How Choosing Peace Over BEING RIGHT Changes Everything

Are you holding your breath, waiting for an apology that may never come?
In this episode, we’re talking about the emotional toll of waiting to be "right"—and why letting go of that need may be the most powerful step toward peace and healing.

So many moms feel stuck in heartbreak, hoping their adult child will acknowledge the pain. But what if you could stop waiting and start living again, even without closure?

If this message speaks to you, I invite you to take one step toward your own healing today.

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Episode Transcript

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Have you ever found yourself going overthat last conversation again and again
replaying what you said, what theysaid, and maybe wishing you'd handled
it differently or maybe hoping that theywould just admit that they were wrong?
I talked to so many moms whofeel trapped in this cycle, and
they think if my child would justapologize, I could finally move on.
But what if that apology doesn't come?

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Are you willing to staystuck forever waiting?
Or is it time to choose peace evenif you're not told you were right?
So I think you can understand bynow, this isn't about being right.
Do you wanna choose peace or doyou wanna choose being right?
And some people have thatpersonality where they just choose.
They just have to be right all thetime, or they just wanna win and

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that is not going to serve you.
so today I have four pointsthat I wanna talk to you about.
That.
Number one is the weight of the waiting.
if you're waiting for someone toadmit that they hurt you, that could
become a prison of your own mind.
when we wait for an apology,we're unknowingly putting our

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healing in someone else's hands.
you may feel like your pain isn'tvalid unless they say, I'm sorry,
but your pain is real, whetherthey acknowledge it or not.
You know what your pain is.
No one else can describethat for you but you.
But every day you might be waitingfor them to own their part.
And that is another day that you'renot being fully present in your life,

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in your joy and finding any peace.
And so you deserve better than being onpause for something that may not come.
not every single family that reconcilesnecessarily gets that apology.
if you are dead set and stuck ongetting that, I want you to rethink
that, you know, what would it looklike to stop waiting and start healing?

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So I want you to think about that.
Number two is their silence.
Their silence does notalways equal your guilt,
So silence can feel like a punishment,but it's not always personal.
And you know, moms often wonderif they're not reaching out.
Does that mean they don't thinkthat they did anything wrong?

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That eats away at your peace, butsometimes Their silence can come from
pain immaturity, their own unhealedwounds, not a verdict of your motherhood.
you can still grieve the silencewithout letting it define your worth
and letting go of their silence.
However long that has been, andI'm not saying this is easy, but

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letting go of the silence itselfmeans that you stop handing them the
pen to write the rest of your life.
To write the rest of your story.
if this is resonating with you I wantto personally invite you to my upcoming
retreat for moms My Empower Mom weekend,it's a weekend designed to help you stop

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waiting for the closure that may notcome as fast as you want it to, but to
start building the peace you deserve now.
You'll be surrounded by other women whotruly get it, and are walking the same
path, these moms are ready to grow.
if that is you, whether you'renavigating complete silence or constant
tension in your relationship, thisretreat is a safe space to reset and

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rediscover who you are beyond the pain.
And so you can grab all the detailsbelow and register, when you are ready
to choose healing, this is for you.
It does start with you and so Ilook forward to hearing from you,
but it's in the show notes below.
all the information youcan reach out to us.
We'd be happy to share all of thatwith you, it is just coming up here
in three weeks in the end of April,so look forward to seeing you there.

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Number three is letting go of being right.
Like I said, some of youmight have grown up that way.
Maybe you have that mentality thatyou always have to be right, but you
have to let that go if you want peace.
Letting go of being right.
To make room for peace.
the desire to be seen as right is oftentied to the pain of being misunderstood.

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as a mom, you want toprove that I did my best.
I tried, I wasn't the villain here.
you're the one that changed.
You're the one that did X, Y, Z.Moms try to prove this sometimes.
the cost of needing tobe right is so heavy
So letting go of that fight betweenresentment and emotional exhaustion,
it isn't a weakness, it's actuallywisdom, and you are choosing your

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future over your need to fix the past.
Did you catch that?
You are choosing your futureover your need to fix the past.
And to me that's strength and wisdom.
You can know that you were right ina situation and still decide to stop
needing confirmation from someone else,and in this case your adult child.

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So if you can release the need tobe understood by them and choose
peace for yourself, that's thebeginning of you rewriting your story.
And lastly, number four, peace is a gift.
And peace is a giftthat you give yourself.
true peace isn't handed to youby someone else other than God,

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but it's created inside of you.
when you realize that closuredoesn't require their participation,
you can take your power back.
For those of you that have beenwaiting a long time for your kids,
I still hold out hope for that.
I still hold out hope that therewill be reconciliation, but in this
waiting period, this is what weneed is we need to find that peace.

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And I know a lot of you have itand you're starting to gain it.
You're getting the tools to be able tonavigate and take your own power back
And so you can write theending of this chapter.
Even if they're not ready to turn thepage, this whole chapter of estrangement
or navigating hard times with them, theymay not be ready to move on, but you can.

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So choosing pace may, for alot of you mean journaling.
for those of you that, have a strongfaith, That is going to be key
because your peace comes from the Lordseeking community or simply setting
down the heaviness of all of thisand try to find some moments of joy.
And I know it can be difficult,especially in the beginning, but the

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more you practice it, just like anythingelse, you're gonna build that muscle.
I want you to know that peace is foundin moments where you honor yourself
not when someone else finally says.
What you wish you could hear, peace isn'ta reward for fixing the relationship.
It's a gift you gave yourselfregardless of the outcome.
I hope that helped you today.

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I'll see you in the next episode.
God bless.