February 4, 2025 • 31 mins
What if your family's unique set of values could redefine the way you interact with the world? On today's Journey Out podcast, we invite you to reflect on the deeply personal and often passed-down values that shape not only your family life but also your individual actions. Through heartfelt stories and significant family events, we illustrate the profound impact of putting family first and the sacrifices it often demands. Join us as we explore the distinction between personal values and societal morals, and discover how faith and familial love become the bedrock of our lives, thanks to the teachings of generations.
Our conversation doesn't just stop at reflection; it's a call to action. Picture this: your family, united by a mission statement crafted for 2025, guiding every decision and goal with shared values at the core. Whether it's embracing the entrepreneurial spirit of the younger generation or simply prioritizing love and support, we highlight the power of family meetings and the importance of living by your chosen values. As we enter a new year, we hope to inspire and challenge you to revolutionize your family dynamics, crafting stronger bonds that will guide you through life's ever-evolving journey.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
When was the last time you thought about what your
family stands for?
That is what we will be talkingabout today on the Journey Out
podcast.
We are so excited to have youall back and I know y'all can
see we are new and improvedtoday, so we're excited to have
y'all.
Let's jump in.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
What is home?
Speaker 1 (00:17):
care.
How do I navigate health care?
Speaker 2 (00:19):
What do I do when I feel down and depressed?
Speaker 1 (00:21):
I'm stressed Am I enough?
What can I do?
Speaker 2 (00:24):
when I feel down and depressed.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
I'm stressed.
Am I enough?
What can I do?
What is this going to cost?
Happy New Year, family.
We are so excited to be heretoday.
Yes, yes, yes, as you can see,we are in a new spot, new digs.
You know, new year, new spot,right.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
So you know we're New .
New Year's resolutions.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Yeah, yeah, so it's a blessing.
Years resolutions yeah, yeah, soit's, it's a blessing, it is,
it's a blessing, you know, andso we're just chilling you look,
you look nice today you know,you know we're always twinning,
yeah, uh, but I know one of thebig things I said in the intro
was when was the last time youthought about what your family
stands for?
And so today we want to talkabout family values, what they
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are and why they matter.
And so I'm going to pose thatquestion to you when was the
last time you thought about whatour family stands for?
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Really daily when you wake up in the morning.
Well, when I wake up in themorning, right, I'm a child of
God.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
I'm a husband.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
I'm a father.
I'm a father, I'm a grandparentand I'm also a business owner.
Right as I leave the house, Ihave to be the best
representation of my familyright, yeah so my values play a
key part in doing so right rightuh, my foundation of my values
and what I do and why I do whatI do, is, first of all, god.
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Second is that commandment lovethy neighbor as thyself.
Right, treat people how youwant to be treated.
So as I go by my day, every day, I try to say, okay, hey, am I
representing god in the rightway?
Speaker 1 (02:00):
right right?
Speaker 2 (02:01):
uh, am I representing my family in the right way?
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Right.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
And am I representing my business in the right way?
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Right.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
And all those uh come from the value of treating
people how you want to betreated.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
Right, right, I think it's.
It's daily for me too, likewhen I think about it.
I think about it daily becauseyou know, that's just our walk.
I think really what solidifiedit for me, like what our family
stood for.
We had like a little situationlast year um around july time,
and we ended up getting well,not us, but one of our, my
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grandmother ended up gettingcustody of, uh, my cousin yes
and she brand spanking new baby.
Uh.
And not only did she getcustody of the baby, but she had
to find a new home.
She moved in with us right uh.
But not only did she move inwith us, the baby moved in with
us, and the great-grand, ourgreat-grandmother, moved in with
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us she moved back in back,moved back in with us, and so
now we're a family of seven inthe house and we're like we have
to move, we gotta go, and Ithink for me that whole, that
whole little situation reallyhelped me understand how we do
put family first, like one ofour values is family first, love
, like when we say love, we'renot, we're not playing right, we
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switched up our whole life forfamily for family, family first.
So we I mean our whole lifechanged in a matter of like,
literally a month, from movingto like everybody just jumping
in the house together and wejust making, making best do with
best, dude, you know.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
And it's beautiful right right it's kind of like
you wouldn't have no other way,right?
My family needs me, so guesswhat?
I'm going to be there with myfamily.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Yeah, and.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
I'm thankful that we're in a position to love on
our family members Exactly Rightand be there for our family
members and make changes.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Yes, you know, to accommodate, you know everybody.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
So that's great.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Yeah, and so that was a value that we just sat down
and talked about, kind of likewhat we'll kind of talk about
later on, but we never reallysat down and just talked about
that.
right, it's just something thatwe knew, right that had to be
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done that had to be done and weall were just on one accord like
, listen, this is family, wegotta, we have to step.
So I think, just overall, Iwant to paint a picture of what
values are, because values andmorals are kind of similar,
right.
Yes, people kind of think ofthem the same, but values are
things that are usually heldtraditionally within a family.
Of course there's high moralstandards and disciplines that
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come with that, but I do know,like, as far as morally moral,
more moral situations are thingsthat society kind of deems as
norm and dictates right kind ofdictates as normal so values or
individuals, uh personal beliefsand principles, with morals or
societal norms that dictatewhat's right and what's wrong
right, okay, so, okay.
(05:04):
So values are just moreindependent and values typically
can change over time, and so,with that, how did and I know
one thing is, that's big for usfaith and we talked about family
, so how did faith and familyfirst come to be something that
we cared about?
Speaker 2 (05:22):
Well, it goes from, I guess as you grow up, right.
Yeah, it goes from what yourparents believe in, what your
grandparents believe in, whattheir parents believed in right.
So my family was big on God, onJesus Christ right being the
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Savior, and so that's how I wasraised.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
Right.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
On the church Right.
Grandmother singing in thechoir.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Right.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
My mother directing the choir, you know what I'm
saying my dad was a church,right, so that was, we was born
in the church.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Right, those, those values, right.
So people have.
I thought it's right aftertraditions right, yeah so, such
as traditions right, you docertain things on Christmas yeah
, right, it's a the whiteelephant gift or something like
that so as, as growing up, myparents instilled, instilled in
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me a faith-based connection withGod, right, and Jesus Christ.
So, as I went through, certainthings you pick up, I picked up
from my family.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Yeah, experiences, and then life experience
happened.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
Through those life experiences, it was more of hey,
how I'm going to maneuver inthis situation, right, what was
the result in this situation?
How did it affect me and howdid it affect my family?
