April 13, 2025 • 19 mins
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Laura (00:01):
Welcome to the Main Allure Podcast with your host,
Laura.
Welcome to the official firstepisode of the Main Allure
Podcast.
Today, we're going to talkabout what it means to have Main
Allure energy.
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And essentially, it meanshaving a magnetic aura.
By definition, it means...
Naturally attracting people andcreating a positive and
comfortable atmosphere forothers.
Think back to a time where youwere at an event.
or some type of, I don't know,conference, meeting.
And you notice that there'ssomeone in the room who, for
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whatever reason, you just feelvery attracted to them.
And that doesn't necessarilymean romantically.
It means that you feelcomfortable around them.
You feel calm and at ease.
And that is essentially whathaving a magnetic aura is, is
giving off such a positiveenergy that others feel like
they can just be themselvesaround you.
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I mean, have you ever been in apublic place, perhaps at a park
or even on a train, right?
And for some reason, there'sthis person that's sitting next
to you and they're not reallydoing anything to make you, you
know, feel more vulnerable perse.
But for some reason, you are socomfortable with telling them
your life story, telling themYou realize like, wait a minute,
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why am I telling you all ofthese things?
Why am I being so drawn to thisperson?
And that's what it is.
It is that they have thismagnetic aura that allows you to
feel comfortable enough toexpress yourself and to be
yourself.
I think one of the celebritiesthat embodies this is Rihanna.
She could be anywhere.
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And for some reason, peoplejust they glow every time
they're around her.
She's always making them feelat ease.
She's always allows them thespace to be themselves.
And people tend to gravitatetowards people like that because
it is essentially a human needto feel seen and to feel heard.
magnetic people also tend to bemore compassionate and
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empathetic towards others.
And someone that I, you know,and I think that we all miss,
and if you don't know who thisis, I definitely recommend that
you research her and find outabout her life.
But it is Princess Diana orLady Diana.
She was someone who was alwayswilling to be there for others,
listen to others.
It didn't matter that she wasdoing something that would go
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against the royal rules, right?
Like she always broke protocolsin order to show that she was
human and she wanted people tofeel seen and heard.
She was often criticized fordoing these things.
I remember I remember there wasa time when she was in New York
City and this was back in the90s, obviously.
But she was in New York Cityand it was during the height of
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the AIDS epidemic.
She knew that this was a bigworld crisis at this point.
And she was there for someevent, I believe.
But for some reason, shedecided to make a pit stop at
one of the hospitals thattreated AIDS patients.
Of course, paparazzi werefollowing her around everywhere
she went.
So she was conscious enough totake that opportunity to go out
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and visit one of these hospitalsso that she could bring
awareness to what it means tohave this disease and how we can
help.
Obviously, at the time, it hada huge stigma.
She was aware of that.
And for some reason, she didn'tcare.
She was still willing to visitthe hospital.
And for someone like her, ofsomeone of her stature, it was
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extremely frowned upon by thepublic, or at least by her
critics, right?
Because she was absolutelyloved by everyone.
And the funny thing is that shestill went out there she
embraced the AIDS patients shehugged them she you know talked
to them for for a while if youremember during those days we
were always told that oh youcan't touch someone who has AIDS
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or you can't be near thembecause you're gonna catch it
yourself and then whatever rightbut she wasn't afraid she still
felt like it was in her natureto go out there and show others
that hey this is not an end-allbe-all these are humans who are
going through a tough time andwho are in need of human
interaction even right becauseI'm sure nobody was going to
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visit them or going to see thembut the funny thing is after
that people became a little bitmore susceptible to
understanding what it meant toeven have the disease and that
type of awareness is how shebecame absolutely loved she
always cared for the vulnerablefor the people who were hurting
and she didn't care that she wasthis super famous often the
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most photographed woman in theworld she still put herself out
there and showed her compassion.
And that's why people lovedher.
If Princess Diana were alivetoday, what do you think she
would care about?
