Family Estrangement ALERT - Are You Ignoring These 4 Signs?

Family Estrangement ALERT - Are You Ignoring These 4 Signs?// Let Go and Redefine the Relationship with Your Adult Child. This video is specifically for moms navigating the challenging journey of estrangement from their adult children. If you're a mom experiencing the pain and heartache of a fractured relationship, this heartfelt and insightful discussion is here to offer support, understanding, and actionable advice.

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Episode Transcript

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Have you ever looked back andrealized that the signs were there

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all along, but maybe you missed them.
Maybe the phone calls got shorter,or your adult child started saying
things like, let me live my own life,or stop trying to control everything.
family estrangement doesn'tusually happen overnight.
It's often a slow fade, and untilone day you're no longer close.

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But today I wanna help yourecognize maybe some early signs.
Maybe you saw them, maybe you didn't.
If you're in that process right now, Idon't want you to wait until it's too
late to respond I have four points foryou on this, so let's dive right in.

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Number one is communication.
You know, communication can startto feel strained or one-sided,
maybe they stop calling back.
Maybe their tone is changing.
Maybe it feels colder or impatient.
Maybe they're saying things like,I'm fine, or I've just been busy,

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but something still feels really off.
And this is where many momsstart walking on eggshells.
Unsure of what to say or do.
early estrangement oftenstarts in the silence, not in
the fights for many families.
The second tip would be maybeyou're seeing them pull away
emotionally and physically.

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you might still be seeing them atholidays or family events, but the
closeness that you had before is gone.
Maybe the conversationsare really shallow.
Maybe they avoid eye contact,or maybe they're just making
excuses not to connect at all.
Many moms are hearing, I just needsome space, or You're too involved.

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And that isn't always rebellion.
It's a sign that obviously theyfeel misunderstood or overwhelmed.
if that sounds familiar, then I wouldlove to talk with you because I help
moms walk through these exact momentsbefore they become permanent breaks.
Now, we'd never lose hope on anyof these breaks at all, but so

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many of them can be prevented.
And so I do offer a discovery call.
Spots are limited.
When you're ready to prioritize your ownwellbeing and invest in your own healing
as a mom, I invite you to book the call.
The link is in the show notes below.
Number three is unresolved issues.
We all have thosegenerational patterns, right?

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Maybe there were past hurtsthat were never talked about.
Maybe that was your choice.
Maybe that was theirs.
Maybe it's a small resentmentthat built up over time.
Sometimes your child is respondingto your pain or patterns passed
down through generations.
Maybe they saw grandma do it,or grandfather or even dad.

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You know, it's not the blame.
This is just an opportunity forawareness, and that's what I'm hoping
for some of you to grasp today, isif we don't heal from this, emotional
wounds often do get inherited.
I think that every single one ofour responsibilities is to heal
any childhood wounds, whether theywere truly traumatic or something

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that you are still just carrying.
And it doesn't mean necessarily that it'sanyone's fault in some of these cases
because estrangement is rarely aboutwhat happened last week or last month.
It's often about what'sbeen unspoken for years.
And number four is clashesin values or lifestyles.
that emotional whiplash thata lot of you are dealing with.

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You're gonna havedifferent views on faith.
politics, parenting, other relationships.
And while differences are normal, it usedto be much more normal than it is now.
But if either of you are feelingdisrespected or unsafe, what happens?
The walls go up, right?
sometimes what feels like loving guidanceto a mom can feel like judgment to a

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kid, and for some families they getexplosive, The explosive outbursts
or emotional volatility or evenpast abuse can make connection feel
unsafe and justifiably so, right?
if you're noticing any of these signsopen the lines of communication.

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Open the lines of listening.
It's never too late, and I would rathersee you have these conversations.
They might be difficult.
Have these conversations with yourkids now where you can still be on
somewhat of a level playing fieldwhere there's still time to respond
with love and in intention to wherenobody has truly been harmed, nobody's

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been hurt, your feelings may be hurt.
We need to reflect on what'sbeing communicated or the
silence or the distance.
remember, you are not alone in thisjourney can feel so heavy, but the healing
for you and the relationship is gonnabegin when we stop pretending everything's

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fine and start getting honest.
Nobody wants to have those hardconversations, so somebody has to give in.
And my vote is you.
I say, we go first, and so I encourageyou to really pray about what is,
what is it that you're seeing?
First what is it that you're seeingin them that you're questioning?

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then try to have that conversation,but be a good listener.
Oftentimes, our kids are giving us tips.
They're telling us thesethings little by little.
I hope that helps you today, and I hopethat if that is you and you're navigating
this, you know, I just pray that you canhave a really solid conversation with
them and continue on the right path.

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But silence or distance isnot gonna solve the problem.
So I encourage you to justgo have a hard conversations.
Alright, I'll see you in the next episode.
God bless.