BREAK FREE From Emotions That Hold You Back!

Have you ever felt like your emotions were writing your story for you? Like one message—or silence—from your adult child could send you spiraling into guilt, shame, or hopelessness? You’re not alone. In today’s episode, we’re talking about how to break free from the lie that your feelings define your worth. You’ll learn the difference between emotions and truth, how emotional reasoning can keep you stuck, and practical tools to regain your peace. This is a powerful shift for any mom navigating estrangement—because healing starts when we stop letting our emotions rule our identity. Tune in and take back your power, one choice at a time.

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Episode Transcript

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Have you ever caught yourselfspiraling after your adult child
didn't respond to your message?
Or maybe your thoughts start racingto, they must hate me, I'm a terrible
mom, or I've ruined everything.
one moment of silence or an unansweredtext can suddenly feel like your whole.
Identity as a mom is ruined.. And Iwanna tell you something that might

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change the way you see all of this,because feelings are not facts.
when you start separating youremotions from the truth, that is when
you can begin to reclaim your peace.
So today I have four tips for you inregards to this because you have to
remember that feelings are not facts.
So let's dive in.

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Number one, emotionsare messengers, right?
They're just messengers.
They always say, don'tshoot the messenger.
God designed our emotions to signalsomething for us not to define who we are.
emotions like guilt or sadness orfear, show up to tell us something.
Like, Hey, this needs your attention,But they're not always rooted in reality.

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just because you feel like a badmom doesn't mean you are one.
And just because you feel unloved.
Doesn't mean you're unlovable.
the problem is when emotions are so loud,it's easy to let them kind of take over
and let them narrate this story that isn'tnecessarily true and in estrangement,
as you know, those stories can getreally dark quickly, and your child's

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silence does not mean you're forgotten.
And their anger towards youright now doesn't erase all
the years that you did show up.
So even though these emotionsare screaming at you, you have to
remember truth speaks softly andthat's the one we need to lean into.
Number two is emotional reasoning.

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sometimes we can't reallyreason with our emotions because
they keep you stuck in pain.
this is when we treatour feelings like facts.
so I feel guilty, so I must haveruined their life or something
bad must be happening becauseI feel anxious right now.
And it's really sneaky,'cause it can go unchecked.
So if you're feeling something deeplyand your brain scrambles to match it

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with a story that explains the pain,even if that story is not true, I always
tell people, stop catastrophizing.
And what proof do you have that this thingyou're worrying about is even happening?
Has happened, you have no proof.
until we have proof, wecannot be stuck in this cycle.
this is the cycle of shame.

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over apologizing for things youdidn't do or maybe things that you
did do, but where you're acceptingblame that is not yours to carry.
you might find yourself bendingover backwards hoping that you know
your son or daughter's gonna comeback around because your emotions
you think was all your fault.
Due to your emotions, wecannot be listening to them.

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I know this soundsfamiliar for a lot of you.
I know it did me, and I knowyou're probably exhausted from
feeling like you're always too muchor not enough, or you're needy,
or you're this or you're that.
And I want you to know that you donot have to walk this road alone.
I help moms just like you, break freefrom this emotional overwhelm and help
you step into peace and truth and healing.

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I have a discovery call, whichis a 30 minute consultation.
It is not a coaching call.
It's reserved for moms looking to explorea safe place, whether it be one-on-one
coaching, group coaching, whatever kindof support might look like for you.
I will be able to talk throughall of that with you on our call.
if you're interested, you cancheck the link below wherever

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you are watching or listening.
Number three is I want you to pause,reframe, and question the story.
You may have heard that concept before,but you don't have to believe every
thought that pops into your head.
we need to create a moment of pause.
Take that breath.
Ask yourself, what is true?

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What am I assuming?
What story am I creatingin my head right now?
For example, maybe you'rethinking my child didn't respond.
that's a fact, right?
They must hate me, is theemotional interpretation of that.
I've been there, but I wantyou to challenge that story.
I want you to reframe it.
You know what?
My child is silent.

(04:25):
My son is silent.
My daughter is silent, butthat doesn't mean I'm unloved.
I don't know what they're goingthrough right now, but my worth does
not depend on their communication.
You can still honor your emotions andfeel it without letting them hijack you.
'cause really is what it feels like.
Number four is truth based actions.

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We don't wanna do emotion based reactions,and I did a video on this not too long
ago about reacting versus respondingbecause when our emotions take the wheel.
We make decisions that hurt us.
We might send some things that we regret.
you might shut down and isolate.
But when you act from a place of truthabout your value, your intentions,

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your faith, then only then canyou begin to make some grounded
peace filled decisions for you.
instead of reacting out of fearor guilt or sadness, I want you to
respond from wisdom and strength.
That my friend is emotional resilience.
over time, that is what builds this lifethat will feel more steady, even if your

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family dynamics have not changed yet.
you need that peace that we talkedabout last time, the peace that
surpasses all understanding.
in the natural world, none of itmakes sense, but you can still
have peace and strength and wisdom.
I hope this helped you today.
I will see you in the next episode.

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God bless.