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May 8, 2025 15 mins

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Producer Ryan calls in from Wilmington, North Carolina to discuss his dating adventures as a recently divorced single man looking for connection in a world of dating apps and in-person singles events.

• Using ChatGPT as a dating coach for crafting messages and clever responses to matches
• Recognizing but "plowing through" red flags in the dating world
• Getting matching tattoos on a first date - she chose "daddy issues" while Ryan got "mom"
• Playing "Red Flag or Green Light" to identify concerning dating behaviors
• Relationship advice for a woman who suspects her boyfriend is tampering with her toothbrush
• Setting boundaries in relationships and recognizing when it's time to break up
• Wedding Vow or Country Song Lyric game
• National Have a Coke Day trivia challenge


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Speaker 1 (00:00):
From the Horn Auto Center Studios Chris Bennett and
the Morning Brew.
Good morning, it's the MorningBrew with Chris.
Who's this?
Producer Ryan, Bam bam, bam,bam.
Heck, yes, my best friend,Producer Ryan.
Emmy Award winning ProducerRyan Calling us in from uh,
where are you calling us from?

Speaker 2 (00:20):
Wilmington, North Carolina, on the east coast,
right by the ocean.
Wilmington, North Carolina, onthe east coast, right by the
ocean.

Speaker 1 (00:25):
Wilmington, North Carolina.
So for those of you that maybedon't know, Ryan, should we give
them a little background on you?
You've been divorced for twoyears, right yeah?
And you're single and you'relooking to mingle.
You're actively trying to date.
Is that true or false?

Speaker 2 (00:42):
I am definitely trying to date.
I am actually going to asingles event tonight.

Speaker 1 (00:47):
Oh my gosh really.

Speaker 2 (00:49):
Where you actually have to meet people in person.

Speaker 3 (00:53):
Oh, the old-fashioned way Instead of the dating app.

Speaker 2 (00:56):
Yeah, yeah, the old-fashioned way being slightly
buzzed and meeting people inperson.

Speaker 1 (01:02):
And so the dating apps haven't been working out
too good for you.

Speaker 2 (01:07):
No, no, not so good.
Not so good, there's not.
You know, wilmington it'sbigger than Show Low area, but
it's still not a lot ofselection.

Speaker 1 (01:18):
Right, and so I remember I was divorced for a
little bit.
I got married when I was 19 19when there was no dating apps
and then I was divorced when Iwas like 33.
And I felt like I was in awhole new world new technology,
new dating apps.
I hated it.
Are you using any of the newtechnology to your benefit in

(01:40):
your dating adventures?

Speaker 2 (01:42):
Oh yeah, I have been using ChatGPT to give me advice
on what to text women back andit's been doing really pretty
well.
I'm like what's a funny answerto this question that she just
asked me?
Or like what's a cleverquestion to ask Because you
don't want to just like on thedating apps when you match with

(02:03):
somebody.
You don't want to just say, hey, what's up, you want to come
out strong with a fun questionor something like that.

Speaker 1 (02:11):
Right, right.
And so do you ever ask ChatGPTlike, hey, am I coming on too
strong, or should I text her nowor should I wait?
Does it give you that type ofadvice?

Speaker 2 (02:21):
Yeah, totally Like when.
No, you got to play it cool,Don't?

Speaker 1 (02:31):
text her.
We are back with my best friendon the phone, ryan McKee from
Wilmington, north Carolina, andwe're talking about your dating
life and I was wondering howgood are you at spotting red
flags?
You're going on like a singlesdating night thing tonight.
How good are you at recognizingred flags?

(02:54):
And what's the funniest redflag you've seen so far?

Speaker 2 (02:57):
I got to say I'm pretty good at recognizing them.
However, I kind of just plowright through red flags.
You know what I mean?
Right right, it's kind of likethis is a road closure and I'm
like is it really closed.
And I just go around theblockade.
You know, right, right, and mycraziest red flag is I was out

(03:18):
on a first date, a very firstdate, first time I met her, and
she's like, hey, let's go getsome tattoos.
And I was like all right, let'sdo it.
And which should have been ared flag right away, that you're
getting tattoos on a first date.
Yeah, and then the tattoo thatshe was getting I'm not even

(03:41):
kidding it said daddy issues.

Speaker 1 (03:44):
Oh, my goodness, oh my goodness.
And so, of course, you ran andyou did not get a tattoo, no, I
got a tattoo that said mom.

Speaker 2 (03:53):
Oh goodness gracious and she was getting a daddy
issues tattoo.
I was like, well, I'll get amom tattoo.
I'm not going to get a mommyissues tattoo, but I got a mom
tattoo.

Speaker 1 (04:01):
She's probably sitting there telling someone
about her red flag story.
She's like yeah, one time Iwent on a date with a guy and
told him to get matching tattoosand he actually did it and he
got a mom tattoo.
Yeah crazy, crazy.
That's a funny story.
Ryan, when we come back, I wantto play a game with you called

(04:25):
Red Flag or Green Light, toreally see what your red flag
preferences.
Are you ready?
I'm ready.
I'm going to give you a coupleexamples and you tell me if
that's a red flag for you or no.
Not a red flag.
If that's a red flag for you orno, not a red flag, that's a
green flag.
I'll go through with it.
Sound good.

