March 1, 2025 • 21 mins
This episode explores the hidden danger of pride and how it sabotages our lives and relationships with God. By examining biblical examples and personal stories, we uncover the significance of humility as the antidote to pride and encourage active reflection and prayer for growth.
- Discussion on the essence and manifestations of pride
- Connection of pride to personal struggles and relationships
- Insights on humility through the story of King David
- Lessons from the parable of the rich fool
- Practical strategies for identifying and combating pride
- Importance of community support and dependence on God
- Weekly Challenge: Under God's Microscope
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Low Life Show, a space where we have
conversations about thestruggles of life, where we
declare war on pride and walkhumbly into renewed living with
a surrendered heart.
Where we take our past failuresand turn them into a roadmap
for you to live in peace andliving the low life.
Whether you're working throughpersonal struggles or simply
(00:22):
seeking a fresh perspective,this podcast will inspire and
equip you to live low and letGod lift you up.
I'm your host, dl the Low Life,a reformed professional dirtbag
who's here to tell you that Inow live a life of peace,
transformed through humility.
Join me, let's get low.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
Welcome back to the Low Life Show.
I'm DL the Low Life and todaywe're getting into the whole
reason.
We're here To talk about theenemy of everything we're
building Pride.
Here's the deal.
Pride is sneaky.
It doesn't always show up asarrogance or bragging.
Sometimes it's in your thoughts, your choices.
It might even be in yourprayers.
Pride is the silent killer ofyour relationship with God and
(01:43):
if you don't recognize it, don'tfight it.
It's going to wreck your life.
Trust me, I know You'd swear.
If you looked up pride in thedictionary, you would see a
picture of my face.
Here's the funny thing we alsohear and see pride attached to
the rainbow.
Make that make sense.
For me, the rainbow representsGod's promise not to wipe us out
(02:03):
again, and pride is somethinghe detests.
Strange combo.
Anyhow, we're gonna expose it,we're gonna deal with it and
we're gonna learn how to livefree from it.
In today's episode we're goingto start in a book that is
(02:30):
widely known as a book of wisdomthings you can live by,
proverbs.
This verse, proverbs 16, 18,.
It says Pride goes beforedestruction, a haughty spirit
before a fall.
This verse is a warning, thisis the red light, this is
caution hazard, whatever youwant to look at it as.
However you see it, however youhear it, this is a warning.
(02:52):
It's a recipe, a very simpleone.
Are you looking to fall?
Are you looking to fail?
Get proud, very simple Done.
But here's the twist Pridedoesn't always look like what we
think.
Sometimes it's loud and obvious,like boasting or rallies in the
streets about how awesome weare.
Other times it's trying toforce something unconventional
down the world's throats andcrying victim the whole time.
(03:13):
Other times it's quiet anddeadly, like refusing to ask for
help, like unforgiveness, likeself-righteousness.
Either way it's a trap, andthat last step is a doozy.
Our first example everybodyshould know.
(03:44):
Our first example everybodyshould know the only person ever
known for sure to be considereda man after God's own heart, by
God himself King David.
We know a few things about him.
He was a shepherd chosen by Godto be a king.
He was anointed.
He was a mighty warrior whodefeated a giant with,
essentially a slingshot.
He was also an adulterer, amurderer.
(04:07):
He slept with a married womanand sent her husband to the
front lines where he died.
He was imperfect, as can be.
One thing he never did brag andboast.
David was not known for beingproud, and whenever he did
anything that was dishonorableor displeasing or sinful to God,
anything prideful in natureguess what he did?
He didn't feel ashamed.
He didn't try to justify it orcover it up with something else
(04:30):
or run and hide.
He went, running back to God,repentant, humbly.
He humbled himself, he returnedto God and he was willing to
accept the consequence, humbleenough to admit his wrongdoing,
humble enough to seekforgiveness and to show
forgiveness.
We see an example of thisforgiveness in 1 Samuel 24.
After being pursued by Saul foryears, saul wanted to kill him.
(04:54):
David finally has the chance tokill Saul and end it all.
No more running, no morelooking over his shoulder, no
more paranoia, whatever he musthave been feeling at the time,
knowing that people were out tokill him.