Speaker 1 (06:51):
I can get down with that because, to be honest,
people have different ways thatthey view things.
People have different ways thatthey deal with things.
When you're talking about value, let's just go back to like the
family first value that I wastalking about for us so an off
rip.
You know I'm a empathetic andsweet person you are but also
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there's.
There's that side where I'm like, okay, if this doesn't affect
me, I'm not, I'm not moving,right, right.
So, like it doesn't got nothingto do with me, I'm, I'm over
here, this is over there, right,but and and with the situation
where we we took in mygrandmother again, that wasn't
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something that had anything todo with me, right, but as a
whole, we like, no, this affectsme, right, taking care of her,
putting her in a position tothrive, not letting her go to
state, all these differentthings.
That affects me because this ismy loved one, right, and so
that's something that wasactually learned, because I
didn't, I wasn't, I'm not thereagain.
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If it don't gonna undo me, I'mnot stepping, but it's something
that's learned, because I'veseen that from you, I've seen
that from mom, I've seen thatfrom my grandmas, I've seen that
, right, and so that's now avalue that I hold too, like it
might not have nothing to dowith me, but it affects this
person, affects my family.
So now I need to step in, right,and so with that, I think it's
just the, it's the same way,like, yeah, we, we know about
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God, we love God, because that'sbeen passed down, but you.
But I know God and I love God,also because of what he's done
for me in my situations and inmy life, right Like it's my
experience with him, because ifhe's never done anything, if
I've never seen him move, Idon't know.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
And that's where we're going to talk about those
life experiences, right?
So, even though you have familyvalues, life be life.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
And it changes, it evolves, it brings new values
and thoughts to your mind.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
So, with the family experience right, with the
family value right, you learnthat as a young child you grow
up with it, but you really don'thave no life experience.
So then, when life start lifing, where are those family values?
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Do you hold?
Speaker 2 (09:13):
on to them.
Do they shape you?
Do they do.
They do, they help you throughthat decision that you need to
make.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
So that's so and that's that's part of why they
matter, and so you know we weregoing to get into that.
But also I wanted to kind ofgive like a real life, because
we're talking about like ourexperience and of course I mean
we're we're talking to it withyou all about it right now, but
otherwise you wouldn't knowunless you kind of see it.
So I want to kind of give likea real life example, and my real
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life example is going to belike David and Barbara Green.
So most people probably don'tknow that name, david and
Barbara Green, but they are theowners of Hobby Lobby.
Hobby Lobby is a faith basedChristian home decor and
everything you need, really kindof company.
It is a Christian organizationand because they are a Christian
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organization, to date they havegiven over five 500 million
dollars to evangelicalministries.
Okay, right.
So, mr david, he has a book.
I've listened to his book on uhon audio a million times.
It's just a bunch of motivation, uh, just really as a business
owner.
But well, mr, mr david, Ibelieve, if not him, but he was
a pastor of his dad or somebody.
Somebody kind of was a pastorand it kind of just led their
family into believing in God,believing in Christ and becoming
(10:30):
Christians.
And so he.
He did that for his family, andthen he had kids, and his kids,
of course, are Christians.
But then they built thisBillion dollar company, hobby
Lobby, based off of Christianvalues.
Right, they instituted no workon Sundays, all of these
different things.
Okay.
So now we're talking about hisson, mark Green.
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Mark then opens up Mardell, andMardell is a Christian
education company that sellsjournals and spirals and Bibles
and all the different things.
And so the value that they heldclose was religion, and you see
it in their everyday walk, yousee it in their companies, you
see it in how they branched out,you see it in their kids.
Like again, the kids didn'thave to start that, right, uh,
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but it's a value that they heldclose.
And so the son opened up hisown christian company and it
just it's just one of those reallife things like of how values
really take shape, whether youknow it or not.
It's just one of those reallife things like of how values
really take shape, whether youknow it or not.
It's important to kind offigure out what your family
stands for, so that way you guysare creating a legacy that
outlives you just like David andBarbara.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Well, that's great, great example.
I'm going to talk more on thehome front with me.
I look personal, but I didn'tknow really what I stood for as
a man.
I dealt with maybe a little, Isay, depression, uh uh, not
knowing where did I want to goin life and what I wanted to
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provide for my family, but Ididn't know how.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Right.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
You know.
So this goes back to experienceright.
And values being tested, so Iknow I believe in God.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
And I knew that, hey, it's something for me out there
.
But I was going through a pointto where it was just like I'm
angry, I'm frustrated.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
What do I need to do?
You know, fast forward.
I had an experience, to whereit was my aha moment, and that
experience was I was down to mylowest.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
To where I was up nights at a time, weeks at a
time, while everybody was asleeptrying to figure out what I
needed to do.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
To better myself and my family.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:56):
God came through Because as he does.
I didn't know what my passionwas.
Yeah, until he revealed to mewhat my passion was.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
And it was loving people.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
It was taking care of people, yeah, being there for
people, treating people.
However, I want to be treatedRight, and also with my
grandmother Right when she movedin with us.
That intensified my passion.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
Right.
So going back to values, whatyou stand for in life
experiences, my faith in God.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
As a young child, I knew about God.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
Right.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
But I had to experience him for myself.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
Right right, right right and that story about
hybrid lobby.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
So now here we are right.
Uh, we own pc home health.
Yeah, we own karen covenant,the residential home uh we got a
non-profit, the community ofneighbors right and we have
beautiful partnerships in thecommunity we serve people in our
community.
And then look, I have my 27year old daughter right here
alongside.
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She could be doing anythingelse she want to do, right right
, but she's here serving others.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
Right, because it, because, ok, so what you're,
what you're talking about, isone of the first reasons of why
values matter.
It shapes family identity, likethat's.
That's what you're talkingabout.
So, again, me being me, I'mlike this ain ain't gonna do me,
I'm over here in my box, butbecause I have seen and
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experienced how you lovingothers and how, because I've
experienced that I now, it nowshapes who I am and because it
shapes who I am now we're in aspace where our family can pour
into other people.
But it shapes who we are and Ithink anybody who meets us they
know, they know how we get down,because we, we move, as you
know, as one, uh, but it createsa sense of unity and purpose,
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kind of, kind of along with whatyou were saying, uh, we
prioritize going the extra mile,going above and beyond.
We prioritize loving people.
We prioritize family, and it'snot family just with us blood,
because if anybody, I promisey'all, if y'all have met us I
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don't know where this is goingto go on YouTube, wherever this
is going, put it in the chat.
If you have met us, how manytimes have we have said you
family, you family now, and wetreat you just as such.
