"The Ick", Resentment & Romance: What Modern Marriages Get Wrong

Ever felt ... "The Ick"? Maybe it's been small, maybe you felt like you've been repelled by your partner for no clear reason (and even sometimes, for very obvious ones)? You love them. You’re committed. But the ick is real. In this raw and eye-opening episode, Lauren Dry breaks down what the “ick” really is—and why it’s not shallow, random, or a sign your marriage is broken. Spoiler: it has everything to do with your Nervous System.

We’re diving deep into:

• Why the “ick” often hits women harder in long-term relationships
• The biology of safety, and how it drives attraction more than we realize
• What resentment and emotional load do to your sense of desire
• Why your Nervous System might be confusing “safe” with “boring”
• And why so many of us chase chaos or emotionally unavailable partners—even when we know better

Whether you’ve ever felt shut down, disconnected, or even confused about your own intimacy triggers, this episode will help you understand what’s actually going on under the surface—and how to start resetting your connection at the root.

This is the one to send to your partner. Or maybe even listen to with them.

Inside the episode, we explore:

• What your body is actually asking before intimacy
• The role of unconscious patterns and familiar dysfunction
• Why emotional safety is the true foundation of physical desire
• How to begin shifting out of resentment, even when life feels overwhelming

Resources Mentioned:

• Learn more about RISE Into Regulation™ – the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage
• Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

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