January 27, 2025 • 19 mins
In this final episode of our goal-setting series, we tackle something many moms struggle with - celebrating our wins. Learn why acknowledging small victories builds momentum and confidence, plus get practical tips for creating a daily celebration habit.
Key Takeaways:
- Why moms often struggle to celebrate small wins
- How tiny victories build momentum toward bigger goals
- Simple ways to acknowledge daily progress
- The power of self-encouragement
Quick Win: Start a "Daily Win Check-in" - Set a nightly reminder to acknowledge one small victory from your day. Whether it's staying calm during a meltdown or choosing water over wine, give yourself credit for these moments.
Resources Mentioned:
- Follow #stressfreemomwins to share your victories
- Check out the show notes over on www.Seasonsfromthehart.com
- Previous episodes in the goal-setting series (Episodes 8-10)
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Episode Transcript
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(00:00):
Hey there, Supermom! Have youever had someone ask you how
you're going to celebrate anachievement and drew a blank?
Today we're talking aboutsomething I honestly struggle
with, figuring out how tocelebrate our everyday wins.
(00:21):
A few years ago, I was workingon my personal growth journey,
and I was asked by someone how Iwas going to celebrate my win
once I achieve it.
And you know what?
I honestly had no idea how I wasgoing to celebrate that win.
(00:47):
And so, That is what we're goingto talk about today.
Celebrating our wins andfiguring out how to celebrate
them.
This episode is the fourth andfinal part to our Busy Moms
Guide to Actually Achieve YourGoals.
And as awesome as this serieshas been, this concludes that
(01:10):
series.
But don't worry, there will bemore episodes to come.
If you have not been followingthe last three episodes, um,
just a quick recap.
The first episode was all abouthow to set goals as a busy mom.
(01:32):
We talked about how breaking biggoals into smaller chunks helps
you really build momentum andMakes it a lot easier to
accomplish.
Our second episode was about themindset you needed to achieve
those goals and how reframingwhat we think about and what we
(01:55):
say really helps us to get intothe mindset to achieve our
goals.
Our third episode was all aboutstaying consistent and how to
stay consistent as a busy mom.
And this episode is all aboutcelebrating our wins.
(02:19):
If you haven't listened to thoseepisodes, I would really
encourage you to go back andlisten to them because they are
powerful and they will helpbuild the framework for
celebrating our goals.
Although celebrating wins is notjust for achieving goals.
It is for all of the littlesmall things that you do on a
(02:40):
daily basis as a community.
Wonderful supermom.
So, before we get into how tocelebrate, I'd like to share a
few things about celebrationsthat took me years to figure
out.
I mentioned earlier that, youknow, a few years ago when I
(03:04):
started down my personal growthjourney, I had coaches and I had
therapists who asked me how Iwas going to celebrate my goal
once I achieved it.
And like I said, I really had noidea how I was going to do that
or what celebrating your winactually even looked like.
(03:28):
I mean, for the most part, forme, celebrating wins was, or
celebrations, was more about,you know, holidays and birthdays
and, big goals that you'vecrushed.
(03:49):
The small ones, I had never eventhought about it.
I also never really realizedwhat was really worth
celebrating besides the big goalthat I could never seem to
achieve.
And you know what I realized?
After looking at all of thethings that I do and all looking
(04:13):
back on how I accomplished mygoal of losing weight, I
realized that it's the smallwins that helped build the
momentum to keep moving forwardin achieving my goal of losing
weight and so many other thingsthat I've improved on and
(04:34):
changed over the years.
But one of the mental blocksthat I always kept coming back
to with small things was thatthe wins that I was achieving
wasn't big enough to celebrate.
I mean, it was drinking waterinstead of wine or saying no to
(04:57):
my son for the 10th time, orjust simply getting more steps
in or having a no sugar lunch orbreakfast.
I mean, how do you celebratethose things?
I also felt like nobody reallycared about those small
(05:20):
improvements that I made in mylife.
I mean, they were mine.
They were my improvements.
My, in my life that nobodyreally else had a say in.
Not necessarily a say, but theydidn't contribute to any of
that.
(05:40):
So why would they even careabout celebrating those small
wins?
And you know, I, you know, Ialso felt like I didn't even
know how to celebrate somethingthat small.
I mean, when you celebratesomething big, you usually go
out to dinner or, you know, havea small party or, you know,
(06:04):
whatever I, whatever otherpeople do to celebrate, I don't
know, but those just didn't seemlike the right type of thing to
do for drinking water instead ofwine or, you know, All the other
small wins that I didaccomplish, I just, I never
really knew how to celebratethat.
