July 22, 2025 • 47 mins
Former ballet dancer Faye Laroux shares her journey from perfectionism to authenticity through her Three Bodies methodology, helping sensitive, purpose-driven people embody healing and confidence. Through personal stories of trauma and transformation, Faye reveals how aligning our physical, emotional, and spiritual bodies can unlock our most authentic expression and highest potential.
• From professional ballet at 17 with the American Ballet Theater in New York City, to walking away 4 years later after experiencing the dark side of the elite ballet world and perfectionism
• How rescuing and rehabilitating a wild dog became a profound metaphor for human healing
• Understanding your "high destiny trajectory" by aligning with your deepest values
• The importance of feeling grace and alignment in your physical body as a doorway to confidence
• What it means to "withdraw permission" from your inner critic instead of fighting it
• A powerful guided practice for grounding and connecting with your three bodies
• The willingness to change as the essential habit for building authentic confidence
• How taking responsibility without blame creates transformation
Ready to explore the connection between your physical, emotional and spiritual bodies? Visit Faye's website to learn about her coaching programs and upcoming retreat in New Mexico. The Three Bodies approach can help you discover, explore and attain your most fulfilling destiny trajectory.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome to the Confidence Shortcut, the podcast
for ambitious creatives andentrepreneurs who are ready to
stop overthinking, take boldaction and finally step into the
life they've been dreamingabout.
I'm your host, nikki Sternermom, actor, comedian and
producer.
After years of playing smalland waiting to feel ready, I
went on a courage quest andfound a shortcut to confidence.
(00:21):
Each week, I'll bring you realstories, simple steps and
conversations with experts inmindset, courage and confidence,
plus heart-to-hearts withfellow creatives who are turning
their dreams into reality.
It's time to get unstuck andstart showing up.
Let's dive in.
Welcome to the ConfidenceShortcut.
I'm your host, nikki Sterner.
(00:41):
Today's guest is Faye LaRue,founder of Three Bodies and a
transformational coach who helpssensitive, purpose-driven
people embody healing at thedeepest level.
A former professional balletdancer turned embodiment expert,
faye guides clients in usingthe three bodies to discover,
explore and attain a fulfillingdestiny trajectory.
(01:03):
Explore and attain a fulfillingdestiny trajectory.
Her work blends movement,nervous system repair and
spiritual integration to turninsight into livable wisdom,
helping people lead, love andcreate from their most aligned
self.
I'm so excited to get into thisstory, faye.
Welcome to the podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
Thank you so much, Nikki.
I'm so delighted to be here.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
And you're in Santa Fe.
Is that correct?
Correct Santa Fe.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
New Mexico.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
How is it there?
Today Is it a beautiful day.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
Absolutely stunning day.
Yeah, stunning spring day.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Did you get to go outside already?
Speaker 2 (01:37):
I go outside every morning with my dog.
I call her my beast.
She can't get out, so she's notjust a walk around the block
kind of dog.
We get out for a hike.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Oh, really, that's fantastic.
I was just speaking with anutritionist and she was saying
how a really good way to wake upyour brain in the morning is to
get outside and walk like intothe sunshine.
And it just helps your brainwake up, and I've been doing it
and it's really been helpful.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Absolutely.
Yeah, it's an amazing shift assoon as you're out there,
sometimes I don't really want togo and I'm always incredibly
grateful that I have this beast,as I call her, to get me out
there every day.
I don't have a choice.
What kind of dog is she?
She is a mix, she's a rescueand she was actually a wild dog.
She was pulled from the Mesa,so I didn't know that when I
adopted her and she was actuallya wild dog.
(02:23):
She was pulled from the mesa,so I didn't know that.
When I adopted her and it wasthis in unbelievable learning
experience for me, I worked withquite a few specialists to
figure out how to rehab andbasically domesticate a wild
animal so that she was safe andhappy and fulfilled and in our
life.
It took an incredible amount ofdedication on my part and about
(02:46):
a year and a half to two yearsjust to even turn the corner.
Now she's five now.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Never know that she had been so shut down, so throw
herself against a wall.
If you looked in her direction,she's still very independent.
That's why I call her my beast.
She isn't really a normal dog,that is, we have an expectation
around dogs, but I do believethat was part of this.
Incredible medicine for me wasexpectation.
I changed a lot around.
(03:16):
I was able to view our societalexpectations on humans as well
as just how behavior is supposedto be and the expectation to be
something you're not, and thenwhat it takes to scale back
expectations to zero, to be ableto build something foundational
that you can actually live on,versus keeping up or trying to.
(03:38):
If you miss these foundationalstages, you'll never.
It's never really sustainable.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Wow, that is so mind-blowing right there, Just
even reflecting back on us ashumans.
The same way we go throughtrauma and we get in that kind
of I don't want to call it wild,but it does feel a little bit
like that Prepared for anything,that danger is everywhere and
you're just prepared for thatinstead of prepared for growth
(04:04):
or relaxation.
Wow, I can imagine that wasalmost like a mirror, like in
your life.
How can I use this?
Speaker 2 (04:12):
Incredibly so, almost to the ridiculous, you know,
almost like whoa?
Yes, absolutely Especiallybecause at that time I was
healing from a pretty intensetrauma.
I think we all have trauma andthen some of us have these more
acute moments of trauma.
So it was a very interestingkind of flip of the switch, you
(04:32):
know, like the script changedaround what I thought I was
going to be doing with this dogand what I ended up doing with
this dog and how I transformedand how, seeing how I needed to
reduce expectations and mywillingness to reduce
expectations for her, and howthat, knowing that that is what
I had to turn towards myself andbe able to depart from normal
(04:57):
society, to be willing to dothat, to create something much
greater than I ever could havedone, trying to fit into what
I'd known already.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
Tell me a little bit more about that, if you will.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
In regards to creating something greater than
what I.
I think it comes back to whatwe were just talking about in
regards to being able to giveyourself the time and space to
actually heal, to actuallyunderstand who you really are,
get the medicine from whatyou've been through so you don't
miss that or end up having togo back 10, 15 years later when
(05:30):
it erupts into something, whenyou're triggered and it starts
to destroy something and youdon't understand why.
And then, when you learn whathealing is as a lifestyle, you
do understand why.
But it's more that foundationalaspect where there was no
walking this dog around theblock.
She could barely go outside ina car ride.
(05:52):
I had to put her in the car, sitin the car, take her out of the
car and go back inside.
Put her in the car, put the carinto neutral, let it roll down
the street a couple of feet,stop the car, take her back
inside.
You know these were the levelsat which we had to slowly.
Sometimes it took me when I waseventually walking.
Her took me sometimes two hoursto get around the block because
(06:12):
we would just have to stop andher sensory overload was so
extreme.
But you can't just drag herthrough that.
I mean you can?
That's what most people do,because you know I got, I got to
get to work, I have things todo, I have to go show up, I have
money to make, I have this, Ihave that.
And it was just an interestingprocess for me to surrender that
(06:36):
and show up purely for her totrust in what that could become.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Now can you take me back to when you were 17 and
tell me a little bit more aboutthat time in your life?
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Sure, 17 is when I moved to New York.
I was hired by American BalletTheater.
I was recruited the year before, but my mom thought I was too
young to go.
So I guess at 17, I was oldenough.
Where did?
Speaker 1 (07:03):
you grow up before that, just so I have perspective
.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Yeah, so I was born in Long Beach, california.
I started dancing when I wasthree.
I went from studio to studio,teacher to teacher and I did the
summer program starting around,I think, at age 13.
15, I moved up to the Bay Areato train with a specific school
and some specific teachers and Ihad a coach in the city and I
started finishing up my highschool early and ABT had heard
(07:30):
about me, asked me to come takeclass with their company.
It wasn't really a properaudition, it was sort of a
viewing, so to speak, and theywere in a semi-company tour in
Sacramento and I went and tookclass and at that point they
were very much so like oh, wewant you to join, wanted me to
come now, probably so thatnobody else could scoop me up.
And so then, a year later, Ihad to re-show up to class,
(07:53):
basically re-audition.
And yeah, it was just like okay, now you're coming to New York.
And so from California, from apretty sheltered, focused life
around ballet, a lot ofsacrifice I was just thrust into
the world of New York City onmy own.
It's not like going to a dormor something.
You're an adult.
Oh, wow, yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Was there a lot of perfection in the world of
ballet?
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Of course, yes, extreme, pretty extreme level of
perfection.
And I think perfection andcontrol they go together.
Yeah, they're very married,because it's the illusion of
control and the idea that youcan control everything that then
gives you the ability to feelperfect or try to hone in on
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perfection, or try to shapeyourself to something that then
is perfect, and when you thinkabout that, it's really just
about then how you are perceivedas perfect.
You strive for it, butperfection is really just how
you are perceived by thosearound you.
Because I do believe that youlose sensation to yourself in
(09:03):
over-perfectionism, losesensation to yourself in
over-perfectionism.
You're so preoccupied with whatpeople think about you, how
their perception of you willeither, for instance, in ballet,
forward your career or stop it,and when you've given your life
and your childhood away toballet, that feels like the end
of the world.
(09:23):
But I think that's relatable toall of us out there in the
world, when we sacrifice heavilyfor something and then it feels
like there could be a roadblock.
But if you could just be moreperfect.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
Oh yeah, any type of performance.
I feel like that we're alltrying to win the love of the
audience or the approval, likeyou're saying, to get to the
next level of the rung up theladder and just keep building
your career and building anaudience that loves you.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Yeah, absolutely.
