June 12, 2025 • 25 mins
Have you ever caught yourself going through life on autopilot, treating each day like just another box to check? Today's episode offers a paradigm shift that could revolutionize your everyday experience without requiring more money, time, or resources than you already have.
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Laura (00:01):
Welcome to the Main Allure podcast.
I am your host, Laura, yourunofficial mentor and motivator.
Do you ever feel like you'rejust going through the motions,
like life is a checklist insteadof a journey?
Well, what if I told you thatthere's a simple, powerful way
to inject joy, meaning and alittle bit of magic back into
(00:24):
your everyday life, no matterwho you are or what your
circumstances are.
So get ready to transform theordinary into the extraordinary,
because today we're talkingabout how to romanticize your
life.
By the way, I wanted to take aminute before we begin to say
(00:45):
that this is my officially my10th episode.
So I am super excited, veryhappy.
I you know I'm so happy thatyou guys are here with me and
you've been sticking with me.
So thank you so much, and gladI got that out of the way, all
right.
And now on to today's episode.
And glad I got that out of theway, all right.
And now on to today's episode.
(01:13):
Romanticizing one's life is farmore than just a fleeting trend
or a superficial way to feelgood.
Romanticizing your life is adeeply impactful way to
significantly contribute tobetter health and happiness
through interconnectedmechanisms that can help you
improve and at least adjust theway that you think of your
everyday life, and the benefitsinclude cultivating mindfulness
(01:35):
and presence At its core.
Romanticizing your life is anexercise in mindfulness.
It is really encouraging you tobe present in the here and now.
It is the way that you canforget about your past and stop
worrying about your future.
You have to be intentionalabout being present.
By intentionally noticing andappreciating the details of your
(01:57):
life, your daily life thewarmth, coffee, the sunlight
through a window, the comfort ofthe bed you know all of the 200
pillows you have on your bedright now.
You actively pull yourself intothe present moment, and so this
mindful awareness is known toreduce a great amount of stress,
(02:20):
anxiety and depression.
I mean, how often do we stopand really pay attention to all
the little wonders that we havearound us, things that the
universe has created for us?
I know that sometimes we tendto notice the bad things, like
the potholes that we have todrive through every day, but
what we don't necessarily tendto focus on are the beautiful
(02:44):
things that are around us.
Take a moment and really noticethe good things as well,
because if you're walking aroundand you're only noticing the
negative things, chances arethat you're either focusing too
much on the past because it'ssomething that you either had
and no longer have, or it'ssomething that makes you worry
(03:04):
because you can have or aren'table to have at the moment.
So you're worrying more aboutthe future, but that is the
whole premise of thinking aboutthe present.
So, regardless of how you'refeeling, regardless of where you
are in your life, take a momentto enjoy all of those little
things that add so much beautyto our surroundings.
Little things that add so muchbeauty to our surroundings.
(03:28):
Romanticizing your life isfostering a sense of gratitude
and appreciation.
Romanticizing inherentlyinvolves finding beauty and
value in the ordinary.
You don't have to wait untilsomething is truly amazing and
wonderful and rare even for youto enjoy it or for you to think
that there's beauty in it.
Sometimes the ordinary is evenmore beautiful because it exists
(03:50):
, simple as that.
This naturally leads to anincreased sense of gratitude.
When you consciously seek outthings to appreciate, no matter
how small, you shift your focusfrom what you lack to what you
do have.
And, believe me, this attitudeof gratitude is and has been
(04:10):
extensively linked to improvedmental health.
It is a way to feel that senseof satisfaction.
It is a way that you can buildstronger relationships, because
not only are you just notnitpicking at each other's flaws
, you're really taking the timeto enjoy, or at least to
acknowledge that there issomething to admire, whether
(04:33):
it's at a person, a thing, aplace.
Always find something that youcould say hmm, I never looked at
it that way.
Let me take a closer look andspend some time really enjoying
it.
It also provides even betterphysical health outcomes, like
lower blood pressure and even animproved immune function,
(04:56):
because your body is workingfrom a sense of peace, if that
makes sense.
You're not feeling or sensingor reacting from a place of
tension or anger ordisappointment.
You always find those littleblessings, those little things
that make you feel that, afterall, after everything,
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regardless of whatever is goingon in your life, you are blessed
.
Now I know you're probablythinking well, I don't have the
resources, I don't have themoney to spend on romanticizing
my life.
Well, I'm here to tell you thatjust because someone has plenty
of money, plenty of resources,it does not necessarily mean
that they really get to enjoythe luxuries that they have.
(05:40):
Some people tend to work longhours and they may have a
beautiful porch in the backyardright now and it sits empty
because most of the time they'reout working or they're
traveling all the time becauseof work or whatever
responsibilities they may have.
We always tend to think thatother people have it better than
us.
There's always something thatyou feel is missing, but the
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reality is that people who havethem may not get to enjoy it as
much because they have to work,they have to be away from home
all the time.
