Is it Over? Where to from Here?

In one of my most Highly requested episodes - We cover all the things you REALLY need to know, when it feels like it's over.

There's a tonne of information out there about what to do with the house, the finances, the car, the schools... but what about the Nervous System?

What about how to trust your own intuition again?

What about if when your heart and mind are tearing you in different directions?

How do you come home to SELF, and have the ability to make grounded (not reactive) and supportive decisions from here on out.

Now. It may seem unusual as primarily a marriage coach to discuss what to do in the event of a separation. But as we say at the start of every episode - the purpose of this work is not simply to keep you glued to another person irrelevant of whether that’s the right decision or not. The purpose of this work is to rewire your old and new patterns for safe and successful connection, even after years of chaos and even of only one person is doing the work. 

We're going to Cover here:

1) What the term "Splitting" is in relation to the Nervous System, and how to avoid it

2) The 3 steps here that are going to help you to differentiate between Survival vs Grounded decision making behaviours

3) The 2 Tools that you’re going to use moving forward, so that no matter what happens from here, you can begin again in a new way, that let’s you Reconnect in deeply with yourself FIRST, and Repair those old Ruptures in the Relationship with Self that allowed toxic relationship patterns to flourish and be tolerated either in your own or the other persons patterns at all.