Ep. 32: Yours, Mine, and Ours

I heard it said once that engaging in conversation with someone is an agreement to exchange energy. I had always considered an energetic exchange a bit more intentional, so to hear this from someone who is renowned in how energy is used, translated, and shared was eye opening. You mean just a simple conversation allows someone to give me whatever energetic thing they’ve been carrying? And how many conversations am I having all day long? And are these conversations limited to a verbal exchange? Does this also included the exchanges I make while I’m online engaged with all kinds of content? (Yes) or the energetic exchange I make when I spend time in any and every space? (Yes)

As I considered this, I began to assess….

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How much of what I’m feeling on any given day is actually “mine” and what belongs to someone or something else? Those depressed, anxious, or overwhelmed feelings that seem to come up out of nowhere…did they originate with me or did I engage (and exchange) with someone or something and allow myself to match that tone or frequency? Because of how bombarded we are day in and day out, we have become incredibly flippant about what and who we are exchanging with. Is it any wonder we find ourselves in sudden emotional slumps? Or questioning our purpose after walking on cloud nine? Or doubting ourselves after feeling like we could conquer the world? Are we really that fragile mentally and emotionally or have we neglected our most valuable resource…our precious energy that shapes and forms itself according to our attention?

What you entertain in your life matters. That dilapidated piece of furniture in your space….is energetically entraining you to a vibe that’s bringing more things needing “a little love” into your life (yep, people too). That account you find yourself glued to even though you know it’s the drama that has “reeled” you in…it’s bringing more where that came from which is why your mom called AGAIN to unload and make her problems your problems. Oh! And that neighbor (or friend, or client) you let talk your ear off even though it’s the last thing you want to spend your time doing….the energetic exchange is making you available for more moments you spend feeling unfulfilled, and trapped by the mundane tasks of life, keeping you from what your heart and soul are really longing for…..creative expression, meaningful community, and JOY.

And if you’re a parent?? Then you are in a constant feedback loop only YOU can shift by how you choose to exchange/engage. FYI: if you’re engaging with your family after you’ve been living in a space that feels ill-fitting and cluttered, or doom scrolling, or talking to so-and-so about all of the drama in their lives…that exchange is going to be highly lacking and further sending you into energetic oblivion.

Gaining clarity on what’s yours to clean up and what belongs to someone else is so important to your overall energetic health (which impacts all other areas of your wholeness). I’ve included a simple way to dissolve what doesn’t serve you without becoming completely avoidant and shut down. And, if you need to feng shui your life, do it and see how good you feel, and how much your mood shifts in every day things.

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