Like you, if you have met us,how many times have we have said
?
Speaker 2 (15:25):
you family, you family now.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
And we treat you just as such, like you really become
family for us.
So it's not it's not no, Idon't know, it's not one-sided
Like we prioritize family andonce you family, you family and
we're going to love you, we'regoing to take care of you, we're
going to try our very best touplift and honor you in a way
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that and be there for you.
Yeah, that really shows that wecare about you, right?
Uh, and so I think that's the.
That's the very number onereason as to why values matter
is because it shapes familyidentity and we know who we are
because of what we hold to betrue for ourselves.
Yes, and so I think that'ssuper important.
The other thing I feel like itdoes and why it matters is it
improves family dynamics, and Ifeel like we can speak to this
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like a hundred percent more,because father, the daughter I
don't know.
I don't know many people.
I don't know many people whocould literally like work with
their parents on a day-to-daybasis.
I literally work with you 365days out of a year, sunday
through Saturday, 6 am, whatever, like literally, we're, we're
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together, we're working.
I think it just builds mutualrespect.
That's, first and foremost,like outside of outside of you
being my father, outside of youbeing the boss of these
companies and me working underyou like it builds mutual
respect, uh, cooperation, and itkind of.
And it builds the love too,because I know you.
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I know you deeper because ofthe values that you hold.
You get what I'm saying and soit's like a different type of
love and appreciation, because Iknow who you are as a person.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
You get what I'm saying yes, yeah, okay, okay,
all right, so you're gonna gothat way yeah, you know I'm
gonna get emotional on this newepisode.
Well, uh, I don't know, uh,really how to answer that, but I
love you oh love you too, yes,when you came aboard and helping
me, which I needed, thank God.
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I needed your brain, I neededyour wisdom, I needed your heart
, but you, coming aboard andhelping me, right, it was times
when you was like, hey, let's go, let's do this.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
Let's do this.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
And I was like, hey, hold on, do this, yeah, yeah
yeah, yeah, and I was like, hey,hold on, just hold down, and
she will get upset about.
No, dad, we need to do this weneed to do this, and I'm like
listen, I just need you to dothis, just calm down yeah, yeah
but as you start working, as westart growing yeah I will see
moments in your eyes when you'llcome and talk to me and you'll
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say oh, dad, I can't believethis, this, this happened, and
so I was like yeah okay, shethere.
I remember when I was at thatplace.
So, seeing you grow and seeingyou evolve as a young, mature
woman, right Uh, as a businessowner and as a beautiful young
lady and both of my girls areAnaya, she helps with the
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business.
The same way, uh, matter offact, she's trying to do her own
thing and on her own business,uh, my wife, she helps out in
the business.
Uh, man, it's beautiful, right,it's beautiful.
It's a beautiful family dynamic.
Speaker 1 (18:42):
Now do it get rough yeah, you know, there's not,
there's nothing perfect, youknow, but even to that extent,
you know what I'm saying, andnot that I forgot, like you know
, but literally talking aboutshaping the family identity,
talking about family dynamics,the values that you hold close,
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yeah, from first, from God, fromeverything, even us being self
starters, because I feel likethat's a big one for us.
My brother owns his own company, aniyah is in school to own her
own company.
We have three that we'recurrently working on right now,
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and it's all stemming from thatvalue of being self-starters.
You know, okay, go out there,get it, make a difference and
even, and even to this day, likemy brother and my dad, get in
trouble because when we talkabout givers, they're givers.
Another value my brother, my,my brother love you bud we love
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you, he has.
So my brother, he does like work, um, like drop berries, like
all those type of things.
So he, he does that for likeat&t, all these companies, and
he's like in different states,and so that means he has a lot
of employees.
He has a lot of employees andwhen I tell you he will give his
last dime, the man will gobroke.
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Giving, uh, giving to hisemployees, giving to whoever
needs it, and that's literallybecause of what he's seen.
I remember, and I remember this, I know you probably do too.
He said he was in kansas, hewas going to school, he met met
his wife there.
He came back to, they movedback to Dallas, and one thing he
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said he says you know, Istarted my company because you
did it.
Yeah, yeah, that was what hesaid.
Speaker 2 (20:42):
Right and you don't know.
You don't know.
Speaker 1 (20:45):
And you don't know.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
You don't know Values play a part in a family's life
and you don't know that it'splaying a part.
Right, right so kids pick up onthings and parents aren't
perfect, but kids hold on towhat their parents say.
Yeah, so people have rolemodels, of course, right, but
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the biggest role models, perfector imperfect, is the parents.
It's the people in those housethat are grooming those kids and
listen, I didn't know, you knowit's no, uh, no, how to book on
raising kids, right.
We do it to the best of ourabilities.
But, um, I am blessed to be inthe position that I am now and
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have my daughter right hereworking day to day with me have
my son on his own business, uh,and have my younger daughter
working for working, to own herown, to do hers so, thank god, I
got something right and I stillshe's telling me something that
I I didn't know, as far as howshe looked at it, as far as
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value, so yeah, so, honestly, wedidn't know we was gonna have
this conversation yeah, but thisis this is perfect, it's going
to work along with it.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
And I think also another reason that values
matter, because you talked aboutit too like decision making and
overcoming challenges, likevalues really act as I don't
even know, like maybe a compass,yes, during times of hardship,
or like those hard times.
So like if you hold somethingto be true to yourself, when
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those times come up, you'regoing to lean on those values.
You're going to lean in withthat, Because if I'm saying I'm
a Christian and that's one valuethat I hold true to myself, if
you're a Christian, you're goingto act like a Christian even
when times are hard if you're aChristian, you're gonna act like
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a Christian, even when timesare hard, so so so, being a
Christian when the wind blowsand the storm come or you're
gonna be like a tree and standten toes, with your roots deep
and dug into the ground, havingfaith in your Lord and Savior,
jesus Christ, that he willprovide right even when it don't
look like it right?
Speaker 2 (23:05):
or will you be like the truth, the tree that's not
firmly planted in the ground,and be like those leaves blowing
in the wind, going whicheverdirection that the wind blows?
Speaker 1 (23:15):
right, that's great.
Yeah, and so that's that if itjust shapes your decision maker.
So, even when it comes tobusiness, all of our decisions,
when we're literally everydecision that we're making in
our businesses is are we helpingpeople, are we loving people,
are we serving people, people,and are we doing it with the
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truest heart, with the purestheart?
And that's always somethingthat we think about.