There's so many aspects to thatin performance for sure.
And yet, as we know, on aspiritual level and on a growth
level, it's all aboutauthenticity.
So that wedge about where areyou authentic and where are you
striving for perfection, and howthat can thwart ultimate
success, basically, is reallyinteresting.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
Yeah, how did you go away from perfection and more
toward authenticity?
What were some things that youdid, or points along your path
where you realized, oh, this iswhat I'm doing and that's not
working anymore?
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Yeah, it's a great question.
You had posed a question to mebefore too, about getting
curious, and I feel like this isin a similar vein.
I was feeling the pressure ofperfectionism to the extent that
it was affecting my psyche, myphysical body and, of course, my
emotional body.
So this relates to the threebodies and methodology that
eventually, over time, Ideveloped and came up with,
(10:50):
because I was breaking downphysically, but I was also
breaking down psychologically.
I was having panic attacksgoing to work, and so I stepped
out of my job with AmericanBallet Theater.
I quite literally walked out ofthe building, the rehearsal
studios at 890 Broadway, andnever went back.
(11:10):
Part of that felt likesomething much bigger than me
moving through me, like I don'tknow exactly how I had the
courage to do that at the time,but really that was me stepping
towards healing, transformationand understanding what power
really was and not being willingto lose myself completely.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
How long were you there before that happened?
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Four years.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Oh, you were there four years.
Wow.
I don't know if you want totalk about those four years at
all or any sort of trauma thathappened or what caused you to
walk away.
Speaker 2 (11:46):
There was tons of really twisted stuff, and there
is tons of really twisted stuffthat goes on inside of the elite
professional ballet world.
It's got an incredibly darkpatriarchal influence to it and
at the same time there's anaccepted culture or was, and at
this point I don't know itsevolutionary state it's been 20
(12:06):
years now since I've been in acompany but there was just an
accepted culture of kind of baselevel molestation among
colleagues, parties, weird stuff, all kinds of weird stuff's
going on.
I mean, you're a dancer, You'repractically naked with each
other all the time.
But there's also thisculturally accepted thing that
was just normal and as a veryyoung person coming into the
(12:30):
company, there was also aculture of who's going to get
the baby, who's going to getthis new one that's coming in.
I mean, I'm not the only one,it was for all of us younger and
it was just accepted.
It was 20 years ago.
We've come a long way in ourperception, what we understand,
even having language aroundwhat's going on.
So I didn't really know whatwas going on.
(12:52):
What I did know was how my bodyfelt, how I was struggling in
my mind and how my emotionalbody seemed really far away from
me.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
Like almost you had detached from me, like it's like
almost you had detached rightfrom your physical body in a way
to protect yourself.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
Right, and I'm sure that happened over time.
I'm sure that wasn't just myfour years in the company.
But because of excessivepressure, childhood stuff was
coming up to the surface thatmade it more difficult for me to
deal with.
So I walked out and that wasreally when I took a step
towards authenticity, trueconfidence, really trying to
(13:35):
understand who.
I was not willing to go anyfurther down this path at the
expense of at that moment in mylife, at 22 years old, kind of
everything I had worked for.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
Did your mom know anything?
Were you able to tell anyone,or did you just hold it in, like
so many of us do when that sortof thing happens?
Speaker 2 (13:56):
I mostly held it in.
I didn't really have parentsthat were there for me in that
way and I didn't have anymentors.
We weren't really set up tohave mentors to be able to talk
to.
It wasn't provided in a way.
Again, the culture was reallymore about control.
So they don't necessarily wantyou to be super stable and we
(14:19):
have a bunch of people runningthe companies in upper
management at this point thatwent through the same stuff
without healing.
Healing is not healing.
Personal responsibility thesethings are very important to me.
That, to me, make a life offulfillment, being able to
attain that high destinytrajectory, mandatory.
We don't have people in thatvein running the show and when
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you're a 17-year-, 18 year oldcoming in, you know you need
that in that upper influence,you absorb that upper influence.
Speaker 1 (14:51):
Oh yeah, you keep saying high trajectory.
Will you explain that to me?
Speaker 2 (14:55):
Sure.
So my understanding this isthrough my experience personally
in my own growth, but then alsohow, the way I work with the
alignment and the communicationbetween the three bodies, you
can align your energy towards alot of different expressions
that can come out.
There's no right, wrong, goodor bad way to be able to express
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yourself on the planet, to liveyour life, to attain a high
destiny trajectory.
Is that idea of taking aspiritual warrior approach?
If you really know your highestvalues, there are things that
are going to have to shed foryou to truly attain what means
the most to you.
That's that fire that you'llalign yourself with to burn away
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whatever needs to be burnedaway to be able to express at
that purest, most authentic,high, most, in alignment with
whatever that is that you came,came down here to get out in
this lifetime.
You all, we are truly so unique.
We each have something veryunique to put down and to give.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
I love that.
So, from the point where youwalked away that day in New York
and you were searching for yourconfidence and your
authenticity, I'm wondering whathappened along the journey,
what you got curious about anddecided to fall into on your
(16:21):
path.
Speaker 2 (16:23):
Gosh, so many things.
I started with body work.
I received a gift certificateto get a session Heller work.
It is in the field ofstructural integration.
Joseph Heller was a NASAscientist and engineer and he
got rolfed very early on and hebasically expanded what rolfing
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was at the time in regards tojust a physical thing to a
multifaceted.
Your body is your psyche, it'sall you can find it all in here
and now we have more resourcesthat speak to this.
The body keeps the score.
Everything is ultimate right.
So he was an early visionary onthis.
So, seeing the body as thesubconscious and unconscious.
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So when you manipulate the body, a dialogue process and
understanding of what's comingup, being able to connect these
three bodies, the spirit,essence, our infinite potential,
the emotional body and then themind and the layers of the mind
, not just the conscious mindbut the unconscious and
(17:30):
subconscious minds this changedmy life so dramatically at 22.
It felt so incredible, thefreedom I was feeling in my body
after such compression.
So it was really the doorswinging wide open towards yeah,
sense of freedom, I think morethan anything.
And I had been traveling theworld with American Ballet
Theater from living in a verysmall world, so my mind had been
(17:55):
quite opened up around gosh,there's a whole world out there.
And now my body was beingopened up to feel like gosh,
there's a whole world ofmovement even out there that I
had no idea.
We are expanded as we grow intothe world.
So the idea of staying in thisbox of ballet and this box, of
moving my body a certain wayjust became a no, I can't do
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that anymore.
I have to keep going down thisother path.
And then I still had a lot ofchildhood trauma that ultimately
ended up showing itself in myintimate relationships.
So, as my life looked great, Iended up with a starring role on
Broadway.
My career reinvented itself.
I went to Copenhagen and danced, I guested, I was in film,
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dance came back to me and mycareer came back to me.
But I was more curious, andeven through all of these
beautiful things that werehappening on a dance level,
which was wonderful, there wasstill a pain that kept showing
itself in my life and I keptwanting to get to the bottom of
that.
So I went deeper into the mind,deeper into epigenetics, deeper
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into really understanding karma,a higher spiritual or a deeper
spiritual drop to understandthings.
So that has been how my journeyhas led, where I feel, in a way
, I've gone from body to body tobody, and the physical body
really is the portal.
It's the portal to train themind into the body, to get the
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mind behind your intuitive,authentic faculties and to also,
as the vessel, to bring in thespirit's authentic expression.
And so it's this twofold yougot to let go of what isn't
serving that happens through thebody.
You need to understand what isright for you, that happens
through the body, and then alsoto embody these higher ways of
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being, once you really alignwith those that happens through
your expression, that comes outonto the planet through your
body if you've been living withchronic symptoms like pain,
brain fog, sensitivity to smells, light or sound, it might not
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just be your body, it could beyour brain, stuck in a survival.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
I love If this speaks to you, click the link in the
caption.
It might be the answer you'relooking for.
I love that Releasing what nolonger serves you and then
figuring out what does and whatyou're aligned with, and then
full body experience.
So I'm curious what I could doto help myself release something
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that's no longer serving me.
First off, how do I figure thatout?
And then, is there a way torelease it?
The story that you had one daythat was like an aha moment that
happened.
That helped you release it.
I've done burning ceremonies inthe past where I've written down
things limiting beliefs, and Ibrought my family outside with
(21:14):
me and I read it I'm no longergoing to do this and this is
what I'm going to feel and litthe paper on fire with them and
it was a really spiritual momentand magical, and I watched as
the paper danced in front of meon the driveway and it was just.
It was like my spirit wasdancing.
It was so happy to be finallyseen and felt, and so I'm
(21:37):
wondering if you've had anythinglike that.
Speaker 2 (21:37):
Certainly I've had so many moments like that.
What you're speaking to is thatidea of ritual and ceremony.
It's not something that wereally have embedded into our
culture anymore.
It's a big miss, because whenwe grow, there is an essence of
what we're leaving behind andwhat we're stepping into.
There's so many ways we couldgo in this conversation and
there's the idea that griefisn't something that we know how
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to deal with in our society,but every single time you grow,
you're grieving what you'releaving behind.
So it isn't just this idea ofonce you get here, it's going to
be great.
You need to grow to this levelor get unstuck and it's all
going to be fine.
Healing really is a lifestyleof growth.
A mastery is a pathway.
It's not a destination.
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It doesn't.
You don't ever get there.
You get really good at being onthe path, about being in
yourself and learning how totake the things that don't, for
instance, like you just said,that don't serve you, and create
something ceremonial orritualistic around it.
