
in the future, try this intend,align, invite, possibly even
warming up with a little of thatbreath and energy stuff, the
S's, the harmonica, s's,harmonica, z's, Z's, ohms, and
(36:26):
then play with intend, align,invite somewhere that you're
speaking within the next weekand send me a message and let me
know how it goes.
Eric (36:35):
Yes, for sure, I'm actually recording a podcast of
a host on mic, so me goingthrough ultimately like a
keynote speech type thing, soperfect timing.
I will definitely use this andthen we'll send you an update on
a message on how it went, withthe intention of decreasing the
(36:57):
editing process, because Iutilize the flow appropriately.
Lauri (37:03):
Nice, and let me ask you, as we close, what are your
biggest takeaways from today, inyour words?
Eric (37:15):
Biggest takeaway your words.
Biggest takeaway and this isoutside of the box is the more I
(37:36):
tap into my true essence of whoI am, which is I resonate and
see myself, between ages fiveand eight, as the true being of
who I am, and I can feel thisenergy now who I am.
And I can feel this energy nowwhen I let go of everything and
tap into that.
I am so much closer to source,so much closer to who I am.
My biggest takeaway is droppingall formalities of what I think
the world should be and allow meto experience exercises that
(37:57):
push me outside of my comfortzone Again, even though I have
done things like Japa meditation, that you say the name of God
and ah and om, it feelsdifferent in a meditative state
versus prepping to speak.
Allowing myself the opportunityand giving myself permission to
(38:23):
do that allows me to tap intowho I am.
So that is ultimately mybiggest takeaway.
And second to that would bewhen doing that, when I let go,
I'm able to able to, like I feelmore relaxed in my hips from
the breathing alone, so the airactually relaxes the body, which
(38:47):
feeds out into thecommunication of what I'm able
to offer yeah, I love that andit feels like when we're
releasing anything that someoneelse tells us we need to do or
be, and bringing that intospeaking.
Lauri (39:06):
I hear all of the masks and the impressions that we have
of I need to do X to be a quoteunquote good speaker.
It's releasing all of that.
To be a quote unquote goodspeaker.
It's releasing all of thatbeing you, the you that you knew
as your five to eight year oldself and connecting from there
(39:27):
and that intend align.
Invite helps you do more ofthat.
Eric (39:33):
Totally agree, because at that five to eight, that was
innate.
I didn't have to think about it, it came naturally.
So remembering that innateability is a beautiful journey,
so thank you.
Lauri (39:49):
Yeah, remembering to be who you truly are before the
world told you you were supposedto be someone else.
Correct, beautiful, beautiful,beautiful.
Yes, thank you.
Eric (40:04):
Thank you.
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