What are the things that wouldcall her attention and she would
take a stand on?
I would love to hear what youthink.
And if you can leave it in thecomments, I would appreciate it
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and would love to read it.
Magnetic people also tend tohave this cheerful and positive
energy that They exude joy.
They're always upliftingothers.
And you can think of perhaps,you know, the class clown or the
life of the party.
These are people that no matterwhere you go, this is kind of
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like their persona, if you cansay.
They're always excited to bringjoy to others.
And it's always a good sight tosee.
I think they're also not afraidto be a little corny.
Sometimes we tend to try to beso put together that we forget
that being human is also being alittle corny, a little dorky, a
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little weird sometimes.
And that is essentially whatmakes you you, what makes you
authentic.
And having that magnetic auraallows you to become that.
I mean, even Bad Bunny, he'sessentially all of those things.
He's not afraid to dress up.
And as a woman, he's not afraidto cry.
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He's not afraid to do a lot ofthings in front of his public
because he's being himself.
He's okay with you liking it ornot.
And because of that, we areeven more intrigued by who he is
and what is he going to donext?
How is he going to show up nexttime?
And that is the magic of havinga magnetic aura of being
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yourself and being authenticbecause at the end of the day,
you don't care what people thinkabout you.
You're just being you and thatis all that matters.
Having that type of energymakes you powerful because
essentially, you don't have topretend to be anyone else but
you.
You could be in a room with abunch of CEOs or perhaps your
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high school friends, right?
And it doesn't matter.
You will be that same person.
You'll be authentic.
And that type of energy willtransmit through because of that
self-confidence, because thatidea that you can be who you are
without pretending, because youare just existing in the world
without using a script, withoutfeeling the need to perform for
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others.
Now, don't get me wrong.
A lot of these traits requiresome form of self-confidence.
And I know you're probablyasking yourselves, well, how am
I going to do that if I'm notconfident in myself, if I'm not
feeling my best self?
And the trick is to take it onestep at a time.
Maybe there's something thatyou're almost afraid of doing or
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maybe you're thinking aboutdoing and you're like, well, I
don't feel confident doing that.
But just try it anyway.
You have to be comfortable withunderstanding that people who
get to that level oftentimesfail repeatedly.
These are things that theydon't necessarily talk about,
but it's the truth.
A lot of times people like thisare comfortable with failing.
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And so you have to becomfortable with failing.
You have to be comfortable withembracing imperfection because
trying is how you become abetter self.
So don't feel down at the factthat you're not there yet.
All of this requires trial anderror.
And by you doing it more andmore, you're going to feel that
confidence come in.
Essentially, it's a matter ofyou embracing your authenticity.
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And that's how you're going toattract that magnetic energy
into you.
And you're going to feel thatwithin.
And that's what you're going totransmit to the world once you
start feeling comfortable withyourself and who you are.
Look at me, for example, when Iwas...
Well, if you knew me from wayback when, you're probably
asking yourself right now, what?
Laura's doing a podcast?
(08:37):
How so?
You can barely get three wordsout of her.
But again, it's a matter offailing, trying.
And at this point in my life,I'm comfortable with doing
things that are not necessarilywhat others would expect of me.
Because again, trial and error.
Don't care what people think ofme.
That's the end of it.
Something else that magneticpeople have is a strong
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presence.
They command respect.
They command attention.
There are people who are justnaturally born leaders who no
matter where you are, you justkind of always listen to what
they have to say because it'susually something profound or
something that just makes sense.
Now, don't confuse this withbeing the loudest in the room
because obviously there arepeople who can fake it, but
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being authentic again is the keyhere.
They are humble in theirapproach.
They are great listeners.
They consider others' opinions.
They are not about, I'm rightand you're wrong, or you have to
listen to me because I knowmore than you do.
You know what I'm saying?
There's that arrogance that iscompletely not there.
They are just powerful withouteven trying.