I think for me, I equate a lotof it back to grace.
(22:43):
It's easy to look at ballet asa metaphor for this, because
it's a very graceful art.
It's an art that is aboutmastery.
You do your plies and tendus.
No matter how good you get, younever stop doing your plies and
tendus.
It's always the very firstthing you do.
I mean you do all of bar.
But it's understanding thatgrace actually comes from the
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technical skill of letting go asmuch of what you're activating.
So it's like balance right.
If you imagine a ballet danceron point, she or he is not full
of tension.
If you imagine trying to holdon to that balance point, they
will immediately fall offbalance.
It's about this ever subtleshift and playing with your
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beingness in this kind of subtlemoment.
So your attention to thesubtlety of energy, your
attunement to the subtle bodiesthat we are in energetically, to
me is really a power path.
And that is where I think.
For me, my kind of base layertendu and plies that I do every
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day now to stay unstuck, to dropinto my higher alignment, is
about feeling that sense ofgrace, aligning myself, this
physical body, in thegravitational field, feeling
myself in that alignment, and tothen understand that when that
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sensation of alignment and thatsensation of energy gravity
having you connected to be ableto bring, and then attunement to
the subtle bodies of energymoving through your body that is
also making alignment throughthe mental bodies and making
alignment through the spiritualbodies.
It's the bodies coming together, it's your experience of self
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in any given moment.
Speaker 1 (24:37):
Do you feel like you find the trust in yourself in
those moments?
Is that what helped you to findyour confidence after going
through that in New York andtraveling the world?
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (24:48):
I think, at a very core level, this is like a
baseline.
There are a lot of differentthings that have helped me find
my confidence, my authenticity,to trust in myself and to really
know the scope of myself.
But, yes, absolutely, this is abaseline of like, okay, come
back home, which is in here, inthis alignment, exactly where I
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am right now, letting go of thestriving to be somewhere else,
which is huge for all of us andin that moment you can let go of
that striving to be somewhereelse.
You could just be here but alsoenjoy yourself here.
Enjoy your energy movingthrough the body, enjoy how it
feels to be grounded.
(25:32):
How are you standing?
What do you stand for?
Well, let's just see.
It's an energy we love to justjump up to our head and be like
well, what do I stand for?
Let me see if I can think aboutthis.
Don't think about it, it's inyour body.
What you stand for is here, inthe way that you stand on the
earth.
What you stand for is here, inthe way that you stand on the
earth.
What you stand for is here, inthe way that you're willing to
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be with yourself, breathe withyourself.
Take that moment to realign,reconnect.
Speaker 1 (26:02):
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I love that so much.
You said how we initially likehop up to our mind.
But what did you say?
What you stand for is in yourbody, not your head.
Oh, that was so good.
I just felt that so much in mybody.
Like yes, because I do findmyself often jumping ahead in
(27:07):
the day Like, oh, I need to beprepared for this, I need to be,
and I'm already there insteadof being here.
And I loved how you said tobring joy into this moment and
that energy of being present.
And I feel like, when I do thatand I take that moment, it's so
relaxing, it's so calming, it'sso grounding and I'm like why
don't I do that more?
(27:27):
Is there a way to make this ahabit, like you said, like doing
it every day?
Is there something we can do?
Speaker 2 (27:39):
Yeah, absolutely the easiest way is to if you can
stand, because this is where youstart to feel your body.
So if, for those listening outthere, if you can stand, if you
can't, just you can just go withthe energy, but the idea is.
Speaker 1 (27:48):
Can I stand with you, sure, absolutely.
Speaker 2 (27:51):
Yeah.
So as you come into a stand,you're going to take your mind's
awareness, your consciousness,down to the bottom of your feet
and if it's comfortable, if youfeel safe, you can close your
eyes to really come into thebody.
And as you close your eyes, youcan take your awareness back
behind your eyes almost like anelevator, start to move it down
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the body, down the centralchannel, down the inseam of the
legs to eventually come all theway to the bottom of your feet
without needing to changeanything.
Resist the urge to change.
Just notice right now how yourfeet actually come into the
ground.
Do you have more weight on onefoot versus another?
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Do you have more?
Do you feel more connected onthe outsides versus insides?
Are you more on the balls ofyour feet, your heels?
Take some deep breaths,relaxing breaths, where you let
your consciousness become highlyaware of your connection and
how your weight with gravitybrings you into this alignment.
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There's nothing wrong with theway it is.
There's nothing wrong with theway it is If you feel very
uncomfortable in this positionbefore you even shift anything.
Just become aware of that.
Give yourself a little bit ofextra space to feel
uncomfortable withoutimmediately trying to change it.
That in itself is grace.
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And then if you want to swing aheel out, adjust a little bit,
go ahead and do that now andjust notice what you did in your
body and how it feels now to beconnected, to better be able to
this is your mind gettingbehind your body to better
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support your process, to betteralign you.
And now what I'm going to haveeverybody do is just tune into
the backs of the knees.
If your knees are locked,soften the backs of your knees
ever so slightly.
This opens the energeticchannel from the electromagnetic
field of the earth into thebody's, your system, and from
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your system down to the earth.
This starts to align you toyour divine place, your divine
purpose.
You are here for a reason andyou come from the earth and you
will go back to the earth.
This is your alignment with her, your support from her, all of
that root chakra stuff thatcomes through in this energetic
connection.
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Now you're going to bring yourconsciousness back up through
your body as you feel thisalignment, all the way through
the central channel, all the wayup through the third eye, out
the crown and then around.
See the energy almost likeyou're cleaning your field.
Go all the way back downunderneath of you, six or so
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feet under the ground, and thenjust see if you can lightly
attune to this flow.
The subtle bodies, the soulbody, the energy bodies, even
the emotional body is in here.
And then to ground again.
(31:13):
We're gonna bring our awarenessto come back through the crown,
back down the central channel,back through the bottom of the
feet, in your mind's eye.
Blossom, the bottom of yourfeet, open like flowers, let
energy like roots go down, comeback around, up and over and
around you like a protectivefield force.
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Again, this is your alignment,this is your place.
And then, when you're ready,bring your awareness fully back
behind your eyes.
Before you open your eyes, tuneinto your environment to
reorient yourself on a subtlebody level and then, when you're
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ready, bring your eyes open andcome back fully into your
visual, dense reality.
There you go.
So that is a general process ofjust finding alignment between
the three bodies, getting yourmind behind who you are really
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and then getting yourself set upto move through life from that
same authentic place.
What do you stand for?
But also, what is your movement?
Our life is a movement really,from the moment we're born to
the moment we die, we're moving.
When you stop breathing, youdie.
That's our baseline movement.
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It stems from that diaphragmflow which affects the lymph
system, which affects the nervebody.
It's's all one big movement.
So initiating that movementfrom a place of connection,
alignment leads towards, I guess, in a way, magic happening from
there and out, because it'syour authenticity coming through
you out onto the planet.
Speaker 1 (33:04):
First off, thank you.
That was so beautiful, that wassuch an experience for me and,
I'm sure, for the listener somany things that you did so well
.
Having us sit in theuncomfortable space and
recognizing that I think evenhaving confidence to be in the
uncomfortable is such a giftthat so many of us don't like to
(33:27):
be in or avoid that so many ofus don't like to be in or avoid.
So training with this every dayof being in the uncomfortable
is genius.
And then also, I really lovedwhen you opened up the portal to
six feet below.
Just having that visual reallyhelped me to think and picture
in my mind the earth and justthe earthiness and connecting
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with the energy of the earth andmother earth.
And then seeing the roots gothrough my feet was so powerful.
And then having it come backaround and almost protect me and
my authenticity, and thenmoving into the world with that
feeling like, oh, I already havethis, this is a part of who I
am.
All of it was just really,really powerful and moving.
So thank you, faye, that wasjust such a gift.
(34:12):
You're welcome, wonderful.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
It's beautiful.
Speaker 1 (34:15):
Yes.
So I want to hop into our lastpart of the podcast right now,
and it is the confidencequickfire round.
So I ask every guest who comeson these five questions, and I'm
going to start with number one,which is please define
confidence.
Speaker 2 (34:32):
Confidence is trusting yourself and your
decisions and knowing your worth.
So I think for me it's aboutembracing the full scope of
strengths and brightness andimperfections, really knowing
and having gone through thatprocess of accepting it, because
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it actually is our power.
There's so much power in that.
So it's really knowing thescope of what.
When I say capable of, I'm notjust talking about the wonderful
things you can do, but also theways in which the demons in us
have come out, and just knowingwhat we're really, truly capable
of.
When we bring that in with love, when we own it, when you
(35:16):
really own that, you're notmanipulatable anymore and that's
that deep sense of confidencein you, then no one can thwart
your mission.
Or if you get a little thwarted, you know quickly that
something's off and you canbring yourself back mission.
Or if you get a little thwarted, you know quickly that
something's off and you canbring yourself back because you
know who you are.
Speaker 1 (35:33):
I love that.
I love that so much.
Okay, what is one bold move youmade before you felt ready?
Speaker 2 (35:40):
A few times, leaving an unhealthy relationship.
Speaker 1 (35:45):
Wow, what made you go ?
What gave you the confidence toleave?
Speaker 2 (35:51):
I don't necessarily confidence that gave that.
It was just in knowing that Iwasn't going to be able to
attain what I needed to what Ifelt called for in it, and I
just that just meant riskingeverything and just kind of
boldly moving on, being willingto let go and lose maybe what
(36:12):
I'd invested in.