With that, I want to give yousome tips on the positives of
having that ability toromanticize your life, and the
number one is it boosts positiveemotions.
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When you think of dopamine andserotonin, when you engage in
activities that bring you joy orwhen you actively appreciate
what's around you, your brainreleases these neurotransmitters
like dopamine and serotonin,and they are these feel good
chemicals that impact the waythat you feel, the way that you
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sense things, your emotions,your well-being, your mental
health, and so by intentionallyseeking out and savoring these
little, small moments ofpleasure that could be anything
that you enjoy, you create amore consistent flow of positive
emotions throughout your day.
Romanticizing your life alsoincreases your sense of
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resilience and coping skills.
Life always comes withchallenges and adversity and
different hardships.
So when you romanticize yourlife, you're not just ignoring
these difficulties.
You're really creating a way toallow yourself to better
navigate your problems byfocusing on the positives and
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finding meaning even in thoselittle challenging circumstances
, the problems that you may face, and you will be able to also
handle stress in a more positiveway, which I know sounds crazy,
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right, but again remember,romanticizing your life is about
changing your mindset toknowing how to approach your
life.
When something does go wrong,you should always leave some
space for ease and comfort,because you deserve that.
So it doesn't matter whatyou're going through.
We all deserve peace andcomfort.
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Romanticizing your life enhancesself-perception as well.
It is seeing yourself as themain character of your own story
, of your own life.
It is about taking ownershipand agency, recognizing that you
have the power to change yourexperiences and how you perceive
them.
This is why it is so empowering.
It helps boost your self-esteemand your confidence,
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counteracting feelings ofhelplessness or even feeling
like you're a victim ofcircumstance.
Because, at the end of the day,it also helps reduce stress and
by improving your mental health, those psychological benefits
directly translate to physicalimprovements.
It reduces stress and anxiety.
You cultivate a sense ofgratitude by having lower levels
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of cortisol, which is a stresshormone, right?
But you also feel elevated, andwe all know how cortisol can
wreak havoc on our bodies.
The more and more you hold onto the stress, the more and more
that cortisol will end up.
I'm telling you that's the lastthing you want to do is hold on
to stress, because once youstart feeling that in your
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shoulders, in your neck, youcould potentially start getting
headaches and you won't be ableto sleep as well.
You know, acknowledge that,acknowledge that stress can take
over, and by romanticizing yourlife, you build that
appreciative mindset that cancontribute to better heart
health, to better quality ofsleep and, as a result, it
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encourages you to buildhealthier habits.
When you feel good about yourlife, when you're walking with a
pep in your step is that howthey say?
Pep in your step You're morelikely to reject things that do
not align with that feeling, andthis could include seeking ways
or different activities thatbring you joy.
And this could include seekingways or different activities
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that bring you joy, spendingtime with nature or pursuing
hobbies that fulfill you eatinghealthier, getting enough rest.
It is about those daily littlehabits where feeling good leads
to doing good for yourself andultimately creating a more
fulfilling, resilient andhealthier existence, regardless
of anything that happens in yourlife, all right.
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So now we're getting to the funstuff, because I want to give
you some tips on ways that youcan romanticize your life, and
here are simple yet effectiveways for anyone to romanticize
their life, regardless of yourgender, your wealth, your
circumstances.
Find a space for yourself toenjoy being alive, to enjoy your
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existence, regardless ofwhatever happens on the outside
world.
Are we ready, all right?
So the first one is curatingyour immediate surroundings, and
what I don't mean is, you know,I don't want you to go and sell
your house because it's toosmall and you can't put a sauna
inside or whatever.
What I'm saying is doing small,little things to make your
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space more peaceful, and indoing that, it could be making
your bed, decluttering a placewhere you want to spend more
time arranging a few itemsaesthetically.
It could be moving furniture.
It could be something as simpleas that.
It could be lighting a candleright After you clean.
Right, because we want to havea clean, organized and inviting
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space, no matter how tiny it maybe.
That one simple step cansignificantly impact your mood.
Find a cute corner where youcould say, okay, I'm going to
put this cute chair, this iswhere I get the sunlight Again.
Make it so that this is yourhaven, this is your safe space,
so that anytime you want to feellike you want to relax, this is
where you'll go.
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The next thing is to elevateyour everyday rituals.
So think about the things thatyou do every single day.
Maybe, when you wake up everymorning, do you just rush, take
a shower and then turn on thecoffee pot and all of a sudden,
you're like getting dressed,rushing to get out of the house,
and you chug your coffee downand rush at the door.
Well, let's change that alittle bit.
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It's about turning thosemundane tasks into moments of
pleasure.
And so, instead of justdrinking that coffee and like
rushing out the door, why don'tyou wake up 10 minutes earlier
and say, okay, i'm'm gonna put apot of coffee while I take a
shower, and I, you know, I don'tknow if you guys have a robe,
so whatever it is that you canafford, just get you a robe.