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And if I could think of someoneright now, I would say Barack
Obama is one of those peoplewho, no matter what, whether you
like his politics or not, as ahuman being, you can say that he
is pretty much an embodiment ofwhat it means to have power
without being abrasive orwithout trying.
He knows exactly what to say toget your attention.
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And he has a way of using hiswords to communicate exactly
what he wants to say withoutleaving confusion or doubt.
It's almost as if you trustwhat he's saying.
And I'm sure you could eventhink of a supervisor or boss or
even a friend who just has thesame persona who just embodies
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his sense of presence andcommands attention that You just
feel like you are safe aroundthem, that you can just listen
to what they have to say.
And you don't necessarily haveto, you know, put that one
eyebrow up to figure out wherelike, should I trust this?
Should I trust what they'resaying?
Oftentimes, they are not goingto sit there and give you BS,
right?
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They're going to be truthfuland genuine with their words.
Now, let's talk about sometraits that would be considered
magnetic traits.
I'm going to list fivedifferent traits and, you know,
just check on yourself and seehow many of these you have.
Number one is you are kind andempathetic.
What that means is that youlove to help people out.
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You're that person that peopletend to call when they need help
because they know that you'reselfless in some way.
At the same time, you're notthe one who is always asking for
praise or looking to berecognized for your actions.
You just naturally do itbecause that's what comes out of
your heart.
And I think that's beautiful.
If you feel that you're lackingin that department, then try
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some small things.
Maybe you can open a door forsomeone, maybe let someone go
when they're trying to cut youoff in traffic.
I know it sounds horrible,right?
Or you can even volunteer, findways to help your community.
And essentially, you willbecome used to strengthening
this trait along the way.
And it will make you feel thatsense of peace within because
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you're helping others.
And that's always a goodfeeling.
Number two is having selfawareness, you tend to
understand yourself very well,you know, your values and your
beliefs, your your strengths.
You know what is good for youand what isn't.
You recognize behavior inothers and whether that aligns
with you or not.
And the key here is that youtend to be relatable.
You're someone who is easilyapproachable.
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You're not intimidating in someway.
And intimidating, it's not abad thing per se, but you're not
someone who is self-absorbed tothe point where people don't
feel comfortable approachingyou.
If you want to strengthen thistrait, you can always try to
perhaps be consistent Thank youso much.
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The third one is alwaysremaining positive.
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Now, that doesn't mean thatyou're going to ignore when
you're feeling crappy, right?
When you're feeling sad, whenyou're not feeling your best
self, it is essentially knowingwhen to regulate your emotions.
And so you're not flying offthe rails because something
didn't go as planned.
Take knowledge, you seekunderstanding as to why am I
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feeling this way and notbringing that feeling onto
others.
They're also very realistic intheir perspective.
They understand that they couldhave expectations of
themselves, but they are notgoing to set these extremely
high expectations.
They're grounded in themselvesand knowing that, okay, yes, I
want to achieve this goal, but Iam aware that it may go wrong,
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right?
I'm aware that it could fail.
And that's okay.
I can always try again.
And like I mentioned before,the way to strengthen this is to
try.
You could fail many times.
Try again.
Obviously, at some point,you're going to have to decide
whether this is the rightdirection.
But don't be afraid to try andfail.
Number four is being a goodlistener.
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I think that sometimes we getso excited with what is
happening with our own livesthat when we're having
conversations with others, wedon't necessarily stop and take
stock to what is going on.
So there are times when someonecould potentially be going
through a situation and theywant to vent to you.
And come on, that is not theright time to sit there and say,
hey, what about me?
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Hey, let me tell you my story.
It's always good to remindourselves that we We are in the
listener position at that time.
And that is essentially a role.
I do this myself.
I remind myself that I am thelistener at that point.
And so knowing that that is therole that I am playing while
someone is venting to me andletting me know of their
problems, it keeps me groundedin understanding that, hey, this
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situation is not about me.
At some point, I can alwaysmention what I wanted to say.