Speaker 1 (36:15):
Like you said earlier , grieving what you're leaving,
willing to feel that and keepmoving.
Speaker 2 (36:22):
Absolutely so.
More bravery, I think, andfaith than necessarily
confidence in those moments.
But doing those moments,looking back and being able to
take in the scope of myself inthat relationship, that builds
confidence.
Doing those brave things,digesting all the information,
(36:45):
digesting the scope of what thatwas and knowing that you did
that brave thing, that buildsconfidence.
Speaker 1 (36:52):
I totally agree with you there.
I feel like it's not having theconfidence to actually take the
action.
It's taking the action and thenreflecting back on it and
saying, wow, look what I did,and that's where you actually
build it, like you're saying,yeah, absolutely Nice, okay.
So the third question is how doyou quiet your inner critic?
Speaker 2 (37:13):
You know, I'm not sure I quiet my inner critic as
much as I work with it.
I think we have a culture oftrying to squash things we don't
like, and I think that actuallycan be self-sabotaging in the
end.
Most inner critics I have foundactually stem from sometimes
these traumatic experiences wehave in entities getting
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attached to us to protect us inthose times.
But those entities are posingas parts of yourself when
they're not actually.
They came in to serve you butthey also are parasitic and they
are very much embedded in theego.
The ego is not justinflammatory.
The ego is anything that keepsus safe, and so that's how it
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works.
So, rather than trying to quietit or get it to go away, I
think the power move here is tolook at it.
Are you really me, or did youcome in from some other moment
in my life and are you actuallystill serving me and in what
part did you serve at that time?
Can I withdraw permission forme for you to be here?
Speaker 1 (38:23):
Wow, so it's almost giving them permission to leave
Withdrawing permission for themto be here.
Speaker 2 (38:32):
I guess I use it that way, where I at some point I
gave permission for them to bethere because it served me at
some in this moment that Ineeded it right likely in a
trauma that then now there's avoice associated with this thing
.
it's posing as like it's, youknow, part of you, but most of
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the time it's not actually partof you.
It's something that's livingwith you and it's so embedded in
the ego which is really more ofa matrix of existence that's
kind of a bubble around you.
It has a lot to do with how weperceive and create reality.
So, understanding how to go,take a look at that, see the
(39:14):
inner critic for what it is.
And then I like to yes, you'regiving it permission to leave,
but you're actually withdrawing.
I think it's more powerful towithdraw permission from it to
for it to be there than it hasto go because it's permission to
leave, but you're actuallywithdrawing.
I think it's more powerful towithdraw permission from it to
for it to be there than it hasto go because it's permission to
leave.
It might be like but I'm socozy here it's working.
Speaker 1 (39:32):
Yeah, yeah, I don't want to leave yet.
Yeah, I'm comfortable.
I've been here for a long time.
Speaker 2 (39:39):
I'm getting lots of energy from you.
You don't have to go anywhereRight.
Right, almost like we'rebesties.
I'm getting lots of energy fromyou.
Speaker 1 (39:43):
You don't have to go anywhere, right, right Almost.
Like we're besties, I'm stayingTotally.
Speaker 2 (39:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (39:51):
So you're like no, I'm done, you can leave, and
then you take your power back.
I love that, yeah.
Speaker 2 (39:57):
Yeah, exactly Like you know, draw the permission.
I gave a time and we can moveon.
Speaker 1 (40:05):
Yeah, oh, I love that .
Okay, the next, the fourthquestion is what's one habit
that's helped build realconfidence?
Speaker 2 (40:15):
The willingness to change.
That's the habit totally forconfidence.
For me is keeping willing tochange.
You know part of that can looklike what you, what you were
saying about.
I'm no longer willing to dothis.
I am willing to go throughdifficult things for this and I
(40:35):
am no longer willing to.
That sets boundaries, so it'stwofold.
But it's the habit ofwillingness to change which
requires both.
I'm not doing this anymore andI'm willing to go through this
for change.
Speaker 1 (40:52):
I love that.
It's almost a mindset of I amwilling to step into the
uncomfortable, I'm willing to beuncomfortable.
I'm willing to grow throughthis, whatever this is
uncomfortable.
Speaker 2 (41:06):
I'm willing to grow through this, whatever this is.
And that can look like speakingup in ways that are
uncomfortable and that can looklike going through challenges
that are uncomfortable.
Speaker 1 (41:12):
Oh, yeah, Okay.
The fifth and final question Doyou have a favorite book or
resource that changed how youthink?
Speaker 2 (41:19):
This is such a hard one, right?
Because there's so many.
There's so many, yeah, so many.
What really comes to me is oneof my mentors as my favorite
resource, and she's still anincredible resource.
She'll always be part of mebecause there's a transmission
of energy when you work withsomebody as a mentor, so as a
resource, she's there, herenergy is there, her wisdom.
(41:41):
But she really gave me a tool.
Her energy is there, her wisdom, but she really gave me a tool
that profoundly transformed mythinking and empowered me to act
towards changing my perceivedreality.
It was this tool that she wasable to give me.
It was around responsibility,understanding how the three
minds actually work and howreality is created from the
(42:04):
unconscious at like 98 percent.
Our conscious mind is so, sosmall in comparison to the vast
unconscious, so we don't havecontrol.
It is not about top down tryingto control and this idea that
we're bad manifestors if wecan't do it.
It's learning how to clean andclear what's coming up from the
unconscious and subconscious.
(42:25):
That tool is the game changer,because when you know how to
clean and clear, you can go towork, and I'm the type of person
who was.
I will go to work.
Oh yeah, you know getting thatOkay If I feel stuck and I have
in the past and before I met her, and this is why I think it
really stands out as my kind ofmost profound and there've been
so many big, pivotal moments inmy life this one just felt like
(42:48):
where has this tool been?
Because here I am with a realitythat I want to take
responsibility for.
I want to step into a moreempowered way.
I don't know how to move it.
It just keeps coming up.
It keeps coming up.
This tool absolutely changedhow to actually clean and clear
the stuff that's in theunconscious.
It could be stuff that's comingthrough generationally, it can
(43:10):
be karma, it can be past traumas, whatever memory data bits you
have stored plus, and there'sjust the collective unconscious.
So those pieces of data aregonna come up too.
So it's really the biggestservice you can do to our
collective reality to also havethis tool and just clean and
clear.
Speaker 1 (43:30):
This tool?
Is this something that you saidto yourself when it came up?
Speaker 2 (43:35):
The tool.
Whether you want to call itoutrageous ownership or radical
responsibility, I see the toollike a scalpel.
I see the tool like a scalpel.
The way you use it is veryimportant because if you're not
using it appropriately, you cantake blame and responsibility,
and our culture really loves toget stuck in blame.
If it's not your fault, it's myfault.
It's not my fault, it's yourfault.
Whose fault is it?
(43:55):
How do I reconcile what'shappened, some things you can't
reconcile.
Really, it's about movement.
It's about learning.
It's about movement.
It's about learning.
It's about growth.
It's about these higherspiritual experiences to be able
to move on from them, to beable to get the juice out of
them, to be able to turn theminto gold and then give back.
I have another teacher who saideat death for breakfast.
(44:16):
How do I eat death forbreakfast?
Digest it and turn it into sometransmuted, be a master
alchemizer.
So this tool is about takingresponsibility without falling
into the pit of over owningstuff that isn't yours.
That's equally as detrimentalas not owning anything.
It's finding that fine line ofwhat's for me, how do I own, and
(44:40):
clean and clear and releasewhat I can't change and move on
from those who aren't changingAll of those things we talked
about previously in ourconversation, even leaving
before comfortable being in theuncomfortable I'm sure this
conversation could continue on.
Speaker 1 (44:58):
This is such a deep topic right here and I'm so
interested.
I'd love to have you back onthe podcast in the future.
I mean, I don't know if this issomething that you talk about
in your programs and yourcoaching and that kind of thing,
but how can people connect withyou?
How can the listeners connectwith you?
Speaker 2 (45:13):
Oh, my work is a lot about getting the bodies, the
connection of the three bodies,to be able to start using this
tool for rapid transformation,because there's a certain level
of mastery to it and a honing ofyour own energy systems and
understanding some of these, howyou work and where you're going
to then go, take this tool andgo to work to get there.
(45:34):
I have a website I'm sureyou'll put it in the show notes.
You can sign up for aconsultation.
I do one-on-one coaching,mostly at this point and
speaking, and I'm workingtowards my first three bodies
retreat, which will be body work, training and spiritual
teachings, where we can be inperson and really have an
(45:55):
accelerated, full scopeexperience of the three bodies.
Do we know when?
Speaker 1 (45:59):
that's going to be yet.
We're looking at the end ofOctober and November.
It'll be in New Mexico thisfirst one, new Mexico.
Speaker 2 (46:02):
Oh, that's going to be yet, or are we?
We're looking at the end ofoctober and november?
In it'll be in new mexico, thisfirst one mexico oh, that's
fantastic.
Speaker 1 (46:09):
Oh, I love this so much.
This was such a wonderfulconversation.
Faye, thank you so much forcoming on.
It was such a gift, the thingthat you took us through.
What do we call that?
Speaker 2 (46:18):
alignment, grounding, grounding oh, it was so good
leaning into the subtle bodies.
Speaker 1 (46:25):
So good.
Thank you so much, Faye.
I do hope that you'll come backand have another conversation
with us.
Speaker 2 (46:31):
Absolutely yeah.