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And after you shower, beforeyou start getting ready, give
yourself enough time to just godownstairs or wherever you live.
Just walk over, get yourself apot of coffee, sit in your cute
little chair and just savor thatlittle moment.
Think about how wonderful it isto just be able to do that.
Enjoy that nice mug and enjoythat quiet morning.
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Same thing when you're cooking.
Cooking doesn't have to beboring.
You know, you can put on somemusic.
I mean, I love putting on musicwhen I cook and dancing around.
Find that favorite song thatjust makes you light up.
Instead of using the same tiredingredients, those little
packets of powder everywhere, goto a farmer's market if you can
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afford it, and find ways tobring in fresh ingredients and
touch them and cut them up andfeel them right, like this is
nature.
Some people could grow them intheir own backyard.
Some people do that even intheir own kitchen.
The idea is for you to reallymake that moment magical, and so
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it doesn't matter where you are.
So the whole idea is toappreciate that process of
creating something nourishingthat it's going in your body and
, regardless of whatever you canafford, try ways to make that
feel like you're eating.
You know, a five course meal,because maybe that's what a five
course meal means to you.
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Enjoy that Now.
Going back to that chair in thecorner right, or whatever you
you know, maybe it's a couch,whatever.
I want you to take some time toenjoy your sensory delights.
Pay attention to your senses,notice the way it's raining
outside and take time to cherishthe sound of the rain.
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If you can go outside in youryard, do that.
Touch grass with your feet, letyour feet touch the ground and
allow yourself to feel.
Allow yourself to look at thesky, see the beauty that there
is up there.
Take some time to taste a pieceof fruit, a piece of candy.
All of these things will makeyou feel more present and
appreciative of those smalldetails, even that annoying fly
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that could be flying around yourhouse.
Yes, it's quite annoying.
You wish it would die a suddendeath, but when you think about
it, you know this is a creationfrom nature.
Right, like this is somethingthat somebody's piled up trash
and brought to your house.
Maybe the neighbor didn't coverthe trash, but guess what?
The noise of the fly is areminder that you can hear the
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sounds that a lot of people arenot able to hear.
The minute that you start tonotice just how blessed you
really are is the minute thatyou're going to appreciate
everything around you.
All those small details that wetend to overlook and not really
notice are going to start tolook like little wonders.
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Now, one thing that I love to dois creating your own personal
soundtrack, and to me, music isabsolutely essential.
Music is such a powerful tool.
Music can change your mood, theway you feel, the way you react
to different things.
It helps boost your mood.
What I obviously will recommendis making a soundtrack of music
that can uplift you.
Now, if you're listening toJagged Little Pill by Alanis
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Morissette, you know chance isalready going to walk away
feeling a little angry andenraged.
What we're trying to do isreally try to beautify the way
that you feel.
Create playlists for differentactivities.
Maybe you have a playlist forwhen you're winding down at
night.
Jazz is wonderful for that.
Classical music is great too.
Maybe there's music that youneed to listen to when you're
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getting ready in the morning,and it could be music that makes
you want to dance.
Right, it helps boost your moodso that when you're walking out
and you're encountering peoplewho are mean and crazy, you know
you take it in stride a littlebit.
Why?
Because you're already feelingin a good mood.
Let music enhance your dailyexperiences.
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When romanticizing your life,the goal is to find beauty in
the ordinary, and so make sureto look for those small and
often overlooked beautifulthings around you.
It could be a vibrant flowerthat's growing through the
concrete, or an interestingarchitecture that's in your
community.
Maybe it's a park that you walkby every day, that you see kids
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playing around.
Find the light in all thoseunique things that happen every
single day.
When it comes to romanticizingyour life, using your
imagination is never out of thequestion, so think of ways where
you can transform your spacewhatever space that is that you
find that you seek comfort inand transform it into a place
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where you want to escape, whereyou feel like you are in a place
of comfort and peace.
And so, for example, for me, Iwould love to visit the south of
France, maybe one day.
But the idea is that, if itwere up to me, I would create a
space in a corner of my home.
You know, maybe I would findpictures on Pinterest or
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something.
What does it look like to livein the south of France?
I would probably paint itsimilar colors.
I would find cute littlefurniture, or, if I already have
two chairs and a cute tablewith a nice vase and some little
flowers, right, like again,it's just creating that same
ambiance so that anytime that Ifeel like I want to, I want to
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feel romantic, I want to feellike I want to escape or take
some time away from my currentworld, then I know that I could
go there.
If I could open up a glass ofwine, listen to some French
music Wait, am I saying thatright, or is that Italian?
Anyway, the whole point is tofind a space and make that the
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one place where you may not beable to be there in person, but
you can make a part of your home.
Just that, and wouldn't that belovely.