But this is the time that thatother person wants to feel heard
and listened to.
You can always offer advice andsupport in some other way.
but for the time being whensomeone is venting it's always
best to just listen and if youdon't want to catch yourself in
that that horrible pattern agood way to make sure that
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you're listening is to askfollow-up questions maybe
they're telling you somethingand you want to hear more and
say hey what about this can youexplain that to me a little
better or how did you feel aboutthis part or like this
situation and it will keep youon your toes to make sure that
you're actually listening andthere are times where people
could be telling you a story andfor some reason.
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You drift into some otherthought because maybe you're
going through your ownsituations, but making sure that
you ask follow-up questionswill keep you grounded and
present.
And number five is having agood sense of who you are.
Maybe at some point you weren'tsure about what you wanted to
do with your life, but beingcertain that you're going to go
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down this life path and thatembracing the possibilities is a
good and inspiring way tofollow your heart.
I highly recommend it.
Now, when we talk about traitsthat are considered not
magnetic, they're usually traitsthat are pretty obvious.
You don't necessarily have tolook them up in a dictionary.
They're just the way that theymake you feel.
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And some of them are whenpeople are abrasive, belittling,
they put other people down,they're disrespectful, they make
fun of people'svulnerabilities, they do not
respect people's differences.
These are all things that makeothers feel uncomfortable and
almost Almost like a repellentbecause it's not a good feeling,
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right?
You don't like to be aroundpeople who could be potentially
passive aggressive, who makesnarky comments and expect you
to just put up with it.
You're not supposed to stand upfor yourself.
And these are all traits thatare not alluring at all, are not
necessarily magnetic.
The reason why I decided tobring these up is because I want
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people to be more self-awarewith the way that we're going
about every day.
I think we've come to a pointin society where we're just
naturally becoming more rude anddisrespectful.
Maybe it's the fact that in theinternet, you're just not
necessarily standing in front ofpeople.
So it's so much easier to go onsocial media and complain about
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others instead of havingconversations person to person
or in front of one another, Iencourage you that if you are
having issues with someone ormaybe you're having a
disagreement to talk about it.
Do not sit around and go on theinternet and make these, and
we've all seen them, right?
Like these indirect quotes andthings like that, where you're
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like, wait a minute, are theytalking about me?
You know, but if you're thatmagnetic person, you're just
going to let it fly and say,well, if they really care about
it, they're going to come to meand talk about it, right?
And And with that, I think thatwe can all do better to be more
present, be more genuine andcompassionate towards others.
This obviously includes myselfjust because I'm here yapping
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about this topic doesn't meanthat it doesn't involve me,
right?
Like I also need to work onmyself each and every day to be
a better person.
And I encourage you to do thesame.
Sometimes we get so caught upwith our lives and all of the
things that we have to deal withevery day that we can't kind of
forget that we're not alone inthis world.
We have to work with others.
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We have to communicate withother people.
And our presence also has aneffect on the way others feel.
So let's try to be betterpeople overall.
And I encourage you to alwaysbe mindful of how you're
communicating, how you'retreating others.
Sometimes that's all it takesto change that mindset of how
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magnetic you are, how you'rebeing perceived by the world.
It is how you treat someone,how compassionate and empathetic
you are.
And I hope that with the sortof message that I try to bring
about in this episode, you'llstart to understand that.
I that you do consistently.
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You know, think about how youcan make someone's life better.
You'd be surprised how manypeople are not seen, are taken
for granted, are not beingconsidered.
And again, don't be afraid toshow up for the people who care
and appreciate you.
That is all for today.
Thank you everyone forlistening to the Main Alert
Podcast.
Thank you for sticking with mein episode one.
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I hope that you stick aroundand listen each and every week.
Please don't forget to like,share, and subscribe.
And until next time, bye.
Welcome to the Main Allure Podcast with your host,
Laura.
Welcome to the official firstepisode of the Main Allure
Podcast.