Instead, he cut off a piece ofSaul's robe and then let Saul
know that he did it, that he wasclose enough to kill him, but
he spared him.
I don't know about you, butthere was a time in my life
(05:14):
where, if I'm David and Saul'shunting me and I have a chance,
I'm not going to just kill himright there.
I'm going to make him feelevery bit of hurt and stress
that I felt, and then he wouldeventually die at my hands.
Humility, vengeance belongs toGod.
He even says it in his word.
Vengeance is mine.
Only the proud the foolishwould dare to try to take it
(05:35):
from him.
The next thing we look at is theparable of the rich fool in
(05:56):
Luke 12.
Now someone in the crowd saidto him Teacher, tell my brother
to divide the family inheritancewith me.
But he said to him you there,who appointed me a judge or
arbiter over the two of me.
But he said to him you there,who appointed me a judge or
arbiter over the two of you.
But he said to them Beware andbe on your guard against every
form of greed, for not even whenone is affluent does his life
consist of his possessions.
(06:16):
And he told them a parablesaying the land of a rich man
was very productive.
And he began thinking tohimself, saying what shall I do,
since I have no place to storemy crops?
And he said this is what I willdo.
I will tear down my barns andbuild larger ones and I will
store all my grain and my goodsthere.
And I will say to myself youhave many goods stored up for
many years to come, relax, eat,drink and enjoy yourself.
(06:38):
But God said to him you foolthis very night.
Your soul is demanded of youand as, and he said to his
(07:00):
disciples more than food and thebodies more than clothing.
Consider the Ravens that theyneither so nor reap.
They have no storeroom nor barn, and yet God feeds them.
How much more valuable are youthan the birds?
And which of you, by worrying,can add a day to his lifespan?
Therefore, if you cannot doeven a very little thing, why do
you worry about the otherthings?
Consider the lilies how theygrow.
(07:21):
They neither labor nor spin.
But I tell you, not evenSolomon and all his glory
clothed himself like one ofthese.
Now, if God so clothes, thegrass in the field which is
alive today and tomorrow isthrown into the furnace.
How much more will he clotheyou, you of little faith, and do
not seek what you are to eatand what you are to drink and do
not keep worrying, for allthese things are what the
(07:42):
nations of the world eagerlyseek, and your Father knows that
you need these things.
But seek His kingdom and thesethings will be provided to you.
Do not be afraid, little flock,because your Father has chosen
to give you the kingdom.
Sell your possessions and giveto charity.
Make yourselves money beltsthat do not wear out, an
inexhaustible treasure in heaven, where no thief comes near, nor
(08:03):
does a moth destroy, for whereyour treasure is, there your
(08:25):
heart will be also.
Let's break it down In thisparable a rich man builds bigger
barns to store his abundance,thinking he's set for life.
Put it in the bank shoebox underthe mattress.
But God calls him a foolbecause that very night his life
is taken and he has nothingstored for eternity.
He's one of those.
Lord, lord, I did all of thesethings and God told him I did
(08:47):
not know you.
You may have done those things,but you did it for you, not for
me.
The warning here is clear Pridein possessions, pride in self,
relying on self because of pridethat's dangerous.
When we put our trust in money,status and the earthly things
that look like security to whatthe world says, we forget how
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dependent we are and should beon God.
Take a moment to reflect.
Where are you trusting inyourself instead of trusting God
?
The key to humility issurrendering those areas to Him,
storing up treasures in heavenand living with an eternal
perspective, seeking eternity,chasing after God, chasing after
Him.
Nothing else matters.
(09:32):
Chasing the bag is not going toget you there.
So how can we recognize pridein our lives?
How can we spot it before itdestroys us?
(09:52):
There's a couple of questionsyou can ask yourself.
Do you struggle to admit whenyou're wrong?
Maybe Do you pause becauseyou're worried you're going to
be embarrassed or ashamed forbeing imperfect.
Do you have a hard timeforgiving others?
I mean, I know there arecertain cases that are pretty
hard to do.
I myself, just recently, wasasked by a cousin if I forgave
(10:14):
the person who was driving thetruck that killed my mom.
At first I wanted to say no andthen, as I thought about it, I
realized I wasn't affected.
When I thought about his name.