Speaker 2 (04:38):
Sounds good.

Speaker 1 (04:38):
All right, First one they bring their emotional
support.

Speaker 2 (04:45):
Ferret on every date.
I'm going to say that's a redflag.

Speaker 1 (04:48):
Although you have dated a girl that had a bunch of
ferrets, she had four ferrets.

Speaker 2 (04:55):
Yes, and it was.
They are smelly and not great.
She let them run around herhouse and they pooped everywhere
.

Speaker 1 (05:05):
Oh my gosh.
Next one.
They referred to their ex as mysoulmate, but we needed space.

Speaker 2 (05:14):
Again, a red flag.

Speaker 1 (05:16):
Red flag Okay.

Speaker 2 (05:21):
Has that ever happened to you?
Yes, but her ex-fiance had diedand she didn't necessarily call
her soulmate, but she said howmuch she still missed him.

Speaker 1 (05:32):
Oh, while you were on a date with her.

Speaker 2 (05:34):
Yeah, I was on a date with her and she was talking
about her ex-fiance who'd passedaway.
Oh my goodness, All right howabout if they only eat food
shaped like dinosaurs?

Speaker 1 (05:51):
I mean, I feel like maybe they're too young for me
if they do that.

Speaker 2 (05:56):
And last one they say , all their exes were crazy and
they dated a lot.
Oh yeah, the common denominatorhas to be them right?
So they're probably the crazyones.

Speaker 1 (06:07):
So that's a red flag.
That was red flag or green flagwith Ryan McKean.
It is now time for relationshipadvice.
We have a very specialrelationship advice expert.
We have recently divorced RyanMcKee.

Speaker 2 (06:23):
I like how you introduced me.
Okay yeah, recently divorced.

Speaker 1 (06:27):
And he's looking for a lady.
He is our relationship adviceexpert, brian.
I'm going to read the story andwhen we come back we'll get
your advice for this person.
You ready.

Speaker 2 (06:37):
Absolutely.

Speaker 1 (06:38):
All right, here's the headline.
I, 22-year-old female, believemy 28-year-old boyfriend might
be tampering with my toothbrush.
Here's the story.
This might be the weirdest andmost disgusting thing I've ever
shared, but I think my boyfriendmight be doing something
seriously messed up.
We've been together for over ayear.
He's passive, aggressive.
When he's mad, gives me thesilent treatment and refuses to

(07:00):
talk things through.
He just resets like nothingever happened.
A few months ago I startednoticing my electric toothbrush
was out of place off the chargerwas out of place off the
charger, sometimes wet when Ihadn't used it.
Once it even looked like it hadbeen used to clean something.
I started hiding a backup brushin my makeup bag and that one

(07:24):
was never touched.
Eventually I asked him directlyare you doing something to my
toothbrush when you're mad at me?
He just laughed and said you'recrazy and wouldn't discuss it.
Not a smart move to call yourgirlfriend crazy.
I don't even know how toprocess that Like what.
I haven't seen him do it, so Idon't have proof, but I know
something's up and I feel crazy.

(07:45):
But my gut is screaming at methat this is real and he's
getting back at me by putting mytoothbrush in the toilet or
something else gross.
I feel humiliated, paranoid andsick, but my gut says he's
using my toothbrush to get backat me.
What do I even do?
We are back with relationshipadvice with Ryan McKee.

(08:06):
Ryan, you heard the story.
This 22-year-old woman believesher 28-year-old boyfriend might
be tampering with hertoothbrush to get back at her.
She doesn't know what sheshould do.
What's your advice?

Speaker 2 (08:18):
I mean I would say, set up a little camera in your
bathroom, see if you can catchhim in the act.
You know, but that's kind ofcreepy, setting up a camera in
the bathroom, Right right.
So I don't know how do youcatch him in the act.
I feel like you have to catchhim in the You're not just, but

(08:39):
if you're, if you think he'sdoing something.
He probably is.

Speaker 1 (08:44):
Yeah, it sounds like the relationship is over,
because one, if she does goahead and put the camera up to
try and catch him in the act andhe's not doing it, then you
know he kind of has a case forbeing like whoa, whoa, whoa,
you're violating my boundariesand you know this relationship's
over.
But if she does catch him inthe act with the camera, then

(09:07):
it's totally, totally over,right.

Speaker 2 (09:10):
No, absolutely.
I mean, what is he doing to thetoothbrush?
I don't even want to know.

Speaker 1 (09:15):
Yeah, I think she should break up with him, but I
do want to know and thisprobably isn't the healthiest
thing, but I do want to know andthis probably isn't the
healthiest thing, but I do wantto know if he's doing it.
So I would set up a camera justto catch him in the act.
But no matter what, you've gotto break up with him.

Speaker 2 (09:29):
You've got to break up with him.
Yeah, because he called hercrazy too.
Yeah, so that's not cool.
You can't call your girlfriendcrazy.

