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May 26, 2025 26 mins

The powerful grip of toxic shame drives us to protect ourselves in ways we rarely recognize. In this transformative third installment of "Healing the Shame That Binds You," Dr. Chris uncovers how "acting shameless" becomes our shield against unbearable emotional pain.

Drawing from John Bradshaw's groundbreaking recovery work and her own award-winning research with teen mothers, Dr. Chris illuminates three critical behaviors that mask our toxic shame: perfectionism, rage, and addictive patterns. These aren't random coping mechanisms—they're sophisticated protective systems that alter our mood and transfer our pain to others, what therapists call "passing the hot potato."

For teen mothers, perfectionism often manifests as an obsessive drive to "prove naysayers wrong." Through poignant testimonies from young mothers like Quincy and another graduate, we witness how the external focus on disproving others' judgments perpetuates rather than heals deep shame. Rather than striving for perfection, Dr. Chris advocates focusing inward on healthy boundaries and self-acceptance.

Rage—particularly common in children raised with shame-based parenting or abandonment—operates like an iceberg. The visible anger conceals massive underwater foundations of hurt, humiliation, and unprocessed shame. Meanwhile, addictive behaviors extend far beyond substances to include eating disorders, emotional fixations, and compulsive activities—all attempts to escape shame's suffocating grip.

The path toward healing begins only when we bring shame out of hiding in safe, non-judgmental communities. This compelling episode offers hope through practical steps toward breaking multi-generational patterns of toxic shame, with special attention to the unique challenges facing teen mothers and their children.

Connect with Teen Moms Anonymous through social media @TeenMomsAnonymous, visit teenmomsa.org, or email info@teenmomsa.org to learn more about our support groups and resources dedicated to emotional health and wellness for teen mothers and those who were teen parents.

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