You see, when it first happenedI swore that I was going to be
the person to kill him.
Now I'm almost certain that ifI saw him today, I would feel no
(10:35):
urge to do anything of the sort.
Anyhow, do you have a hard timeforgiving others?
I understand if there aresituations like that where
you're struggling.
That's when leaning on Godcounts the most.
He does the heaviest lifting,he does it all.
Really, we lean on Him properly.
He does everything and he makeseven the hard things look easy
(10:56):
to us.
Do you avoid asking for helpbecause you think you can do it
all by yourself?
That would definitely be anindication that there's pride.
If you ever find yourself in asituation where you use control
as a weapon, there's a goodchance you're walking in pride.
In a situation where you usecontrol as a weapon, there's a
good chance you're walking inpride.
If you have to force otherpeople to accept you, to like
you, if you bully your way intoanything anywhere, there goes
that pride again.
(11:16):
Some of you may say that itcomes from hurt, but there's a
level of pride that is the root.
It wouldn't hurt if your egowasn't damaged in the process.
That's pride, and pride isdangerous.
Pride puts you on the throne ofyour life instead God.
It makes God look like youbecause you think you're God.
That's a dangerous place to be.
Only God can be God.
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We're a bunch of imperfect,flawed human beings.
We would only screw things up.
There's also the little factabout God we see in Deuteronomy.
Deuteronomy 4, 24 says For theLord, your God, is a consuming
fire, a jealous God.
I'd hate to be the focus of hisfury.
Here's where humility comes in.
Humility is the one thing thatwill break pride.
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Humility before God.
It's the antidote to pride.
It's the recognizing that youneed God and you even need
community.
If community wasn't necessary,god would have made Adam by
himself, and he would just havebeen the only person to have
ever existed, and we wouldn'teven be here.
The acknowledgement in itselfbecomes like an invitation that
God can't wait to accept.
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It allows room for communityand for others to rally around
you.
Humility is the golden ticket.
It makes you relatable, likable, it feels good to be needed,
and we're just us.
The pleasure it gives God,though, is out of this world.
Now let me take you back towhere pride used to be in my
life and where I work tirelesslyto keep it at bay.
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Pride is definitely somethingthat I fight every single day.
I remember a time when Ithought I had it all together
(13:03):
Figured out, but that's becauseI didn't want to admit my
struggles, not even to God.
You know what?
That pride nearly got me killed.
It wasn't until God humbled methat I began to acknowledge my
flaws, started to admit andembrace my weaknesses and ask
for God's help in all things.
That's when my life started tochange.
(13:41):
So picture this have you everfelt alone when weren't alone?
Like alone in a crowded room,surrounded by people and somehow
still by yourself?
As my downward spiral began,this was me Finding ways to
avoid grieving, searching forsubstance in substance.
If it was a known way to numbthe pain, I took two.
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There is no preparation forgrief, for loss.
You never know how you're goingto react to death, how or who
you'll be in the face of grief.
Who's to say?
You can say you'll be fine, butthat's rarely the case,
especially if you find yourselfwhere I was After really only
ever losing a pet, at least interms of close relationships.
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I spent the beginning of mygrief doing as many reckless
things as I could.
At first, it was to occupy mytime and to trade one extreme
emotion for another.
It was grief versusexhilaration, adrenaline.
After a while, though, thegrief would not be denied, so I
doubled my doses of everything,and still, every quiet moment
(14:43):
there it was reminding me that Ihurt, convincing me to be sad
because my world was no longercomplete.
Eventually, I started to agree,started to feel the
overwhelming weight of death inmy mind, in my heart, all around
and through me.
It didn't make me stop goingcrazy at all.
I continued to be reckless.
(15:03):
It was almost like I was fueledby it, or fueled by the want
and the need to get away from it, trying to overcome grief with
adrenaline.
So I still hit licks.
I was still in and out the trap.
There was one major differencenow, though I was hitting licks,
robbing, burglarizing not forthe money or the goods.
(15:24):
I was doing it with the hopethat someone would catch me in
the act and kill me.
I was committing crimes as ameans to commit suicide.
It might not seem like it, butthis, too, was a symptom of
pride.
See, I had people around tryingto give me good advice and help
steer me back.