To dress up like you're there todo your hair, you know, wear
the jewelry that you would wearlike you're in France, or the
whole idea is to create a placewhere everything is just lovely
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and wonderful and inspiring.
And I guarantee you like, evenif you're a creative person,
doing these little rituals willdefinitely boost your creativity
.
It will boost your motivation,because you're feeling brand new
when you're doing these things.
And to experience in thecomfort of your own home.
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Wear whatever makes you feelalluring and special, sexy,
fabulous.
It could be anything.
It doesn't need to be somethingdressy.
Even it could be your favoritecozy sweater, your favorite
hoodie.
It could be a stylish outfitthat it's been sitting in your
closet for years, that youhaven't been able to wear
because there hasn't been anoccasion for you to wear it.
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Put it on, take some pictures,put on that perfume or cologne
on.
It's really about feeling goodin your own skin, and so do not
wait for the right moment tocome, because it may never come.
And so, while we wait, makesure that the fine china is
being used.
The nice jewelry doesn't matter, even if you're just wearing it
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around the house, who cares?
Enjoy the things that make youfeel good about yourself.
And, as far as staying home,make sure that you're scheduling
me time specifically.
We get so busy and we forgetthat we need to take time for
ourselves.
We may be overextendingourselves by helping everybody
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else, and then we forget that wealso need time to feel good, to
rest.
So designate specific time foractivities that you truly enjoy,
that are genuinely yours.
Enjoy that are genuinely yours.
And it could be reading,listening to this podcast, it
could be journaling, it could bemeditating, or it could just be
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doing absolutely nothing,because doing absolutely nothing
is great too.
All right, it means that you'reresting.
It means that you're givingyour body time to recuperate
from all of the hustle andbustle.
It's grounding and almostromantic, right.
Treat this time as sacred andprotected from any interruptions
.
If you have children, make surethat if they go to sleep at
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nine, tell them to go 8.30,.
You know, change the time.
Give yourself an extra 30minutes at night so that you
could have some me time, becausewe all deserve it.
You know you don time.
Give yourself an extra 30minutes at night so that you
could have some me time, becausewe all deserve it.
You know you don't want tospend your days just going and
going and going and you figureout with time that you're just
exhausted, burned out and it's aresult of that it's not really
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how much you do, right?
We all need that special timeto feel like we deserve rest.
We have a right to rest becauseit will help us recharge and
feel like we are ready for thenext day.
Another thing is to engage in asimple creative outlet, and it
could be a hobby that you enjoy.
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Maybe you love to sing, topaint.
Maybe you just love doodlingwith pen and paper, to write
poetry, whatever it is.
Find something that is trulyyours, that you can enjoy, that
you can spend time unwindingfrom all of the responsibilities
that you have.
And the act of creating, nomatter how small, can bring you
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so much joy and accomplishment,because it's that one thing that
is truly yours, that is trulyconnected to who you are.
So always make time to create.
Lastly, I want you to reflectand appreciate your everyday
moments.
So, at the end of the day, takea few moments and think about
something good that happened, nomatter how small it could be,
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that the coffee that you dranktoday was amazing, could be a
kind word, a beautiful moment orsomething that you accomplished
.
So cultivating gratitude willhelp you see the positive
aspects of your life.
No matter what happens in yourlife, there's always something
to appreciate and to be gratefulfor.
I hope that this episode hassparked a little magic for you,
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so consider this your gentlereminder that a more joyful,
present and healthier life isn'tjust a dream.
It is a series of small,intentional choices that you
make every single day, and Iwant to ask what is one thing
that you will do today to add atouch of romance to your reality
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.
You can start small, stayconsistent and, in the end,
watch how the ordinarytransforms into something truly
extraordinary.
So go out there and romanticizeyour beautiful life.
Out there and romanticize yourbeautiful life.
And, by the way, in the next fewepisodes, I am planning to
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create a few challenges so thatwe can follow through together.
Yes, I'm going to challengemyself as well to different ways
we can become our better selves.
So stay tuned, because the nextfew episodes are going to be
all about that and I will bedocumenting my experience as
well.
So it's not going to be justtelling you what to do and I'm
just going to sit back.
No, no, no, I'm going to alsobe doing the same thing.
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So tune in.
And well, actually, let's talkabout next week's challenge.
Since we're talking about itnow, guess what what we're going
to do first, our firstchallenge is going to be about
detoxing from social media anddon't worry, I'm not going to
ask you to disconnect for anentire week.
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What we're going to do is todisconnect for 48 hours.
So you pick the 48 hours.
We're going to talk about howit felt, the challenges faced
and what the benefits are.
So I know it's going to be hard, but I hope you join me in my
pain and suffering, because it'sa good challenge.
I think, overall, we're goingto learn a lot from this
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experience.
So make sure you stay tuned andfollow up with me next week.
Make sure you stay tuned andfollow up with me next week.