(06:27):
And you know, this got methinking about why it's so hard
for us moms to celebrate thosesmall moments.
And what I discovered reallychanged everything.
So why do we struggle tocelebrate.
I already mentioned a few ofthem, but one of them for me was
(06:52):
just feeling like the small winsdidn't really matter.
You know, it was just somethingthat I did, it happened, and
okay, let's keep moving forward.
I never really stopped to thinkabout how that small win
actually mattered in my progressfor goals.
(07:17):
Another thing that I reallystruggled with was waiting for
the big achievement, waiting forthe moment where I said, yes,
I've lost the amount of poundsthat I want to lose.
I'm done.
But I was never done.
I mean, that big goal never wasachieved.
(07:39):
And so I always struggled withcelebrating that.
And another way, another reasonthat I struggled was just not
knowing how to celebrate thosedaily wins.
Well, like I said before, how doyou even celebrate those things,
like saving money or makinghealthy choices or even setting
(08:01):
boundaries?
To me, I never really looked atthose things as being
celebration worthy.
But, you know, once I understoodwhy celebrating felt so awkward,
I started noticing somethingimportant about momentum.
(08:22):
Every time I acknowledged asmall win, every time I saw
something that I did as a win,those tiny wins started to build
confidence in myself.
Confidence that allowed me tokeep moving forward and continue
(08:46):
to make progress.
And those little wins actuallyturned into many celebrations
that gave me motivation to keepgoing.
You know, those little smallpats on your back that just give
(09:07):
you encouragement and theacknowledgement that you're
doing good, you're movingforward, you're doing, you're
making progress.
That really helps in my abilityto achieve that goal.
And all of that, it startedbuilding momentum through
(09:32):
acknowledging the fact that Iwas making progress.
So now, now that we know whycelebrations really do matter,
let's talk about what actuallycounts as a win.
You know, as a busy supermom, IIt's easy to just do what we
(09:58):
need to do and keep movingforward and just keep our head
down and, and not stop toacknowledge the fact that what
we're doing really does matter.
And on top of that, when youstart making different choices,
start making better choices thathelp improve your life, your
(10:22):
dreams, your mind, your anythingthat you're trying to change.
Those daily choices, they mightseem small, but they really do
matter in helping you tocontinue to move forward and
keep making progress.
(10:43):
And those, that acknowledgement,is huge.
Some of those daily choicescould be, you got all the
laundry done for the day.
You got all the dishes done forthe day, even though you were
tired and didn't want to doanything.
(11:04):
You got your child out the doorin time for school or just out
the door period.
You chose water over wine onenight, or maybe you chose water
instead of coffee in themorning.
Maybe you chose vegetables.
like a veggie dip instead ofchips and dip, or maybe you
(11:32):
stayed calm during a meltdown.
All of those things are small.
But they truly do matter whenyou're working on changing
anything.
And also those moments ofstaying consistent when life is
hectic and life is crazy andthings happen and schedules
(11:56):
change.
When you find yourself beingable to do something
consistency, consistently, likemaybe Taking a shower on a
regular basis when before youwere just too tired to do that.
Or maybe keeping up with thedishes every night.
That consistency, it reallyhelps to build that confidence
(12:22):
and keep that momentum going.
So when we, when we take themoment to acknowledge those
daily wins or stayingconsistent, when we take the
time to acknowledge those, thoselittle celebrations, even if
it's in your head, they feel youforward towards progress on your
(12:46):
goal.
And so I know you might bethinking, this sounds good, but
how do I actually do this?
I've got something simple foryou to try, and it's called the
daily win check in.
And here's how you do that.
So you set a route, you sit, Adaily reminder on your phone or
(13:10):
on your watch or whatever youuse to give you reminders.
Set a daily reminder.
I would suggest at night becausethat's when you are calm and you
can sit down and you can thinkabout it.
Maybe after the kids go tosleep, or when you're going to
(13:32):
sleep, or you know, whenever youhave a calm moment at the end of
the day, think about all thethings that you did for the day
and name just one small win.
One small thing that you didthat might have been challenging
for you to do before.
(13:53):
But you finally figured out howto make it happen.
Celebrate that win.
Give yourself a credit.
You can either do this out loud,and look foolish in front of
your kids like I do sometimes,or you could just do it in your
head.
A lot of the times, I will laymy head down on the pillow.
(14:16):
I will think inside my head,Good job, Deanna.