The problem was their advicewas saturated in pride, just
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like my ignorance was.
While I was unwilling to acceptadvice, they were unable to
deliver.
Without condemning me andcriticizing my inability to
process emotion, their advicewas born out of a I know I would
never do anything like thatbecause I know better attitude.
Like what's wrong with you?
Who does that?
Like it's that simple.
But again, they couldn't be inmy mind or in my heart, and I
was unwilling to let them in.
So I took offense to theiradvice and I ignored them.
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They had no idea that I wassuicidal.
It wasn't a cry for help.
It was the real deal.
So I wasn't going to go aroundtelling people that I was doing
this.
I was just doing it.
I wanted to die.
Pride told me it was my choice.
Pride told me real men didn'tshare that type of stuff.
Pride told me I didn't mean it.
If I told somebody, thankfullyI was unsuccessful.
(16:33):
For anyone out there feelingunable to talk to someone, know
that I get it.
I may not know or even need allthe details.
You can talk to me if need be.
I've got one quick piece ofadvice for the listener.
If you truly care about someone, you find a way to be
understanding, no matter whichside of the situation you're on
as the one grieving.
It's challenging.
Nothing seems to make sense.
(16:53):
That's the thing to tellyourself.
If a loved one is giving youadvice that doesn't make sense
or is difficult to receive,don't shut them out.
Remind yourself that thingsdon't make sense.
Remember this is someone who,under any other circumstance,
you would trust enough to hearout, and the advisor this is for
you.
Understand that this is someonewho is in need of compassion,
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not judgment.
You may not understand thesituation from their eyes, but
you know that this is someone inpain.
Your advice in this momentshould be comforting, not
condemning.
Depression and suicidal thoughtswere normal for me.
In my pride, I refused to beweak, refused to seek help.
Today I'm helpless on purposeand dependent on God for all
things.
I inquire of Him, even when Ipick movies to watch or what to
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post on social media.
He is the center, thesurrounding walls, the roof, the
foundation, the carpet, thedrapes.
He's everything and I know heknows better than me.
So I get low and I rely on him.
I would suggest you do the same.
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So, in order to apply thisanalysis, in order to lean on
God to figure it out or ifyou've already got it figured
out, then you lean on God, youpray.
You would take a moment, thoughin reflection, you would look
at your life and consider everyarea that maybe is even
successful.
Pride could be hiding in thesuccess just as much as pride
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could be causing the failure.
Is it in your relationships,maybe, where there might be a
strain, where you might be leftfeeling empty or something?
Is it in your decisions?
Do you find people not wantingto be around you when you do
certain things.
Ask God to reveal it to you andthen ask him to help you deal
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with it.
And then let's pause for thecause one more time, for our
weekly challenge.
This week's challenge is tough,but it's necessary.
Along with that reflection, thischallenge is pray every day and
ask God to reveal where prideis hiding in your heart, every
single day.
And when he shows you, don'tignore it, don't deny it, don't
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make excuses, don't try tojustify it and don't try to act
as if you don't think it's him.
Just acknowledge it, confess itbefore him and ask him to help
you replace it with humility.
See, pride's going to be thething that's going to tell you
you don't hear from God.
It's going to be the thingthat's going to tell you you're
wrong.
It's going to be the thingthat's going to tell you that
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you don't need to change it.
It'll show you every singletime that you were successful,
every single way that you feltlike you were thriving.
All the good feelings are goingto come to you.
That's pride.
Pride is a mother scruncher.
Pride is the enemy of livinglow, but God gives us the grace
to overcome it.
Only by his grace can we besaved.
Next episode we're going totalk about restoration what
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happens when you humble yourselfand let God rebuild what pride
tried to tear down.
Let's pray, father.
We thank you.
We thank you that you give us aclear line in this war.
We thank you that you are anenemy of pride, just as much as
a pride is the enemy of ourlives.
We thank you that you wouldhelp us find it, you would help
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us acknowledge it, you wouldhelp us uproot it.
You would give us the strengthto fight it off.
We thank you for your gracethat we don't deserve.
That allows us to overcomethings, especially when it comes
to pride.
We humble ourselves, lord, andwe ask that you would just
continue to do this within us.