Again, thank you for listeningto the Main Allure podcast.
Don't forget to like, share andsubscribe, and until next time,
bye.
Welcome to the Main Allure podcast.
I am your host, Laura, yourunofficial mentor and motivator.
Do you ever feel like you'rejust going through the motions,
like life is a checklist insteadof a journey?
Well, what if I told you thatthere's a simple, powerful way
to inject joy, meaning and alittle bit of magic back into
(00:24):
your everyday life, no matterwho you are or what your
circumstances are.
So get ready to transform theordinary into the extraordinary,
because today we're talkingabout how to romanticize your
life.
By the way, I wanted to take aminute before we begin to say
(00:45):
that this is my officially my10th episode.
So I am super excited, veryhappy.
I you know I'm so happy thatyou guys are here with me and
you've been sticking with me.
So thank you so much, and gladI got that out of the way, all
right.
And now on to today's episode.
And glad I got that out of theway, all right.
And now on to today's episode.
(01:13):
Romanticizing one's life is farmore than just a fleeting trend
or a superficial way to feelgood.
Romanticizing your life is adeeply impactful way to
significantly contribute tobetter health and happiness
through interconnectedmechanisms that can help you
improve and at least adjust theway that you think of your
everyday life, and the benefitsinclude cultivating mindfulness
(01:35):
and presence At its core.
Romanticizing your life is anexercise in mindfulness.
It is really encouraging you tobe present in the here and now.
It is the way that you canforget about your past and stop
worrying about your future.
You have to be intentionalabout being present.
By intentionally noticing andappreciating the details of your
(01:57):
life, your daily life thewarmth, coffee, the sunlight
through a window, the comfort ofthe bed you know all of the 200
pillows you have on your bedright now.
You actively pull yourself intothe present moment, and so this
mindful awareness is known toreduce a great amount of stress,
(02:20):
anxiety and depression.
I mean, how often do we stopand really pay attention to all
the little wonders that we havearound us, things that the
universe has created for us?
I know that sometimes we tendto notice the bad things, like
the potholes that we have todrive through every day, but
what we don't necessarily tendto focus on are the beautiful
(02:44):
things that are around us.
Take a moment and really noticethe good things as well,
because if you're walking aroundand you're only noticing the
negative things, chances arethat you're either focusing too
much on the past because it'ssomething that you either had
and no longer have, or it'ssomething that makes you worry
(03:04):
because you can have or aren'table to have at the moment.
So you're worrying more aboutthe future, but that is the
whole premise of thinking aboutthe present.
So, regardless of how you'refeeling, regardless of where you
are in your life, take a momentto enjoy all of those little
things that add so much beautyto our surroundings.
Little things that add so muchbeauty to our surroundings.
(03:28):
Romanticizing your life isfostering a sense of gratitude
and appreciation.
Romanticizing inherentlyinvolves finding beauty and
value in the ordinary.
You don't have to wait untilsomething is truly amazing and
wonderful and rare even for youto enjoy it or for you to think
that there's beauty in it.
Sometimes the ordinary is evenmore beautiful because it exists
(03:50):
, simple as that.
This naturally leads to anincreased sense of gratitude.
When you consciously seek outthings to appreciate, no matter
how small, you shift your focusfrom what you lack to what you
do have.
And, believe me, this attitudeof gratitude is and has been
(04:10):
extensively linked to improvedmental health.
It is a way to feel that senseof satisfaction.
It is a way that you can buildstronger relationships, because
not only are you just notnitpicking at each other's flaws
, you're really taking the timeto enjoy, or at least to
acknowledge that there issomething to admire, whether
(04:33):
it's at a person, a thing, aplace.
Always find something that youcould say hmm, I never looked at
it that way.
Let me take a closer look andspend some time really enjoying
it.
It also provides even betterphysical health outcomes, like
lower blood pressure and even animproved immune function,
(04:56):
because your body is workingfrom a sense of peace, if that
makes sense.
You're not feeling or sensingor reacting from a place of
tension or anger ordisappointment.
You always find those littleblessings, those little things
that make you feel that, afterall, after everything,
(05:18):
regardless of whatever is goingon in your life, you are blessed
.
Now I know you're probablythinking well, I don't have the
resources, I don't have themoney to spend on romanticizing
my life.
Well, I'm here to tell you thatjust because someone has plenty
of money, plenty of resources,it does not necessarily mean
that they really get to enjoythe luxuries that they have.
(05:40):
Some people tend to work longhours and they may have a
beautiful porch in the backyardright now and it sits empty
because most of the time they'reout working or they're
traveling all the time becauseof work or whatever
responsibilities they may have.
We always tend to think thatother people have it better than
us.
There's always something thatyou feel is missing, but the
(06:02):
reality is that people who havethem may not get to enjoy it as
much because they have to work,they have to be away from home
all the time.