Thank you so much for having mehere.
Speaker 1 (46:35):
It's been a pleasure.
The pleasure's all mine.
Thanks so much for listening tothe Confident Shortcut.
I hope today's episode wokesomething up in you, reminding
you that your dream matters andyou can start now.
If this sparked something,share it with a friend who needs
it too.
And don't forget to follow meon Instagram at Nikki Sterner
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Ready to take the next step?
Check out my free guide, theConfidence Kickstart, linked in
the show notes.
Keep showing up, keep takingaction, and remember the
shortcut to confidence iscourage.
Welcome to the Confidence Shortcut, the podcast
for ambitious creatives andentrepreneurs who are ready to
stop overthinking, take boldaction and finally step into the
life they've been dreamingabout.
I'm your host, nikki Sternermom, actor, comedian and
producer.
After years of playing smalland waiting to feel ready, I
went on a courage quest andfound a shortcut to confidence.
(00:21):
Each week, I'll bring you realstories, simple steps and
conversations with experts inmindset, courage and confidence,
plus heart-to-hearts withfellow creatives who are turning
their dreams into reality.
It's time to get unstuck andstart showing up.
Let's dive in.
Welcome to the ConfidenceShortcut.
I'm your host, nikki Sterner.
(00:41):
Today's guest is Faye LaRue,founder of Three Bodies and a
transformational coach who helpssensitive, purpose-driven
people embody healing at thedeepest level.
A former professional balletdancer turned embodiment expert,
faye guides clients in usingthe three bodies to discover,
explore and attain a fulfillingdestiny trajectory.
(01:03):
Explore and attain a fulfillingdestiny trajectory.
Her work blends movement,nervous system repair and
spiritual integration to turninsight into livable wisdom,
helping people lead, love andcreate from their most aligned
self.
I'm so excited to get into thisstory, faye.
Welcome to the podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
Thank you so much, Nikki.
I'm so delighted to be here.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
And you're in Santa Fe.
Is that correct?
Correct Santa Fe.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
New Mexico.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
How is it there?
Today Is it a beautiful day.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
Absolutely stunning day.
Yeah, stunning spring day.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Did you get to go outside already?
Speaker 2 (01:37):
I go outside every morning with my dog.
I call her my beast.
She can't get out, so she's notjust a walk around the block
kind of dog.
We get out for a hike.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Oh, really, that's fantastic.
I was just speaking with anutritionist and she was saying
how a really good way to wake upyour brain in the morning is to
get outside and walk like intothe sunshine.
And it just helps your brainwake up, and I've been doing it
and it's really been helpful.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Absolutely.
Yeah, it's an amazing shift assoon as you're out there,
sometimes I don't really want togo and I'm always incredibly
grateful that I have this beast,as I call her, to get me out
there every day.
I don't have a choice.
What kind of dog is she?
She is a mix, she's a rescueand she was actually a wild dog.
She was pulled from the Mesa,so I didn't know that when I
adopted her and she was actuallya wild dog.
(02:23):
She was pulled from the mesa,so I didn't know that.
When I adopted her and it wasthis in unbelievable learning
experience for me, I worked withquite a few specialists to
figure out how to rehab andbasically domesticate a wild
animal so that she was safe andhappy and fulfilled and in our
life.
It took an incredible amount ofdedication on my part and about
(02:46):
a year and a half to two yearsjust to even turn the corner.
Now she's five now.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Never know that she had been so shut down, so throw
herself against a wall.
If you looked in her direction,she's still very independent.
That's why I call her my beast.
She isn't really a normal dog,that is, we have an expectation
around dogs, but I do believethat was part of this.
Incredible medicine for me wasexpectation.
I changed a lot around.
(03:16):
I was able to view our societalexpectations on humans as well
as just how behavior is supposedto be and the expectation to be
something you're not, and thenwhat it takes to scale back
expectations to zero, to be ableto build something foundational
that you can actually live on,versus keeping up or trying to.
(03:38):
If you miss these foundationalstages, you'll never.
It's never really sustainable.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Wow, that is so mind-blowing right there, Just
even reflecting back on us ashumans.
The same way we go throughtrauma and we get in that kind
of I don't want to call it wild,but it does feel a little bit
like that Prepared for anything,that danger is everywhere and
you're just prepared for thatinstead of prepared for growth
(04:04):
or relaxation.
Wow, I can imagine that wasalmost like a mirror, like in
your life.
How can I use this?
Speaker 2 (04:12):
Incredibly so, almost to the ridiculous, you know,
almost like whoa?
Yes, absolutely Especiallybecause at that time I was
healing from a pretty intensetrauma.
I think we all have trauma andthen some of us have these more
acute moments of trauma.
So it was a very interestingkind of flip of the switch, you
(04:32):
know, like the script changedaround what I thought I was
going to be doing with this dogand what I ended up doing with
this dog and how I transformedand how, seeing how I needed to
reduce expectations and mywillingness to reduce
expectations for her, and howthat, knowing that that is what
I had to turn towards myself andbe able to depart from normal
(04:57):
society, to be willing to dothat, to create something much
greater than I ever could havedone, trying to fit into what
I'd known already.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
Tell me a little bit more about that, if you will.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
In regards to creating something greater than
what I.
I think it comes back to whatwe were just talking about in
regards to being able to giveyourself the time and space to
actually heal, to actuallyunderstand who you really are,
get the medicine from whatyou've been through so you don't
miss that or end up having togo back 10, 15 years later when
(05:30):
it erupts into something, whenyou're triggered and it starts
to destroy something and youdon't understand why.
And then, when you learn whathealing is as a lifestyle, you
do understand why.
But it's more that foundationalaspect where there was no
walking this dog around theblock.
She could barely go outside ina car ride.
(05:52):
I had to put her in the car, sitin the car, take her out of the
car and go back inside.
Put her in the car, put the carinto neutral, let it roll down
the street a couple of feet,stop the car, take her back
inside.
You know these were the levelsat which we had to slowly.
Sometimes it took me when I waseventually walking.
Her took me sometimes two hoursto get around the block because
(06:12):
we would just have to stop andher sensory overload was so
extreme.
But you can't just drag herthrough that.
I mean you can?
That's what most people do,because you know I got, I got to
get to work, I have things todo, I have to go show up, I have
money to make, I have this, Ihave that.
And it was just an interestingprocess for me to surrender that
(06:36):
and show up purely for her totrust in what that could become.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Now can you take me back to when you were 17 and
tell me a little bit more aboutthat time in your life?
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Sure, 17 is when I moved to New York.
I was hired by American BalletTheater.
I was recruited the year before, but my mom thought I was too
young to go.
So I guess at 17, I was oldenough.
Where did?
Speaker 1 (07:03):
you grow up before that, just so I have perspective
.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Yeah, so I was born in Long Beach, california.
I started dancing when I wasthree.
I went from studio to studio,teacher to teacher and I did the
summer program starting around,I think, at age 13.
15, I moved up to the Bay Areato train with a specific school
and some specific teachers and Ihad a coach in the city and I
started finishing up my highschool early and ABT had heard
(07:30):
about me, asked me to come takeclass with their company.
It wasn't really a properaudition, it was sort of a
viewing, so to speak, and theywere in a semi-company tour in
Sacramento and I went and tookclass and at that point they
were very much so like oh, wewant you to join, wanted me to
come now, probably so thatnobody else could scoop me up.
And so then, a year later, Ihad to re-show up to class,
(07:53):
basically re-audition.
And yeah, it was just like okay, now you're coming to New York.
And so from California, from apretty sheltered, focused life
around ballet, a lot ofsacrifice I was just thrust into
the world of New York City onmy own.
It's not like going to a dormor something.
You're an adult.
Oh, wow, yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Was there a lot of perfection in the world of
ballet?
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Of course, yes, extreme, pretty extreme level of
perfection.
And I think perfection andcontrol they go together.
Yeah, they're very married,because it's the illusion of
control and the idea that youcan control everything that then
gives you the ability to feelperfect or try to hone in on
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perfection, or try to shapeyourself to something that then
is perfect, and when you thinkabout that, it's really just
about then how you are perceivedas perfect.
You strive for it, butperfection is really just how
you are perceived by thosearound you.
Because I do believe that youlose sensation to yourself in
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over-perfectionism, losesensation to yourself in
over-perfectionism.
You're so preoccupied with whatpeople think about you, how
their perception of you willeither, for instance, in ballet,
forward your career or stop it,and when you've given your life
and your childhood away toballet, that feels like the end
of the world.
(09:23):
But I think that's relatable toall of us out there in the
world, when we sacrifice heavilyfor something and then it feels
like there could be a roadblock.
But if you could just be moreperfect.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
Oh yeah, any type of performance.
I feel like that we're alltrying to win the love of the
audience or the approval, likeyou're saying, to get to the
next level of the rung up theladder and just keep building
your career and building anaudience that loves you.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Yeah, absolutely.
There's so many aspects to thatin performance for sure.
And yet, as we know, on aspiritual level and on a growth
level, it's all aboutauthenticity.
So that wedge about where areyou authentic and where are you
striving for perfection, and howthat can thwart ultimate
success, basically, is reallyinteresting.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
Yeah, how did you go away from perfection and more
toward authenticity?
What were some things that youdid, or points along your path
where you realized, oh, this iswhat I'm doing and that's not
working anymore?
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Yeah, it's a great question.
You had posed a question to mebefore too, about getting
curious, and I feel like this isin a similar vein.