Continue to be the merciful Godthat you are, and we thank you.
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Bless the listener, help themto grow one more step closer to
you this week and one step freerfrom pride.
May you be glorified andhonored and praised always In
Jesus' name, amen.
Thank you for tuning in.
Until next time, stay low, stayblessed and stay ready for the
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next episode of the Low LifeShow.
Peace, thank you.
Welcome to the Low Life Show, a space where we have
conversations about thestruggles of life, where we
declare war on pride and walkhumbly into renewed living with
a surrendered heart.
Where we take our past failuresand turn them into a roadmap
for you to live in peace andliving the low life.
Whether you're working throughpersonal struggles or simply
(00:22):
seeking a fresh perspective,this podcast will inspire and
equip you to live low and letGod lift you up.
I'm your host, dl the Low Life,a reformed professional dirtbag
who's here to tell you that Inow live a life of peace,
transformed through humility.
Join me, let's get low.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
Welcome back to the Low Life Show.
I'm DL the Low Life and todaywe're getting into the whole
reason.
We're here To talk about theenemy of everything we're
building Pride.
Here's the deal.
Pride is sneaky.
It doesn't always show up asarrogance or bragging.
Sometimes it's in your thoughts, your choices.
It might even be in yourprayers.
Pride is the silent killer ofyour relationship with God and
(01:43):
if you don't recognize it, don'tfight it.
It's going to wreck your life.
Trust me, I know You'd swear.
If you looked up pride in thedictionary, you would see a
picture of my face.
Here's the funny thing we alsohear and see pride attached to
the rainbow.
Make that make sense.
For me, the rainbow representsGod's promise not to wipe us out
(02:03):
again, and pride is somethinghe detests.
Strange combo.
Anyhow, we're gonna expose it,we're gonna deal with it and
we're gonna learn how to livefree from it.
In today's episode we're goingto start in a book that is
(02:30):
widely known as a book of wisdomthings you can live by,
proverbs.
This verse, proverbs 16, 18,.
It says Pride goes beforedestruction, a haughty spirit
before a fall.
This verse is a warning, thisis the red light, this is
caution hazard, whatever youwant to look at it as.
However you see it, however youhear it, this is a warning.
(02:52):
It's a recipe, a very simpleone.
Are you looking to fall?
Are you looking to fail?
Get proud, very simple Done.
But here's the twist Pridedoesn't always look like what we
think.
Sometimes it's loud and obvious,like boasting or rallies in the
streets about how awesome weare.
Other times it's trying toforce something unconventional
down the world's throats andcrying victim the whole time.
(03:13):
Other times it's quiet anddeadly, like refusing to ask for
help, like unforgiveness, likeself-righteousness.
Either way it's a trap, andthat last step is a doozy.
Our first example everybodyshould know.
(03:44):
Our first example everybodyshould know the only person ever
known for sure to be considereda man after God's own heart, by
God himself King David.
We know a few things about him.
He was a shepherd chosen by Godto be a king.
He was anointed.
He was a mighty warrior whodefeated a giant with,
essentially a slingshot.
He was also an adulterer, amurderer.
(04:07):
He slept with a married womanand sent her husband to the
front lines where he died.
He was imperfect, as can be.
One thing he never did brag andboast.
David was not known for beingproud, and whenever he did
anything that was dishonorableor displeasing or sinful to God,
anything prideful in natureguess what he did?
He didn't feel ashamed.
He didn't try to justify it orcover it up with something else
(04:30):
or run and hide.
He went, running back to God,repentant, humbly.
He humbled himself, he returnedto God and he was willing to
accept the consequence, humbleenough to admit his wrongdoing,
humble enough to seekforgiveness and to show
forgiveness.
We see an example of thisforgiveness in 1 Samuel 24.
After being pursued by Saul foryears, saul wanted to kill him.
(04:54):
David finally has the chance tokill Saul and end it all.
No more running, no morelooking over his shoulder, no
more paranoia, whatever he musthave been feeling at the time,
knowing that people were out tokill him.
Instead, he cut off a piece ofSaul's robe and then let Saul
know that he did it, that he wasclose enough to kill him, but
he spared him.