Today, we're going to talkabout what it means to have Main
Allure energy.
(00:21):
And essentially, it meanshaving a magnetic aura.
By definition, it means...
Naturally attracting people andcreating a positive and
comfortable atmosphere forothers.
Think back to a time where youwere at an event.
or some type of, I don't know,conference, meeting.
And you notice that there'ssomeone in the room who, for
(00:46):
whatever reason, you just feelvery attracted to them.
And that doesn't necessarilymean romantically.
It means that you feelcomfortable around them.
You feel calm and at ease.
And that is essentially whathaving a magnetic aura is, is
giving off such a positiveenergy that others feel like
they can just be themselvesaround you.
(01:07):
I mean, have you ever been in apublic place, perhaps at a park
or even on a train, right?
And for some reason, there'sthis person that's sitting next
to you and they're not reallydoing anything to make you, you
know, feel more vulnerable perse.
But for some reason, you are socomfortable with telling them
your life story, telling themYou realize like, wait a minute,
(01:32):
why am I telling you all ofthese things?
Why am I being so drawn to thisperson?
And that's what it is.
It is that they have thismagnetic aura that allows you to
feel comfortable enough toexpress yourself and to be
yourself.
I think one of the celebritiesthat embodies this is Rihanna.
She could be anywhere.
(01:52):
And for some reason, peoplejust they glow every time
they're around her.
She's always making them feelat ease.
She's always allows them thespace to be themselves.
And people tend to gravitatetowards people like that because
it is essentially a human needto feel seen and to feel heard.
magnetic people also tend to bemore compassionate and
(02:14):
empathetic towards others.
And someone that I, you know,and I think that we all miss,
and if you don't know who thisis, I definitely recommend that
you research her and find outabout her life.
But it is Princess Diana orLady Diana.
She was someone who was alwayswilling to be there for others,
listen to others.
It didn't matter that she wasdoing something that would go
(02:37):
against the royal rules, right?
Like she always broke protocolsin order to show that she was
human and she wanted people tofeel seen and heard.
She was often criticized fordoing these things.
I remember I remember there wasa time when she was in New York
City and this was back in the90s, obviously.
But she was in New York Cityand it was during the height of
(02:59):
the AIDS epidemic.
She knew that this was a bigworld crisis at this point.
And she was there for someevent, I believe.
But for some reason, shedecided to make a pit stop at
one of the hospitals thattreated AIDS patients.
Of course, paparazzi werefollowing her around everywhere
she went.
So she was conscious enough totake that opportunity to go out
(03:20):
and visit one of these hospitalsso that she could bring
awareness to what it means tohave this disease and how we can
help.
Obviously, at the time, it hada huge stigma.
She was aware of that.
And for some reason, she didn'tcare.
She was still willing to visitthe hospital.
And for someone like her, ofsomeone of her stature, it was
(03:41):
extremely frowned upon by thepublic, or at least by her
critics, right?
Because she was absolutelyloved by everyone.
And the funny thing is that shestill went out there she
embraced the AIDS patients shehugged them she you know talked
to them for for a while if youremember during those days we
were always told that oh youcan't touch someone who has AIDS
(04:03):
or you can't be near thembecause you're gonna catch it
yourself and then whatever rightbut she wasn't afraid she still
felt like it was in her natureto go out there and show others
that hey this is not an end-allbe-all these are humans who are
going through a tough time andwho are in need of human
interaction even right becauseI'm sure nobody was going to
(04:24):
visit them or going to see thembut the funny thing is after
that people became a little bitmore susceptible to
understanding what it meant toeven have the disease and that
type of awareness is how shebecame absolutely loved she
always cared for the vulnerablefor the people who were hurting
and she didn't care that she wasthis super famous often the
(04:47):
most photographed woman in theworld she still put herself out
there and showed her compassion.
And that's why people lovedher.
If Princess Diana were alivetoday, what do you think she
would care about?