With that, I want to give yousome tips on the positives of
having that ability toromanticize your life, and the
number one is it boosts positiveemotions.
(06:23):
When you think of dopamine andserotonin, when you engage in
activities that bring you joy orwhen you actively appreciate
what's around you, your brainreleases these neurotransmitters
like dopamine and serotonin,and they are these feel good
chemicals that impact the waythat you feel, the way that you
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sense things, your emotions,your well-being, your mental
health, and so by intentionallyseeking out and savoring these
little, small moments ofpleasure that could be anything
that you enjoy, you create amore consistent flow of positive
emotions throughout your day.
Romanticizing your life alsoincreases your sense of
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resilience and coping skills.
Life always comes withchallenges and adversity and
different hardships.
So when you romanticize yourlife, you're not just ignoring
these difficulties.
You're really creating a way toallow yourself to better
navigate your problems byfocusing on the positives and
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finding meaning even in thoselittle challenging circumstances
, the problems that you may face, and you will be able to also
handle stress in a more positiveway, which I know sounds crazy,
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right, but again remember,romanticizing your life is about
changing your mindset toknowing how to approach your
life.
When something does go wrong,you should always leave some
space for ease and comfort,because you deserve that.
So it doesn't matter whatyou're going through.
We all deserve peace andcomfort.
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Romanticizing your life enhancesself-perception as well.
It is seeing yourself as themain character of your own story
, of your own life.
It is about taking ownershipand agency, recognizing that you
have the power to change yourexperiences and how you perceive
them.
This is why it is so empowering.
It helps boost your self-esteemand your confidence,
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counteracting feelings ofhelplessness or even feeling
like you're a victim ofcircumstance.
Because, at the end of the day,it also helps reduce stress and
by improving your mental health, those psychological benefits
directly translate to physicalimprovements.
It reduces stress and anxiety.
You cultivate a sense ofgratitude by having lower levels
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of cortisol, which is a stresshormone, right?
But you also feel elevated, andwe all know how cortisol can
wreak havoc on our bodies.
The more and more you hold onto the stress, the more and more
that cortisol will end up.
I'm telling you that's the lastthing you want to do is hold on
to stress, because once youstart feeling that in your
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shoulders, in your neck, youcould potentially start getting
headaches and you won't be ableto sleep as well.
You know, acknowledge that,acknowledge that stress can take
over, and by romanticizing yourlife, you build that
appreciative mindset that cancontribute to better heart
health, to better quality ofsleep and, as a result, it
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encourages you to buildhealthier habits.
When you feel good about yourlife, when you're walking with a
pep in your step is that howthey say?
Pep in your step You're morelikely to reject things that do
not align with that feeling, andthis could include seeking ways
or different activities thatbring you joy.
And this could include seekingways or different activities
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that bring you joy, spendingtime with nature or pursuing
hobbies that fulfill you eatinghealthier, getting enough rest.
It is about those daily littlehabits where feeling good leads
to doing good for yourself andultimately creating a more
fulfilling, resilient andhealthier existence, regardless
of anything that happens in yourlife, all right.
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So now we're getting to the funstuff, because I want to give
you some tips on ways that youcan romanticize your life, and
here are simple yet effectiveways for anyone to romanticize
their life, regardless of yourgender, your wealth, your
circumstances.
Find a space for yourself toenjoy being alive, to enjoy your
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existence, regardless ofwhatever happens on the outside
world.
Are we ready, all right?
So the first one is curatingyour immediate surroundings, and
what I don't mean is, you know,I don't want you to go and sell
your house because it's toosmall and you can't put a sauna
inside or whatever.
What I'm saying is doing small,little things to make your
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space more peaceful, and indoing that, it could be making
your bed, decluttering a placewhere you want to spend more
time arranging a few itemsaesthetically.
It could be moving furniture.
It could be something as simpleas that.
It could be lighting a candleright After you clean.
Right, because we want to havea clean, organized and inviting
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space, no matter how tiny it maybe.
That one simple step cansignificantly impact your mood.
Find a cute corner where youcould say, okay, I'm going to
put this cute chair, this iswhere I get the sunlight Again.
Make it so that this is yourhaven, this is your safe space,
so that anytime you want to feellike you want to relax, this is
where you'll go.
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The next thing is to elevateyour everyday rituals.
So think about the things thatyou do every single day.
Maybe, when you wake up everymorning, do you just rush, take
a shower and then turn on thecoffee pot and all of a sudden,
you're like getting dressed,rushing to get out of the house,
and you chug your coffee downand rush at the door.
Well, let's change that alittle bit.
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It's about turning thosemundane tasks into moments of
pleasure.
And so, instead of justdrinking that coffee and like
rushing out the door, why don'tyou wake up 10 minutes earlier
and say, okay, i'm'm gonna put apot of coffee while I take a
shower, and I, you know, I don'tknow if you guys have a robe,
so whatever it is that you canafford, just get you a robe.
