The Calm Confidence Podcast (Formerly the "Therapy on Tap Podcast")

Another older video from youtube that I never uploaded to the podcast.

We often fall off our path out of fear of judgment from others and we forget the fact that our life is ours to live and no one else's. The irony is that the people judging us are often only judging us because they are unsatisfied with their own lives. After all, who has time to judge others if they are focused on themselves.

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This was a youtube video I uploaded back in February that I forgot to add to the podcast. At the end of the video I mention a follow up episode called "Depression Changes You." If you're interested in listening to that episode you can find it on the podcast homepage, dated Feb 10.

Forgiveness is never easy, especially when it's time to forgive ourselves. We forget that the person we were in the past is not the pers...

In this episode I explore the role of negativity bias in social anxiety. We often believe we have an objective understanding of ourselves, when in reality our narrative shapes everything we see. In this episode I will challenge you to challenge yourself and your beliefs about yourself and the world. Maybe we've got this thing all wrong.

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This is the audio from a short video I made on YouTube. Social anxiety can also impact our relationships. It can make us worry about where we stand with someone, if they are mad at us, if they like us, etc... These worries can sometimes lead to destructive behaviors (seeking validation and reassurance) that ultimately do more harm than good. In this episode I explore what can be done about your desperation so you can feel more conf...

Social Anxiety makes us passive, but the more passive we are the less control we feel over our own lives. We hold onto narratives decades old because we have no new information to change them. If we want to change how we think and feel about ourselves, we have to change how we act first. Give yourself a chance to learn something new about yourself. Maybe you are not the unlikeable loser you have always thought. Maybe if you put you...

Alcohol, unfortunately, can be very good at calming our nerves. I say unfortunately because this can create a very dangerous cycle. If we rely on alcohol to get through our social situations, we increase our likehood of having alcohol problems. We are also not addressing the fear of socializing at it's core. When we drink we are finding a loophole around the fear, which doesn't allow us to overcome the fear in the longrun. ...

Self-consciousness prevents us from living and acting freely in the world. When we are in a social situation and we become self conscious it becomes nearly impossible to engage in conversations because we feel we need to constantly watch and edit ourselves. In this episode I explore why we are self conscious and what mindset shifts and practical skills we can adopt to step outside of ourselves and rid ourselves of fear and social a...

PODCAST NAME CHANGE! THIS WAS FORMERLY THE "THERAPY ON TAP PODCAST."

Sometimes it feels like no matter how many times we put ourselves in social situations, nothing gets better. We are still filled with the same dread and anxiety, despite people and mental health professionals telling you "you have to challenge yourself" if you want to overcome fear and build confidence. In this episode I explore why exposure...

When we feel anxious in social situations, we play it safe. We don't tell the funny joke, we sit in the corner of the room, we don't share our interests. This can temporarily make us feel more safe and at ease, but actually exacerbates the anxiety in the long run. In this episode I explore why playing it safe is a dangerous game, how it traps us from truly accepting ourselves and allowing others to accept us, and how it mak...

Every socially anxious person's nightmare... You're in a conversation, things seem to be going ok, when suddenly... your brain freezes. Now your heart and your thoughts are racing, trying to come up with something to say. What do you do now? In this video I dive deep into this commonly asked questioned by social anxiety sufferers, and the answer may not be at all what you expected. #socialanxiety #shyness #shyguy #socialskills #con...

Self confidence can be quite the Paradox. If you don't already have confidence, no amount of achievement will give it to you. This is because our low self esteem doesn't allow us to appreciate our successes. In this video, I explore a more reliable way to attain and build confidence; learning to trust ourselves to overcome rather than measuring ourselves based on our perceived achievements. #confidence #selfconfidence #selfsteem #p...

Marijuana has become more accepted both culturally and legally, and on the whole this has been a good thing. However, I think we are being dishonest if we don't acknowledge the very real dangers of marijuana. Marijuana has been proven to increase the likelihood of psychosis and schizophrenia. It is also not as effective as advertised in treating anxiety and depression. I'm not saying you need to stop smoking, you just have ...

Depression isn't always an internal problem. Sometimes we are depressed because our life is simply not going well. Some of these reasons are out of our control, others are in our control but we're having difficulty making the appropriate changes. In this episode I explore how modern therapy and psychiatry has become lazy by labeling everything a "disorder." It's not a disorder if we are seeing things objective...

You may not realize this, but by trying to "improve" your social skills, you are actually making your social anxiety worse. If you struggle with social anxiety you already obsess about how you come across, what you are saying, how you are saying it, etc. By trying to "improve" your skills, you actually exacerbate the obsessiveness. In this episode I will discuss how you can let go and finally find the freedom yo...

We can't avoid judgement from others, so don't bother trying. Our attempts to avoid it only make our social anxiety worse and it won't stop the judgment from coming anyway. #socialanxiety #socialanxietydisorder #confidence #resilience #freedom Interested in getting in contact?https://charlesperrytherapy.com/Podcast link:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4EdDP9fkklpSaLZhMxPwVE?si=d819309608b54a6aApple: https://podca...

We're often taught that if we want to feel confident in something, we have to practice until we have mastered it. We believe that confidence comes from developing skills and constantly improving ourselves. While this is sound advice in certain situations, it does little in building long lasting, internal confidence. What do we do if we are learning something new? How can we feel confident in ourselves if confidence is only supp...

Anxiety, and mental health in general, is a dream crusher. It prevents you from living a full life and makes you believe you have to put your life on hold. Your life will slowly shrink more and more as you give in to the anxiety. In this video, I explore how you can begin to break free of this cycle and start dreaming again. #anxiety #anxietyrelief #anxietyanddepression #anxietyrelief Interested in getting in contact?For NY/NJ resi...

Are you an overthinker? In this video I break 4 common mistakers overthinkers make, and how to overcome them! #overthinking #worry #rumination #anxiety #anxietyrelief Interested in getting in contact?For NY/NJ residents: https://charlesperrytherapy.com/For non-NY/NJ Residents: https://calendly.com/cperry0814/30minhttps://calendly.com/cperry0814/1-hour-coaching-session

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Depression will change you in ways you cannot even imagine. It's important we recognize the power of depression so we don't fall into the trap of blaming ourselves, and we are able to recognize how depression is clouding our thoughts, emotions and behaviors. #depression #depressionawareness #depressed #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness Interested in getting in contact?For NY/NJ residents: https://charlesperrytherapy.com/F...