What are the things that wouldcall her attention and she would
take a stand on?
I would love to hear what youthink.
And if you can leave it in thecomments, I would appreciate it
(05:08):
and would love to read it.
Magnetic people also tend tohave this cheerful and positive
energy that They exude joy.
They're always upliftingothers.
And you can think of perhaps,you know, the class clown or the
life of the party.
These are people that no matterwhere you go, this is kind of
(05:28):
like their persona, if you cansay.
They're always excited to bringjoy to others.
And it's always a good sight tosee.
I think they're also not afraidto be a little corny.
Sometimes we tend to try to beso put together that we forget
that being human is also being alittle corny, a little dorky, a
(05:49):
little weird sometimes.
And that is essentially whatmakes you you, what makes you
authentic.
And having that magnetic auraallows you to become that.
I mean, even Bad Bunny, he'sessentially all of those things.
He's not afraid to dress up.
And as a woman, he's not afraidto cry.
(06:10):
He's not afraid to do a lot ofthings in front of his public
because he's being himself.
He's okay with you liking it ornot.
And because of that, we areeven more intrigued by who he is
and what is he going to donext?
How is he going to show up nexttime?
And that is the magic of havinga magnetic aura of being
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yourself and being authenticbecause at the end of the day,
you don't care what people thinkabout you.
You're just being you and thatis all that matters.
Having that type of energymakes you powerful because
essentially, you don't have topretend to be anyone else but
you.
You could be in a room with abunch of CEOs or perhaps your
(06:51):
high school friends, right?
And it doesn't matter.
You will be that same person.
You'll be authentic.
And that type of energy willtransmit through because of that
self-confidence, because thatidea that you can be who you are
without pretending, because youare just existing in the world
without using a script, withoutfeeling the need to perform for
(07:12):
others.
Now, don't get me wrong.
A lot of these traits requiresome form of self-confidence.
And I know you're probablyasking yourselves, well, how am
I going to do that if I'm notconfident in myself, if I'm not
feeling my best self?
And the trick is to take it onestep at a time.
Maybe there's something thatyou're almost afraid of doing or
(07:34):
maybe you're thinking aboutdoing and you're like, well, I
don't feel confident doing that.
But just try it anyway.
You have to be comfortable withunderstanding that people who
get to that level oftentimesfail repeatedly.
These are things that theydon't necessarily talk about,
but it's the truth.
A lot of times people like thisare comfortable with failing.
(07:54):
And so you have to becomfortable with failing.
You have to be comfortable withembracing imperfection because
trying is how you become abetter self.
So don't feel down at the factthat you're not there yet.
All of this requires trial anderror.
And by you doing it more andmore, you're going to feel that
confidence come in.
Essentially, it's a matter ofyou embracing your authenticity.
(08:16):
And that's how you're going toattract that magnetic energy
into you.
And you're going to feel thatwithin.
And that's what you're going totransmit to the world once you
start feeling comfortable withyourself and who you are.
Look at me, for example, when Iwas...
Well, if you knew me from wayback when, you're probably
asking yourself right now, what?
Laura's doing a podcast?
(08:37):
How so?
You can barely get three wordsout of her.
But again, it's a matter offailing, trying.
And at this point in my life,I'm comfortable with doing
things that are not necessarilywhat others would expect of me.
Because again, trial and error.
Don't care what people think ofme.
That's the end of it.
Something else that magneticpeople have is a strong
(09:00):
presence.
They command respect.
They command attention.
There are people who are justnaturally born leaders who no
matter where you are, you justkind of always listen to what
they have to say because it'susually something profound or
something that just makes sense.
Now, don't confuse this withbeing the loudest in the room
because obviously there arepeople who can fake it, but
(09:20):
being authentic again is the keyhere.
They are humble in theirapproach.
They are great listeners.
They consider others' opinions.
They are not about, I'm rightand you're wrong, or you have to
listen to me because I knowmore than you do.
You know what I'm saying?