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And after you shower, beforeyou start getting ready, give
yourself enough time to just godownstairs or wherever you live.
Just walk over, get yourself apot of coffee, sit in your cute
little chair and just savor thatlittle moment.
Think about how wonderful it isto just be able to do that.
Enjoy that nice mug and enjoythat quiet morning.
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Same thing when you're cooking.
Cooking doesn't have to beboring.
You know, you can put on somemusic.
I mean, I love putting on musicwhen I cook and dancing around.
Find that favorite song thatjust makes you light up.
Instead of using the same tiredingredients, those little
packets of powder everywhere, goto a farmer's market if you can
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afford it, and find ways tobring in fresh ingredients and
touch them and cut them up andfeel them right, like this is
nature.
Some people could grow them intheir own backyard.
Some people do that even intheir own kitchen.
The idea is for you to reallymake that moment magical, and so
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it doesn't matter where you are.
So the whole idea is toappreciate that process of
creating something nourishingthat it's going in your body and
, regardless of whatever you canafford, try ways to make that
feel like you're eating.
You know, a five course meal,because maybe that's what a five
course meal means to you.
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Enjoy that Now.
Going back to that chair in thecorner right, or whatever you
you know, maybe it's a couch,whatever.
I want you to take some time toenjoy your sensory delights.
Pay attention to your senses,notice the way it's raining
outside and take time to cherishthe sound of the rain.
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If you can go outside in youryard, do that.
Touch grass with your feet, letyour feet touch the ground and
allow yourself to feel.
Allow yourself to look at thesky, see the beauty that there
is up there.
Take some time to taste a pieceof fruit, a piece of candy.
All of these things will makeyou feel more present and
appreciative of those smalldetails, even that annoying fly
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that could be flying around yourhouse.
Yes, it's quite annoying.
You wish it would die a suddendeath, but when you think about
it, you know this is a creationfrom nature.
Right, like this is somethingthat somebody's piled up trash
and brought to your house.
Maybe the neighbor didn't coverthe trash, but guess what?
The noise of the fly is areminder that you can hear the
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sounds that a lot of people arenot able to hear.
The minute that you start tonotice just how blessed you
really are is the minute thatyou're going to appreciate
everything around you.
All those small details that wetend to overlook and not really
notice are going to start tolook like little wonders.
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Now, one thing that I love to dois creating your own personal
soundtrack, and to me, music isabsolutely essential.
Music is such a powerful tool.
Music can change your mood, theway you feel, the way you react
to different things.
It helps boost your mood.
What I obviously will recommendis making a soundtrack of music
that can uplift you.
Now, if you're listening toJagged Little Pill by Alanis
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Morissette, you know chance isalready going to walk away
feeling a little angry andenraged.
What we're trying to do isreally try to beautify the way
that you feel.
Create playlists for differentactivities.
Maybe you have a playlist forwhen you're winding down at
night.
Jazz is wonderful for that.
Classical music is great too.
Maybe there's music that youneed to listen to when you're
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getting ready in the morning,and it could be music that makes
you want to dance.
Right, it helps boost your moodso that when you're walking out
and you're encountering peoplewho are mean and crazy, you know
you take it in stride a littlebit.
Why?
Because you're already feelingin a good mood.
Let music enhance your dailyexperiences.
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When romanticizing your life,the goal is to find beauty in
the ordinary, and so make sureto look for those small and
often overlooked beautifulthings around you.
It could be a vibrant flowerthat's growing through the
concrete, or an interestingarchitecture that's in your
community.
Maybe it's a park that you walkby every day, that you see kids
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playing around.
Find the light in all thoseunique things that happen every
single day.
When it comes to romanticizingyour life, using your
imagination is never out of thequestion, so think of ways where
you can transform your spacewhatever space that is that you
find that you seek comfort inand transform it into a place
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where you want to escape, whereyou feel like you are in a place
of comfort and peace.
And so, for example, for me, Iwould love to visit the south of
France, maybe one day.
But the idea is that, if itwere up to me, I would create a
space in a corner of my home.
You know, maybe I would findpictures on Pinterest or
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something.
What does it look like to livein the south of France?
I would probably paint itsimilar colors.
I would find cute littlefurniture, or, if I already have
two chairs and a cute tablewith a nice vase and some little
flowers, right, like again,it's just creating that same
ambiance so that anytime that Ifeel like I want to, I want to
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feel romantic, I want to feellike I want to escape or take
some time away from my currentworld, then I know that I could
go there.
If I could open up a glass ofwine, listen to some French
music Wait, am I saying thatright, or is that Italian?
Anyway, the whole point is tofind a space and make that the
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one place where you may not beable to be there in person, but
you can make a part of your home.
Just that, and wouldn't that belovely.
To dress up like you're there todo your hair, you know, wear
the jewelry that you would wearlike you're in France, or the
whole idea is to create a placewhere everything is just lovely
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and wonderful and inspiring.