So any decision that we make isis built off those values,
because you can have, you canhave a business right you can
have.
You can believe I gotta get richquick.
I gotta do what I gotta do.
I gotta step on toes, I gotta.
If I gotta get to where I gottago, I gotta do what I gotta do.
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You can think that and that'show you're gonna solve your
problems.
And it's not, and it's notgonna work.
Yeah, it won't.
It will not work that way.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
So it's really what you hold dear to yourself how
you're going to move.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
And then, lastly, why it matters is legacy for future
generations.
We talked about that prettymuch already.
Just looking at, like I said,hobby Lobby us and our family,
but it's just a lasting impactthat it has on children, and I
think about my niece.
I think about my niece, I thinkabout my nephew and I even
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think about my cousin that wejust got custody of she.
Well, they I'm going to saythey, because we got a little
boy in there they are aroundentrepreneurs that love and do
it right.
You know what I'm saying, andthat's not no brag or nothing.
That's like a humble, like godis doing his thing, like we're
trying to do it right each andevery way, and so just think
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about what they're going to growup listening to or hearing, or
seeing or seeing, or andexperiencing, which would then
shape how they think and thevalues that they will hold close
to themselves also shapegenerations to come
exactly, exactly, so they keeptheir kids right, um, and on, so
on and so on.
So, uh, I think that's justkind of tells you a little bit
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of why values are superimportant and what we want you
guys to do like from thisepisode moving forward is really
identify and cultivate familyvalues for you and your family.
Uh, the first way y'all can dothat is self-reflection and
assessment, so really going inthere and saying, hey, what
matters to me, what matters toyou?
Get your mom, get your brother,get everybody who's like a part
(25:40):
of this family dynamic, geteverybody what matters to y'all.
Um, and then assess, okay, whatcan we do?
What principles guide ourfamily's decisions?
What principles guide how wemove on a day-to-day basis?
The next thing is crafting afamily mission statement.
Now, that's something we needto do for 2025, now that we're
here.
Yes, we need to craft a familymission statement.
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So each family member needs tolist their top three values, uh,
discuss and prioritize as agroup, like which values really
hold close for everybody, whatis something that's common that
you see as a thread throughoutthe family, and then draft a
nice mission statement of whatyour family would stand for,
what maybe it's.
Speaker 2 (26:19):
Our family believes in god and we will forgive, love
and treat these servantswhatever it is, but just lay it
out and and what that, what thatdoes when you were doing those
mission statements, right, thatthat kind of helps you plan for
your year right that kind ofhelps you plan to see hey, where
are we going in with our family?
(26:39):
uh, with this household or withthe family as a whole?
How do we want to move?
So I think another good thingto do with that is also make
sure we have meetings familymeetings right to talk about
financial literacy, healthliteracy and those values and
how to move forward right so Ithink that's a great thing yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
and then once y'all do that, you can't just leave it
there like you can't leave itthere.
You have to live it out.
You gotta, you, gotta walk it.
You, you, you and you got towalk it.
So y'all need to model thesebehaviors in your families.
If it's being, if it'sforgiveness, say, for instance,
one of the big values for yourfamily that y'all want to have
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is forgiveness.
If there's a disagreement thatcome up, you have to be the
first one to say hey, I forgiveyou, I love you, I appreciate
you, I'm sorry, I didn't mean it, for whatever that is Right,
whatever that is Right, uh, and,and doing it together.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
You know family, you know we we get on each other
nerves, just to be honest, causewe around each other more than
anybody else, right, right, butit seems like we find it hard to
forgive or hard to partner, orhard to let go of stuff.
Right, right, sit down and talkabout it Right.
Start 2025.
Matter of fact, started offright now.
(27:55):
Start 2025 off, right.
Speaker 1 (27:57):
Right.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
Again.
Mission statement for thefamily goals for the family
Right.
Talk about financial stuffRight.
Where do you want to be Setthose short-term goals to have
long-term goals?
Talk about health literacyright Like we talked about in
another podcast.
Talk about your values rightand how those will get you to
get to the point of 2026.
Hey, we're in a different spotthan where we are now when we
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were in 2025.
And that's the thing, and thenthat's the, and I'm going to say
this Everybody have their ownbeliefs, but put god first.
Yeah, put god first above allthat and all things that happen
and you'll see the difference.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
But what you're talking about is a family
evolving together and that's thething.
So also, but we've said it abunch of times but just know,
values do not stay the samebecause experiences and things
change.
And then again he saideverybody has different beliefs.
Right, you might say, hey, Imight want to start believing in
god.
Your life looks completelydifferent, your values change,
(28:55):
everything looks different,right, so nothing stays the same
.
Uh, but just know that as afamily, you guys will evolve and
with you guys evolving, it'snot going to look the same, it's
not going to feel the same, buteverybody's not going to feel
the same.
But everybody has to be on thatpositive, just project
projectory, like everybody gotto go, got to go the same way in
order for our family to be one,one a quarter, one a quarter,
(29:17):
um.
So I just hope that what wediscussed today was just
valuable.
Um, I hope you guys tounderstand the importance of
values, but also how just topinpoint little values that kind
of just are reoccurring themesin you all's lives and in your
family's lives.
Um, just take some time to sitdown with your family and
(29:37):
discuss what you all stand forjust yeah, love on them and
figure out what you stand for,uh, and then kind of just
revolutionize your life fromjust sitting down and talking
about what you hold true to beto yourself, right, right, for
your family.
I mean, family values don'tjust define us, they connect us,
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they inspire us and they guideus through life, and so you
wouldn't want to do that withanybody else but your family,
yes, and so you wouldn't want todo that with anybody else but
your family.
So being able to just kind ofcultivate that together, bring
that whole, bring your wholefamily together, and kind of
figure out what those values are, is just super important.
So I hope that helps.
That helps you and your family.
This 2025 year is the new yearand things are going to look
(30:23):
different.
You're going to grow, we'regoing to grow and I'm excited
for all that we have to givey'all this year.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
It's a lot.
Speaker 1 (30:31):
It's quite a bit it's quite a bit, but we're excited
and so we just hope that thishas encouraged y'all, we hope
that it's blessed y'all, uh, andin any last words you want to
say pop I just hope this youknow we was a resource to you
and your family.
Speaker 2 (30:47):
So now, since you got this knowledge, take it to your
family to be that resource andthen take it to your community.
Yeah, all right.
Speaker 1 (30:55):
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We got it on Instagram like,comment, subscribe, send it out
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You know it's that's what'ssuper important.
Uh, you always can support theshow.