I don't know about you, butthere was a time in my life
(05:14):
where, if I'm David and Saul'shunting me and I have a chance,
I'm not going to just kill himright there.
I'm going to make him feelevery bit of hurt and stress
that I felt, and then he wouldeventually die at my hands.
Humility, vengeance belongs toGod.
He even says it in his word.
Vengeance is mine.
Only the proud the foolishwould dare to try to take it
(05:35):
from him.
The next thing we look at is theparable of the rich fool in
(05:56):
Luke 12.
Now someone in the crowd saidto him Teacher, tell my brother
to divide the family inheritancewith me.
But he said to him you there,who appointed me a judge or
arbiter over the two of me.
But he said to him you there,who appointed me a judge or
arbiter over the two of you.
But he said to them Beware andbe on your guard against every
form of greed, for not even whenone is affluent does his life
consist of his possessions.
(06:16):
And he told them a parablesaying the land of a rich man
was very productive.
And he began thinking tohimself, saying what shall I do,
since I have no place to storemy crops?
And he said this is what I willdo.
I will tear down my barns andbuild larger ones and I will
store all my grain and my goodsthere.
And I will say to myself youhave many goods stored up for
many years to come, relax, eat,drink and enjoy yourself.
(06:38):
But God said to him you foolthis very night.
Your soul is demanded of youand as, and he said to his
(07:00):
disciples more than food and thebodies more than clothing.
Consider the Ravens that theyneither so nor reap.
They have no storeroom nor barn, and yet God feeds them.
How much more valuable are youthan the birds?
And which of you, by worrying,can add a day to his lifespan?
Therefore, if you cannot doeven a very little thing, why do
you worry about the otherthings?
Consider the lilies how theygrow.
(07:21):
They neither labor nor spin.
But I tell you, not evenSolomon and all his glory
clothed himself like one ofthese.
Now, if God so clothes, thegrass in the field which is
alive today and tomorrow isthrown into the furnace.
How much more will he clotheyou, you of little faith, and do
not seek what you are to eatand what you are to drink and do
not keep worrying, for allthese things are what the
(07:42):
nations of the world eagerlyseek, and your Father knows that
you need these things.
But seek His kingdom and thesethings will be provided to you.
Do not be afraid, little flock,because your Father has chosen
to give you the kingdom.
Sell your possessions and giveto charity.
Make yourselves money beltsthat do not wear out, an
inexhaustible treasure in heaven, where no thief comes near, nor
(08:03):
does a moth destroy, for whereyour treasure is, there your
(08:25):
heart will be also.
Let's break it down In thisparable a rich man builds bigger
barns to store his abundance,thinking he's set for life.
Put it in the bank shoebox underthe mattress.
But God calls him a foolbecause that very night his life
is taken and he has nothingstored for eternity.
He's one of those.
Lord, lord, I did all of thesethings and God told him I did
(08:47):
not know you.
You may have done those things,but you did it for you, not for
me.
The warning here is clear Pridein possessions, pride in self,
relying on self because of pridethat's dangerous.
When we put our trust in money,status and the earthly things
that look like security to whatthe world says, we forget how
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dependent we are and should beon God.
Take a moment to reflect.
Where are you trusting inyourself instead of trusting God
?
The key to humility issurrendering those areas to Him,
storing up treasures in heavenand living with an eternal
perspective, seeking eternity,chasing after God, chasing after
Him.
Nothing else matters.
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Chasing the bag is not going toget you there.
So how can we recognize pridein our lives?
How can we spot it before itdestroys us?
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There's a couple of questionsyou can ask yourself.
Do you struggle to admit whenyou're wrong?
Maybe Do you pause becauseyou're worried you're going to
be embarrassed or ashamed forbeing imperfect.
Do you have a hard timeforgiving others?
I mean, I know there arecertain cases that are pretty
hard to do.
I myself, just recently, wasasked by a cousin if I forgave
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the person who was driving thetruck that killed my mom.
At first I wanted to say no andthen, as I thought about it, I
realized I wasn't affected.
When I thought about his name.
You see, when it first happenedI swore that I was going to be
the person to kill him.
Now I'm almost certain that ifI saw him today, I would feel no
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urge to do anything of the sort.
Anyhow, do you have a hard timeforgiving others?
