The PROBLEM with the LET THEM Theory

In this episode, Ms. Michaela Mae unpacks the viral “Let Them Theory” popularized by Mel Robbins — but with her own nuanced twist.

She explains why, for people on a healing journey, “just letting them” can quietly turn into emotional avoidance and self-numbing. Michaela explores the difference between freedom and bypassing, showing how true peace comes from acknowledging your emotions — not suppressing them in the name of personal growth.

She also dives into the positives of the theory — like learning that other people’s actions rarely define your worth — and how to use discernment to decide when “let them” is healthy, and when it’s just another layer of protection.

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 – Intro | What the Let Them Theory Gets Right
01:20 – The Hidden Problem | When It Becomes Emotional Avoidance
03:15 – The Pot Metaphor | What Happens When You Suppress Emotions
05:00 – Feeling vs. Avoiding | Why Your Emotions Are Messages

KEYWORDS:

let them theory, mel robbins, emotional healing, trauma recovery, self awareness, nervous system healing, inner child, emotional intelligence, personal growth, bypassing, shadow work, healing journey