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But we love you guys.
Y'all have a blessed one andwe'll see y'all next time 2025
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we out.
When was the last time you thought about what your
family stands for?
That is what we will be talkingabout today on the Journey Out
podcast.
We are so excited to have youall back and I know y'all can
see we are new and improvedtoday, so we're excited to have
y'all.
Let's jump in.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
What is home?
Speaker 1 (00:17):
care.
How do I navigate health care?
Speaker 2 (00:19):
What do I do when I feel down and depressed?
Speaker 1 (00:21):
I'm stressed Am I enough?
What can I do?
Speaker 2 (00:24):
when I feel down and depressed.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
I'm stressed.
Am I enough?
What can I do?
What is this going to cost?
Happy New Year, family.
We are so excited to be heretoday.
Yes, yes, yes, as you can see,we are in a new spot, new digs.
You know, new year, new spot,right.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
So you know we're New .
New Year's resolutions.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Yeah, yeah, so it's a blessing.
Years resolutions yeah, yeah, soit's, it's a blessing, it is,
it's a blessing, you know, andso we're just chilling you look,
you look nice today you know,you know we're always twinning,
yeah, uh, but I know one of thebig things I said in the intro
was when was the last time youthought about what your family
stands for?
And so today we want to talkabout family values, what they
(01:02):
are and why they matter.
And so I'm going to pose thatquestion to you when was the
last time you thought about whatour family stands for?
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Really daily when you wake up in the morning.
Well, when I wake up in themorning, right, I'm a child of
God.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
I'm a husband.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
I'm a father.
I'm a father, I'm a grandparentand I'm also a business owner.
Right as I leave the house, Ihave to be the best
representation of my familyright, yeah so my values play a
key part in doing so right rightuh, my foundation of my values
and what I do and why I do whatI do, is, first of all, god.
(01:47):
Second is that commandment lovethy neighbor as thyself.
Right, treat people how youwant to be treated.
So as I go by my day, every day, I try to say, okay, hey, am I
representing god in the rightway?
Speaker 1 (02:00):
right right?
Speaker 2 (02:01):
uh, am I representing my family in the right way?
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Right.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
And am I representing my business in the right way?
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Right.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
And all those uh come from the value of treating
people how you want to betreated.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
Right, right, I think it's.
It's daily for me too, likewhen I think about it.
I think about it daily becauseyou know, that's just our walk.
I think really what solidifiedit for me, like what our family
stood for.
We had like a little situationlast year um around july time,
and we ended up getting well,not us, but one of our, my
(02:38):
grandmother ended up gettingcustody of, uh, my cousin yes
and she brand spanking new baby.
Uh.
And not only did she getcustody of the baby, but she had
to find a new home.
She moved in with us right uh.
But not only did she move inwith us, the baby moved in with
us, and the great-grand, ourgreat-grandmother, moved in with
(02:59):
us she moved back in back,moved back in with us, and so
now we're a family of seven inthe house and we're like we have
to move, we gotta go, and Ithink for me that whole, that
whole little situation reallyhelped me understand how we do
put family first, like one ofour values is family first, love
, like when we say love, we'renot, we're not playing right, we
(03:21):
switched up our whole life forfamily for family, family first.
So we I mean our whole lifechanged in a matter of like,
literally a month, from movingto like everybody just jumping
in the house together and wejust making, making best do with
best, dude, you know.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
And it's beautiful right right it's kind of like
you wouldn't have no other way,right?
My family needs me, so guesswhat?
I'm going to be there with myfamily.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Yeah, and.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
I'm thankful that we're in a position to love on
our family members Exactly Rightand be there for our family
members and make changes.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Yes, you know, to accommodate, you know everybody.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
So that's great.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Yeah, and so that was a value that we just sat down
and talked about, kind of likewhat we'll kind of talk about
later on, but we never reallysat down and just talked about
that.
right, it's just something thatwe knew, right that had to be
(04:22):
done that had to be done and weall were just on one accord like
, listen, this is family, wegotta, we have to step.
So I think, just overall, Iwant to paint a picture of what
values are, because values andmorals are kind of similar,
right.
Yes, people kind of think ofthem the same, but values are
things that are usually heldtraditionally within a family.
Of course there's high moralstandards and disciplines that
(04:44):
come with that, but I do know,like, as far as morally moral,
more moral situations are thingsthat society kind of deems as
norm and dictates right kind ofdictates as normal so values or
individuals, uh personal beliefsand principles, with morals or
societal norms that dictatewhat's right and what's wrong
right, okay, so, okay.
(05:04):
So values are just moreindependent and values typically
can change over time, and so,with that, how did and I know
one thing is, that's big for usfaith and we talked about family
, so how did faith and familyfirst come to be something that
we cared about?
Speaker 2 (05:22):
Well, it goes from, I guess as you grow up, right.
Yeah, it goes from what yourparents believe in, what your
grandparents believe in, whattheir parents believed in right.
So my family was big on God, onJesus Christ right being the
(05:42):
Savior, and so that's how I wasraised.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
Right.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
On the church Right.
Grandmother singing in thechoir.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Right.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
My mother directing the choir, you know what I'm
saying my dad was a church,right, so that was, we was born
in the church.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Right, those, those values, right.
So people have.
I thought it's right aftertraditions right, yeah so, such
as traditions right, you docertain things on Christmas yeah
, right, it's a the whiteelephant gift or something like
that so as, as growing up, myparents instilled, instilled in
(06:20):
me a faith-based connection withGod, right, and Jesus Christ.
So, as I went through, certainthings you pick up, I picked up
from my family.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Yeah, experiences, and then life experience
happened.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
Through those life experiences, it was more of hey,
how I'm going to maneuver inthis situation, right, what was
the result in this situation?
How did it affect me and howdid it affect my family?
Speaker 1 (06:51):
I can get down with that because, to be honest,
people have different ways thatthey view things.
People have different ways thatthey deal with things.
When you're talking about value, let's just go back to like the
family first value that I wastalking about for us so an off
rip.
You know I'm a empathetic andsweet person you are but also
(07:15):
there's.
There's that side where I'm like, okay, if this doesn't affect
me, I'm not, I'm not moving,right, right.
So, like it doesn't got nothingto do with me, I'm, I'm over
here, this is over there, right,but and and with the situation
where we we took in mygrandmother again, that wasn't
(07:36):
something that had anything todo with me, right, but as a
whole, we like, no, this affectsme, right, taking care of her,
putting her in a position tothrive, not letting her go to
state, all these differentthings.