I understand if there aresituations like that where
you're struggling.
That's when leaning on Godcounts the most.
He does the heaviest lifting,he does it all.
Really, we lean on Him properly.
He does everything and he makeseven the hard things look easy
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to us.
Do you avoid asking for helpbecause you think you can do it
all by yourself?
That would definitely be anindication that there's pride.
If you ever find yourself in asituation where you use control
as a weapon, there's a goodchance you're walking in pride.
In a situation where you usecontrol as a weapon, there's a
good chance you're walking inpride.
If you have to force otherpeople to accept you, to like
you, if you bully your way intoanything anywhere, there goes
that pride again.
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Some of you may say that itcomes from hurt, but there's a
level of pride that is the root.
It wouldn't hurt if your egowasn't damaged in the process.
That's pride, and pride isdangerous.
Pride puts you on the throne ofyour life instead God.
It makes God look like youbecause you think you're God.
That's a dangerous place to be.
Only God can be God.
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We're a bunch of imperfect,flawed human beings.
We would only screw things up.
There's also the little factabout God we see in Deuteronomy.
Deuteronomy 4, 24 says For theLord, your God, is a consuming
fire, a jealous God.
I'd hate to be the focus of hisfury.
Here's where humility comes in.
Humility is the one thing thatwill break pride.
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Humility before God.
It's the antidote to pride.
It's the recognizing that youneed God and you even need
community.
If community wasn't necessary,god would have made Adam by
himself, and he would just havebeen the only person to have
ever existed, and we wouldn'teven be here.
The acknowledgement in itselfbecomes like an invitation that
God can't wait to accept.
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It allows room for communityand for others to rally around
you.
Humility is the golden ticket.
It makes you relatable, likable, it feels good to be needed,
and we're just us.
The pleasure it gives God,though, is out of this world.
Now let me take you back towhere pride used to be in my
life and where I work tirelesslyto keep it at bay.
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Pride is definitely somethingthat I fight every single day.
I remember a time when Ithought I had it all together
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Figured out, but that's becauseI didn't want to admit my
struggles, not even to God.
You know what?
That pride nearly got me killed.
It wasn't until God humbled methat I began to acknowledge my
flaws, started to admit andembrace my weaknesses and ask
for God's help in all things.
That's when my life started tochange.
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So picture this have you everfelt alone when weren't alone?
Like alone in a crowded room,surrounded by people and somehow
still by yourself?
As my downward spiral began,this was me Finding ways to
avoid grieving, searching forsubstance in substance.
If it was a known way to numbthe pain, I took two.
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There is no preparation forgrief, for loss.
You never know how you're goingto react to death, how or who
you'll be in the face of grief.
Who's to say?
You can say you'll be fine, butthat's rarely the case,
especially if you find yourselfwhere I was After really only
ever losing a pet, at least interms of close relationships.
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I spent the beginning of mygrief doing as many reckless
things as I could.
At first, it was to occupy mytime and to trade one extreme
emotion for another.
It was grief versusexhilaration, adrenaline.
After a while, though, thegrief would not be denied, so I
doubled my doses of everything,and still, every quiet moment
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there it was reminding me that Ihurt, convincing me to be sad
because my world was no longercomplete.
Eventually, I started to agree,started to feel the
overwhelming weight of death inmy mind, in my heart, all around
and through me.
It didn't make me stop goingcrazy at all.
I continued to be reckless.
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It was almost like I was fueledby it, or fueled by the want
and the need to get away from it, trying to overcome grief with
adrenaline.
So I still hit licks.
I was still in and out the trap.
There was one major differencenow, though I was hitting licks,
robbing, burglarizing not forthe money or the goods.
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I was doing it with the hopethat someone would catch me in
the act and kill me.
I was committing crimes as ameans to commit suicide.
It might not seem like it, butthis, too, was a symptom of
pride.
See, I had people around tryingto give me good advice and help
steer me back.
The problem was their advicewas saturated in pride, just
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like my ignorance was.
While I was unwilling to acceptadvice, they were unable to
deliver.
Without condemning me andcriticizing my inability to
process emotion, their advicewas born out of a I know I would
never do anything like thatbecause I know better attitude.
Like what's wrong with you?
Who does that?