And I guarantee you like, evenif you're a creative person,
doing these little rituals willdefinitely boost your creativity
.
It will boost your motivation,because you're feeling brand new
when you're doing these things.
And to experience in thecomfort of your own home.
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Wear whatever makes you feelalluring and special, sexy,
fabulous.
It could be anything.
It doesn't need to be somethingdressy.
Even it could be your favoritecozy sweater, your favorite
hoodie.
It could be a stylish outfitthat it's been sitting in your
closet for years, that youhaven't been able to wear
because there hasn't been anoccasion for you to wear it.
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Put it on, take some pictures,put on that perfume or cologne
on.
It's really about feeling goodin your own skin, and so do not
wait for the right moment tocome, because it may never come.
And so, while we wait, makesure that the fine china is
being used.
The nice jewelry doesn't matter, even if you're just wearing it
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around the house, who cares?
Enjoy the things that make youfeel good about yourself.
And, as far as staying home,make sure that you're scheduling
me time specifically.
We get so busy and we forgetthat we need to take time for
ourselves.
We may be overextendingourselves by helping everybody
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else, and then we forget that wealso need time to feel good, to
rest.
So designate specific time foractivities that you truly enjoy,
that are genuinely yours.
Enjoy that are genuinely yours.
And it could be reading,listening to this podcast, it
could be journaling, it could bemeditating, or it could just be
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doing absolutely nothing,because doing absolutely nothing
is great too.
All right, it means that you'reresting.
It means that you're givingyour body time to recuperate
from all of the hustle andbustle.
It's grounding and almostromantic, right.
Treat this time as sacred andprotected from any interruptions
.
If you have children, make surethat if they go to sleep at
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nine, tell them to go 8.30,.
You know, change the time.
Give yourself an extra 30minutes at night so that you
could have some me time, becausewe all deserve it.
You know you don time.
Give yourself an extra 30minutes at night so that you
could have some me time, becausewe all deserve it.
You know you don't want tospend your days just going and
going and going and you figureout with time that you're just
exhausted, burned out and it's aresult of that it's not really
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how much you do, right?
We all need that special timeto feel like we deserve rest.
We have a right to rest becauseit will help us recharge and
feel like we are ready for thenext day.
Another thing is to engage in asimple creative outlet, and it
could be a hobby that you enjoy.
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Maybe you love to sing, topaint.
Maybe you just love doodlingwith pen and paper, to write
poetry, whatever it is.
Find something that is trulyyours, that you can enjoy, that
you can spend time unwindingfrom all of the responsibilities
that you have.
And the act of creating, nomatter how small, can bring you
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so much joy and accomplishment,because it's that one thing that
is truly yours, that is trulyconnected to who you are.
So always make time to create.
Lastly, I want you to reflectand appreciate your everyday
moments.
So, at the end of the day, takea few moments and think about
something good that happened, nomatter how small it could be,
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that the coffee that you dranktoday was amazing, could be a
kind word, a beautiful moment orsomething that you accomplished
.
So cultivating gratitude willhelp you see the positive
aspects of your life.
No matter what happens in yourlife, there's always something
to appreciate and to be gratefulfor.
I hope that this episode hassparked a little magic for you,
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so consider this your gentlereminder that a more joyful,
present and healthier life isn'tjust a dream.
It is a series of small,intentional choices that you
make every single day, and Iwant to ask what is one thing
that you will do today to add atouch of romance to your reality
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.
You can start small, stayconsistent and, in the end,
watch how the ordinarytransforms into something truly
extraordinary.
So go out there and romanticizeyour beautiful life.
Out there and romanticize yourbeautiful life.
And, by the way, in the next fewepisodes, I am planning to
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create a few challenges so thatwe can follow through together.
Yes, I'm going to challengemyself as well to different ways
we can become our better selves.
So stay tuned, because the nextfew episodes are going to be
all about that and I will bedocumenting my experience as
well.
So it's not going to be justtelling you what to do and I'm
just going to sit back.
No, no, no, I'm going to alsobe doing the same thing.
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So tune in.
And well, actually, let's talkabout next week's challenge.
Since we're talking about itnow, guess what what we're going
to do first, our firstchallenge is going to be about
detoxing from social media anddon't worry, I'm not going to
ask you to disconnect for anentire week.
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What we're going to do is todisconnect for 48 hours.
So you pick the 48 hours.
We're going to talk about howit felt, the challenges faced
and what the benefits are.
So I know it's going to be hard, but I hope you join me in my
pain and suffering, because it'sa good challenge.
I think, overall, we're goingto learn a lot from this
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experience.
So make sure you stay tuned andfollow up with me next week.
Make sure you stay tuned andfollow up with me next week.
Again, thank you for listeningto the Main Allure podcast.
Don't forget to like, share andsubscribe, and until next time,
bye.
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