Small Wins Count (Like Pants and Prayer)

Growth happens underground first. Just because you can't see it doesn't mean it's not happening.

When putting on real pants feels like a victory.

Let's talk about small wins. And when I say small, I mean tiny. Microscopic. Like "I put on real pants today" small. Like "I opened my Bible, got overwhelmed after two verses, and shut it again" small. Like "I brushed my teeth and only cried a little bit" small.

If that's the season you're in—if getting through the day feels like a marathon and putting on pants without elastic waistbands feels like a victory—this episode is for you.

Here's what grief does that nobody really warns you about: it turns the tiniest tasks into mountains. Normal routines suddenly become Everest. Getting out of bed feels like climbing a cliff face. And don't even get me started on cooking an actual meal—that might as well be rocket science.

But somewhere along the line, we start judging ourselves for these tiny victories. We start saying things like "I should be doing more by now" or "Other people seem to handle this better."

That voice in your head? That inner critic that keeps raising the bar higher and higher? That voice does not speak for the God who made you.

In this tender episode, we're celebrating the microscopic wins that actually matter more than you know. Because God isn't disappointed in your pace. He's rejoicing that you're moving—even if it's just a half-step forward, even if it's just showing up, even if it's just putting on pants.

Growth happens underground first. Just because you can't see it doesn't mean it's not happening.

Earthling, your love is not lost—it's just learning a new language. The porch light's on, the door's unlocked, and there's always room at this table for your beautiful, broken heart.

My website is coming soon with resources, support, and more conversations like this one. Until then, if this episode touched your heart, I'd be so grateful if you'd share it with someone who needs to hear these words.