There's that arrogance that iscompletely not there.
They are just powerful withouteven trying.
(09:41):
And if I could think of someoneright now, I would say Barack
Obama is one of those peoplewho, no matter what, whether you
like his politics or not, as ahuman being, you can say that he
is pretty much an embodiment ofwhat it means to have power
without being abrasive orwithout trying.
He knows exactly what to say toget your attention.
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And he has a way of using hiswords to communicate exactly
what he wants to say withoutleaving confusion or doubt.
It's almost as if you trustwhat he's saying.
And I'm sure you could eventhink of a supervisor or boss or
even a friend who just has thesame persona who just embodies
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his sense of presence andcommands attention that You just
feel like you are safe aroundthem, that you can just listen
to what they have to say.
And you don't necessarily haveto, you know, put that one
eyebrow up to figure out wherelike, should I trust this?
Should I trust what they'resaying?
Oftentimes, they are not goingto sit there and give you BS,
right?
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They're going to be truthfuland genuine with their words.
Now, let's talk about sometraits that would be considered
magnetic traits.
I'm going to list fivedifferent traits and, you know,
just check on yourself and seehow many of these you have.
Number one is you are kind andempathetic.
What that means is that youlove to help people out.
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You're that person that peopletend to call when they need help
because they know that you'reselfless in some way.
At the same time, you're notthe one who is always asking for
praise or looking to berecognized for your actions.
You just naturally do itbecause that's what comes out of
your heart.
And I think that's beautiful.
If you feel that you're lackingin that department, then try
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some small things.
Maybe you can open a door forsomeone, maybe let someone go
when they're trying to cut youoff in traffic.
I know it sounds horrible,right?
Or you can even volunteer, findways to help your community.
And essentially, you willbecome used to strengthening
this trait along the way.
And it will make you feel thatsense of peace within because
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you're helping others.
And that's always a goodfeeling.
Number two is having selfawareness, you tend to
understand yourself very well,you know, your values and your
beliefs, your your strengths.
You know what is good for youand what isn't.
You recognize behavior inothers and whether that aligns
with you or not.
And the key here is that youtend to be relatable.
You're someone who is easilyapproachable.
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You're not intimidating in someway.
And intimidating, it's not abad thing per se, but you're not
someone who is self-absorbed tothe point where people don't
feel comfortable approachingyou.
If you want to strengthen thistrait, you can always try to
perhaps be consistent Thank youso much.
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The third one is alwaysremaining positive.
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Now, that doesn't mean thatyou're going to ignore when
you're feeling crappy, right?
When you're feeling sad, whenyou're not feeling your best
self, it is essentially knowingwhen to regulate your emotions.
And so you're not flying offthe rails because something
didn't go as planned.
Take knowledge, you seekunderstanding as to why am I
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feeling this way and notbringing that feeling onto
others.
They're also very realistic intheir perspective.
They understand that they couldhave expectations of
themselves, but they are notgoing to set these extremely
high expectations.
They're grounded in themselvesand knowing that, okay, yes, I
want to achieve this goal, but Iam aware that it may go wrong,
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right?
I'm aware that it could fail.
And that's okay.
I can always try again.
And like I mentioned before,the way to strengthen this is to
try.
You could fail many times.
Try again.
Obviously, at some point,you're going to have to decide
whether this is the rightdirection.
But don't be afraid to try andfail.
Number four is being a goodlistener.
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I think that sometimes we getso excited with what is
happening with our own livesthat when we're having
conversations with others, wedon't necessarily stop and take
stock to what is going on.
So there are times when someonecould potentially be going
through a situation and theywant to vent to you.
And come on, that is not theright time to sit there and say,
hey, what about me?
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Hey, let me tell you my story.
It's always good to remindourselves that we We are in the
listener position at that time.
And that is essentially a role.
I do this myself.
I remind myself that I am thelistener at that point.