You did a good job today.
You crushed everything youwanted to do, or maybe even you
crushed one thing you wanted todo.
But either way, good job,Deanna.
You did good.
(14:36):
Congratulations.
And just listening, just hearingthat inside my head, it gives me
that encouragement.
That I don't generally getanywhere else.
It's not like my family iscongratulating me for doing the
dishes all the time, you know?
(14:57):
But I can encourage myself, atleast.
And so can you.
And that is how we build thatmomentum.
So before we wrap up today, Iwant to share something I wish I
had known years ago aboutcelebrations.
(15:18):
Your small wins can createmomentum, and if you take the
time to acknowledge them, giveyourself credit, pat yourself on
the back, do whatever you can doto make yourself feel good about
what you did, that helps buildthat momentum and to keep you
(15:41):
moving forward in your progress.
And celebration is a form ofself encouragement, which is
something I didn't realize untiljust recently.
For us to complete our goals,for us to continue moving
(16:07):
forward, and The age oldquestion of how do you
celebrate?
You give yourself.
Self couragement.
You give yourself encouragement,and that's all that really
matters.
It doesn't matter about whatanybody else thinks or does or
(16:27):
says, give yourself thatencouragement.
Be that person for yourself,just like you are for your kids,
or your spouse, or your friends,or family, whatever.
Be your own friend and encourageyourself, and you'll keep
crushing those goals.
(16:51):
So this, as I said earlier, thisepisode is the final episode of
the A Busy Mom's Guide toActually Achieving Your Goals.
I really, really hope youenjoyed this series.
It's been my first series ofthis podcast and I really
(17:12):
enjoyed talking about goalsbased on All that I've learned
over the years and our priorepisodes haven't quite been on
goals, but with this new year, Ithought it was appropriate to
talk about goals.
But next week, we are going tobe talking about simple systems
(17:35):
for challenging families becauseI have a challenging family and
systems have not been ourstrongest suit over the years,
but I'm learning that systemsreally help keep the household
running smoothly and it cuts thechaos out of the picture some,
(17:59):
most of the time.
It can help lower the stress andthe chaos in the home.
So I really hope you tune in forthat next week.
And I'd love to hear yourthoughts on this episode, on the
series, on anything that we'vetalked to.
(18:21):
I'd love to hear your thoughtsand I'd love for you to share
your wins with us.
Use the hashtagstressfreemomwins.
When you're posting it, and Iwould love to be able to help
encourage you and celebrate yourwins with you.
So until next time, I know thiswas a short episode, but was
(18:46):
well worth, well worth the time,and I really hope you enjoyed
it.
So until next time, Supermoms,stay strong, stay calm, and keep
thriving.
Hey there, Supermom! Have youever had someone ask you how
you're going to celebrate anachievement and drew a blank?
Today we're talking aboutsomething I honestly struggle
with, figuring out how tocelebrate our everyday wins.
(00:21):
A few years ago, I was workingon my personal growth journey,
and I was asked by someone how Iwas going to celebrate my win
once I achieve it.
And you know what?
I honestly had no idea how I wasgoing to celebrate that win.
(00:47):
And so, That is what we're goingto talk about today.
Celebrating our wins andfiguring out how to celebrate
them.
This episode is the fourth andfinal part to our Busy Moms
Guide to Actually Achieve YourGoals.
And as awesome as this serieshas been, this concludes that
(01:10):
series.
But don't worry, there will bemore episodes to come.
If you have not been followingthe last three episodes, um,
just a quick recap.
The first episode was all abouthow to set goals as a busy mom.
(01:32):
We talked about how breaking biggoals into smaller chunks helps
you really build momentum andMakes it a lot easier to
accomplish.
Our second episode was about themindset you needed to achieve
those goals and how reframingwhat we think about and what we
(01:55):
say really helps us to get intothe mindset to achieve our
goals.
Our third episode was all aboutstaying consistent and how to
stay consistent as a busy mom.
And this episode is all aboutcelebrating our wins.
(02:19):
If you haven't listened to thoseepisodes, I would really
encourage you to go back andlisten to them because they are
powerful and they will helpbuild the framework for
celebrating our goals.
Although celebrating wins is notjust for achieving goals.
It is for all of the littlesmall things that you do on a
(02:40):
daily basis as a community.
Wonderful supermom.
So, before we get into how tocelebrate, I'd like to share a
few things about celebrationsthat took me years to figure
out.