That affects me because this ismy loved one, right, and so
that's something that wasactually learned, because I
didn't, I wasn't, I'm not thereagain.
(07:57):
If it don't gonna undo me, I'mnot stepping, but it's something
that's learned, because I'veseen that from you, I've seen
that from mom, I've seen thatfrom my grandmas, I've seen that
, right, and so that's now avalue that I hold too, like it
might not have nothing to dowith me, but it affects this
person, affects my family.
So now I need to step in, right,and so with that, I think it's
just the, it's the same way,like, yeah, we, we know about
(08:20):
God, we love God, because that'sbeen passed down, but you.
But I know God and I love God,also because of what he's done
for me in my situations and inmy life, right Like it's my
experience with him, because ifhe's never done anything, if
I've never seen him move, Idon't know.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
And that's where we're going to talk about those
life experiences, right?
So, even though you have familyvalues, life be life.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
And it changes, it evolves, it brings new values
and thoughts to your mind.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
So, with the family experience right, with the
family value right, you learnthat as a young child you grow
up with it, but you really don'thave no life experience.
So then, when life start lifing, where are those family values?
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Do you hold?
Speaker 2 (09:13):
on to them.
Do they shape you?
Do they do.
They do, they help you throughthat decision that you need to
make.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
So that's so and that's that's part of why they
matter, and so you know we weregoing to get into that.
But also I wanted to kind ofgive like a real life, because
we're talking about like ourexperience and of course I mean
we're we're talking to it withyou all about it right now, but
otherwise you wouldn't knowunless you kind of see it.
So I want to kind of give likea real life example, and my real
(09:40):
life example is going to belike David and Barbara Green.
So most people probably don'tknow that name, david and
Barbara Green, but they are theowners of Hobby Lobby.
Hobby Lobby is a faith basedChristian home decor and
everything you need, really kindof company.
It is a Christian organizationand because they are a Christian
(10:09):
organization, to date they havegiven over five 500 million
dollars to evangelicalministries.
Okay, right.
So, mr david, he has a book.
I've listened to his book on uhon audio a million times.
It's just a bunch of motivation, uh, just really as a business
owner.
But well, mr, mr david, Ibelieve, if not him, but he was
a pastor of his dad or somebody.
Somebody kind of was a pastorand it kind of just led their
family into believing in God,believing in Christ and becoming
(10:30):
Christians.
And so he.
He did that for his family, andthen he had kids, and his kids,
of course, are Christians.
But then they built thisBillion dollar company, hobby
Lobby, based off of Christianvalues.
Right, they instituted no workon Sundays, all of these
different things.
Okay.
So now we're talking about hisson, mark Green.
(10:52):
Mark then opens up Mardell, andMardell is a Christian
education company that sellsjournals and spirals and Bibles
and all the different things.
And so the value that they heldclose was religion, and you see
it in their everyday walk, yousee it in their companies, you
see it in how they branched out,you see it in their kids.
Like again, the kids didn'thave to start that, right, uh,
(11:16):
but it's a value that they heldclose.
And so the son opened up hisown christian company and it
just it's just one of those reallife things like of how values
really take shape, whether youknow it or not.
It's just one of those reallife things like of how values
really take shape, whether youknow it or not.
It's important to kind offigure out what your family
stands for, so that way you guysare creating a legacy that
outlives you just like David andBarbara.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Well, that's great, great example.
I'm going to talk more on thehome front with me.
I look personal, but I didn'tknow really what I stood for as
a man.
I dealt with maybe a little, Isay, depression, uh uh, not
knowing where did I want to goin life and what I wanted to
(12:01):
provide for my family, but Ididn't know how.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Right.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
You know.
So this goes back to experienceright.
And values being tested, so Iknow I believe in God.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
And I knew that, hey, it's something for me out there
.
But I was going through a pointto where it was just like I'm
angry, I'm frustrated.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
What do I need to do?
You know, fast forward.
I had an experience, to whereit was my aha moment, and that
experience was I was down to mylowest.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
To where I was up nights at a time, weeks at a
time, while everybody was asleeptrying to figure out what I
needed to do.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
To better myself and my family.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:56):
God came through Because as he does.
I didn't know what my passionwas.
Yeah, until he revealed to mewhat my passion was.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
And it was loving people.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
It was taking care of people, yeah, being there for
people, treating people.
However, I want to be treatedRight, and also with my
grandmother Right when she movedin with us.
That intensified my passion.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
Right.
So going back to values, whatyou stand for in life
experiences, my faith in God.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
As a young child, I knew about God.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
Right.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
But I had to experience him for myself.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
Right right, right right and that story about
hybrid lobby.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
So now here we are right.
Uh, we own pc home health.
Yeah, we own karen covenant,the residential home uh we got a
non-profit, the community ofneighbors right and we have
beautiful partnerships in thecommunity we serve people in our
community.
And then look, I have my 27year old daughter right here
alongside.
(14:05):
She could be doing anythingelse she want to do, right right
, but she's here serving others.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
Right, because it, because, ok, so what you're,
what you're talking about, isone of the first reasons of why
values matter.
It shapes family identity, likethat's.
That's what you're talkingabout.
So, again, me being me, I'mlike this ain ain't gonna do me,
I'm over here in my box, butbecause I have seen and
(14:33):
experienced how you lovingothers and how, because I've
experienced that I now, it nowshapes who I am and because it
shapes who I am now we're in aspace where our family can pour
into other people.
But it shapes who we are and Ithink anybody who meets us they
know, they know how we get down,because we, we move, as you
know, as one, uh, but it createsa sense of unity and purpose,
(14:57):
kind of, kind of along with whatyou were saying, uh, we
prioritize going the extra mile,going above and beyond.
We prioritize loving people.
We prioritize family, and it'snot family just with us blood,
because if anybody, I promisey'all, if y'all have met us I
(15:17):
don't know where this is goingto go on YouTube, wherever this
is going, put it in the chat.
If you have met us, how manytimes have we have said you
family, you family now, and wetreat you just as such.
Like you, if you have met us,how many times have we have said
?
Speaker 2 (15:25):
you family, you family now.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
And we treat you just as such, like you really become
family for us.
So it's not it's not no, Idon't know, it's not one-sided
Like we prioritize family andonce you family, you family and
we're going to love you, we'regoing to take care of you, we're
going to try our very best touplift and honor you in a way
(15:47):
that and be there for you.
Yeah, that really shows that wecare about you, right?
Uh, and so I think that's the.
That's the very number onereason as to why values matter
is because it shapes familyidentity and we know who we are
because of what we hold to betrue for ourselves.