I was feeling the pressure ofperfectionism to the extent that
it was affecting my psyche, myphysical body and, of course, my
emotional body.
So this relates to the threebodies and methodology that
eventually, over time, Ideveloped and came up with,
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because I was breaking downphysically, but I was also
breaking down psychologically.
I was having panic attacksgoing to work, and so I stepped
out of my job with AmericanBallet Theater.
I quite literally walked out ofthe building, the rehearsal
studios at 890 Broadway, andnever went back.
(11:10):
Part of that felt likesomething much bigger than me
moving through me, like I don'tknow exactly how I had the
courage to do that at the time,but really that was me stepping
towards healing, transformationand understanding what power
really was and not being willingto lose myself completely.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
How long were you there before that happened?
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Four years.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Oh, you were there four years.
Wow.
I don't know if you want totalk about those four years at
all or any sort of trauma thathappened or what caused you to
walk away.
Speaker 2 (11:46):
There was tons of really twisted stuff, and there
is tons of really twisted stuffthat goes on inside of the elite
professional ballet world.
It's got an incredibly darkpatriarchal influence to it and
at the same time there's anaccepted culture or was, and at
this point I don't know itsevolutionary state it's been 20
(12:06):
years now since I've been in acompany but there was just an
accepted culture of kind of baselevel molestation among
colleagues, parties, weird stuff, all kinds of weird stuff's
going on.
I mean, you're a dancer, You'repractically naked with each
other all the time.
But there's also thisculturally accepted thing that
was just normal and as a veryyoung person coming into the
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company, there was also aculture of who's going to get
the baby, who's going to getthis new one that's coming in.
I mean, I'm not the only one,it was for all of us younger and
it was just accepted.
It was 20 years ago.
We've come a long way in ourperception, what we understand,
even having language aroundwhat's going on.
So I didn't really know whatwas going on.
(12:52):
What I did know was how my bodyfelt, how I was struggling in
my mind and how my emotionalbody seemed really far away from
me.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
Like almost you had detached from me, like it's like
almost you had detached rightfrom your physical body in a way
to protect yourself.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
Right, and I'm sure that happened over time.
I'm sure that wasn't just myfour years in the company.
But because of excessivepressure, childhood stuff was
coming up to the surface thatmade it more difficult for me to
deal with.
So I walked out and that wasreally when I took a step
towards authenticity, trueconfidence, really trying to
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understand who.
I was not willing to go anyfurther down this path at the
expense of at that moment in mylife, at 22 years old, kind of
everything I had worked for.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
Did your mom know anything?
Were you able to tell anyone,or did you just hold it in, like
so many of us do when that sortof thing happens?
Speaker 2 (13:56):
I mostly held it in.
I didn't really have parentsthat were there for me in that
way and I didn't have anymentors.
We weren't really set up tohave mentors to be able to talk
to.
It wasn't provided in a way.
Again, the culture was reallymore about control.
So they don't necessarily wantyou to be super stable and we
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have a bunch of people runningthe companies in upper
management at this point thatwent through the same stuff
without healing.
Healing is not healing.
Personal responsibility thesethings are very important to me.
That, to me, make a life offulfillment, being able to
attain that high destinytrajectory, mandatory.
We don't have people in thatvein running the show and when
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you're a 17-year-, 18 year oldcoming in, you know you need
that in that upper influence,you absorb that upper influence.
Speaker 1 (14:51):
Oh yeah, you keep saying high trajectory.
Will you explain that to me?
Speaker 2 (14:55):
Sure.
So my understanding this isthrough my experience personally
in my own growth, but then alsohow, the way I work with the
alignment and the communicationbetween the three bodies, you
can align your energy towards alot of different expressions
that can come out.
There's no right, wrong, goodor bad way to be able to express
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yourself on the planet, to liveyour life, to attain a high
destiny trajectory.
Is that idea of taking aspiritual warrior approach?
If you really know your highestvalues, there are things that
are going to have to shed foryou to truly attain what means
the most to you.
That's that fire that you'llalign yourself with to burn away
(15:40):
whatever needs to be burnedaway to be able to express at
that purest, most authentic,high, most, in alignment with
whatever that is that you came,came down here to get out in
this lifetime.
You all, we are truly so unique.
We each have something veryunique to put down and to give.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
I love that.
So, from the point where youwalked away that day in New York
and you were searching for yourconfidence and your
authenticity, I'm wondering whathappened along the journey,
what you got curious about anddecided to fall into on your
(16:21):
path.
Speaker 2 (16:23):
Gosh, so many things.
I started with body work.
I received a gift certificateto get a session Heller work.
It is in the field ofstructural integration.
Joseph Heller was a NASAscientist and engineer and he
got rolfed very early on and hebasically expanded what rolfing
(16:45):
was at the time in regards tojust a physical thing to a
multifaceted.
Your body is your psyche, it'sall you can find it all in here
and now we have more resourcesthat speak to this.
The body keeps the score.
Everything is ultimate right.
So he was an early visionary onthis.
So, seeing the body as thesubconscious and unconscious.
(17:09):
So when you manipulate the body, a dialogue process and
understanding of what's comingup, being able to connect these
three bodies, the spirit,essence, our infinite potential,
the emotional body and then themind and the layers of the mind
, not just the conscious mindbut the unconscious and
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subconscious minds this changedmy life so dramatically at 22.
It felt so incredible, thefreedom I was feeling in my body
after such compression.
So it was really the doorswinging wide open towards yeah,
sense of freedom, I think morethan anything.
And I had been traveling theworld with American Ballet
Theater from living in a verysmall world, so my mind had been
(17:55):
quite opened up around gosh,there's a whole world out there.
And now my body was beingopened up to feel like gosh,
there's a whole world ofmovement even out there that I
had no idea.
We are expanded as we grow intothe world.
So the idea of staying in thisbox of ballet and this box, of
moving my body a certain wayjust became a no, I can't do
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that anymore.
I have to keep going down thisother path.
And then I still had a lot ofchildhood trauma that ultimately
ended up showing itself in myintimate relationships.
So, as my life looked great, Iended up with a starring role on
Broadway.
My career reinvented itself.
I went to Copenhagen and danced, I guested, I was in film,
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dance came back to me and mycareer came back to me.
But I was more curious, andeven through all of these
beautiful things that werehappening on a dance level,
which was wonderful, there wasstill a pain that kept showing
itself in my life and I keptwanting to get to the bottom of
that.
So I went deeper into the mind,deeper into epigenetics, deeper
(19:02):
into really understanding karma,a higher spiritual or a deeper
spiritual drop to understandthings.
So that has been how my journeyhas led, where I feel, in a way
, I've gone from body to body tobody, and the physical body
really is the portal.
It's the portal to train themind into the body, to get the
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mind behind your intuitive,authentic faculties and to also,
as the vessel, to bring in thespirit's authentic expression.
And so it's this twofold yougot to let go of what isn't
serving that happens through thebody.
You need to understand what isright for you, that happens
through the body, and then alsoto embody these higher ways of
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being, once you really alignwith those that happens through
your expression, that comes outonto the planet through your
body if you've been living withchronic symptoms like pain,
brain fog, sensitivity to smells, light or sound, it might not
(20:24):
just be your body, it could beyour brain, stuck in a survival.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
I love If this speaks to you, click the link in the
caption.
It might be the answer you'relooking for.
I love that Releasing what nolonger serves you and then
figuring out what does and whatyou're aligned with, and then
full body experience.
So I'm curious what I could doto help myself release something
(20:52):
that's no longer serving me.
First off, how do I figure thatout?
And then, is there a way torelease it?
The story that you had one daythat was like an aha moment that
happened.
That helped you release it.
I've done burning ceremonies inthe past where I've written down
things limiting beliefs, and Ibrought my family outside with
(21:14):
me and I read it I'm no longergoing to do this and this is
what I'm going to feel and litthe paper on fire with them and
it was a really spiritual momentand magical, and I watched as
the paper danced in front of meon the driveway and it was just.
It was like my spirit wasdancing.
It was so happy to be finallyseen and felt, and so I'm
(21:37):
wondering if you've had anythinglike that.
Speaker 2 (21:37):
Certainly I've had so many moments like that.
What you're speaking to is thatidea of ritual and ceremony.
It's not something that wereally have embedded into our
culture anymore.
It's a big miss, because whenwe grow, there is an essence of
what we're leaving behind andwhat we're stepping into.
There's so many ways we couldgo in this conversation and
there's the idea that griefisn't something that we know how
(21:58):
to deal with in our society,but every single time you grow,
you're grieving what you'releaving behind.
So it isn't just this idea ofonce you get here, it's going to
be great.
You need to grow to this levelor get unstuck and it's all
going to be fine.
Healing really is a lifestyleof growth.
A mastery is a pathway.
It's not a destination.
(22:20):
It doesn't.
You don't ever get there.
You get really good at being onthe path, about being in
yourself and learning how totake the things that don't, for
instance, like you just said,that don't serve you, and create
something ceremonial orritualistic around it.
I think for me, I equate a lotof it back to grace.
(22:43):
It's easy to look at ballet asa metaphor for this, because
it's a very graceful art.
It's an art that is aboutmastery.
You do your plies and tendus.
No matter how good you get, younever stop doing your plies and
tendus.
It's always the very firstthing you do.
I mean you do all of bar.
But it's understanding thatgrace actually comes from the
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technical skill of letting go asmuch of what you're activating.
So it's like balance right.
If you imagine a ballet danceron point, she or he is not full
of tension.
