What to Say When People Say the Wrong Thing

What to Say When People Say the Wrong Thing

A tender conversation about love that doesn't know how to end

"He's in a better place." "At least you had all those good years." "God never gives us more than we can handle." "You need to move on—he wouldn't want you to be sad."

Sound familiar? If someone recently opened their mouth and said something that made you want to laugh, cry, or commit a small felony, this conversation is for you.

Here's the truth nobody wants to say out loud: grief makes people squirm. It reminds them that terrible things happen to good people, and maybe their own carefully constructed life could fall apart too. So when they see you walking around with your heart cracked open, they panic—and when people panic, they say really, really stupid things.

But here's what they don't understand: you don't need your grief managed. You need it witnessed.

In this episode, we're diving into the beautiful, boundary-setting, grace-filled options you have when people serve you a steaming hot plate of unsolicited advice with a side of spiritual bypassing. From the power of silence to gentle phrases that honor your heart while keeping your peace, you'll discover how to navigate these moments without losing yourself in the process.

Because here's what I want to remind you: you are not responsible for other people's discomfort with your grief. You are not required to make your pain smaller so they can feel better. You are not too sensitive, too dramatic, or taking too long.

You're doing something incredibly hard with more grace than you even realize.

Perfect for anyone who's tired of well-meaning people saying all the wrong things—and ready to respond with both boundaries and grace.

Earthling, your love is not lost—it's just learning a new language. The porch light's on, the door's unlocked, and there's always room at this table for your beautiful, broken heart.

My website is coming soon with resources, support, and more conversations like this one. Until then, if this episode touched your heart, I'd be so grateful if you'd share it with someone who needs to hear these words.