In this thought-provoking debut episode, Alyssa Dineen welcomes professor, dating methodologist, and founder of the Burned Haystack Dating Method, Dr. Jennie Young. What began as a personal quest to fix her own dating app experience quickly turned into a viral movement empowering thousands of women and non-binary people to reclaim their time, agency, and standards in dating.
Jennie shares how her background in rhetoric and discourse shaped the creation of her method, why clarity and directness are game-changers in dating profiles, and what most success stories have in common. Alyssa and Jennie also unpack the current state of online dating - from gender divides to toxic patterns - and explore how choosing based on character over chemistry is transforming what makes someone truly dateable.
This episode offers a powerful mindset shift and real-world tools for anyone navigating the chaos of modern dating.
You’ll also hear about:
- (01:55) How Dr. Jennie Young used rhetorical analysis to decode dating apps
- (06:00) Why women are opting out of online dating—and what that means
- (10:40) Sexualization in dating apps and the rise of objectification
- (15:50) The five profile traits that lead to real matches
- (22:00) How to set boundaries that filter, not alienate matches
- (26:40) The culture shift toward choosing emotionally available “nice guys”
- (31:00) Why chemistry is not the best dating metric, and what to use instead
- (34:20) Dating profile red flags like height filters, vague clichés, and anger
- (38:40) Alyssa’s take on what truly matters when building connection
This episode is for anyone who’s tired of swiping and ready to date with intention, intelligence, and real hope.
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