Speaker 1 (09:37):
Yeah.
So Ryan's advice is break upwith your 28-year-old girlfriend
or boyfriend and contact you,46-year-old Ryan, and you'll
take her out on a date.

Speaker 2 (09:49):
22 might be too young for me.
What's the youngest you'll date?
That's a good question.
I would say well, I'm dating.
I have gone on a few dates witha 29-year-old and that seems
about my limit.
Okay, and how about what's theoldest?

Speaker 1 (10:10):
30.
That was relationship advicewith Ryan McKee.
Ryan, thanks so much forcalling in, having fun with us
and good luck at your singlesnight.
Singles night, uh, tonight Iwill thank you, yeah, thank you

(10:34):
my daughter is getting marriedthe end of this month.
I'm officiating the wedding andpaul's trying to toughen me up,
uh, so that I'm not ablubbering idiot during her
wedding.

Speaker 3 (10:45):
Let me tell you something Before the wedding,
after she gets dressed and yougo back there where she's at and
it's you and your wife, andthat's how it was with me and
Rhonda when Chelsea got marriedyou go back there and she's all
dressed up and you can see theglow on her face.
I know a lot of men I teared upback there myself.

Speaker 1 (11:09):
Nice try Paul.

Speaker 3 (11:13):
I mean because I just saw how happy my daughter was
going to be and how happy shewas.
Yeah, that's a ruffle when youget in that room, buddy, right
before.

Speaker 1 (11:24):
Pretty rough in there .
I think you're toughening me upbecause I think she had one
tear.

Speaker 3 (11:32):
Nice try, Okay good, well, you will when you get in
that room.

Speaker 1 (11:38):
We are back with Paul from Beaumont for a game called
Wedding Vow or Country SongLyric.
You tell me if this is awedding vow or a country song
lyric.
You ready, let's do this.
All right, here we go.
I'll give you my hand, my heartand my life from this day
forward, paul.

Speaker 3 (11:57):
Paul Dude, it sounds like your daughter talking to
her soon-to-be husband, takingher from her daddy.

Speaker 1 (12:07):
You're right, it is a wedding vow, all right.
Next one You'll be my soft andsweet.
I'll be your strong and steady.

Speaker 3 (12:14):
Paul, Paul, Paul, that's my old Blake Shelton
honey bee.

Speaker 1 (12:18):
Honey bee.
There you go.
All right, I promise to alwayslaugh at your jokes, even the
bad ones.

Speaker 3 (12:26):
Dude.
Okay, here I go again.
It sounds like again somethingyour daughter's going to tell
her new husband.

Speaker 1 (12:37):
You're right, it is a wedding vow and last one Are
you there yeah.
I'm there.
Last one, you're the rock in myroll, the honky in my tonk.

Speaker 3 (12:51):
Paul, that's a country song.

Speaker 1 (12:53):
That is a country song, but should be a wedding
lyric as well.

Speaker 3 (12:59):
That was a wedding vow, Well you know what you
could put it in it if you canget through it, what you could
incorporate it when you'regiving your daughter away to
some guy?
Oh yeah.

Speaker 1 (13:12):
You could incorporate it into it.
That's a good idea, but I don'tthink my daughter would
appreciate me saying you're therock in my roll, the honky in my
tonk.

Speaker 3 (13:23):
Well, you know what.
You know what it might take thetears out of your eyes.

Speaker 1 (13:27):
That's right.
Welcome back to the MorningBrew Coming to you from the Horn
Auto Center Studios, the Chevy,cadillac and GMC store.
That does what Paul fromBeaumont.
Save that cash, buddy.
You know it, buddy, today isNational.
Have a Coke Day.
Are you a fan of Coke?

Speaker 3 (13:45):
I'm partial to Dr Peppers, but Coke's okay with me
too.

Speaker 1 (13:50):
All right.
Well, for National, have a CokeDay.
And for Are you Smarter Than aRedneck?
I thought we would do someCoca-Cola trivia.
If you know the answer, sayyour name.
That's your buzzer, here we go.
If you know the answer, sayyour name.
That's your buzzer, here we go.
Coca-cola was created in A 1800, B 1925, C 1886, or D 1901?

(14:10):
Paul, Paul, go ahead 1886.
1886.
I'm going to say 1901.
Correct answer 1886.
Holy moly, he's up 1-0.
Next question Coca-Cola wascreated in what city?
Chicago, New York or Atlanta?

(14:32):
Paul, go ahead.
Atlanta, Atlanta, I'm going tosay New York.
He says Atlanta.
Correct answer Atlanta.
He is two for two.
This last question is worth amillion points.
If I get it right, I can win.
Dr Blank created the formulafor Coca-Cola.
Paul Pepper who Pepper?
Well, here's the options DrJohn Pemberton, John Smith, Dr
Asa Chandler or Dr GeorgiaChandler.

(14:55):
Paul, Paul, go ahead.
The first guy John Pemberton.
Holy moly, he is one smartredneck and he knows his
Coca-Cola.

Speaker 3 (15:05):
Love my Coca-Cola buddy.
Have a great day.
We'll talk to y'all tomorrow.
All right, See you, Paul Bye.
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