If you imagine trying to holdon to that balance point, they
will immediately fall offbalance.
It's about this ever subtleshift and playing with your
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beingness in this kind of subtlemoment.
So your attention to thesubtlety of energy, your
attunement to the subtle bodiesthat we are in energetically, to
me is really a power path.
And that is where I think.
For me, my kind of base layertendu and plies that I do every
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day now to stay unstuck, to dropinto my higher alignment, is
about feeling that sense ofgrace, aligning myself, this
physical body, in thegravitational field, feeling
myself in that alignment, and tothen understand that when that
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sensation of alignment and thatsensation of energy gravity
having you connected to be ableto bring, and then attunement to
the subtle bodies of energymoving through your body that is
also making alignment throughthe mental bodies and making
alignment through the spiritualbodies.
It's the bodies coming together, it's your experience of self
(24:35):
in any given moment.
Speaker 1 (24:37):
Do you feel like you find the trust in yourself in
those moments?
Is that what helped you to findyour confidence after going
through that in New York andtraveling the world?
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (24:48):
I think, at a very core level, this is like a
baseline.
There are a lot of differentthings that have helped me find
my confidence, my authenticity,to trust in myself and to really
know the scope of myself.
But, yes, absolutely, this is abaseline of like, okay, come
back home, which is in here, inthis alignment, exactly where I
(25:10):
am right now, letting go of thestriving to be somewhere else,
which is huge for all of us andin that moment you can let go of
that striving to be somewhereelse.
You could just be here but alsoenjoy yourself here.
Enjoy your energy movingthrough the body, enjoy how it
feels to be grounded.
(25:32):
How are you standing?
What do you stand for?
Well, let's just see.
It's an energy we love to justjump up to our head and be like
well, what do I stand for?
Let me see if I can think aboutthis.
Don't think about it, it's inyour body.
What you stand for is here, inthe way that you stand on the
earth.
What you stand for is here, inthe way that you stand on the
earth.
What you stand for is here, inthe way that you're willing to
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be with yourself, breathe withyourself.
Take that moment to realign,reconnect.
Speaker 1 (26:02):
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I love that so much.
You said how we initially likehop up to our mind.
But what did you say?
What you stand for is in yourbody, not your head.
Oh, that was so good.
I just felt that so much in mybody.
Like yes, because I do findmyself often jumping ahead in
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the day Like, oh, I need to beprepared for this, I need to be,
and I'm already there insteadof being here.
And I loved how you said tobring joy into this moment and
that energy of being present.
And I feel like, when I do thatand I take that moment, it's so
relaxing, it's so calming, it'sso grounding and I'm like why
don't I do that more?
(27:27):
Is there a way to make this ahabit, like you said, like doing
it every day?
Is there something we can do?
Speaker 2 (27:39):
Yeah, absolutely the easiest way is to if you can
stand, because this is where youstart to feel your body.
So if, for those listening outthere, if you can stand, if you
can't, just you can just go withthe energy, but the idea is.
Speaker 1 (27:48):
Can I stand with you, sure, absolutely.
Speaker 2 (27:51):
Yeah.
So as you come into a stand,you're going to take your mind's
awareness, your consciousness,down to the bottom of your feet
and if it's comfortable, if youfeel safe, you can close your
eyes to really come into thebody.
And as you close your eyes, youcan take your awareness back
behind your eyes almost like anelevator, start to move it down
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the body, down the centralchannel, down the inseam of the
legs to eventually come all theway to the bottom of your feet
without needing to changeanything.
Resist the urge to change.
Just notice right now how yourfeet actually come into the
ground.
Do you have more weight on onefoot versus another?
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Do you have more?
Do you feel more connected onthe outsides versus insides?
Are you more on the balls ofyour feet, your heels?
Take some deep breaths,relaxing breaths, where you let
your consciousness become highlyaware of your connection and
how your weight with gravitybrings you into this alignment.
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There's nothing wrong with theway it is.
There's nothing wrong with theway it is If you feel very
uncomfortable in this positionbefore you even shift anything.
Just become aware of that.
Give yourself a little bit ofextra space to feel
uncomfortable withoutimmediately trying to change it.
That in itself is grace.
(29:26):
And then if you want to swing aheel out, adjust a little bit,
go ahead and do that now andjust notice what you did in your
body and how it feels now to beconnected, to better be able to
this is your mind gettingbehind your body to better
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support your process, to betteralign you.
And now what I'm going to haveeverybody do is just tune into
the backs of the knees.
If your knees are locked,soften the backs of your knees
ever so slightly.
This opens the energeticchannel from the electromagnetic
field of the earth into thebody's, your system, and from
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your system down to the earth.
This starts to align you toyour divine place, your divine
purpose.
You are here for a reason andyou come from the earth and you
will go back to the earth.
This is your alignment with her, your support from her, all of
that root chakra stuff thatcomes through in this energetic
connection.
(30:31):
Now you're going to bring yourconsciousness back up through
your body as you feel thisalignment, all the way through
the central channel, all the wayup through the third eye, out
the crown and then around.
See the energy almost likeyou're cleaning your field.
Go all the way back downunderneath of you, six or so
(30:52):
feet under the ground, and thenjust see if you can lightly
attune to this flow.
The subtle bodies, the soulbody, the energy bodies, even
the emotional body is in here.
And then to ground again.
(31:13):
We're gonna bring our awarenessto come back through the crown,
back down the central channel,back through the bottom of the
feet, in your mind's eye.
Blossom, the bottom of yourfeet, open like flowers, let
energy like roots go down, comeback around, up and over and
around you like a protectivefield force.
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Again, this is your alignment,this is your place.
And then, when you're ready,bring your awareness fully back
behind your eyes.
Before you open your eyes, tuneinto your environment to
reorient yourself on a subtlebody level and then, when you're
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ready, bring your eyes open andcome back fully into your
visual, dense reality.
There you go.
So that is a general process ofjust finding alignment between
the three bodies, getting yourmind behind who you are really
(32:20):
and then getting yourself set upto move through life from that
same authentic place.
What do you stand for?
But also, what is your movement?
Our life is a movement really,from the moment we're born to
the moment we die, we're moving.
When you stop breathing, youdie.
That's our baseline movement.
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It stems from that diaphragmflow which affects the lymph
system, which affects the nervebody.
It's's all one big movement.
So initiating that movementfrom a place of connection,
alignment leads towards, I guess, in a way, magic happening from
there and out, because it'syour authenticity coming through
you out onto the planet.
Speaker 1 (33:04):
First off, thank you.
That was so beautiful, that wassuch an experience for me and,
I'm sure, for the listener somany things that you did so well
.
Having us sit in theuncomfortable space and
recognizing that I think evenhaving confidence to be in the
uncomfortable is such a giftthat so many of us don't like to
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be in or avoid that so many ofus don't like to be in or avoid.
So training with this every dayof being in the uncomfortable
is genius.
And then also, I really lovedwhen you opened up the portal to
six feet below.
Just having that visual reallyhelped me to think and picture
in my mind the earth and justthe earthiness and connecting
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with the energy of the earth andmother earth.
And then seeing the roots gothrough my feet was so powerful.
And then having it come backaround and almost protect me and
my authenticity, and thenmoving into the world with that
feeling like, oh, I already havethis, this is a part of who I
am.
All of it was just really,really powerful and moving.
So thank you, faye, that wasjust such a gift.
(34:12):
You're welcome, wonderful.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
It's beautiful.
Speaker 1 (34:15):
Yes.
So I want to hop into our lastpart of the podcast right now,
and it is the confidencequickfire round.
So I ask every guest who comeson these five questions, and I'm
going to start with number one,which is please define
confidence.
Speaker 2 (34:32):
Confidence is trusting yourself and your
decisions and knowing your worth.
So I think for me it's aboutembracing the full scope of
strengths and brightness andimperfections, really knowing
and having gone through thatprocess of accepting it, because
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it actually is our power.
There's so much power in that.
So it's really knowing thescope of what.
When I say capable of, I'm notjust talking about the wonderful
things you can do, but also theways in which the demons in us
have come out, and just knowingwhat we're really, truly capable
of.
When we bring that in with love, when we own it, when you
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really own that, you're notmanipulatable anymore and that's
that deep sense of confidencein you, then no one can thwart
your mission.
Or if you get a little thwarted, you know quickly that
something's off and you canbring yourself back mission.
Or if you get a little thwarted, you know quickly that
something's off and you canbring yourself back because you
know who you are.
Speaker 1 (35:33):
I love that.
I love that so much.
Okay, what is one bold move youmade before you felt ready?
Speaker 2 (35:40):
A few times, leaving an unhealthy relationship.
Speaker 1 (35:45):
Wow, what made you go ?
What gave you the confidence toleave?
Speaker 2 (35:51):
I don't necessarily confidence that gave that.
It was just in knowing that Iwasn't going to be able to
attain what I needed to what Ifelt called for in it, and I
just that just meant riskingeverything and just kind of
boldly moving on, being willingto let go and lose maybe what
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I'd invested in.
Speaker 1 (36:15):
Like you said earlier , grieving what you're leaving,
willing to feel that and keepmoving.
Speaker 2 (36:22):
Absolutely so.
More bravery, I think, andfaith than necessarily
confidence in those moments.
But doing those moments,looking back and being able to
take in the scope of myself inthat relationship, that builds
confidence.
Doing those brave things,digesting all the information,
(36:45):
digesting the scope of what thatwas and knowing that you did
that brave thing, that buildsconfidence.