Yes, and so I think that'ssuper important.
The other thing I feel like itdoes and why it matters is it
improves family dynamics, and Ifeel like we can speak to this
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like a hundred percent more,because father, the daughter I
don't know.
I don't know many people.
I don't know many people whocould literally like work with
their parents on a day-to-daybasis.
I literally work with you 365days out of a year, sunday
through Saturday, 6 am, whatever, like literally, we're, we're
(16:34):
together, we're working.
I think it just builds mutualrespect.
That's, first and foremost,like outside of outside of you
being my father, outside of youbeing the boss of these
companies and me working underyou like it builds mutual
respect, uh, cooperation, and itkind of.
And it builds the love too,because I know you.
(16:56):
I know you deeper because ofthe values that you hold.
You get what I'm saying and soit's like a different type of
love and appreciation, because Iknow who you are as a person.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
You get what I'm saying yes, yeah, okay, okay,
all right, so you're gonna gothat way yeah, you know I'm
gonna get emotional on this newepisode.
Well, uh, I don't know, uh,really how to answer that, but I
love you oh love you too, yes,when you came aboard and helping
me, which I needed, thank God.
(17:30):
I needed your brain, I neededyour wisdom, I needed your heart
, but you, coming aboard andhelping me, right, it was times
when you was like, hey, let's go, let's do this.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
Let's do this.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
And I was like, hey, hold on, do this, yeah, yeah
yeah, yeah, and I was like, hey,hold on, just hold down, and
she will get upset about.
No, dad, we need to do this weneed to do this, and I'm like
listen, I just need you to dothis, just calm down yeah, yeah
but as you start working, as westart growing yeah I will see
moments in your eyes when you'llcome and talk to me and you'll
(18:05):
say oh, dad, I can't believethis, this, this happened, and
so I was like yeah okay, shethere.
I remember when I was at thatplace.
So, seeing you grow and seeingyou evolve as a young, mature
woman, right Uh, as a businessowner and as a beautiful young
lady and both of my girls areAnaya, she helps with the
(18:29):
business.
The same way, uh, matter offact, she's trying to do her own
thing and on her own business,uh, my wife, she helps out in
the business.
Uh, man, it's beautiful, right,it's beautiful.
It's a beautiful family dynamic.
Speaker 1 (18:42):
Now do it get rough yeah, you know, there's not,
there's nothing perfect, youknow, but even to that extent,
you know what I'm saying, andnot that I forgot, like you know
, but literally talking aboutshaping the family identity,
talking about family dynamics,the values that you hold close,
(19:04):
yeah, from first, from God, fromeverything, even us being self
starters, because I feel likethat's a big one for us.
My brother owns his own company, aniyah is in school to own her
own company.
We have three that we'recurrently working on right now,
(19:28):
and it's all stemming from thatvalue of being self-starters.
You know, okay, go out there,get it, make a difference and
even, and even to this day, likemy brother and my dad, get in
trouble because when we talkabout givers, they're givers.
Another value my brother, my,my brother love you bud we love
(19:50):
you, he has.
So my brother, he does like work, um, like drop berries, like
all those type of things.
So he, he does that for likeat&t, all these companies, and
he's like in different states,and so that means he has a lot
of employees.
He has a lot of employees andwhen I tell you he will give his
last dime, the man will gobroke.
(20:12):
Giving, uh, giving to hisemployees, giving to whoever
needs it, and that's literallybecause of what he's seen.
I remember, and I remember this, I know you probably do too.
He said he was in kansas, hewas going to school, he met met
his wife there.
He came back to, they movedback to Dallas, and one thing he
(20:32):
said he says you know, Istarted my company because you
did it.
Yeah, yeah, that was what hesaid.
Speaker 2 (20:42):
Right and you don't know.
You don't know.
Speaker 1 (20:45):
And you don't know.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
You don't know Values play a part in a family's life
and you don't know that it'splaying a part.
Right, right so kids pick up onthings and parents aren't
perfect, but kids hold on towhat their parents say.
Yeah, so people have rolemodels, of course, right, but
(21:12):
the biggest role models, perfector imperfect, is the parents.
It's the people in those housethat are grooming those kids and
listen, I didn't know, you knowit's no, uh, no, how to book on
raising kids, right.
We do it to the best of ourabilities.
But, um, I am blessed to be inthe position that I am now and
(21:39):
have my daughter right hereworking day to day with me have
my son on his own business, uh,and have my younger daughter
working for working, to own herown, to do hers so, thank god, I
got something right and I stillshe's telling me something that
I I didn't know, as far as howshe looked at it, as far as
(22:01):
value, so yeah, so, honestly, wedidn't know we was gonna have
this conversation yeah, but thisis this is perfect, it's going
to work along with it.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
And I think also another reason that values
matter, because you talked aboutit too like decision making and
overcoming challenges, likevalues really act as I don't
even know, like maybe a compass,yes, during times of hardship,
or like those hard times.
So like if you hold somethingto be true to yourself, when
(22:30):
those times come up, you'regoing to lean on those values.
You're going to lean in withthat, Because if I'm saying I'm
a Christian and that's one valuethat I hold true to myself, if
you're a Christian, you're goingto act like a Christian even
when times are hard if you're aChristian, you're gonna act like
(22:51):
a Christian, even when timesare hard, so so so, being a
Christian when the wind blowsand the storm come or you're
gonna be like a tree and standten toes, with your roots deep
and dug into the ground, havingfaith in your Lord and Savior,
jesus Christ, that he willprovide right even when it don't
look like it right?
Speaker 2 (23:05):
or will you be like the truth, the tree that's not
firmly planted in the ground,and be like those leaves blowing
in the wind, going whicheverdirection that the wind blows?
Speaker 1 (23:15):
right, that's great.
Yeah, and so that's that if itjust shapes your decision maker.
So, even when it comes tobusiness, all of our decisions,
when we're literally everydecision that we're making in
our businesses is are we helpingpeople, are we loving people,
are we serving people, people,and are we doing it with the
(23:36):
truest heart, with the purestheart?
And that's always somethingthat we think about.
So any decision that we make isis built off those values,
because you can have, you canhave a business right you can
have.
You can believe I gotta get richquick.
I gotta do what I gotta do.
I gotta step on toes, I gotta.
If I gotta get to where I gottago, I gotta do what I gotta do.
(23:57):
You can think that and that'show you're gonna solve your
problems.
And it's not, and it's notgonna work.
Yeah, it won't.