I mentioned earlier that, youknow, a few years ago when I
(03:04):
started down my personal growthjourney, I had coaches and I had
therapists who asked me how Iwas going to celebrate my goal
once I achieved it.
And like I said, I really had noidea how I was going to do that
or what celebrating your winactually even looked like.
(03:28):
I mean, for the most part, forme, celebrating wins was, or
celebrations, was more about,you know, holidays and birthdays
and, big goals that you'vecrushed.
(03:49):
The small ones, I had never eventhought about it.
I also never really realizedwhat was really worth
celebrating besides the big goalthat I could never seem to
achieve.
And you know what I realized?
After looking at all of thethings that I do and all looking
(04:13):
back on how I accomplished mygoal of losing weight, I
realized that it's the smallwins that helped build the
momentum to keep moving forwardin achieving my goal of losing
weight and so many other thingsthat I've improved on and
(04:34):
changed over the years.
But one of the mental blocksthat I always kept coming back
to with small things was thatthe wins that I was achieving
wasn't big enough to celebrate.
I mean, it was drinking waterinstead of wine or saying no to
(04:57):
my son for the 10th time, orjust simply getting more steps
in or having a no sugar lunch orbreakfast.
I mean, how do you celebratethose things?
I also felt like nobody reallycared about those small
(05:20):
improvements that I made in mylife.
I mean, they were mine.
They were my improvements.
My, in my life that nobodyreally else had a say in.
Not necessarily a say, but theydidn't contribute to any of
that.
(05:40):
So why would they even careabout celebrating those small
wins?
And you know, I, you know, Ialso felt like I didn't even
know how to celebrate somethingthat small.
I mean, when you celebratesomething big, you usually go
out to dinner or, you know, havea small party or, you know,
(06:04):
whatever I, whatever otherpeople do to celebrate, I don't
know, but those just didn't seemlike the right type of thing to
do for drinking water instead ofwine or, you know, All the other
small wins that I didaccomplish, I just, I never
really knew how to celebratethat.
(06:27):
And you know, this got methinking about why it's so hard
for us moms to celebrate thosesmall moments.
And what I discovered reallychanged everything.
So why do we struggle tocelebrate.
I already mentioned a few ofthem, but one of them for me was
(06:52):
just feeling like the small winsdidn't really matter.
You know, it was just somethingthat I did, it happened, and
okay, let's keep moving forward.
I never really stopped to thinkabout how that small win
actually mattered in my progressfor goals.
(07:17):
Another thing that I reallystruggled with was waiting for
the big achievement, waiting forthe moment where I said, yes,
I've lost the amount of poundsthat I want to lose.
I'm done.
But I was never done.
I mean, that big goal never wasachieved.
(07:39):
And so I always struggled withcelebrating that.
And another way, another reasonthat I struggled was just not
knowing how to celebrate thosedaily wins.
Well, like I said before, how doyou even celebrate those things,
like saving money or makinghealthy choices or even setting
(08:01):
boundaries?
To me, I never really looked atthose things as being
celebration worthy.
But, you know, once I understoodwhy celebrating felt so awkward,
I started noticing somethingimportant about momentum.
(08:22):
Every time I acknowledged asmall win, every time I saw
something that I did as a win,those tiny wins started to build
confidence in myself.
Confidence that allowed me tokeep moving forward and continue
(08:46):
to make progress.
And those little wins actuallyturned into many celebrations
that gave me motivation to keepgoing.
You know, those little smallpats on your back that just give
(09:07):
you encouragement and theacknowledgement that you're
doing good, you're movingforward, you're doing, you're
making progress.
That really helps in my abilityto achieve that goal.
And all of that, it startedbuilding momentum through
(09:32):
acknowledging the fact that Iwas making progress.
So now, now that we know whycelebrations really do matter,
let's talk about what actuallycounts as a win.
You know, as a busy supermom, IIt's easy to just do what we
(09:58):
need to do and keep movingforward and just keep our head
down and, and not stop toacknowledge the fact that what
we're doing really does matter.
And on top of that, when youstart making different choices,
start making better choices thathelp improve your life, your
(10:22):
dreams, your mind, your anythingthat you're trying to change.
Those daily choices, they mightseem small, but they really do
matter in helping you tocontinue to move forward and
keep making progress.
(10:43):
And those, that acknowledgement,is huge.
Some of those daily choicescould be, you got all the
laundry done for the day.
You got all the dishes done forthe day, even though you were
tired and didn't want to doanything.
(11:04):
You got your child out the doorin time for school or just out
the door period.