Like it's that simple.
But again, they couldn't be inmy mind or in my heart, and I
was unwilling to let them in.
So I took offense to theiradvice and I ignored them.
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They had no idea that I wassuicidal.
It wasn't a cry for help.
It was the real deal.
So I wasn't going to go aroundtelling people that I was doing
this.
I was just doing it.
I wanted to die.
Pride told me it was my choice.
Pride told me real men didn'tshare that type of stuff.
Pride told me I didn't mean it.
If I told somebody, thankfullyI was unsuccessful.
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For anyone out there feelingunable to talk to someone, know
that I get it.
I may not know or even need allthe details.
You can talk to me if need be.
I've got one quick piece ofadvice for the listener.
If you truly care about someone, you find a way to be
understanding, no matter whichside of the situation you're on
as the one grieving.
It's challenging.
Nothing seems to make sense.
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That's the thing to tellyourself.
If a loved one is giving youadvice that doesn't make sense
or is difficult to receive,don't shut them out.
Remind yourself that thingsdon't make sense.
Remember this is someone who,under any other circumstance,
you would trust enough to hearout, and the advisor this is for
you.
Understand that this is someonewho is in need of compassion,
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not judgment.
You may not understand thesituation from their eyes, but
you know that this is someone inpain.
Your advice in this momentshould be comforting, not
condemning.
Depression and suicidal thoughtswere normal for me.
In my pride, I refused to beweak, refused to seek help.
Today I'm helpless on purposeand dependent on God for all
things.
I inquire of Him, even when Ipick movies to watch or what to
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post on social media.
He is the center, thesurrounding walls, the roof, the
foundation, the carpet, thedrapes.
He's everything and I know heknows better than me.
So I get low and I rely on him.
I would suggest you do the same.
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So, in order to apply thisanalysis, in order to lean on
God to figure it out or ifyou've already got it figured
out, then you lean on God, youpray.
You would take a moment, thoughin reflection, you would look
at your life and consider everyarea that maybe is even
successful.
Pride could be hiding in thesuccess just as much as pride
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could be causing the failure.
Is it in your relationships,maybe, where there might be a
strain, where you might be leftfeeling empty or something?
Is it in your decisions?
Do you find people not wantingto be around you when you do
certain things.
Ask God to reveal it to you andthen ask him to help you deal
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with it.
And then let's pause for thecause one more time, for our
weekly challenge.
This week's challenge is tough,but it's necessary.
Along with that reflection, thischallenge is pray every day and
ask God to reveal where prideis hiding in your heart, every
single day.
And when he shows you, don'tignore it, don't deny it, don't
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make excuses, don't try tojustify it and don't try to act
as if you don't think it's him.
Just acknowledge it, confess itbefore him and ask him to help
you replace it with humility.
See, pride's going to be thething that's going to tell you
you don't hear from God.
It's going to be the thingthat's going to tell you you're
wrong.
It's going to be the thingthat's going to tell you that
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you don't need to change it.
It'll show you every singletime that you were successful,
every single way that you feltlike you were thriving.
All the good feelings are goingto come to you.
That's pride.
Pride is a mother scruncher.
Pride is the enemy of livinglow, but God gives us the grace
to overcome it.
Only by his grace can we besaved.
Next episode we're going totalk about restoration what
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happens when you humble yourselfand let God rebuild what pride
tried to tear down.
Let's pray, father.
We thank you.
We thank you that you give us aclear line in this war.
We thank you that you are anenemy of pride, just as much as
a pride is the enemy of ourlives.
We thank you that you wouldhelp us find it, you would help
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us acknowledge it, you wouldhelp us uproot it.
You would give us the strengthto fight it off.
We thank you for your gracethat we don't deserve.
That allows us to overcomethings, especially when it comes
to pride.
We humble ourselves, lord, andwe ask that you would just
continue to do this within us.
Continue to be the merciful Godthat you are, and we thank you.
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Bless the listener, help themto grow one more step closer to
you this week and one step freerfrom pride.
May you be glorified andhonored and praised always In
Jesus' name, amen.
Thank you for tuning in.
Until next time, stay low, stayblessed and stay ready for the
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next episode of the Low LifeShow.
Peace, thank you.
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