Speaker 1 (36:52):
I totally agree with you there.
I feel like it's not having theconfidence to actually take the
action.
It's taking the action and thenreflecting back on it and
saying, wow, look what I did,and that's where you actually
build it, like you're saying,yeah, absolutely Nice, okay.
So the third question is how doyou quiet your inner critic?
Speaker 2 (37:13):
You know, I'm not sure I quiet my inner critic as
much as I work with it.
I think we have a culture oftrying to squash things we don't
like, and I think that actuallycan be self-sabotaging in the
end.
Most inner critics I have foundactually stem from sometimes
these traumatic experiences wehave in entities getting
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attached to us to protect us inthose times.
But those entities are posingas parts of yourself when
they're not actually.
They came in to serve you butthey also are parasitic and they
are very much embedded in theego.
The ego is not justinflammatory.
The ego is anything that keepsus safe, and so that's how it
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works.
So, rather than trying to quietit or get it to go away, I
think the power move here is tolook at it.
Are you really me, or did youcome in from some other moment
in my life and are you actuallystill serving me and in what
part did you serve at that time?
Can I withdraw permission forme for you to be here?
Speaker 1 (38:23):
Wow, so it's almost giving them permission to leave
Withdrawing permission for themto be here.
Speaker 2 (38:32):
I guess I use it that way, where I at some point I
gave permission for them to bethere because it served me at
some in this moment that Ineeded it right likely in a
trauma that then now there's avoice associated with this thing
.
it's posing as like it's, youknow, part of you, but most of
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the time it's not actually partof you.
It's something that's livingwith you and it's so embedded in
the ego which is really more ofa matrix of existence that's
kind of a bubble around you.
It has a lot to do with how weperceive and create reality.
So, understanding how to go,take a look at that, see the
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inner critic for what it is.
And then I like to yes, you'regiving it permission to leave,
but you're actually withdrawing.
I think it's more powerful towithdraw permission from it to
for it to be there than it hasto go because it's permission to
leave, but you're actuallywithdrawing.
I think it's more powerful towithdraw permission from it to
for it to be there than it hasto go because it's permission to
leave.
It might be like but I'm socozy here it's working.
Speaker 1 (39:32):
Yeah, yeah, I don't want to leave yet.
Yeah, I'm comfortable.
I've been here for a long time.
Speaker 2 (39:39):
I'm getting lots of energy from you.
You don't have to go anywhereRight.
Right, almost like we'rebesties.
I'm getting lots of energy fromyou.
Speaker 1 (39:43):
You don't have to go anywhere, right, right Almost.
Like we're besties, I'm stayingTotally.
Speaker 2 (39:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (39:51):
So you're like no, I'm done, you can leave, and
then you take your power back.
I love that, yeah.
Speaker 2 (39:57):
Yeah, exactly Like you know, draw the permission.
I gave a time and we can moveon.
Speaker 1 (40:05):
Yeah, oh, I love that .
Okay, the next, the fourthquestion is what's one habit
that's helped build realconfidence?
Speaker 2 (40:15):
The willingness to change.
That's the habit totally forconfidence.
For me is keeping willing tochange.
You know part of that can looklike what you, what you were
saying about.
I'm no longer willing to dothis.
I am willing to go throughdifficult things for this and I
(40:35):
am no longer willing to.
That sets boundaries, so it'stwofold.
But it's the habit ofwillingness to change which
requires both.
I'm not doing this anymore andI'm willing to go through this
for change.
Speaker 1 (40:52):
I love that.
It's almost a mindset of I amwilling to step into the
uncomfortable, I'm willing to beuncomfortable.
I'm willing to grow throughthis, whatever this is
uncomfortable.
Speaker 2 (41:06):
I'm willing to grow through this, whatever this is.
And that can look like speakingup in ways that are
uncomfortable and that can looklike going through challenges
that are uncomfortable.
Speaker 1 (41:12):
Oh, yeah, Okay.
The fifth and final question Doyou have a favorite book or
resource that changed how youthink?
Speaker 2 (41:19):
This is such a hard one, right?
Because there's so many.
There's so many, yeah, so many.
What really comes to me is oneof my mentors as my favorite
resource, and she's still anincredible resource.
She'll always be part of mebecause there's a transmission
of energy when you work withsomebody as a mentor, so as a
resource, she's there, herenergy is there, her wisdom.
(41:41):
But she really gave me a tool.
Her energy is there, her wisdom, but she really gave me a tool
that profoundly transformed mythinking and empowered me to act
towards changing my perceivedreality.
It was this tool that she wasable to give me.
It was around responsibility,understanding how the three
minds actually work and howreality is created from the
(42:04):
unconscious at like 98 percent.
Our conscious mind is so, sosmall in comparison to the vast
unconscious, so we don't havecontrol.
It is not about top down tryingto control and this idea that
we're bad manifestors if wecan't do it.
It's learning how to clean andclear what's coming up from the
unconscious and subconscious.
(42:25):
That tool is the game changer,because when you know how to
clean and clear, you can go towork, and I'm the type of person
who was.
I will go to work.
Oh yeah, you know getting thatOkay If I feel stuck and I have
in the past and before I met her, and this is why I think it
really stands out as my kind ofmost profound and there've been
so many big, pivotal moments inmy life this one just felt like
(42:48):
where has this tool been?
Because here I am with a realitythat I want to take
responsibility for.
I want to step into a moreempowered way.
I don't know how to move it.
It just keeps coming up.
It keeps coming up.
This tool absolutely changedhow to actually clean and clear
the stuff that's in theunconscious.
It could be stuff that's comingthrough generationally, it can
(43:10):
be karma, it can be past traumas, whatever memory data bits you
have stored plus, and there'sjust the collective unconscious.
So those pieces of data aregonna come up too.
So it's really the biggestservice you can do to our
collective reality to also havethis tool and just clean and
clear.
Speaker 1 (43:30):
This tool?
Is this something that you saidto yourself when it came up?
Speaker 2 (43:35):
The tool.
Whether you want to call itoutrageous ownership or radical
responsibility, I see the toollike a scalpel.
I see the tool like a scalpel.
The way you use it is veryimportant because if you're not
using it appropriately, you cantake blame and responsibility,
and our culture really loves toget stuck in blame.
If it's not your fault, it's myfault.
It's not my fault, it's yourfault.
Whose fault is it?
(43:55):
How do I reconcile what'shappened, some things you can't
reconcile.
Really, it's about movement.
It's about learning.
It's about movement.
It's about learning.
It's about growth.
It's about these higherspiritual experiences to be able
to move on from them, to beable to get the juice out of
them, to be able to turn theminto gold and then give back.
I have another teacher who saideat death for breakfast.
(44:16):
How do I eat death forbreakfast?
Digest it and turn it into sometransmuted, be a master
alchemizer.
So this tool is about takingresponsibility without falling
into the pit of over owningstuff that isn't yours.
That's equally as detrimentalas not owning anything.
It's finding that fine line ofwhat's for me, how do I own, and
(44:40):
clean and clear and releasewhat I can't change and move on
from those who aren't changingAll of those things we talked
about previously in ourconversation, even leaving
before comfortable being in theuncomfortable I'm sure this
conversation could continue on.
Speaker 1 (44:58):
This is such a deep topic right here and I'm so
interested.
I'd love to have you back onthe podcast in the future.
I mean, I don't know if this issomething that you talk about
in your programs and yourcoaching and that kind of thing,
but how can people connect withyou?
How can the listeners connectwith you?
Speaker 2 (45:13):
Oh, my work is a lot about getting the bodies, the
connection of the three bodies,to be able to start using this
tool for rapid transformation,because there's a certain level
of mastery to it and a honing ofyour own energy systems and
understanding some of these, howyou work and where you're going
to then go, take this tool andgo to work to get there.
(45:34):
I have a website I'm sureyou'll put it in the show notes.
You can sign up for aconsultation.
I do one-on-one coaching,mostly at this point and
speaking, and I'm workingtowards my first three bodies
retreat, which will be body work, training and spiritual
teachings, where we can be inperson and really have an
(45:55):
accelerated, full scopeexperience of the three bodies.
Do we know when?
Speaker 1 (45:59):
that's going to be yet.
We're looking at the end ofOctober and November.
It'll be in New Mexico thisfirst one, new Mexico.
Speaker 2 (46:02):
Oh, that's going to be yet, or are we?
We're looking at the end ofoctober and november?
In it'll be in new mexico, thisfirst one mexico oh, that's
fantastic.
Speaker 1 (46:09):
Oh, I love this so much.
This was such a wonderfulconversation.
Faye, thank you so much forcoming on.
It was such a gift, the thingthat you took us through.
What do we call that?
Speaker 2 (46:18):
alignment, grounding, grounding oh, it was so good
leaning into the subtle bodies.
Speaker 1 (46:25):
So good.
Thank you so much, Faye.
I do hope that you'll come backand have another conversation
with us.
Speaker 2 (46:31):
Absolutely yeah.
Thank you so much for having mehere.
Speaker 1 (46:35):
It's been a pleasure.
The pleasure's all mine.
Thanks so much for listening tothe Confident Shortcut.
I hope today's episode wokesomething up in you, reminding
you that your dream matters andyou can start now.
If this sparked something,share it with a friend who needs
it too.
And don't forget to follow meon Instagram at Nikki Sterner
and join our Facebook communityat the Confidence Shortcut.
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Check out my free guide, theConfidence Kickstart, linked in
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Keep showing up, keep takingaction, and remember the
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