And so knowing that that is therole that I am playing while
someone is venting to me andletting me know of their
problems, it keeps me groundedin understanding that, hey, this
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situation is not about me.
At some point, I can alwaysmention what I wanted to say.
But this is the time that thatother person wants to feel heard
and listened to.
You can always offer advice andsupport in some other way.
but for the time being whensomeone is venting it's always
best to just listen and if youdon't want to catch yourself in
that that horrible pattern agood way to make sure that
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you're listening is to askfollow-up questions maybe
they're telling you somethingand you want to hear more and
say hey what about this can youexplain that to me a little
better or how did you feel aboutthis part or like this
situation and it will keep youon your toes to make sure that
you're actually listening andthere are times where people
could be telling you a story andfor some reason.
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You drift into some otherthought because maybe you're
going through your ownsituations, but making sure that
you ask follow-up questionswill keep you grounded and
present.
And number five is having agood sense of who you are.
Maybe at some point you weren'tsure about what you wanted to
do with your life, but beingcertain that you're going to go
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down this life path and thatembracing the possibilities is a
good and inspiring way tofollow your heart.
I highly recommend it.
Now, when we talk about traitsthat are considered not
magnetic, they're usually traitsthat are pretty obvious.
You don't necessarily have tolook them up in a dictionary.
They're just the way that theymake you feel.
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And some of them are whenpeople are abrasive, belittling,
they put other people down,they're disrespectful, they make
fun of people'svulnerabilities, they do not
respect people's differences.
These are all things that makeothers feel uncomfortable and
almost Almost like a repellentbecause it's not a good feeling,
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right?
You don't like to be aroundpeople who could be potentially
passive aggressive, who makesnarky comments and expect you
to just put up with it.
You're not supposed to stand upfor yourself.
And these are all traits thatare not alluring at all, are not
necessarily magnetic.
The reason why I decided tobring these up is because I want
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people to be more self-awarewith the way that we're going
about every day.
I think we've come to a pointin society where we're just
naturally becoming more rude anddisrespectful.
Maybe it's the fact that in theinternet, you're just not
necessarily standing in front ofpeople.
So it's so much easier to go onsocial media and complain about
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others instead of havingconversations person to person
or in front of one another, Iencourage you that if you are
having issues with someone ormaybe you're having a
disagreement to talk about it.
Do not sit around and go on theinternet and make these, and
we've all seen them, right?
Like these indirect quotes andthings like that, where you're
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like, wait a minute, are theytalking about me?
You know, but if you're thatmagnetic person, you're just
going to let it fly and say,well, if they really care about
it, they're going to come to meand talk about it, right?
And And with that, I think thatwe can all do better to be more
present, be more genuine andcompassionate towards others.
This obviously includes myselfjust because I'm here yapping
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about this topic doesn't meanthat it doesn't involve me,
right?
Like I also need to work onmyself each and every day to be
a better person.
And I encourage you to do thesame.
Sometimes we get so caught upwith our lives and all of the
things that we have to deal withevery day that we can't kind of
forget that we're not alone inthis world.
We have to work with others.
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We have to communicate withother people.
And our presence also has aneffect on the way others feel.
So let's try to be betterpeople overall.
And I encourage you to alwaysbe mindful of how you're
communicating, how you'retreating others.
Sometimes that's all it takesto change that mindset of how
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magnetic you are, how you'rebeing perceived by the world.
It is how you treat someone,how compassionate and empathetic
you are.
And I hope that with the sortof message that I try to bring
about in this episode, you'llstart to understand that.
I that you do consistently.
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You know, think about how youcan make someone's life better.
You'd be surprised how manypeople are not seen, are taken
for granted, are not beingconsidered.
And again, don't be afraid toshow up for the people who care
and appreciate you.
That is all for today.
Thank you everyone forlistening to the Main Alert
Podcast.
Thank you for sticking with mein episode one.
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I hope that you stick aroundand listen each and every week.
Please don't forget to like,share, and subscribe.
And until next time, bye.
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