Protect Your Sanity From TOXIC People!

Are you constantly feeling like your peace is being stolen—by family drama, hurtful messages, or even your own thoughts? In this episode, we’re diving deep into what it means to gatekeep your peace of mind as a mom navigating estrangement from an adult child. You’ll learn how to take ownership of your emotional space, recognize what’s draining you, set healthy limits without guilt, and create daily habits that help you protect your heart. This message is for the mom who feels overwhelmed, exhausted, and unsure where to turn. You are not alone, and you don’t have to keep carrying this burden by yourself. 

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Episode Transcript

(00:00):
Have you ever felt like your peace of mindis constantly under attack, like you're
bracing yourself before checking yourphone, or you're dreading the silence that
follows a message you sent to your child?
If you're a mom navigatingestrangement, this feels all too
familiar, but here's the truth.
Your peace does not have to be atthe mercy of your circumstances.

(00:24):
you can become the gatekeeperof your emotional wellbeing.
And today I wanna show you how,I don't want you to lose your
sanity in this process today.
I have four points for you let's dive in.
Number one is gatekeeping, as I'mcalling it starts with ownership.

(00:46):
So it starts with you because peace doesnot come from what others are doing.
We have hoped for.
It begins with you.
It begins with taking ownershipof our inner world, and we are
all responsible for that, think ofyour heart like a home with a gate.
Not everything.

(01:06):
And not everyone needs accessto your emotional space.
Sometimes we tend to think that anyonewho acts like they care about us or.
Has a question about what's goingon in your family, like they
deserve to know and they don't like.
You have to protect your heart.
And so when you take back that control,then you're starting to protect

(01:30):
your peace in a whole new way, andthis whole dynamic is gonna shift.
It's not about shutting people out,it's about creating the space and the
safe haven for what is healthy for you.
What is healing for you?
And you get to decide whatdeserves your time, your attention,
and your emotional energy.

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Only you know the answer to that.
That's nothing that anyone else can dofor you, because we all know that the
enemy comes to steal, kill, and destroy,and he wants to destroy your emotions.
He wants to steal your peace.
And so I want you to remember that numbertwo is how do you spot these things?
How do we spot these peace disruptors?

(02:12):
' cause really that's what they are.
It's disruption.
But before you can protect your peace,you need to give a name to what's
pulling you away from it, right?
Sometimes it is a messagefrom someone, maybe even me,
that reopens a wound for you.
It's having you think backand really take a look at your

(02:33):
life and your relationships.
Other times it might be silencethat makes you question everything.
And then again, sometimes, manytimes it's our own thoughts.
Oh, we are so good atdoing this to ourselves.
Right?
guilt and shame and fear.
take up space that they don't deserve.

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I fully believe that comes from theenemy and you do not have to take it.
You have to know how to fight back.
And a peace disruption can showup in family conversations.
It can show up like in realtime, It can show up on social
media, Lord knows that, right?
Even in your own mind at 2:00 AM.

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And it's interesting because somany of you have shared with me that
you found me at 2:00 AM or 3:00 AMand that's when you reached out.
Isn't that interesting?
when that peace disruptionhappens and it's disrupting
your sleep, what are you doing?
You're focusing on the wound.
But when you learn to recognize whatthese moments are, you can pause, you can

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pray, and you can respond differently.
So with that being said, are youfeeling overwhelmed by it all?
I know, I sure was.
And I just wanna invite you, ifyou're struggling to figure out
how to protect your peace and.
figure out what is draining you the most.
I want to invite you to booka discovery call with me.
This is not a coaching session.

(03:59):
It is a conversation, and it'sgonna give us a chance to talk about
what's really weighing on your heart.
What are you really wanting, and whatkind of support that you truly need.
And just remember, you donot have to carry this alone.
This is a way forward foryou, and I would be honored to
help you take that first step.

(04:24):
Alright.
Number three is settinglimits without guilt.
some people call them boundaries.
Some people call them limits.
Some people call it gatekeeping.
I like personal limits, but itreally is gatekeeping, it is
not wrong to set these things.
Call it what you will,but it is not wrong.
In fact, relationships willthrive if you have them.

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And I mean, every relationship, youknow, it's often the most loving thing
you can do for yourself and for others.
It doesn't feel that way whenyou're in the middle of what
you're going through right now.
But just remember that theseboundaries or these personal limits,
they're not about punishment.
They're not about control.
They're about protectingyour heart while it heals.

(05:11):
Because I will promise you one thing.
If you don't start protecting yourheart and you don't remove yourself
from conversations and people thatare toxic, even if it's for a short
time, doesn't mean it's forever.
You really need to reevaluatewho is in your world right now.

(05:31):
it's as simple as saying, you knowwhat, thanks, but I'm not ready to
talk about that with you right now,or, I'm not ready to talk about that.
But we have to limit our time withpeople who stir up hurt or confusion.
And yes, guilt might creep in, butguilt is not necessarily a sign
that you're doing something wrong.

(05:52):
It's a sign that you're growing in a newdirection, and we want you to grow in a
new direction, That's what I want for you.
this moment of doubt that youfeel many times maybe at 2:00 AM.
We don't want to just go inward.
We don't want to just focus onthat pain and keep it to ourselves.

(06:16):
take it to God.
He's your solution.
He's the only one thatcan help us through this.
you need wisdom.
You need courage.
You need peace, and youneed to protect your heart.
Because when we don't protect ourheart, we will close it off completely.
And it's really hard to get it back.
And lastly is building habits.

(06:38):
So we need to anchor your piece.
peace isn't something thatyou just stumble into.
It's something that youbuild one day at a time.
some of the best tools that I havefound are so simple and so quiet.
it could be prayer, goingfor a walk, journaling.
We don't want these emotionsand thoughts to stay inside.

(07:02):
These are not just nice habits, partof your morning or evening routine.
These are necessities right now.
And when you make that space, whenyou make time for these things, it
will help your mind rest, creating anenvironment where peace can actually
grow, and over time, that willbecome your default, not the chaos.

(07:24):
That is the goal here, We want peaceto be your default, not the chaos in
spite of what's going on around you.
You can still have peace.
Peace that surpasses all understandingthat none of us can understand that.
None of us can really comprehend.
Sometimes I had that peace notthe entire time, but during the

(07:45):
estrangement with my daughter.
I had peace that surpassed allunderstanding I literally would
say, I can't comprehend this.
I don't understand this.
Where's this peace coming from?
'cause everything out here looks crap.
It looks horrible.
How could I have peace?
Well, that peace comes fromhim, but it starts by going to

(08:08):
him and also doing these otherthings to take care of yourself.
Because if you just keep everythinginward and lock it all up, it will
become a prison, in your own life.
And I don't want that for you.
So I hope this helps you.
I will see you in the next episode.
God bless.