You chose water over wine onenight, or maybe you chose water
instead of coffee in themorning.
Maybe you chose vegetables.
like a veggie dip instead ofchips and dip, or maybe you
(11:32):
stayed calm during a meltdown.
All of those things are small.
But they truly do matter whenyou're working on changing
anything.
And also those moments ofstaying consistent when life is
hectic and life is crazy andthings happen and schedules
(11:56):
change.
When you find yourself beingable to do something
consistency, consistently, likemaybe Taking a shower on a
regular basis when before youwere just too tired to do that.
Or maybe keeping up with thedishes every night.
That consistency, it reallyhelps to build that confidence
(12:22):
and keep that momentum going.
So when we, when we take themoment to acknowledge those
daily wins or stayingconsistent, when we take the
time to acknowledge those, thoselittle celebrations, even if
it's in your head, they feel youforward towards progress on your
(12:46):
goal.
And so I know you might bethinking, this sounds good, but
how do I actually do this?
I've got something simple foryou to try, and it's called the
daily win check in.
And here's how you do that.
So you set a route, you sit, Adaily reminder on your phone or
(13:10):
on your watch or whatever youuse to give you reminders.
Set a daily reminder.
I would suggest at night becausethat's when you are calm and you
can sit down and you can thinkabout it.
Maybe after the kids go tosleep, or when you're going to
(13:32):
sleep, or you know, whenever youhave a calm moment at the end of
the day, think about all thethings that you did for the day
and name just one small win.
One small thing that you didthat might have been challenging
for you to do before.
(13:53):
But you finally figured out howto make it happen.
Celebrate that win.
Give yourself a credit.
You can either do this out loud,and look foolish in front of
your kids like I do sometimes,or you could just do it in your
head.
A lot of the times, I will laymy head down on the pillow.
(14:16):
I will think inside my head,Good job, Deanna.
You did a good job today.
You crushed everything youwanted to do, or maybe even you
crushed one thing you wanted todo.
But either way, good job,Deanna.
You did good.
(14:36):
Congratulations.
And just listening, just hearingthat inside my head, it gives me
that encouragement.
That I don't generally getanywhere else.
It's not like my family iscongratulating me for doing the
dishes all the time, you know?
(14:57):
But I can encourage myself, atleast.
And so can you.
And that is how we build thatmomentum.
So before we wrap up today, Iwant to share something I wish I
had known years ago aboutcelebrations.
(15:18):
Your small wins can createmomentum, and if you take the
time to acknowledge them, giveyourself credit, pat yourself on
the back, do whatever you can doto make yourself feel good about
what you did, that helps buildthat momentum and to keep you
(15:41):
moving forward in your progress.
And celebration is a form ofself encouragement, which is
something I didn't realize untiljust recently.
For us to complete our goals,for us to continue moving
(16:07):
forward, and The age oldquestion of how do you
celebrate?
You give yourself.
Self couragement.
You give yourself encouragement,and that's all that really
matters.
It doesn't matter about whatanybody else thinks or does or
(16:27):
says, give yourself thatencouragement.
Be that person for yourself,just like you are for your kids,
or your spouse, or your friends,or family, whatever.
Be your own friend and encourageyourself, and you'll keep
crushing those goals.
(16:51):
So this, as I said earlier, thisepisode is the final episode of
the A Busy Mom's Guide toActually Achieving Your Goals.
I really, really hope youenjoyed this series.
It's been my first series ofthis podcast and I really
(17:12):
enjoyed talking about goalsbased on All that I've learned
over the years and our priorepisodes haven't quite been on
goals, but with this new year, Ithought it was appropriate to
talk about goals.
But next week, we are going tobe talking about simple systems
(17:35):
for challenging families becauseI have a challenging family and
systems have not been ourstrongest suit over the years,
but I'm learning that systemsreally help keep the household
running smoothly and it cuts thechaos out of the picture some,
(17:59):
most of the time.
It can help lower the stress andthe chaos in the home.
So I really hope you tune in forthat next week.
And I'd love to hear yourthoughts on this episode, on the
series, on anything that we'vetalked to.
(18:21):
I'd love to hear your thoughtsand I'd love for you to share
your wins with us.
Use the hashtagstressfreemomwins.
When you're posting it, and Iwould love to be able to help
encourage you and celebrate yourwins with you.
So until next time, I know thiswas a short episode, but was
(18:46):
well worth, well worth the time,and I really hope you enjoyed
it.
So until next time, Supermoms,stay strong, stay calm, and keep
thriving.
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