It will not work that way.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
So it's really what you hold dear to yourself how
you're going to move.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
And then, lastly, why it matters is legacy for future
generations.
We talked about that prettymuch already.
Just looking at, like I said,hobby Lobby us and our family,
but it's just a lasting impactthat it has on children, and I
think about my niece.
I think about my niece, I thinkabout my nephew and I even
(24:33):
think about my cousin that wejust got custody of she.
Well, they I'm going to saythey, because we got a little
boy in there they are aroundentrepreneurs that love and do
it right.
You know what I'm saying, andthat's not no brag or nothing.
That's like a humble, like godis doing his thing, like we're
trying to do it right each andevery way, and so just think
(24:55):
about what they're going to growup listening to or hearing, or
seeing or seeing, or andexperiencing, which would then
shape how they think and thevalues that they will hold close
to themselves also shapegenerations to come
exactly, exactly, so they keeptheir kids right, um, and on, so
on and so on.
So, uh, I think that's justkind of tells you a little bit
(25:19):
of why values are superimportant and what we want you
guys to do like from thisepisode moving forward is really
identify and cultivate familyvalues for you and your family.
Uh, the first way y'all can dothat is self-reflection and
assessment, so really going inthere and saying, hey, what
matters to me, what matters toyou?
Get your mom, get your brother,get everybody who's like a part
(25:40):
of this family dynamic, geteverybody what matters to y'all.
Um, and then assess, okay, whatcan we do?
What principles guide ourfamily's decisions?
What principles guide how wemove on a day-to-day basis?
The next thing is crafting afamily mission statement.
Now, that's something we needto do for 2025, now that we're
here.
Yes, we need to craft a familymission statement.
(26:01):
So each family member needs tolist their top three values, uh,
discuss and prioritize as agroup, like which values really
hold close for everybody, whatis something that's common that
you see as a thread throughoutthe family, and then draft a
nice mission statement of whatyour family would stand for,
what maybe it's.
Speaker 2 (26:19):
Our family believes in god and we will forgive, love
and treat these servantswhatever it is, but just lay it
out and and what that, what thatdoes when you were doing those
mission statements, right, thatthat kind of helps you plan for
your year right that kind ofhelps you plan to see hey, where
are we going in with our family?
(26:39):
uh, with this household or withthe family as a whole?
How do we want to move?
So I think another good thingto do with that is also make
sure we have meetings familymeetings right to talk about
financial literacy, healthliteracy and those values and
how to move forward right so Ithink that's a great thing yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
and then once y'all do that, you can't just leave it
there like you can't leave itthere.
You have to live it out.
You gotta, you, gotta walk it.
You, you, you and you got towalk it.
So y'all need to model thesebehaviors in your families.
If it's being, if it'sforgiveness, say, for instance,
one of the big values for yourfamily that y'all want to have
(27:18):
is forgiveness.
If there's a disagreement thatcome up, you have to be the
first one to say hey, I forgiveyou, I love you, I appreciate
you, I'm sorry, I didn't mean it, for whatever that is Right,
whatever that is Right, uh, and,and doing it together.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
You know family, you know we we get on each other
nerves, just to be honest, causewe around each other more than
anybody else, right, right, butit seems like we find it hard to
forgive or hard to partner, orhard to let go of stuff.
Right, right, sit down and talkabout it Right.
Start 2025.
Matter of fact, started offright now.
(27:55):
Start 2025 off, right.
Speaker 1 (27:57):
Right.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
Again.
Mission statement for thefamily goals for the family
Right.
Talk about financial stuffRight.
Where do you want to be Setthose short-term goals to have
long-term goals?
Talk about health literacyright Like we talked about in
another podcast.
Talk about your values rightand how those will get you to
get to the point of 2026.
Hey, we're in a different spotthan where we are now when we
(28:20):
were in 2025.
And that's the thing, and thenthat's the, and I'm going to say
this Everybody have their ownbeliefs, but put god first.
Yeah, put god first above allthat and all things that happen
and you'll see the difference.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
But what you're talking about is a family
evolving together and that's thething.
So also, but we've said it abunch of times but just know,
values do not stay the samebecause experiences and things
change.
And then again he saideverybody has different beliefs.
Right, you might say, hey, Imight want to start believing in
god.
Your life looks completelydifferent, your values change,
(28:55):
everything looks different,right, so nothing stays the same
.
Uh, but just know that as afamily, you guys will evolve and
with you guys evolving, it'snot going to look the same, it's
not going to feel the same, buteverybody's not going to feel
the same.
But everybody has to be on thatpositive, just project
projectory, like everybody gotto go, got to go the same way in
order for our family to be one,one a quarter, one a quarter,
(29:17):
um.
So I just hope that what wediscussed today was just
valuable.
Um, I hope you guys tounderstand the importance of
values, but also how just topinpoint little values that kind
of just are reoccurring themesin you all's lives and in your
family's lives.
Um, just take some time to sitdown with your family and
(29:37):
discuss what you all stand forjust yeah, love on them and
figure out what you stand for,uh, and then kind of just
revolutionize your life fromjust sitting down and talking
about what you hold true to beto yourself, right, right, for
your family.
I mean, family values don'tjust define us, they connect us,
(30:00):
they inspire us and they guideus through life, and so you
wouldn't want to do that withanybody else but your family,
yes, and so you wouldn't want todo that with anybody else but
your family.
So being able to just kind ofcultivate that together, bring
that whole, bring your wholefamily together, and kind of
figure out what those values are, is just super important.
So I hope that helps.
That helps you and your family.
This 2025 year is the new yearand things are going to look
(30:23):
different.
You're going to grow, we'regoing to grow and I'm excited
for all that we have to givey'all this year.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
It's a lot.
Speaker 1 (30:31):
It's quite a bit it's quite a bit, but we're excited
and so we just hope that thishas encouraged y'all, we hope
that it's blessed y'all, uh, andin any last words you want to
say pop I just hope this youknow we was a resource to you
and your family.
Speaker 2 (30:47):
So now, since you got this knowledge, take it to your
family to be that resource andthen take it to your community.
Yeah, all right.
Speaker 1 (30:55):
Yep, all right, like us YouTube.
We got it on Instagram like,comment, subscribe, send it out
to your fam, send it out, letthem, let them know, share it.
You know it's that's what'ssuper important.
Uh, you always can support theshow.
It always, um, we'll make surewe have the information in the
uh for you guys to support.
But we love you guys.
Y'all have a blessed one andwe'll see y'all next time 2025
(31:19):
we out.
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